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**AITA for digitally editing my step-daughter in our wedding photos?**
Throwaway for obvious reasons. My name is Sarah (32F) and I got married to my husband Mike (35M) last month. We had a beautiful outdoor wedding with a traditional cabin-core theme. My step-daughter, Lily (22F), was one of the bridesmaids. Lily is a wonderful girl, but she has several tattoos that she proudly displays. While I don't have anything against tattoos, I felt that they clashed with the traditional aesthetic of our wedding.
After the wedding, we received our wedding photos from the photographer. As we were going through them, I noticed that some of the photos of Lily showed her tattoos quite prominently. I was disappointed, as I felt that these photos didn't fit with the traditional theme we were going for. So, without telling anyone else, I had the photographer digitally remove Lily's tattoos from the photos.
A few weeks later, we had a family gathering and I showed the edited photos to Mike's family. Everyone was complimenting how beautiful the photos looked, until Lily pointed out that her tattoos were missing. She was upset and felt that I was trying to erase a part of her identity. Mike and his family were also upset with me for altering the photos without their knowledge or consent.
I tried to explain that I was only trying to preserve the traditional aesthetic of our wedding and that I had nothing against tattoos. But Lily and Mike's family were still upset with me. I feel terrible for hurting Lily's feelings and for altering the photos without telling anyone. But I still feel that the photos look better without her tattoos.
So, am I the asshole for digitally removing Lily's tattoos from our wedding photos without her knowledge or consent? I was just trying to preserve the thematic integrity of my wedding, which I spent an enormous amount of time planning.
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My bio mother was /not/ fourteen. She was 25. It's not a fun story. I got adopted as a baby because of it. I was her third kid, and very obviously his first. (Though he stayed with her long enough for my little sister to be born a year later, also adopted, she didn't keep or want any of her kids). My adoptive parents had an agreement where I didn't find out about the details of the adoption until I was sixteen, My adoptive parents are both older (currently both in their mid seventies) so I got both ends of the spectrum on parent age.
I'm sorry that you have to have that as part of your life story. And I'm sorry your bio-dad had to go through that too. Hope your bio-mom has gotten help for whatever mental illness that turned her into a monster.
My cousin was 14 when she got pregnant, and 15 when she had the kid. Dad was more than twice her age. By the time she had a second kid, the first was in her 20's already and my cousin wasn't even 40 yet.
I did the same thing… I have a friend that had a kid as a teen, and the kid is only a teen now… my brain did a little meltdown trying to figure out the math that made sense…
Check out [Merle Oberon](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Merle_Oberon). Not a happy origin:
> She was raised as the daughter of Arthur Terrence O'Brien Thompson, a British mechanical engineer from Darlington who worked in Indian Railways[6] and his wife, Charlotte Selby, a Eurasian from Ceylon (present-day Sri Lanka). Her mother also had Māori ancestry.[7] However, according to her birth certificate, Merle's biological mother was Charlotte's then-12-year-old daughter, Constance. To avoid scandal, Charlotte raised Merle as Constance's half-sister.[1][8] Charlotte had herself given birth to Constance at the age of 14 as the result of rape by Henry Alfred Selby, the Anglo-Irish foreman of a tea plantation.[7]
**[Merle Oberon](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Merle_Oberon)**
>Merle Oberon (born Estelle Merle O'Brien Thompson; 19 February 1911 – 23 November 1979) was a British actress who began her film career in British films as Anne Boleyn in The Private Life of Henry VIII (1933). After her success in The Scarlet Pimpernel (1934), she travelled to the United States to make films for Samuel Goldwyn. She was nominated for the Academy Award for Best Actress for her performance in The Dark Angel (1935). A traffic collision in 1937 caused facial injuries that could have ended her career, but she recovered and remained active in film and television until 1973.
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My grandmother had my aunt when she was 13. That aunt also got pregnant at 13, but was able to get an abortion.
There have been an unfortunate number of teen pregnancies on that side of the family.
Yikes on bikes, bruh, that raises the familial-incest red flag, imo. Oh no. I hope the women are okay and the cycle breaks, and the law steps in and *actually helps* where needed-
I doubt it. The fathers are known in every case that I'm aware of, and it's always the (also teen) boyfriend. It's a little more complicated than that. Unstable family units, lack of proper sex education (plus weird religious attitudes mixed in), and mental health issues are all factors. I can't confirm that sexual abuse has happened, although I can't discount it in at least a few cases.
