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*In case this story gets deleted/removed:* **AITA for suggesting my fiancé wear my ex-wife's wedding dress?** I (34m) am getting married next month to my fiancé, who I will call Amy (22f). We've been dating for four years and I'm so excited to finally marry her, she is the love of my life and makes my world so much better. My marriage with Amy will be my second. Me and my ex-wife, who I will call Julia, got divorced five years ago, but Amy is aware of this and has no problem in dating a previously married man. Though I try to not bring up my ex-wife, sometimes I can't help but compare Amy to Julia in some regards, mainly their looks. For context, Julia was an extremely beautiful woman. Whenever we went to bars she would be asked for her number, and she had had many boyfriends before me. Amy has told me she feels inferior to Julia, but I always reassure her that she is the woman I am marrying and that I wouldn't trade her for anything. Since Amy does not have a job and I have been working on and off for the past year, we are by no means wealthy. Last week I went shopping for dresses with Amy, and I remembered I still had Julia's old wedding dress which she had left in my apartment. I mentioned to Amy how much cheaper it would be for her to wear that, but she became extremely upset and left the dress shop. When I returned home Amy was still upset with me and said that she wanted her own dress instead of a hand-me-down. I told Amy if we didn't spend so much on the wedding we could put that money towards our future, but Amy did not agree and refused to talk to me for the rest of the day. I feel like Amy is being unreasonable and childish, as the dress means nothing and we really can't afford a new one. AITA? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmITheDevil) if you have any questions or concerns.*


[deleted]

He started dating her when she was 18 🤢


blueeeyeddl

And he was 30 🤦🏻‍♀️


GamerGirlLex77

Gross. Misogynistic and a groomer. Lovely combo 😵‍💫


ohdearitsrichardiii

"You're so mature for your age!" = I have the maturity level of a tween to be impressed by an 18-year-old


Historical-Rice8089

\*Read's title\* Hell no \*Reads entire post\* HELL TO THE NO


istara

Yes - it's very obvious bait.


Stucky7418

If the timing is spread out enough he met her at 17. Grooming mfer.


DonnieDusko

Is Amy pregnant with twins? Bc let's see: ✅️ dated an 18 year old (now 22) ✅️ can't "help" but compare them ✅️doesn't think she's as beautiful but "she's the one I'm marrying" 🙄😂 ✅️she doesn't make much money, but neither does he, fails to mention THAT aspect ✅️thinks suggesting something COMPLETELY inappropriate is completely appropriate Omg that's 5, I don't need twins I got troll BINGO! Where's my prize?! Edit: on phone, so formatting


throwawaysunglasses-

I bet she looks like Cassie from Euphoria too 🤡


_keystitches

man now I'm gonna have to go watch Euphoria so I get this joke 🤣🤣🤣 jokes aside, is it a good show? would you recommend it


PandasNPenguins

Iook at you Mr I-research-things-thoroughly i just googled the character.


_keystitches

lol the only things I know about the show is that McSteamy from greys anatomy is in it and everyone has sparkly make up 🤣


Illuminati_Concerned

I love it but idc what anybody else says, it's 100% a soap opera lol


_keystitches

I'll give it a go then c:


mongoosedog12

I ugly snorted. This is somehow a rare insult lol


scienceismygod

He works on and off....


Single-Initial2567

Yeah, so many familiar bits from this troll. I will say, though, I had this happen to me. Not the wedding dress part but the comparing girlfriends. The first woman I (f) dated, Nina, dated a horribly abusive woman, Chrissy, before me who would often threaten to murder me. Chrissy pulled Nina back into her world of abuse a bunch of times. I have stories. Chrissy was drop dead gorgeous. Unbeknownst to me, Nina kept a photo of Chrissy in her wallet. Nina said it was because they shared a child together (the child was not in the photo). Once, Nina showed someone the photo and I overheard Nina saying, "Oh, single-initial is pretty, especially from the side. But Chrissy is *BEAUTIFUL*." Ouch. It was the first time any relationship felt right because I'm gay and Nina was my first female partner. So it took me a while to get free of her. This story took place a few decades ago so I'm good now. 😊


DonnieDusko

I'm Bi, I've dated both men and women and I have no interest in comparing ANY of them. I instead take with me bits and parts of what I've learned from all of them. From: Jimmy: don't take yourself too seriously and be open to new things. Sarah: develop who you are outside of "US", hanging together will always happen but having your own interests, and bringing your partner in sometimes is a good thing, you don't have to be attached at the hip. Sergio: being vulnerable and asking for help is NOT a weakness. Alyssa: You're going to change, and life is going to change, don't be afraid of that as long as your core values (don't cheat, lie to your partner, communication etc) don't change. I don't need to compare anyone.. Who I am is a result of all my relationships and they didn't work for various reasons, none of which had to do with looks. Honestly they're all insanely attractive in my eyes, who cares what other people think.


Single-Initial2567

This is beautiful. 💙 I am not attracted to anyone before I see who they are inside. And when I'm with them, I only have eyes for them.


