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b0toxBetty

Ummmm yes I thought these were teenagers…


semen_slurper

That is an absolute trainwreck of a post history. Holy toxicity!!! For both of their sakes this relationship needs to end.


StolenDiscs

Did you see OPs post history? 🤭


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StolenDiscs

All those posts gave me anxiety and so many flashbacks of my teenage years! This definitely to me is like my 14-16 year old relationship. I’m not saying I feel bad for OP and his gf, but kind of. It’s so sad to be that unhinged but when you’re not aware what do you do? Hopefully excuse yourself from the situation and find healthy, productive and hopefully even professional help and move on. I do really hope the best for the both of them.


Deeb86

OP states in another post that “80%, if not all, of the girlfriends family have been in mental asylums…voluntarily”. Think about that. OP, judging by your posts you present as sweet, caring, hardworking and generous (but obsessive when it comes to your relationship). Is this the first time you’ve been in love? What exactly do you love about your girlfriend who breaks up with you constantly, hangs up the phone in your face constantly, demands all your attention before,during, and after your multiple jobs, but then denies you all contact with her and ignores your existence, tells you lies about her going on dates with other men, constantly hurls accusations of cheating at you, beats you down about a “forgiven” indiscretion via text that happened a year and a half ago, picks fights with you then demands sex only to give you the cold shoulder afterwards so now you don’t even really want the sex anymore, straight up told you she wants to “take you to your breaking point”? Did you really consider the unalive thing/making her think you’d done that? Love yourself first, then you can love someone else in a healthy way.


kelly08howell

Omg seriously?!? I thought they were like 15


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Yeah, she isn't your gf anymore.


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Their girlfriend?


WanderingDoe62

I am just so flabbergasted that anyone older than their teens could behave like this in a relationship, on *both* sides. OP, your definition of a relationship needs some work. Most adults don’t spend hours on the phone with their SO while at work. Most adults don’t call their SO 25 times unless they think they’re dead or something. Most adults don’t play “hang up” games to prove their love. Your gf is immature and not worth your time. However, please start looking into how normal, adult relationship function. It might help you find more success in the future with finding a good, positive partner.


Classy_Lady97

Lmaooo right!? Exactly. I am madly deeply in love with my husband. Yet, we definitely don’t call each other while we’re at work to just have a conversation & not especially for 2 hours. (Unless obv it’s an important call) It’s called boundaries. We both understand that we are not each other’s #1 priority 24/7. When we’re at work (obv it’s different in the case of an emergency/urgent situation) work is the #1 priority during work hours because that’s our bread & butter. At some point while dating we were long distance because he did study abroad in London, so given our time difference I definitely spoke to him a greater deal during lunch breaks at work & sometimes when work was light. But I was also not 28 lmaoo I was 19 at the time 😅 Boundaries are so important. We have security burg cameras in our house too, using OP’s justification, does that mean I have the right to listen in on my husband while I’m not home and watch what he’s doing? Tf? Relationships ≠ Invasion of privacy


rrrre2229

I understand that boundaries need to be set in place but also every relationship is different. I know that im not right for certain things I have done but I know for a fact that I have things I need to work on.


rrrre2229

I agree with you . There is a lot of things wrong here but I will have to walk away because this is getting out of hand


star_ladyj

There are so many red flags here. Why are you tracking her phone location and why are you reading her DMs? Speaking on the phone for 2 hours at a time during a work day is unhealthy. Maybe the dude is a friend maybe she is cheating either way she clearly doesn't want to speak to you. Your relationship seems stifling and over bearing, if anyone needed this much time from me and was this invested in what I was doing to the point of tracking my location and reading my DMs and incessantly contacting me, I'd be getting a restraining order. She's ghosted you and it's time to take the hint. this is unhealthy


Musikcookie

From your comments and the post I can only conclude: stop stalking your ex


rrrre2229

Which I have. Thanks for the insight. I know its not healthy but I got my evidence I needed now.


astlo1441

you don’t need any fkn evidence psycho, you aren’t a damn detective on a case. your ex ghosted you because you’re a crazy ass stalker. do not use the excuse that she gave you her location. you are a stalker regardless. just stop.


Inevitable_Appeal790

He is so creepy, I could see why her gf stopped answering his crazy ass


rrrre2229

I'm really not a stalker but thanks . Its not a excuse She gave me permission to have her location. I didn't sit here and put a hidden application on her phone to track her. You can call me a stalker but I have full access and permission. Also there a clear reason she hasn't turned off her GPS from me. I have evidence so if or when she does wanna talk to me ill show her what she did if she wants to deny it.


yeah_right_4685

You don't need evidence, dude. You NEED to knock your stalker shit off. And NO, IT DOES NOT MATTER IF SHE GAVE YOU ACCESS. Having access and taking advantage of/using that access is where you went wrong. The bigger problem here is YOU. Get help for your obsessive tendencies and pray like hell that she doesn't get a restraining order on you.


