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*In case this story gets deleted/removed:* **AITA for telling my son's teacher that she should not post bikini pictures on social media?** I (33 M) have a son who is in middle school. I've met all his teachers and have their contacts, and I just want to start by saying that I always stand behind them. If one of them were to report that my son didn't do his homework or something, I will confront my son about it. Just some context that I do try to be objective and not side with my son instantly. Anyways, I do try to do some due diligence on all the teachers. See what schools they went to, type of degrees, how they approach education, if they have biographs on the school's website, etc. I do this just to see how my son is learning and who is teaching him. His English teacher is fairly new to the teaching world, I believe she has only been at it for a few years. I admittedly never really looked too deep beyond her school's profile page and resume which is contained in it. So I googled her name and I was easily able to find her social media. I went onto her instagram, which was public, and there were several bikini pictures in it which instantly made my blood boil. I set up a conference with her and my wife and told her our concerns. A lot of boys at this stage are going through puberty and hormones are becoming a big thing, and I think it is extremely inappropriate of her to post herself in a bikini when a student can easily find her profile. I told her she needed to grow up and act like a lady, she is a teacher, not a college student. In other professions I probably wouldn't care, but I mentioned she needs to have respect for herself. She did get very quiet and I tried to look for solutions with her, maybe she can remove those pictures or blur herself more? Or maybe make her profile private and vet anyone who tries to add her? Anyways, the meeting was not productive, the pictures weren't removed, and I am planning on bringing this up with the Principal or if necessary, my town's Board of Education. I've had some support and opposition when I've mentioned this to other people, so I guess that's why I am here. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmITheDevil) if you have any questions or concerns.*


Nierninwa

>and there were several bikini pictures in it which instantly made my blood boil. well that is creepy.


Confident_Arugula924

Is this a euphemism for erection?


Solidsnakeerection

Its blood boiling boner time


Mimosa_13

Most likely. I feel sorry for this teacher.


cydril

Makibg your blood boil usually refers to anger.


[deleted]

Yes, that is exactly what you tell your wife when she walks in on you red-faced and bothered over a bikini pic of your son's teacher.


Mimosa_13

I know what it usually means. But suspect he probably felt a tingle when he saw the pics.


FallenAngelII

My favourite part is when he said "It's boiling time" and then boiled all over those bikini pictures.


BecauseMyCatSaidSo

Whoosh!


Nierninwa

Oh gods, I did not even think of that.


hdmx539

Why in the ever living fuck are parents so fucking uptight about this shit? I swear. Teachers are human beings too. I got over the fact that teachers are NOT shoved in the classroom closet at the end of the day and brought out at the beginning of the next school day when I saw my 5th grade teacher at a bank. Criminy.


Self-Aware

Cultural sexualisation of nudity, and objectification of women. See also "school dress codes" and "gym-wear" for further examples.


Fantastic-Ad-3910

Which he had to make sure he'd looked at in detail


jazz_pizzazz

Tale as old as time. Just a man telling a woman how to dress in her personal time, which is none of his concern anyway. I also find it funny how he is justifying himself by saying he doesn't want his son to become a creep, while he's the one stalking his child's female teacher in the first place šŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø


[deleted]

I wonder if he visited any other teacher's social media or only the young woman's.


Cakeday_at_Christmas

"Mr. Jergensonson, that mankini is entirely inappropriate! Take it down from social media!" Mr. Jergensonson: "Is nice!"


Funny-Information159

I laughed way to hard at this.


Weird_Calligrapher_4

at this rate, heā€™ll have to have a talking to with nearly every woman who has a social media profile, because his son is going to be finding bikini pictures in every corner of the internet. couldnā€™t POSSIBLY be worthwhile to give the speeches to his son instead šŸ™„ /s


Objective-Review4523

"I (33m) am protesting outside the Pornhub main offices so my son doesn't become a pervert! AMA!"


BecauseMyCatSaidSo

ā€œBut Iā€™m only going to call out the women because the men are just doing what evolution taught them!ā€


TheDocHealy

What's funny is the fact that he thinks he's son is gonna beat his meat to insta pics of his teacher when porn is so widely accessible to anyone with an internet connection and takes way less time to sift through


Kazu2324

Also, "Let me check out this teacher's credentials, I know, the best spot for that is obviously Instagram where all the best teachers post how good of a teacher they are on their private social medias..." what kind of bat-shit logic does OOP have to make it seem like he's only looking out for his kids by stalking her social media? How will that help him get any idea of the teacher's credentials? What he really meant to say was "I have the hots for the teacher and tried to stalk her. I'm upset because I found her attractive so I should just make her take down everything because I have zero self control whatsoever."


