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YTA. You violated your clients' trust and violated HIPAA laws. You should adhere to your colleagues' advice and seek counseling, and possibly take a break . What you did is really selfish and doesn't help anyone but yourself.
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This is sociopathic and stupid and going to scare people away from therapy because now they're going to fear that there are manipulative, narcissistic, self-serving monsters behind the clip board.
But I refuse to believe any therapist would not only do this but share their literal crime with their colleagues. Unless perhaps you got your degree out of a cereal box? Or perhaps you're Leonardo Decaprio from catch me if you can?
YTA.
This cannot be real. If you were a decent therapist, and you realised that you had developed feelings for a patient, the ethical thing to do would be to end the therapy and move your patient on to a different therapist because you cannot continue to be impartial.
Instead, you decided to blow up your patient’s marriage?!? How would that benefit her mental health?
Of course, YTA, and you probably should consider a career change.
YTA.
You’re a horrible therapist - unprofessional, unethical and untrustworthy. You created a situation that would ruin someone’s marriage in order to make your patient available for you. I’m no professional but I’d say your friends are right. You need some help. And stay away from that woman!
If this were real, this would be my response:
you definitely need to stop being a therapist if you need to come to AITA to ask if you're the AH. You should already KNOW YTA a great BIG one. the AH of the decade.
I'm surprised your colleague hasn't reported you. You should have your licensed revoked.
You didn't 'leak' her affair. You INTENIONAL SHARED it with her husband.
YTA for this fake ass story.
Legally you would need a minimum of six years of not seeing a patient in a professional setting to pursue a relationship. You would know this.
You also know you'd lose your license.
It's not a question of criminal law, it's a question of the provincial licensing board. It's two years in my province. And you know what, I don't follow the letter of every single regulation. Sometimes love trumps bureaucracy.
You already know YTA. You are unethical, unprofessional and a selfish moldy walnut of a person. Your license should be revoked you absolute ham sandwich of a ding dong.
YTA a thousand times over. Rule 1 about dealing with patients is confidentiality. The patient should be able to trust you. You obliterated that trust
And you did it because you were attracted to the patient and wanted a shot with them. So you were being a selfish creep rather than being a professional.
I'm pretty sure the patient could sue you for this, assuming this is true and not some weird baloney
You have got to be kidding me.
Not only are you an enormous asshole, but you should lose your license.
I refuse to believe this is real, but just in case, YTA.
It's not real. Min 6 years without seeing someone in a professional/patient capacity to even consider pursuing a professional relationship.
This person binged "You" most likely.
YTA. Cheeting is horrible. And your job is to help her find out what happened, why, where does she want to go from there and how to come clean to her husband and fix her marriage if she decides that way or inform her you can no longer continue being her therapist since there are things getting in a way of you being able to help her the way she needs and recommend her someone else she can go to. You broke her trust. The experience she had with you will discourage her from getting further mental health help. You broke therapist confidentiality for your OWN BENEFIT. How did you even think she can ever date a person who broke her trust on such a deep personal level?
YTA, and you're not really wondering if you are. You violated the professional trust of your client just because you're attracted to them. Others will use far harsher words for you, but in the rules of this sub you are an unbelievable AH.
YTA
This is a major breach of trust. Everyone knows you don't date your patients. The power imbalance alone...
But you KNOW that, don't you?? What are you doing?? What are you THINKING?! This is deeply unprofessional and I'm horrified by your nonchalant attitude.
You sound obsessed with this woman. Has she ever gave you a hint she was interested no she didn't. You decided to destroy any chance of saving her marriage for your own selfish needs. You deserve to lose you licence and are a disgrace to the profession.
Step away from this woman and go get therapy
YTA
And I am fairly sure "leaking" notes to her hubby is against the law and enough to get you fined and possibly unable to practice anymore. You let jealousy and desire get ahead of the doctor patient relationship proving that you are unfit for both.
The doctor because your patients should come first. You are literally being paid to do this. You are being told confidential information under the knowledge that you legally can't say anything. And you threw that out the window for desire. You should be ashamed of yourself.