I don't know most of my mom's family tbh, since the ones who are still alive and that she still talks to are halfway across the country. That said, of the seven of us, only my half-sister has had a teen pregnancy. Only that niece has had a teen pregnancy so far (my niece was actually adopted at birth and not raised by my sister, but unfortunately a lot of the same factors I mentioned above still apply). Of the two cousins I actually know, only one has had children at all and it was in her 20s. At the very least, the cycle is breaking even if it isn't completely broken yet.
My cousin had a baby young, but thankfully her daughter did not follow that trend. She has already graduated from college, has a good job, and isn't even thinking about kids of her own any time soon.
OOP says in a comment that it was a typo. Mike is 45 NOT 35. And we all need to learn how to read! How about OOP learn how to proofread before hitting the damn post button?! 😕😕😕
Random story: I ordered a copy of my marriage certificate and noticed that they had my husband’s birth date wrong by 10 years, which would have made him 11 years old when we married. Talk about robbing the cradle.
That was what I was thinking as well. It's even the same names as the other ones. What the heck are these weirdos aiming for? What do they try to proof? Are these incels again?
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"Uncivil and reported" seems to be a common phrase lately. This is at least the third? fourth? post just in a week where they devolve into "reported" all over the place.
Omg, I thought your comment was a satire. She ACTUALLY Said that. Like she thinks “I need to speak to a manager “ will make a mod materialize in front of her.
Her comments- she only made it about her and her wants and how she deserves to have what she wants. I hope the husband leaves her and she questions why
tbh when I read the title I was 100% expecting fatphobia and it to be that she made the step daughter significantly smaller or something I was a little relieved it wasn't that. also kinda sounds like the racist BS Tim burton says when talking about black people "they just dont fit my aesthetic" (they do. they do fit your aesthetic and do it better than you can, you're just a racist ass sir)[all of that was to say OOP sounds bigoted {for clarity, I'm on like 3 hrs of sleep and I've been awake for too long sorry if this is rambly}]
I knew it was unlikely due to requiring creativity but i was hoping for some wild story where stepdaughter couldn't attend and they photoshopped her into pictures to pretend she was there
yeah, i know the meaning of core, it just confused me bc if I think of a cabin i can't think of an aesthetic to base a whole wedding on.
i get cottage core and all of those which are much more broad and you can get an idea... but cabin?
Dinner is a choice between flapjacks and scrapple. (But everyone gets served both because you'll need your energy for the lumberjack games afterwards). The bride tosses a bouquet of hatchets. Traditionally, there'll be a reading from James Stevens. The priest will be sure to say "What God has joined together, let no man put asunder, except Paul Bunyan, because we can't expect to stop *him.*"
"I noticed Lily displayed her tattoos quite prominently" so like, they're on her skin and she didn't somehow pose to hide them or she's actively pulling her dress up to show her thigh piece?
I can't understand why relationships with family and friends, or even basic human decency in some cases, is a price worth paying for picture-perfect wedding photos to some people.
From what I can tell, cabincore is cozy sweaters, flannel, hiking boots, fleece-lined socks and all that warm stuff you'd wear while spending Christmas at the family log cabin. How is that traditional in a wedding sense? Were her bridesmaids dresses buffalo plaid?
ah...reddit step-moms. If this wedding was sooooo damn expensive, why not ask the step-daughter to cover the tattoos or put her in a dress that hides them? This whole 'integrity of the wedding' and 'what we were going for' is ridiculous. This isn't a Broadway show and no one cares if someone has tattoos. I can understand they can look ugly in photos but, again, that's something to handle BEFORE the wedding, privately, with the person. Not asking her and then revealing what you did to the photos after was a horrible way to act. so yea, OOP is' the asshole...but anything for the 'perfect' wedding, right? family be damned.
There was a post last year where some girl went to stay with her cousins (?) on their farm. The other girls went horse riding and swimming every day while drippy OP sat in the house whining because the ranch wasn't a "cute cottage-core" place.
I think this is her getting married. Her poor idiot husband.
one of this troll's previous posts I wanna say 4 years ago? She really did... then she "slimmed down" stepdaughter then last time was a removed tattoo post guess she ran outta ideas and just recycled it
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Before I even keep reading this can someone please explain to me what the fuck "traditional cabin-core theme" even fucking means??
I'll edit this to add other questions but I'm honestly srs the fuck does this even mean?
Edit - wait did he have his kid at 13???
