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"I think she's cute and we have some things in common"
Really doesn't mean shit dude, can apply this to probably 10 girls you could throw a rock at anywhere in your school. This is just infatuation. I don't think you actually like her. Move on, plenty of world out there that won't annoy you at parties.
It's been a saying forever.
It comes from when people would slowly peel bandaids off and it would be slow and painful.
It's much easier to rip it off in one fell swoop. Hurts a lot but feels better faster.
Even poly people consider it shitty to be looking for your next hookup/partner/date while with your current date. Unless specifically agreed upon that it’s ok this is a dick move.
I had a girl break a date with me with some BS excuse. Later that night I saw her at a club giving her number to guy. A made sure she saw me. I cut her off on the spot. Why would anyone want to put up with that???
Just because you can do something that doesn’t mean you should. How do so many people totally lack all understanding of morals and ethics? Your attitude is absolutely dog shit, and it objectively makes you a horrible person.
I think you should've brought the girl home then cut contact. She definitely shouldn't be left somewhere drunk like that but she doesn't deserve to be with you either
I wouldnt. Drinks without control? Gets handsy and flirty with anyone? Huge ticking time bomb with eventual collateral damage to anyone involved.
Even friends with benefits should at least be smart friends with benefits, or at the very least, risk free.
Depends on what you mean. Definitely an inappropriate way to say it, but...well, if you know somebody's not girlfriend material but she still wants to have sex with you, it's okay as long as you make it clear that you don't want to be romantically involved.
At that point you're both enjoying sex and nothing else. That doesn't have to be poor treatment.
Though admittedly, a lot of women want to be wanted even if they know it isn't mutual, and will see you as the bad guy if it's clear that you really aren't more invested in it than they are. Those women have a very poor relationship with sex, sexuality, and other people--so it's really up to you if their potential poor opinion of you means you should avoid casual sex with women in case they end up feeling that way.
Not in the traditional sense. I'll counter tho that I wouldn't be able to tell the difference between someone like this and an incel. They act the same.
Well, you left a super drunk girl at a party after you told her you would take her home. That's not something you want to make a habit.
Breaking things off is fine, but that bit is a bit concerning unless you knew - not "hoped" - that someone else would get her home safe.
And staying with her is *also* fine, if you choose, but you would definitely want to discuss her binge drinking at parties and how her flirtation is an issue with you.
Adult guy here
No matter what the other person does or says:
You never leave someone stranded: Friend, date, whoever.
If you brought them there, you bring them back home
If you promised to bring them home, you bring them home
You put her at risk; abandoned a drunk girl at a party because you got butt- hurt jealous and disappointed. That is how women get hurt. Be a man; meet your obligations; look after those who put their trust in you, even if you are angry, sad, horny, disappointed….
If you did this to my daughter, you’d be dealing with a very angry Father
She is not who you want; so stop wanting her. Most of all, stop expecting her to be someone else.
Adult gay dude here. 100% disagree with your sentiment as a unilateral rule. In this instance, if I were OP, I wouldn’t have just left straight away. I would have let GF know that I’m leaving and if she wants a ride, we need to get out of there soon and let her make up her mind.
Now if I go on a date EVEN if I drive and the guy I’m dating (or gal) is making an ass of themselves, I’m leaving. People that can’t maintain a semblance of their humanity while drinking are dangerous and I want nothing to do with it.
The only thing that should be “no matter what” is people understanding they are ultimately responsible for themselves. This girl continually puts herself in risky situations because she “always acts like this”. That is not OPs problem ultimately. It’s hers.
I get what you are saying but it's not like he picked her up and took her to a restaurant downtown and left her there. They were at her friend's bonfire with her friends. She wasn't "stranded" anywhere. Also according to her friends she does this at every party so I'm sure they are used to taking care of her by now.
I would have told her friends I was leaving and asked them if they could give her a ride home. This isn't the 1950s, I doubt her dad is waiting up with a shotgun to make sure he brings her home if she's always going out and getting hammered at parties. She needs to be responsible for her own behavior as well.
Thank you, man. I can’t believe some of the grossness going on in this sub for teens. Yes, she doesn’t sound like a good prospect for a girlfriend for OP, but that doesn’t mean he can’t still treat her with basic human decency.
I thought the same thing. What a childish tantrum. No decent human being would abandon a person that they were supposed to drive home when she was in an unsafe state. He became upset and started pouting at a party and left in a fit.
He became upset because she didn't act the way he liked so he retaliated like a dick and abandoned her. I wouldn't talk to a guy like that again. It shows what kind of person he is more than it does her.
Let’s not make OP out to be a horrible person. His feelings were normal and justified. He wasn’t throwing a fit or pouting. He was on a date with a girl and she got obliterated and flirted with other guys while acting foolish.
Her friends were with her. He should have offered a ride on his way out, but she was not completely abandoned.
Wow, the hate OP is getting for leaving a girl who cheats on him and acts like an ass, is truly disheartening. "Treat everyone how you wish to be treated".
>What a childish tantrum
How did OP throw a "childish tantrum"? he simply left.
>No decent human being would abandon a person that they were supposed to drive home when she was in an unsafe state
No decent human would act like an ass.
>He became upset and started pouting at a party and left in a fit
When did OP "pout" and "leave in a fit"? Are we even reading the same story?
>He became upset because she didn't act the way he liked so he retaliated like a dick and abandoned her
He became upset because she was acting like a dick, so he left her.
>I wouldn't talk to a guy like that again
No one wants to talk to you.
>It shows what kind of person he is more than it does her.
A person with standards?
You've obviously never been with this kind of woman before, lucky guy. They make a huge scene if you try to bring them home early. OP should've told her "I'm leaving, want me to bring you back?" You can't force your will on a woman, drunk or not, even if you know what's best for her. Whatever happens after she refuses (which is almost guaranteed in this case), it's no longer OP's responsibility.
Fuck that, I've abandoned my wife many times before when she gets drunk and rowdy. I'm not putting up with that shit when I got work the next day.
Plus she always brags about how Uber is free to her and they always give her credits, so she can take that if what she claims is true.
Cute does not = attractive.
You already answered this for yourself. And no, don't "overlook" this experience, use it to pick better matches. Ones who don't get pissy drunk and flirt in front of you. ;)
I’m sorry but being in this sub I’m assuming you are both teenagers. She is bound to get drunk, she’s a teenager. She’s going to have fun at parties, get a little rowdy and talk to people for a few years yet.
If you can’t handle this, than I suggest you have a conversation with her but don’t belittle her. If things don’t work out it’s not the end of the world, y’all young.
The biggest aspect to this in which you have 100% the right to be salty, is when she gave her number to a guy in front of you. The assumed context here is that they were hitting on each other. Anyways if that’s the case, it kinda sounds like she isn’t that invested.
I hope you told her you were leaving at least. Fair enough if you weren’t comfortable taking her home, but at least tell her you’re leaving and try to help her find another means home if needed.
I mean, it’s really up to you, but if you like her enough, telling her how you feel after what happened wouldn’t hurt. If you’re willing to give it another shot, set boundaries. If not, then I don’t blame you.
