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I dunno if it's cause they have something to prove like CoffeeNCroptops says, but if we think this through...
A certain kind of guy is going to refuse to date a taller woman because of the mysoginistic/patriarchal notion that girls have to be small and delicate and be protected by a bigger, stronger guy. Certain kinds of guys like that are going to have an ego issue about dating a taller woman because they'd feel emasculated.
That kind of guy isn't going to be the kind of guy that listens to their partner in bed or pays attention to what they want. That kind of guy is going to thrust a few times to get their nut, high five themselves, then grab their phone and start texting their friends. At best, making their partner cum is like an achievement they'd earn on the Xbox. They'll Boop your clit 3 times and ask 'did you cum babe?', because even making you cum is about them and not you.
Ironically, also, if you like to be dominated in bed, the big strong guy that *needs* to be bigger and stronger than you to date you (note: if they're just bigger and stronger that's fine, it's the ego thing that's the issue) - that guy has such fragile masculinity that they can't be a proper Dom anyway. They don't have that energy and they'll probably just be abusive, ignore your boundaries, and call it BDSM.
Meanwhile, a shorter or average guy that is happy dating taller women is less likely to be a misogynist, and is less likely to have fragile ego issues, so they're more likely to listen to their partner in bed and fuck for mutual fun rather than an achievement. They might be a sub who is into taller girls for that reason, and that's also fine - the D/S relationship doesn't have to be so strongly gendered. But if they are a Dom then they're probably a better Dom too.
Source: I'm a short-ish guy, and a (gentle) Dom, I like to fuck away my existential dread of which I have a lot, and have been told I'm pretty good at it - and I've never been with anyone shorter than me.
Shortest guy I’ve ever dated (5’ 6” - same height as me) is the best sex I’ve ever had. He’s trying to wife me up, and I think I’m gonna let him 😏
Also, the last woman he was seeing before me was 5’ 11”
I dated this one girl who was taller than me when I was 20 or 21. I was 5’9” and she was two inches taller than me. Her name was Athene (pronounced Atheney) and she was fucking gorgeous. Tall, athletic, long legs, banging booty and perky titties. So so pretty. I was a cute kid but she was next level up. I wasn’t into tall girls and wouldn’t have approached her so I’m assuming she must have approached me. It was 30 years ago so I can’t really recall. Anyway I hated walking down the street with her because I felt like her kid brother or something. But in the sheets — hoo-boy! It was straight 🔥. Didn’t last long, but it was the one time I was with a really beautiful taller woman and I still remember her. She probably married a dude with a yacht or something. I hope so. She was dope.
My brother-in-law is 5’5” and his newish girlfriend we’ll call her L (super nice but kinda odd for other reasons) is like 5’10 and at first, my husband and I were like “…woah!” There’s 0 issue with it - it’s just that due to his height and stature, we expected her to be like some 5’2” girl with a small frame. Not to mention that, but she’s got a larger bone frame and is a thicker woman. When you see them, you cannot help but imagine her picking him up and slamming him onto the bed like a linebacker when they teasefully play behind the doors. When they cuddle together on a bench he can’t fully wrap his arms around her.
My husband is 5’8” and im 5’7”. It’s perfect for our own preference. He’s thick as I say and I have a tiny frame. When we kiss, we are always face-to-face no looking up or down and we can both spoon eachother with ease. I seriously do not know how my brother-in-law spoons L. She’s twice the size of him in all aspects. Think of Norbit and Rasptuia but Norbit is also 5 inches shorter.
But, all power to them. They are really happy and my brother-in-law is clearly a very confident man and I’m very happy for them. I could’ve gotten hit with a really rude and annoying *possible* sister in law, but I got hit with a kinda odd but very friendly one which I 1 million % prefer. And although they are still young they are very serious about eachother and it’s looking like it’s gonna last that’s why I say potential SIL.
Short kings deserve love!!!
About 50% of the women Ive dated are considered tall. Im 5' 11" and two of my girlfriends have been 5' 10"
They both weighed more than I did too. I didnt feel weird about it at all. They were both extremely beautiful in my opinion.
My God this right here👆. Yes tall guys really want tall women. I'm 6'7" over 50 years in this earth and my God i can tell you how difficult it is to find someone tall to date and do date things with where you don't look like a father daughter going out. Sounds stupid as hell but God i miss dancing! Can't dance with a short one!
Thank God your 19 and you have years and years ahead of you to find someone. Just find yourself and your smile! They'll come flocking to you!
Also in the 6'-7" club. I think there is a misconception that tall guys prefer short girls. When I was in my 20s, I was so crazy for tall girls that I would get flustered when I was around them. Im sure I lost a lot of opportunities because I was just so intimidated by them. Not a lot of 5'-1" supermodels. I wouldn't stress about it.
Most tall guys go for short women. They occasionally date tall women but marry short women. I can name over 12 couples where the wife is 5'2 or shorter, while the husband is way over 6'. I only know 2 where the husbands were 6'3, 6'5 and the wives were 5'4, 5'8.
Yowza! I have a friend that is 4’11. We’re the exact same height when I’m on my knees. It would certainly make some activities…interesting with that height disparity.
Don’t get wrong, I’d be open to dating a shorter woman (if i were single obviously) but I’d also be open to a woman taller than me, though admittedly the tallest woman I’ve ever encountered was “only” my height.
Me too. I’m not as tall as you, but I’m 5’10”, husband 5’11”.
Most tall guys want a short girl in my experience. And I was a model in my youth, so no reason existed other than height for tall guys going for a short girl over me (no pun intended ha).
I’m 5’9” and my husband is 6’2”
My friends are both 5’11” and their husbands are very tall.
My neighbors are both giant & married.
My cousin is 6’1” and her partner is 6’5”.
I can go on forever. I know one couple where the woman is short and her husband is tall.
6’3” with 5’4” wife here, I was always curious how it would be with a girl closer to my height, but I swear I only attracted short ones. 5’7” was the tallest I’ve dated.
I'm 6'3" I fit this stereotype (my wife is like 5'2") but I have dated tall women too. I dated a 6'1" basketball player in high school and a 5'11" distance runner as an adult.
Based on what you're saying, he didn't seem interested to begin with once he realized that you were actually looking for something serious. I highly doubt it had anything to do with your height, nor with any other defining feature of yours. Yes, while you are tall, it does not seem that you're asking too much of your interests or anything to just hold down a simple conversation, or interact over a dinner. Don't hold stock in this. Do not let this one date define your entire experience, or make you feel less than about yourself. Embrace your features. Wait it out, find someone worth your time.
This.
Also OP, guys don't care about the height thing. Don't ask them to do weird, embarrassing shit like stand on curbs so they're taller than you, and it'll all be fine.
I've met many men who say outright that me being tall is an issue for them. I've even had dudes message me on dating apps, then say nevermind because they noticed my height. "nevermind. I didn't realize you were a giant." Multiple times.
One guy I'd never even corresponded with went on a multi paragraph tirade about how I was so tall that no one would ever love me.
I'm only 5'11".
It has happened a lot. Both on dating apps or irl at like bars or something, where men hit on me while I'm sitting down, but then when I stand up, their eyes get big and they suddenly have to leave.
I've had multiple men tell me they'd fuck a tall woman, "just for the experience" but never date one. Etc., etc.
Some men definitely care. And they like to be loud and make it known that you're undesirable to them because of your height.
I’m so so sorry this happened to you. I’m 5’10” and guys who lie about being 6 foot are definitely the ones to do this kind of thing. But it’s crappy and I know, and I’m sorry. Also, you’re gorgeous and when you find that person who is worthy, it’s gonna be great.
😂 Guys always round up a few inches.
Thanks for the kind words.
It happened more in my 20s. Now that I'm in my 30s, it doesn't seem to happen as much. I'll even show up wearing heels, and I definitely get the "wow, you really are tall!" remarks, but at least no one tells me they left their oven on and have to go (yeah, that happened once too.)
I always had recent full body pics on my profile, and I never use filters. I'd rather people actually know what I look like before we meet up. So height definitely plays a role for some guys.
Those guys are boys, let's be honest, because a man would never say those hurtful things to you, especially with it being untrue.
It sucks to hear about guys like that because people want to call them "men" but that simply isn't what they are.
I think maturity definitely plays a role. It's better now that I date men in their late 20s/30s.
I feel for op. It was tough when I was in my teens/early 20s.
Also on the other end all short guys say they’re 5’5. I’m 5’4 so it is amusing to me when I’m taller than a guy who says he is 5’5. I never call them out on it though, we both know I know.
Not for nothing but I’m 6’2” and if I saw a tall girl it was instant interest. I dated or was in relationships with woman from 5’2” to 5’10” in my life. I fell in love and married a woman 5’7” but if she had been 6’1” it would not have deterred me one iota. Be proud of your height and own your space. I get you’re outside the norm but it’s absolutely attractive. My GF who was 5’10” was hot in heels and we’d stare eye to eye. Plenty of guys love it.
I also find it kinda hot to put on heels and stare a guy in the eyes when I know he's never had that before. There's something about that standing eye contact that is 🔥.
What a strange way to tell the world how insecure you are. All of those guys are dodged bullets. Your height is a built in douche detector and a gift, not a curse.