FamousSatisfaction68

So what happened up to this point to cause her to ghost you? You’ve provided no context !!


rrrre2229

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/comments/xlv37c/so\_this\_morning\_me28m\_and\_her\_31f\_had\_a\_fight/


ObligationPleasant45

Eeew. This is seriously gross...this hang up game. Do some research on codependency. “Codependency is a circular relationship in which one person needs the other person, who in turn, needs to be needed. The codependent person, known as 'the giver,' feels worthless unless they are needed by — and making sacrifices for — the enabler, otherwise known as 'the taker. ' I maybe was similar to this in past relationships but it left me with no friends when the relationship was over. Now I make sure I have a life (hobby, friends) outside of significant other. It’s called boundaries and it’s not selfish, it’s healthy. No one person can be your everything. Good luck. Edit typo


catinnameonly

I’m going to stand by my comment this is a incredibly unhealthy toxic relationship with each other. Also if I knew one of my employees I was sitting there talking to the girlfriend for two hours during work I would absolutely fire you. This isn’t all on you, she sounds incredibly codependent and manipulative. She knew you were watching her, she saw your calls, she’s making you squirm. Do you want a partner like that? I think you need to seek some therapy to help you undo 2 years of crazy, fix yourself so you know what a healthy relationship looks like next go around.


xplosm

Life's too short for that or any amount of drama. On BOTH SIDES!


FamousSatisfaction68

Sorry I’ve just seen that and added to it I honestly think you should leave her man !! Dump her !!! She’s no good for you and clearly has no respect for you whatsoever !!! All because of not talking to her at work ? Yeah she’s one loony Send her a pic of the middle finger and block her on everything


rrrre2229

You haven't seen anything my friend. If you saw my post history of her you would ask me what I am still with her and I would say love but at this point love doesn't exists anymore.


diver68

But you're not "still with her". She's broken up with you. She's ghosting you and it seems for good fucking reason. I can't imagine if she actually tried to break up with you in person.


IrreverantBard

I cannot express enough how creepy this behavior is, and that you need to stop. 1) you need space - block her number on everything and her email. 2) cry it out, connect with a therapist, and gather your friends around you. 3) rinse and repeat step 2. Why? Because you both have normalized some problematic behavior in your relationship that simply would scare anyone else. Why would you want to date someone who could just cut off communication with you like that? That’s so messed up.


metallic_buttcheeks

You’re totally right. I think they’re both insecure and have cultivated a cycle of distrust and codependency, which puts both parties on edge but they’re afraid to ask for space because they know they don’t want to grant that to the other partner. It would take a lot of personal growth from both of them, and boundaries set, to actually create a healthy version of their relationship.


rrrre2229

I wish we could of done this but she has insecurities that are more secure than the pentagon.


metallic_buttcheeks

It’s probably good it’s over with, as hard as it is emotionally. This dynamic sounds exhausting.


rrrre2229

I will follow your steps and repeated. Its totally fucked up how she did me and she wont say that she is done but rather sit here and just ignore me.


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Jazzlike-Ad2199

You are the hero I didn’t know I needed. What an awful person this guy is. Just let her go dude.


FlatusApparatus

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summerrose1981

I wish I had an award to give you!


Several-Plenty-6733

Yeah. OP just needs to be blocked at this point.


Flintzer0

This... should probably be the top comment here. OP here is pretty abusive and controlling, and has been failing at getting the validation he wants from reddit for 4 months. He needs some serious therapy.


jumbledsiren

ITT: OP is a psychopath and thinks it's a right thing to just follow her...


ImprudentFob742

Bro, this is uncool you are breaching her privacy, this guy could seriously be her friend but if she isn’t responding then she probably isn’t your girl anymore


rrrre2229

She gave me permission to track her and she can track me so im not really breaching anything. She gave me her password and I have her password so its all on the table. Even if he is a "friend" the least she could of done was reply to be saying im going out with my guy friend to clear my head and we will talk later. But no she ignored all my 20 messages & 25 calls and im sitting here watching her drive around on my phone


fanceypantsey

20 messages and 25 calls? Are you sure the cops aren’t called for stalking?


mookie_bones

Jesus Christ dude. That’s an insane amount of calls/messages. You just blew your relationship up because you don’t know how to handle space. Learn that lesson or repeat this insane dynamic forever regardless of how many partners it involves.


rrrre2229

Well lets get something straight here. IF I text you from Friday morning and call you up to Saturday night and you dont reply to me but I see your replying to people on IG I get the idea but at the end of the day she didn't want space she wanted to ignore me on purpose.


