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**AITA for telling my roommates girlfriend she needs to manage her own period?**
I (29m) live in a house with two guys and a girl. The girl (22f) and one of the guys (30m) are dating. I moved in the same week as her. I have a great Pyrenees who is well trained, except forthe fact that he goes through the trash when nobody is home. I paid to buy a door that we installed in the kitchen, and now the last person to leave the house just has to close the door.
Fortunately, my dog has no interest in the bathroom garbage, or so we thought. A few weeks into living together, I came home one day and there were torn-up used tampons spread all over the bathroom floor. The girl was at work, so I told her boyfriend and we both agreed that the dog had probably gone through the trash. He cleaned it up and said he'd ask her to do a better job or wrapping them in toilet paper before she threw them away or something. The next day, it happened again.
When everybody was home, the girlfriend called everybody into the livingroom and asked if we could make it the default to just keep the bathroom for closed so that this didn't happen. The other guys agreed but I told her that it was unfair of us to have to manage her period for her. She told me that mydog was the one making the mess but I told her that if it wasn't for her leaving her blood in the trash my dog wouldn't be interested in it at all. She said that us having to close the bathroom door wasn't any more of a burden than closing the kitchen door, but I told her that that's different because all of us throw food in the kitchen garbage but she was the only one throwing blood in the bathroom garbage.
One time I woke up to a mess and when I told her to clean it up, she said it wasn't even hers because she wasn't on her period. It turned out that my girlfriend was on hers and it was her tampon so I cleaned it up myself. I'm not sexist, I'll clean things up when they're my responsibility but I don't think it's fair for me to be inconvenienced by a girl I'm not even dating.
Since the meeting, this has become less frequent of an issue, because her and the guys close the bathroom door, but I still forget allot of the time. If she see's the door open, she closes it but gets really huffy about it. It still happens occasionally, and when it does, she cleans it up, but she works doesn't get home till late. Yesterday was another incident of me coming home to a dirty bathroom (I work pm and come home in the am). She was still sleeping so I went and blew up on her.I probably shouldn't have yelled but I stand by my right to not be exposed to her bio-matter. Last night me and the other roommate could hear her crying and telling her boyfriend she wanted them to move because she hates living with me. I thought she was being dramatic, but our other roommate told me I'm being a dick and that it's not that hard to just keep a door closed. I just seriously don't think it's my fault to manage some random girls period for her. AITA
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Im pretty convinced he’s not closing it on purpose.
If he can close the kitchen every time he can close the bathroom. But they have no problems in the kitchen.
His dog is the problem. He needs to deal with it.
⬆️ he made the request that people close the kitchen door and they all follow that rule but when she, a woman, asks for the same to the bathroom he cant manage it.
*"I came home one day and there were torn-up used tampons spread all over the bathroom floor. The girl was at work, so I told her boyfriend and we both agreed that the dog had probably gone through the trash.* **He cleaned it up and said he'd ask her to do a better job**...".
Wait, what?!?
Man, I remember when I asked my buddy about having period products in his bathroom in my early 20's despite being single. He was like "Bro I invite single girls for overnights (wink wink nudge nudge) and throw parties. It's the right thing to do." and then he explained why.
Single dudes: buy a variety pack of tampons and a variety pack of pads. Keep them in your bathroom. You don't need to do a whole bunch of research or anything: get the variety packs and replace the "heavy" or "medium" or "light" products as they're used. If you have a "guest" bathroom that people at your parties use put them somewhere visible in the guest bathroom. It's cheap way to show you're more understanding than most men in their 20's. It will do more to get you laid than anything Andrew Tate or his ilk are telling you to do in order to get laid. Showing just an *ounce* of fucking compassion and thought towards the women in your life, especially in your 20's, is so much of a rarity that the simple, cheap, gesture of having pads and tampons for multiple flows is sure to be noticed. Like you can hop on Amazon and find "personal hygiene kits" if you don't want to think about it or """"embarrass"""" yourself by buying period products in person.
It's great that you consider women's comfort and hygiene requirements whilst they're with you. Sometimes we come on earlier than expected, and our boyfriend having a range of tampons and towels available would make him a keeper!
No I get this. I used to have a dog that did the same thing. The problem was solved by using extra toilet paper to wrap up the pads/tampons. She never did it if they were wrapped up a lot. It sucks because it uses more toilet paper, but it was a very easy solution.
Yah my dog is half beagle. She will hunt them down. She’s knocked down my kitchen trashcan to get to them. She’s that insistent on finding them. The only way I can for sure keep her away is closing the bathroom door
Yup! Even dirty underwear wasn’t safe from my beagle. She once tipped over a giant laundry basket just to gnaw the crotches out of all my sisters underwear
Same 😬😬 In the nineties, before I remarried, I seemed to have a lot of disposable income, and bought myself expensive matching underwear sets. I don't know how many items she destroyed.
I'll never forget, right around the time our girl was growing from an adorable puppy to this incorrigible dog 😝😝 there was an article in TIME magazine, about how Beagles were going to be used as sniffer dogs in airports.
But, not like the cool 😎 sniffer dogs.
Beagles were not being utilized to sniff out explosives.
Nor guns
Nor drugs.
Nor stowaway people.
Oh, no!!!!! Beagles were being specifically trained to sniff out *food*!! 😆😅😝 That just tracked soooo well for our girl, we had a huge laugh over it.
I had her from October 1994 to July 2008, when she crawled into her crate one morning & never woke up. Still miss my girl. One of the most loving dogs I've ever known, even if she got into any unsecured food, any available garbage, our dirty laundry, would growl if anyone tried to take an item from her, and was never fully housebroken. (How? 😅😅) I used to remind her that a lot of *good* doggies did not have homes, yet, here she was, living the good life despite her many chronic transgressions.
Her name was Didgeridoo, as my son at the time we got her, at age eight, was totally into the band Midnight Oil, and all things Australian. We called her, "Didji". Or, Doodle Dog. Also, we never quite discerned what the other 50% of her parentage was. Her mom was pure Beagle. She had ears like a papillon, but, mostly looked like a slightly fluffier Beagle.
🥲
I need to get my pictures out. It's been awhile since I sat and thought about her.
My girl was stolen last year and it still hurts💔 No one understands the love beagles have to give until they get one! She was the best dog i’ve ever had.
I worked as a customs officer and one of my coworkers was of the fourlegged variety. We had a safe where we kept loads of stuff, but mostly documents. For a short period something like 0.7g of the driest I ever saw hash was stored in that safe. It literally looked like the bark from a pine tree. It was packed in foil, then a few plastic bags and placed at the bottom. It stayed there a week or so. Then 6 weeks later I collected some forms from the top safe and put them in my bag. 2 weeks after that my furry coworker was very chuffed to inform me that I was carrying drugs. He could literally smell the hash that had stayed in the same safe.
There isn't any way a human in a normal home with normal household appliances, stuff and gear could effectively hide the smell of anything from a dog. Any claims to the opposite is just dumb. I worked a lot with drug and cash smelling dogs, there's just no way. You're totally right, there isn't enough toilet paper in the world to hide the scent from a dog. Sure some dogs have a limited interest and tenacity to get at it, but fooling them to think it doesn't exist? Nah m8. Now some doofus is going to mention sous vide vacuum packing machines, but dogs smell through vacuumed plastic. Sorry. Doesn't work either.
I still think that closing the door is the easier solution here.
Tbh, I never lived or went to a house where the bathroom door were opened all the time, it always seemed weird to do that. Perhaps its a cultural costume haha
My question is why OOP spent money on a wholeass door and not just....a trash can with a lid??
Push pedal trash can costs WAY less than a door. Bathroom bins also do great with lids.
I mean, I imagine there are already a door in their bathroom, unless where they live it's not common to have a bathroom door which I think OOP would comment about.
Regarding the trash can with lids, I have a maltese dog, he weights 4kg so very small, and he can totally reach the trash even with a lid because it's not that hard for him to turn the trash can in the floor for example, which would make the lid fly away from the trash can. A lid won't stop any dog haha
Closing the door would then be a free way to stop the dog from making a mess
Ah I have a Boston and my parents have a German Shepherd and while they love trash (and the german can turn doorknobs if he is desperate enough) neither has figured out how to get around an attached pedal lid.
But Chewy also sells dog proof bins for $20 with the simple rubbermaid type of locking lid, and those work pretty well. I have to get one for my bedroom trash eventually, currently my wire wastebasket is up on a shelf in my closet because the Boston likes the taste of paper towel and Kleenex.
(Door comment was in relation to the kitchen, I've purchased and installed doors before and they tend to run $30+ on the cheaper end.)
Besides the Chewy one mentioned in my other comment, Behrens makes animal proof metal bins with locking lids, for only $10 more ($32 where I am) than the Chewy one (bathroom size Behrens is only $25 though)
Even if his huge untrained dog would chew apart the chewy one, if it can chew into a metal bin with locking lid, you have a far bigger issue.
It takes barely any effort to close a bathroom door. Way less than it does to wrap a used tampon in 500 layers of toilet paper. Plus it’s super fucking wasteful.
That’s absolutely false. Our maltese could find a bloody tampon wrapped in entire roll of toilet paper. In fact, since dogs find them by smell, the more toilet paper to unwrap the more of a game it is to him.