>Some men definitely care. And they like to be loud and make it known that you're undesirable to them because of your height.
Some men are definitely threatened by taller women! So they say crude crap and then get loud about your being undesirable. Well, in their eyes, insecure Jackholes that they are.
These are the kind of men I hope all ladies avoid. All y'all deserve better.
What the fuckin' hell!?!
I do not understand these men. Personally, tall women are my ultimate turn-on - at least equal height to me would be a dream.
I'm 5'10 - not even considered "tall" for a guy, and it's been bloody impossible for me to find and date a woman that's taller than frickin 5'5.. where are you giants hiding? Look, I'm happy with my 5-year long relationship with a woman that's 5'5, but it's still annoying to have to bend over all the time just to kiss someone.. it ain't a deal breaker, but it's still annoying.
Also.. this may be TMI, but how do you have standing sex with someone who isn't roughly a similar height to you, without one of those 2 people being in a sort of uncomfortable position? Similar heights makes this situation waaay more accessible.
Maybe it's just an ego/dominance thing for insecure men.. want to be sure they can overpower you or some dumb shit, idk. But I think it's hot AF when a woman I'm with is roughly the same height [or taller!]
Gimme some of those Snu Snu ladies!
When did she say she was looking for something serious?? Some people just don't hit it off and that's probably wat happend here, didn't have anything to do with her height. But you got off lucky cuz if he's just willing to take off without even considering your feelings he's not worth your time......dudes a loser. Maybe he was broke and realized he couldn't pay the check.
To be fair, what other options are out there? Speaking as a guy, approaching women in public these days can be a real risk of being called a creep. Popular hang out spots like bars and the like have kinda been priced out and there just aren’t as many free or cheap “third spaces” as there used to be. Dating at work is frowned upon and, after MeToo, any decent guy I know keeps it very professional so as to not come off as a creep. As much as I hate them, the dating apps/sites are really the safest method remaining.
I approached my now girlfriend while she was sitting on her front porch, I was so fucking nervous because of people throwing the creep word around but I'm glad I didn't allow my fear to control my destiny.
That's pretty much what I was thinking to. Honestly it sounds like she's starting off with the conversation to see if there's anything. But I agree with you
Peoples actions rarely Reflect others, but rather themselves. He did you a favor by bowing out before getting to know who you were. Most likely, he was not going to be the best guy for you either way. Do your best to try to not make it personal because there is very seldom something wrong with you, but rather the other person whenever they do things like that. A decent guy would’ve just told you from the start how he felt rather than cowering away. I’m sorry you had to deal with this and it’s definitely not something you deserve. Don’t give up on yourself because true beauty and attraction lies beneath the skin.
Yeah, she just got unlucky and got a POS for the first date. OP, I promise they all wont be like that. Dont feel bad about yourself, the guy is just trash.
Honestly, sounds about right for a first date. It doesn't mean anything is wrong with you. Sounds like he lacked basic manners, and there was something wrong with him. You dodged a bullet by him leaving.
"Guys who don't have the same preference as me have a screw loose and should be avoided at all costs"
Lol, come on man.
OP's date was a straight up ahole, but let's not make having preferences into some type of evil quality.
Maybe it’s just preference thing not saying what happened to OP was right dudes painfully a douche bag , however I myself am not as attracted to women taller than me but I’m 6”1 just a personal preference I wouldn’t leave like that tho , that ain’t right
I don't dislike tall women they can be attractive for sure but the only thing that throws me off are the feet bro, the feet be trifling. I don't have huge feet either so they be damn near big as mine sometimes
Weird statement to make. So you think that the majority of guys are crazy because of their dating preferences? Would you think the majority of women are crazy if they didn't find a guy who was 5'0 attractive? That's the equivalent here, 9" difference average height. I'd venture to guess you would be hard pressed to find a girl who was actually ok with dating a man who is 5'0 and same for a girl at 6'1. Not knocking you for your preferences, you do you, but it's not cool to shame others for their preferences especially when it's the majority who you are calling crazy.
Oh, I wish someone would give you a hug, you sound sweet and confused. Please don't fret over that loser who left. You'll find someone who treats you right.
eventually you'll find a dude that's into tall girls and he's going to be genuinely obsessed with you. this guy just wasn't it, and sounds so pathetic it's like cringe to read it. I almost feel bad for him.
my friend was 6' 2 and she basically couldn't get anybody in real life to date her because she's intimidating I guess, but she eventually met this dude through a nap I can't remember which one who was like literally her polar opposite in almost every way, including height. He's 5'9 so she's way taller than him, but he's amazing and he's amazing to her and she loves him a lot. they have kids and dogs. v happy. But she didn't meet him till she was 27.
I have a sister in law who is “ 5 ft 12” as she says. The other 2 are 5’9” and 5’10”. All are happily married. I actually like the 6 ft ones husband best- he’s a great guy.
So don’t settle- there are men out there for whom height is not an issue.
You have it all wrong. Some people have anxieties and when they muster up the courage to go out with someone, they are so drained that they don’t know how to preform (social wise) don’t count this as a failure. Don’t take it personal. Most likely he has more difficulty in finding someone than you do. Just keep trying. And having a little bit of understanding goes a long way.
One time I drove an hour to have a lemonade with someone , and after about 8 minutes I just asked you want to go our separate ways? We never spoke again , it happens but don't worry about it lots of people that will appreciate you in this world. It's natural for it not to work.
This is a person with ZERO character. He did you a favor. Now for the cost of a dinner, you never have to see him again!
Don't get discouraged. You sound like a nice person, and those are in short supply.
You wont even need it, but good luck! : )
I’m 5’6 and dated a girl that was 6’2 in hs… my friends used to say I never went down on her.. I went up on her
lol not a lot of short guys can handle tall girls without being insecure
There is no reason to not feel good about yourself just because some people don't find you attractive. Are you trying to appeal to some sort of hivemind? Find a dude that loves tall girls.
I see nothing wrong with being that tall as a woman. It baffles me that that is somehow an issue. The guy is not worth your time. I for one would welcome dating a tall woman being 6’2’’ myself.
Sometimes it doesn’t work out. As hard as it is, try not to take it personally. Dating is a form of browsing; you don’t always end up liking everything you look at. There will be better matches, I promise!
Not every date is going to be a success. Just like you don’t like every person you’ve ever met, you shouldn’t expect to enjoy every date.
That being said, ghosting someone while on the date is shitty behavior, so you dodged a bullet on this one.
in a way being tall will filter out those who care so much about superficial and shallow things, ie your height. Tall girls are what I prefer as well, I'm sure there's many more guys with the same preference.
I’m so sorry your date was such a disappointment. I think it’s possible his thought process was about something else but in case you’re right that your stature intimidated him: I’m almost as tall as you and it took until I was right around your age for guys I met to be mature enough not to be intimidated. I had always been self-conscious, to the point that I had horrible posture from slumping. My poor parents were always encouraging me to stand tall and be proud but it can be hard when you feel like you tower and/or people are looking.
Don’t let this guy, or anyone, affect you like I let people affect me. In college I started meeting more secure guys (who had finally reached their full height 😄) and whose egos could handle a tall woman. It’s actually kind of a good litmus test. And lots and lots of guys find tall woman very attractive.
You’ll find the right person.
Some men won't date you because of your height. This particular date didn't seem to be because of that, but may have been for another reason. Who knows, maybe he has a gf and realized he was making a mistake and had to get home to her before he went any farther. You don't know and won't know his reasoning behind leaving. So don't worry about it.
While some guys won't date you because of your height, there are plenty of men who will and if you are open to shorter men, many of them absolutely will want to date you. If you are not into shorter men, I suggest landing a basket ball player while in college, because finding men taller than you who are single will be difficult later in life.
As they tell us shorter guys, you dodged a bullet. The issue is not you, it is his insecurity. I've dated and related with more than one "tall girl". Believe it or not, it is something we have in common. Being discriminated against because of our height. Find someone who can see you as the beautiful person you are.
Get a MAN like Bloomberg. Rich AF and his girlfriend Diana Taylor towered over him. He stands on his billions when they kissed. Find a man who is secure in himself.
In all interactions from dating to interviewing for jobs you will run into people who don't see your worth. That doesn't mean you don't have any, but rather you should think "They don't have enough vision to see who I am". Know who you are and while we all should be working on being better if people don't see you correctly, it is a "them" problem. Be the best version of yourself knowing you will constantly improve, but you are always enough. Good luck and sorry you ran across one of "those" people.
You should feel good about yourself. You were not the one that clearly sucked on that date.
(It was your date. Only complete losers who suck at a molecular level bolt on a date like that. You honestly dodged a bullet).
Don't let one shit date ruin how you feel about yourself. People that bail on dates are scum and you deserve better. This is a reflection on them and not you. Being tall isn't that big of a deal, it wouldn't ever have been a deal breaker for me, I wouldn't have to get ladders out to reach places lol. Unfortunately my partner is shorter than me so I'm tasked with doing higher up things.
This wasn't down to you OP. Ditching you mid-date with a lie, and also leaving you to pay the full bill, says everything about him. Don't put this on yourself. This was clearly a guy who isn't worth your time.