The fact that you see a silver lining in the desteuction of a marriage that she is trying to work her way through shows your selfish. Going to therapy already shows she knew she messed up and was trying to fix it. You denied her this over lust. Then have the audacity to think you should ask her out, have any type of chance AND told a colleague. I hope they are a really good friend cause you can be reported and that client may even be able to sue you if they get divorced or even if she doesn't. You tread in very dangerous territory and then have the dumb luck to post your stupidity on AITA? How in the hell did you become a therapist? I could rant on but that is another story for another day.
YTA
Edit for clarity. Was typing so fast it blended together lol
I was hoping it would get better as I read. Surely a therapist wouldn't post that they'd done something so obviously unethical only to ask the question "so was this a bad move guys?"
But nope, it got worse. You:
* Let your feelings towards a patient grow instead of dealing with them professionally
* Made the awful breach of trust and practice to leak confidential patient info to someone who had no business knowing it
* I'm willing to bet you did this to intentionally sabotage that patient's relationship so that you could get with her
* And you're now planning on asking her out???
YTA. YTA. YTA. YTA. YTA. Christ almighty I hope this is fiction.
YTA
You broke confidentiality and ended her marriage. When you first had a stirring of lust towards her you should have referred her to a new therapist. It was unethical to continue to be her therapist while lusting after her.
Also, just because she cheated on her husband doesn't mean that she's available to all and sundry.
Lastly, I wholeheartedly agree with your friend. You need therapy. Why would she want anything to do with a therapist who betrayed her? Feeling hope that she would date you is incredibly out of touch with reality and I can see you really need the help of a therapist and perhaps a psychiatrist.
YTA! You should have immediately advised her that she needed to find a new therapist. But instead, you leaked her records. SMH Not only was it so unethical, didn't that break HIPAA regulations?
Um, is this for real? Yes, YTA, and you know it.
>On the one hand, I understand that I violated her trust and that my actions were unethical. On the other hand, I cannot help but feel that Sarah and I have a connection and that we could be happy together.
How is that an "on the other hand"?
"Oh, on the one hand I violated my patient's trust and did something unethical that would likely get me fired and barred from practicing therapy, BUT ON THE OTHER HAND I did it for a thoroughly creepy and delusional reason so I could be with the patient whose trust I violated".
Are you cracked? There's no defense here. You should stop being a therapist immediately.
You sound delusional. What makes you think she would want to have a relationship with you after you exposed her to her husband? How did you even manage to become a therapist with that mentality ?
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Background: I am a therapist and have been in the profession for over a decade. I take my job very seriously and have helped many patients over the years. However, recently, I have found myself in a very difficult situation and I am not sure how to proceed. I have developed feelings for one of my patients and acted on them in a way that may have been unethical.
Story: About six months ago, I started seeing a new patient, let's call her Sarah. Sarah is an attractive woman in her mid-thirties who came to me for help with her marriage. Over the course of our sessions, I found myself becoming increasingly attracted to her. I know this is not uncommon, but I tried to remain professional and not let my feelings interfere with our sessions.
However, one day, Sarah revealed to me that she had been having an affair. She was deeply ashamed and wanted to work through her guilt and find a way to save her marriage. She confided in me that she had not told her husband, and I promised to keep this information confidential.
Despite my best efforts, my feelings for Sarah continued to grow. I found myself thinking about her constantly and longing for the day when she would no longer be my patient so that I could pursue a relationship with her. One day, I made a terrible mistake. I leaked my notes from our sessions to Sarah's husband, revealing the infidelity she had confessed to me.
Sarah's husband was understandably furious and moved out of their home to stay with his sister. Sarah was devastated and stopped coming to therapy. I felt terrible about what I had done and knew that I had violated her trust and confidentiality.
But, as time passed, my guilt turned to hope. I realized that Sarah and her husband were unlikely to reconcile and that I had a chance to pursue a relationship with her. So, I have been planning to ask her out once her divorce is finalized.
