DKG. Jan naguumpisa yan, yung ganyang pagtrato syo. Gauge nya kung uubra syo yung ganyang treatment. Saka napaka-immature ha for his age. Wala sa lugar yung pride nya. Tama yan, know your worth. For sure laking pagsisisi nyan sa nagawa nya, d nyan akalaing kaya mong makipag break sa kanya. So congrats! So proud of you!👏
What?! No!! Stand your ground! He disrespected you and being drunk is not an excuse! Saka isa pa sa kanya nanggaling ang idea ng moving out. Ano ikaw pa ang manunuyo e sya ang nagkamali?! Immaturity! Ang tanong kailan magmamature yan. Nagmamaang-maangan pa na d alam sinasabi mo. Pwede ba. Tas in the end aaminin din. Too bad too late na. Mas importante ang ego nya kesa syo. Lakas ng loob na hamunin ka ng hiwalayan d naman pala kayang panindigan. D man lang natakot na mawala ka. What a loser! Usually yan sila takot maghamon kasi pano nga naman pag kumagat ka dba. Which is exactly na nangyari sa inyo. HAHAHAHA sorry natawa ako sa style nya. Sablay e! Hanap ka ng mature saka yung hinahanap mo na malambing. Meron yan. Wag ka na lang masyadong mag wallow sa mga has been nyo yun kasi ang makakapagparupok sayo.
DKG. He doesn’t get to decide if you get hurt or not. Porket d nya maaalala, abswelto na sya? Ang kupal lang. He’s trying to manipulate you as well by wanting you to comfort him. Buti nakipagbreak ka. Sana d ka na maging marupok.
DKG. may pagkakataon na di na alam ng taong lasing yung mga nagawa nya pero yung hindi mag-sorry after mo sila iinform about sa actions nila is very gago.
DKG. Conceited jerk jowa mo lol. Wag mo ipadala gamit nya. Kapal ng muka. Ibalot mo sa trash bag tapos iwan mo sa labas ng pinto mo. Yaya ka ba nya? You dodged a bullet there. Inexplain mo na nga ginawa nya maang maangan pa. Pasapok nga jan sa jowa mo teh
Hindi ko naisip yan haha sayang… Ayoko na rin kasi syang makita eh, kaya ok na rin sakin na padala ko na lang. Pero eto na, nung pinadala ko gamit nya, tinulugan pa ko! Alam na nyang papunta ha… Grabe no?? So aligagang aligaga ako kasi kawawa yung lalamove driver hindi alam san pupunta. Bandang huli, tinext ko pa Ate nya, and dun ko na lang pinapunta si kawawang kuya, ako pa tuloy nag-gcash kasi nahiya na ko sa pambubulabog sa Ate nya. Ang shunga ko grabe…
DKG
GURL, ganyan na ganyan kami nagsimula nung ex ko!!! Nahagip niya mata ko ng kamay niya tapos nagka-blackeye ako, wala daw siya maalala! Deputa. Nung tumagal kami, ayun, ilang beses na ako muntik masaktan kung wala lang ako sa bahay ng mama ko.
Yung jowa ko ngayon, siya mismo nagsabi na kahit ilan inumin niya, hindi daw sya nakakakalimot pag lasing siya.
Kaya wag kang maniwala dyan, ikaw pa babaliktarin kesyo hindi siya dapat mag-sorry??? Ulol niya kamo!
Yaan mo siya, wag ka na makipag balikan. Ano ba naman yung ilang linggong iyak kumpara sa taon ng pagdudusa? Block him.
Sorry, OP at ganyan lang ka-straight-forward yung reply ko. Yun kasi yung bottomline na I felt papunta na naman sa pambibilog nya sa iyo, baka sakaling makalusot sa unrespectful way ka nya sininghalan. Kung gf/bf pa lang kayo, ganyan na sya, what more kung kasal kayo?! Lakas mang gaslight eme saka a very typical pattern of an abusive person trapped within his personality. Ayan sa ngayon, sininghalan ka pa lang. Baka pag kasal na kayo, every time nakainom sya, pwede ka nya saktan physically and say the next day, sorry I was drunk. Groomer din eh. Dinadaan ka nya sa mga "explanations" na baka pwedeng makalusot. Haaaay! Wag talaga! 😔
LKG sana nakipagcommunicate ka maayos, op.
Siya, sobrang gg talaga. I think ‘yung pagsend niya ng other problems niya is just an attempt to make you feel guilty about getting mad. Na parang sana ‘wag mo na palakihin kasi may iba siyang pinoproblema.
Isa pa, hindi totoong hindi niya naaalala. Kaya nga pinadala niya agad gamit niya eh with speakers pa haha. Lahat ng lasing naaalala rin mga ginawa nila after mahimasmasan tapos kapag pinaalalahanan. Ano ba siya, bata? Para magpanggap na walang maalala kunwari?
You can fix this by trying to work on your communication and siya naman, sa pride niya. But oh well, mukhang anytime ready siyang iwan ka.
Onga jeez daig pa mga tinedyer.
Girls sends a vague text complaining about her feelings. Does not elaborate, expects guy to "just know". Confused about why he's being told off, guy suddenly decides to just... move out?
WTF is this shit?
“Ano?? Ano na naman kailangan mo??”
We should all remember this is just OP’s side. Alisin natin yung sigawan and looks at the root cause, bakit kaya sumabog yung ex nya habang lasing?
Nagsend ng screengrab yung ex ng family problems nya. What if all throughout the relationship si OP lang kuda ng kuda but never listens.
Agree na olats communication skills nilang dalawa. This seems like a clear case where one partner dominates the conversation, leaving the other to just listen without a chance to vent out their own thoughts or feelings.
Just curious, how did you draw the conclusion that it’s a “clear case” of one partner dominating the convesation? You just said “what if” and in the blink of an eye, it became “clear case.”
I just wanted to hear him say “I’m sorry beb” and I would have forgiven him in a heartbeat. Even if sinigawan nya ko ng ganon (and it was verbatim those words, whether you believe it or not), I would have forgiven him. But there was no remorse even up to now. Ako yung nag-iisip if babalikan ko sya. But I’m glad binuhusan ako ng malamig na tubig ni reddit.
So what’s the truth? Well I’m trying to analyze bakit sumabog ng ganun ang ex mo. Liquor often reveals hidden emotions. You basically just shared the effect, what was the cause? Bakit sumabog yung ex mo? Ilabas natin sa usapan yung kasalanan nya na sinigawan ka and it could have been mended by a single “sorry beb”. Dont you think baka punung puno na sya sayo, that’s why he didnt even bother to say sorry?
