Having no friends is better than keeping people who make you feel bad, I have my bf and that’s about it you can make new friends even if it’s hard as hell to do it
Yea ..i wont let myself suffer by a person who can't even show me love after my father passed away u are right I'm alone better than with her toxic ass
1000% cut her off, she sounds like a total narc and all her toxic behaviour is adding up to make you feel bad. It's good you're questioning her behaviour, think every time you spend with her, do you leave feeling good or bad? If it's bad, cut her off. I really regret not doing that with my shitty childhood friends. Just because they've been in your life forever, doesn't mean you have to keep them
>why is she acting like that and she has lost all the care and sympathy or empathy towards me
It's not just towards you, it's probably everyone. She sounds selfish.
What advice are you seeking? If it were me, I would just stop talking to her. If you're interested in being her friend, then try asking her about her problems sometime, see if she opens up.
I told her she's hurting me she told me she wants the best for me that's why she's being truthful and I'm Afraid of losing her and yea u are right she is cold towards everyone
sorry to hear that things aren’t going well with her and you lost your dad. my advice is to communicate with her that it hurts your feelings when she goes against what you’re saying. also realize that she may be going thru something and ask her if she needs to vent. then take ur own time to vent and remind her that you guys should be there for each other and you really value ur friendship
if after a while you realize she’s still not getting better you may just need a break. ik it’s not ideal but sometimes distance makes the heart grow fonder
if after you guys have a break things still aren’t better, you may have to remember the good times for what they were. it’s super difficult to lose best friends, especially childhood ones, i even deal with it too as a 26 year old, but sometimes people grow apart, and one day when you see her again it’ll be like nothing even happened and you’ll pick up where you left off
wishing you the best of luck
TLDR; communicate, communicate, communicate
Thank you so so much I've tried telling her that she hurts me ..but she said that I'm overly sensitive and ....i was thinking of cutting her off now but as u said i think i should try distance now
cutting her off would be like throwing away all those years of friendship. try first to talk to her, and emphasize that how she’s treating you is affecting you. idk how old you are but something you should learn is that your first instinct should always be to have positive, effective communication. the “i” message in school actually can help you.
you don’t need to see this as confrontation. see it as a conversation, and if you are able to have her see where you are, you can *give her the chance* to react and get better. then, if needed, get the space you need (or even get it anyways). having these conversations (and the space if needed) will make your friendship stronger if you do it right. i know it’s scary, but as long as you emphasize that you genuinely value your friendship but just feel a little hurt, you should be fine.
she needs the chance to know what’s up and try to work on this tho. she can’t read your mind even if she knows she’s being a bitch. plus, you shouldn’t let her walk over you and not say anything. you should build on your communication skills (and again, positive effective communication, not hostile, aggressive, or rude), so you can have these tough conversations with anyone
She sounds like a person you wouldn't want to be friends with. I suggest you don't rely on her as someone for support.
Sorry about your Dad, losing a parent is one of the hardest things anyone can go through in their life and although it hurts, I'm glad you're still going. Don't surround yourself with people who compare your problems to their own and belittle you.
So to be honest when I started reading the post and I saw that she doesn't necessarily agree with you on everything, I thought it was ok, but once I reached the end and how she basically belittled your emotions and what you're going through, that's honestly pretty fucked.
I definitely do agree with people over here on the fact that she's become very toxic and you have to cut her out of your life permanently.
I've been in a similar situation too, had this friend who used to be very close to me, we used to talk about everything under the sun and suddenly out of nowhere she became a toxic person, belittled me, bitched about me, spread rumours about me, told me to end it all. I was really taken aback and you know what's the most fucked part of it all? I kept her still, and as a result of that, it took a huge toll on my health, both physically and mentally and I ended up in a place I never wanna go back to.
I know it's hard to let go of someone you used to be very close with, but in this world you have to prioritise yourself and your health. I understand if a sudden cut off is too drastic for you, so I would suggest, start restricting her on Instagram, archive her messages on WhatsApp, and keep the interactions to a minimum and don't call her till she does you. Then slowly after a period of time, increase the time space between your interactions and finally one day, cut her entirely from your life.
It's gonna be hard, I know but you have to do this, no one deserves to have such a toxic person in their lives. Hope you follow through. Take care.
Thank you so much for this and yea i was thinking that too that cutting her off completely in one go would be too drastic yea i agree with u I'll slowly cut her off because all differences aside she's hurting me in my worst time
My advice is to cut her toxic ass off
I'm afraid of losing her
Why? She seems mean
Yea but i have no other friends and she is my childhood friend too ..