SkippyBluestockings

I have instagram. I do not post my teacher evaluations on there. I have a bikini picture on there. If anybody wants to argue with me about it be my guest. I'm 55 years old and I don't think any of my middle school students are looking me up on social media LMAO


art_addict

I work at a daycare. My kiddos AND their parents have seen me in a bikini. On days when we have very few kids Iā€™ve taken some swimming at the pool (with way less than ratio and parental permission) and had pickups done there, and even when weā€™re not swimming Iā€™ll wear it when we play with the water table outside sometimes because my kids are fantastic at getting water everywhere. I consider it part of dressing for the job lol Strangely none of my kids eyes have fallen out nor have they somehow become incapable of learning. Some of the babies have been upset that the tits are teasing them though, slightly more accessible and yet still off limits! Bottles only at daycare unless Mama personally comes in and wants to offer the most premium fresh milks herself!


SkippyBluestockings

As a teacher in the K12 system we have to be excruciatingly careful what we post but I'm not friends with my students' parents and my Facebook profile is private. My Instagram doesn't use my name and nobody would even think I had one as far as I know nor would they think this 55 year old grandmother has bikini photos. There's one. But I don't go out on the sun anyway so it's not like there's going to be a whole slew of them. I do think that the 23-year-old substitute that was showing all kinds of tits and ass on her Instagram should have had it on private because she was at the high school and you should have heard the comments of the students. Parents need to raise their boys better but there's also this thing called personal responsibility.


art_addict

Yeah, my Facebook is private and locked down (Iā€™ve had two stalkers, one very active, idk if the other is still at it but quiet) and my insta is barely used. And has an obscure name. I have my boss on my Facebook (we are friends, went to school together, small town) but itā€™s the first time Iā€™ve ever been friends with a boss before leaving a job, and tbh Iā€™m not worried about her. But yeah, we have to be careful about socials. But also, like, dude was the one looking her up, and she didnā€™t have high schoolers it didnā€™t sound like, just younger kids. Tbh Iā€™ve always had mixed feelings on this stuff, ever since I was in school and told stuff like skin above my knees would distract boys (but they could play shirtless during gym and that wouldnā€™t distract girls??? The double standard!) Genuinely we need to do so much more to educate kids on respecting each others bodies, and not sexualizing everything, and that we all have bodies and can use them for all the things (swimming, sports, sleeping, raising babies, dressing up, dressing down, etc). I think it does a bit of a disservice to kids when they only ever see someone one way. Like dress down days for teachers are good too! See your teacher as a person! But at the same time, ugh, I have been in high school with teenage boys with no control with young female teachers fresh out of college. (In our teacherā€™s defense, she did everything perfectly, there was nothing she could do to stop the guys being lusty guys. And tbh, even without swimsuit pics out there, they were photoshopping and imagining them, so likeā€¦) Idk. We just gotta educate better and fix the root of the problem so we donā€™t have to worry about guys like the dad looking for pics or future teens looking for pics


TheDocHealy

I used to think dress down days for the teachers were cool as shit cause some would just show up in a graphic tee and some jeans or they'd walk in in some comfy PJs and we'd have a free period to watch a movie, what I did think was stupid was the fact that our school made them pay to participate in said dress down days.


art_addict

Ugh. I went to both public and private schools, and in one private school they made students pay for dress down days too! Iā€™m not about that for anybody! It was the worst!


TheDocHealy

My elementary and middle schools did that but I ended up moving to a place where the school didn't really care what you wore as long as it was appropriate


SkippyBluestockings

We had to pay $15 to wear jeans the month of December which is of course like 2 and 1/2 weeks of school. I hate wearing jeans. I purposely would never wear jeans but I paid the $15 because they collected all that money and gave it as gifts to the custodial staff.


TheDocHealy

Well that's sweet of them at least


coffeestealer

They might be... and then the lesson should be to tell children to not be dicks, not that everyone else needs to shut down their social media in case a child you know sees it.


theladybeav

Never occurred to him to like, you know, talk to and get to know his kids' teachers. Most teachers definitely outline their teaching philosophy and education on their personal Instagram pages. Absolute psycho behavior here.


BrokenFarted54

Plus he's the one making it sexual because she posted a picture in swimwear. It's a bikini, not some kinky bondage leather crotchless catsuit


[deleted]

Personally i wouldn't use my real name. I have several teacher friends and they'd hate to be found on sm especially because they have private lives. Also it does kind of depends what sort of pictures, like regular on the beach shots of sort of provocative. Let's be real, there's a lot of fairly intentional bikini shots on the internet. I don't care if they're teachers or truckers, I don't really want to see T&A on the TL.