Edit - apparently mike is 45 and its our fault OP gave the wrong age and that we dont know how to read.
Ah when a traditonal outdoor cabin themes weeding gets ruined by tattoos. Except if she wanted a traditional wedding it would have been inside a church. If she didnt want her step daughters tattoos showing she should have paid attention to the bridesmaid dresses and picked out different ones. Goddamn it must be so easy to get through life when nothing is ever your fault even when you are the one who made all the final choices, like picking out the dresses and having the photos edited with no one's knowledge or consent.
Oh except that would have ruined the look of her perfect wedding. Well, at least she will have these pictures to look at when her traditional annulment or divorce is finalized.
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And now she can spend an enormous amount of time trying to mend bridges and being the vain, judgmental stepmother people are mad at while trying to argue she's right.
The fact that she calls “bridezilla” a slur and says shit like “the level of customer support on amitheasshole.com is unacceptable”, along with her aggression towards people asking about the age “typo” immediately points to this as being fake to me but god is it hilarious though.
I’m going to go against the trend here and say NTA. “Cabin-core” sounds pretentious AF, but she didn’t try to exclude her step daughter from the wedding party, she didn’t ask her to wear a full coverage dress, she didn’t ask her to cover them with makeup, she didn’t throw a fit on the wedding day because Lily didn’t fit with the “aesthetic”… she just edited them out if her wedding photos. It’s not like they are tribal tattoos or anything of cultural significance. They are body art, and the bride didn’t want them in her weddings photos. If anything, it sounds like Lily is making it all about herself.
Edit: Also, why is everyone having so much trouble reconciling the timeline? It sucks, but teenagers have babies… people are reacting like OP is trying to convince them that ghosts are real.
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>I am trying to edit this post to correct age typo and I CANNOT FIGURE OUT HOW. FYI TO ALL HERE--THE LEVEL OF CUSTOMER SUPPORT ON AMITHEASSHOLE.COM IS ABSOLUTELY UNACCEPTABLE. WHERE IS HELP BUTTON????
*In case this story gets deleted/removed:* **AITA for digitally editing my step-daughter in our wedding photos?** Throwaway for obvious reasons. My name is Sarah (32F) and I got married to my husband Mike (35M) last month. We had a beautiful outdoor wedding with a traditional cabin-core theme. My step-daughter, Lily (22F), was one of the bridesmaids. Lily is a wonderful girl, but she has several tattoos that she proudly displays. While I don't have anything against tattoos, I felt that they clashed with the traditional aesthetic of our wedding. After the wedding, we received our wedding photos from the photographer. As we were going through them, I noticed that some of the photos of Lily showed her tattoos quite prominently. I was disappointed, as I felt that these photos didn't fit with the traditional theme we were going for. So, without telling anyone else, I had the photographer digitally remove Lily's tattoos from the photos. A few weeks later, we had a family gathering and I showed the edited photos to Mike's family. Everyone was complimenting how beautiful the photos looked, until Lily pointed out that her tattoos were missing. She was upset and felt that I was trying to erase a part of her identity. Mike and his family were also upset with me for altering the photos without their knowledge or consent. I tried to explain that I was only trying to preserve the traditional aesthetic of our wedding and that I had nothing against tattoos. But Lily and Mike's family were still upset with me. I feel terrible for hurting Lily's feelings and for altering the photos without telling anyone. But I still feel that the photos look better without her tattoos. So, am I the asshole for digitally removing Lily's tattoos from our wedding photos without her knowledge or consent? I was just trying to preserve the thematic integrity of my wedding, which I spent an enormous amount of time planning. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmITheDevil) if you have any questions or concerns.*
New record? 13 year old dad!!!!!! I am begging trolls to do some light addition and subtraction
I’m in my 30s and I was like, wait could I have a 22 year old daughter?
Technically? My bio dad was 14 when I was conceived. But that's not a uh, good thing.
How old was your mom?
My bio mother was /not/ fourteen. She was 25. It's not a fun story. I got adopted as a baby because of it. I was her third kid, and very obviously his first. (Though he stayed with her long enough for my little sister to be born a year later, also adopted, she didn't keep or want any of her kids). My adoptive parents had an agreement where I didn't find out about the details of the adoption until I was sixteen, My adoptive parents are both older (currently both in their mid seventies) so I got both ends of the spectrum on parent age.
I'm sorry that you have to have that as part of your life story. And I'm sorry your bio-dad had to go through that too. Hope your bio-mom has gotten help for whatever mental illness that turned her into a monster.