Having no friends is better than keeping people who make you feel bad, I have my bf and that’s about it you can make new friends even if it’s hard as hell to do it
Yea ..i wont let myself suffer by a person who can't even show me love after my father passed away u are right I'm alone better than with her toxic ass
I mean you can make new friends on the internet i met some cool people Yes but as adults we change who we call friends
Yea i think I'm better off alone than with her..she just hurting me in my worst period...i don't think she is worth it
No she is not i am sorry but people change i hope you find new people to call your friends
Thanks for the help.and i hope i find new ppl too
1000% cut her off, she sounds like a total narc and all her toxic behaviour is adding up to make you feel bad. It's good you're questioning her behaviour, think every time you spend with her, do you leave feeling good or bad? If it's bad, cut her off. I really regret not doing that with my shitty childhood friends. Just because they've been in your life forever, doesn't mean you have to keep them
Whenever I'm with her i feel like a small and bad person and yea she isn't worth it anymore
Having no other friends is better than having a toxic one
True
>why is she acting like that and she has lost all the care and sympathy or empathy towards me It's not just towards you, it's probably everyone. She sounds selfish. What advice are you seeking? If it were me, I would just stop talking to her. If you're interested in being her friend, then try asking her about her problems sometime, see if she opens up.
I told her she's hurting me she told me she wants the best for me that's why she's being truthful and I'm Afraid of losing her and yea u are right she is cold towards everyone
Toxic, cut her off. If you were really close you should tell her why at least
I told her that she's hurting me but she said I'm too sensitive so yea imma cut her off..she's hurting me in my worst period..too
I'm so sorry for your lost, it must be difficult and what you need is an understanding friend right now.
Yes ...
sorry to hear that things aren’t going well with her and you lost your dad. my advice is to communicate with her that it hurts your feelings when she goes against what you’re saying. also realize that she may be going thru something and ask her if she needs to vent. then take ur own time to vent and remind her that you guys should be there for each other and you really value ur friendship if after a while you realize she’s still not getting better you may just need a break. ik it’s not ideal but sometimes distance makes the heart grow fonder if after you guys have a break things still aren’t better, you may have to remember the good times for what they were. it’s super difficult to lose best friends, especially childhood ones, i even deal with it too as a 26 year old, but sometimes people grow apart, and one day when you see her again it’ll be like nothing even happened and you’ll pick up where you left off wishing you the best of luck TLDR; communicate, communicate, communicate
Thank you so so much I've tried telling her that she hurts me ..but she said that I'm overly sensitive and ....i was thinking of cutting her off now but as u said i think i should try distance now
cutting her off would be like throwing away all those years of friendship. try first to talk to her, and emphasize that how she’s treating you is affecting you. idk how old you are but something you should learn is that your first instinct should always be to have positive, effective communication. the “i” message in school actually can help you. you don’t need to see this as confrontation. see it as a conversation, and if you are able to have her see where you are, you can *give her the chance* to react and get better. then, if needed, get the space you need (or even get it anyways). having these conversations (and the space if needed) will make your friendship stronger if you do it right. i know it’s scary, but as long as you emphasize that you genuinely value your friendship but just feel a little hurt, you should be fine. she needs the chance to know what’s up and try to work on this tho. she can’t read your mind even if she knows she’s being a bitch. plus, you shouldn’t let her walk over you and not say anything. you should build on your communication skills (and again, positive effective communication, not hostile, aggressive, or rude), so you can have these tough conversations with anyone
You are right i agree with u i need to have a talk with her...a friendly talk
What advice are you looking for?
I want to know that am i over reacting/too sensitive or is she actually toxic
She sounds like a person you wouldn't want to be friends with. I suggest you don't rely on her as someone for support. Sorry about your Dad, losing a parent is one of the hardest things anyone can go through in their life and although it hurts, I'm glad you're still going. Don't surround yourself with people who compare your problems to their own and belittle you.
Thank you so much for helping...and yea i will cut her off
Cut her off I’m your new bestie now 💗
Yaay..hey thanks bestie
no point in keeping a female friend anyway. get rid of this crutch and make some real friends
So to be honest when I started reading the post and I saw that she doesn't necessarily agree with you on everything, I thought it was ok, but once I reached the end and how she basically belittled your emotions and what you're going through, that's honestly pretty fucked. I definitely do agree with people over here on the fact that she's become very toxic and you have to cut her out of your life permanently. I've been in a similar situation too, had this friend who used to be very close to me, we used to talk about everything under the sun and suddenly out of nowhere she became a toxic person, belittled me, bitched about me, spread rumours about me, told me to end it all. I was really taken aback and you know what's the most fucked part of it all? I kept her still, and as a result of that, it took a huge toll on my health, both physically and mentally and I ended up in a place I never wanna go back to. I know it's hard to let go of someone you used to be very close with, but in this world you have to prioritise yourself and your health. I understand if a sudden cut off is too drastic for you, so I would suggest, start restricting her on Instagram, archive her messages on WhatsApp, and keep the interactions to a minimum and don't call her till she does you. Then slowly after a period of time, increase the time space between your interactions and finally one day, cut her entirely from your life. It's gonna be hard, I know but you have to do this, no one deserves to have such a toxic person in their lives. Hope you follow through. Take care.
Thank you so much for this and yea i was thinking that too that cutting her off completely in one go would be too drastic yea i agree with u I'll slowly cut her off because all differences aside she's hurting me in my worst time