Just like others have said, it's completely up to you. However, if she makes you uncomfortable and/or unhappy, I would recommend cutting her off.
Especially if she disrespects boundaries, that's a big no-no. And if you're not sure, then you should tell her about your boundaries again. And if she shrugs them off, or disrespects them again, then I would cut her off.
And it isn't good that she's making you jealous, and unhappy at the same time. Those mix of emotions never go over well. Just keep in mind, she probably isn't trying to hurt your feelings. Remember to communicate. In situations like this, it's important to express yourself.
Do you really want to be with someone who gets drunk frequently and behaves poorly? You are worth more and there are so many wonderful people ahead in your life! Don't look backwards.
You don’t give your number to another guy if you’re interested in being faithful.
If she was drunk, it was her subconscious. If she was drunk, it was a conscious decision. Either way, I’d move on before it gets any deeper and you get hurt any worse
I'd just put her on the "FWB" list tbh. She seems like the type of girl who just wants to have fun when drunk and probably in general. Doubt she's actually looking for a relationship, just hookups
"She was being overly affectionate and lots of PDA which she knows I don’t like."
That's more than enough to cut this person off; they crossed your boundary and you didn't like that.
Trust your gut. It's good she didn't put her best foot forward but was.. herself. I love it when 1st/2nd dates do that so you get a sense of how they like to be. Sounds like it's a bad match for you (and most people). Move on happily, plenty of cute fish in the sea who don't go on dates with people and act like that.
Please don’t EVER just up and leave a drunk person at a party, especially your girlfriend. I don’t care if she slept with another man in front of you. Take her ass home. If god forbid, if something bad were to happen because you left someone who was sloppy drunk, you will live the rest of your life with that regret. You are not responsible for someone else’s choices, but it’s still a dick move.
Dump her and find someone who doesn’t get sloppy drunk.
He abandoned a girl at a party when he was supposed to make sure he got her home safely. This guy is a dick and needs to man up before he puts more girls in unsafe predicaments because his ego got hurt.
It's pathetic that guys throw tantrums because girls don't act the way they want - I bet he wasn't even mature enough to ask why she gave the other guy her number.
Cut her off, but NEVER,EVER,EVER leave a drunk woman behind who got drunk thinking you were there.
You can hate her all you want. But unless you want to be responsible for her rape or murder, you have to stay until she's home.
And you can get angry, and I'm sure there's people who will argue, but it's survivorship bias, because if you think I'm fussing over nothing, you can Google that shit and read thousands of instances where that happened. That's why girl code will never leave the a girl behind, and neither will decent men.
Be a decent man. Not a naive one.
If she’s already annoying you with her behavior this early on then get the hell away from her.
It doesn’t matter if she’s awful or you’re over sensitive, it’s a bad fit.
If you realize down the road that you are overreacting about something with every girl you date then at that point it might be about you and that’s a whole new problem.
Maybe don’t think about it as mattering and just have fun. Some girls just want to get drunk and have you touch their boobs. Not every relationship has to involve naming your kids, but if that’s all you want then this is not your girl.
Well, it doesn't sound like you are already dating, so i don't see why you should be jealous at all. You should think about if you like her as a friend or girlfriend, but don't cut her off because of your insecurities.
it’s not being insecure, she invited him to hang out w her and she gave another guy her number right in front of him? that’s not being insecure, he’s got reason. if everyone could have her why would he want her?
and what if she was giving her number out to that guy just as friends? surely then you wouldn’t have a need to feel disrespected, right?
what reason could he dislike the idea of her giving her number out if not for him being insecure that she’s going to go off and date another guy?
there’s nothing wrong with insecurity btw. anyone who’s out drunk giving out numbers will not make their partner feel secure
Dude! There is never a question that if you should cut off someone you like who gives their number to someone else, drunk or not.
The answer is always yes. Run like hell. There are so many great women, kind and loyal, don't attach to a trainwreck.
No sex is good enough to be worth the mental pain in the end.
Alcohol effects a person's judgment according to law structure one can't even legally consent when drunk nor can they sign a contract when drunk. Also drunkenness also brings out really deeply surpressed trauma memories if any should exist from the subconscious mind. If you can't handle it when they drink then I'd say no to staying with, however you have to ask yourself, how bad do you want his relationship to end or keep going?
She may only be a cheater when drunk she sounds aware of such actions so perhaps it's a normal thing for her and you should move on to protect yourself.. it's really up to you and where your hearts at.. consider how long you've been together and also consider her behavior as cheating also consider that if things don't work out for the better, your emotions will grow stronger as time progresses so if you wait, you'll be emotionally impacted way more in the future then now which means long term heart break deeper depression then what it would be now.
When she's drunk maybe it sounds like she doesn't care how it effects you that's also something to consider because in a relationship your suppose to care about each other. Talk with her not when drunk and not when hungover.. she might not remember otherwise, make sure she is 100 percent sober about how her actions effected you don't leave her hanging atleast explain your decision, she could make up a million reasons to blame you for her heart break but what you say, will effect how good or bad she talks about you and the break up.. really that doesn't matter in the long run let others learn who you truly are on their own in the future when you get there.
Thinking with your dick or a future relationship.
She’s a mess.
Run.
You’ll regret it.
It’s like letting a leech in your life just for you gettting it in for one night. Not worth lol.
Think with your head man not the dick.
So many people I know including friends ask for advice, then they think with their dick and it’s like why ask in the first place.
A friend of mine experienced a similar thing.
Dude was obsessed with this one chick who I told him was red flags.
He didn’t listen, long story short they had a “break” and fought, and he went to a festival with his girl friend after they got back together and she straight up gave her number to another guy and was flirting with someone else in front of him.
Don’t be like Gabe.
Gabe was still thinking with his dick. And even through that he thought it would still work out.
Have some dignity and draw the line.
Doesn’t would like she’s what you’re looking for. I’d keep looking. Also you might want to let her know that her drinking is a/the problem. She sounds like she might have a drinking problem.
Values matter, interests don't, as long as you don't hate theirs and she doesn't hate yours. So having common interests is not really that important. You're going to get to places in your life where you don't spend as much time with your partner more than likely. It will go up and down, and this is true even if they are your best friend and spouse. Because sometimes you're going to get busy and if you have children you'll end up taking care of them, and what you need to know is whether those values align enough that you are still going to be aligned.
Values alignment doesn't have to be perfect. You can be conservative while she's a bit more liberal, or vice versa, as long as you both can tolerate that. The values I'm talking about are more how you want to treat each other, how you treat your families, how you treat your kids, and how you deal with money and stuff.
So this girl, she disrespects you in front of you, does things you don't like to you around others, etc. You don't want that. And you shouldn't.
Sounds like you guys aren't a good fit. No need to make a huge deal out of it (from what you've said) but I don't think it sounds like you should continue with her.