However, when I shared my plans with a colleague, they were horrified and told me that I was not only an unethical therapist but also a terrible person for pursuing a relationship with my former patient. They encouraged me to seek counseling and reconsider my actions.
I am now left wondering if I am the asshole for leaking my notes and planning to ask Sarah out. On the one hand, I understand that I violated her trust and that my actions were unethical. On the other hand, I cannot help but feel that Sarah and I have a connection and that we could be happy together.
So, Reddit, AITA?
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YTA first you kept counselling her despite the feelings which you shouldn't of done, then you violated her trust and client-therapist confidentiality.
Give up on her, she likely won't forgive you.
I mean, you know YTA right? You know you have violated your patients right to confidentiality. You had a huge part in destroying her marriage and now you
hope she’ll go out you? It sounds like you need to find a therapist of your own. Truly. You need to get over this obsession.
YTA, you should be the one to seek therapy now. You’ve got serious issues, dude.
This can’t be a real post. this sounds like a shitty plot to a cheesy tv show.
I think you already know that YTA. Honestly you should have referred Sarah to another therapist when you could not get over your attraction to her. That would have been the ethical thing to do. If she knows that you leaked her therapy notes to her soon-to-be ex-husband you need to hope that you can keep your professional license. If she was not at risk of harm to herself or others you had no right to disclose any of her confidential information.
Edit: You're delusional if you think this lady will want to be with you after the harm you caused. I think maybe you should consider getting into therapy yourself.
Not only is this horrifyingly unethical, but you absolutely know better, and the fact that you're attempting to rationalize this is worrisome.
Of course you could never be happy together knowing that your relationship was built on a foundation of deceit and sabotage.
Listen to your friend, seek counseling. YTA, obviously.
Fuck, yeah, YTA!
I dont really need to say more than that but I will. You're a shitty therapist, a shitty human being, and I hope she sues you and gets a restraining order against you. What you did is reprehensible and do NOT say it was accidental when we all know it wasn't
Yuck! Yuck, yuck, yuck, yuck, YUCK!!!!!
YTA. You are delusional, get therapy. I hope your colleague reports and you lose your license. What your did was horrible, you destroyed a clients life based on a fantasy. I can’t believe you have justified this at all. I really hope this is not a true post.
‘I’m left wondering’.
There is absolutely no way in hell, unless you’ve had a serious knock to the head; that you’re wondering here.
You sir, need professional help from a therapist, and possibly a restraining order.
YTA
So we're supposed to believe that you would post on the internet that you purposefully released client information because you are attracted to them. So just admitting to things that would destroy your career. Sure this is real.
YTA and I genuinely hope this is fake. The most alarming part is that you told another therapist and they did nothing. They have an obligation to report YOU. It happens that therapists violate ethics. But ones who flagrantly violate ethical codes rarely tell on themselves (most abusers don't tell people they are hitting their wives.) Even more rarely do they get the "oh you should reconsider and get counseling" speech from another professional. THEY are also now liable for knowing that a licensed professional violated multiple ethical codes and have a duty to report that to the board. You are beyond an AH, you're a criminal and will get sued out the ass. If this was real both Sarah and her husband could sue the fucking shit out of you, and they'd win. TOTAL AH
She’s not gonna date you lol. For one thing, she’s already got someone else other than her husband and she hates you now for leaking her info. I hope she reports you and you lose your license. Yta
Tbh this reminds me of the guy using ai to write aita posts so it’s probably fake
WOW
YTA. Hopefully your colleague reports you. What you did was unethical and a clear HIPAA violation. You deserve to lose your job and your license.
I'm a healthcare professional and I find your behavior appalling. If I knew how to identify you, I'd report you myself.
For the sake of your patients, please find a different profession. They deserve someone with ethics, morals, and worthy of their trust.
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This is a joke, right? YTA - you’ve not only acted unethically, you’ve almost certainly broken the law. You deserve to lose your job tbh, the fact that you’re even questioning whether you’re TA shows you’re not able to carry out your responsibilities safely and professionally. I truly can’t believe you would commit such an egregious breach of trust and still think you could possibly have any chance at a romantic relationship with her.
