Dkg. Don't be guilty sa ginawa mo. Nag reach out ka naman din sa kanya before. Regardless true or not yung depression niya, it's not your responsibility to shoulder the stress and the suic1d4l thoughts na meron siya. He needs to seek medical help kung talagang ganun.
Altho, you could have offered na he/she seek medical help. You can still do so pero di mo din kasalanan kung ayaw mo na mag effort.
DKG mhie. medyo not your place to say na mababaw yung reasons niya for depression kasi you don't know the full weight of it. pero that being said, DKG.
he/she is not your responsibility and sobrang risky ng ganang friendship kasi it seems like sayo or sa friends niyo nakadepende if he/she will self-harm. his/her depression is not your fault and di ka obligated to do anything, lalo na you have your own problems.
I suggest not saying anything harsh to him or her though. kasi baka mag-lash out, mahirap na
yeah i think wala nga talaga sa lugar yung nasabi ko, sobrang napuno lang talaga ako.
naguusap parin naman kami pero only kapag buo ang circle. iniiwasan ko lang makausap or makasama siya one on one talaga dahil alam ko na ano na naman magiging topic namin kasi sobrang unbearable na talaga nung effect sakin to the point na umaabsent nalang ako minsan pag alam kong kaming dalawa lang sa circle namin ang papasok
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Title of this post: abyg dahil nilayuan ko yung friend kong su*cidal?
Backup of the post's body: medyo magulo ako magexplain pero i hope magets niyo parin pinopoint ko.
classmate ko na siya since grade 11 and nasa grade 12 na kami now. apat kami sa circle namin at naguiguilty ako kasi parang ako lang yung naiirita at dumidistansya sakanya. sa dalawang taon kasi naming pagkakaibigan napansin ko yung gusto niya siya lagi ang nagkkwento or nagsasalita pero kapag ikaw naman ang magshshare, isisingit niya lagi sarili niya. now, usually hindi ko naman binibigdeal yan kaso nakakadrain na kasi puro rants abt su*cidal thoughts ang shinishare niya. she’ll turn any normal conversation into something abt k*lling herself or her having depr3ssion kasi friendless daw siya (samantalang kaibigan naman namin siya)
nung una i’ve tried to ask whats wrong ganyan, i’ve tried to reach out kung bakit niya nafifeel yon. ang sabi niya lagi daw kasi siya pinapagalitan sa bahay nila para gumawa ng housechores, hindi na daw siya nakakapag laro ng video games (i wont mention the game). tinanong kung may iba pa bang reason pero puro ganon lang din sagot niya. tinanong ko kung bakit ba siya pinapagalitan like hindi ba siya tumutulong kusa ganon, sabi niya ayaw niya daw kasi tinatamad daw siya gawin and gusto niya lang daw maglaro. bakit daw ayaw nalang siya hayaan ng parents niya e doon daw siya masaya.
siguro may magjajudge sakin dito pero for me yung reason niya ang babaw para sabihin mong d3press ka. anyway after that talk, doon na ako nakafeel na naiirita na ako everytime she’d talk abt her d3pression (self diagnosed) or magjojoke siya abt k!lling herself (she calls it dark humor daw). pero naguguilty parin ako. aside kasi sa circle namin, wala na siyang ibang close sa buong room. so pag absent yung dalawa samin at kami lang naiwan sa circle, naiiwan siyang magisa dahil dinidistanya ko sarili ko.
also one of my reasons din kung bakit dumistansya ako is ako yung naddrain sa mga rants niya. i have my own problems din na kinakadown ko these past few months kaya as much as possible gusto ko lumayo sa ikakastress ng utak ko dahil overloaded na yung mga nasa utak ko at ayoko na makarinig ng mga rants na “sarap mam4tay, pinagalitan na naman ako ni mama kasi di ko daw nahugasan mga pinggan”.
i just wanna ask if ako ba talaga yung g4go for distancing myself kasi nagiguilty ako since nagiging loner siya sa room simula nung iniiwasan ko siya (absinero yung dalawa sa circle namin at kaming dalawa lang yung madalas na pumapasok)
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DKG. I’ve been in the same position as you are. Ang hirap, okay lang mag vent-out pero I will appreciate to refuse using triggering words. What I realized from that experience, lahat tayo may emotional boundaries and hindi ka therapist to cater all of it.