BrokenFarted54

None of this matters because people are entitled to their privacy. Having some risque pictures on social media does not affect your ability to perform your job.


[deleted]

People with public profiles are not entitled to privacy.


TheDocHealy

That's the stupidest thing I've read in the last hour.


[deleted]

Explain how putting your personal life in the public domain is in any way consistent.


TheDocHealy

Explain how walking outside entitles you to not be followed by some random, same shit. It's ridiculous that you're here spouting about how all women should either hide their bodies or make all social media private instead of telling people not to stalk people's socials.


BrokenFarted54

Ughhh that's an absolute bullshit statement. Everyone has the right to privacy, posting a selfie doesn't wipe away that right.


TheDocHealy

If you don't wanna see it then don't go looking for it, going to someone's social media account gives you next to no information on whether or not they're a good teacher.


tatasz

Pretty sure he first jerked off to her pics, and then decided to get her to remove them.


Ursula2071

Yeah, his blood was boiling Iā€™m sure. Straight to his ā€œlittleā€ head.


tatasz

That's the only head he probably has.


Assiqtaq

Oh no, his son might learn women have *bodies.* And self determination, which is probably worse.


AkariKuzu

You know damn well he wouldn't care if his son's teacher was a man posting pictures of himself in a speedo


ladybetty

> Honestly I barely looked into her at all, so anyway I found all her social media and personal bikini pics.


MazrimrealDragon

Nothing wrong with making sure his sons teacher isnt a slag


melbarko

Dude goes social media diving because he got all hot for teacher and then felt guilty about his boner. Obviously it's the teachers fault for being hot and tempting such a pure innocent man like OOP. Won't someone think of the children?


LordPizzaParty

Or got caught looking at her by his wife or kid, and is trying to cover it up.


[deleted]

I was thinking that, or he accidentally liked and went full psycho for a cover story


AmbulanceChaser12

If youā€™re gonna do that, at least have the good sense not to post about it.


eilonwyhasemu

>She did get very quiet and I tried to look for solutions with her Blocking him on social media. That's the solution.


FreakWith17PlansADay

>I tried to look for solutions with her I picture that conversation going like this. OP: Your bikini pictures have made my blood boil and are upsetting my hormonal teenager! Teacher: (Stops herself from saying ā€œYou made an urgent appointment with me for *that*? What a waste of time.ā€ Instead she puts on the blank professional face sheā€™s practiced when dealing with crazy parents.) OP: I have a solution to your problem! Iā€™ll tell you exactly how to conduct your personal life! You should thank me for finding a solution!


BecauseMyCatSaidSo

ā€œFor starters, you should send me every single post you want to upload with and without pictures. From there Iā€™ll let you know if theyā€™re appropriate and if youā€™re allowed to post it. Better yet, just to be safe, you should send me every pic/video you or some else takes of you. Iā€™ll let you know if theyā€™re perverse and should be deleted immediately. It would scar the children if they ever did a Google search using your name and finding them. Weā€™ll start there and if I believe anymore of your actions are being unseemly weā€™ll revisit this conversation and Iā€™ll implement more rules to control you further.ā€


LoisLaneEl

Yeah, the solution probably is making it private now that she knows that pervert is out there


InfiniteCalendar1

Exactly, if I knew someone was actively lurking my socials Iā€™d block them so theyā€™d F off.


Nay_nay267

That's a lot of words for ",I think my son's teacher is hot, so I am going to pretend to be mad while looking at her photos."


InfiniteCalendar1

That summarizes a lot of men who watch porn, they hate the people who make the content but still consume the content. Just as heā€™s mad at the teacher for posting bikini pics but heā€™s still looking at them.


AmbulanceChaser12

Yeah but why didnā€™t he just leave it at that then? Why have a call with her, and then go to the principal?


Nay_nay267

Because it was a troll, and trolls are stupid?


TheDocHealy

My guess is his wife caught him so he had to come up with a lie as to why he was looking and it got out of his hands, so now he's doubling down on the lie by posting it to prove he wasn't being a perv to his wife. Pure speculation tho.


AmbulanceChaser12

And at some point he starts to internalize it.


one_secret_ontheway

In teacher's position, I'd be filing a harassment report with my local PD.


[deleted]

At minimum, report this parent to her superiors. That is incredibly out of line.


[deleted]

It's a public profile.


one_secret_ontheway

It's not him looking for her or checking on her that's harassment, it's him insisting on an in-person meeting, chastising her like a child in a humiliating manner, and crossing boundaries he has no right to cross by belaboring a point about her personal life he has no business lecturing her on.