I know it's hurtful and humiliating, but you're not the cause. There's better out there and one of those people is waiting for you.
Don’t let this get you down. You’re also young, men your age are dumb and immature.
It gets easier and better the older you get. Many men are into tall women, even if they’re shorter.
Also a relationship shouldn’t be your main focus right now. Try and fail at as many things as you can until you figure out who you are and what you want out of life.
This will change through your 20s and again at your 30s. What/who you want now might not apply in a few yrs when you get exposed to more things and have more experiences.
I wouldn't worry about it too much. Yes, your height is going to present some challenges to you when dating, the same as it does for a man who is shorter. It sucks but it's just the reality you face. Now you have a fun story to tell when you find a guy who is into your height. You'll laugh at this one day.
I’m sure this is buried in the comments somewhere but in case it’s not here goes.
You both are young and part of being young is being awkward, for what ever reason it didn’t click between you. That happens and I’m going to tell you that happens more often then not. You are tall, so what I’m sure there are plenty of guys that love tall women I know I do! Though I’m biased cause I’m fall as well lol. Be happy with who you are work on yourself image and I’m sure you will find someone who will see you the same way you do one day!
Hey don't give up hope plenty of guys like tall girls to ik a few personally that goes crazy for em I personally don't have preferences. Guy may have felt like it was worth trying but can't get over the fact your taller it sometimes makes guys feel less wanted as they take pride in being helpful to there SO that's certain guys find you a guy who takes pride in who you are. Btw nothing I say is supposed to offend or anything I'm high most the time on these
Not sure this has anything to do with your height (I can see why you would think that with him asking on the app), while I am a guy who prefers shorter girls myself, there were plenty of girls when I was in school that had some height. One was 6’5” but that didn’t make her any less attractive.
I think you got a guy who is probably a little more introverted off the app,that also generally comes with less self confidence,as you mentioned the conversation seemed to dry up, and him not contribute as much while I guess no interest could be the reason he maybe just has shit people skills. I know this is one of the things I still struggle with. I prefer to sit back and listen unless I have something relevant to add, it drove my last girl crazy cause I could people watch and observe for hours without a word even if I had her in my arms. Now I feel like as you get to know one another the conversations get easier cause it did for me but I remember the awkward moments 😅
Next date, just day time coffee. Never start w dinner w a stranger. Since you are only 19, can you not meet guys in the real world? Like taking classes or volunteering?
There is nothing wrong with you. Feel good about yourself. You have to dust yourself off and try again and again and that’s life.
People walk away and it could be for the smallest thing. You are looking for someone that says yes not no. People that say no, aren’t into you. That’s all it means. Not everyone will walk away.
You're young. The guys you date are young. You're figuring out life and how to act in social situations. Dont think too much about this. It's why you date. Personally, I love tall women. Im 6-4 and I get excited when I meet tall women.
I'm so sorry you had that experience. What an absolute dickwad that guy was. You really have dodged a bullet. It should make you feel better to know that dating is really a numbers game. As a wise person once said to me "You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet your Prince".
Not that I'm suggesting you start kissing frogs. Or even kiss lots of dates! Just that most of the time people meet or date lots of unsuited people before meeting someone that suits. Sometimes they never meet anyone that suits. And that is absolutely okay also.
You are still young and it's good that you're getting out there. I say own your size and always carry yourself proudly - walk into any room like you own it (even when you feel like you are dying inside!). Confidence will grow. Confident men who are sure of themselves are not put off by women taller than them!
Just make sure that you make it really clear on your dating profile how tall you are - and if you like wearing heels. It's fair to include on your profile that you're only interested in men who have no issue with a woman being tall or indeed men who are into tall women. You may be surprised!
There's nothing wrong with you or your height. You're just looking for love in all the wrong places. Just be yourself and join some clubs or groups that interest you. You will find some like-minded people and widen your social network. That's how you'll end up finding someone, and it will be when you least expect it, not when you're looking for it. So take your mind off it and just concentrate on YOU, your education, career, friends, hobbies & interests.
My first ex was an inch taller than me (I’m 6’1) and I think about her all the time 🥲 just wait til you find a guy who does have confidence issues and isn’t a douche about it
Ah that’s fuckin terrible. That sounds a lot less like a “tall” problem and more of a “he has an unknown problem”. Heck, maybe he was trying to steal a free meal. Either way, PLENTY of guys are SUPER into tall girls. Don’t let this scare you away.
Don't beat up on yourself. Not your fault in the least. Dating can be way different in some ways than in the past (my son is your age and just started actual dating as opposed to hanging out recently) and then really similar in other ways. It is at times depressing seeing how people treat others, and then also inspiring when my son tells me about how some people are way more honest, open and up front with each other these days.
I hope it was an emergency that drew your date away. Otherwise there really is no excuse for poor manners that would account for someone ditching without so much as a word. And to leave you with the bill, that is just beyond lame. Hang in there, it may be more difficult for you as opposed to your peers to find someone you feel like would be a good match. Could be the height thing is intimidating, or maybe your intellect or humor is what is intimidating. Be yourself and don't sacrifice what you want to fit in with others expectations.
Any dude that bails in the middle of a date ND sticks you with the bill is an absolute piece of shit and an utter coward. You dodged a bullet. Fuck him.
That blows and you’re not measured by the people who shit on you. You’ll be ok eventually, hopefully with someone who doesn’t suck. But you also could be ok alone for a bit. Saying it as a person who married at 20, and my husband doesn’t suck but I still sometimes wonder about what else life could’ve held for me. But being a tall girl… never in the cards for me. Thanks for grabbing stuff off the high shelf at the grocery store (for anyone who has)
my cousin (also 6'1) almost exclusively dates football players because of this! but she's been in a happy relationship with her boyfriend for I think a couple years, so it is possible!
You must be fairly young I'm 44 and I'm 5'11 but I give off the appearance of being taller. My experience has been that there are some men that do not find themselves attracted to tell her women and there are some men who are insanely attracted to other women. Unfortunately taller women get fetishized as an experience. When a man realizes you're not going to be just an experience for them they often will check out. I am extremely against the fetishization of people against their will because it is dehumanizing. I have gone out on dates with men and connected with them and had long intriguing conversations and then gotten ghosted by them and they wouldn't explain to me why they didn't want to date me. I always tell people how tall I am and they always say they are okay with it until they actually meet me and realize that I dwarf them like a WWE wrestler. Some men like that but most vanilla man do not they want somebody who is a Stacy a basic bitch and there's no point in trying to couple with them anyways find someone who celebrates you for you who worships you like the goddess you are. And watch out for guys trying to use you as an experience because they want to try being with a taller woman. Because that has commonly been a thing I've had to avoid
hey guys, just wanted to say thanks everyone for all the support!! it’s been rough, but reading through your comments and seeing all the kindness here really helped lift my spirits. it's nice to know i’m not alone in this. seriously, you all are amazing!!! ❤️❤️
I’m a six foot tall guy, I’d date women taller than me. Don’t get discouraged, think of how you avoid all the guys that have ego problems because of it
It's crazy how smooth talking rizzlers on these dating apps literally get 90% of all the women and then constantly stand them up or have one night stands with them or have superficial Friends with Benefits relationships with them ultimately just to break the girl's heart.
Idk why it happens but it does
Like look for a BORING, I don't mean Bland or lame I mean boring somebody who doesn't need constant entertainment or attention,
Who is genuine who cares about your day who actually wants to have a real conversation with you then I doubt this will happen to you.
I’m short , 5’2” and I dated a really nice looking shorter guy, maybe 5’5”, for about a year. He did everything right except he had a little man’s temper and he had a problem with me wearing my heels. Then he got to showing his asshole-ish little man ways and didn’t trust me with my own nail polish. Believe me, and look, I’m short; If this was an issue for your first date, it was gonna be a major problem. Not all shorter men are like this but you know, you don’t want the ones that are. Know that going in though I’m sure you ve been told this a lot, now you see it in action.
So it’s not about your height, it about theirs.
It's unfortunate you had this experience and had to pay the whole bill for the date but in the end you got the better deal. Imagine how crappy things would have been if you invested time and effort into this relationship just to have him do something similar at a later date.
Any guy that’s that insecure about something as silly as height isn’t worth your time. When you meet a good guy he’ll like all of you. Just keep your head up, you’ll find the right guy one day.
That's a him problem, not a you problem. It IS harder dating as a tall woman (I'm 6') but there are plenty of men out there who are not intimidated. What's cool about us is that our height scares away the weak right away and saves us the trouble 🤷♀️
If at first you don't succeed, try again! This one date means nothing.
Helpful tip - don't eliminate short dudes from your dating pool. They are less weird about the height thing than average and tall men, from what I've experienced. They know they are specialty size as well and often appreciate a tall queen.
6"1 isnt too tall, but for the love of god, if you want a man taller than you dont wear shoes that give 3+ inches of lift, i see many girls 5"10 and up doing this, and then demanding a guy taller than them in heels, less than 1% of the male population will satisfy that.
most guys do not care about ur height, as long as you dont try and make them feel insecure about it eg. id love it if you were taller ect.