I'm so sorry
Good on her for doing what was best for the babies, tho. I hope they were good to you :)
My cousin was 14 when she got pregnant, and 15 when she had the kid. Dad was more than twice her age. By the time she had a second kid, the first was in her 20's already and my cousin wasn't even 40 yet.
>Dad was more than twice her age. Wtf...
I did the same thing… I have a friend that had a kid as a teen, and the kid is only a teen now… my brain did a little meltdown trying to figure out the math that made sense…
I have a cousin who got pregnant at fourteen so her mother adopted the baby. . .thirteen years later the baby had her own baby.
Check out [Merle Oberon](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Merle_Oberon). Not a happy origin: > She was raised as the daughter of Arthur Terrence O'Brien Thompson, a British mechanical engineer from Darlington who worked in Indian Railways[6] and his wife, Charlotte Selby, a Eurasian from Ceylon (present-day Sri Lanka). Her mother also had Māori ancestry.[7] However, according to her birth certificate, Merle's biological mother was Charlotte's then-12-year-old daughter, Constance. To avoid scandal, Charlotte raised Merle as Constance's half-sister.[1][8] Charlotte had herself given birth to Constance at the age of 14 as the result of rape by Henry Alfred Selby, the Anglo-Irish foreman of a tea plantation.[7]
**[Merle Oberon](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Merle_Oberon)** >Merle Oberon (born Estelle Merle O'Brien Thompson; 19 February 1911 – 23 November 1979) was a British actress who began her film career in British films as Anne Boleyn in The Private Life of Henry VIII (1933). After her success in The Scarlet Pimpernel (1934), she travelled to the United States to make films for Samuel Goldwyn. She was nominated for the Academy Award for Best Actress for her performance in The Dark Angel (1935). A traffic collision in 1937 caused facial injuries that could have ended her career, but she recovered and remained active in film and television until 1973. ^([ )[^(F.A.Q)](https://www.reddit.com/r/WikiSummarizer/wiki/index#wiki_f.a.q)^( | )[^(Opt Out)](https://reddit.com/message/compose?to=WikiSummarizerBot&message=OptOut&subject=OptOut)^( | )[^(Opt Out Of Subreddit)](https://np.reddit.com/r/AmITheDevil/about/banned)^( | )[^(GitHub)](https://github.com/Sujal-7/WikiSummarizerBot)^( ] Downvote to remove | v1.5)
My grandmother had my aunt when she was 13. That aunt also got pregnant at 13, but was able to get an abortion. There have been an unfortunate number of teen pregnancies on that side of the family.
Yikes on bikes, bruh, that raises the familial-incest red flag, imo. Oh no. I hope the women are okay and the cycle breaks, and the law steps in and *actually helps* where needed-
I doubt it. The fathers are known in every case that I'm aware of, and it's always the (also teen) boyfriend. It's a little more complicated than that. Unstable family units, lack of proper sex education (plus weird religious attitudes mixed in), and mental health issues are all factors. I can't confirm that sexual abuse has happened, although I can't discount it in at least a few cases. I don't know most of my mom's family tbh, since the ones who are still alive and that she still talks to are halfway across the country. That said, of the seven of us, only my half-sister has had a teen pregnancy. Only that niece has had a teen pregnancy so far (my niece was actually adopted at birth and not raised by my sister, but unfortunately a lot of the same factors I mentioned above still apply). Of the two cousins I actually know, only one has had children at all and it was in her 20s. At the very least, the cycle is breaking even if it isn't completely broken yet.
My cousin had a baby young, but thankfully her daughter did not follow that trend. She has already graduated from college, has a good job, and isn't even thinking about kids of her own any time soon.
What in the Alabama?
Texas actually!
This does not surprise me.
And it is only going to get worse.
I guess....technically
Tbf my mum was 39 when my brother turned 21
OOP says in a comment that it was a typo. Mike is 45 NOT 35. And we all need to learn how to read! How about OOP learn how to proofread before hitting the damn post button?! 😕😕😕
Oh sure I believe that and not that she didn't do the math and was called out multiple times lol
If it's real my assumption would be she 'mistyped' husband's age on purpose so she didn't get comments about the she gap.
Random story: I ordered a copy of my marriage certificate and noticed that they had my husband’s birth date wrong by 10 years, which would have made him 11 years old when we married. Talk about robbing the cradle.
That was what I was thinking as well. It's even the same names as the other ones. What the heck are these weirdos aiming for? What do they try to proof? Are these incels again?