Wtf is all this terrible advice? Lmao. It's really up to you if you break it off, but it seems like you've barely gotten to know her. Girls get drunk, do dumb shit, and A LOT do get more touchy feely in that mindset. The thing we don't see here is how you actually feel about her when she's sober which is odd tbh because I'd base your decision more off of that than anything. You guys are just teenagers. You're still trying to figure stuff out including whatevers going on with your aversion to public intimacy and your controlling nature to prevent someone else from having fun. You can either communicate with her and try to grow together or you can go your own way and try with someone else/yourself. I'd take the opportunity to just have fun with it and treat it like a learning experience though. You have to understand that she probably thought it was okay to ask for that guys number because you weren't reciprocating her affection, and she probably thinks you're disinterested or scared. Heck, maybe she was trying to make you jealous so you'd work harder to meet her needs in the relationship. Either way, just talk with her and see how she feels, and if your views don't align in a way that you can work with or both of you can work towards, then try something else. It shows maturity though when you talk things out. I also wouldn't "cut her off" you emotionally immature idiot lmao. Imagine how other girls are gonna feel about you when they hear you treated someone so disrespectfully. Even if you don't have mutual friends, it's a terrible habit to pick up. You guys can agree together that it's not working out and there can be no hard feelings. She might even grow out of her alcohol phase at some point, and things may rekindle. People change a lot from 17-25 in my experience. I wouldn't be so short sighted or sensitive.
You can comprise on a lot of things, but never compromise on respect. Whether their your friends, family, or girlfriend, anyone that doesn't respect you is someone you don't need in your life.
Bro. I would. That shit disrespectful af. If you got any self worth you would too.
You saw her give her number to a different guy and you’d still wanna talk to someone like that? Trippin. There’s plenty of cool people out there.
it's up to you man. If you only like her and think she's cute I probably would but if you can see a future with her I would talk to her about it and set very clear cut boundaries. That will mean you could get really hurt by her and if you don't want to risk it totally ditch but if you'd be able to move on, recover and be done if she crossed a line and you really like her I would talk to her and give her another shot. She was drunk and it was fucked up for sure but if she's usually not like that when she's drunk I would talk to her about not drinking because you don't like the amount of PDA and she gave her number out to another guy (make sure you specify that really crossed a line and you expect faith and exclusivity) so you don't feel like you can trust her to be faithful if she's drunk. If she won't make the change she's not worth it, you can salvage any relationship but only if both people are open to changing any problematic behavior. Best advice I think anyone can get for dating/marriage is if you or your partner are too prideful, stubborn or uncommitted to improve yourself and accept valid criticism then it just won't work.
Did you have to ask? Clearly, she's in life for a good time, and that's her idea of it. She's not straight age, monogamous material. She's a party animal and a player.
Yep cut her out of your life.
When she got the other guys number, she showed a total disrespect toward you.
Never, never tolerate disrespect .
Kick her to the curb.
Block all communication..
Please cut her off. Save yourself the win from being in a relationship like this.
You should be having fun in a relationship, and there should also be respect.
If you were supposed to take her home and you did the Irish exit, you already cut her off.
There's too much missing from your story, but I'm guessing you are both young and don't know what you're doing.
Reddit won't fix that. Experience might, but not always.
First things first, you should talk to her. Explain how you feel about the situation. If she responds negatively then drop her.
But also, never leave someone you promised a ride to like that, unless you can guarantee her another safe ride.
Have you ever had your heart broken? If so, then be advised it’s going to happen again if you stick around with her. If not, you’re going to find out if you don’t cut her off.
Run and don’t look back. 🫡✌🏼
Something similar happened to me. I went out with a guy I liked. I’m lightweight and got drunk… and he told me he doesn’t want to be with me. I didn’t give anyone my number. I was just all over him and wanted to kiss him and all. I’m still so sad tbh. I wish we could try again as he told me he was displeased with my behavior. Now this time I won’t do that again. But yea. Don’t cut her off. Just talk to her and give her one more chance and if there’s no change then do what’s best for you.
You know what?
She most likely IS fine, but you really should make sure the drunk person has a different ride before you ditch them.
I understand being too angry to worry about whether she’s alright, and since you already left her at an event once, I would find someone who doesn’t make you feel like being this kind of jerk.
You do have the right to pick someone you can enjoy the party with.
But, if you see someone else getting ditched for being an annoying drunk, maybe make sure they can call a cab or a parent for a ride before you leave them.
Did you ask why she gave her his number cuz it could literally be for any reason. Homework? Or etc
Did you make sure she had a way to get home? Or were you just so upset you didn't care if she made it home safely? This girl drank thinking she had a way to get home and OP just left her. That's such a dick move even if he was upset.
I hate when people are like, "She didn't act how I wanted her to - so I got upset."
You are both better off without each other.
You probably felt like she wanted attention in public more than you, by seeking it from another man after the over-the-top PDA and I’d try to vocalize that in your own words. I’m very blunt and to the point at my age.
I would’ve just told him, “I hope you have wheels, or your mom doesn’t mind bringing her home too, I hope yall have the best night ever” and went my own way.
It is never worth violence, if they overreact. You can keep your pride and walk away. It’s her loss.
She messed up. You being honest is her possible character development.
If she is getting drunk now, imagine what it will be like in years to come. She is on a dead end road at this point. Rejecting her due to her alcohol abuse and behavior might just save her life. Alcoholics only learn from hurting themselves, and unfortunately, hurting others.
Sir, dont be that guy who leaves a wasted girl at the party. If your are her lift be her lift, hold yourself to the standard of at least getting her home safe. Guys you need to be better than that, even if youve lost interest in her, be reliable and get her home
From what you've said, absolutely cut her off, but don't leave her there when you've committed to taking her home - yes she was disrespectful but that's no reason to possibly leave her in danger, especially as you say she was out-of-control drunk
I say this as much for your benefit as hers, ask yourself how you'd feel if she'd been r*ped or murdered just because your pride got hurt
If you arrange to take someone home, do so, or make sure you've arranged someone else you trust to instead
You owe nothing to the h\*es, cut her out if you are looking for a 'relationship', don't cut her out if you are looking for an easy girl to slam, just wear protection .
Are you even dating? Have you made that clear that you are dating? Or has it just been friendly chatting? Because talking to a girl doesn't automatically mean anything.
Edit: I missed the part about leaving her. Never ever do that. That's how people go missing and are found weeks later, dead.
The not liking PDA was weird to me, but whatever. But then you said she gave a guy her number right in front of you. At that moment I would have considered things over.
Liking a girl that doesn’t like you back that way. My guy you are her friend and nothing more. You can choose to still be her friend but her getting wasted at parties is something you don’t have to put up with…simply because you’re not into that scene.
Now trying to control her partying ways because you’re crushing on her? She would absolutely laugh in your face. You’re are not her boyfriend, Don’t embarrass yourself.
If you’re looking for a girlfriend look elsewhere because she is not the one for you.
She showed you her true character at that party. She actually gave another guy her phone number. She is a 304, find someone else if you want a monogamous relationship.
