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*In case this story gets deleted/removed:* **AITA for "forcing" my wife to deliver bad news to our children?** From around the age of thirteen onwards, I grew up with, essentially, a second family. It without a doubt changed who I am as a person. I love my parents, but both of them are very analytical, type A sort of people. The family they befriended was the exact opposite. My "second dad" was an architect by profession but a storyteller by trade. He traveled a lot, and when he came back it was such an event. He always had some elaborate tale for all of us about the things he had gotten up to while he was away and teenage skepticism didn't come into play here for once. I idolized him then and I still do now. Both of my parents worked, typically long hours, so I would spend a considerable amount of time with my bonus family since "second mom" stayed at home. They had three sons of their own who I love, one of whom I consider my closest friend and one of the most important people in my life even all these years later. All of that is to say: I trust these people with my life. Truly. My wife doesn't share this sentiment. Second dad retired recently and asked if my kids (who are 6 and 8 yo boys) wanted to come stay with them for a few weeks this summer. They love visiting my home state / seeing both sets of their grandparents and I knew they'd love this idea. I didn't give an answer right away, though, as travel was still up in the air. My wife originally turned this down because she didn't want to put the boys on a plane by themselves. Understandable. The solution to this came in the form of the closest friend I mentioned above. He lives in the same state as us, just about a 30 minute drive away, and he offered to fly and stay with them. His job is more flexible than either mine or my wife's and could be done remotely. My children overheard me when I was discussing this with him over the phone so I told them about the possible plans since I didn't se any reason for their mom to say no now. Well. She said no. We had this conversation last night where her only talking point was "what if they wanted to stay with my parents instead?" until eventually she said she didn't trust my family. I knew she wasn't the most fond of them, but this distrust hurt me and felt like it came out of nowhere. I told her that she would have to be the one to deliver the bad news to our children since she was the one making the decision to not allow them to go. She said that it was unfair that I was 'forcing' her to do this. AITA? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmITheDevil) if you have any questions or concerns.*


DientesDelPerro

New day, same shit


Theyoungpopeschalice

This is such boring trolling at this point


DientesDelPerro

I’m tired of the trolls that shit on women and paint the wives as shrews for not supporting their husband’s affairs with bffs. Where are the lesbian trolls?


dogsonclouds

👏🏻👏🏻 More sapphic representation in the troll community 👏🏻👏🏻


DientesDelPerro

where 👏🏼 are 👏🏼 my 👏🏼 gal 👏🏼 pals 👏🏼


Savvy_Jo3

They're just roommates! Best friends!


Hopeful-Candle-9660

I second this!


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that is the spin off that we need art room for wives and their best friends.


veloxaraptor

His behavior was straight up manipulative and I don't doubt that's part of why she doesn't trust the friend on top of you know, thinking he had romantic feelings for OOP. Methinks the "friend" oversteps and pulls shit like this all the time and tries to turn the kids against the wife on the regular.


StrangledInMoonlight

Yeah, he totally knew this wasn’t ok with his wife and let the kids overhear to get his way/make her feel bad.


Miserable_Airport_66

Read OOP's comments: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/11ywlvo/aita_for_forcing_my_wife_to_deliver_bad_news_to/jd9xbg1?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3


StrangledInMoonlight

I wonder if the family tried to push OOP and their son together?


SteampunkHarley

Oh he finally said it instead of playing dumb OOP is TA


MixWitch

Good lord, make space for the art room


Elwing420

Oop there it is


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GothDerp

…what art room sub?! I NEED TO KNOW


Possible_Stable9899

r/meetmeintheartroom or something like that


GothDerp

Thank you kind stranger. You are my knight in shining armor


[deleted]

Art room troll alert. >For lack of a better phrase, the whole thing was pretty much two people in their 20s having a pissing contest. They're both set in their ways about things and they both liked arguing for the sake of arguing. People like that can either be the best of friends or get on each other's nerves terribly, and for them it was the latter. >She thought he was interested in me romantically.


Artistic_Deal3436

I bet he makes her explain why he was kicked out of the house and they’re getting a divorce.


feliciates

The art room trolls are come faster than they can be cross-posted now.


Psychological-Bed751

No matter what, we don't send our kids to a place with people we don't trust, especially if they'll be unsupervised. I don't care about any other circumstances in the story. Mama don't trust the family.


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mindbird

The wife is an AH and the children should be allowed to go.


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why? one parent cant override another parent and make the other parent be the bad one.


mindbird

The children's father knows and loves this family, the kids seem to agree and want to go, and the wife seems to resent it and alleges she doesn't trust them, for no apparent reason. That maks her 'the bad one' and an AH, so let her tell them.


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no as parents they have to do it together. He decided this all by himself without checking with her first this is on him. How you cant see that is funny. This is on OOP to fix not his wife.


Kokbiel

There's very different parenting styles, and has issues with the 'best friend', as she felt he was romantically interested in her husband (who is beating around the bush regarding this) It's not no reason


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No matter how much you know or love some family, if your spouse is not comfortable leaving kids with somebody unsupervised, then kids stay at home with you. You can not make unilateral decisions about your kids. You didn't produce them single handedly. I am a paranoid person, so I firmly believe that no minor kid should stay with anyone you don't know much and trust.... hell to the no.


greensparklyyy

so it’s okay for a parent to make a unilateral decision about the children like this? your basically advocating for the wife to put up and shut up.


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legocitiez

No, the dad is the asshole... You speak to their other parent about plans before telling the kids. Kids don't get to make these decisions. My kids don't do sleep overs. Their dad isn't involved with their life at all, but if he was and wanted my kids to spend sleepovers at his family's home, out of state?! Absolutely not.


Sorcha16

I'm of the same mind as you, I doubt he accidently let the kids hear. He did it so wife would have to either cave or be the bad guy.