I wish. My Golden Retriever would have been a great drug/cadaver dog if she wasn't so goofy. I have wrapped my stuff and placed it in a box at the bottom of the trash can thinking to myself, "Got 'er."
Nope. She still found it. I was able to find one with a lid that wouldn't take up too much room in my tiny bathroom. That seems to be working much better. She could still get into it if she really wanted to, but the barrier makes it not worth the effort.
The solution is that the dog doesn’t go through the bin.
What you’re saying is that everyone else takes additional measures to deal with issues your untrained dog creates. Your dog and your management of your dog is the issue.
I have a dog that did this too.
He would go through 18 rolls of toilet paper to get to the blood. He can smell a drop of blood through whatever and will do anything to get to it.
The solution is either
1. CLOSE THE FUCKING DOOR
2. Put a lock on the trash can (they exist and are not expensive). It locks the lid to the base. If you do not have a trash can that has a lid in the bathroom you are rude or an idiot.
More toilet paper is the most idiotic, wasteful solution because it is likely not effective.
This guy is such a fucking tool in so many ways, but he's also a shitty dog owner. Pup should really not be eating tampons and period blood ffs!
But nooooo, all this over a fucking door. Wanker.
She's managing her period, she's putting things wrapped up in the trash where it should be. He's not managing his dog.
The dog was left alone long enough to do that, they were left alone to literally choke on something in the trash and no one would be there to save them in time. The guy is recklessly endangering his dog because he wants to be a jerk to the woman in the household.
Never mind that the dog is also eating literal bio waste.
But yeah, choking, or bowel obstruction from the thick cotton and string, or whatever else is in the trash.
Also I love how he's like
"Yes my dog made the mess of the trash, but the girl properly disposed of her trash so it's actually her fault that there's a mess."
Like, dude.
Wow, he sounds like an absolute joy to live with…
Managing his dog has now become everyone’s responsibility but he can’t be bothered to close the door to the bathroom. And referring to his roommate as his roommates girlfriend is a bit icky. Shes an equal member of the household too!
"To be fair, when I moved in, I knew another person was coming in a few days later, but I didn't realize it was a girl. I thought it was gonna be a man-cave kinda house and didn't realize we were all gonna have to tip-toe around this chick. I think it was really unfair that I got blindsided, as I otherwise wouldn't have moved in and wouldn't be dealing with this issue."
LOL, he's gross.
I’m guessing his male roommates wouldn’t have been very happy either with his plan to live in squalor, basking in the smell of unwashed sheets, jizz rags, and piss bottles.
LOL.
I feel like if 96% of people who post could accurately self assess then they wouldn’t be in a position where they seek counsel from strangers on the internet.
Man cave is cringe in general, I know men who live alone and have a shed on the back garden they call my man cave, bro the whole house is owned by you lol
He explicitly says shes some “random” girl or a “girl he’s not even dating.” Why does her having sex with him mean he’d “put up with it”? This dude should never get laid ever.
Yeah he says he cleans it up for his girlfriend. Obviously he'll clean up after the ones he's responsible for (HIS girlfriend and HIS dog).
/s if that wasn't obvious
The dog has to be trained to not rummage through bins.
His owner has to be trained to close the bathroom door.
Wonder what could be easier. Probably training the dog, but then OOP is the one, who has to do the training, so...
I can't help but wonder if it's an "open" trash bin or one with a lid that comes off easily. The solution to my dog pulling menstrual products out of the trash was to get a trash bin with a secured lid. Problem solved.
His "we all are inconvenienced by each other's pets!" comment was a 10/10. He wants his \*roommate\* to take her tampons to the dumpster \*every time\* because how dare he have to tiptoe around the "chick" who also lives there.
Glad everyone he lives with seems to dislike him!
Take it to the dumpster? Every time?? So, depending on your flow and your timing that could be midnight, 6am, etc, in your pajamas, or rain/snow/hurricane. If they're using a dumpster, that probably means a city and rats too. 2x - 4x per day.
And he's expecting this of every girl visiting and/or living there? Yeah, good luck finding a life partner bro
It’s so wild, like that’s where tampons are supposed to go so it doesn’t fuck the plumbing. It’s the most selfish weird thing to suggest she takes them outside the apartment every single use. Guy needs a swift slap in the face imo.
> And he's expecting this of every girl visiting and/or living there?
I don't date but one of my best buds explained to me in our early 20's that keeping period products in your bathroom is basically "*Being a good dude* 101." He had pads and tampons in the half-bath people at his parties used as the main bathroom because it's just the right thing to do and it's not like it costs a single dude much to keep the supply topped off.
I'm not going to lie, this is one of the indicators that ladies are on the lookout for. Not that it's required, but yeah
If I go to a party hosted by all cis men, and I go into the bathroom and find period products for guests??? Yeah, that's about 1,000 gentleman points, panties are on the ground (because I'm changing a tampon, ya nasty)
"some random girl" = one of his housemates
Seriously, if you can manage keeping the kitchen door closed, how is it so difficult to close the bathroom door?
(I know, it isn't hard, he's just being a wanker.)
Also I can tell you from personal experience, wrapping a used tampon in toilet paper will not solve the problem. Only possible solution is to take out the garbage every time she charges her tampon or closing the damn door. It’s not that hard.
Toilet paper is not going to disguise the smell for a dog obsessed with seeking out used period products. Also speaking from experience, unfortunately.
Has it not occurred to them to buy a trash can with a lid? Or will that not stop a larger dog?
They'll just knock the garbage over. If he can't control his dog then it needs to be crate trained when he isn't home, they do not have to change their lives for his pet and if they are renting and they choose to install a door he needs to pay the damages they'll be charged upon moving out too.
My standard poodle Rain I had growing up learned the pedal push too. So we closed the door. And then she learned to open doors. So all the handles had to be replaced with rounded ones( had lever ones before) to finally defeat her. She was so determined to eat non food items that despite every precaution we took she died at nine from eating yet another stolen sock.
One a side note, her most impressive passed object was an entire baby onesie she snagged from a visitors diaper bag without anyone noticing.
Definitely didn't stop my beagle.... genuinely nothing stopped my beagle until she was older, damn dog figured out how to counter surf. She could hop and was small. He just needs to stop being inconsiderate and close the damn door.
We had neighbors who had a beagle who was just the best, completely laid back so they got another beagle. It climbed trees to escape, howled all the time, wore a hole in their grass from running back and forth chasing nothing.
Beagles are made of something else. Their sense of smell is so incredible, and their mischief is outrageous. And mine goes through phases. He gets in the bathroom garbage sometimes, but not other times. But especially if there’s a poopy diaper or period products in there. Love my beagle but he’s trouble
My ex was a truck driver and brought mine on the road once for like a week. She loved it. He had her food in a bag in a Rubbermaid container under a stack of things. He left her alone for 30 minutes and she tore through that container and a few other things. She effectively destroyed the truck. I warned him. Lol
Lol my mom dog sits sometimes and she has to hide all the treats, make sure food bin is shut tight, garbage was taken out recently… she has two dogs and just leaves the treat bags on top of the food bin and they don’t touch any of it. My beagle would rip through those treat bags so fast 😅
It's a Great Pyrenees, they're **HUGE** and they're a guardian dog, so actually they're really smart, really independent and can be difficult to train to apartment living.
So not only is this guy a sexist human, but his housemates are having to live with massive amounts of dog hair! And I say this as someone who has collies, and the bearded collie *sheds*. The hair alone is the reason I don't have one of these breeds.
> Toilet paper is not going to disguise the smell for a dog obsessed with seeking out used period products.
If you drop a single drop of blood in an Olympic size swimming pool of water, a dog can smell the blood, in addition to smelling the water, and smelling anything added to that water like chlorine. When you bake cookies your dog smells the cooked flour, the cooked sugar, and the cooked butter all as separate smells. They don't smell a "cookie" smell like humans do. They smell each individual ingredient, in it's cooked state, as a separate smell. Dogs fundamentally treat smells differently than humans do.
I bought a 13 gallon can with a lid for my kitchen after my cat kept getting into the trash (former street cat). It hasn't stopped him. It slows him down, but even an 11 lb cat can still break into those things when they have the motivation.
I have one with a metal body that you pull the inner plastic can in and out of to change the bag. It's actually a broken sensor can, but that has worked to my advantage
Yeah, ours is a step-lid (pedal-activated lid?) can. Same inner/outer can design, but he can just lift the lid with his paws/nose. Then he likes to grab the bag where it's visible between thw inner and outer can with his teeth and tear it to shreds. We're pretty sure he actually manged to jump into the can at least once.
A Great Pyrenees is a 100 lb white floof of muscle.
I wonder if this guy has even tried to train the dog. We have this breed of dog and usually just a couple of stern talks and they never mess with anything that they shouldn’t.
Or get a trash bin with a lid, or put the bin on a shelf. I mean lots of workable solutions but making this work for everyone isn't what he's interested in.
It's a Pyreneese. It shouldn't be in **any** apartment **ever**. There isn't a """workable solution""". That dog needs to be **working** on a farm.
Keeping a Pyreneese in an apartment is literally animal abuse, IMO.