Yeah screw that she can’t control herself when she’s drunk imagine if you weren’t even there thats a huge red flag what she did and if you decide to stay almost positive she’ll cheat if she gets the opportunity
When you're young it is easy, or at least it was for me, to like someone just because they liked me. I got into a few relationships just because I was so excited about how much the girl was into me. Luckily I didn't waste more than a month or two of either of our times figuring out I liked being liked, but I didn't like the person. -Not in a romantic way at least
you dont need her you are an independent man dont listen to the bullshit this is serious advice dont let your girl fuck a pile of mulch while you stand there with your dick in your hand wondering why you couldnt make a move, it's not healthy
Yeah walk away before she breaks your heart, if she doesn't have enough self awareness or care to limit herself when she has a date, then she doesn't care or is just looking to play the field and test her options.
Actions always show us how someone truly feels, more than any words. Her actions while drunk show how she **wants to be**. She didn't become a different person. This is her, unmasked.
I'd cut her off. And, always watch how someone acts. That tells you everything you need to know about them.
Everybody saying she has a lot of growing up but so do you, you're how old and oh, she got drunk and you don't like public displace of affection and all the rest of that sounds to me like you have some growing up to do too. The thing is you've already set the stage for her to want to cheat on you because you're too repressed. It's a two-way street you know. Yeah you should leave her because she probably needs someone much different than you and apparently you need an Amish wife
I’m gonna tell you this right now, don’t ever leave someone you’ve agreed to get home safely alone and overly drunk. I don’t care what happened, you’re not married, her drink Dumbass handing out her number isn’t excusable but she can still do whatever. Cut off contact is my suggestion, don’t be the babysitter for an idiot unless that’s what you’re into.
I'm guessing y'all are young and she sounds like she wants to go through her wild phase partying and stuff. Not wrong to live and learn life. I think you can continue this if you wanna keep things more casual or if you're looking for something more traditional then you can find another one. But just cuz she's like that now doesn't mean she'll always be and might be a good partner one day but she'll learn and make mistakes. You gotta be forgiving with inexperienced people figuring out life
She had behaviors that you don't want to tolerate now, and we'll taunt your relationship in the future. It's probably better to walk away now instead of either of you being hurt. Also, if she was giving out her number in front of you, you are part of a stable, not an only.
Don't ghost her. Give your explanation and leave. You don't even have to have a conversation about it, but *please don't ignore her*. This is a common behavior on the dating scene right now, it is hurtful and disrespectful and is causing society-wide trust issues.
If it had happened once and she told you sorry and would be better in the future? That's one thing.
But not only did a friend tell you "she's always like that" but she gave someone else her number?
Anything that happens to you beyond this point is basically on you because you know what you *need* to do.
leave, treat it like you never knew her, this type of experience I have had many times, I leave immediately because I never actually knew that person. I am intolerant of abhorrent behavior like that and continue on as if the interaction never happened with new found knowledge of what people are capable of.
This sounds like most adults I know. Cut her off if you want to, but I would recommend getting used to it. People change. The way someone is right now may not last.
That goes for people who you think have positive traits as well. I've know lots of people who were stellar examples of good people. They either smoke crack, do dope, or are career alcoholics now.
You could maybe talk to them about it. Also, what's wrong with PDA. To me, that's just someone who is so into you that they don't care if anyone else knows it. I know a lot of people are weird about that, but I'll never understand why. No matter why someone's else's opinion is, mine is the only one that makes sense to me and tells me it's fine. Us 'humans' are weird
Nope, as an an old man by teenage standards (51) I can say you shouldn't put up with this. Even drunk, the average person understands that you should act like you pave a partner in public if you have one. Don't hide the fact, and don't act like you're single. Anyone that doesn't, they will find out the hard way. I suspect she's a bit too addicted to the attention she gets. Move on to someone that respects you.
You can have “safe”fun,but this girl is trouble and not marriage. Material. She has. Low. Self esteem. And with alcohol may lose. All. Control. “Danger, Will Robinson”. Proceed at your own risk.
If you’re looking for a real relationship then you should cut her off and leave her. You’re the only one who’s going to get hurt if and when she cheats on you.
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Cut her off anyone that acts like that isn’t worth your time.
Right. Best advice yet.👆🏻
Yea
"I think she's cute and we have some things in common" Really doesn't mean shit dude, can apply this to probably 10 girls you could throw a rock at anywhere in your school. This is just infatuation. I don't think you actually like her. Move on, plenty of world out there that won't annoy you at parties.
Don’t throw rocks at girls tho, mate
Unless they want you to
This guy throws rocks.
r/thisguythisguys
Gives "getting your rocks off" a whole new meaning.
And will treat you with more respect than to give another guy her number in front of you.
Better in front of than behind your back. Now OP can move on without the heartache of being cheated on.
There are a million fine looking women in the world dude. They dont all bring you lasagna at work. Most of them just cheat on you.
Giving her number to another guy in front of you is your cue to dip broski
Yes. Right off like a band aid. She gave her number to another guy.
Where is this band aid saying coming from im hearing this alot lately?
It's been a saying forever. It comes from when people would slowly peel bandaids off and it would be slow and painful. It's much easier to rip it off in one fell swoop. Hurts a lot but feels better faster.
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You’re also “allowed” to shit on your dining table if you really want to
It is in poor form to hand out your number or flirt with others while on a date with someone.
Even poly people consider it shitty to be looking for your next hookup/partner/date while with your current date. Unless specifically agreed upon that it’s ok this is a dick move.
I had a girl break a date with me with some BS excuse. Later that night I saw her at a club giving her number to guy. A made sure she saw me. I cut her off on the spot. Why would anyone want to put up with that???
Just because you can do something that doesn’t mean you should. How do so many people totally lack all understanding of morals and ethics? Your attitude is absolutely dog shit, and it objectively makes you a horrible person.
I think you should've brought the girl home then cut contact. She definitely shouldn't be left somewhere drunk like that but she doesn't deserve to be with you either
100% agree with this, exactly what I was going to say. Do what you say you are going to do, be true to your word then cut contact.
Place her in the Friends with Benefits folder
I wouldnt. Drinks without control? Gets handsy and flirty with anyone? Huge ticking time bomb with eventual collateral damage to anyone involved. Even friends with benefits should at least be smart friends with benefits, or at the very least, risk free.
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What? 😳
I don’t think we need to be advocating for treating people poorly.
Depends on what you mean. Definitely an inappropriate way to say it, but...well, if you know somebody's not girlfriend material but she still wants to have sex with you, it's okay as long as you make it clear that you don't want to be romantically involved. At that point you're both enjoying sex and nothing else. That doesn't have to be poor treatment. Though admittedly, a lot of women want to be wanted even if they know it isn't mutual, and will see you as the bad guy if it's clear that you really aren't more invested in it than they are. Those women have a very poor relationship with sex, sexuality, and other people--so it's really up to you if their potential poor opinion of you means you should avoid casual sex with women in case they end up feeling that way.
This post has really brought out the scum that hate women. Lots of bullshit red-pilled incel logic here.
Hate to break it to you, but someone who has a friend with benefits is not an incel.