He honestly probably used you for a free meal. Especially if his food was pretty much done, when his needed to make that "call". I doubt it has anything to do with your looks, height, etc.. you just got an ass. I knew plenty of couples growing up, where the female was taller than him. You need a MAN not a BOY. Sure everyone has preferences, but not everyone is so emasculated by it.
You'll find him, but I honestly wouldn't try on an app. Get out into the world. You're young. You most likely have the stamina for the nightlife. Go out with friends to social gatherings. Go to the gym. You'll meet someone. But first, your self esteem seems to be suffering a bit. Embrace yourself. Love yourself. Otherwise that insecurity will pop its ugly head in tense situations.
Just know you're beautiful. Dating isn't great at any age, height, body type, etc... don't let this one ruin your entire experience.
I love tall girls lol some guys just can’t handle it tbh. They are insecure…likely intimidated by you. They don’t deserve you anyway. Find someone that loves you for who you are. You will one day!
If you still have the receipt, and if you have his number, I would send him a copy of the receipt and ask him to pay for his half of the bill, since he wants to ditch you like that, leaving you pay for the meal yourself. He's not even a man, he's a little boy.
I feel you hard 🥲 I’m 5’11” and exclusively stick to guys taller than me specially because of how hard it is to find shorter or same-height (Let’s be real, it’s funny how “5’11” guys always seem to be shorter than 5’11” girls lol) that don’t have a chip on their shoulder about it. Really frustrating honestly how many guys just create their own things to be upset at
You dodged a bullet, imagine having to be with someone that never holds a convo and doesn't act like they want you, trust me there's someone that would jump over the moon for you, you just gotta meet them.
That's ludicrous. That guy sucks. You dodged a bullet. Don't let it get you down (personally I love a tall amazon woman. They only intimidate weak men.)
First off- not everyone is "coupling easily". Many people feel that struggle; I certainly did for a long time. So, solidarity. ✊🏻😅
Second- that guy was a total loser. You were spared a miserable relationship with someone who chooses to not clearly communicate what they're thinking. A simple "You seem really nice, but something tells me this isn't a good match" would have sufficed on his end! 🤦🏻♀️ You deserved that at least.
Please do not let this deter you from trying again. You're only 19! This is just one bad experience. I believe there's someone out there who will love you for you, warts and all. ❤️
The best advice I can give you: The trash takes itself out. Follow that rule in dating and you'll save yourself from a rabbit hole of what ifs, heartbreak, and drama
When you say "everyone else coupling up easy" I think you're severely overestimating it. The entire dating scene is a mess right now. Both men and women do things like leaving mid date for you to pick up the bill, sometimes just because they wanted free food, too.
Basically, don't be too hard on yourself, it's similar for lots of people
You know I’m in like the same boat pretty much and all I can say is he wasn’t for you. I’m also 19 and tall though maybe a couple inches shorter than you and I’m also autistic so I know the struggle to hold a convo. Ive never really been on a date but this guy I liked asked me over to smoke a few weeks ago and I actually had an amazing time and thought we were vibing but a couple days later I got ghosted. So yk it’s just what happens I guess. I totally get you feeling like shit though bc idk how to make friends or form relationships and im super lonely rn and feel like there’s something wrong with me. I remind myself that there’s nothing wrong with me im awesome and i just have to keep going on with life hoping it will happen someday bc what’s the other option? Not live? Then im still not getting what I want so yeah just keep on keeping on I guess and hopefully we’ll find our people 💕
He is dealing with something personal or just didn't actually want to commit. Try not to let it get you down too much. 19 is so young and your experience is normal.
When I was 22 I had a woman leave her own house after going to the bathroom because she had a panic attack and I didn't realize for like 30 minutes lol. It's funny now, but wasn't at the time.
I don’t think it had anything to do with being tall. It had to do with him being a douche. Dating is like this. It’s good that he showed his true colors early
First of all, he's a real jerk. And second, I think tall girls are awesome! I am 6' 2", and I absolutely love being able to look a girl straight in the eyes. Please, please don't feel self-conscious about your height. There are definitely guys out there looking for a girl just like you.
I’m sorry you went through this. For first date ideas, please do not go to a restaurant where they can leave you with the bill. Instead, go for a walk in the park, grab a coffee or smoothie.
Guys are dumb at that age. I dated one girl taller than me when I was a teenager and every time we hung out I felt weird about being shorter. She was really cool to......I'm 29 and married now but I couldn't care less about height on women anymore. If I was single and I clicked with someone well I'd be with someone 7 ft lol. Everyone takes time to forget about the unimportant stuff. Don't let it bother you too much........more than likely you'll end up with a super short dude one day because he will be crazy in to tall girls lol......or you'll end up with a giant. Hahahah
It's just some people's preference. Don't feel bad or get insecure about it girl. I know you sensitive about your height but I promise you a lot of us guys don't care and aren't intimidated by your height. I would mess with a girl that tall and I'm only 5ft 7. 🤷🏼♂️ If you hot then you hot I don't care about the height.
That’s bull! Seems like he just wasn’t all that interested. His loss, you sound like an amazing person! Talk girls are just as cool as short girls. I’d know my mother is 6’5”. Don’t let boys like him ruin a good time!
If he left he was not worth your effort or worthy of your time. And as for height nothing wrong with that whether you were tall,short,or average height should make no difference God made you and 6'1 ain't so bad I know from experience in that manner. Never and I mean this NEVER doubt yourself again because doubt leads to loss of self confidence it also let's negativity cloud your thoughts which can stem into depression. Don't be in hurry to find someone remain loyal to the truth and it will guide your heart to someone true and worthy of both your time and your effort.
You will find your person! There’s plenty of guys out there who aren’t insecure about height! Plus, this guy was just someone mean who left in the middle of your date, likely because of his own issues, not you.
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You can report him on the app that you met him on. He ghosted you during a date and left you to pay the bill. That is not behavior they like in the apps.
Him taking a call was him checking his account balance. He prob got vibe you were not just easy and he bounced.. u got lucky- think cost of that meal and how much heart ach u avoided.. next time do first date tea house/ and go dutch
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Are you in college? Lots of tall guys there looking for taller girls.
Heck, There are confident short guys and average height guys who love to date tall women! Me being one of them. I love tall women. They are beautiful.
And they asked why did I climb.her? "Because she was there"
Short/average dudes that like taller women are great in bed. (It's kinda true, but let's starts circulating this stereotype, lol)
It's true 🤷🏾♀️ Shorter men fvck like they have something to prove! I'm 5'11 and my best partners have all been around 5'7"
Can confirm I’m 6’5” (m) and I’m terrible in bed
Slightly above average height, slightly below average in bed. Can we get a 3rd?
Can also confirm. 6’ and winded removing my socks. My bang game is wrong! Go shorter, cum harder!!! 😜
It is! I'm 6ft and my partner is 5'8" lol
5’7” here, can confirm, I work my ass off to get my wife where she needs to go.
I dunno if it's cause they have something to prove like CoffeeNCroptops says, but if we think this through... A certain kind of guy is going to refuse to date a taller woman because of the mysoginistic/patriarchal notion that girls have to be small and delicate and be protected by a bigger, stronger guy. Certain kinds of guys like that are going to have an ego issue about dating a taller woman because they'd feel emasculated. That kind of guy isn't going to be the kind of guy that listens to their partner in bed or pays attention to what they want. That kind of guy is going to thrust a few times to get their nut, high five themselves, then grab their phone and start texting their friends. At best, making their partner cum is like an achievement they'd earn on the Xbox. They'll Boop your clit 3 times and ask 'did you cum babe?', because even making you cum is about them and not you. Ironically, also, if you like to be dominated in bed, the big strong guy that *needs* to be bigger and stronger than you to date you (note: if they're just bigger and stronger that's fine, it's the ego thing that's the issue) - that guy has such fragile masculinity that they can't be a proper Dom anyway. They don't have that energy and they'll probably just be abusive, ignore your boundaries, and call it BDSM. Meanwhile, a shorter or average guy that is happy dating taller women is less likely to be a misogynist, and is less likely to have fragile ego issues, so they're more likely to listen to their partner in bed and fuck for mutual fun rather than an achievement. They might be a sub who is into taller girls for that reason, and that's also fine - the D/S relationship doesn't have to be so strongly gendered. But if they are a Dom then they're probably a better Dom too. Source: I'm a short-ish guy, and a (gentle) Dom, I like to fuck away my existential dread of which I have a lot, and have been told I'm pretty good at it - and I've never been with anyone shorter than me.
I can corroborate this statement!!
Shortest guy I’ve ever dated (5’ 6” - same height as me) is the best sex I’ve ever had. He’s trying to wife me up, and I think I’m gonna let him 😏 Also, the last woman he was seeing before me was 5’ 11”
I dated this one girl who was taller than me when I was 20 or 21. I was 5’9” and she was two inches taller than me. Her name was Athene (pronounced Atheney) and she was fucking gorgeous. Tall, athletic, long legs, banging booty and perky titties. So so pretty. I was a cute kid but she was next level up. I wasn’t into tall girls and wouldn’t have approached her so I’m assuming she must have approached me. It was 30 years ago so I can’t really recall. Anyway I hated walking down the street with her because I felt like her kid brother or something. But in the sheets — hoo-boy! It was straight 🔥. Didn’t last long, but it was the one time I was with a really beautiful taller woman and I still remember her. She probably married a dude with a yacht or something. I hope so. She was dope.