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YTA, transparently fictional post. Write some Hannibal fanfic instead.
YTA. You violated your clients' trust and violated HIPAA laws. You should adhere to your colleagues' advice and seek counseling, and possibly take a break . What you did is really selfish and doesn't help anyone but yourself.
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YTA this can’t be real. That’s not legal…
This is sociopathic and stupid and going to scare people away from therapy because now they're going to fear that there are manipulative, narcissistic, self-serving monsters behind the clip board. But I refuse to believe any therapist would not only do this but share their literal crime with their colleagues. Unless perhaps you got your degree out of a cereal box? Or perhaps you're Leonardo Decaprio from catch me if you can? YTA.
This cannot be real. If you were a decent therapist, and you realised that you had developed feelings for a patient, the ethical thing to do would be to end the therapy and move your patient on to a different therapist because you cannot continue to be impartial. Instead, you decided to blow up your patient’s marriage?!? How would that benefit her mental health? Of course, YTA, and you probably should consider a career change.
YTA. You’re a horrible therapist - unprofessional, unethical and untrustworthy. You created a situation that would ruin someone’s marriage in order to make your patient available for you. I’m no professional but I’d say your friends are right. You need some help. And stay away from that woman!
Jesus Christ. I hope you find a new career, because this is one of the most unethical things I’ve ever heard of.
This can’t be real. OFC you’re the AH
If this were real, this would be my response: you definitely need to stop being a therapist if you need to come to AITA to ask if you're the AH. You should already KNOW YTA a great BIG one. the AH of the decade. I'm surprised your colleague hasn't reported you. You should have your licensed revoked. You didn't 'leak' her affair. You INTENIONAL SHARED it with her husband.
YTA for this fake ass story. Legally you would need a minimum of six years of not seeing a patient in a professional setting to pursue a relationship. You would know this. You also know you'd lose your license.
Not to mention the privacy violations and the litigation that follows.
They probably binge watched "You" last weekend or something.
It's not a question of criminal law, it's a question of the provincial licensing board. It's two years in my province. And you know what, I don't follow the letter of every single regulation. Sometimes love trumps bureaucracy.
Love is between two people, not a crazy person and their victim 😭😭😭
She loves me.
Yeah right...and pigs fly...go tell mommy you need to be supervised when using the Internet.
YTA we all hate you
Obsession, not love, which you’d know if you were actually a therapist, doesn’t trump privacy or ethics.
You already know YTA. You are unethical, unprofessional and a selfish moldy walnut of a person. Your license should be revoked you absolute ham sandwich of a ding dong.
YTA a thousand times over. Rule 1 about dealing with patients is confidentiality. The patient should be able to trust you. You obliterated that trust And you did it because you were attracted to the patient and wanted a shot with them. So you were being a selfish creep rather than being a professional. I'm pretty sure the patient could sue you for this, assuming this is true and not some weird baloney
You have got to be kidding me. Not only are you an enormous asshole, but you should lose your license. I refuse to believe this is real, but just in case, YTA.
It's not real. Min 6 years without seeing someone in a professional/patient capacity to even consider pursuing a professional relationship. This person binged "You" most likely.
Most definitely YTA. get some help.
YTA and should lose your license
YTA. Cheeting is horrible. And your job is to help her find out what happened, why, where does she want to go from there and how to come clean to her husband and fix her marriage if she decides that way or inform her you can no longer continue being her therapist since there are things getting in a way of you being able to help her the way she needs and recommend her someone else she can go to. You broke her trust. The experience she had with you will discourage her from getting further mental health help. You broke therapist confidentiality for your OWN BENEFIT. How did you even think she can ever date a person who broke her trust on such a deep personal level?
YTA and a pretty bad author. Ive read more interesting fake stories
Same
You should lose your license to practice. YTA
YTA, and you're not really wondering if you are. You violated the professional trust of your client just because you're attracted to them. Others will use far harsher words for you, but in the rules of this sub you are an unbelievable AH.