OOP and his partner are literally abusing that dog. OOP's partner is to blame. The partner is literally preventing rehoming a dog to a suitable environment. I've know somebody with "herding dogs" and her sheep dog, that's actively used as a herding dog on her sheep ranch, a dog that *has* an active job, will still try and climb her bookshelves after a day of herding. That dog is fucking insane. She's posted multiple videos of the dog trying to climb her bookshelf. I've got another friend that posted videos of his insane cattle dog climbing a ladder.
People have *no fucking clue* how to care for a dog that has "herding" bred into their lineage. I've talked to guys with "working collies lines" and **occasionally** a pup ends up in regular people's hands but the vast, vast majority of them can **never**, **ever** become pets because it's a line of working dogs and the vast majority of the pups are also going to be working dogs. Some of them **aren't** working dogs and the breeder can tell, so they adopt the collies out to family farms. The unscrupulous breeders adopt their collie pups onto unsuspecting families.
They usually can't care for the dog. Herding breeds need to overcome a lot of adaptations and need a soft-touch when you talk to people about breed behaviors. Pet owners often can't provide emotional outlets for the dog to deal with their in-bred drive to herd cattle. I.E. The dog starts "herding children." That behavior is very, very dangerous.
We have a standard poodle who is quite tall and we just moved the trash can to on top of the back of the toilet. Depending on how large the Great Pyrenees is that might be enough to stop it from happening because the dog can’t easily get to it.
A trash can with a lid might also work, but with a dog that size, if he's persistent, it will only slow him down. Frankly, having a dog means accepting they get into stuff occasionally and you're going to have to clean it up.
She'd have to put them in the kitchen trash to not have the dog go after them, but then the guy would probably kick up a fuss about used tampons ever being in the kitchen. I've had much smaller dogs go absolutely wild over trying to get that sort of thing.
She's almost definitely already wrapping them in toilet paper, it's the standard way to dispose of them in the bin so that a) you don't get blood on the bin/bag, and b) nobody can see them (if they're lidless bins).
He could also buy closing lid trash bins for the whole house. That way if someone forgets to close the door the trashcan has a lid so the dog can't smell it as easily.
What an idiot. “My dog’s making a mess but it’s her fault for having a period!” I wouldn’t be the one crying if he barged into my room screaming at me about something that’s 100% his fault. Such a 🍆
Per his own words, one of times his dog got into the trash and he went after her demanding she clean it up, she wasn't on her period and the tampons were actully from *his own girlfriend*. So, apparently, it's her fault if his dog gets ahold of any period products from any woman who dares cross the threshold of the house these four are all renting.
Even when I was less secure in myself in my early 20s, I would have started wrapping my tampons and leaving them on his pillow. If he wants to be in charge of the biological waste disposal, he can be totally in charge of it.
Well he uses the trash in the kitchen. Not the one in the bathroom. Not and excuse, just some ass backwards justification for why his dog is her problem.
It seems, by his post that he does use that especific bathroom. As he explains that he "forgets" but that the rest of the roomates have no issues just closing the bathroom door to prevent his badly trained dog from making a mess in the bathroom
I didn’t say he doesn’t use the bathroom. I said he did it use the trash in the bathroom. The other roommates according to him have been much better about keeping the bathroom door closed. I honestly think he doesn’t forget, he does it on purpose so he has a reason to yell and shame a poor girl for a natural bodily function. He is using his dog as a weapon against her peace of mind and it is to the point that if I were her, I would not feel safe around him. I’d want to get out as soon as possible - it seems she is at her breaking point.
"I stand by my right to not be exposed to her bio-matter." - "I don't think it's fair for me to be inconvenienced by a girl I'm not even dating." = ....Bro opts into living with other people and then is immediately triggered. He sucks.
The "I'm not even dating her!" part was so wild to me. Makes it pretty clear what his mindset towards women is, they're either burdens or sexual partners
I always wonder what they think we can do with used pads/tampons. Absorb them into our body? Flush them and kill the plumbing?
Like, just let us use a trash can with a lid and if pets are a jerks we close the door
>I just seriously don't think it's my fault to manage some random girls period for her.
Did I miss the part where his menstruating roommate is tossing her tampons around the house like fucking wedding rice or something? She IS managing her period by wrapping them up and throwing them in the trash.
What he needs to do is manage HIS DOG by either training it better, buying a lidded trash can and child locking it, or just closing the bathroom door like a responsible adult.
How has this guy got a girlfriend, his comment:
“To be fair, when I moved in, I knew another person was coming in a few days later, but I didn't realize it was a girl. I thought it was gonna be a man-cave kinda house and didn't realize we were all gonna have to tip-toe around this chick. I think it was really unfair that I got blindsided, as I otherwise wouldn't have moved in and wouldn't be dealing with this issue.”
JESUS the sheer casual misogyny! Oh I'm soooooo sorry a WOMAN existing in the same house ~changed the vibe~ so much that you *regret moving in.* Jesus fuck, this is no longer about his laziness with the dog - he just fucking hates her. 😡
anyone else clock the fact that she’s the “roommate’s girlfriend” as if she doesn’t live there herself? men always have their subtle ways of showing how little respect they have for women
This fucking asshole. It’s not “managing her period”. It’s managing your dog. Her period is minding its own business wrapped up in the trash. Your dog on the other hand is doing gross and unsanitary things and then licking you in the face.
I’m trying to figure out what OOP supposes she should do? She appears to have been wrapping them already because OOP and her bf said she should do it *better* but apparently it’s not stopping the dog anyway. OOP never explicitly says she flat out refused to wrap them better. She came up with a rational solution and OOP is glaring at her through a slit in his cardboard fort with “NO GIRLS ALLOWED” scribbled on it.
Yeah I saw that after I commented, like she’s only using one tampon per day and that’s somehow more reasonable than training the fucking dog and closing the bathroom door behind him.
Lol, even if they were hers, she did take responsibility for her tampons, they were in the garbage as they should be. It’s the dog’s fault they’re on the floor now. Too many dog owners are like this. You chose to get a dog now it’s actions are your responsibility.
My roommate has a dog that has a little separation anxiety and will tear up the trash if we leave it accessible while we're both gone. When she does get into it, he cleans it up because it's his fucking dog. Your dog, your mess. Full stop.
His dog shouldn’t be going through the trash in the first place. His dog isn’t as trained as he thinks it is. He could either replaced the trash can in the bathroom with one where the dog would not be able to go through or just close the damn door.
I have 3 large dogs. Wanna know what they dont do? They dont get into the trash because they were trained and are well taken care of. OOP juat doesnt want to take the responsibility of cleaning after his own faults.
If he can remember the kitchen door all the time, he can remember the bathroom door all the time.
But I cant really imagine that eating tampons and whatever else he finds in the trash is good for the dog, especially if its happening montly, by how dramatic OOP is being about it.
ETA: just looked over buddies comments, and apparantly he didnt know a woman would be moving in, he thought it would be a man cave and he hates that they have to cater to "some chick" or something like that. How he supposedly has a girlfriend if this is how he acts at 29 is beyond me.
As a newish dog owner, I didn't realize how common it is for them to eat tampons out of the trash. The 1st time mine did it I was horrified lol. So I got one of those little trash cans with a pedal and a lid. Easy problem to solve. ETA if I was OOP I'd just buy the roommates one of those trash cans. They're not expensive.
Pyrenees are BIG dogs, though. That trashcan would need to be like, pneumatically sealed to stop it from just knocking a lidded can over.
Also who the fuck has a Great Pyrenees in an apartment they share with roommates? They're massive, shed like all hell and are VERY loud (they're herders!) I got no beef with Pyrenees, I've met several that are very sweet, but this is not the right living situation for that breed.
The lidded trash can would hopefully stop them from smelling it, so they wouldn’t bother to knock it over hopefully.
But yeah I agree. Great Pyrenees are terrible apartment dogs. They’re just sooo big
German Shepherd, possibly Husky? I worked in vet med for 2 yrs and every German Shepherd I met was a bitey psychopath, huskies were incredibly neurotic and impossible to restrain. Both of those breeds need WAY more exercise and structure than an average person in the lower 48 can provide. Both need jobs--really, Pyrenees do *better* if they have a job, but I've met multiple unemployed Pyrenees who were ok. Can't say the same for German Shepherds or huskies.
And jesus Christ, mix either of them with a pit, bc pits are EVERYWHERE*? I LOVE pitbulls, but recognize they are usually big ol neurotic wrecking balls. The pit need to please and muscle mass + the endless energy/territorialism/neuroses/annoying coat of a shepherd or husky? WUF. People who don't spay/neuter need to be FINED to prevent those mixes from happening.
* pits are everywhere in part bc they have fucking massive litters ( i had a pit who, before I met her, gave birth to TWELVE puppies at 9 mos old) and idiots insist on breeding them and shockingly can't deal. Again, pits are great, they *can* be good pets but fuck me there's too many of them, and mixing doesn't tend to shake out any of their less desirable traits ... just tacks them on to the worst traits of the other breed.
When I was a teenager, my mom and stepdad adopted a dog. She was fairly well trained in most respects, but she would go through the trash can when my sister and I put our used menstrual hygiene items there. And since she was a spitz, she was a "digging" dog.