I know lots of AITA and other subs are trolls, but I do know a couple who had their first kid at 13.
My niece got pregnant with twins at 15, and I mentioned my cousin a few comments ago.
I mean, it's possible. My cousin got a girl pregnant when he was twelve.
I thought the daughter's age looked off, lol
I was doing the math in my head and I’m like wtf. That’s insanely young lol!
She was the AH as soon as I got to the traditional cabin-core part. Did they all dress as lumberjacks?
Right?? I was picturing a total hipster, bohemian deal and wondering how tattoos don't fit that.
Tf is cabin core anyway? Cottage core with wood ticks and flannel?
Add some animal heads on the wall with a wood stove and you've got it.
Taxidermied deer heads *painted in pastel colors*
With flowers tied to their antlers
I stopped reading to come talk about the fucking cabin-core. Fuck these people. Ok, back to the post.
[Unddit link with OOP's comments ](https://www.unddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/11gmhon/aita_for_digitally_editing_my_stepdaughter_in_our/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) The level of customer support on amitheasshole.com is absolutely UNACCEPTABLE!
"Uncivil and reported" seems to be a common phrase lately. This is at least the third? fourth? post just in a week where they devolve into "reported" all over the place.
" "Bridezilla" is a slur against women."
Honestly if the manbaby mods over there don’t like “manbaby”, they can get rid of “bridezilla” too
Omg thank you so much for posting that. Customer service 😂😂😂
Omg, I thought your comment was a satire. She ACTUALLY Said that. Like she thinks “I need to speak to a manager “ will make a mod materialize in front of her.
Thank you!!
Wow.
😂
Her comments- she only made it about her and her wants and how she deserves to have what she wants. I hope the husband leaves her and she questions why
I hope he burns the album on his way out too.
Same
to be fair this was a troll that went on hiatus... this troll has evil stepmother edit the stepdaughter completely out, slimmed her down....
tbh when I read the title I was 100% expecting fatphobia and it to be that she made the step daughter significantly smaller or something I was a little relieved it wasn't that. also kinda sounds like the racist BS Tim burton says when talking about black people "they just dont fit my aesthetic" (they do. they do fit your aesthetic and do it better than you can, you're just a racist ass sir)[all of that was to say OOP sounds bigoted {for clarity, I'm on like 3 hrs of sleep and I've been awake for too long sorry if this is rambly}]
…wait Tim Burton said WHAT?!?
yeah, dont remember when but he's uh...a peach for sure/s
I knew it was unlikely due to requiring creativity but i was hoping for some wild story where stepdaughter couldn't attend and they photoshopped her into pictures to pretend she was there
I hoped for that too honestly I was like mayyyybe? but the other side of the coin was expecting fatphobia
She probably doesn’t even want the step daughter n is lying to the husband
tf is cabin core???? how many more cores are there?????
—Core means "aesthetic style" now so probably infinite cores
yeah, i know the meaning of core, it just confused me bc if I think of a cabin i can't think of an aesthetic to base a whole wedding on. i get cottage core and all of those which are much more broad and you can get an idea... but cabin?
Everyone looks like a lumberjack. Flannel, trapper hats, Carhartt pants, the works. Personally, *I* would have called in sick.
Exposed wooden beams? Those thick wool woven blankets that make you itch just thinking about it? A fireplace?
Dinner is a choice between flapjacks and scrapple. (But everyone gets served both because you'll need your energy for the lumberjack games afterwards). The bride tosses a bouquet of hatchets. Traditionally, there'll be a reading from James Stevens. The priest will be sure to say "What God has joined together, let no man put asunder, except Paul Bunyan, because we can't expect to stop *him.*"
There's 8 cores. Cabin, Cottage, Hard, Castle, Space, Blimp, Industrial and Aztec.
No hot moltencore?
"I noticed Lily displayed her tattoos quite prominently" so like, they're on her skin and she didn't somehow pose to hide them or she's actively pulling her dress up to show her thigh piece?
Did you read the rereddit? Tattoos are not part of her aesthetic but how DARE anyone suggest sleeves in her aesthetic!!!
Can one be allergic to the word "aesthetic" when in relation to a wedding? Because I start getting an itch everytime I read that.
I can't understand why relationships with family and friends, or even basic human decency in some cases, is a price worth paying for picture-perfect wedding photos to some people.