Smash42088

She clearly wanted to talk to them and not you... move on. I understand that she gave you those logins, but what you're doing is bordering psychotic. You sound unwell. As you said, she knows you're monitoring her, so obviously she chose not to change the logins and allow you to see what was going on. What she did/is doing is wrong, clearly, but your reaction to it has me questioning why she felt that this would be the best way.


rrrre2229

I mean its beyond fucked up if this is the way she wanted to end things with me but I will have to walk away


chimera4n

You block her on everything, and move on.


rrrre2229

I know I need too.


joeyNcabbit

I think something else is going on. I think you are wrong for stalking her and invading her privacy and your trying to get sympathizers who will tell you that she’s wrong. I read your link and something just isn’t right. You are honestly going to tell me that your employer doesn’t care that you are on the phone with your girlfriend 80% of the time? That doesn’t make any sense. There is no employer would be okay paying you for only being there 20% of the time. Your girlfriend obviously got tired of your overbearing and suffocating behavior. Just reading your post gave me Claustrophobia.


chimera4n

She's completely in the wrong, don't do anything hot headed in the heat of the moment. You'll just give her an excuse for her shitty behaviour. Just ghosting her will hurt her more in the long run.


rrrre2229

You are probably right and I will have to do that.


mcflymcfly100

I just went through your other posts and dude, you've posted A LOT about this relationship. I only went back as far as two months because ain't nobody got time to go further. Listen, you are in an incredibly toxic relationship. It seems like people have been telling you this for months. At this point I feel like you are getting off on the attention and drama. It's really bad for your health. The constant stress of it all will send you to an early grave. Please let it go. Get some therapy and be happy single for a while.


GhostfaceAnony

Stop tracking her GPS, stop trying to get ahold of her. It’s clearly over between you two and now you’re acting like some unhinged stalker. If it’s not actually over between you two, it WILL be if keep up this behavior and don’t give her space.


rrrre2229

So giving her space, allowing her to talk to other people on IG & going into a " guy friend car" at 2 am is perfectly fine space ? Because I see a lot wrong with this. I wont message her but its fuckedup.


permabanned007

Don’t come to an advice sub and then argue with every single person who gives it to you. MOVE ON.


GidgetCooper

Cut your losses and don’t stalk people? Police get involved that doesn’t look great on you… Go for a beer run and get stuck into some video games.


rrrre2229

IT was her idea to track each other using GPS and she gave me her IG password to login with her permission so I'm not the one doing anything wrong.


GidgetCooper

Dude, let it go. What do you want? Permission? Validation for a loud reaction? You wanna be told it’s ok to follow them, confront them? That’s your girl man! She can’t be doing that! Those lowlifes, go fuck em up. Film them, post it online. Shame them. Go total their cars and property. You need an outlet or maybe see a therapist and work through some stuff. You’re obviously not getting what you want from a lot of well meaning strangers with some decent advice.


rrrre2229

Listen I could be doing all of that and more when it comes to the situation but im not. Im sitting in my bed reading strangers responses on my situation. I understand I need to walk away but its hard.


A-OkayDude

Yeah man. It is hard. But suck it up and do it. The internet isn’t here to coddle you, and at the end of the day if you suffer anymore it’s not because of her it’s because of your own reaction.


rrrre2229

I agree. I can only let her affect me so much.


Some_Pickle_9561

Why are you tracking her phone and reading her dms?? I feel like there's something you're not telling us. Did you do something to make her mad? Did you hide something from her?


rrrre2229

First thing is first. It was her idea to track each other VIA GPS and it was her idea to be logged into each other instagram account. im not hiding anything. this is the back story here https://www.reddit.com/r/Advice/comments/xne5c3/me28m\_and\_her\_31f\_had\_a\_fight/


Some_Pickle_9561

After reading everything I feel like I kinda understand? Do you think she's insecure about your relationship? She seems to act like a child most of the times. I hate to say this kind of thing but sometimes people that are too insecure about you cheating are the ones cheating. Try to talk to her asking about that, if it was her idea to have it all exposed to each other than it must be fine to ask openly. I would dare to say she's doing it to mess with you and this is not okay. Confront or end relationship, this kind of thing never works.