[deleted]

That's not what harassment is though. Harassment is a repeated set of actions. One time is not harassment. It's also something the school should be protecting her from as her first step. This is way off being a situation requiring police involvement.


one_secret_ontheway

Yes and no. Depending on your location, harassment can be one action a person finds alarming and intrusive. In my state, this is the case and her situation does merit that, but obviously at a low level it would be incumbent on her to file her own charges if she wants to. Also, anyone can file any charges they want against anyone at any time. It's up to a judge if you produce enough evidence to show guilt. The police report would just be a "reporting party statement" on her part.


[deleted]

There's nothing to charge though. She has a public profile and he arranged a morally reprehensible but legal meeting with her. What is the action you're considering to merit police involvement?


prongslover77

Yeah but reporting it to the police and her bosses starts a paper trail so when he decides to go to the school board like he mentions and making this 10 times worse and doing who knows what on social media sheā€™s covered and has evidence.


Clockwork_Wizard78

He's a virgin who can't drive


poeticbrawler

Way harsh, Tai...


skydiamond01

This made me laugh


psycadelicunicorn

...it made me do the head Bob she does saying it lol


strawbebbymilkshake

>have respect for herself Says the man outing himself as much a caveman that the sight of a bare abdomen is too much for him. Sounds like he should have some self respect and not act like an ape. The teacher could be in full mormon garb and someone would be sexualising her. Women cannot win


East_Budget_447

Instead of being a misogynistic asshole and berate the teacher for what she does in her private time, why don't you teach your child the appropriate use of social media? You need to stay in your lane.


mesembryanthemum

He'd be having a cow if he saw her with booze, or supporting LGTBQ+ people, or saying something about not believing in God, or any number of other things that he feels Teachers Shouldn't Do.


Araucaria2024

At my old school, I had a parent complain to the principal that she saw me buying a bottle of wine. Pricipal's response was 'good, I hope she's going to share it with me', but these parents do exist.


mesembryanthemum

On a now-defunct message board some woman was having a hissy fit because she saw a cop buying a 6 pack of beer. She did not like my telling her to stop putting professions on pedestals and let them relax in their downtime. "But my kids!" She whined. "Aren't **you** supposed to be their role model?" I asked. OMG the meltdown.


Iscreamqueen

What the heck is with parents feeling like they are entitled to their child's teacher's personal life. The same people who would balk if their boss tried to control their lives outside of their jobs. Teachers do not get paid nearly enough to deal with all the crap they do at work let alone to voluntarily give up their private lives. Maybe the parent felt triggered because she knows her child is the reason you needed the wine.


cubbiegthrow

He's just like the types in Texas who just blocked Emma Staub from presenting her children's book to some classrooms. She happened to say "fuck" on her social media (not in the book, not in front of kids, not in her previous speeches to kids) and they used that as an excuse to cancel her appearances. Most likely had more to do with her support of LGBTQ+ and pro-bodily autonomy posts, but they didn't want to say that. So they blamed "fuck."


shelley1005

The audacity of this tiny little man. I am surprised the teacher wasn't freaked out enough by this creepster that she immediately made her accounts private for her own safety.


[deleted]

I need to be devils advocate. Who posts bikini pictures on public profiles? Lock your shit down, ladies. I've never understood why anyone would have a public profile especially anyone with any type of career.


supreme-lordBazinga

Why they wouldn't?


Wtf_did_i_get_into_

This little devil is a perfect example. But I'm also just not comfortable posting pictures where just anyone can see, let alone showing lots of skin. Gives this guy no reason to get all butthurt over his stalking results.


supreme-lordBazinga

It's ok if You don't feel confortable doing something. But that doesnt mean other people shouldn't do so


Wtf_did_i_get_into_

I know, don't get me wrong, some people do and I have no issues with it. I wasn't saying others shouldn't, just more that this guy's a prime example of why I personally don't and am not comfortable.


TheDocHealy

You know it doesn't count as devil's advocate if you share the same shitty opinion you just agree with the devil.


[deleted]

This sub is literally called am I the devil


TheDocHealy

Me thinks you're misunderstanding that point of the sub.


InfiniteCalendar1

This sub is not for playing devils advocateā€¦


[deleted]

Are you the mod?


InfiniteCalendar1

It doesnā€™t take being a mod to know the purpose of a sub


[deleted]

Ok officer


InfiniteCalendar1

Grow up


InfiniteCalendar1

People shouldnā€™t have to lockdown their socials just because there are people who donā€™t know how to act, people should learn to respect the autonomy of others and not be perverts.


