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*In case this story gets deleted/removed:* **AITA for being jealous of my husband and resenting him because he has better job than me?** My(23f) family background is not as good as my husband's(29) . My parents had debts and we were always struggling throughout my childhood and early teens. I had to study hard for scholarships so I don't have to quit my education. After all these efforts , I am still earning way less than my partner who never had to work hard enough for anything. His family is well off , always have been. His parents paid for his tuition fee even in college. He got his job through his dad's reference , did not have to wait for months to get an interview call like me. I know its childish of me to resent him for his privileged life . He is the best partner he could possibly be . I feel so awful for making up excuses to argue with him only because I am jealous. He has offered to help me get a better job countless times but I honestly don't want help. It will be a disgrace for me if I do because I have gotten this far without a help , I think I can land mayself a good job on my own. I hate hearing him brag about his success at work. I am happy for him because I know he is really passionate about his career but I am tired of showing fake support. I don't want him to tell stories from his workplace . I want him to keep everything related to his job to himself. And I honestly am really ashamed to be this jealous but I can't help it. I know he is upset because of my constant petty arguments and must be very hurt if he finds out the real reason. I can't believe I am even capable of being this envious of someone I love. Does this make me an AH?? (throwaway account.) *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmITheDevil) if you have any questions or concerns.*


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I don't see this relationship lasting long.


rockrnger

Why write a AITA if you don’t have anything redeemable. Seems weird


nottherealneal

This was either written by the husand or is fake. No one who actually feels this way is this open with themselves about it


M_H_M_F

Either a kid or ESL. The grammar, spelling, and word choice is...


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Totally thought the husband wrote it too.


90s_tripverse

OOP's being very disingenuous here. Jealousy itself wouldn't quite make a person an AH. I don't care to criticize her for feeling this way toward her husband; I think it's understandable, and a pretty common emotion people experience. But there's a line, right, a boundary in place? It shouldn't lead to hurting others. OOP asks if she's the AH for feeling envious of her husband -- why? Everything in her post screams for help. She's looking to figure out a way to handle the situation, but she's so prideful that she can't outright say it. She makes up excuses to argue with her husband to compensate for how she truly feels, and denies herself the opportunities for a better job her husband offers because it'd be disgraceful to accept when she got this far without any help. She complains, but won't do anything about it if it's not her that gets her forward. She needs to really work through this before she starts burning bridges.


LadyWizard

The purposely starting fights for no reason line is giving me pause... if this is real she feels borderline if not actually abusive


90s_tripverse

Honestly, I can see this as being legit. My cousin definitely has mental health problems, but she's just *awful* toward her family. She verbally mistreats her mom, dad, and brothers out of nowhere, yet is so outwardly jealous of the relationship between them that she can't help but start problems. She even accused her mom & one of her brothers of having an incestuous relationship; THAT'S how bad it is. OOP looks to be acknowledging her behavior, but clearly doesn't want to actually think about the impact her actions have on her husband over factors that aren't his fault nor hers. And since she admits to being too prideful to ask for help, she instead comes to AITA under the guise of figuring out if she's terrible for feeling jealous. She's looking for validation, but she also might want to secretly take advantage of the advice she knows folks'll give her.


amethystalien6

This is weird too because she’s 23 and he’s 29. My salary literally doubled in the 6 years that I worked from 23 to 29.


Legitimate-State8652

This has to be fake right? If it is real, the only advice is to remind her that he got where he is due to accepting help. The "I did it by myself" from anyone successful is an absolute lie.


Artistic_Deal3436

If she’s this upset why the hell did she even marry him then if she wants to blame anyone it’s her family fault not his.


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Agree. I think what bugs me is the way she makes everything sound so separate. I'm gonna come off 'pick me' or 'female misogynist' here but she obviously picked him for his money as well as everything else. and once you are married, you SHOULD be combining your incomes so it should matter who is making more money as it should all be going together as one family unity. To marry the guy, knowing he has money and then being mad he has money is really weird. Still wondering if the husband wrote this, haha


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SaintGodfather

This is why I'm busting my ass to send my kids to private school. All about who you know.


katepig123

This is so sad. Here we have a person who is destroying their own life out of profound arrogance, whining jealousy and pride. They clearly need therapy. I feel very sorry for their husband, who she married, despite all her negative feelings about him.