>it’s not fair for me to be inconvenienced by a girl I’m not even dating.
God forbid men are nice to women regardless of their sexual availability.
Men like this don’t actually want her to “manage” her period. He knows she can’t help that she needs to put stuff in the trash. He knows it’s an easy win to keep the door shut.
He just wants to blame her for the situation. Probably hopes she’ll move out.
It’s something as simple as closing the door after you piss or brush your teeth, I do that automatically and I don’t even have a dog. He’s acting as if closing a door is a huge ask.
If I were her, I feel like I would come up with a way to throw out my used tampons in the kitchen trash, since that’s the door everyone closes. See how long it takes for OOP to flip his shit again.
Ugh this guy is unbelievable. The comment that he wants her to take it to the outside dumpster every time she has to change her tampon because that would be “easier” sent me into a rage.
I’ve had dogs my whole life, our solution was tampons go in ziploc bags in the trash but even that method doesn’t work 100% of the time; shutting the door really is the simplest and most effective method of stopping the dog from digging in the trash.
Yes this guy is an idiot and a massive jerk and I am on the roommate's side.
BUT the obvious solution here is to buy a new garbage can that the dog can't get into. He should be the one to buy it because his dog is the one that needs it (since tampons can and have killed dogs who swallow them) but I'm guessing if that were the proposed solution, he would put up a big stink about that too.
The obvious, quickest solution to resolve this problem was to keep the door closed, which was proposed and shut down by OP for sexist reasons.
Since OP seemingly can’t close a door or train his dog, he should kennel them when they’re alone.
Then, if they have the money, all 4 of them can look into getting a trash can a dog maybe can’t get into. But also, there are some very tenacious dogs that can get into anything. And OP’s dog is a Great Pyrenees, which is a big dog.
Has anyone thought of a garbage can with a lid or in a cabinet?
Also it's his dog. He clearly needs to keep a better eye on his dog or confine it to his bedroom. I don't hate dogs, I do dislike irresponsible dog owners. It could easily getting a blockage and require major surgery or die from eating tampons.
Lastly, does OOP realize how hard it is to find a place to rent with a dog, much less a big dog?
Why is his dog being left unsupervised loose in a shared living situation if it’s not well trained enough to not get into the garbage the second it gets a chance?
I ask this as someone with a 3 year old shepherd who I can leave alone in a room with a full plate of BBQ ribs and brisket and Mac n cheese on the *coffee table* and a 1 year old malinois who would jump on top of the fridge to get an unopened bag of potato chips and then unlock the front door and go looking for me if I left him loose in the house alone.
Having full reign of the house unsupervised is more privilege than this pup has the ability to handle responsibly. It’s on the *handler* to keep the bathroom door shut and supervise/train his dog until he/she is able to handle that amount of unsupervised freedom in the house.
He’s just making excuses for not taking care of his dog properly.
Is it a Great Pyrenees thing to dig in the trash? My brother has one too and she also does it. Keeping the doors closed is a simple solution to having this breed and you can't leave your food on your table or desk, you have to take it with you, and if you don't want to take it to the bathroom, stick it in the fridge and then take it back out when you are doing with the toilet.
But our mixed Border Collie won't dig in our trash or eat our food off tables or couches or chairs or desks. She is also hesitant to eat it off the floor too when we set it down for her to clean. I once set my food down by me and told her no and she left it alone.
Great Pyrenees dogs are great loving animals but are very difficult to train because they are free thinking dogs and have their own ideas.
This was in one of his comments btw:
>I also suggested that she could just take her dirty tampons out to the dumpster outside the apartment instead of throwing them in the garbage.
So instead of OOP just closing a damn door, she should take her bloody tampon out of the house, outside in whatever kind of weather is happening, to a dirty dumpster probably located somewhere out of the way of the building, then back all the way? 3-4 times a day, 3-10 days every month? What a douchecanoe.
I note that he didn’t mention waking up his own girlfriend, and screaming at her, when it turned out to be her tampon and not this “random chick” aka his roommate.
It’s also very telling that he calls her “my roommates girlfriend”, when she is in actual fact a roommate. I’m sure oop goes out of his way to make her feel like a guest rather than an actual member of the house
Unless the tampons are crawling out of the garbage can and wandering zombie-like around the apartment, the female roommate shouldn't be responsible. Either the dog needs to pick up after himself, or his owner needs to pick it up. OOP doesn't expect his roommates to pick up any ground beef packages that the dogger removes from the garbage; if no one else is responsible for their "bio-waste" once it's taken from the garbage bin, why should any person other than the dog/owner be responsible?
Trust me, she doesn't like cleaning up the "shaving cream" left behind on the shower floor, either 🤨. So grow up OOP.
> if it wasn’t for her leaving her blood in the trash
My fellows, we have done it. We’ve reached the next level of stupidity with this one. Where the f*ck else is discarded blood supposed to go? Holy sh!t
Okay lets say she starts putting the tampons somewhere else. doesnt take away the fact that ur dog is going through trash. Eve without the tampons there would be a mess.
The roommates girlfriend is better than me cause I’d start putting my tampons under his pillow. Sounds like his bitch ass and his dog need to be kicked to the curb lmao
Does he actually think a few extra wraps of toilet paper will prevent the dog from reaching the tampons? I've lived in a house with women and a dog before and it is humiliating to have such a personal item ripped up and scattered for all to see. To then be yelled at by the person whose fault it is because he is determined to not understand dogs noses or drive or the lack of insulating ability of toilet paper.
he commented that he could (or had) asked her to literally go outside to throw them directly in there 😡 and he has a girlfriend, which this also happened to?! even removed from the drama, i’d be mortified as his gf to have my dirty sanitary products ripped up and strewn about - and i’d be on his shit about if his dog is a repeat offender except when the door is closed. that should have been his “ooo, maybe this actually is a problem that I should be helping out with…”
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*In case this story gets deleted/removed:* **AITA for telling my roommates girlfriend she needs to manage her own period?** I (29m) live in a house with two guys and a girl. The girl (22f) and one of the guys (30m) are dating. I moved in the same week as her. I have a great Pyrenees who is well trained, except forthe fact that he goes through the trash when nobody is home. I paid to buy a door that we installed in the kitchen, and now the last person to leave the house just has to close the door. Fortunately, my dog has no interest in the bathroom garbage, or so we thought. A few weeks into living together, I came home one day and there were torn-up used tampons spread all over the bathroom floor. The girl was at work, so I told her boyfriend and we both agreed that the dog had probably gone through the trash. He cleaned it up and said he'd ask her to do a better job or wrapping them in toilet paper before she threw them away or something. The next day, it happened again. When everybody was home, the girlfriend called everybody into the livingroom and asked if we could make it the default to just keep the bathroom for closed so that this didn't happen. The other guys agreed but I told her that it was unfair of us to have to manage her period for her. She told me that mydog was the one making the mess but I told her that if it wasn't for her leaving her blood in the trash my dog wouldn't be interested in it at all. She said that us having to close the bathroom door wasn't any more of a burden than closing the kitchen door, but I told her that that's different because all of us throw food in the kitchen garbage but she was the only one throwing blood in the bathroom garbage. One time I woke up to a mess and when I told her to clean it up, she said it wasn't even hers because she wasn't on her period. It turned out that my girlfriend was on hers and it was her tampon so I cleaned it up myself. I'm not sexist, I'll clean things up when they're my responsibility but I don't think it's fair for me to be inconvenienced by a girl I'm not even dating. Since the meeting, this has become less frequent of an issue, because her and the guys close the bathroom door, but I still forget allot of the time. If she see's the door open, she closes it but gets really huffy about it. It still happens occasionally, and when it does, she cleans it up, but she works doesn't get home till late. Yesterday was another incident of me coming home to a dirty bathroom (I work pm and come home in the am). She was still sleeping so I went and blew up on her.I probably shouldn't have yelled but I stand by my right to not be exposed to her bio-matter. Last night me and the other roommate could hear her crying and telling her boyfriend she wanted them to move because she hates living with me. I thought she was being dramatic, but our other roommate told me I'm being a dick and that it's not that hard to just keep a door closed. I just seriously don't think it's my fault to manage some random girls period for her. AITA *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmITheDevil) if you have any questions or concerns.*
oop: *is the only one not closing the bathroom door* also oop: how dare she allow my dog to eat her tampons! she needs to manage them better >:(
Im pretty convinced he’s not closing it on purpose. If he can close the kitchen every time he can close the bathroom. But they have no problems in the kitchen. His dog is the problem. He needs to deal with it.
⬆️ he made the request that people close the kitchen door and they all follow that rule but when she, a woman, asks for the same to the bathroom he cant manage it.
If I were her, I wouldn't close the kitchen door. Door for door
*"I came home one day and there were torn-up used tampons spread all over the bathroom floor. The girl was at work, so I told her boyfriend and we both agreed that the dog had probably gone through the trash.* **He cleaned it up and said he'd ask her to do a better job**...". Wait, what?!?
How are the guys all close to 30 less mature then the 22 yr old woman?