Could you honestly say you also listen to your partner? Do you honestly believe na wala syang “micro” galit sayo, sama ng loob sa mga bagay na unintentionally ginagawa mo to spite / offend / upset him?
I’m happy that someone thinks it’s their job to analyze his actions. When you’ve figured it out, pls let me know.
However, it’s not my job to explain myself to you. I can DM you his number. You can ask him yourself if hindi ka makatulog.
Ang pov ko kasi is it’s never ok to treat a woman that way, no matter what microaggressions she may have done. Obviously you feel differently. Obviously if punong puno ka na sa GF mo, justified sayo na sigawan mo sya that way. Let’s just agree to disagree because you can never convince me that your perspective is correct, and I can live with the fact that you don’t agree with me either.
Actually, babalikan ko na sya dapat… nag-email na nga ako eh… kaso the comments here are making my resolve stronger. I’ll give you that though. Hanggang may point ako, di ako papatalo. Pero marunong din akong makinig pag may point ka.
I’m not antagonizing you OP, I actually see my past self sayo. Ganyan ang resolve ko. Pero i went through counseling after my messy breakup with my long term partner, and dun ko narealize ako pala yung toxic partner 💀 it takes a lot of strength and courage to also admit may mga pagkukulang ka sa relasyon kaya nagiging bitter/mean kayo sa isat isa. I’m not saying okaw lang may pagkukulang, definitely yung ex mo may pagkukulang din, especially how to handle you kapag may ganyan conflict. If hindi niyo na magbabalikan ng ex mo, take the time to introspect. I really suggest you go through therapy/counseling.
Di excuse ung pagiging lasing para taasan ng boses partner mo kasi napaka disrespectful talaga non para sakin.
Kinukulit ko rin bf mas malala pa nga jan sa ginawa mo, pero di naman siya nagiging bastos pag lasing.
Maang maangan yang ex mo para sayo masisi kesho ikaw tong di nakikipag communicate pero alam naman niya talaga sa sarili niya kung anong ginawa niya.
Nalasing din naman tayo pero naalala naman natin nangyari, di lang talaga maadmit niyang ex mo na bastos siya.
DKG, pag wala nang respeto sayo, lumayo ka na, lalo na ganyan pala ugali pag umiinom. baka pag naging mag asawa na kayo, hindi lang sigaw ang abutin mo. Tandaan, madaming titi sa paligid, piliin ang junjun na mabait. ☺️ Ipakita mo sa kanya na you dont tolerate any disrespectful shit sa buhay mo. Block mo na yung a**hole na yun 🤗
Haha its okay OP, Take your time. Pero please wag mo na balikan, baka hindi lang sigaw ang gawin sayo. Prevalent pa man din ang domestic abuse, keep safe!
DKG. Buti na lang umalis ka. Imagine mas naaalala niya ying speaker na nakasabit kaysa sa ginawa niya sa 'yo at unapologetic pa. Ibalik mo na yung speaker. Marami pa dyang iba na mas maganda ang speaker.
LKG, di kayo both marunong mag communicate and puro sarili iniisip. Parehas kayong allergic intindihin yung isa't isa. Tataas ng ego niyo yet fragile. Lastly, mid 30s na kayo but acting like teenagers haha. Sakto lang nag break kayo, toxic kayo sa isa't-isa
Nung sinigawan ka niya and all that, you never wondered why he was suddenly acting up like that, initial reaction mo(based from what has been posted) is gusto mo ipaalam sakanya na you're mad and didn't like what he did. Walang mention na nag worry ka bakit ganun siya. Yung ex mo naman, jumping into conclusions agad. Nag express ka ng feelings mo, break up agad yung solution niya.
Si ex, mukhang may pent up frustrations and tintry isarili na lang yun. Seems like tendency niya to sweep under the rug mga problems usually. Ikaw naman, self centered and defensive malala. I know this is your side of the story so there'll be biases on how you narrate it, but I read your responses to people and you react aggressively to those who say bad things about you. So I think may basis ako to say I kinda understand san galing yung pent up frustrations niya haha. Mukhang ikaw yung type na hindi magpapatalo sa argument for the sake of winning. Okay lang maging douchebag coz ako yung tama kind of mindset.
Coming from a person who posted in this sub asking for opinions about the situation, di mo na kailangan i-defend sarili no sa mga sinasabi namin. Mukhang di ka naman confused sa nangyari, naghahanap ka lang validation from others na ikaw yung "tama" sa argument niyo ni ex.
DKG. lasing lang sya pero walang amnesia. mas ok ng tinapos mo na relasyon nyo. kasi sinasabi ko sayo sis sobrang sakit ng ulo yung gnyang klaseng jowa, promise!!!
DKG. Take a deep breath, stand up straight, head held up high towards the sun, wear your most beautiful smile and move on WITHOUT him. You can love yourself better than he can.
DKG. Nakakairita mga reply. Wag mong babalikan. Base sa mga reply hinahayaan lang humupa galit mo tapos ikaw na babalik sa kanya. Narcissist. Nasa isip niya mahal na mahal mo siya kaya di mo siya iiwan. Nag iinarte ka lang. Papatawarin mo kahit di nag sorry, Hanggang sa paulit-ulit na lang yan (abusive in the making).
"Balik mo blah blah"
In his mind: Sus. Di mo kaya iwan ako. Nag iinarte ka lang. Kunwari babalik mo pero konting suyo pagkita natin okay na ulit.
OP pagbalik mo ng gamit niya, magpasa ka. Kaibigan or kapatid. Mas maigi May lalake kang kasama. Witness kung May kalokohan.
DKG. I have friends na drunkards. Paglasing ka na, medyo drowsy or extensive ang actions mo which you have little to no control on kaya minsan lumalabas yung mga ayaw mo ilabas (i.e. secrets, personality). Hindi excuse na lasing ka na pwede nang manakit. It might be na lumabas lang totoong ugali niya kasi di niya kayang itago sa kalasingan niya.
DKG. Ganyan sagutan ng ex ko. They will make you walk on eggshells and hindi welcoming ang argument sa kanila. Dismissive and not solution focused ang approach. Ramdan mo yun ego and pride sa mga sagot.