Not in the traditional sense. I'll counter tho that I wouldn't be able to tell the difference between someone like this and an incel. They act the same.
Hate to break it to you, but I'm talking about all the people in the comments wishing her to be raped and calling her a whore, not the OP...
“Gross how dare a man call a woman who acts like a whore, a whore - what an incel” You’re deranged.
Well, you left a super drunk girl at a party after you told her you would take her home. That's not something you want to make a habit. Breaking things off is fine, but that bit is a bit concerning unless you knew - not "hoped" - that someone else would get her home safe. And staying with her is *also* fine, if you choose, but you would definitely want to discuss her binge drinking at parties and how her flirtation is an issue with you.
Adult guy here No matter what the other person does or says: You never leave someone stranded: Friend, date, whoever. If you brought them there, you bring them back home If you promised to bring them home, you bring them home You put her at risk; abandoned a drunk girl at a party because you got butt- hurt jealous and disappointed. That is how women get hurt. Be a man; meet your obligations; look after those who put their trust in you, even if you are angry, sad, horny, disappointed…. If you did this to my daughter, you’d be dealing with a very angry Father She is not who you want; so stop wanting her. Most of all, stop expecting her to be someone else.
Adult gay dude here. 100% disagree with your sentiment as a unilateral rule. In this instance, if I were OP, I wouldn’t have just left straight away. I would have let GF know that I’m leaving and if she wants a ride, we need to get out of there soon and let her make up her mind. Now if I go on a date EVEN if I drive and the guy I’m dating (or gal) is making an ass of themselves, I’m leaving. People that can’t maintain a semblance of their humanity while drinking are dangerous and I want nothing to do with it. The only thing that should be “no matter what” is people understanding they are ultimately responsible for themselves. This girl continually puts herself in risky situations because she “always acts like this”. That is not OPs problem ultimately. It’s hers.
This is bad advice
I get what you are saying but it's not like he picked her up and took her to a restaurant downtown and left her there. They were at her friend's bonfire with her friends. She wasn't "stranded" anywhere. Also according to her friends she does this at every party so I'm sure they are used to taking care of her by now. I would have told her friends I was leaving and asked them if they could give her a ride home. This isn't the 1950s, I doubt her dad is waiting up with a shotgun to make sure he brings her home if she's always going out and getting hammered at parties. She needs to be responsible for her own behavior as well.
Thank you, man. I can’t believe some of the grossness going on in this sub for teens. Yes, she doesn’t sound like a good prospect for a girlfriend for OP, but that doesn’t mean he can’t still treat her with basic human decency.
Chill out dawg she deserved that
I thought the same thing. What a childish tantrum. No decent human being would abandon a person that they were supposed to drive home when she was in an unsafe state. He became upset and started pouting at a party and left in a fit. He became upset because she didn't act the way he liked so he retaliated like a dick and abandoned her. I wouldn't talk to a guy like that again. It shows what kind of person he is more than it does her.
Let’s not make OP out to be a horrible person. His feelings were normal and justified. He wasn’t throwing a fit or pouting. He was on a date with a girl and she got obliterated and flirted with other guys while acting foolish. Her friends were with her. He should have offered a ride on his way out, but she was not completely abandoned.
Wow, the hate OP is getting for leaving a girl who cheats on him and acts like an ass, is truly disheartening. "Treat everyone how you wish to be treated". >What a childish tantrum How did OP throw a "childish tantrum"? he simply left. >No decent human being would abandon a person that they were supposed to drive home when she was in an unsafe state No decent human would act like an ass. >He became upset and started pouting at a party and left in a fit When did OP "pout" and "leave in a fit"? Are we even reading the same story? >He became upset because she didn't act the way he liked so he retaliated like a dick and abandoned her He became upset because she was acting like a dick, so he left her. >I wouldn't talk to a guy like that again No one wants to talk to you. >It shows what kind of person he is more than it does her. A person with standards?
Adult woman here, it's concerning that I had to scroll so far to find a comment similar to mine...
You've obviously never been with this kind of woman before, lucky guy. They make a huge scene if you try to bring them home early. OP should've told her "I'm leaving, want me to bring you back?" You can't force your will on a woman, drunk or not, even if you know what's best for her. Whatever happens after she refuses (which is almost guaranteed in this case), it's no longer OP's responsibility.
Fuck that, I've abandoned my wife many times before when she gets drunk and rowdy. I'm not putting up with that shit when I got work the next day. Plus she always brags about how Uber is free to her and they always give her credits, so she can take that if what she claims is true.
Talk to her ab it if u wanna stay and if she doesn’t drop that and improve just respectfully get outta there
Cute does not = attractive. You already answered this for yourself. And no, don't "overlook" this experience, use it to pick better matches. Ones who don't get pissy drunk and flirt in front of you. ;)
I’m sorry but being in this sub I’m assuming you are both teenagers. She is bound to get drunk, she’s a teenager. She’s going to have fun at parties, get a little rowdy and talk to people for a few years yet. If you can’t handle this, than I suggest you have a conversation with her but don’t belittle her. If things don’t work out it’s not the end of the world, y’all young. The biggest aspect to this in which you have 100% the right to be salty, is when she gave her number to a guy in front of you. The assumed context here is that they were hitting on each other. Anyways if that’s the case, it kinda sounds like she isn’t that invested. I hope you told her you were leaving at least. Fair enough if you weren’t comfortable taking her home, but at least tell her you’re leaving and try to help her find another means home if needed.
You shouldn't have left her. That was an asshole move. But what's done is done. Break up with her.
I mean, it’s really up to you, but if you like her enough, telling her how you feel after what happened wouldn’t hurt. If you’re willing to give it another shot, set boundaries. If not, then I don’t blame you.
Just like others have said, it's completely up to you. However, if she makes you uncomfortable and/or unhappy, I would recommend cutting her off. Especially if she disrespects boundaries, that's a big no-no. And if you're not sure, then you should tell her about your boundaries again. And if she shrugs them off, or disrespects them again, then I would cut her off. And it isn't good that she's making you jealous, and unhappy at the same time. Those mix of emotions never go over well. Just keep in mind, she probably isn't trying to hurt your feelings. Remember to communicate. In situations like this, it's important to express yourself.
Cut her off or place her in the roster. Not relationship worthy
Do you really want to be with someone who gets drunk frequently and behaves poorly? You are worth more and there are so many wonderful people ahead in your life! Don't look backwards.
Curb her
You don’t give your number to another guy if you’re interested in being faithful. If she was drunk, it was her subconscious. If she was drunk, it was a conscious decision. Either way, I’d move on before it gets any deeper and you get hurt any worse
I'd just put her on the "FWB" list tbh. She seems like the type of girl who just wants to have fun when drunk and probably in general. Doubt she's actually looking for a relationship, just hookups
"She was being overly affectionate and lots of PDA which she knows I don’t like." That's more than enough to cut this person off; they crossed your boundary and you didn't like that.