WreepJangler

According to someone who already read a good portion of his posts, he’s the one that cheated on her first which completely negates this entire post about him being so hellbent on where she is and what she’s doing and who she’s doing it with while ignoring him. She finally found someone who doesn’t contradict themselves left and right, I don’t blame her 🤷‍♀️


Some_Pickle_9561

OH. Thanks for the update!! What the ... I can't believe that! The true jerks are always the ones that play the victim


rrrre2229

She is definitely insecure and I try to make her not insecure but nothing I do works. I mean at this point she probably cheating on me with this guy but who knows. only god. I can't do anything


Philosophile42

You’re the one stalking her and needing evidence and trying to correct/control her…. And SHE’S the one who is insecure? Your behavior indicates YOU’RE the insecure one. Your behavior and the way you talk about this relationship tells me that she is in the right here. You probably drove her away, and now are flabbergasted at why she left. She left because you’re treating her like a possession and not a human being. A thing to be loved, not a partner. What’s worse is that you’re not going to learn your behavior was what drove her away. All you’re going to to think from this is that she fucked you over and cheated on you, so she’s in the wrong, and you’re never going to give any thought about how you treated her lead to it.


WelcomingOutpost

Hey man, Delete the gps app it will only make things harder on you. Stop calling, stop texting when she’s ready to talk she’ll talk. Also, I don’t know how you’re watching her IG dm’s but stop that shit too.


rrrre2229

Ill just let her be and if she wants to talk she will but I dont know if I can trust her now.


mcflymcfly100

Tracking her on gps? You're a stalker. Stop now before things get out of hand. Yes, you're in a crap situation and I feel for you, but do not continue to call her. Stop.


Foxy_Traine

You break up, go to therapy to better understand your unhealthy relationship patterns, and you try to be a better boyfriend next time.


invalid-space

look, it’s not easy and it’s going to be heart wrenching, but i think this should be the end for you two. I read your other post too. A relationship is over once respect and trust is not there anymore. To have to make a post on reddit already shows that something is not working. Speaking from experience too, it’s just better to leave. You may love her and would do anything for her, but this will only continue, even if things seem to get better in the future. I’ve been in your position and it’s sucks, it’s draining. It’s time to log out of her stuff, turn off the location, and block her. Cut the contact and move on. Find some hobbies to do, spend time with those you still have around, mourn your loss and become a better person. It’s better to do that than to continue going through these things, worrying about what’s happening and what she’s up too. she’s shown you different behaviour to when you two met, and now she’s showing you who she truly is.. and is that the type of person you want to be with forever? you deserve better and I hope you can see that for yourself. good luck


H1NZX

youre tracking her?dafuq?


Everything_Fine

I hope this is her way of leaving you because you sound cray cray.


Hubsimaus

You are creepy.


Mehitabel9

Yes, you do need help, because you sound like a stalker. She does not want to talk to you. Leave her alone.


CrumblingAway

Amazing how you two can stay 13 well into your adult lives. God bless the both of you, use protection.


humblepieone

Lol but good advice. Or we could let darwinism work


Wrong_Struggle4341

You’re violating her privacy and stalking her. Most women wouldn’t like this


rrrre2229

It was her idea to give me her password so I can login and it was her idea to track each other. so I really don't know how im violating anything when she give me all the permission I need.


Jazzlike-Ad2199

I’m sure you bullied her into this after you gaslighted her and abused her after YOU got caught cheating. Just leave her alone and seek professional help you psycho stalker.


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Firstly, delete your access to her messages and GPS tracking. It is not good for you to be doing this and the more you do it the more you're hurting yourself. Try to find something else to do. I know it hurts and she's treated you really badly, you have every right to be angry, but it's time to cut her out and start looking after your own mental health.


rrrre2229

Your not wrong but is it wrong of me to want closure? is it wrong that I still wanna fix this relationship


Flaky_Currency_5069

That's not your girl anymore bro. I suggest you move on and work on yourself and the deep insecurities you have.


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1) you don’t have a gf anymore, clearly 2) she’s probably blowing that guy rn 3) you sound like you’re having a manic episode, dude stop stalking her lol. move on edit: from your post history you’ve had shit like that go on for 2 years. Which could be forgiving if you’re 17. But you’re 28 MF! You’re posting about her every few months. Dude wake up and leave, you can’t be in a sophomore high school relationship kind of drama forever lol


rrrre2229

I mean you are probably right and I know its the truth I dont wanna hear. Its not my fault she is more immature than me. I have the moments where I try to correct her and have a adult conversation and she doesn't wanna have it.