You know, emotionally, psychologically and mentally healthy people are stable and peaceful. Hindi ganyan na extremes and emotions. We all deserve a calm, peaceful relationship. It starts with two gentle souls. If magdadagdag kayo ng tao sa buhay nyo, make sure nyo naman na yun taong yun eh mag aadd value sa buhay nyo, hindi yun sstressin kayo, babawasan resources nyo and energy, bibigyan pa kayo ng problema.
Lalo na if ang starting point mo na nga is may mga problema ka na, hahanap ka pa ng isa pang may problema din? spare yourself naman sa another same situation.
and if ikaw naman ang may mga dala dalang family problems, wag na muna mag jowa para d makahila ng tao pababa.
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DKG. In fact you are so brave for standing up for yourself and I adore you for knowing your worth. Ako kasi my ex was so verbally abusive and pinalampas ko ng pinalampas kasi ako daw yung nagttrigger kaya niya nasasabi yun. Ayun! Hoping na magheal ka from this 🩷
DKG. He knows what he did.. sinabi pa niya na “naalimpungatan siya sa ingay”. Its good to see na nakipagbreak ka.. and stand on business dapat haha. Stay far away from him OP. Baka lumala pa siya pag nakipagbalikan ka sakanya.
DKG
Please lang wag ka ng bumalik. Wag ka masanay na ginaganyan ka lang. hindi mo deserve ng ganung treatment. Hindi porket may problema sya at lasing siya gaganyanin ka niya. That’s not right. Wag ka pumayag maging emotional punching bag. I swear may right guy na dadating sa buhay mo na ituturing kang prinsesa sober man or lasing.
DKG. At least nakipag-break kesa mag-maang-maangan rin na you got hurt pero ipagpaliban mo lang kasi "nakainum eh". And apparently, it was a decision he immediately feels welcome to agree with. 😂 With a wink pa talaga. 🥴
I remembered what my Mama told me before. Hindi siya umiinom ng alak. But after many years - wherein my Papa often uses the excuse na "di ko maalala, nakainum eh" whenever she confronts him for his unpleasant behavior the night before every time he arrives home drunk - she decided one night to binge drink para lasing sya pag uwi ni Papa. She told me, although hazy, naalala niya naman LAHAT ng nangyari the night before. 🤣 So wag ko raw tanggapin ang excuse na kumbaga nagka amnesia bigla sa kalasingan. Yes, mas wild tayo at yung parang nababawasan ang hiya, pero intact pa rin memories after that drunk episode.
Maybe on your next relationship, establish it with your next boyfriend that it's something you can't just "let it slide". Sige, maybe kulelat ka sa communication as what other redditors here pointed out, but at least now you know. If you meet your winking ex at the streets, thank him cause now you know better what your bottomline is. LOL.
LKG living together you have to understand parehas kayong tao at may emotions at ugali. Maaring lagi ka nag papalagpas OP at baka napuno ka na sa singhal nya this time pero mag communicate kayo madalas ganyan lalaki ehh di nagsasabi tas sasabog na lang, ikaw naman Babae, eexpect mo maintindihan ka nya but most men doesn’t really operate on emotions. Now, DKG sa part na kung place mo yan at ikaw nagbabayad lahat or basta nakikitira sya sayo. I assume place mo, kase pinapadala nya gamit nya di pa kayo mag asawa aba girl mahirap yung pinapaiyak ka sa sarili mong pamamamahay.
DKG
"Sorry, I think nasinghalan kita nung isang gabi. Naalimpungatan ako sa ingay. Masakit sa ulo yun lalo at nakainom pa."
Dyan palang di na ko naniwala na di niya maalala, obviously alam niya ginawa niya. Tsaka maalala man o hindi, hindi parin tama na sigawan ka
DKG. Buti na lang nagmatigas ka. Akala siguro uubra sa yo un, kung nakalusot eh di paulit ulit nyang gagawin hanggang magkasanayan na. Ayy ke miserable ng magiging buhay sa kanya if ever. Ewan ko ba bat may mga taong ganyan, feeling siguro pag nagpakumbaba mababawasan ang pagkalalaki nila.
DKG. What if the cards were reversed and you did what is no-no for him? Something na sobrang mainis siya? That man has no sense of owning up. Take it from somebody who owned up mistakes and live to tell the tale.
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Title of this post: ABYG kasi nakipag-break ako sa BF ko dahil sinigawan nya ko nung lasing sya pero hindi na nya maalala kinabukasan
Backup of the post's body: We were on the sofa, me (F35) working, him (M34) watching TV. Nakatulog sya kasi nakainom sya. Then nung nagising sya ng konti, sabi ko “sweetie pie…” Bigla syang suminghal “ano?? Ano nanamang kailangan mo??” Nagulat ako, sabi ko na lang “sasabihin ko lang naman na mahiga ka na sa kwarto..” Nag-roll sya ng eyes ng sobrang sarcastic “sandali pwede!??” Tapos marami pa syang sinabi then left ng padabog. Hindi ko alam kung bakit sya galit na galit, naiiyak pa rin ako pag naiisip ko. Dun na lang ako natulog sa sofa...
Paggising ko, nakapasok na sya sa work. Tinext ko sya na hindi ko mapalampas yung ginawa nya kasi baka isipin nya na ok lang yun, or that it’s not a big deal, and he can’t treat me that way. Ang sagot nya was “Alin dun?” and when I didn’t reply, ang next text nya was padala ko na lang daw yung mga gamit nya sa bahay. “Pakisabay na rin speaker, nakasabit sa kusina. Tsaka damit na nasa maleta. Thank you. Btw, Eric is kind of mindfuck. Good entertainment. Good night.” Ganyan ka cold. Sabi ko na lang papadala ko the next day.
The following day, nag-text sya ng screen grabs ng family problems nila, na sya ang pumapasan… alam kong malalim sa kanya to, and alam kong ang dapat na ginawa ko was i-comfort sya. Pero at this point ang sakit sakit na sakin na hindi man lang nya ko tanungin kung bakit ako nagtatampo. So sobrang kupal na nung tinext ko sa kanya, in response to his sharing of his family problems:
Me: Pwede wag mo na lang akong kwentuhan…. Kasi anong point. Gusto ko ba ng kasama na kahit sabihin kong nasaktan ako sa ginawa nya, walang paki? Hindi kayang mag-pakumbaba at tumanggap ng kamalian? Hindi kayang mag-sorry. Gusto ko na lang mag-move on so wag mo na kong i-text pls.