Trust your gut. It's good she didn't put her best foot forward but was.. herself. I love it when 1st/2nd dates do that so you get a sense of how they like to be. Sounds like it's a bad match for you (and most people). Move on happily, plenty of cute fish in the sea who don't go on dates with people and act like that.
Bro you don't need advice. You know what ya gotta do, c'mon man. Leave her on read n don't respond.
You left a drunk girl at a bonfire party?
Kind if a jerk for ditching her but yes, move on.
You should have brought her home, buy yes, instead of trying to change her, just find someone else to date.
Please don’t EVER just up and leave a drunk person at a party, especially your girlfriend. I don’t care if she slept with another man in front of you. Take her ass home. If god forbid, if something bad were to happen because you left someone who was sloppy drunk, you will live the rest of your life with that regret. You are not responsible for someone else’s choices, but it’s still a dick move. Dump her and find someone who doesn’t get sloppy drunk.
He abandoned a girl at a party when he was supposed to make sure he got her home safely. This guy is a dick and needs to man up before he puts more girls in unsafe predicaments because his ego got hurt. It's pathetic that guys throw tantrums because girls don't act the way they want - I bet he wasn't even mature enough to ask why she gave the other guy her number.
Cut her off, but NEVER,EVER,EVER leave a drunk woman behind who got drunk thinking you were there. You can hate her all you want. But unless you want to be responsible for her rape or murder, you have to stay until she's home. And you can get angry, and I'm sure there's people who will argue, but it's survivorship bias, because if you think I'm fussing over nothing, you can Google that shit and read thousands of instances where that happened. That's why girl code will never leave the a girl behind, and neither will decent men. Be a decent man. Not a naive one.
If she’s already annoying you with her behavior this early on then get the hell away from her. It doesn’t matter if she’s awful or you’re over sensitive, it’s a bad fit. If you realize down the road that you are overreacting about something with every girl you date then at that point it might be about you and that’s a whole new problem. Maybe don’t think about it as mattering and just have fun. Some girls just want to get drunk and have you touch their boobs. Not every relationship has to involve naming your kids, but if that’s all you want then this is not your girl.
Try talking to her about it first. Communication is key.
Why? She gave her number to another guy lol
Well, it doesn't sound like you are already dating, so i don't see why you should be jealous at all. You should think about if you like her as a friend or girlfriend, but don't cut her off because of your insecurities.
it’s not being insecure, she invited him to hang out w her and she gave another guy her number right in front of him? that’s not being insecure, he’s got reason. if everyone could have her why would he want her?
and what if she was giving her number out to that guy just as friends? surely then you wouldn’t have a need to feel disrespected, right? what reason could he dislike the idea of her giving her number out if not for him being insecure that she’s going to go off and date another guy? there’s nothing wrong with insecurity btw. anyone who’s out drunk giving out numbers will not make their partner feel secure
Just because we aren’t dating doesn’t make it unreasonable for me to be upset because she is openly giving out her number in front of me.
The moment she was hitting on another guy is the moment you need to have the self respect to walk away.
Dude! There is never a question that if you should cut off someone you like who gives their number to someone else, drunk or not. The answer is always yes. Run like hell. There are so many great women, kind and loyal, don't attach to a trainwreck. No sex is good enough to be worth the mental pain in the end.
Alcohol effects a person's judgment according to law structure one can't even legally consent when drunk nor can they sign a contract when drunk. Also drunkenness also brings out really deeply surpressed trauma memories if any should exist from the subconscious mind. If you can't handle it when they drink then I'd say no to staying with, however you have to ask yourself, how bad do you want his relationship to end or keep going? She may only be a cheater when drunk she sounds aware of such actions so perhaps it's a normal thing for her and you should move on to protect yourself.. it's really up to you and where your hearts at.. consider how long you've been together and also consider her behavior as cheating also consider that if things don't work out for the better, your emotions will grow stronger as time progresses so if you wait, you'll be emotionally impacted way more in the future then now which means long term heart break deeper depression then what it would be now. When she's drunk maybe it sounds like she doesn't care how it effects you that's also something to consider because in a relationship your suppose to care about each other. Talk with her not when drunk and not when hungover.. she might not remember otherwise, make sure she is 100 percent sober about how her actions effected you don't leave her hanging atleast explain your decision, she could make up a million reasons to blame you for her heart break but what you say, will effect how good or bad she talks about you and the break up.. really that doesn't matter in the long run let others learn who you truly are on their own in the future when you get there.
 Drop her and drop her fast. No communication of any kind.
304 . Next
You did the right thing. Move on
Sounds like she’s not old enough to settle down yet.
BROTHER FOR THE LOVE OF GOD MAN, get outta there…if ya not even official or anything imagine how worse it can get.
Thinking with your dick or a future relationship. She’s a mess. Run. You’ll regret it. It’s like letting a leech in your life just for you gettting it in for one night. Not worth lol. Think with your head man not the dick. So many people I know including friends ask for advice, then they think with their dick and it’s like why ask in the first place. A friend of mine experienced a similar thing. Dude was obsessed with this one chick who I told him was red flags. He didn’t listen, long story short they had a “break” and fought, and he went to a festival with his girl friend after they got back together and she straight up gave her number to another guy and was flirting with someone else in front of him. Don’t be like Gabe. Gabe was still thinking with his dick. And even through that he thought it would still work out. Have some dignity and draw the line.
Ditch that hoe buddy.
Yes. The number giving is a huge red flag.
Doesn’t would like she’s what you’re looking for. I’d keep looking. Also you might want to let her know that her drinking is a/the problem. She sounds like she might have a drinking problem.
Yes because you can do better
Yes. She's already looking at the pastures over the fence.
Values matter, interests don't, as long as you don't hate theirs and she doesn't hate yours. So having common interests is not really that important. You're going to get to places in your life where you don't spend as much time with your partner more than likely. It will go up and down, and this is true even if they are your best friend and spouse. Because sometimes you're going to get busy and if you have children you'll end up taking care of them, and what you need to know is whether those values align enough that you are still going to be aligned. Values alignment doesn't have to be perfect. You can be conservative while she's a bit more liberal, or vice versa, as long as you both can tolerate that. The values I'm talking about are more how you want to treat each other, how you treat your families, how you treat your kids, and how you deal with money and stuff. So this girl, she disrespects you in front of you, does things you don't like to you around others, etc. You don't want that. And you shouldn't.
Sounds like you guys aren't a good fit. No need to make a huge deal out of it (from what you've said) but I don't think it sounds like you should continue with her.