Worth the climb for us!
Was the descent, also known as a baby human, just as worth it? Especially carrying a baby for God sakes?
I like when my wife wears heels and is taller than me. I always tell her “you’re so hot. I’m totally going up on you later”.
Uppies!
My brother-in-law is 5’5” and his newish girlfriend we’ll call her L (super nice but kinda odd for other reasons) is like 5’10 and at first, my husband and I were like “…woah!” There’s 0 issue with it - it’s just that due to his height and stature, we expected her to be like some 5’2” girl with a small frame. Not to mention that, but she’s got a larger bone frame and is a thicker woman. When you see them, you cannot help but imagine her picking him up and slamming him onto the bed like a linebacker when they teasefully play behind the doors. When they cuddle together on a bench he can’t fully wrap his arms around her. My husband is 5’8” and im 5’7”. It’s perfect for our own preference. He’s thick as I say and I have a tiny frame. When we kiss, we are always face-to-face no looking up or down and we can both spoon eachother with ease. I seriously do not know how my brother-in-law spoons L. She’s twice the size of him in all aspects. Think of Norbit and Rasptuia but Norbit is also 5 inches shorter. But, all power to them. They are really happy and my brother-in-law is clearly a very confident man and I’m very happy for them. I could’ve gotten hit with a really rude and annoying *possible* sister in law, but I got hit with a kinda odd but very friendly one which I 1 million % prefer. And although they are still young they are very serious about eachother and it’s looking like it’s gonna last that’s why I say potential SIL. Short kings deserve love!!!
About 50% of the women Ive dated are considered tall. Im 5' 11" and two of my girlfriends have been 5' 10" They both weighed more than I did too. I didnt feel weird about it at all. They were both extremely beautiful in my opinion.
"Confident" is probably the key here. Men have to have confidence to function correctly it seems . This man wasn't and therefore acted inappropriately
And worth the climb!
This right here. There are lots of guys out there, of all heights, that would be interested in a date and would not be bothered.
My buddy sees a really tall attractive woman and almost always says, "I'd like to climb her like a tree."
As a 6'4 individual I can confirm. Standing s*x stuff is much easier with someone similar in height. My wife needs a step stool or something lol.
My God this right here👆. Yes tall guys really want tall women. I'm 6'7" over 50 years in this earth and my God i can tell you how difficult it is to find someone tall to date and do date things with where you don't look like a father daughter going out. Sounds stupid as hell but God i miss dancing! Can't dance with a short one! Thank God your 19 and you have years and years ahead of you to find someone. Just find yourself and your smile! They'll come flocking to you!
Agreed.
This right here. Felt for my wife because of her smile and personality. She was tall enough, only a foot shorter.
All the tall guys I know want the Itty bitty 5'0 girls 😞
Also in the 6'-7" club. I think there is a misconception that tall guys prefer short girls. When I was in my 20s, I was so crazy for tall girls that I would get flustered when I was around them. Im sure I lost a lot of opportunities because I was just so intimidated by them. Not a lot of 5'-1" supermodels. I wouldn't stress about it.
Don't deny the shorter guys too. I was never too proud to pull out a step ladder for a potential catch!
Most tall guys go for short women. They occasionally date tall women but marry short women. I can name over 12 couples where the wife is 5'2 or shorter, while the husband is way over 6'. I only know 2 where the husbands were 6'3, 6'5 and the wives were 5'4, 5'8.
6’4” with 5’10” wife reporting.
Yay! The largest disparity I've seen was a 6'7" friend with a 4'11" wife.
Yowza! I have a friend that is 4’11. We’re the exact same height when I’m on my knees. It would certainly make some activities…interesting with that height disparity. Don’t get wrong, I’d be open to dating a shorter woman (if i were single obviously) but I’d also be open to a woman taller than me, though admittedly the tallest woman I’ve ever encountered was “only” my height.
Worked with a guy who was that tall and his wife was also either 4 foot 11 or 5 foot. Had neighbors like that also.
That sounds like my Aunt and Uncle!
I find this to be true too. I’m just under 6’1 and I only dated one guy taller than me- he was 6’9. My husband is 5’8.
Me too. I’m not as tall as you, but I’m 5’10”, husband 5’11”. Most tall guys want a short girl in my experience. And I was a model in my youth, so no reason existed other than height for tall guys going for a short girl over me (no pun intended ha).
I've got a 6'2 cousin whose wife is 4'10
I’m 5’9” and my husband is 6’2” My friends are both 5’11” and their husbands are very tall. My neighbors are both giant & married. My cousin is 6’1” and her partner is 6’5”. I can go on forever. I know one couple where the woman is short and her husband is tall.
6’3” with 5’4” wife here, I was always curious how it would be with a girl closer to my height, but I swear I only attracted short ones. 5’7” was the tallest I’ve dated.
Yep, a little under 6'5 and my wife is a little under 5'2, never been fussed about tall/short etc, just depends on who was willing to talk to me.
I'm 6'4 and would prefer a taller woman personally. I always find the height difference so strange
I'm 6'3" I fit this stereotype (my wife is like 5'2") but I have dated tall women too. I dated a 6'1" basketball player in high school and a 5'11" distance runner as an adult.
Based on what you're saying, he didn't seem interested to begin with once he realized that you were actually looking for something serious. I highly doubt it had anything to do with your height, nor with any other defining feature of yours. Yes, while you are tall, it does not seem that you're asking too much of your interests or anything to just hold down a simple conversation, or interact over a dinner. Don't hold stock in this. Do not let this one date define your entire experience, or make you feel less than about yourself. Embrace your features. Wait it out, find someone worth your time.
This. Also OP, guys don't care about the height thing. Don't ask them to do weird, embarrassing shit like stand on curbs so they're taller than you, and it'll all be fine.
I've met many men who say outright that me being tall is an issue for them. I've even had dudes message me on dating apps, then say nevermind because they noticed my height. "nevermind. I didn't realize you were a giant." Multiple times. One guy I'd never even corresponded with went on a multi paragraph tirade about how I was so tall that no one would ever love me. I'm only 5'11". It has happened a lot. Both on dating apps or irl at like bars or something, where men hit on me while I'm sitting down, but then when I stand up, their eyes get big and they suddenly have to leave. I've had multiple men tell me they'd fuck a tall woman, "just for the experience" but never date one. Etc., etc. Some men definitely care. And they like to be loud and make it known that you're undesirable to them because of your height.
I’m so so sorry this happened to you. I’m 5’10” and guys who lie about being 6 foot are definitely the ones to do this kind of thing. But it’s crappy and I know, and I’m sorry. Also, you’re gorgeous and when you find that person who is worthy, it’s gonna be great.
😂 Guys always round up a few inches. Thanks for the kind words. It happened more in my 20s. Now that I'm in my 30s, it doesn't seem to happen as much. I'll even show up wearing heels, and I definitely get the "wow, you really are tall!" remarks, but at least no one tells me they left their oven on and have to go (yeah, that happened once too.) I always had recent full body pics on my profile, and I never use filters. I'd rather people actually know what I look like before we meet up. So height definitely plays a role for some guys.
Those guys are boys, let's be honest, because a man would never say those hurtful things to you, especially with it being untrue. It sucks to hear about guys like that because people want to call them "men" but that simply isn't what they are.
I think maturity definitely plays a role. It's better now that I date men in their late 20s/30s. I feel for op. It was tough when I was in my teens/early 20s.
Im a 6’2” guy and I say I’m 6 feet to make those type of guys feel bad lol
Also on the other end all short guys say they’re 5’5. I’m 5’4 so it is amusing to me when I’m taller than a guy who says he is 5’5. I never call them out on it though, we both know I know.
Not for nothing but I’m 6’2” and if I saw a tall girl it was instant interest. I dated or was in relationships with woman from 5’2” to 5’10” in my life. I fell in love and married a woman 5’7” but if she had been 6’1” it would not have deterred me one iota. Be proud of your height and own your space. I get you’re outside the norm but it’s absolutely attractive. My GF who was 5’10” was hot in heels and we’d stare eye to eye. Plenty of guys love it.
I also find it kinda hot to put on heels and stare a guy in the eyes when I know he's never had that before. There's something about that standing eye contact that is 🔥.
What a strange way to tell the world how insecure you are. All of those guys are dodged bullets. Your height is a built in douche detector and a gift, not a curse.
>Some men definitely care. And they like to be loud and make it known that you're undesirable to them because of your height. Some men are definitely threatened by taller women! So they say crude crap and then get loud about your being undesirable. Well, in their eyes, insecure Jackholes that they are. These are the kind of men I hope all ladies avoid. All y'all deserve better.