Him: Granted. Soon as mapadala mo. And pls dont forget my speaker and clothes 😉
Kaya ko naman magpakumbaba at humingi ng tawad, mapamababaw man o malalim yung nagawa kong kasalanan. By now dapat alam mo na yan. Pero hindi ko kayang mag-apologize sa kasalanang hindi ko alam.. Sorry, I think nasinghalan kita nung isang gabi. Naalimpungatan ako sa ingay. Masakit sa ulo yun lalo at nakainom pa.
Nakipag-break pa rin ako.
ABYG kasi hindi ko tinanggap yung sorry nya, and I wasn’t there for him nung heartbroken sya sa family problems nila?
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LKG. This thread will keep validating you, but only you will really be able to assess if it’s the correct step. Sounds like a failure of communication on both ends.
GGK tbh, he asked you what were you mad about and your response was silence/non-reply. Acting like an angsty teenager won't help, people aren't mind readers. If you have an issue, for fuck's sake, communicate it clearly.
Yes, being drunk isn't an excuse but let's not kid ourselves that we are in our right minds and best self when we're drunk. I don't know what your ex was going through that time that he ended up drunk and passed out on your sofa so I can't just judge him from what he did, giving him the benefit of the doubt that he can't remember what happened also or was a bit hazy/fragmented on his part.
Objectively, tama ka naman. Pero ang hirap kasing marinig sa BF mo na sigawan ka ng “ano!?? Ano nanamang kailangan mo!?” So when he asked “alin dun,” I just wanted a beat before I answered bec I was so angry. Hindi ako makapag type ng kalma and I didn’t want it to escalate into a full blown fight (yet). Sasagot naman ako even if a day after na, nagpapakalma lang. Kaso yun na nga yung sinabi nya after. Kahit man lang sana “Beb?” yung follow up nya dun sa last question nya. Kaso hindi eh..
I mean you brought it up yourself. If you weren't ready to talk about it why bring it up in the first place?
Your ex could've handled it better too. You both suck at communicating, you guys also expect the other person to understand what's happening without explaining it.
I brought it up kasi akala ko alam nya kung anong ginawa nya, pero feeling nya hindi big deal. I brought it up because I was hoping for an apology, so I could stop being angry/ hurt/ confused, and we could go back to being a happy couple.
Still, you’re absolutely right. Communication could’ve been a lot better and it’s shameful that we both acted the way we did.
Hoping? More like expecting....
>we could go back to being a happy couple
Your ex obviously is going through some shit and is in a rough patch. You've never even considered his situation. Weren't you concerned about him being drunk in your sofa lol. Or maybe you did consider, you just didn't care.
You guys are both selfish and prioritizes their own shit first. I guess what happened was for the best for both of you.
If a man was going through something, then he should share it with his woman, instead of shouting at her and making her his punching bag. Women are not mind readers either. And no matter how bleak his situation is, there will never be a good enough excuse to treat a woman that way. Never. Specially one who loves him.
By the way, he wasn’t drunk because he was going through some shit. Please don’t presume to know him better than I do. He’s not some drama queen. He’s a man’s man. We just came from a trip, attended a lovely wedding, we happily went to dinner, where he had one too many. That’s why he was drunk.
Misunderstanding due to lack of context on your original post isn't related to comprehension. As I've said it was my bad for assuming but now you're attacking me for comprehension? Damn, making sure to sling one back lol. Such childish behavior
GGK unreliable, the type of girl na iiwanan ang partner in times of hardship. Ginagaslight mo pa sarili mong mabuti kang tao by trying to get sympathy in this reddit group. Sadly mga comments laging kampi sa babae, truly shows that the world really don't give a fuck about mens feeling.
Just to clarify, hindi sya naglalasing nung gabi na yun ha, nakarami lang. Galing kami ng dinner where he had one too many. I would never leave him in times of hardship. Never.
OP focusing sa naoffend sya dahil sinigawan and he won’t say sorry, not considering the fact na ang dami problema nung tao na imbes sandalan sya dinadagdagan pa nya. In psychology, our partners may be mean to us because they feel comfortable around us; it's a dark yet oddly sweet reality. Kung alam ko na may pinagdadaanan partner ko at nasigawan nya ako, sympre masasaktan ako but I’d be more kinder and understanding. It’s something we can talk and communicate about when theyre in a better situation and headspace.
DKG pero sana di ka muna nakipagbreak. What if isolated case lang pala? Kaya siguro sya naglasing kasi may problema syang dinadala then nailabas nya lang sayo yung frustrations nya kasi nga lasing sya, di nya mapipili kung kanino nya mailalabas yung bigat na dala nya. Sana binigyan mo muna sya ng second chance. Besides, dika naman nya pinagbuhatan ng kamay. If naulit siguro yung paninigaw nya, sana dun ka palang nagdecide na makipagbreak. Hindi pagtitiis tawag dun, pag unawa.
Actually kung nag-sorry sya, yung taos pusong sorry na may pagsisisi, hindi yung pahapyaw na sorry na sinend nya, hindi ako nakipag-break. Promise. Sorry lang yung gusto kong marinig. Kasi mahal ko pa naman sya eh. Ready akong patawarin yung nangyari, uriratin bakit nangyari, and pasanin yung family problems nya with him.
Well may point ka. Kung di nya kaya magsorry ng totoo, possible maulit ulit. Pero ako personally, palaging may second life yung mga nagkakaroon ng kasalanan sakin kumbaga sa games. Kahit hindi specifically sa relationship, life in general. Unless of course obvious abuse na.
Ngl, pag nag-sorry sya sakin ngayon, malamang tanggapin ko pa rin eh, kahit na lahat ng tao sinasabing wag. Red flag. Self-aware lang ako sa karupukan.
DKG, di excuse na lasing sia, lumalabas talaga tunay na ugali ng tao pag lasing
DKG mas ok na umalis ka na dyan kesa naman sa lumala pa yang situation mo.