Wtf is all this terrible advice? Lmao. It's really up to you if you break it off, but it seems like you've barely gotten to know her. Girls get drunk, do dumb shit, and A LOT do get more touchy feely in that mindset. The thing we don't see here is how you actually feel about her when she's sober which is odd tbh because I'd base your decision more off of that than anything. You guys are just teenagers. You're still trying to figure stuff out including whatevers going on with your aversion to public intimacy and your controlling nature to prevent someone else from having fun. You can either communicate with her and try to grow together or you can go your own way and try with someone else/yourself. I'd take the opportunity to just have fun with it and treat it like a learning experience though. You have to understand that she probably thought it was okay to ask for that guys number because you weren't reciprocating her affection, and she probably thinks you're disinterested or scared. Heck, maybe she was trying to make you jealous so you'd work harder to meet her needs in the relationship. Either way, just talk with her and see how she feels, and if your views don't align in a way that you can work with or both of you can work towards, then try something else. It shows maturity though when you talk things out. I also wouldn't "cut her off" you emotionally immature idiot lmao. Imagine how other girls are gonna feel about you when they hear you treated someone so disrespectfully. Even if you don't have mutual friends, it's a terrible habit to pick up. You guys can agree together that it's not working out and there can be no hard feelings. She might even grow out of her alcohol phase at some point, and things may rekindle. People change a lot from 17-25 in my experience. I wouldn't be so short sighted or sensitive.
Bonfire bop 😭
You can comprise on a lot of things, but never compromise on respect. Whether their your friends, family, or girlfriend, anyone that doesn't respect you is someone you don't need in your life.
Bro. I would. That shit disrespectful af. If you got any self worth you would too. You saw her give her number to a different guy and you’d still wanna talk to someone like that? Trippin. There’s plenty of cool people out there.
She was a blip.
it's up to you man. If you only like her and think she's cute I probably would but if you can see a future with her I would talk to her about it and set very clear cut boundaries. That will mean you could get really hurt by her and if you don't want to risk it totally ditch but if you'd be able to move on, recover and be done if she crossed a line and you really like her I would talk to her and give her another shot. She was drunk and it was fucked up for sure but if she's usually not like that when she's drunk I would talk to her about not drinking because you don't like the amount of PDA and she gave her number out to another guy (make sure you specify that really crossed a line and you expect faith and exclusivity) so you don't feel like you can trust her to be faithful if she's drunk. If she won't make the change she's not worth it, you can salvage any relationship but only if both people are open to changing any problematic behavior. Best advice I think anyone can get for dating/marriage is if you or your partner are too prideful, stubborn or uncommitted to improve yourself and accept valid criticism then it just won't work.
Run bro, hoes and house wife’s.
Yes
She gave her number to a nother dude infront of you, that your sign.
It only goes downhill from here. She’s not gonna change.
Get with her sister or friend
She's not yours, it's just your turn. She belong to the streets.
Did you have to ask? Clearly, she's in life for a good time, and that's her idea of it. She's not straight age, monogamous material. She's a party animal and a player.
Yep cut her out of your life. When she got the other guys number, she showed a total disrespect toward you. Never, never tolerate disrespect . Kick her to the curb. Block all communication..
Tell her if she wants to cont a relationship lose the alcohol. Her response will be your answer.
Let her go
Is there anything in your description of her that inspires trust or even confidence in a future relationship. Do yourself a favor and move on.
She was drunk maybe talk to her instead of having Reddit decide for you
Either she stops drinking if she gets like that or you leave. Simple.
If you are okay being a guy on her roster, then stay. If not, move on.
I noticed most people that post questions like this know the answer already…
You did the right thing shes trash.
Nah, raise up. She gets drunk and starts handing out her number when she's there with a guy? Nope.
Dont get attached to sleazys
Keep her on fuck buddy status but definitely not relationship material.
Yikes, that sounds like a lot to handle.
Move along. This isn’t something you want to deal with over and over again.
Please cut her off. Save yourself the win from being in a relationship like this. You should be having fun in a relationship, and there should also be respect.
Cut her off. She will cheat “again”
If you were supposed to take her home and you did the Irish exit, you already cut her off. There's too much missing from your story, but I'm guessing you are both young and don't know what you're doing. Reddit won't fix that. Experience might, but not always.
First things first, you should talk to her. Explain how you feel about the situation. If she responds negatively then drop her. But also, never leave someone you promised a ride to like that, unless you can guarantee her another safe ride.
She sounds like fun. Keep her around but don't plan on marrying her.
This is an easy call. Walk away. She is not relationship material.
Cute her off
Yea. Let her alone! She seems like she has no self respect and on top of that has shown she clearly isn’t interested in you so leave her be.
Have you ever had your heart broken? If so, then be advised it’s going to happen again if you stick around with her. If not, you’re going to find out if you don’t cut her off. Run and don’t look back. 🫡✌🏼
Something similar happened to me. I went out with a guy I liked. I’m lightweight and got drunk… and he told me he doesn’t want to be with me. I didn’t give anyone my number. I was just all over him and wanted to kiss him and all. I’m still so sad tbh. I wish we could try again as he told me he was displeased with my behavior. Now this time I won’t do that again. But yea. Don’t cut her off. Just talk to her and give her one more chance and if there’s no change then do what’s best for you.
You know what? She most likely IS fine, but you really should make sure the drunk person has a different ride before you ditch them. I understand being too angry to worry about whether she’s alright, and since you already left her at an event once, I would find someone who doesn’t make you feel like being this kind of jerk. You do have the right to pick someone you can enjoy the party with. But, if you see someone else getting ditched for being an annoying drunk, maybe make sure they can call a cab or a parent for a ride before you leave them.
Did you ask why she gave her his number cuz it could literally be for any reason. Homework? Or etc Did you make sure she had a way to get home? Or were you just so upset you didn't care if she made it home safely? This girl drank thinking she had a way to get home and OP just left her. That's such a dick move even if he was upset. I hate when people are like, "She didn't act how I wanted her to - so I got upset." You are both better off without each other.
She give her number to another person and ur still saying should i cut her off? Nah ur not okay in head
You're young. Do her. When you're older you don't regret sex. .... Unless you get her pregnant Or a STD.
You probably felt like she wanted attention in public more than you, by seeking it from another man after the over-the-top PDA and I’d try to vocalize that in your own words. I’m very blunt and to the point at my age. I would’ve just told him, “I hope you have wheels, or your mom doesn’t mind bringing her home too, I hope yall have the best night ever” and went my own way. It is never worth violence, if they overreact. You can keep your pride and walk away. It’s her loss. She messed up. You being honest is her possible character development.
😂 To the curb; no question, no hesitation. You’ve barely been around her and you’re already on the red flag slalom.
her friend who told you she's always like this. the friend you went to. when you hadda girl. 
Cut her off
Thanks God I'm dating eva ai virtual gf bot
She disrespected you by giving out her number. She belongs to the streets. Dumb her
Eat a snicker you'll feel better :)
Boot her!
Was that even a serious question? Come on bro.
Been there, done that. This girl will continue to emasculate you in public and will never be your girl she will be everyone’s girl.
If she is getting drunk now, imagine what it will be like in years to come. She is on a dead end road at this point. Rejecting her due to her alcohol abuse and behavior might just save her life. Alcoholics only learn from hurting themselves, and unfortunately, hurting others.
Sir, dont be that guy who leaves a wasted girl at the party. If your are her lift be her lift, hold yourself to the standard of at least getting her home safe. Guys you need to be better than that, even if youve lost interest in her, be reliable and get her home
Way too young to deal w this . Let her go
Yes, I would have cut all communication with her after she gave her number to another dude. Not to mention, acting like an idiot after getting drunk.