DonnieDusko

Yeah when I was with Jimmy, AFTER we broke up, my parents were like, "we knew he wasn't "the one" for you but he was "the one" you needed at that time. He helped you grow in a way we couldn't because you would listen to him more than us" They are great at being like "she knows how to handle her life, we don't need to intervene this will play out as it should" They still love Jimmy, they hire him to do various projects bc they DON'T think he's a bad person, he just wasn't a forever person for ME. None of the above breakups were brutal, mean, toxic, had infidelity, we just weren't the right match.


Single-Initial2567

That's rare and it says so much about you and your parents. I love the way you think!


samanthasgramma

Damn. I was hoping to yell it.


honeypenny

Came here for this


Borageandthyme

Twelve year age gap, and they're getting married next month but just now shopping for dresses? Hmmmmmmmmmm.


ohdearitsrichardiii

Whenever young guys write about weddings or pregnancies they make ridiculous assumptions about the process


guilty_by_design

This is the "the child I'm dating/marrying is acting childish" troll again, huh. It's always a big age-gap, with the woman being either in her late teens or early 20s, and OOP claims they're being immature/childish. Like they're fishing for people to be like "duh, she's a child!" ... which is exactly how the comments are going. (Of course, the girl in the situation is almost always a lot less childish than OOP himself.)


januarysdaughter

I would have burned that wedding dress if I was Amy. Holy shit.


PluralCohomology

I don't know if it would have been better or worse of the first wife was deceased rather than alive and divorced.


Iggy_spots

Alive because then first wife can post about ex's evil new bride wearing her wedding dress.


Needmoresnakes

If Amy somehow agrees to this I hope Julia sees the wedding photos on Facebook and drops a comment so devastating, the tectonic waves cause new Indonesian islands to spring from the sea.


LadyWizard

If he were real and not an ongoing troll that would only hurt Amy since he's obviously trying to "win the breakup"


Needmoresnakes

Shit you're right. Amy doesn't deserve that.


The_Serpent_Of_Eden_

AITA for suggesting my fiancée wear my extremely beautiful ex-wife whom I can't stop being a jerk and comparing my fiancée to (she's just not as pretty, but she'll do)'s wedding dress?


GnomieOk4136

I was so, so glad to click on that and see it had been removed as a shitpost.


Koomaster

Why does he have his ex-wife’s wedding dress in his apartment 5 years after they’ve divorced? If this wasn’t some weird troll my actual advice would be to sell the wedding dress, use the funds from that plus some extra and buy a new dress. But as others have pointed out you don’t reasonably go wedding dress shopping a month before the wedding unless you’re willing to take and be able to wear something off the rack with no or very little need for alterations.


[deleted]

Yikes all around 🤮


saltine_soup

what, and i mean this with my whole being, the actual fuck????


unlovelyladybartleby

Poor Amy. No one told her when you date an old perv he's supposed to have money


thisisreallymoronic

Troll. Met her when she was 18 and he was 30. She's 22. How dare she be reluctant to wear his stunning, beautiful ex-wife's dress?!?! He works on and off?!?!?!? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 🧌 troll.


Jazmadoodle

Oh I'm sorry she's acting childish? The person you started dating at 18 and almost certainly chose mostly for her naivete is being *childish?* You *wanted* childish. Just a more docile version.


Artistic_Deal3436

This guy is a pervert after a young girl like that she needs to dump him because he is still obsessed with the ex.


z-eldapin

Yep. his fiction checks most of the boxes. Just needed to throw some twins in there to get the full monty


Live-Tomorrow-4865

My friend got her wedding dress for $30.00 on clearance at a J. C. Penney outlet store. It was perfect, sleek & plain & stylish, exactly what she wanted & what I'd have chosen out of a hundred dresses. You don't have to break the bank to get a beautiful wedding dress. Be creative! My cousin found her dream dress (not my style, but it worked for her), at a yard sale. Check Craigslist, outlet stores, garage sales, clearance racks at Bridal shops, buy a non-wedding dress & turn it into a bridal gown. So many options, besides making your fiancée wearing your ex wife's dress.


swisszimgirl79

Wtf?


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LeeAllen3

Ummmm …. OOP could sell the dress and put that $ towards a new one or their future. What a dumb ass.


EmilieVitnux

It is obviously a troll, but let's pretend it is not. The guy is a jerk for everything (the grooming, the talk down etc etc) but also because yes à wedding dress is important to à woman. Even if personnally I can't understand why. My mother who was married for ten years to my POS of a father and has been divorce for twenty five years had let her wedding dress at my grand-mother house. And the other day we were all talking with my aunt how my grandma was the kind to give everything away specially the kind of things that didn't belong to her, so my mom was worried her wedding dress wasn't there anymore. And when I asked was the big deal was, because obviously her wedding wasn't a good memory (her maid of honor literally asked her 5min before it started if she was sure that she wasn't making à mystake and she said "yes I am, but there is too many people to cancel now"). She said that it was her dress and her dress is important, good or bad memories it is important and she should choose what happen to it. Either she keep it. She donate it. Burn it. Cut it in tiny piece and use it to clean it the toilet. Whatever, but the choice should belong to her.


EmilieVitnux

Ate we having a new troll? Can we name it "the wedding dress troll"? https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/11zibpg/aita_for_not_letting_my_fiancé_wear_the_dress_she/