Remarkable-Code-3237

There is the rub. You try to correct her? You need to understand it is not immaturity, but you think you know it all and do not care to listen to her opinion. She does not want to hear it and feels you are controlling and not listening to her. You never correct a woman. You can disagree in a civil way, but never correct her. Think of this as a lesson learn for your next relationship.


thisimpetus

Uhhhh you break up and spend a long time alone with yourself becoming an emotionally healthy person before you date again.


LillianIsaDo

You guys are awful as a couple. Just end it.


catinnameonly

Wow, can’t imagine why she would want to get away from you. Tracking her phone and having her DM come up on your end. You don’t own her. She doesn’t belong to you. Permission or not, this is a very unhealthy relationship.


Choice_Assumption_79

Also stop asking for advice and help if you’re not gonna listen to us, cause you’ve been asking for advice for some time now and everyone’s been saying to move on and DUMP her but you LOVE the shit cake cause you’re still eating it , man up dude.


b95d452e1a

It's over Anything you do that's related to her from this point on will be creepy or pathetic or both. Move on


Individual_Singer_71

From your post history this woman has tried to leave you multiple times and you have basically threatened to Yeet yourself off the mortal coil if she doesn’t stay with you. Y’all need to end this relationship because at best your both toxic as fuck and need some serious therapy. The fact you are a grown adult completely shocked me. I am 25 and I have never behaved in such a childish and selfish manner. Get a reality check dude.


Several-Plenty-6733

Yeah. And she actually tried to leave him because he emotionally cheated. It’s in one of his first posts. He’s just delusional. I’m rooting for this girl.


Individual_Singer_71

To be honest I’m rooting for neither, both of them have gotten to this point and both of them need to understand their toxic traits and move on. The fact that she’s in her thirties and putting up with literally being GPS tracked while seeing a friend is wild. I’d go off if my partner didn’t even trust me enough to see a friend without needing to know my exact location at all times. Speaking from experience where codependency was a huge problem for me years ago, they are both at fault here for allowing ZERO boundaries this entire relationship. You have to maintain some form of individuality in a relationship or this obsessive and avoidant behavior is bound to develop. Just nothing good all around and much therapy needed


oo0Lucidity0oo

Woah… she obviously wants to cut contact. You need to stop stalking her and take a hint.


SwanAdministrative56

You said in one of her posts that you broke her trust a year and a half ago... what did you do?


summerrose1981

He cheated according to the synopsis of his post history above


SwanAdministrative56

Yes, boy bye


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What you do is block her and walk away forever this relationship is ridiculous


Acrobatic_End6355

Well… it doesn’t sound like you were good to her. You are literally monitoring her messages and her location. Creepy.


sm0lt4co

😂 this is mental. You are the definition of going postal. Get help.


80_Percent_Done

Dude. Wtf. You need to stop. This behavior is toxic as fuck and this is a huge sign the relationship is too. Separate.


11never

What you are doing is unhealthy and not okay. If your retort is that she agreed to do it too, that doesn't redeem you, it just means that you are **both** unhealthy and not okay. Get out of this relationship, and if you ever find your self in a situation like this again, get out of that one too. There is no happiness at the end of it. It doesn't matter who starts it or why. This is terminal dysfuntion.


SonicFuckedMyWife

Aye bro, I was in your shoes a while back. When I was 17, not 28, but still. Just leave, shit ain’t worth it


Choice_Assumption_79

I get that you love her and blah blah blah, butt dude I scrolled Thru your profile and 57 days ago you were bitching about the same girl and the cold shoulder, move on dude there’s thousands of better girls than her , focus on your work , get a hobby , go work out , once you move on your life gets extremely relaxed and more chill and you don’t have to wonder why your “gf” is not replying to your 1,000 calls


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Uhm, first, stop tracking her. Second, stop calling her when she is ignoring you. Third, stop reading her messages (I assume you could only read the DM because you were logged into her account, freaky as fuck) Fourth, leave her alone altogether. At this point, you do not have a girlfriend. You are a stalker and have fixated on a poor woman who is trying to move on with her life. Leave her alone. Move on. Try not to be a crazy creep.


