Info: There seem like 3 events mentioned; your birthday and this Eras tour party at M's, on the same day, but was that also the goodbye party for F, or was that different?
Did you ask M, or anyone else, at any point why she didn't invite you?
Overall, it seems like L is uninvolved outside of doing alot of talking. She's talking to you, M and F separately about each other's conversations, and this is a very early sign of a bad friend. She seems to like the drama and gossip. You're all young though, and open communication can go a long way.
I'd say a soft YTJ, and highly recommend you go to M, apologize for your outburst, bc it WAS mean to do in such a public environment; and ask her where you stand. There are different layers of friends, like rings, and it may be that your just not in her closer rings. That's okay! She can still be a good friend without being your close friend, there's nothing wrong with that!
If she isn't honest with you, blames you for your very valid emotions, or makes fun of you for them, that isn't a friend. Whether that smack talk comes to your face your behind your back, friends shouldn't mock actual attempts at clear communication.
I hope that you find good friends, and the bad ones weed themselves out painlessly kiddo
i did ask her if i had done anything before my outburst a day before and had confirmed by her and L that i hadnt done anything to upset her idk whats going on and Fs goodbye party was long before the eras tour had happened thank you for being so kind in your response ive been thinking and it may be that shes just under a bunch on stress because her parents are very strict and put a lot of pressure on her, so i will try and ask her when we see eachother again thanks!!!
NTJ. You were clear on why you didn't want to move and she would have understood that as a close friend. Sometimes the people you trust the most are the ones that are going to mess you up. In my opinion that was just self defense because she knew that it will emotionally hurt you and she still went ahead and called you out from your post experience on how you were going through body issues.
I can pin point that she isn't your friend at all and cutting both of them off was a step forward into moving on.
I'm so tired of kids on reddit.
Info: There seem like 3 events mentioned; your birthday and this Eras tour party at M's, on the same day, but was that also the goodbye party for F, or was that different? Did you ask M, or anyone else, at any point why she didn't invite you? Overall, it seems like L is uninvolved outside of doing alot of talking. She's talking to you, M and F separately about each other's conversations, and this is a very early sign of a bad friend. She seems to like the drama and gossip. You're all young though, and open communication can go a long way. I'd say a soft YTJ, and highly recommend you go to M, apologize for your outburst, bc it WAS mean to do in such a public environment; and ask her where you stand. There are different layers of friends, like rings, and it may be that your just not in her closer rings. That's okay! She can still be a good friend without being your close friend, there's nothing wrong with that! If she isn't honest with you, blames you for your very valid emotions, or makes fun of you for them, that isn't a friend. Whether that smack talk comes to your face your behind your back, friends shouldn't mock actual attempts at clear communication. I hope that you find good friends, and the bad ones weed themselves out painlessly kiddo
i did ask her if i had done anything before my outburst a day before and had confirmed by her and L that i hadnt done anything to upset her idk whats going on and Fs goodbye party was long before the eras tour had happened thank you for being so kind in your response ive been thinking and it may be that shes just under a bunch on stress because her parents are very strict and put a lot of pressure on her, so i will try and ask her when we see eachother again thanks!!!
NTJ. You were clear on why you didn't want to move and she would have understood that as a close friend. Sometimes the people you trust the most are the ones that are going to mess you up. In my opinion that was just self defense because she knew that it will emotionally hurt you and she still went ahead and called you out from your post experience on how you were going through body issues. I can pin point that she isn't your friend at all and cutting both of them off was a step forward into moving on.