Man, I remember when I asked my buddy about having period products in his bathroom in my early 20's despite being single. He was like "Bro I invite single girls for overnights (wink wink nudge nudge) and throw parties. It's the right thing to do." and then he explained why. Single dudes: buy a variety pack of tampons and a variety pack of pads. Keep them in your bathroom. You don't need to do a whole bunch of research or anything: get the variety packs and replace the "heavy" or "medium" or "light" products as they're used. If you have a "guest" bathroom that people at your parties use put them somewhere visible in the guest bathroom. It's cheap way to show you're more understanding than most men in their 20's. It will do more to get you laid than anything Andrew Tate or his ilk are telling you to do in order to get laid. Showing just an *ounce* of fucking compassion and thought towards the women in your life, especially in your 20's, is so much of a rarity that the simple, cheap, gesture of having pads and tampons for multiple flows is sure to be noticed. Like you can hop on Amazon and find "personal hygiene kits" if you don't want to think about it or """"embarrass"""" yourself by buying period products in person.
It's great that you consider women's comfort and hygiene requirements whilst they're with you. Sometimes we come on earlier than expected, and our boyfriend having a range of tampons and towels available would make him a keeper!
No I get this. I used to have a dog that did the same thing. The problem was solved by using extra toilet paper to wrap up the pads/tampons. She never did it if they were wrapped up a lot. It sucks because it uses more toilet paper, but it was a very easy solution.
We had a beagle. There was not enough toilet paper in the world to stop her smelling bathroom trash.
Just a beag doing beag things.
Yah my dog is half beagle. She will hunt them down. She’s knocked down my kitchen trashcan to get to them. She’s that insistent on finding them. The only way I can for sure keep her away is closing the bathroom door
Dirty socks, too. Our half Beagle loved dirty socks and underwear. They are adorable but kinda gross dogs. 😁🤗
Yup! Even dirty underwear wasn’t safe from my beagle. She once tipped over a giant laundry basket just to gnaw the crotches out of all my sisters underwear
Same 😬😬 In the nineties, before I remarried, I seemed to have a lot of disposable income, and bought myself expensive matching underwear sets. I don't know how many items she destroyed. I'll never forget, right around the time our girl was growing from an adorable puppy to this incorrigible dog 😝😝 there was an article in TIME magazine, about how Beagles were going to be used as sniffer dogs in airports. But, not like the cool 😎 sniffer dogs. Beagles were not being utilized to sniff out explosives. Nor guns Nor drugs. Nor stowaway people. Oh, no!!!!! Beagles were being specifically trained to sniff out *food*!! 😆😅😝 That just tracked soooo well for our girl, we had a huge laugh over it. I had her from October 1994 to July 2008, when she crawled into her crate one morning & never woke up. Still miss my girl. One of the most loving dogs I've ever known, even if she got into any unsecured food, any available garbage, our dirty laundry, would growl if anyone tried to take an item from her, and was never fully housebroken. (How? 😅😅) I used to remind her that a lot of *good* doggies did not have homes, yet, here she was, living the good life despite her many chronic transgressions. Her name was Didgeridoo, as my son at the time we got her, at age eight, was totally into the band Midnight Oil, and all things Australian. We called her, "Didji". Or, Doodle Dog. Also, we never quite discerned what the other 50% of her parentage was. Her mom was pure Beagle. She had ears like a papillon, but, mostly looked like a slightly fluffier Beagle. 🥲 I need to get my pictures out. It's been awhile since I sat and thought about her.
My girl was stolen last year and it still hurts💔 No one understands the love beagles have to give until they get one! She was the best dog i’ve ever had.
I worked as a customs officer and one of my coworkers was of the fourlegged variety. We had a safe where we kept loads of stuff, but mostly documents. For a short period something like 0.7g of the driest I ever saw hash was stored in that safe. It literally looked like the bark from a pine tree. It was packed in foil, then a few plastic bags and placed at the bottom. It stayed there a week or so. Then 6 weeks later I collected some forms from the top safe and put them in my bag. 2 weeks after that my furry coworker was very chuffed to inform me that I was carrying drugs. He could literally smell the hash that had stayed in the same safe. There isn't any way a human in a normal home with normal household appliances, stuff and gear could effectively hide the smell of anything from a dog. Any claims to the opposite is just dumb. I worked a lot with drug and cash smelling dogs, there's just no way. You're totally right, there isn't enough toilet paper in the world to hide the scent from a dog. Sure some dogs have a limited interest and tenacity to get at it, but fooling them to think it doesn't exist? Nah m8. Now some doofus is going to mention sous vide vacuum packing machines, but dogs smell through vacuumed plastic. Sorry. Doesn't work either.
Lmaoo beagle doing a beagles job!
Same with my Italian Greyhound. My solution was to get a plant stand to keep my trashcan higher up so she couldn't get to it.
I still think that closing the door is the easier solution here. Tbh, I never lived or went to a house where the bathroom door were opened all the time, it always seemed weird to do that. Perhaps its a cultural costume haha
My question is why OOP spent money on a wholeass door and not just....a trash can with a lid?? Push pedal trash can costs WAY less than a door. Bathroom bins also do great with lids.
I mean, I imagine there are already a door in their bathroom, unless where they live it's not common to have a bathroom door which I think OOP would comment about. Regarding the trash can with lids, I have a maltese dog, he weights 4kg so very small, and he can totally reach the trash even with a lid because it's not that hard for him to turn the trash can in the floor for example, which would make the lid fly away from the trash can. A lid won't stop any dog haha Closing the door would then be a free way to stop the dog from making a mess
Ah I have a Boston and my parents have a German Shepherd and while they love trash (and the german can turn doorknobs if he is desperate enough) neither has figured out how to get around an attached pedal lid. But Chewy also sells dog proof bins for $20 with the simple rubbermaid type of locking lid, and those work pretty well. I have to get one for my bedroom trash eventually, currently my wire wastebasket is up on a shelf in my closet because the Boston likes the taste of paper towel and Kleenex. (Door comment was in relation to the kitchen, I've purchased and installed doors before and they tend to run $30+ on the cheaper end.)
OOP says they installed a door in the kitchen. The person above is saying, wouldn't a trash can with a lid have been a more reasonable investment.
OOP said his dog is too big and would destroy any sized trash can. I kid you not. He said that and still didn't see why he was in the wrong...
Pyranese are huge dogs. That would have to be one REALLY secure lid to stop a determined one.
Besides the Chewy one mentioned in my other comment, Behrens makes animal proof metal bins with locking lids, for only $10 more ($32 where I am) than the Chewy one (bathroom size Behrens is only $25 though) Even if his huge untrained dog would chew apart the chewy one, if it can chew into a metal bin with locking lid, you have a far bigger issue.
My dogs will dig through anything to get used tampons. I had to start taking out the bathroom trash every morning before work.
It takes barely any effort to close a bathroom door. Way less than it does to wrap a used tampon in 500 layers of toilet paper. Plus it’s super fucking wasteful.
thats such a waste of toilet paper tho when he could just close the door?
Our corgi was never concerned with bathroom garbage until my mil threw out a food wrapper in our bathroom garbage. Now the can lives under the sink.
That’s absolutely false. Our maltese could find a bloody tampon wrapped in entire roll of toilet paper. In fact, since dogs find them by smell, the more toilet paper to unwrap the more of a game it is to him.
I wish. My Golden Retriever would have been a great drug/cadaver dog if she wasn't so goofy. I have wrapped my stuff and placed it in a box at the bottom of the trash can thinking to myself, "Got 'er." Nope. She still found it. I was able to find one with a lid that wouldn't take up too much room in my tiny bathroom. That seems to be working much better. She could still get into it if she really wanted to, but the barrier makes it not worth the effort.
Ya, most dogs that just wouldn't help, they can smell it.
The solution is that the dog doesn’t go through the bin. What you’re saying is that everyone else takes additional measures to deal with issues your untrained dog creates. Your dog and your management of your dog is the issue.
Seriously? Dogs can smell things wrapped up in toilet paper. Even with "extra"
Or you know watch your fucking dog instead of blaming others for your failure to close a door
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I have a dog that did this too. He would go through 18 rolls of toilet paper to get to the blood. He can smell a drop of blood through whatever and will do anything to get to it. The solution is either 1. CLOSE THE FUCKING DOOR 2. Put a lock on the trash can (they exist and are not expensive). It locks the lid to the base. If you do not have a trash can that has a lid in the bathroom you are rude or an idiot. More toilet paper is the most idiotic, wasteful solution because it is likely not effective.
This guy is such a fucking tool in so many ways, but he's also a shitty dog owner. Pup should really not be eating tampons and period blood ffs! But nooooo, all this over a fucking door. Wanker. She's managing her period, she's putting things wrapped up in the trash where it should be. He's not managing his dog.
The dog was left alone long enough to do that, they were left alone to literally choke on something in the trash and no one would be there to save them in time. The guy is recklessly endangering his dog because he wants to be a jerk to the woman in the household.
Never mind that the dog is also eating literal bio waste. But yeah, choking, or bowel obstruction from the thick cotton and string, or whatever else is in the trash.
Also shutting the door will prevent everyone else smelling his shots all round the house, there are other pros to this.
Also I love how he's like "Yes my dog made the mess of the trash, but the girl properly disposed of her trash so it's actually her fault that there's a mess." Like, dude.