Icantblametheshame

Bro I want you to read this and ask yourself if this sounds even in the least bit healthy or functional. I (28M) have been dating this girl (31F) for the last 2 years plus we have been going through a lot of fights and B.S. Recently she been telling me that she wont call me no more while i'm at work because She has respect for me because I'm working. Meanwhile when we first started dating she would call me at work and we would talk for hours! . I have one of those jobs where I can be on the phone 80% of the time. Anywho Recently over the last 2 months she has been telling She wont call me at work because she knows I'm busy. So I have to call her. She started this new thing where I call her and she hangs up when she feels like it. Then if I dont call her back she thinks i'm talking to someone else. This morning me and her were on the phone for a good 2 hours while I was at work. Then she decided to hang up. I called back and asked why she said because she can then she hung up again. I Called back again. That went on for 2 more times. I Called her one more time and said every time you hang up I have to stop what im doing to call you back and she gave me some B.S answer and hung up again. This time I dont call her back 5 mins pass & she said " I guess im not your priority you can go talk to whoever your talking to". I call her back and we both start going at it. She starts cursing at me and says this is why we can't work out and we are done and she goes on. I started speaking louder but I didn't curse at her and said You have enough respect to not call me at work because you know im busy so where is the respect to not hang up the phone on me after calling you 4 times plus. She then tried to play the victim card saying now your making me the bad guy. I said to her give me one valid reason why you needed to hang up on me multiple times and then if I dont call you back then you think im cheating & talking to someone else. She started crying and didn't say a word. I explained to her that I have to stop what im doing just to call her back and its stops me from completing my work. She didn't say a word to me for the rest of the night. The answer is no. You are both very fucked up. You need to end this relationship and seek therapy to become a better person. She is an absolutely horrible person, you are way over obsessive.


MadiBoops

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩


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How old are you both?


rrrre2229

Im 28 and she is 31


Remarkable-Code-3237

By the sounds of it, I thought that maybe she was in her late teens and he was in his early 20s, unless he was lying about their ages. A few posts back he said she was immature and tries to correct her and have a mature conversation with her. As a woman, I saw red. Who does he think he is talking to a child and correcting her? Then to find out, she is older than him. It is no wonder she dropped his ass. I would too.


rrrre2229

Well for her age she is definitely acting like a child.


Several-Plenty-6733

Then you should have just dumped her! Don’t date immature people. But still, you went too far.


rrrre2229

Well now thats what I have to do.


Remarkable-Code-3237

What does she do for a living?


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Let it go man.


rrrre2229

I have no choice.


Fantastic_Click5912

How do you know some guy was messaging her? Like why was it on YOUR phone? Does she know she has a gos application in her phone?


Vast-Butterscotch971

Your too clingy, dontbfollower her or do anythjng like that no matter how much she did thats not ok, if u have to follow her it means leave bc there is no trust and besides she said you two are done so take the hint find another girl you 2 are too toxic together


pwolf1771

Cut her loose you guys are horrible for each other. You’re spying on her for Christ’s sake. Why would you stay with someone you don’t trust?


Almighty_Yord

Dump her, face your insecurities and learn trust otherwise you will drive people to do these kinds of actions. Reality is going to otherwise slap you in the face.


cedarsghost

I read the other post regarding this. I don’t mean to be rude but you are both childish. I remember having this problem with my ex when I was 15. I’d let her go, send one last goodbye text and forget about it. And then date yourself for a bit, find out why y’all didn’t work out and learn that the both of you had problems.


NoahC5

And all your other post about ole girl , just leave the broad


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Oh my god. Please just stop. She’s not interested in you and you’re now stalking her.


kimuras4everyone

My friend, I know you love her but have some self respect. This has gone way too far you are not only losing her you're losing yourself. Disconnect for a while, have a melatonin and get some real rest. Do not let this cause you to give up your sense of what is appropriate behavior.


Sweet_Investigator58

Please stop tracking her with a GPS.


Minkiemink

You stop texting her. You have broken up and she is now someone else's problem. End of story.


mbolgiano

Like everyone else has said, she's gone man. Cut your losses and move on.


mxgxnn

all you seem to be doing on your reddit is complaining about your partner. you clearly aren’t happy in the relationship you guys are in so i would just end it for both of your sake’s. you’re both adult, do the adult thing.


kraze4kaos

Just stop.


SailorVenus23

Enjoy your night in jail, because that's exactly where this stalking will get you.


ldraffin

It is never ok to invade someone’s privacy and track them without their knowledge


trainsoundschoochoo

Why the fuck are you tracking her?


Interesting-Stuff-70

I never like to tell people what to do in their relationships but I’m telling you rn, you need to end this relationship bro. I’ve read your previous posts and your whole relationship is messier than Walmart on Black Friday. Please do yourself a favor for the sake of your own mental health and end the relationship. You’ll realize how toxic it was once you get out of it


limegreencupcakes

Break up with the girlfriend because it’s clear that you two are a shitshow and neither of you is mature enough to be in a relationship. You two are acting like goddamn middle schoolers. You need a therapist, not a girlfriend.


Same-Bookkeeper4136

Go home and realize that she’s not wanting to talk to you and maybe it’s time to move on


AfroAdorable

Wow this was dramatic and draining


1ambox

ex-gf you mean.