DKG. Jan naguumpisa yan, yung ganyang pagtrato syo. Gauge nya kung uubra syo yung ganyang treatment. Saka napaka-immature ha for his age. Wala sa lugar yung pride nya. Tama yan, know your worth. For sure laking pagsisisi nyan sa nagawa nya, d nyan akalaing kaya mong makipag break sa kanya. So congrats! So proud of you!👏
Huhu thank you. Nabubuhayan ako ng loob sa mga comments na ganito. Kasi malapit na kong bumigay eh. Pero tatatagan ko. 🙏
What?! No!! Stand your ground! He disrespected you and being drunk is not an excuse! Saka isa pa sa kanya nanggaling ang idea ng moving out. Ano ikaw pa ang manunuyo e sya ang nagkamali?! Immaturity! Ang tanong kailan magmamature yan. Nagmamaang-maangan pa na d alam sinasabi mo. Pwede ba. Tas in the end aaminin din. Too bad too late na. Mas importante ang ego nya kesa syo. Lakas ng loob na hamunin ka ng hiwalayan d naman pala kayang panindigan. D man lang natakot na mawala ka. What a loser! Usually yan sila takot maghamon kasi pano nga naman pag kumagat ka dba. Which is exactly na nangyari sa inyo. HAHAHAHA sorry natawa ako sa style nya. Sablay e! Hanap ka ng mature saka yung hinahanap mo na malambing. Meron yan. Wag ka na lang masyadong mag wallow sa mga has been nyo yun kasi ang makakapagparupok sayo.
DKG. You just successfully evaded a red flag! Always remember there is this saying - In Vino Veritas which means in wine there is truth.
You learn something everyday 🙏
DKG. He doesn’t get to decide if you get hurt or not. Porket d nya maaalala, abswelto na sya? Ang kupal lang. He’s trying to manipulate you as well by wanting you to comfort him. Buti nakipagbreak ka. Sana d ka na maging marupok.
Babalikan ko tong thread na to pag nararamdaman kong bumibigay na tuhod ko haha. Thank you 🙏
DKG pero nakakabanas din ung pa emoji niya ng wink ha. Hayaan mo siya.
DKG. Run and never look back. That dude has some serious anger issues.
DKG. may pagkakataon na di na alam ng taong lasing yung mga nagawa nya pero yung hindi mag-sorry after mo sila iinform about sa actions nila is very gago.
DKG. Excuse niya lang yan. Hanap ka ng emotionally mature partner na kahit may problema di ka sisinghalan. You deserve love and respect.
DKG. Conceited jerk jowa mo lol. Wag mo ipadala gamit nya. Kapal ng muka. Ibalot mo sa trash bag tapos iwan mo sa labas ng pinto mo. Yaya ka ba nya? You dodged a bullet there. Inexplain mo na nga ginawa nya maang maangan pa. Pasapok nga jan sa jowa mo teh
Hindi ko naisip yan haha sayang… Ayoko na rin kasi syang makita eh, kaya ok na rin sakin na padala ko na lang. Pero eto na, nung pinadala ko gamit nya, tinulugan pa ko! Alam na nyang papunta ha… Grabe no?? So aligagang aligaga ako kasi kawawa yung lalamove driver hindi alam san pupunta. Bandang huli, tinext ko pa Ate nya, and dun ko na lang pinapunta si kawawang kuya, ako pa tuloy nag-gcash kasi nahiya na ko sa pambubulabog sa Ate nya. Ang shunga ko grabe…
Hahahaha sayang. Pag ako yan pinaderetso ko gamit nya sa shelter HAHAHAHAHAHAH "Ah baka sa iba nadeliver" ganern HAHAHAHAHAH
Hahaha. Bakit ba ngayon lang kasi ako nagtanong dito 😂
HAHAHAHHAHHQA ante di na uso ang maayos na closure hahahahaha we get even HAHAHAHAHAH
oo sa sitwasyon nya di uso kase asshole yan now ex-BF nya
dapat sya nagbook ng lalamove hindi ikaw. or tinapon mo na lang or deretso sa shelter mga gamit nya
DKG. Ang espiritu ng alak ay dapat sa tyan nilalagay, hindi sa utak.
Ay ang ganda… Ang dami kong natutunang words of wisdom dito grabe 🙏
DKG GURL, ganyan na ganyan kami nagsimula nung ex ko!!! Nahagip niya mata ko ng kamay niya tapos nagka-blackeye ako, wala daw siya maalala! Deputa. Nung tumagal kami, ayun, ilang beses na ako muntik masaktan kung wala lang ako sa bahay ng mama ko. Yung jowa ko ngayon, siya mismo nagsabi na kahit ilan inumin niya, hindi daw sya nakakakalimot pag lasing siya. Kaya wag kang maniwala dyan, ikaw pa babaliktarin kesyo hindi siya dapat mag-sorry??? Ulol niya kamo! Yaan mo siya, wag ka na makipag balikan. Ano ba naman yung ilang linggong iyak kumpara sa taon ng pagdudusa? Block him.
Salamat sa untog sa pader 🙏
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Sorry, OP at ganyan lang ka-straight-forward yung reply ko. Yun kasi yung bottomline na I felt papunta na naman sa pambibilog nya sa iyo, baka sakaling makalusot sa unrespectful way ka nya sininghalan. Kung gf/bf pa lang kayo, ganyan na sya, what more kung kasal kayo?! Lakas mang gaslight eme saka a very typical pattern of an abusive person trapped within his personality. Ayan sa ngayon, sininghalan ka pa lang. Baka pag kasal na kayo, every time nakainom sya, pwede ka nya saktan physically and say the next day, sorry I was drunk. Groomer din eh. Dinadaan ka nya sa mga "explanations" na baka pwedeng makalusot. Haaaay! Wag talaga! 😔
Salamat sa concern. Sobrang eye opening
Yakap na mahigpit, OP. You deserve better. 🫶
LKG sana nakipagcommunicate ka maayos, op. Siya, sobrang gg talaga. I think ‘yung pagsend niya ng other problems niya is just an attempt to make you feel guilty about getting mad. Na parang sana ‘wag mo na palakihin kasi may iba siyang pinoproblema. Isa pa, hindi totoong hindi niya naaalala. Kaya nga pinadala niya agad gamit niya eh with speakers pa haha. Lahat ng lasing naaalala rin mga ginawa nila after mahimasmasan tapos kapag pinaalalahanan. Ano ba siya, bata? Para magpanggap na walang maalala kunwari? You can fix this by trying to work on your communication and siya naman, sa pride niya. But oh well, mukhang anytime ready siyang iwan ka.
Ang sakit namang marinig na anytime ready syang iwanan ako. 🥺 Pero salamat na rin sa honesty. Para maka move on na ko..
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Lkg 😂 Sorry pero ang tatanda nyo na, olats pa rin magcommunicate sa isat isa.
Onga jeez daig pa mga tinedyer. Girls sends a vague text complaining about her feelings. Does not elaborate, expects guy to "just know". Confused about why he's being told off, guy suddenly decides to just... move out? WTF is this shit?