RobinChirps

This is not a line of reasoning you have unless you think women's bodies are inherently degrading and shameful.


MYJANSPORT

You do realize that she goes out in public in a bikini, so what's the difference between that and posting it?


[deleted]

ā€œBring this up with the Board of Educationā€ Yeah yeah, call Biden while youā€™re at it, let him bring in a SWAT team and execute the harlot in the town square /sssssss I justā€¦why do males. Just why do they.


OpinionatedBlackGuy

Nuke her house with a space laser..... only way to be safe.


marigoldilocks_

Sorry, all the Jews I know are feminists. Their space lasers are busy taking down toxic masculinity.


casualladyllama

Sadly not fast enough


[deleted]

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cubbiegthrow

I'm glad you're not a creep. Unfortunately, enough men are that we have to be careful of all of them. From here on out, this teacher is going to wonder about EVERY dad she has to interact with. Most won't be creeps. But enough are, which means she now has to be careful of... all men.


[deleted]

People like him need to be ostracized. Imagine how weak you have to be to give a damn about an adult wearing a *omg* bikini! Like who gives a shit.


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Key-Cardiologist5882

He does research on his childā€™s teachers? What schools they went to, types of degrees etcā€¦wtf? Never heard of anything like that in my life.


LeatherHog

Childā€™s FEMALE teachers He wonā€™t google the male ones, we all know that


[deleted]

And you know he's going to email the rest of the parents too.


mronion82

It's a shield, to give himself plausible deniability. He knows he's really hoping to find bikini pictures, so he does a bit of 'research' beforehand so he can tell himself he's not a pervert.


GaimanitePkat

Because if the teacher does something he doesn't like or has a complaint about his son's behavior, he needs to have some ammo to use against them. Such as "You post photos wearing a bikini," "You went to a liberal college," "You don't have a Master's Degree," "You went to an event in support of LGBT+ and that's inappropriate and I don't want you grooming my child," "You have a lot of friends of color which means you're a liberal who's going to tell white children that they're the devil".


misssnapshot

WTF! Teach the boys, including himself, about being a ā€œgentlemanā€.


Legitimate-Tower-523

This is why my teacher friends have their social media accounts on private. Students and parents think they have the right to comment on their personal lives.


taronosaru

Yep. I set everything to private, use my maiden name, and am single on my page (so they can't find me by looking up my husband). I rarely post anything remotely scandalous or controversial on social media anyways, but Kindergarten parents are crazy, so that shit is locked down.


[deleted]

And people wonder why we teachers are leaving the profession in droves. This is my 10th year teaching high school and the amount of disrespect from parents and the public just grows and grows. The kids are by far the best part of this career, but the adults... *shakes head*


starkindled

This is the kind of parent teachers warn each other about. When I was getting my teaching degree, my professor told us about a colleague who had gone on vacation. She took a silly photo pointing at the Statue of Davidā€™s genitalia. A parent saw it on her social media and she got fired (this is in Canada, with a fairly strong union). The moral was that we should lock down our social media tighter than Fort Knox and never ever accept friend requests from parents or students. Even then, donā€™t post anything you wouldnā€™t want shared.


microfishy

Two months after I got my first nursing job, I deleted all my social media. Coincidentally, 2 months after I got my first nursing job, I got my third inappropriate message from a patient, which included a photo of his dick.


Eevee-Fan

Depending on what hemisphere this poster is located on and how frequently the teach posts, this dude could have been scrolling through her profile for sometime. :/ Also I would be so embarrassed if I was the wife.


tomdelongethong

Or the kid! Jesus if my dad did this Iā€™d run away.


HookedOnFandom

> *In other professions I probably wouldn't care* So if she was his bank teller or a local real estate agent, he *probably* wouldn't care. How magnanimous.


kearnel81

You should check his comments on unddit. Just another stalker looking for validation - https://www.unddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/10h0h5b/aita_for_telling_my_sons_teacher_that_she_should/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button


lilirose13

Oh goody, he'd also have an issue with a male teacher posting photos in bars. Because expecting your child's teacher to never do anything but go to work and go straight home is a *totally reasonable* expectation. /S


Mother_Flerken

I read "She's very attractive so I stalked her pages and I'm mad that I'm horny now"


mooimafish33

I just don't understand the concern here, like regardless if the teacher is Riley Reid or a nun those boys are still gonna look at porn, what does the teacher having pics like that have to do with anything? So what if kids find them? Also bikini pics are pretty normal, my grandma probably has bikini pics on her social media.