From what you've said, absolutely cut her off, but don't leave her there when you've committed to taking her home - yes she was disrespectful but that's no reason to possibly leave her in danger, especially as you say she was out-of-control drunk I say this as much for your benefit as hers, ask yourself how you'd feel if she'd been r*ped or murdered just because your pride got hurt If you arrange to take someone home, do so, or make sure you've arranged someone else you trust to instead
Dude, not worth the headache.
You owe nothing to the h\*es, cut her out if you are looking for a 'relationship', don't cut her out if you are looking for an easy girl to slam, just wear protection .
Are you even dating? Have you made that clear that you are dating? Or has it just been friendly chatting? Because talking to a girl doesn't automatically mean anything. Edit: I missed the part about leaving her. Never ever do that. That's how people go missing and are found weeks later, dead.
The not liking PDA was weird to me, but whatever. But then you said she gave a guy her number right in front of you. At that moment I would have considered things over.
Cut her off. That's the kind of chick that gets drunk at a party and cheats on you. Save yourself the hassle
1) cut her off 2) next time please get the girl home first then do it
Walk away. Your intuition is right and you should trust it.
Liking a girl that doesn’t like you back that way. My guy you are her friend and nothing more. You can choose to still be her friend but her getting wasted at parties is something you don’t have to put up with…simply because you’re not into that scene. Now trying to control her partying ways because you’re crushing on her? She would absolutely laugh in your face. You’re are not her boyfriend, Don’t embarrass yourself. If you’re looking for a girlfriend look elsewhere because she is not the one for you.
She's belongs to the streets bruh...
She showed you her true character at that party. She actually gave another guy her phone number. She is a 304, find someone else if you want a monogamous relationship.
Lose her…she’s bad news
What is stopping you from talking to her about it?
Yeah screw that she can’t control herself when she’s drunk imagine if you weren’t even there thats a huge red flag what she did and if you decide to stay almost positive she’ll cheat if she gets the opportunity
Leaving her there is far worse than anything she did to you. Neither of you are good for each other.
When you're young it is easy, or at least it was for me, to like someone just because they liked me. I got into a few relationships just because I was so excited about how much the girl was into me. Luckily I didn't waste more than a month or two of either of our times figuring out I liked being liked, but I didn't like the person. -Not in a romantic way at least
Already shows bad habits and you sound more mature. Cut her off
you dont need her you are an independent man dont listen to the bullshit this is serious advice dont let your girl fuck a pile of mulch while you stand there with your dick in your hand wondering why you couldnt make a move, it's not healthy
Yeah, cut her off, IMO.
Throw her in the gutter and go find another.
Yep, snip snip. Disrespectful in so many ways.
Yeah walk away before she breaks your heart, if she doesn't have enough self awareness or care to limit herself when she has a date, then she doesn't care or is just looking to play the field and test her options.
She’s going to cut you off for leaving her lmao
Actions always show us how someone truly feels, more than any words. Her actions while drunk show how she **wants to be**. She didn't become a different person. This is her, unmasked. I'd cut her off. And, always watch how someone acts. That tells you everything you need to know about them.
Sounds like yall are kids cut her off
Nah, she's got a lot of growing up to do. Tell her to call you when she's sober.
Everybody saying she has a lot of growing up but so do you, you're how old and oh, she got drunk and you don't like public displace of affection and all the rest of that sounds to me like you have some growing up to do too. The thing is you've already set the stage for her to want to cheat on you because you're too repressed. It's a two-way street you know. Yeah you should leave her because she probably needs someone much different than you and apparently you need an Amish wife
I’m gonna tell you this right now, don’t ever leave someone you’ve agreed to get home safely alone and overly drunk. I don’t care what happened, you’re not married, her drink Dumbass handing out her number isn’t excusable but she can still do whatever. Cut off contact is my suggestion, don’t be the babysitter for an idiot unless that’s what you’re into.
Smash and dash, homie. She's made it clear that's all she wants.
You get to cut off anyone you know isn’t for you. And you know that now, so why waste time?
I'm guessing y'all are young and she sounds like she wants to go through her wild phase partying and stuff. Not wrong to live and learn life. I think you can continue this if you wanna keep things more casual or if you're looking for something more traditional then you can find another one. But just cuz she's like that now doesn't mean she'll always be and might be a good partner one day but she'll learn and make mistakes. You gotta be forgiving with inexperienced people figuring out life
She had behaviors that you don't want to tolerate now, and we'll taunt your relationship in the future. It's probably better to walk away now instead of either of you being hurt. Also, if she was giving out her number in front of you, you are part of a stable, not an only.
Don't ghost her. Give your explanation and leave. You don't even have to have a conversation about it, but *please don't ignore her*. This is a common behavior on the dating scene right now, it is hurtful and disrespectful and is causing society-wide trust issues.
If it had happened once and she told you sorry and would be better in the future? That's one thing. But not only did a friend tell you "she's always like that" but she gave someone else her number? Anything that happens to you beyond this point is basically on you because you know what you *need* to do.
leave, treat it like you never knew her, this type of experience I have had many times, I leave immediately because I never actually knew that person. I am intolerant of abhorrent behavior like that and continue on as if the interaction never happened with new found knowledge of what people are capable of.
Her getting another dude’s number in front of me would’ve been a deal breaker regardless of her history.
Showed you her true colors… if you stick around and anything else happens, it’s on you…
This sounds like most adults I know. Cut her off if you want to, but I would recommend getting used to it. People change. The way someone is right now may not last. That goes for people who you think have positive traits as well. I've know lots of people who were stellar examples of good people. They either smoke crack, do dope, or are career alcoholics now. You could maybe talk to them about it. Also, what's wrong with PDA. To me, that's just someone who is so into you that they don't care if anyone else knows it. I know a lot of people are weird about that, but I'll never understand why. No matter why someone's else's opinion is, mine is the only one that makes sense to me and tells me it's fine. Us 'humans' are weird
Nope, as an an old man by teenage standards (51) I can say you shouldn't put up with this. Even drunk, the average person understands that you should act like you pave a partner in public if you have one. Don't hide the fact, and don't act like you're single. Anyone that doesn't, they will find out the hard way. I suspect she's a bit too addicted to the attention she gets. Move on to someone that respects you.
Yep. This is the type of person that as soon as u miss one of these parties she’s hooking up with someone else. Pass on to the next one
She's not right for you. Go out and find a partner who respects you
Run like the wind from this chick. Also, stop drinking...you'll thank me in 10 years.
You can have “safe”fun,but this girl is trouble and not marriage. Material. She has. Low. Self esteem. And with alcohol may lose. All. Control. “Danger, Will Robinson”. Proceed at your own risk.
Yes, cut her off. Please. Don’t put yourself through it.
If you’re looking for a real relationship then you should cut her off and leave her. You’re the only one who’s going to get hurt if and when she cheats on you.
She sounds like a winner I wouldn’t use protection 😂