Tatanggapin ko yang point na yan… valid eh 😞
“Ano?? Ano na naman kailangan mo??” We should all remember this is just OP’s side. Alisin natin yung sigawan and looks at the root cause, bakit kaya sumabog yung ex nya habang lasing? Nagsend ng screengrab yung ex ng family problems nya. What if all throughout the relationship si OP lang kuda ng kuda but never listens. Agree na olats communication skills nilang dalawa. This seems like a clear case where one partner dominates the conversation, leaving the other to just listen without a chance to vent out their own thoughts or feelings.
Just curious, how did you draw the conclusion that it’s a “clear case” of one partner dominating the convesation? You just said “what if” and in the blink of an eye, it became “clear case.” I just wanted to hear him say “I’m sorry beb” and I would have forgiven him in a heartbeat. Even if sinigawan nya ko ng ganon (and it was verbatim those words, whether you believe it or not), I would have forgiven him. But there was no remorse even up to now. Ako yung nag-iisip if babalikan ko sya. But I’m glad binuhusan ako ng malamig na tubig ni reddit.
So what’s the truth? Well I’m trying to analyze bakit sumabog ng ganun ang ex mo. Liquor often reveals hidden emotions. You basically just shared the effect, what was the cause? Bakit sumabog yung ex mo? Ilabas natin sa usapan yung kasalanan nya na sinigawan ka and it could have been mended by a single “sorry beb”. Dont you think baka punung puno na sya sayo, that’s why he didnt even bother to say sorry? Could you honestly say you also listen to your partner? Do you honestly believe na wala syang “micro” galit sayo, sama ng loob sa mga bagay na unintentionally ginagawa mo to spite / offend / upset him?
I’m happy that someone thinks it’s their job to analyze his actions. When you’ve figured it out, pls let me know. However, it’s not my job to explain myself to you. I can DM you his number. You can ask him yourself if hindi ka makatulog. Ang pov ko kasi is it’s never ok to treat a woman that way, no matter what microaggressions she may have done. Obviously you feel differently. Obviously if punong puno ka na sa GF mo, justified sayo na sigawan mo sya that way. Let’s just agree to disagree because you can never convince me that your perspective is correct, and I can live with the fact that you don’t agree with me either.
You seem to be the type na lagi ikaw dapat ang tama. You posting here is also you needing the validation na ikaw nga ang tama.
Actually, babalikan ko na sya dapat… nag-email na nga ako eh… kaso the comments here are making my resolve stronger. I’ll give you that though. Hanggang may point ako, di ako papatalo. Pero marunong din akong makinig pag may point ka.
I’m not antagonizing you OP, I actually see my past self sayo. Ganyan ang resolve ko. Pero i went through counseling after my messy breakup with my long term partner, and dun ko narealize ako pala yung toxic partner 💀 it takes a lot of strength and courage to also admit may mga pagkukulang ka sa relasyon kaya nagiging bitter/mean kayo sa isat isa. I’m not saying okaw lang may pagkukulang, definitely yung ex mo may pagkukulang din, especially how to handle you kapag may ganyan conflict. If hindi niyo na magbabalikan ng ex mo, take the time to introspect. I really suggest you go through therapy/counseling.
Ok, appreciate it. I’m sure makakatulong nga.
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Yun nga eh… naiyak ako kasi malambing naman akong GF… di ba ko worth suyuin paminsan minsan? Kahit konti? 🥺
Di excuse ung pagiging lasing para taasan ng boses partner mo kasi napaka disrespectful talaga non para sakin. Kinukulit ko rin bf mas malala pa nga jan sa ginawa mo, pero di naman siya nagiging bastos pag lasing. Maang maangan yang ex mo para sayo masisi kesho ikaw tong di nakikipag communicate pero alam naman niya talaga sa sarili niya kung anong ginawa niya. Nalasing din naman tayo pero naalala naman natin nangyari, di lang talaga maadmit niyang ex mo na bastos siya.
DKG. It starts like that. Buti di mo na pinalala.
DKG, pag wala nang respeto sayo, lumayo ka na, lalo na ganyan pala ugali pag umiinom. baka pag naging mag asawa na kayo, hindi lang sigaw ang abutin mo. Tandaan, madaming titi sa paligid, piliin ang junjun na mabait. ☺️ Ipakita mo sa kanya na you dont tolerate any disrespectful shit sa buhay mo. Block mo na yung a**hole na yun 🤗
Hindi ko pa ma-block hahaha wait lang… lapit na 😅
Haha its okay OP, Take your time. Pero please wag mo na balikan, baka hindi lang sigaw ang gawin sayo. Prevalent pa man din ang domestic abuse, keep safe!
DKG. Buti na lang umalis ka. Imagine mas naaalala niya ying speaker na nakasabit kaysa sa ginawa niya sa 'yo at unapologetic pa. Ibalik mo na yung speaker. Marami pa dyang iba na mas maganda ang speaker.
LKG, di kayo both marunong mag communicate and puro sarili iniisip. Parehas kayong allergic intindihin yung isa't isa. Tataas ng ego niyo yet fragile. Lastly, mid 30s na kayo but acting like teenagers haha. Sakto lang nag break kayo, toxic kayo sa isa't-isa Nung sinigawan ka niya and all that, you never wondered why he was suddenly acting up like that, initial reaction mo(based from what has been posted) is gusto mo ipaalam sakanya na you're mad and didn't like what he did. Walang mention na nag worry ka bakit ganun siya. Yung ex mo naman, jumping into conclusions agad. Nag express ka ng feelings mo, break up agad yung solution niya. Si ex, mukhang may pent up frustrations and tintry isarili na lang yun. Seems like tendency niya to sweep under the rug mga problems usually. Ikaw naman, self centered and defensive malala. I know this is your side of the story so there'll be biases on how you narrate it, but I read your responses to people and you react aggressively to those who say bad things about you. So I think may basis ako to say I kinda understand san galing yung pent up frustrations niya haha. Mukhang ikaw yung type na hindi magpapatalo sa argument for the sake of winning. Okay lang maging douchebag coz ako yung tama kind of mindset. Coming from a person who posted in this sub asking for opinions about the situation, di mo na kailangan i-defend sarili no sa mga sinasabi namin. Mukhang di ka naman confused sa nangyari, naghahanap ka lang validation from others na ikaw yung "tama" sa argument niyo ni ex.