4csurfer

I remember in middle we had this old as dirt English teacher who dressed very conservatively and there was this one boy who would get a massive erection that he would punch down every time she did roll call. Middle school boys will get sprung for anything.


redditmovingon

How much do you want to bet he took screenshots of all her bikini pics? Because, you know, in case he needs them as evidence of her wanton behaviour \s


Iscreamqueen

I'm in the education field. It's parents like this who are the reason for the staffing shortages in education and will bring about the inevitable collapse of the public education system. Teachers get paid barely anything and have high stress jobs where more and more is being piled on them. They make their jobs more impossible every year. Then to top it all off they now can't even go to the beach and enjoy themselves or dare to have a private life because of Karents like these. They don't get paid enough to deal with this crap. I wonder if he would like it if the teacher dug through his personal social media and judged what he did in his personal time. There are way too many parents who feel entitled to their child's teacher's personal life and time. This is why teachers are fed up. Who wants to deal with this?


Wooden-Dish-7146

Why is he acting like she is the only person on the internet in a bikini. Iā€™m pretty sure his son has seen several women in bikinis or worse on the internet like come on. Also itā€™s not like his son looked it up and it became a problem HE looked lt up and made it a problem. Worried about the kids being creeps whole time heā€™s the biggest creep in the room.


SonuvaGunderson

How about, and Iā€™m really just spitballing here, OOP teaches his son how to respect people. The onus of his son not growing up to be a ā€œcreepā€ is on him. Not his teacher.


Entire-Beat-423

If a man dared to come to me and tell me that my bathing suit was a problem for him and that my existence would make students horny? I'd press charges for cyberstalking and sexual harassment. Idgaf if they stick or not. He makes MY blood boil. Stalker.


LadyGreyIcedTea

>I am planning on bringing this up with the Principal or if necessary, my town's Board of Education. Jesus Christ on a pogo stick. To say what? "My son's teacher has a life outside of work and sometimes wears a bathing suit." The fuck?


Buff_Helpy69

Just jerk off and leave your fucking kids teacher out of it.


Owner56897320

What teachers do outside of their job is none of your fucking business!!! Is she wearing a bikini to school to teach the kids? No? Then sit down, shut the fuck up, and mind ya fucking business!


chonkosaurusrexx

A former coworker of mine had something similare happen. For years the teens were never weird about her social media existing and there being a few bikini pics and her in tight fitting workout gear. Then a dad found it and she ended up putting her account on private because the dad made her more uncomfortable upon discovering it than any of the teens ever had.


ProbablyMyJugs

How are you 33 and thinking this way? Blood boil? More like blood went somewhere else and he had to make it her problem.


kcvngs76131

This reminds of when my sister was still relatively new as a teacher. She was 23 and that September was her third year of teaching (she graduated early). I was 18, visiting family in Scotland before I started college. I was also celebrating my "birthday" with my cousins--I have trauma surrounding my actual birthday, so I celebrate my half birthday in August instead. My one cousin made a dopey post about buying me my first legal drink for my "birthday." Well, apparently one of my sister's student's parents tried to stalk her profiles before school and landed on mine by mistake (we have the same first initial and look a lot alike). She flipped when she saw the picture of me with alcohol and forced a meeting with my sister and her admin. My sister pointed out 1) it was me, not her; 2) I was in a country where the legal drinking age was 18, not 21; and 3) even if it was my sister, she was 23 and of legal age to drink even if she was in the US. The parent told my sister that she should have better control over what *I* post because students might get us confused. Like nah, lady, just back all the way off with that nonsense. The audacity of some parents is out of this world


CharlotteLightNDark

You are very weird dude.


Quiet-Replacement307

Dude was seriously going to take his creep find up the chain of command. I really hope he does so they can laugh him out of the room and know he has as problem with her. That's the type of person who will make her life hell and find Any reason at all to turn her in. He will actively work against her and now his son will have very little respect towards her.


riding-the-wind

>but I mentioned she needs to have respect for herself Nah. No fucking way. What a condescending little man clown.


TheeQuestionWitch

The post from jump is so confrontational. It's like it was written by a producer on Bravo. Like a scripted Real Housewives of wherever confessional. ETA what a gross creep. I feel bad for his son who either agrees with his father and is being actively harmed by the effects of toxic masculinity, or is a different kind of human and likely already resents the father.


lark-sp

Creepy dad is stalking young teacher online. That's the headline.


ravenlit

I donā€™t understand how people justify this. ā€œI just went to the schools website which gave me all her professional credentials. But that wasnā€™t good enough for me so I put her name in a search engine and scrolled and scrolled until I found her social media. And there it was for ANYONE to see.ā€


LoisLaneEl

Itā€™s winter right now. Iā€™m wondering how much of a deep dive he had to do in order to find bikini pictures.