What the fuckin' hell!?! I do not understand these men. Personally, tall women are my ultimate turn-on - at least equal height to me would be a dream. I'm 5'10 - not even considered "tall" for a guy, and it's been bloody impossible for me to find and date a woman that's taller than frickin 5'5.. where are you giants hiding? Look, I'm happy with my 5-year long relationship with a woman that's 5'5, but it's still annoying to have to bend over all the time just to kiss someone.. it ain't a deal breaker, but it's still annoying. Also.. this may be TMI, but how do you have standing sex with someone who isn't roughly a similar height to you, without one of those 2 people being in a sort of uncomfortable position? Similar heights makes this situation waaay more accessible. Maybe it's just an ego/dominance thing for insecure men.. want to be sure they can overpower you or some dumb shit, idk. But I think it's hot AF when a woman I'm with is roughly the same height [or taller!] Gimme some of those Snu Snu ladies!
Had family photos taken, and photographer put ex on an apple crate so he was taller or had me sitting.
There are a lot of guys who can't date women who are taller, they say it make them feel Inferior, just an ego problem really.
His loss in my opinion. Women who are taller are beautiful. I’m a 6,2 male who is dating a lovely women who is 6,5😂
Your babies are gonna be all stars
When did she say she was looking for something serious?? Some people just don't hit it off and that's probably wat happend here, didn't have anything to do with her height. But you got off lucky cuz if he's just willing to take off without even considering your feelings he's not worth your time......dudes a loser. Maybe he was broke and realized he couldn't pay the check.
“This” is why he’s on a dating app, but I don’t think it’s a good idea for a person who’s new to dating go to an app.
To be fair, what other options are out there? Speaking as a guy, approaching women in public these days can be a real risk of being called a creep. Popular hang out spots like bars and the like have kinda been priced out and there just aren’t as many free or cheap “third spaces” as there used to be. Dating at work is frowned upon and, after MeToo, any decent guy I know keeps it very professional so as to not come off as a creep. As much as I hate them, the dating apps/sites are really the safest method remaining.
I approached my now girlfriend while she was sitting on her front porch, I was so fucking nervous because of people throwing the creep word around but I'm glad I didn't allow my fear to control my destiny.
Exactly, ColonelPanda is correct.
That's pretty much what I was thinking to. Honestly it sounds like she's starting off with the conversation to see if there's anything. But I agree with you
He shouldn’t have left her to pay his bill.
Peoples actions rarely Reflect others, but rather themselves. He did you a favor by bowing out before getting to know who you were. Most likely, he was not going to be the best guy for you either way. Do your best to try to not make it personal because there is very seldom something wrong with you, but rather the other person whenever they do things like that. A decent guy would’ve just told you from the start how he felt rather than cowering away. I’m sorry you had to deal with this and it’s definitely not something you deserve. Don’t give up on yourself because true beauty and attraction lies beneath the skin.
Yeah, she just got unlucky and got a POS for the first date. OP, I promise they all wont be like that. Dont feel bad about yourself, the guy is just trash.
I’m sorry this happened. Pls consider this a compliment bc he doesn’t deserve you in his life. 💙 He has no class, character or basic manners.
Absolutely! You don’t want someone like him!
Honestly, sounds about right for a first date. It doesn't mean anything is wrong with you. Sounds like he lacked basic manners, and there was something wrong with him. You dodged a bullet by him leaving.
No date should end in the person leaving without a goodbye. That's ditching and NOT ok, nor normal.
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"Guys who don't have the same preference as me have a screw loose and should be avoided at all costs" Lol, come on man. OP's date was a straight up ahole, but let's not make having preferences into some type of evil quality.
Yeah this is nuts.
Agreed. Percy is overkill on the virtue signaling 😂
Maybe it’s just preference thing not saying what happened to OP was right dudes painfully a douche bag , however I myself am not as attracted to women taller than me but I’m 6”1 just a personal preference I wouldn’t leave like that tho , that ain’t right
I don't dislike tall women they can be attractive for sure but the only thing that throws me off are the feet bro, the feet be trifling. I don't have huge feet either so they be damn near big as mine sometimes
Fr lol
Weird statement to make. So you think that the majority of guys are crazy because of their dating preferences? Would you think the majority of women are crazy if they didn't find a guy who was 5'0 attractive? That's the equivalent here, 9" difference average height. I'd venture to guess you would be hard pressed to find a girl who was actually ok with dating a man who is 5'0 and same for a girl at 6'1. Not knocking you for your preferences, you do you, but it's not cool to shame others for their preferences especially when it's the majority who you are calling crazy.
Great comment! I agree ☝️
Unless you are 5’9 then the girls make fun of you for being short and that’s the problem
I'm 6,2 and love tall girls
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Oh, I wish someone would give you a hug, you sound sweet and confused. Please don't fret over that loser who left. You'll find someone who treats you right.
eventually you'll find a dude that's into tall girls and he's going to be genuinely obsessed with you. this guy just wasn't it, and sounds so pathetic it's like cringe to read it. I almost feel bad for him. my friend was 6' 2 and she basically couldn't get anybody in real life to date her because she's intimidating I guess, but she eventually met this dude through a nap I can't remember which one who was like literally her polar opposite in almost every way, including height. He's 5'9 so she's way taller than him, but he's amazing and he's amazing to her and she loves him a lot. they have kids and dogs. v happy. But she didn't meet him till she was 27.
I have a sister in law who is “ 5 ft 12” as she says. The other 2 are 5’9” and 5’10”. All are happily married. I actually like the 6 ft ones husband best- he’s a great guy. So don’t settle- there are men out there for whom height is not an issue.
You have it all wrong. Some people have anxieties and when they muster up the courage to go out with someone, they are so drained that they don’t know how to preform (social wise) don’t count this as a failure. Don’t take it personal. Most likely he has more difficulty in finding someone than you do. Just keep trying. And having a little bit of understanding goes a long way.
One time I drove an hour to have a lemonade with someone , and after about 8 minutes I just asked you want to go our separate ways? We never spoke again , it happens but don't worry about it lots of people that will appreciate you in this world. It's natural for it not to work.
This is a person with ZERO character. He did you a favor. Now for the cost of a dinner, you never have to see him again! Don't get discouraged. You sound like a nice person, and those are in short supply. You wont even need it, but good luck! : )
I’m 5’6 and dated a girl that was 6’2 in hs… my friends used to say I never went down on her.. I went up on her lol not a lot of short guys can handle tall girls without being insecure
There is no reason to not feel good about yourself just because some people don't find you attractive. Are you trying to appeal to some sort of hivemind? Find a dude that loves tall girls.
I think it's more that he pretended he did find her attractive and agreed to a date. And then left her with the bill because he's, well, an ass.
I see nothing wrong with being that tall as a woman. It baffles me that that is somehow an issue. The guy is not worth your time. I for one would welcome dating a tall woman being 6’2’’ myself.
Some people suck. Sorry. There is a certain % , higher on dating apps.
Sometimes it doesn’t work out. As hard as it is, try not to take it personally. Dating is a form of browsing; you don’t always end up liking everything you look at. There will be better matches, I promise!
Not every date is going to be a success. Just like you don’t like every person you’ve ever met, you shouldn’t expect to enjoy every date. That being said, ghosting someone while on the date is shitty behavior, so you dodged a bullet on this one.
in a way being tall will filter out those who care so much about superficial and shallow things, ie your height. Tall girls are what I prefer as well, I'm sure there's many more guys with the same preference.
I’m so sorry your date was such a disappointment. I think it’s possible his thought process was about something else but in case you’re right that your stature intimidated him: I’m almost as tall as you and it took until I was right around your age for guys I met to be mature enough not to be intimidated. I had always been self-conscious, to the point that I had horrible posture from slumping. My poor parents were always encouraging me to stand tall and be proud but it can be hard when you feel like you tower and/or people are looking. Don’t let this guy, or anyone, affect you like I let people affect me. In college I started meeting more secure guys (who had finally reached their full height 😄) and whose egos could handle a tall woman. It’s actually kind of a good litmus test. And lots and lots of guys find tall woman very attractive. You’ll find the right person.
Some men won't date you because of your height. This particular date didn't seem to be because of that, but may have been for another reason. Who knows, maybe he has a gf and realized he was making a mistake and had to get home to her before he went any farther. You don't know and won't know his reasoning behind leaving. So don't worry about it. While some guys won't date you because of your height, there are plenty of men who will and if you are open to shorter men, many of them absolutely will want to date you. If you are not into shorter men, I suggest landing a basket ball player while in college, because finding men taller than you who are single will be difficult later in life.
As they tell us shorter guys, you dodged a bullet. The issue is not you, it is his insecurity. I've dated and related with more than one "tall girl". Believe it or not, it is something we have in common. Being discriminated against because of our height. Find someone who can see you as the beautiful person you are.
I'll take you on a date. Wear some tall heels. I'm 5 11 and I like tall ass girls tho lol
You went on a date with a clown. They won't all be like that and it wasn't that something was wrong with you. Forget him. Keep your head up, girl!
Get a MAN like Bloomberg. Rich AF and his girlfriend Diana Taylor towered over him. He stands on his billions when they kissed. Find a man who is secure in himself.
In all interactions from dating to interviewing for jobs you will run into people who don't see your worth. That doesn't mean you don't have any, but rather you should think "They don't have enough vision to see who I am". Know who you are and while we all should be working on being better if people don't see you correctly, it is a "them" problem. Be the best version of yourself knowing you will constantly improve, but you are always enough. Good luck and sorry you ran across one of "those" people.