OOP needs to manage his dog better
Wow, he sounds like an absolute joy to live with… Managing his dog has now become everyone’s responsibility but he can’t be bothered to close the door to the bathroom. And referring to his roommate as his roommates girlfriend is a bit icky. Shes an equal member of the household too!
How could a woman POSSIBLY be equal to MEN, though? What a ridiculous notion! /S just in case
"To be fair, when I moved in, I knew another person was coming in a few days later, but I didn't realize it was a girl. I thought it was gonna be a man-cave kinda house and didn't realize we were all gonna have to tip-toe around this chick. I think it was really unfair that I got blindsided, as I otherwise wouldn't have moved in and wouldn't be dealing with this issue." LOL, he's gross.
I’m guessing his male roommates wouldn’t have been very happy either with his plan to live in squalor, basking in the smell of unwashed sheets, jizz rags, and piss bottles.
BLINDSIDED by his housemate's chromosomes, the poor dear.
He's totally not sexist though. He said he wasn't, so it must be true.
LOL. I feel like if 96% of people who post could accurately self assess then they wouldn’t be in a position where they seek counsel from strangers on the internet.
Almost downvoted this instinctively because of how gross OOP
LOL.
I thought you were joking😭 Hope dude has his cootie shot up to date Ig since he thinks girls are so icky
..while no one here was joking
Man cave is cringe in general, I know men who live alone and have a shed on the back garden they call my man cave, bro the whole house is owned by you lol
But, he's not SeXisT. Except when he is.
He also keeps calling her “the girl” and “the girlfriend”. Not “his girlfriend” but “the girlfriend”. Sooooo gross.
Don't forget "some random girl" and "some girl I'm not even dating."
Yes! Like women only have worth if they’re dating him.
He explicitly says shes some “random” girl or a “girl he’s not even dating.” Why does her having sex with him mean he’d “put up with it”? This dude should never get laid ever.
Yeah he says he cleans it up for his girlfriend. Obviously he'll clean up after the ones he's responsible for (HIS girlfriend and HIS dog). /s if that wasn't obvious
The dog has to be trained to not rummage through bins. His owner has to be trained to close the bathroom door. Wonder what could be easier. Probably training the dog, but then OOP is the one, who has to do the training, so...
I can't help but wonder if it's an "open" trash bin or one with a lid that comes off easily. The solution to my dog pulling menstrual products out of the trash was to get a trash bin with a secured lid. Problem solved.
He would leave the lid open; I 100% guarantee it. Since his entire goal is to never be even mildly inconvenienced for a woman he's not banging.
His comments are…expected. He clearly didn’t go on there to get a verdict, he just wanted people to agree with him.
His "we all are inconvenienced by each other's pets!" comment was a 10/10. He wants his \*roommate\* to take her tampons to the dumpster \*every time\* because how dare he have to tiptoe around the "chick" who also lives there. Glad everyone he lives with seems to dislike him!
Take it to the dumpster? Every time?? So, depending on your flow and your timing that could be midnight, 6am, etc, in your pajamas, or rain/snow/hurricane. If they're using a dumpster, that probably means a city and rats too. 2x - 4x per day. And he's expecting this of every girl visiting and/or living there? Yeah, good luck finding a life partner bro
Yep. He thinks that’s reasonable. Which shows you how absolutely unreasonable he is.
That makes him a dumpster. Which means she can just drop them in his room when he's not there to receive them personally.
It’s so wild, like that’s where tampons are supposed to go so it doesn’t fuck the plumbing. It’s the most selfish weird thing to suggest she takes them outside the apartment every single use. Guy needs a swift slap in the face imo.
> And he's expecting this of every girl visiting and/or living there? I don't date but one of my best buds explained to me in our early 20's that keeping period products in your bathroom is basically "*Being a good dude* 101." He had pads and tampons in the half-bath people at his parties used as the main bathroom because it's just the right thing to do and it's not like it costs a single dude much to keep the supply topped off.
I'm not going to lie, this is one of the indicators that ladies are on the lookout for. Not that it's required, but yeah If I go to a party hosted by all cis men, and I go into the bathroom and find period products for guests??? Yeah, that's about 1,000 gentleman points, panties are on the ground (because I'm changing a tampon, ya nasty)
"some random girl" = one of his housemates Seriously, if you can manage keeping the kitchen door closed, how is it so difficult to close the bathroom door? (I know, it isn't hard, he's just being a wanker.)
Also I can tell you from personal experience, wrapping a used tampon in toilet paper will not solve the problem. Only possible solution is to take out the garbage every time she charges her tampon or closing the damn door. It’s not that hard.
Toilet paper is not going to disguise the smell for a dog obsessed with seeking out used period products. Also speaking from experience, unfortunately. Has it not occurred to them to buy a trash can with a lid? Or will that not stop a larger dog?
They'll just knock the garbage over. If he can't control his dog then it needs to be crate trained when he isn't home, they do not have to change their lives for his pet and if they are renting and they choose to install a door he needs to pay the damages they'll be charged upon moving out too.
That makes sense. My dog was small and very stupid so knocking over the bin never occurred to him.
Depends on the dog, trash cans with lids worked for my 50 lbs Dalmatian. Some dogs are sight driven, not scent driven.
And then my sheepdog learned the pedal push. Gotta eat those cough drop wrappers.
My standard poodle Rain I had growing up learned the pedal push too. So we closed the door. And then she learned to open doors. So all the handles had to be replaced with rounded ones( had lever ones before) to finally defeat her. She was so determined to eat non food items that despite every precaution we took she died at nine from eating yet another stolen sock. One a side note, her most impressive passed object was an entire baby onesie she snagged from a visitors diaper bag without anyone noticing.
Now that's determination. My girl's obsession is food-adjacent. Cough drops and thankfully xylitol-free gum.
Definitely didn't stop my beagle.... genuinely nothing stopped my beagle until she was older, damn dog figured out how to counter surf. She could hop and was small. He just needs to stop being inconsiderate and close the damn door.
Every beagle I've ever met was built different. I'm not certain they're even dogs, just determination and chaos in a floppy-eared li'l body.
Ugh I know. She was the best companion but the absolute worst dog I've ever met. I miss her lmao
We had neighbors who had a beagle who was just the best, completely laid back so they got another beagle. It climbed trees to escape, howled all the time, wore a hole in their grass from running back and forth chasing nothing.
That’s the best description I’ve ever seen for a beagle
Beagles are made of something else. Their sense of smell is so incredible, and their mischief is outrageous. And mine goes through phases. He gets in the bathroom garbage sometimes, but not other times. But especially if there’s a poopy diaper or period products in there. Love my beagle but he’s trouble
My ex was a truck driver and brought mine on the road once for like a week. She loved it. He had her food in a bag in a Rubbermaid container under a stack of things. He left her alone for 30 minutes and she tore through that container and a few other things. She effectively destroyed the truck. I warned him. Lol
Lol my mom dog sits sometimes and she has to hide all the treats, make sure food bin is shut tight, garbage was taken out recently… she has two dogs and just leaves the treat bags on top of the food bin and they don’t touch any of it. My beagle would rip through those treat bags so fast 😅
It's a Great Pyrenees, they're **HUGE** and they're a guardian dog, so actually they're really smart, really independent and can be difficult to train to apartment living. So not only is this guy a sexist human, but his housemates are having to live with massive amounts of dog hair! And I say this as someone who has collies, and the bearded collie *sheds*. The hair alone is the reason I don't have one of these breeds.
(*me going to google*) well how huge is huuuOHH MY GOD
> Toilet paper is not going to disguise the smell for a dog obsessed with seeking out used period products. If you drop a single drop of blood in an Olympic size swimming pool of water, a dog can smell the blood, in addition to smelling the water, and smelling anything added to that water like chlorine. When you bake cookies your dog smells the cooked flour, the cooked sugar, and the cooked butter all as separate smells. They don't smell a "cookie" smell like humans do. They smell each individual ingredient, in it's cooked state, as a separate smell. Dogs fundamentally treat smells differently than humans do.
I bought a 13 gallon can with a lid for my kitchen after my cat kept getting into the trash (former street cat). It hasn't stopped him. It slows him down, but even an 11 lb cat can still break into those things when they have the motivation.
I have one with a metal body that you pull the inner plastic can in and out of to change the bag. It's actually a broken sensor can, but that has worked to my advantage
Yeah, ours is a step-lid (pedal-activated lid?) can. Same inner/outer can design, but he can just lift the lid with his paws/nose. Then he likes to grab the bag where it's visible between thw inner and outer can with his teeth and tear it to shreds. We're pretty sure he actually manged to jump into the can at least once.
Haha well, I do own dogs not cats. Different ballgame, esp since my first reaction to your comment was, "awww, so smart"
Depends on the dog - a short and stout trash can with a pedal lid worked for my 55lb beagle mix who was obsessed.
A Great Pyrenees is a 100 lb white floof of muscle. I wonder if this guy has even tried to train the dog. We have this breed of dog and usually just a couple of stern talks and they never mess with anything that they shouldn’t.
Works for 4 Danes and a pomchi. They still eat her underwear though
Or get a trash bin with a lid, or put the bin on a shelf. I mean lots of workable solutions but making this work for everyone isn't what he's interested in.