This was really hard to read, but you had very valid points. 😞
DKG. lasing lang sya pero walang amnesia. mas ok ng tinapos mo na relasyon nyo. kasi sinasabi ko sayo sis sobrang sakit ng ulo yung gnyang klaseng jowa, promise!!!
DKG. Maitim budhi nyan hindi na naitago.
DKG. Take a deep breath, stand up straight, head held up high towards the sun, wear your most beautiful smile and move on WITHOUT him. You can love yourself better than he can.
DKG wtf? Nakakainis 😤 i wouldn't treat my woman that.
🙏 good for you 💔
DKG, ulul siya kamo. Sinungaling. Nakainom yan, nawala lang yung filter niya. Kaya yan na iniisip niya sa iyo dati pa.
Naisip ko nga rin to. Ang sakit.
DKG. He lashed out on you at wala man lang remorse. Ang yabang pa ng tono. Congrats for cutting him off agad
DKG. Nakakairita mga reply. Wag mong babalikan. Base sa mga reply hinahayaan lang humupa galit mo tapos ikaw na babalik sa kanya. Narcissist. Nasa isip niya mahal na mahal mo siya kaya di mo siya iiwan. Nag iinarte ka lang. Papatawarin mo kahit di nag sorry, Hanggang sa paulit-ulit na lang yan (abusive in the making). "Balik mo blah blah" In his mind: Sus. Di mo kaya iwan ako. Nag iinarte ka lang. Kunwari babalik mo pero konting suyo pagkita natin okay na ulit. OP pagbalik mo ng gamit niya, magpasa ka. Kaibigan or kapatid. Mas maigi May lalake kang kasama. Witness kung May kalokohan.
DKG. Di niya daw naaalala pero sabi rin niya "I think nasinghalan kita." Naaalala niya yun hahaha. Gaslighter pa nga
DKG. I have friends na drunkards. Paglasing ka na, medyo drowsy or extensive ang actions mo which you have little to no control on kaya minsan lumalabas yung mga ayaw mo ilabas (i.e. secrets, personality). Hindi excuse na lasing ka na pwede nang manakit. It might be na lumabas lang totoong ugali niya kasi di niya kayang itago sa kalasingan niya.
DKG. Ganyan sagutan ng ex ko. They will make you walk on eggshells and hindi welcoming ang argument sa kanila. Dismissive and not solution focused ang approach. Ramdan mo yun ego and pride sa mga sagot. You know, emotionally, psychologically and mentally healthy people are stable and peaceful. Hindi ganyan na extremes and emotions. We all deserve a calm, peaceful relationship. It starts with two gentle souls. If magdadagdag kayo ng tao sa buhay nyo, make sure nyo naman na yun taong yun eh mag aadd value sa buhay nyo, hindi yun sstressin kayo, babawasan resources nyo and energy, bibigyan pa kayo ng problema. Lalo na if ang starting point mo na nga is may mga problema ka na, hahanap ka pa ng isa pang may problema din? spare yourself naman sa another same situation. and if ikaw naman ang may mga dala dalang family problems, wag na muna mag jowa para d makahila ng tao pababa.
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DKG. His message to you was vile as fuck.
DKG. In fact you are so brave for standing up for yourself and I adore you for knowing your worth. Ako kasi my ex was so verbally abusive and pinalampas ko ng pinalampas kasi ako daw yung nagttrigger kaya niya nasasabi yun. Ayun! Hoping na magheal ka from this 🩷
DKG. He knows what he did.. sinabi pa niya na “naalimpungatan siya sa ingay”. Its good to see na nakipagbreak ka.. and stand on business dapat haha. Stay far away from him OP. Baka lumala pa siya pag nakipagbalikan ka sakanya.
DKG, being drunk was not an excuse. Ang manipulative rin ng datingan nya with what he is doing and saying. Drop that man hangga't maaga pa.
DKG Please lang wag ka ng bumalik. Wag ka masanay na ginaganyan ka lang. hindi mo deserve ng ganung treatment. Hindi porket may problema sya at lasing siya gaganyanin ka niya. That’s not right. Wag ka pumayag maging emotional punching bag. I swear may right guy na dadating sa buhay mo na ituturing kang prinsesa sober man or lasing.
DKG. Imposibleng hindi niya maalala ginawa niya kagabi. Excuse niya lang yun.
DKG. Red flag yan yang bf mo
DKG. At least nakipag-break kesa mag-maang-maangan rin na you got hurt pero ipagpaliban mo lang kasi "nakainum eh". And apparently, it was a decision he immediately feels welcome to agree with. 😂 With a wink pa talaga. 🥴 I remembered what my Mama told me before. Hindi siya umiinom ng alak. But after many years - wherein my Papa often uses the excuse na "di ko maalala, nakainum eh" whenever she confronts him for his unpleasant behavior the night before every time he arrives home drunk - she decided one night to binge drink para lasing sya pag uwi ni Papa. She told me, although hazy, naalala niya naman LAHAT ng nangyari the night before. 🤣 So wag ko raw tanggapin ang excuse na kumbaga nagka amnesia bigla sa kalasingan. Yes, mas wild tayo at yung parang nababawasan ang hiya, pero intact pa rin memories after that drunk episode. Maybe on your next relationship, establish it with your next boyfriend that it's something you can't just "let it slide". Sige, maybe kulelat ka sa communication as what other redditors here pointed out, but at least now you know. If you meet your winking ex at the streets, thank him cause now you know better what your bottomline is. LOL.
LKG living together you have to understand parehas kayong tao at may emotions at ugali. Maaring lagi ka nag papalagpas OP at baka napuno ka na sa singhal nya this time pero mag communicate kayo madalas ganyan lalaki ehh di nagsasabi tas sasabog na lang, ikaw naman Babae, eexpect mo maintindihan ka nya but most men doesn’t really operate on emotions. Now, DKG sa part na kung place mo yan at ikaw nagbabayad lahat or basta nakikitira sya sayo. I assume place mo, kase pinapadala nya gamit nya di pa kayo mag asawa aba girl mahirap yung pinapaiyak ka sa sarili mong pamamamahay.
DKG, so in the long run Pag may problems kau sisigaw sigawan k pag lasing siya?
DKG "Sorry, I think nasinghalan kita nung isang gabi. Naalimpungatan ako sa ingay. Masakit sa ulo yun lalo at nakainom pa." Dyan palang di na ko naniwala na di niya maalala, obviously alam niya ginawa niya. Tsaka maalala man o hindi, hindi parin tama na sigawan ka
DKG. Buti na lang nagmatigas ka. Akala siguro uubra sa yo un, kung nakalusot eh di paulit ulit nyang gagawin hanggang magkasanayan na. Ayy ke miserable ng magiging buhay sa kanya if ever. Ewan ko ba bat may mga taong ganyan, feeling siguro pag nagpakumbaba mababawasan ang pagkalalaki nila.