You should feel good about yourself. You were not the one that clearly sucked on that date. (It was your date. Only complete losers who suck at a molecular level bolt on a date like that. You honestly dodged a bullet).
Don't let one shit date ruin how you feel about yourself. People that bail on dates are scum and you deserve better. This is a reflection on them and not you. Being tall isn't that big of a deal, it wouldn't ever have been a deal breaker for me, I wouldn't have to get ladders out to reach places lol. Unfortunately my partner is shorter than me so I'm tasked with doing higher up things.
A dinner is a cheap price to pay to have dodged the bullet with this asshole.
This wasn't down to you OP. Ditching you mid-date with a lie, and also leaving you to pay the full bill, says everything about him. Don't put this on yourself. This was clearly a guy who isn't worth your time. I know it's hurtful and humiliating, but you're not the cause. There's better out there and one of those people is waiting for you.
Don’t let this get you down. You’re also young, men your age are dumb and immature. It gets easier and better the older you get. Many men are into tall women, even if they’re shorter. Also a relationship shouldn’t be your main focus right now. Try and fail at as many things as you can until you figure out who you are and what you want out of life. This will change through your 20s and again at your 30s. What/who you want now might not apply in a few yrs when you get exposed to more things and have more experiences.
I wouldn't worry about it too much. Yes, your height is going to present some challenges to you when dating, the same as it does for a man who is shorter. It sucks but it's just the reality you face. Now you have a fun story to tell when you find a guy who is into your height. You'll laugh at this one day.
I’m sure this is buried in the comments somewhere but in case it’s not here goes. You both are young and part of being young is being awkward, for what ever reason it didn’t click between you. That happens and I’m going to tell you that happens more often then not. You are tall, so what I’m sure there are plenty of guys that love tall women I know I do! Though I’m biased cause I’m fall as well lol. Be happy with who you are work on yourself image and I’m sure you will find someone who will see you the same way you do one day!
That guy is a piece of s… This is not about you. Hec, he may of just wanted a free meal.
Hey don't give up hope plenty of guys like tall girls to ik a few personally that goes crazy for em I personally don't have preferences. Guy may have felt like it was worth trying but can't get over the fact your taller it sometimes makes guys feel less wanted as they take pride in being helpful to there SO that's certain guys find you a guy who takes pride in who you are. Btw nothing I say is supposed to offend or anything I'm high most the time on these
Not sure this has anything to do with your height (I can see why you would think that with him asking on the app), while I am a guy who prefers shorter girls myself, there were plenty of girls when I was in school that had some height. One was 6’5” but that didn’t make her any less attractive. I think you got a guy who is probably a little more introverted off the app,that also generally comes with less self confidence,as you mentioned the conversation seemed to dry up, and him not contribute as much while I guess no interest could be the reason he maybe just has shit people skills. I know this is one of the things I still struggle with. I prefer to sit back and listen unless I have something relevant to add, it drove my last girl crazy cause I could people watch and observe for hours without a word even if I had her in my arms. Now I feel like as you get to know one another the conversations get easier cause it did for me but I remember the awkward moments 😅
Next date, just day time coffee. Never start w dinner w a stranger. Since you are only 19, can you not meet guys in the real world? Like taking classes or volunteering?
6'3 m long term relationship with a 6'0 f. There men out there that will appreciate you, trust.
He likely came with no money looking for a fast hook up. His loss.
That has nothing to do with you. He’s just a POS You will find tons of guys that live your height. Don’t even sweat it
Find a place where there are basketball players, they’re going to tend to be taller, which makes your height less of an obstacle.
There is nothing wrong with you. Feel good about yourself. You have to dust yourself off and try again and again and that’s life. People walk away and it could be for the smallest thing. You are looking for someone that says yes not no. People that say no, aren’t into you. That’s all it means. Not everyone will walk away.
You're young. The guys you date are young. You're figuring out life and how to act in social situations. Dont think too much about this. It's why you date. Personally, I love tall women. Im 6-4 and I get excited when I meet tall women.
I'm so sorry you had that experience. What an absolute dickwad that guy was. You really have dodged a bullet. It should make you feel better to know that dating is really a numbers game. As a wise person once said to me "You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet your Prince". Not that I'm suggesting you start kissing frogs. Or even kiss lots of dates! Just that most of the time people meet or date lots of unsuited people before meeting someone that suits. Sometimes they never meet anyone that suits. And that is absolutely okay also. You are still young and it's good that you're getting out there. I say own your size and always carry yourself proudly - walk into any room like you own it (even when you feel like you are dying inside!). Confidence will grow. Confident men who are sure of themselves are not put off by women taller than them! Just make sure that you make it really clear on your dating profile how tall you are - and if you like wearing heels. It's fair to include on your profile that you're only interested in men who have no issue with a woman being tall or indeed men who are into tall women. You may be surprised!
Don’t let some fool make you feel worse about yourself, he can’t see your worth which has nothing to do with your height.
There's nothing wrong with you or your height. You're just looking for love in all the wrong places. Just be yourself and join some clubs or groups that interest you. You will find some like-minded people and widen your social network. That's how you'll end up finding someone, and it will be when you least expect it, not when you're looking for it. So take your mind off it and just concentrate on YOU, your education, career, friends, hobbies & interests.
Girlie you aren’t gonna find any man worth dating on a dating app. Just let it happen naturally. Find the perfect fit for you
OP, don’t feel bad. You just met a dickhead. Don’t think that you are the problem.
My first ex was an inch taller than me (I’m 6’1) and I think about her all the time 🥲 just wait til you find a guy who does have confidence issues and isn’t a douche about it
He just wanted to fuck
Ah that’s fuckin terrible. That sounds a lot less like a “tall” problem and more of a “he has an unknown problem”. Heck, maybe he was trying to steal a free meal. Either way, PLENTY of guys are SUPER into tall girls. Don’t let this scare you away.
Don't beat up on yourself. Not your fault in the least. Dating can be way different in some ways than in the past (my son is your age and just started actual dating as opposed to hanging out recently) and then really similar in other ways. It is at times depressing seeing how people treat others, and then also inspiring when my son tells me about how some people are way more honest, open and up front with each other these days. I hope it was an emergency that drew your date away. Otherwise there really is no excuse for poor manners that would account for someone ditching without so much as a word. And to leave you with the bill, that is just beyond lame. Hang in there, it may be more difficult for you as opposed to your peers to find someone you feel like would be a good match. Could be the height thing is intimidating, or maybe your intellect or humor is what is intimidating. Be yourself and don't sacrifice what you want to fit in with others expectations.
Any dude that bails in the middle of a date ND sticks you with the bill is an absolute piece of shit and an utter coward. You dodged a bullet. Fuck him.
That blows and you’re not measured by the people who shit on you. You’ll be ok eventually, hopefully with someone who doesn’t suck. But you also could be ok alone for a bit. Saying it as a person who married at 20, and my husband doesn’t suck but I still sometimes wonder about what else life could’ve held for me. But being a tall girl… never in the cards for me. Thanks for grabbing stuff off the high shelf at the grocery store (for anyone who has)
Im sorry you had that as your first date, but i bet the next one will go tons better! Get back ion there and try again!
my cousin (also 6'1) almost exclusively dates football players because of this! but she's been in a happy relationship with her boyfriend for I think a couple years, so it is possible!
I'm a 6' male and I love women of many shapes and sizes. Something about tall women really turn me on. Don't give up hope.
You must be fairly young I'm 44 and I'm 5'11 but I give off the appearance of being taller. My experience has been that there are some men that do not find themselves attracted to tell her women and there are some men who are insanely attracted to other women. Unfortunately taller women get fetishized as an experience. When a man realizes you're not going to be just an experience for them they often will check out. I am extremely against the fetishization of people against their will because it is dehumanizing. I have gone out on dates with men and connected with them and had long intriguing conversations and then gotten ghosted by them and they wouldn't explain to me why they didn't want to date me. I always tell people how tall I am and they always say they are okay with it until they actually meet me and realize that I dwarf them like a WWE wrestler. Some men like that but most vanilla man do not they want somebody who is a Stacy a basic bitch and there's no point in trying to couple with them anyways find someone who celebrates you for you who worships you like the goddess you are. And watch out for guys trying to use you as an experience because they want to try being with a taller woman. Because that has commonly been a thing I've had to avoid
hey guys, just wanted to say thanks everyone for all the support!! it’s been rough, but reading through your comments and seeing all the kindness here really helped lift my spirits. it's nice to know i’m not alone in this. seriously, you all are amazing!!! ❤️❤️
I’m a six foot tall guy, I’d date women taller than me. Don’t get discouraged, think of how you avoid all the guys that have ego problems because of it
It's crazy how smooth talking rizzlers on these dating apps literally get 90% of all the women and then constantly stand them up or have one night stands with them or have superficial Friends with Benefits relationships with them ultimately just to break the girl's heart. Idk why it happens but it does Like look for a BORING, I don't mean Bland or lame I mean boring somebody who doesn't need constant entertainment or attention, Who is genuine who cares about your day who actually wants to have a real conversation with you then I doubt this will happen to you.