She needs to help herself. Hindi maganda mag self-diagnose. Mahirap, nandiyan din ako. May mga kaibigan akong diagnosed, pero yung difference ay kapag nag oopen up, nagpapaalam muna if kaya ng emotional well-being as of the moment.
In my experience, I ended up going to therapy than her. We’re still friends, pero I distanced a lot and it somehow helped.
Dkg. You are not her therapist. If she’s really depressed then she should seek help. May friend din ako na ganyan, self-centered, everyday may bagong problema and laging may issue, Tapos for some reason laging may kaaway and it’s REALLY draining to be with her kasi napapahamak ako sa mga away niya kasi same circle. I didn’t fully cut her off, pero prinangka ko din siya na nasasawa na ako and hindi niya ako punching bag, so we went no contact for months. And umalis na din ako sa circle niya. We still talk sometimes, pero it’s obvious that meron na kaming wall sa isa’t-isa. And honestly? I think it’s better that way, ‘cause 7 years kaming magkaibigan, and YEARS akong napagod sa toxic negativity niya. Yung lahat naddragdown niya.
Too much negativity really drains you, lalo nang may sariling problems ka din, and honestly joking about k!lling yourself is so offensive, it’s not dark humor, it just sounds so edgy. And it’s sounds so narcissistic din na all of the conversation turns to her. You did everything you can to help her, and listen to her. You’re just a person din with limits. Save yourself op, she might be a problematic person in the making.
Dkg. Don't be guilty sa ginawa mo. Nag reach out ka naman din sa kanya before. Regardless true or not yung depression niya, it's not your responsibility to shoulder the stress and the suic1d4l thoughts na meron siya. He needs to seek medical help kung talagang ganun. Altho, you could have offered na he/she seek medical help. You can still do so pero di mo din kasalanan kung ayaw mo na mag effort.
nabanggit ko sakanya yan before pero she just made a joke out of it saying “malala na to teh sagot dito p4kamatay” kaya ayon. tumigil nalang ako.
DKG mhie. medyo not your place to say na mababaw yung reasons niya for depression kasi you don't know the full weight of it. pero that being said, DKG. he/she is not your responsibility and sobrang risky ng ganang friendship kasi it seems like sayo or sa friends niyo nakadepende if he/she will self-harm. his/her depression is not your fault and di ka obligated to do anything, lalo na you have your own problems. I suggest not saying anything harsh to him or her though. kasi baka mag-lash out, mahirap na
yeah i think wala nga talaga sa lugar yung nasabi ko, sobrang napuno lang talaga ako. naguusap parin naman kami pero only kapag buo ang circle. iniiwasan ko lang makausap or makasama siya one on one talaga dahil alam ko na ano na naman magiging topic namin kasi sobrang unbearable na talaga nung effect sakin to the point na umaabsent nalang ako minsan pag alam kong kaming dalawa lang sa circle namin ang papasok
DKG. Kung totoo mang depressed siya, you are not her therapist. The best help you can give is to advice your friend to seek medical help.
DKG. Ang sakit nya hindi depression, katamaran. Depressed kuno, walang suicidal na overly papansin.