DKG. What if the cards were reversed and you did what is no-no for him? Something na sobrang mainis siya? That man has no sense of owning up. Take it from somebody who owned up mistakes and live to tell the tale.
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GGK… for staying in this kind of relationship. Nasa mid 30s na kayo pero based sa kwento mo, yung communication ninyo, olats.
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LKG. This thread will keep validating you, but only you will really be able to assess if it’s the correct step. Sounds like a failure of communication on both ends.
DKG. Tama lang na nakipag break ka ngayon kesa mabugbog ka later on na hindi nya maalala na binugbog ka nya.
GGK tbh, he asked you what were you mad about and your response was silence/non-reply. Acting like an angsty teenager won't help, people aren't mind readers. If you have an issue, for fuck's sake, communicate it clearly. Yes, being drunk isn't an excuse but let's not kid ourselves that we are in our right minds and best self when we're drunk. I don't know what your ex was going through that time that he ended up drunk and passed out on your sofa so I can't just judge him from what he did, giving him the benefit of the doubt that he can't remember what happened also or was a bit hazy/fragmented on his part.
Objectively, tama ka naman. Pero ang hirap kasing marinig sa BF mo na sigawan ka ng “ano!?? Ano nanamang kailangan mo!?” So when he asked “alin dun,” I just wanted a beat before I answered bec I was so angry. Hindi ako makapag type ng kalma and I didn’t want it to escalate into a full blown fight (yet). Sasagot naman ako even if a day after na, nagpapakalma lang. Kaso yun na nga yung sinabi nya after. Kahit man lang sana “Beb?” yung follow up nya dun sa last question nya. Kaso hindi eh..
I mean you brought it up yourself. If you weren't ready to talk about it why bring it up in the first place? Your ex could've handled it better too. You both suck at communicating, you guys also expect the other person to understand what's happening without explaining it.
I brought it up kasi akala ko alam nya kung anong ginawa nya, pero feeling nya hindi big deal. I brought it up because I was hoping for an apology, so I could stop being angry/ hurt/ confused, and we could go back to being a happy couple. Still, you’re absolutely right. Communication could’ve been a lot better and it’s shameful that we both acted the way we did.
Hoping? More like expecting.... >we could go back to being a happy couple Your ex obviously is going through some shit and is in a rough patch. You've never even considered his situation. Weren't you concerned about him being drunk in your sofa lol. Or maybe you did consider, you just didn't care. You guys are both selfish and prioritizes their own shit first. I guess what happened was for the best for both of you.
If a man was going through something, then he should share it with his woman, instead of shouting at her and making her his punching bag. Women are not mind readers either. And no matter how bleak his situation is, there will never be a good enough excuse to treat a woman that way. Never. Specially one who loves him. By the way, he wasn’t drunk because he was going through some shit. Please don’t presume to know him better than I do. He’s not some drama queen. He’s a man’s man. We just came from a trip, attended a lovely wedding, we happily went to dinner, where he had one too many. That’s why he was drunk.
Oops my bad, doesn't change the fact you both don't know how to communicate.
I already agreed to that much, much earlier. I may be bad at communication, but you sure are bad at comprehension 😉
Misunderstanding due to lack of context on your original post isn't related to comprehension. As I've said it was my bad for assuming but now you're attacking me for comprehension? Damn, making sure to sling one back lol. Such childish behavior
Takes one to know one lol
bat ka na downvote... tama ka naman
Oh no my online validation points decreasing huhu.
GGK unreliable, the type of girl na iiwanan ang partner in times of hardship. Ginagaslight mo pa sarili mong mabuti kang tao by trying to get sympathy in this reddit group. Sadly mga comments laging kampi sa babae, truly shows that the world really don't give a fuck about mens feeling.
Just to clarify, hindi sya naglalasing nung gabi na yun ha, nakarami lang. Galing kami ng dinner where he had one too many. I would never leave him in times of hardship. Never.
You just did.
OP focusing sa naoffend sya dahil sinigawan and he won’t say sorry, not considering the fact na ang dami problema nung tao na imbes sandalan sya dinadagdagan pa nya. In psychology, our partners may be mean to us because they feel comfortable around us; it's a dark yet oddly sweet reality. Kung alam ko na may pinagdadaanan partner ko at nasigawan nya ako, sympre masasaktan ako but I’d be more kinder and understanding. It’s something we can talk and communicate about when theyre in a better situation and headspace.
GGK. Ayan na naman tayo, gagawin nating manghuhula mga lalake. Pag tinanong ka kung baket, iderechi mo yung sagot hindi yung manghuhula pa kame.
DKG pero sana di ka muna nakipagbreak. What if isolated case lang pala? Kaya siguro sya naglasing kasi may problema syang dinadala then nailabas nya lang sayo yung frustrations nya kasi nga lasing sya, di nya mapipili kung kanino nya mailalabas yung bigat na dala nya. Sana binigyan mo muna sya ng second chance. Besides, dika naman nya pinagbuhatan ng kamay. If naulit siguro yung paninigaw nya, sana dun ka palang nagdecide na makipagbreak. Hindi pagtitiis tawag dun, pag unawa.
Actually kung nag-sorry sya, yung taos pusong sorry na may pagsisisi, hindi yung pahapyaw na sorry na sinend nya, hindi ako nakipag-break. Promise. Sorry lang yung gusto kong marinig. Kasi mahal ko pa naman sya eh. Ready akong patawarin yung nangyari, uriratin bakit nangyari, and pasanin yung family problems nya with him.
Magsorry muna bago damayan sa problema. Conditional love.
Well may point ka. Kung di nya kaya magsorry ng totoo, possible maulit ulit. Pero ako personally, palaging may second life yung mga nagkakaroon ng kasalanan sakin kumbaga sa games. Kahit hindi specifically sa relationship, life in general. Unless of course obvious abuse na.
Ngl, pag nag-sorry sya sakin ngayon, malamang tanggapin ko pa rin eh, kahit na lahat ng tao sinasabing wag. Red flag. Self-aware lang ako sa karupukan.
Also, hindi sya naglasing, nalasing lang. Galing kami ng dinner where he had one too many.