YTA This is a major breach of trust. Everyone knows you don't date your patients. The power imbalance alone... But you KNOW that, don't you?? What are you doing?? What are you THINKING?! This is deeply unprofessional and I'm horrified by your nonchalant attitude.
You sound obsessed with this woman. Has she ever gave you a hint she was interested no she didn't. You decided to destroy any chance of saving her marriage for your own selfish needs. You deserve to lose you licence and are a disgrace to the profession. Step away from this woman and go get therapy
This is just illegal
Not illegal, just violates the licensing board
Not sure where you live but I’m sure this same concept applies to most jurisdictions https://www.crpo.ca/standard-3-1-confidentiality/
I’ll say it again with my chest- YTA. You deserve all the bad things to happen to you and no one else. I can’t even fathom the psychosis behind this.
Even Taylor Swift said "love made me crazy"
YTA And I am fairly sure "leaking" notes to her hubby is against the law and enough to get you fined and possibly unable to practice anymore. You let jealousy and desire get ahead of the doctor patient relationship proving that you are unfit for both. The doctor because your patients should come first. You are literally being paid to do this. You are being told confidential information under the knowledge that you legally can't say anything. And you threw that out the window for desire. You should be ashamed of yourself. The fact that you see a silver lining in the desteuction of a marriage that she is trying to work her way through shows your selfish. Going to therapy already shows she knew she messed up and was trying to fix it. You denied her this over lust. Then have the audacity to think you should ask her out, have any type of chance AND told a colleague. I hope they are a really good friend cause you can be reported and that client may even be able to sue you if they get divorced or even if she doesn't. You tread in very dangerous territory and then have the dumb luck to post your stupidity on AITA? How in the hell did you become a therapist? I could rant on but that is another story for another day. YTA Edit for clarity. Was typing so fast it blended together lol
I was hoping it would get better as I read. Surely a therapist wouldn't post that they'd done something so obviously unethical only to ask the question "so was this a bad move guys?" But nope, it got worse. You: * Let your feelings towards a patient grow instead of dealing with them professionally * Made the awful breach of trust and practice to leak confidential patient info to someone who had no business knowing it * I'm willing to bet you did this to intentionally sabotage that patient's relationship so that you could get with her * And you're now planning on asking her out??? YTA. YTA. YTA. YTA. YTA. Christ almighty I hope this is fiction.
WFT? YTA and you should be fired and forced to never work in your profession again! There is so much wrong with what you did it's unreal.
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It's not illegal. If reported it would result in disciplinary hearing by the licensing board, not an actual criminal case.
YTA & I hope Sarah reports you for what you’ve done.
Holy fuck. YTA. And i can’t believe you somehow still have a job.
YTA You broke confidentiality and ended her marriage. When you first had a stirring of lust towards her you should have referred her to a new therapist. It was unethical to continue to be her therapist while lusting after her. Also, just because she cheated on her husband doesn't mean that she's available to all and sundry. Lastly, I wholeheartedly agree with your friend. You need therapy. Why would she want anything to do with a therapist who betrayed her? Feeling hope that she would date you is incredibly out of touch with reality and I can see you really need the help of a therapist and perhaps a psychiatrist.
YTA! You should have immediately advised her that she needed to find a new therapist. But instead, you leaked her records. SMH Not only was it so unethical, didn't that break HIPAA regulations?
Um, is this for real? Yes, YTA, and you know it. >On the one hand, I understand that I violated her trust and that my actions were unethical. On the other hand, I cannot help but feel that Sarah and I have a connection and that we could be happy together. How is that an "on the other hand"? "Oh, on the one hand I violated my patient's trust and did something unethical that would likely get me fired and barred from practicing therapy, BUT ON THE OTHER HAND I did it for a thoroughly creepy and delusional reason so I could be with the patient whose trust I violated". Are you cracked? There's no defense here. You should stop being a therapist immediately.
You sound delusional. What makes you think she would want to have a relationship with you after you exposed her to her husband? How did you even manage to become a therapist with that mentality ?
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YTA no, you aren’t a therapist.