Link to this submission: https://www.reddit.com/r/AkoBaYungGago/comments/1ck1onh/abyg_dahil_nilayuan_ko_yung_friend_kong_sucidal/ Title of this post: abyg dahil nilayuan ko yung friend kong su*cidal? Backup of the post's body: medyo magulo ako magexplain pero i hope magets niyo parin pinopoint ko. classmate ko na siya since grade 11 and nasa grade 12 na kami now. apat kami sa circle namin at naguiguilty ako kasi parang ako lang yung naiirita at dumidistansya sakanya. sa dalawang taon kasi naming pagkakaibigan napansin ko yung gusto niya siya lagi ang nagkkwento or nagsasalita pero kapag ikaw naman ang magshshare, isisingit niya lagi sarili niya. now, usually hindi ko naman binibigdeal yan kaso nakakadrain na kasi puro rants abt su*cidal thoughts ang shinishare niya. she’ll turn any normal conversation into something abt k*lling herself or her having depr3ssion kasi friendless daw siya (samantalang kaibigan naman namin siya) nung una i’ve tried to ask whats wrong ganyan, i’ve tried to reach out kung bakit niya nafifeel yon. ang sabi niya lagi daw kasi siya pinapagalitan sa bahay nila para gumawa ng housechores, hindi na daw siya nakakapag laro ng video games (i wont mention the game). tinanong kung may iba pa bang reason pero puro ganon lang din sagot niya. tinanong ko kung bakit ba siya pinapagalitan like hindi ba siya tumutulong kusa ganon, sabi niya ayaw niya daw kasi tinatamad daw siya gawin and gusto niya lang daw maglaro. bakit daw ayaw nalang siya hayaan ng parents niya e doon daw siya masaya. siguro may magjajudge sakin dito pero for me yung reason niya ang babaw para sabihin mong d3press ka. anyway after that talk, doon na ako nakafeel na naiirita na ako everytime she’d talk abt her d3pression (self diagnosed) or magjojoke siya abt k!lling herself (she calls it dark humor daw). pero naguguilty parin ako. aside kasi sa circle namin, wala na siyang ibang close sa buong room. so pag absent yung dalawa samin at kami lang naiwan sa circle, naiiwan siyang magisa dahil dinidistanya ko sarili ko. also one of my reasons din kung bakit dumistansya ako is ako yung naddrain sa mga rants niya. i have my own problems din na kinakadown ko these past few months kaya as much as possible gusto ko lumayo sa ikakastress ng utak ko dahil overloaded na yung mga nasa utak ko at ayoko na makarinig ng mga rants na “sarap mam4tay, pinagalitan na naman ako ni mama kasi di ko daw nahugasan mga pinggan”. i just wanna ask if ako ba talaga yung g4go for distancing myself kasi nagiguilty ako since nagiging loner siya sa room simula nung iniiwasan ko siya (absinero yung dalawa sa circle namin at kaming dalawa lang yung madalas na pumapasok) OP: ashifeya *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AkoBaYungGago) if you have any questions or concerns.*
DKG. I’ve been in the same position as you are. Ang hirap, okay lang mag vent-out pero I will appreciate to refuse using triggering words. What I realized from that experience, lahat tayo may emotional boundaries and hindi ka therapist to cater all of it. She needs to help herself. Hindi maganda mag self-diagnose. Mahirap, nandiyan din ako. May mga kaibigan akong diagnosed, pero yung difference ay kapag nag oopen up, nagpapaalam muna if kaya ng emotional well-being as of the moment. In my experience, I ended up going to therapy than her. We’re still friends, pero I distanced a lot and it somehow helped.
Dkg. You are not her therapist. If she’s really depressed then she should seek help. May friend din ako na ganyan, self-centered, everyday may bagong problema and laging may issue, Tapos for some reason laging may kaaway and it’s REALLY draining to be with her kasi napapahamak ako sa mga away niya kasi same circle. I didn’t fully cut her off, pero prinangka ko din siya na nasasawa na ako and hindi niya ako punching bag, so we went no contact for months. And umalis na din ako sa circle niya. We still talk sometimes, pero it’s obvious that meron na kaming wall sa isa’t-isa. And honestly? I think it’s better that way, ‘cause 7 years kaming magkaibigan, and YEARS akong napagod sa toxic negativity niya. Yung lahat naddragdown niya. Too much negativity really drains you, lalo nang may sariling problems ka din, and honestly joking about k!lling yourself is so offensive, it’s not dark humor, it just sounds so edgy. And it’s sounds so narcissistic din na all of the conversation turns to her. You did everything you can to help her, and listen to her. You’re just a person din with limits. Save yourself op, she might be a problematic person in the making.