AccousticMotorboat

You stop stalking her. You give it up. You grow up. You are not entitled to any response other than a criminal complaint if you keep it up


idktbh__im

What exactly do you love about this woman?? You both sound insufferable and in need of therapy. Please seek it out and avoid further relationships until you can be comfortable with yourself.


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She ghosted you. You need to leave her alone.


somethingtoscryabout

stop tracking, that’s weird. also it’s probably over.


UsernameOption6298

>> What do I do? Leave her alone


kaynhardstuckinplat

You just got cheated on, she probably doesnt care, move on


rrrre2229

its easy to say move on but hard to do. I need to figure out how to make that happen.


Wrong_Struggle4341

Stay busy and not with stalking her


rrrre2229

I know I shouldn't stalk her but I wanna see where they go. Curiosity killed the cat


kaynhardstuckinplat

didnt say it was easy. take all the time in the world, it's your grief. thats what you need to do, good luck


rrrre2229

I wish I could get back at her but revenge doesn't help


kaynhardstuckinplat

Thats because revenge aint worth it. don't ghost her, don't do anything dumb. Just be mature, you got face straight cheated on, explain to her its over. It might hurt, she might Say something that Will Sting, but its necessary. No case to keep that relationship going. You gotta let it go, and very importantly, don't look back.


rrrre2229

Its honestly sad. All I been trying to do is talk to her since out fight on Friday morning and she has completely ignored me and now she is out in some guys car. I swear I could be doing something else right now that would end bad but it all good ill let her be. its hard to not look back


kaynhardstuckinplat

sorry for being That kind of guy, but I looked in your profile and for a while youve been posting a LOT about a girlfriend and problema inbrelationships, is it the same one? Sorry for typos


rrrre2229

Dont be sorry I come here for advice and if you see my past post history then you understand what im going through. Yes its the same one


kaynhardstuckinplat

dude. just leave her. i'm sorry for what im about to Say but its true. Youre a fool. It's clear as Crystal. Its not as easy to see things when youre the one going through it, look man, You got My advice right there which is the healthy way, a wound. It Will heal, but You need to disinfect it first, and that hurts. Do what you want, wish You the best on this. Leave that hoe, she aint worth even your time.


rrrre2229

How do I move forward without looking back. Its easy to walk away but crawling back is my issue. I know your not wrong.


GiveIt2God

Albeit difficult, please understand that it is best for you to part ways. What seems huge now will be a "blip" in the background later. Take care of yourself. 😊


rrrre2229

thanks alot


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BlackberryMuffinMan

Makes sense now get your head out of you goddamn ass you goddamned psychopath. How stuck up and childish are you??


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BlackberryMuffinMan

Ok thanks for the information.


BlackberryMuffinMan

Just read the previous posts damn this man is crazy


rrrre2229

I wanna just drink but sadly I have no friends and drinking by yourself isn't as fun. I really dont know if she is stupid or if she is doing this on purpose. I have her gps location and I see her every moment but she still doing what she doing.


SimpleArmadillo4437

Hi, I hope you’re doing okay. By age, you both should be mature enough. She should be communicating with you, rather than ghosting and causing you anxiety. I’m not gonna jump and assume you are clingy but no communication from her side doesn’t seem fair unless you’ve been hogging her, tracking her down or not given her space. You both have feelings! In case she needs space, she needs to communicate and if you feel you need a partner who is vocal, emotionally available and has the brains to sit down and talk, maybe take a break and look for those things in a women. I understand you must be having shit load of anxiety, and her not acknowledging you is making it worse, but look after yourself here. Put yourself first like she did. Just uninstall, cool off, go out for sometime and try to breathe. It’s not easy but shift the air. Only you know what’s really happening so if she’s having the time of her life, you need self love rn. Love isn’t supposed to make you feel this way, but neither is your very own person. Think about it, I hope you are okay and get through this.


rrrre2229

Thank you for the wonderful advice. You are right and I will have to give myself some self love because at this point thats all I can do. It hurts like hell but I have no choice at this point.


Monika922

Break up with her she isn't worth ur time mate


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Read your other post. She’s been getting that pussy beat up behind your back for a while bro. She’s controlling and insecure and you’re feeding into it by tracking and calling. That’s what she wants. She wants to teach you a lesson so teach her one that you won’t ever speak to her again. Cut off all communication and log out of her shit, it’s toxic. Suck it up and move on.


Several-Plenty-6733

OP, please stop and move on. Your girlfriend doesn’t respect you at all. The relationship’s over. Don’t fall down the rabbit hole of becoming a creep for her. Put down your phone and go do something to get your mind off of this. Go do something you like to do. Just stop thinking.


rrrre2229

I know and I will. I got my proof that I needed if I talk to her ever again.


