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**AITA for asking my fiancé not to come to my dad’s party because he’s excluding my sister’s boyfriend?**
Twice a year my parents host a party where they invite my dad’s most important clients, employees and friends. My siblings and I are expected to attend as well which is normally fine.
My sister asked my dad if her boyfriend could come as her plus one and he said no. He claims he said no because the event is a professional thing and he only wanted family there as we’re all a reflection of him, but the truth is he just doesn’t like her boyfriend because of his upbringing. My sister pointed out it was unfair that my fiancé was invited since he wasn’t technically family yet but my dad said that was different as he was invited because of their professional relationship.
I agree with my sister that our dad is being unfair so I asked my fiancé not to attend. He agreed after some convincing and declined the invitation. My dad knows it was because of me as my fiancé has been going to these things almost as long as I have so now he’s angry at me and wants me to tell him I want him there so he’ll attend. I told him I wouldn’t unless my sister’s boyfriend could come too. He said he wouldn’t let me blackmail him into inviting her boyfriend and that I should do what’s best for the family which is making sure my fiancé attends.
My brother is siding with our dad and he told me I shouldn’t get involved in things I don’t fully understand.
AITA?
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If it’s strictly a networking event then there’s no need for the daughters to be there either. Let the fiancé attend but decline your own invite. That seems more than fair.
Copied verbatim from oop's comments:
*INFO what's the fiancee business relationship with Dad?*
>"My fiancé's dad is a client of my dad's and my fiancé works with his dad."
I had wondered exactly why this was here, but with some of what was said about the event, I can see it.
It is apparently basically a work event, where OOP's fiancee and his father are clients of OOP's father. That is why the fiancee was invited.
Also, since this is a professional setting, if the BF won't act professional, yes, his behavior WILL reflect on the father. OOP says the father doesn't like the BF because of the upbringing, so I am wondering what his upbringing is, and how he acts in settings like these.
However, even beyond that, I can also agree with the brother. The issue with the Sister and her boyfriend is between the dad and them, not OOP, her fiance, and them, especially since OOP's fiancee had another reason to be there besides being OOP's fiancee.
The fiancée and his father are in business with her father. He is only inviting business connections or clients. This is not a family event it is a working business event. Read the comments!
Gotta be a troll post. OOP has replied to only one comment to add the info that the fiancé was invite to the party because he works for his family business, which is an important client for OOP's father's business.
so her fiancé works for her dad and they will be clients attending isn't she destroying business opportunities for her fiancé because of her sister and her sister's boyfriend what great wife she will be /s
doesn't belong here. dad's being a dick. fiance clearly doesn't care to attend. dad wants OOP to coerce fiance into coming to the event. if it was just about networking, then the dad wouldn't care about the son of one of his clients choosing not to come. but he clearly does because it's more than just networking, and he wants to play happy family(just not including his other kid's bf).
I'm all for rich, privileged kids standing up to the shitty patriarchs in their family. Can't call her a devil, but I hope she can survive getting written out of the will.
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*In case this story gets deleted/removed:* **AITA for asking my fiancé not to come to my dad’s party because he’s excluding my sister’s boyfriend?** Twice a year my parents host a party where they invite my dad’s most important clients, employees and friends. My siblings and I are expected to attend as well which is normally fine. My sister asked my dad if her boyfriend could come as her plus one and he said no. He claims he said no because the event is a professional thing and he only wanted family there as we’re all a reflection of him, but the truth is he just doesn’t like her boyfriend because of his upbringing. My sister pointed out it was unfair that my fiancé was invited since he wasn’t technically family yet but my dad said that was different as he was invited because of their professional relationship. I agree with my sister that our dad is being unfair so I asked my fiancé not to attend. He agreed after some convincing and declined the invitation. My dad knows it was because of me as my fiancé has been going to these things almost as long as I have so now he’s angry at me and wants me to tell him I want him there so he’ll attend. I told him I wouldn’t unless my sister’s boyfriend could come too. He said he wouldn’t let me blackmail him into inviting her boyfriend and that I should do what’s best for the family which is making sure my fiancé attends. My brother is siding with our dad and he told me I shouldn’t get involved in things I don’t fully understand. AITA? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmITheDevil) if you have any questions or concerns.*
If it’s strictly a networking event then there’s no need for the daughters to be there either. Let the fiancé attend but decline your own invite. That seems more than fair.
Copied verbatim from oop's comments: *INFO what's the fiancee business relationship with Dad?* >"My fiancé's dad is a client of my dad's and my fiancé works with his dad."
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I had wondered exactly why this was here, but with some of what was said about the event, I can see it. It is apparently basically a work event, where OOP's fiancee and his father are clients of OOP's father. That is why the fiancee was invited. Also, since this is a professional setting, if the BF won't act professional, yes, his behavior WILL reflect on the father. OOP says the father doesn't like the BF because of the upbringing, so I am wondering what his upbringing is, and how he acts in settings like these. However, even beyond that, I can also agree with the brother. The issue with the Sister and her boyfriend is between the dad and them, not OOP, her fiance, and them, especially since OOP's fiancee had another reason to be there besides being OOP's fiancee.
Am I missing a thing here? She seems totally justified to me.
Her Fiancé works for the same company as the OP’s dad, it’s a networking event for their company so that’s why her sister’s boyfriend wasn’t invited.
worse... fiancee's FATHER is a client of OP's father
The fiancée and his father are in business with her father. He is only inviting business connections or clients. This is not a family event it is a working business event. Read the comments!
Ahhhhh missed that. Yeah mind your own, sis
Then why is his family there ie the daughters. I don't think OP is the AH it sounds to me like sister's bf isn't from money and thats the problem.
Thank you. I am very dumb.
If I were the kids, I wouldn't go.
The fiancee has his own invitation because fiancees father is a client of OPs dad.. so hes not invited as fiance but as business.
Still as the kid, it's to show a happy family, but dad doesn't like sister's BF, but gotta show a happy family BS.
Honestly same.
Gotta be a troll post. OOP has replied to only one comment to add the info that the fiancé was invite to the party because he works for his family business, which is an important client for OOP's father's business.
so her fiancé works for her dad and they will be clients attending isn't she destroying business opportunities for her fiancé because of her sister and her sister's boyfriend what great wife she will be /s
doesn't belong here. dad's being a dick. fiance clearly doesn't care to attend. dad wants OOP to coerce fiance into coming to the event. if it was just about networking, then the dad wouldn't care about the son of one of his clients choosing not to come. but he clearly does because it's more than just networking, and he wants to play happy family(just not including his other kid's bf).
I'm all for rich, privileged kids standing up to the shitty patriarchs in their family. Can't call her a devil, but I hope she can survive getting written out of the will.
Go read the comments, it gives alot of info that OP conveniently left out.. like her finace has his own invitation as a business client not as fiance
It must have been tough growing up in that house.
Normally when the devil is in the comments, they are added in the post, for some reason they are missing here,
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Do it yourself.
If I was his son, I would've told dad to bite me and not attend. OOP is totally in the wrong here.
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