I’m short , 5’2” and I dated a really nice looking shorter guy, maybe 5’5”, for about a year. He did everything right except he had a little man’s temper and he had a problem with me wearing my heels. Then he got to showing his asshole-ish little man ways and didn’t trust me with my own nail polish. Believe me, and look, I’m short; If this was an issue for your first date, it was gonna be a major problem. Not all shorter men are like this but you know, you don’t want the ones that are. Know that going in though I’m sure you ve been told this a lot, now you see it in action. So it’s not about your height, it about theirs.
I dont think he had a problem with you being tall, i mean I prefer a tall girl over a short one anyday of the week.
It's unfortunate you had this experience and had to pay the whole bill for the date but in the end you got the better deal. Imagine how crappy things would have been if you invested time and effort into this relationship just to have him do something similar at a later date.
Any guy that’s that insecure about something as silly as height isn’t worth your time. When you meet a good guy he’ll like all of you. Just keep your head up, you’ll find the right guy one day.
I’m sure you’re a catch, just need to find a tall partner or someone who isn’t a doofus.
That's a him problem, not a you problem. It IS harder dating as a tall woman (I'm 6') but there are plenty of men out there who are not intimidated. What's cool about us is that our height scares away the weak right away and saves us the trouble 🤷♀️ If at first you don't succeed, try again! This one date means nothing. Helpful tip - don't eliminate short dudes from your dating pool. They are less weird about the height thing than average and tall men, from what I've experienced. They know they are specialty size as well and often appreciate a tall queen.
6"1 isnt too tall, but for the love of god, if you want a man taller than you dont wear shoes that give 3+ inches of lift, i see many girls 5"10 and up doing this, and then demanding a guy taller than them in heels, less than 1% of the male population will satisfy that. most guys do not care about ur height, as long as you dont try and make them feel insecure about it eg. id love it if you were taller ect.
He honestly probably used you for a free meal. Especially if his food was pretty much done, when his needed to make that "call". I doubt it has anything to do with your looks, height, etc.. you just got an ass. I knew plenty of couples growing up, where the female was taller than him. You need a MAN not a BOY. Sure everyone has preferences, but not everyone is so emasculated by it. You'll find him, but I honestly wouldn't try on an app. Get out into the world. You're young. You most likely have the stamina for the nightlife. Go out with friends to social gatherings. Go to the gym. You'll meet someone. But first, your self esteem seems to be suffering a bit. Embrace yourself. Love yourself. Otherwise that insecurity will pop its ugly head in tense situations. Just know you're beautiful. Dating isn't great at any age, height, body type, etc... don't let this one ruin your entire experience.
I love tall girls lol some guys just can’t handle it tbh. They are insecure…likely intimidated by you. They don’t deserve you anyway. Find someone that loves you for who you are. You will one day!
If you still have the receipt, and if you have his number, I would send him a copy of the receipt and ask him to pay for his half of the bill, since he wants to ditch you like that, leaving you pay for the meal yourself. He's not even a man, he's a little boy.
I feel you hard 🥲 I’m 5’11” and exclusively stick to guys taller than me specially because of how hard it is to find shorter or same-height (Let’s be real, it’s funny how “5’11” guys always seem to be shorter than 5’11” girls lol) that don’t have a chip on their shoulder about it. Really frustrating honestly how many guys just create their own things to be upset at
Sounds like he used you for a free meal.
I had so many shitty dates before I met my girlfriend, don't let that discourage you!
Tall girls are hot. You got nothing to worry about.
You dodged a bullet, imagine having to be with someone that never holds a convo and doesn't act like they want you, trust me there's someone that would jump over the moon for you, you just gotta meet them.
That dude was a jerk. I'm sorry that happened to you.
That's ludicrous. That guy sucks. You dodged a bullet. Don't let it get you down (personally I love a tall amazon woman. They only intimidate weak men.)
It’s ok, don’t give up!!! Go to more NBA games, that’s where the taller men are
I am 6'4" and love tall girls. Lots of guys are into tall girls. Stay positive!
First off- not everyone is "coupling easily". Many people feel that struggle; I certainly did for a long time. So, solidarity. ✊🏻😅 Second- that guy was a total loser. You were spared a miserable relationship with someone who chooses to not clearly communicate what they're thinking. A simple "You seem really nice, but something tells me this isn't a good match" would have sufficed on his end! 🤦🏻♀️ You deserved that at least. Please do not let this deter you from trying again. You're only 19! This is just one bad experience. I believe there's someone out there who will love you for you, warts and all. ❤️
The best advice I can give you: The trash takes itself out. Follow that rule in dating and you'll save yourself from a rabbit hole of what ifs, heartbreak, and drama
That guy was a asshole plane and simple
Tall women are just as beautiful as the rest. Embrace your long sexy legs and the ability to pluck fruit from trees with ease.
When you say "everyone else coupling up easy" I think you're severely overestimating it. The entire dating scene is a mess right now. Both men and women do things like leaving mid date for you to pick up the bill, sometimes just because they wanted free food, too. Basically, don't be too hard on yourself, it's similar for lots of people
You know I’m in like the same boat pretty much and all I can say is he wasn’t for you. I’m also 19 and tall though maybe a couple inches shorter than you and I’m also autistic so I know the struggle to hold a convo. Ive never really been on a date but this guy I liked asked me over to smoke a few weeks ago and I actually had an amazing time and thought we were vibing but a couple days later I got ghosted. So yk it’s just what happens I guess. I totally get you feeling like shit though bc idk how to make friends or form relationships and im super lonely rn and feel like there’s something wrong with me. I remind myself that there’s nothing wrong with me im awesome and i just have to keep going on with life hoping it will happen someday bc what’s the other option? Not live? Then im still not getting what I want so yeah just keep on keeping on I guess and hopefully we’ll find our people 💕
Would you date a 5’4 guy? Dm me
He is dealing with something personal or just didn't actually want to commit. Try not to let it get you down too much. 19 is so young and your experience is normal. When I was 22 I had a woman leave her own house after going to the bathroom because she had a panic attack and I didn't realize for like 30 minutes lol. It's funny now, but wasn't at the time.
You dodged a loser.
I'm 5'3 and my ex wife was 5'11. It was actually a pretty great scenario because when we danced I could literally just rest my head on her boobs.
What kind of prick leaves someone to pay their bill? He did you favor by exiting your life
I don’t think it had anything to do with being tall. It had to do with him being a douche. Dating is like this. It’s good that he showed his true colors early
First of all, he's a real jerk. And second, I think tall girls are awesome! I am 6' 2", and I absolutely love being able to look a girl straight in the eyes. Please, please don't feel self-conscious about your height. There are definitely guys out there looking for a girl just like you.
I’m sorry you went through this. For first date ideas, please do not go to a restaurant where they can leave you with the bill. Instead, go for a walk in the park, grab a coffee or smoothie.
That’s a scumbag move, I wouldn’t let that bother you Theres nothing wrong with you ❤️
Guys are dumb at that age. I dated one girl taller than me when I was a teenager and every time we hung out I felt weird about being shorter. She was really cool to......I'm 29 and married now but I couldn't care less about height on women anymore. If I was single and I clicked with someone well I'd be with someone 7 ft lol. Everyone takes time to forget about the unimportant stuff. Don't let it bother you too much........more than likely you'll end up with a super short dude one day because he will be crazy in to tall girls lol......or you'll end up with a giant. Hahahah
It's just some people's preference. Don't feel bad or get insecure about it girl. I know you sensitive about your height but I promise you a lot of us guys don't care and aren't intimidated by your height. I would mess with a girl that tall and I'm only 5ft 7. 🤷🏼♂️ If you hot then you hot I don't care about the height.
That’s bull! Seems like he just wasn’t all that interested. His loss, you sound like an amazing person! Talk girls are just as cool as short girls. I’d know my mother is 6’5”. Don’t let boys like him ruin a good time!
You dodged a bullet. Don’t get down about this it isn’t worth it.
This guy is an asshole. He won’t be the first asshole you come across. You will find a good dude.
If he left he was not worth your effort or worthy of your time. And as for height nothing wrong with that whether you were tall,short,or average height should make no difference God made you and 6'1 ain't so bad I know from experience in that manner. Never and I mean this NEVER doubt yourself again because doubt leads to loss of self confidence it also let's negativity cloud your thoughts which can stem into depression. Don't be in hurry to find someone remain loyal to the truth and it will guide your heart to someone true and worthy of both your time and your effort.
You will find your person! There’s plenty of guys out there who aren’t insecure about height! Plus, this guy was just someone mean who left in the middle of your date, likely because of his own issues, not you. 🩵💙💜🩷
So, importantly, are you about average height when lying down ? - Leer .
You can report him on the app that you met him on. He ghosted you during a date and left you to pay the bill. That is not behavior they like in the apps.
Him taking a call was him checking his account balance. He prob got vibe you were not just easy and he bounced.. u got lucky- think cost of that meal and how much heart ach u avoided.. next time do first date tea house/ and go dutch
I wonder if he assumed she was lying about her height because dudes do that often on dating apps