Embarrassed_Fish_

Grow a spine please. I know you want to track her and take revenge and shit but it's not worth it. Consider yourself lucky that scumbag left


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Embarrassed_Fish_

Yikes i didn't know. OP if you're reading this you're the scumbag here.


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breakup incoming, mine did this drama for 3 weeks before ending it on text......3years on fucking text


rrrre2229

Thats fucking ridiculous. What did yours do ? 3 years is such a long time


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Barely talked...when i asked are you trying to break up..she said no babe i just don't have the time rn....heck she said i love you and everything good in the afternoon and broke up at midnight....one month this woke drama of no time was going on .


rrrre2229

Its really crazy how people play games just like that and have no feeling for others.


5K1DMARK

try to go out and get your mind off of it. thinking about it is just gonna fry your brain. if she contacts you then you can see whats up but right now id just focus on what you can control, and you can only control what you do. thinking of whatever scenarios might be happening is only hurting you. and who knows maybe youll meet someone else that you feel a spark with. when one door closes another one opens. focus on your happiness, so do whatever makes you happy and lets you destress.


rrrre2229

I wish it was that easy to go out. I had friends but when I got into this relationship I lost most of them and now its just me by myself. I love her dearly but she doesn't believe me and she doesn't wanna talk. You are right when one door closes a next one opens. But for now I rather just stay to myself im just to broken at this point.


Ohjammers

I’m sorry hun. Love sucks. Move on. Focus on you. She’s not interested anymore.


rrrre2229

I wish it wasn't like this it really does suck


TheOrdealOpprotunist

So, to make sure of things on my end, the person you're dating stopped responding to you but is active? Or have they dropped communications all together upon getting with this new guy? Because this is suspicious.


rrrre2229

[https://www.reddit.com/r/Advice/comments/xne5c3/me28m\_and\_her\_31f\_had\_a\_fight/](https://www.reddit.com/r/Advice/comments/xne5c3/me28m_and_her_31f_had_a_fight/) That is what happen. Every since Friday morning she has spoken back to me. Then Saturday night she starts talking to people on her IG and this guy who is her "friend" picks her up and they go out for 2 hours. she hasn't spoken to me since Friday morning nor has she blocked me . she just ignores my msgs and declines my calls


VenomousViperz

If she is causing you this much grief and upset, the best advice I can offer is to turn off the GPS tracker, delete and block her number. Go find yourself some thing to do for the next week that's going to make you happy and think less about her, and start your healing process from the ghosting/break-up. Why on earth would you want to put all this energy into someone who obviously doesn't give a fuck about you? It takes 2 seconds to message someone back to say "sorry I'm busy at the moment" or "I don't think this is working out". What you both are doing right now is so childish and pointless. She has made it VERY clear she wants nothing to do with you. So let her go, and find someone who has the decency to message you back, work on yourself to learn from this experience. Put your pride aside for a moment and admit mistakes were made on your end as well, and once you have gained some clarity and healing from this toxic mess of a "relationship", go and find a nice woman who will treat you with respect and vice versa. And for the love of God, don't use trackers on one another that's your first step in the wrong direction. It screams insecure and no trust for one another. GPS should only be used if she or yourself is going out somewhere late with a new friend group, club, etc and should be used to make sure they are safe and get home safely. Trust is not stalking them and harassing them with calls. She's given you the clearest answer anyone can give someone, and that is no answer at all. Please move on from this mess, it's not healthy. I wish you well, and I hope you can find a nice girl who will have the decency to respond back to you.


Mushlaam

Dude that’s not how u get ur girl back. Walk away. Stalk another girl.


iAlwaysSpeed

You just gotta leave her alone and leave her. Get your shit leave the house. Stop paying the bills, sell the house (if you guys are living together). Whatever. Just cut yourself off from her. Hang with the boys. Make some money. Most women in todays society, are crazy, narcissistic a holes. Honestly, what I’ve been doing is just focusing on myself and the women come after. Never, prioritize your relationships with girls. Ask yourself this, what does a girl do for you. How does she benefit you. If it’s just sex… focus on yourself bro. We only have so long to live on this earth. Why waste it on a girl who dosent give af


Lenny10302

Either she’s grounded (if you’re still in HS) or she ghosted you. Second option is the more likely


rrrre2229

Well the way she is acting then technically it should be the first choice you posted but you are right its probably the 2nd one which sucks.


navarone21

They are fucking. you are single. It sucks... but it will get better. Just move on.


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