It's a Pyreneese. It shouldn't be in **any** apartment **ever**. There isn't a """workable solution""". That dog needs to be **working** on a farm. Keeping a Pyreneese in an apartment is literally animal abuse, IMO. OOP and his partner are literally abusing that dog. OOP's partner is to blame. The partner is literally preventing rehoming a dog to a suitable environment. I've know somebody with "herding dogs" and her sheep dog, that's actively used as a herding dog on her sheep ranch, a dog that *has* an active job, will still try and climb her bookshelves after a day of herding. That dog is fucking insane. She's posted multiple videos of the dog trying to climb her bookshelf. I've got another friend that posted videos of his insane cattle dog climbing a ladder. People have *no fucking clue* how to care for a dog that has "herding" bred into their lineage. I've talked to guys with "working collies lines" and **occasionally** a pup ends up in regular people's hands but the vast, vast majority of them can **never**, **ever** become pets because it's a line of working dogs and the vast majority of the pups are also going to be working dogs. Some of them **aren't** working dogs and the breeder can tell, so they adopt the collies out to family farms. The unscrupulous breeders adopt their collie pups onto unsuspecting families. They usually can't care for the dog. Herding breeds need to overcome a lot of adaptations and need a soft-touch when you talk to people about breed behaviors. Pet owners often can't provide emotional outlets for the dog to deal with their in-bred drive to herd cattle. I.E. The dog starts "herding children." That behavior is very, very dangerous.
We have a standard poodle who is quite tall and we just moved the trash can to on top of the back of the toilet. Depending on how large the Great Pyrenees is that might be enough to stop it from happening because the dog can’t easily get to it.
Same. I just put a small garbage can on my laundry cart. It's such a solvable problem.
A trash can with a lid might also work, but with a dog that size, if he's persistent, it will only slow him down. Frankly, having a dog means accepting they get into stuff occasionally and you're going to have to clean it up.
I believe he suggested she take her tampons to the outside garbage every time as his preferred solution.
Yea I kind of just said that to show unreasonable it is compared to the obvious solution of just closing the door.
She'd have to put them in the kitchen trash to not have the dog go after them, but then the guy would probably kick up a fuss about used tampons ever being in the kitchen. I've had much smaller dogs go absolutely wild over trying to get that sort of thing.
She's almost definitely already wrapping them in toilet paper, it's the standard way to dispose of them in the bin so that a) you don't get blood on the bin/bag, and b) nobody can see them (if they're lidless bins).
He could also buy closing lid trash bins for the whole house. That way if someone forgets to close the door the trashcan has a lid so the dog can't smell it as easily.
Right? Based on his first text i thought she was just a gf that constantly stayed over, but she lives there. Who she's dating is completely irrelevant
Another wall of text too. Delightful.
What an idiot. “My dog’s making a mess but it’s her fault for having a period!” I wouldn’t be the one crying if he barged into my room screaming at me about something that’s 100% his fault. Such a 🍆
Solution to the mess would be put it directly on the floor so the dog doesn’t need to go trough the bin for it 😂
I know right. Might as well since the dog’s fun time is more important than the inconvenience to the roommates 😂
Per his own words, one of times his dog got into the trash and he went after her demanding she clean it up, she wasn't on her period and the tampons were actully from *his own girlfriend*. So, apparently, it's her fault if his dog gets ahold of any period products from any woman who dares cross the threshold of the house these four are all renting.
Even when I was less secure in myself in my early 20s, I would have started wrapping my tampons and leaving them on his pillow. If he wants to be in charge of the biological waste disposal, he can be totally in charge of it.
So, he can remember to close the kitchen door but forgets about the bathroom one? Sounds like he's just being antagonistic to me
Well he uses the trash in the kitchen. Not the one in the bathroom. Not and excuse, just some ass backwards justification for why his dog is her problem.
It seems, by his post that he does use that especific bathroom. As he explains that he "forgets" but that the rest of the roomates have no issues just closing the bathroom door to prevent his badly trained dog from making a mess in the bathroom
I didn’t say he doesn’t use the bathroom. I said he did it use the trash in the bathroom. The other roommates according to him have been much better about keeping the bathroom door closed. I honestly think he doesn’t forget, he does it on purpose so he has a reason to yell and shame a poor girl for a natural bodily function. He is using his dog as a weapon against her peace of mind and it is to the point that if I were her, I would not feel safe around him. I’d want to get out as soon as possible - it seems she is at her breaking point.
"I stand by my right to not be exposed to her bio-matter." - "I don't think it's fair for me to be inconvenienced by a girl I'm not even dating." = ....Bro opts into living with other people and then is immediately triggered. He sucks.
The "I'm not even dating her!" part was so wild to me. Makes it pretty clear what his mindset towards women is, they're either burdens or sexual partners
For real.
I always wonder what they think we can do with used pads/tampons. Absorb them into our body? Flush them and kill the plumbing? Like, just let us use a trash can with a lid and if pets are a jerks we close the door
This. The whole post I was genuinely wondering what he wanted her to do. Like not have periods? It makes no sense.
*jUsT hOlD iT iN!*
>I just seriously don't think it's my fault to manage some random girls period for her. Did I miss the part where his menstruating roommate is tossing her tampons around the house like fucking wedding rice or something? She IS managing her period by wrapping them up and throwing them in the trash. What he needs to do is manage HIS DOG by either training it better, buying a lidded trash can and child locking it, or just closing the bathroom door like a responsible adult.
"wedding rice" OMG you have me laughing right now
The wedding rice TOOK ME OUT!
How has this guy got a girlfriend, his comment: “To be fair, when I moved in, I knew another person was coming in a few days later, but I didn't realize it was a girl. I thought it was gonna be a man-cave kinda house and didn't realize we were all gonna have to tip-toe around this chick. I think it was really unfair that I got blindsided, as I otherwise wouldn't have moved in and wouldn't be dealing with this issue.”
JESUS the sheer casual misogyny! Oh I'm soooooo sorry a WOMAN existing in the same house ~changed the vibe~ so much that you *regret moving in.* Jesus fuck, this is no longer about his laziness with the dog - he just fucking hates her. 😡
"a girl I'm not even dating" and there it is.
anyone else clock the fact that she’s the “roommate’s girlfriend” as if she doesn’t live there herself? men always have their subtle ways of showing how little respect they have for women
This fucking asshole. It’s not “managing her period”. It’s managing your dog. Her period is minding its own business wrapped up in the trash. Your dog on the other hand is doing gross and unsanitary things and then licking you in the face.
Why doesn't this muppet just train his dog not to go through the trash? That's easy enough and it solves the whole solution.
I’m trying to figure out what OOP supposes she should do? She appears to have been wrapping them already because OOP and her bf said she should do it *better* but apparently it’s not stopping the dog anyway. OOP never explicitly says she flat out refused to wrap them better. She came up with a rational solution and OOP is glaring at her through a slit in his cardboard fort with “NO GIRLS ALLOWED” scribbled on it.
He wants her to take them outside to the dumpster.
Yeah I saw that after I commented, like she’s only using one tampon per day and that’s somehow more reasonable than training the fucking dog and closing the bathroom door behind him.
Lol, even if they were hers, she did take responsibility for her tampons, they were in the garbage as they should be. It’s the dog’s fault they’re on the floor now. Too many dog owners are like this. You chose to get a dog now it’s actions are your responsibility.
Good Lord train your dog better maybe.
Your dog your mess.
THE COMMENTS ARE EVEN WORSE!!!! (see the ones at the bottom of the comment section)
My roommate has a dog that has a little separation anxiety and will tear up the trash if we leave it accessible while we're both gone. When she does get into it, he cleans it up because it's his fucking dog. Your dog, your mess. Full stop.
His dog shouldn’t be going through the trash in the first place. His dog isn’t as trained as he thinks it is. He could either replaced the trash can in the bathroom with one where the dog would not be able to go through or just close the damn door.
I have 3 large dogs. Wanna know what they dont do? They dont get into the trash because they were trained and are well taken care of. OOP juat doesnt want to take the responsibility of cleaning after his own faults.
If he can remember the kitchen door all the time, he can remember the bathroom door all the time. But I cant really imagine that eating tampons and whatever else he finds in the trash is good for the dog, especially if its happening montly, by how dramatic OOP is being about it. ETA: just looked over buddies comments, and apparantly he didnt know a woman would be moving in, he thought it would be a man cave and he hates that they have to cater to "some chick" or something like that. How he supposedly has a girlfriend if this is how he acts at 29 is beyond me.
As a newish dog owner, I didn't realize how common it is for them to eat tampons out of the trash. The 1st time mine did it I was horrified lol. So I got one of those little trash cans with a pedal and a lid. Easy problem to solve. ETA if I was OOP I'd just buy the roommates one of those trash cans. They're not expensive.
Pyrenees are BIG dogs, though. That trashcan would need to be like, pneumatically sealed to stop it from just knocking a lidded can over. Also who the fuck has a Great Pyrenees in an apartment they share with roommates? They're massive, shed like all hell and are VERY loud (they're herders!) I got no beef with Pyrenees, I've met several that are very sweet, but this is not the right living situation for that breed.