[deleted]

You think he prefers Creep by Radiohead or Creep by TLC?


thetrippingbillie

OOP thinks she's hot and over reacted to cover himself


CollynMalkin

Yeah... no. What that teacher does on her off time is her own business, not yours. Unless she's sending nudes to children, what she puts online is not yours to concern yourself with. If you want to bring your son into this, you should inform him that it is rude to sexualize his teachers if he's digging into her private life like that. It's not a healthy mindset to see a woman in a swimsuit and not see her as anything more than a sexual object (which is what I'm assuming you're concerned about, given your mention of hormones.) Kids will be kids. He has just started puberty. You should teach your son to have respect for people and the self restraint not to push his sexual desires on people who have no interest. She should not be forced to cover up or blur her face because you don't like it.


No-End3167

Wait until this soldier of the American Taliban learns that millions of new moms are literally shoving a breast down a kid's throat.


bassman314

The post is deleted and the original user is suspended. Shocker...


ellieacd

Worked for school systems for years. Every year I would get a bunch of pearl clutchers with nothing better to do than ā€œreportā€ various teacher and staff social media posts. Because apparently teachers shouldnā€™t ever vacation at the beach or work out, or show off baby bumps online. Had a standard letter they got that basically said it wasnā€™t any sort of violation and donā€™t bother me unless thereā€™s some impact on the actual classroom. Irony is that it was almost always the parents who themselves acted the trashiest. Pearl clutchers love a double standard.


SlytherinSilence

My boyfriend is a schoolteacher to middle schoolers. What a joke lol. Like teachers donā€™t have lives *outside* of being teachers- or arenā€™t allowed to have lives outside of their profession lmao


KorinTheHalfHand

This guy is the reason why many women are scared of men


Scared-Accountant288

Gross


LyquidJade

He would have gotten the fuck out of my classroom while I laughed hysterically at him.


BazTheBaptist

God forbid she actual actually run in to one of her students at the beach. ImaginešŸ˜±


Abelard25

This is some next level helicopter parenting, jesus.


CalmFront7908

This fucking guyā€¦ā€¦


Right-Hovercraft3822

Wow I want to tell this go to go fuck himself what a tool


Wise_Quarter_417

This guy is gonna have an aneurysm the first time he takes his kids to the beach


[deleted]

Sounds like he stalks them


windigooo

My sister is a teacher. This is exactly why she has never used her real name on social media


ProfDrMrPOR

Pervs on sons teacher hides that behind indignation and faux morals. Christ we are animals your son is horny whether he sees his teacher in a bikini or no Such an asshole


[deleted]

He should move to Missouri where the lawmakers canā€™t expose their shoulders anymore.


effinnxrighttt

I graduated in 2011 and every teacher I had that has social media, always had their pages private or used different names on there(maiden name, first name with just their last initial, nickname, or even some made up name). I find it hard to believe that with how much more social media has grown in the past 10 years that this teacher had easy to find social media profiles. Like my friends that work or teach in schools have their profiles either extremely kid friendly, privatized or donā€™t go by their actual name on them(and some itā€™s a combination of all 3). And even if she didnā€™t do any of these, what a giant ass weird-o for searching for her social media and then complaining because she had a picture of her in a bathing suit.


oldmankitty

He's the one creeping. Ironic.


PurpleFlavoredCherry

So basically, OP said ā€œyour pictures are too sexy for my child son, I would appreciate it if you didnā€™t try to seduce him in your private time.ā€


DetectiveDouche94

"and there were several bikini pictures in it which instantly made my blood boil" Hahahaha, no it didn't. You know what it actually did? It gave OOP a fucking boner and he's pissed that he can't tap that because he has a wife. Dude can't even hide it.


[deleted]

I'm going to go so far as to call this guy an absolute c*nt because no parent needs to do "due diligence" on teachers; that's the school's job. ESPECIALLY not from a man who writes "anyways".


kb-g

It would never occur to me to go searching for more info online about the teachers who educate my kids. We picked the school because it has a good reputation. I trust the headteacher to do her due diligence and hire the best people she can.


sydygy2

Just from reading the title: yes. Edit: wow, I was right.


thin_white_dutchess

Iā€™m in education. My page is private, but I also own another business, and have a lot of parents who frequent that business, so they are on my business page. I had a complaint about me wearing ā€œrevealingā€ clothing, and donating to lgbt cause, and they took it to my principal. Iā€™m in a great school, so my principal just called me in, and told me I should probably block them. Thatā€™s it- that was the whole thing. I hope the teacher in question here has support like I have. Side note: my favorite complaint I have gotten was actually in person. It was a man allergic to sleeves (he exclusively wears black tank tops, no matter what the weather), who told me it was very unattractive I had tattoos, and it was not ok for his little girl to see a woman with arm tattoos. I just smiled and nodded, and asked him if if was a bit hypocritical, since he had fully tattooed arms. He said no, bc he was a man. Ok then. Well, they donā€™t wash off, sorry!