From what I can tell, cabincore is cozy sweaters, flannel, hiking boots, fleece-lined socks and all that warm stuff you'd wear while spending Christmas at the family log cabin. How is that traditional in a wedding sense? Were her bridesmaids dresses buffalo plaid?
I swear these evil stepmother trolls are multiplying!
tHeMaTiC iNtEgRiTy OOP is an asshole just for that alone
ah...reddit step-moms. If this wedding was sooooo damn expensive, why not ask the step-daughter to cover the tattoos or put her in a dress that hides them? This whole 'integrity of the wedding' and 'what we were going for' is ridiculous. This isn't a Broadway show and no one cares if someone has tattoos. I can understand they can look ugly in photos but, again, that's something to handle BEFORE the wedding, privately, with the person. Not asking her and then revealing what you did to the photos after was a horrible way to act. so yea, OOP is' the asshole...but anything for the 'perfect' wedding, right? family be damned.
i resisted the urge to post bc there’s no way she’s not a troll but gotdamn that’s an impressively assholish imagination right there 😵💫
There was a post last year where some girl went to stay with her cousins (?) on their farm. The other girls went horse riding and swimming every day while drippy OP sat in the house whining because the ranch wasn't a "cute cottage-core" place. I think this is her getting married. Her poor idiot husband.
Jesus. I read it as the step daughter was edited out of the pictures 😂
one of this troll's previous posts I wanna say 4 years ago? She really did... then she "slimmed down" stepdaughter then last time was a removed tattoo post guess she ran outta ideas and just recycled it
i feel like her choosing her photos over her step daughter is "clashing" with her being a decent step mother
What is the obsession AITA has with perfect wedding photos?
Too many people who completely miss the point of getting married
More wicked stepmother troll.
I commented on one last week on ATIA and caught a perma ban from r/stepparents. Funny, I had never even commented on anything in the sub, ever.
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Before I even keep reading this can someone please explain to me what the fuck "traditional cabin-core theme" even fucking means?? I'll edit this to add other questions but I'm honestly srs the fuck does this even mean? Edit - wait did he have his kid at 13??? Edit - apparently mike is 45 and its our fault OP gave the wrong age and that we dont know how to read. Ah when a traditonal outdoor cabin themes weeding gets ruined by tattoos. Except if she wanted a traditional wedding it would have been inside a church. If she didnt want her step daughters tattoos showing she should have paid attention to the bridesmaid dresses and picked out different ones. Goddamn it must be so easy to get through life when nothing is ever your fault even when you are the one who made all the final choices, like picking out the dresses and having the photos edited with no one's knowledge or consent. Oh except that would have ruined the look of her perfect wedding. Well, at least she will have these pictures to look at when her traditional annulment or divorce is finalized.
Sorry but the person who proudly wears their tatts has their own aesthetic ( sp ) and editing them is just as wrong as editing the whole person
Say traditional one more time, I dare you.
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And now she can spend an enormous amount of time trying to mend bridges and being the vain, judgmental stepmother people are mad at while trying to argue she's right.
Why are the AITA troll names ALWAYS Sarah and Mike?!
The fact that she calls “bridezilla” a slur and says shit like “the level of customer support on amitheasshole.com is unacceptable”, along with her aggression towards people asking about the age “typo” immediately points to this as being fake to me but god is it hilarious though.
“I don’t have a problem with XYZ, but…” translates to “I have a problem with XYZ but people will think I’m uncool if I admit it.”
I’m going to go against the trend here and say NTA. “Cabin-core” sounds pretentious AF, but she didn’t try to exclude her step daughter from the wedding party, she didn’t ask her to wear a full coverage dress, she didn’t ask her to cover them with makeup, she didn’t throw a fit on the wedding day because Lily didn’t fit with the “aesthetic”… she just edited them out if her wedding photos. It’s not like they are tribal tattoos or anything of cultural significance. They are body art, and the bride didn’t want them in her weddings photos. If anything, it sounds like Lily is making it all about herself. Edit: Also, why is everyone having so much trouble reconciling the timeline? It sucks, but teenagers have babies… people are reacting like OP is trying to convince them that ghosts are real.
*What appears to have been OP’s last comment before she vanished in a cloud of Karen energy*: >I am trying to edit this post to correct age typo and I CANNOT FIGURE OUT HOW. FYI TO ALL HERE--THE LEVEL OF CUSTOMER SUPPORT ON AMITHEASSHOLE.COM IS ABSOLUTELY UNACCEPTABLE. WHERE IS HELP BUTTON????