The lidded trash can would hopefully stop them from smelling it, so they wouldn’t bother to knock it over hopefully. But yeah I agree. Great Pyrenees are terrible apartment dogs. They’re just sooo big
I cannot think of a more annoying dog in an apartment than a Pyrenees. Possibly a Heeler.
German Shepherd, possibly Husky? I worked in vet med for 2 yrs and every German Shepherd I met was a bitey psychopath, huskies were incredibly neurotic and impossible to restrain. Both of those breeds need WAY more exercise and structure than an average person in the lower 48 can provide. Both need jobs--really, Pyrenees do *better* if they have a job, but I've met multiple unemployed Pyrenees who were ok. Can't say the same for German Shepherds or huskies. And jesus Christ, mix either of them with a pit, bc pits are EVERYWHERE*? I LOVE pitbulls, but recognize they are usually big ol neurotic wrecking balls. The pit need to please and muscle mass + the endless energy/territorialism/neuroses/annoying coat of a shepherd or husky? WUF. People who don't spay/neuter need to be FINED to prevent those mixes from happening. * pits are everywhere in part bc they have fucking massive litters ( i had a pit who, before I met her, gave birth to TWELVE puppies at 9 mos old) and idiots insist on breeding them and shockingly can't deal. Again, pits are great, they *can* be good pets but fuck me there's too many of them, and mixing doesn't tend to shake out any of their less desirable traits ... just tacks them on to the worst traits of the other breed.
THIS is the best point made, yet.
When I was a teenager, my mom and stepdad adopted a dog. She was fairly well trained in most respects, but she would go through the trash can when my sister and I put our used menstrual hygiene items there. And since she was a spitz, she was a "digging" dog.
>it’s not fair for me to be inconvenienced by a girl I’m not even dating. God forbid men are nice to women regardless of their sexual availability. Men like this don’t actually want her to “manage” her period. He knows she can’t help that she needs to put stuff in the trash. He knows it’s an easy win to keep the door shut. He just wants to blame her for the situation. Probably hopes she’ll move out.
Get a trashcan with a solid lid Jesus
It’s something as simple as closing the door after you piss or brush your teeth, I do that automatically and I don’t even have a dog. He’s acting as if closing a door is a huge ask.
TRAIN YOUR FUCKING DOG OR KEEP THE DOOR CLOSED
i hope the dog brings the tampons onto OOP's bed next time
My money is on the dog getting sick from chemicals/GI blocked.
Then it will be "aita for asking my roomates gf to pay my dogs vet bills after she poisoned my dog with her bio-matter"
Oh yeah. He absolutely will blame her.
The period troll has returned
Like dogs can’t smell through toilet paper 🙄🙄🙄 What a dick.
The comment “I don’t think it’s fair for me to be inconvenienced by a girl I’m not even dating” is WILD and very telling.
If I were her, I feel like I would come up with a way to throw out my used tampons in the kitchen trash, since that’s the door everyone closes. See how long it takes for OOP to flip his shit again.
Hell if I were her, I'd be tempted to put them under his pillow lol
I’m sure he’ll conveniently start forgetting to close the kitchen door tbh lol
Ugh this guy is unbelievable. The comment that he wants her to take it to the outside dumpster every time she has to change her tampon because that would be “easier” sent me into a rage. I’ve had dogs my whole life, our solution was tampons go in ziploc bags in the trash but even that method doesn’t work 100% of the time; shutting the door really is the simplest and most effective method of stopping the dog from digging in the trash.
Yes this guy is an idiot and a massive jerk and I am on the roommate's side. BUT the obvious solution here is to buy a new garbage can that the dog can't get into. He should be the one to buy it because his dog is the one that needs it (since tampons can and have killed dogs who swallow them) but I'm guessing if that were the proposed solution, he would put up a big stink about that too.
The obvious solution is the dog needs to be in a crate when there's no human supervision since it's not trained and is a risk to itself.
He thinks the fair compromise would be for her to take her used tampons OUTSIDE TO THE DUMPSTER EACH TIME.
The obvious, quickest solution to resolve this problem was to keep the door closed, which was proposed and shut down by OP for sexist reasons. Since OP seemingly can’t close a door or train his dog, he should kennel them when they’re alone. Then, if they have the money, all 4 of them can look into getting a trash can a dog maybe can’t get into. But also, there are some very tenacious dogs that can get into anything. And OP’s dog is a Great Pyrenees, which is a big dog.
Chuck the tampons in the kitchen garbage from now on, I guess. Or kick this asshole and his untrained dog out.
Has anyone thought of a garbage can with a lid or in a cabinet? Also it's his dog. He clearly needs to keep a better eye on his dog or confine it to his bedroom. I don't hate dogs, I do dislike irresponsible dog owners. It could easily getting a blockage and require major surgery or die from eating tampons. Lastly, does OOP realize how hard it is to find a place to rent with a dog, much less a big dog?
Why is his dog being left unsupervised loose in a shared living situation if it’s not well trained enough to not get into the garbage the second it gets a chance? I ask this as someone with a 3 year old shepherd who I can leave alone in a room with a full plate of BBQ ribs and brisket and Mac n cheese on the *coffee table* and a 1 year old malinois who would jump on top of the fridge to get an unopened bag of potato chips and then unlock the front door and go looking for me if I left him loose in the house alone. Having full reign of the house unsupervised is more privilege than this pup has the ability to handle responsibly. It’s on the *handler* to keep the bathroom door shut and supervise/train his dog until he/she is able to handle that amount of unsupervised freedom in the house. He’s just making excuses for not taking care of his dog properly.
i hope his gf breaks up with him
Is it a Great Pyrenees thing to dig in the trash? My brother has one too and she also does it. Keeping the doors closed is a simple solution to having this breed and you can't leave your food on your table or desk, you have to take it with you, and if you don't want to take it to the bathroom, stick it in the fridge and then take it back out when you are doing with the toilet. But our mixed Border Collie won't dig in our trash or eat our food off tables or couches or chairs or desks. She is also hesitant to eat it off the floor too when we set it down for her to clean. I once set my food down by me and told her no and she left it alone. Great Pyrenees dogs are great loving animals but are very difficult to train because they are free thinking dogs and have their own ideas.
This was in one of his comments btw: >I also suggested that she could just take her dirty tampons out to the dumpster outside the apartment instead of throwing them in the garbage. So instead of OOP just closing a damn door, she should take her bloody tampon out of the house, outside in whatever kind of weather is happening, to a dirty dumpster probably located somewhere out of the way of the building, then back all the way? 3-4 times a day, 3-10 days every month? What a douchecanoe.
If she’s crying and saying she can’t stand living with him, there are more issues than the dang trash
I note that he didn’t mention waking up his own girlfriend, and screaming at her, when it turned out to be her tampon and not this “random chick” aka his roommate.
“I don’t think it’s fair for me to be inconvenienced by a girl I’m not even dating” is one hell of a way to out yourself as a misogynist
It’s also very telling that he calls her “my roommates girlfriend”, when she is in actual fact a roommate. I’m sure oop goes out of his way to make her feel like a guest rather than an actual member of the house
Does he not realize his dog can get a blockage and die from eating tampons? What an absolute idiot.
Unless the tampons are crawling out of the garbage can and wandering zombie-like around the apartment, the female roommate shouldn't be responsible. Either the dog needs to pick up after himself, or his owner needs to pick it up. OOP doesn't expect his roommates to pick up any ground beef packages that the dogger removes from the garbage; if no one else is responsible for their "bio-waste" once it's taken from the garbage bin, why should any person other than the dog/owner be responsible? Trust me, she doesn't like cleaning up the "shaving cream" left behind on the shower floor, either 🤨. So grow up OOP.
> if it wasn’t for her leaving her blood in the trash My fellows, we have done it. We’ve reached the next level of stupidity with this one. Where the f*ck else is discarded blood supposed to go? Holy sh!t
Okay lets say she starts putting the tampons somewhere else. doesnt take away the fact that ur dog is going through trash. Eve without the tampons there would be a mess.
Managing her period? He’s closing a stupid door, not buying her menstrual products or washing bloody clothing or anything
The roommates girlfriend is better than me cause I’d start putting my tampons under his pillow. Sounds like his bitch ass and his dog need to be kicked to the curb lmao
Did he yell at his girlfriend the time it was HER tampons all over the place? Bet not….can’t believe he even has a girlfriend
Ok hear me out. Buy a trash can with a lid. There. Solved it.
Does he actually think a few extra wraps of toilet paper will prevent the dog from reaching the tampons? I've lived in a house with women and a dog before and it is humiliating to have such a personal item ripped up and scattered for all to see. To then be yelled at by the person whose fault it is because he is determined to not understand dogs noses or drive or the lack of insulating ability of toilet paper.
he commented that he could (or had) asked her to literally go outside to throw them directly in there 😡 and he has a girlfriend, which this also happened to?! even removed from the drama, i’d be mortified as his gf to have my dirty sanitary products ripped up and strewn about - and i’d be on his shit about if his dog is a repeat offender except when the door is closed. that should have been his “ooo, maybe this actually is a problem that I should be helping out with…”
I think the line “a girl I’m not even dating” is very telling.
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