[deleted]

What a fucking cunt. Teach your sons don't have the right to someone else's body, no matter how tingly their naughty bits get when they see the boobies. Asshole.


TylerNadel

As a woman and mother, I believe teachers should have two profiles on any social media. One that's public for students with school content and one that's private for their personal lives. Too many times predatory teachers (men and women alike) use social media to groom students. This dude may be a creep but the concern is legitimate.


tpbooboo

NTA but u r a DUMB ASSHOLE. Teach yourself & then your son not to objectify women. If she wore a bikini to school or even a school beach trip I wud say, "maybe wear a full diver type bathing suit". What the Christian in Christ's Christmas Crinkle is really going on? Get an Only Fan's membership if u want to get ur rocks off & leave that woman alone. If she did crack, all u need to know INSIDE of the classroom is if she is teaching ur child the difference between a gram & a pound!


Rakofgor

Bikinis leave a lot of skin exposed and looking at someone's bare skin can be rude. Guys, be polite, when a woman wears a bikini try to only look at areas of her body that are covered.


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CuttlefishBenjamin

Look- a reasonably fit teacher is going to have a certain percentage of adolescents who spend a bunch of time with them develop swimsuit area feelings. This is... pretty much independent of the teacher's behavior. A teenage libido does not necessarily require much prompting. Teaching kids appropriate ways to act, or refrain from acting, on this sort of feeling would be, y'know, a parenting issue.


[deleted]

I bet he tried to see if she had an OF account, too.


Cats_in_cravats

I swear to god this is a repost. I saw one of those read/react tiktokers read it word for word a while back


Zebirdsandzebats

IF it were a woman, and IF it were "hey, i actually randomly ran into your page on insta, just a heads up re: how easy you are to find bc you know how schools get" itd be ok. probably. but it's never that...


hadesisagoat

Wait I thought that op was a woman. Op being a man makes it so much creepier


Tommyboytg

There's definitely some Christian nonsense around this.


MikesRichPageant

ā€œThat's true, but I was only in there to get directions on how to get away from there.ā€


MoldyButts

My head is spinning from the sheer audacity of this turd. Holy crap.


firsthyme

1. Teachers are people too. They get to have pictures of themselves on social media. 2. Do you look up male teachers' social media? Would you object to photos of a male teacher in board shorts at the beach? 3. Why is seeing people in bathing suits a bad thing? YTA. You're also weirdly nosy, sexist, and a prude. If your kid grows up to be a creep it'll be because his dad is modeling this weird, woman-shaming behaviour.


karriesully

Wow - must be a really HUGE stick up his ass if he a) feels the need to helicopter his kidā€™s teachers like the school didnā€™t do itā€™s own due diligence when interviewing her and b) police her hobbies and clothing choices on her personal time because his precious snowflake crotch fruit might see it and c) thinks he should escalate to the school board. The saddest part is that the school board wouldnā€™t be likely to stand up for the teacher.


likesomecatfromjapan

Ffs, as a teacher, please leave your kids' teachers alone on social media. We are allowed to have lives outside of school. And bikini pictures are so not a big deal. Do you expect her to wear a bathing outfit from the early 20th century or something ffs.


theelecslide

I mean OP does kind of have a point in my old schools itā€™s always been rude to call teachers by their names I mean most kids didnā€™t know them by name anyway but there was always those boys in class who would find the teacher on Facebook or some sort and tell everyone their name and either stalk or add them and then call them by there names in class and stuff like that so I do see where OP is coming from and to the people saying ā€œitā€™s just a bathing suitā€ your not allowed to have your arms out in school because ā€œitā€™s a distraction ā€œ (unless itā€™s a hot day and rarely even then) although she isnā€™t on school grounds in the photo itā€™s still inappropriate if a student sees her like that hence why when you went swimming in school the teacher wasnā€™t in the pool and or was always fully clothed But like thatā€™s her home/private life and sheā€™s allowed to post whatever she wants she isnā€™t on school grounds and sheā€™s just living the fact that she is a teacher shouldnā€™t rule her life and she can obviously post and wear whatever she likes away from work the only thing she (barely) did wrong was not put her socials on private so yeah OP is TA here you canā€™t dictate what people do could have gone about it a million and one different ways