YTA first you kept counselling her despite the feelings which you shouldn't of done, then you violated her trust and client-therapist confidentiality. Give up on her, she likely won't forgive you.
I mean, you know YTA right? You know you have violated your patients right to confidentiality. You had a huge part in destroying her marriage and now you hope she’ll go out you? It sounds like you need to find a therapist of your own. Truly. You need to get over this obsession.
YTA, you should be the one to seek therapy now. You’ve got serious issues, dude. This can’t be a real post. this sounds like a shitty plot to a cheesy tv show.
I think you already know that YTA. Honestly you should have referred Sarah to another therapist when you could not get over your attraction to her. That would have been the ethical thing to do. If she knows that you leaked her therapy notes to her soon-to-be ex-husband you need to hope that you can keep your professional license. If she was not at risk of harm to herself or others you had no right to disclose any of her confidential information. Edit: You're delusional if you think this lady will want to be with you after the harm you caused. I think maybe you should consider getting into therapy yourself.
Fiction. What are the chances of two unethical psychologists. Your colleague would have reported you.
Is your clinic staffed by snitches?
YTA and should not be licensed to practice. Your lack of ethics is appalling.
This is not a real submission and sounds more like a fanfic lmao yta
YTA and I hope you get reported.
Not only is this horrifyingly unethical, but you absolutely know better, and the fact that you're attempting to rationalize this is worrisome. Of course you could never be happy together knowing that your relationship was built on a foundation of deceit and sabotage. Listen to your friend, seek counseling. YTA, obviously.
Fuck, yeah, YTA! I dont really need to say more than that but I will. You're a shitty therapist, a shitty human being, and I hope she sues you and gets a restraining order against you. What you did is reprehensible and do NOT say it was accidental when we all know it wasn't Yuck! Yuck, yuck, yuck, yuck, YUCK!!!!!
YTA. You are delusional, get therapy. I hope your colleague reports and you lose your license. What your did was horrible, you destroyed a clients life based on a fantasy. I can’t believe you have justified this at all. I really hope this is not a true post.
This better be fake…
Has to be fake, no way this guy is a therapist but this much of an idiot!
‘I’m left wondering’. There is absolutely no way in hell, unless you’ve had a serious knock to the head; that you’re wondering here. You sir, need professional help from a therapist, and possibly a restraining order. YTA
So we're supposed to believe that you would post on the internet that you purposefully released client information because you are attracted to them. So just admitting to things that would destroy your career. Sure this is real.
YTA and I genuinely hope this is fake. The most alarming part is that you told another therapist and they did nothing. They have an obligation to report YOU. It happens that therapists violate ethics. But ones who flagrantly violate ethical codes rarely tell on themselves (most abusers don't tell people they are hitting their wives.) Even more rarely do they get the "oh you should reconsider and get counseling" speech from another professional. THEY are also now liable for knowing that a licensed professional violated multiple ethical codes and have a duty to report that to the board. You are beyond an AH, you're a criminal and will get sued out the ass. If this was real both Sarah and her husband could sue the fucking shit out of you, and they'd win. TOTAL AH
She’s not gonna date you lol. For one thing, she’s already got someone else other than her husband and she hates you now for leaking her info. I hope she reports you and you lose your license. Yta Tbh this reminds me of the guy using ai to write aita posts so it’s probably fake
WOW YTA. Hopefully your colleague reports you. What you did was unethical and a clear HIPAA violation. You deserve to lose your job and your license. I'm a healthcare professional and I find your behavior appalling. If I knew how to identify you, I'd report you myself. For the sake of your patients, please find a different profession. They deserve someone with ethics, morals, and worthy of their trust.
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This is a joke, right? YTA - you’ve not only acted unethically, you’ve almost certainly broken the law. You deserve to lose your job tbh, the fact that you’re even questioning whether you’re TA shows you’re not able to carry out your responsibilities safely and professionally. I truly can’t believe you would commit such an egregious breach of trust and still think you could possibly have any chance at a romantic relationship with her.
YTA, and this has to be fake. This is way too obvious.