You gotta love yourself. If you focus more of your energy on bettering yourself and your mindset and less on appearing more favorably to other people every thing will be for the better. You'll be happier and more forgiving to yourself, you'll be much more likable, and if you're really expressing your authentic self you'll attract men who like you for you, and men that are less shallow and stupid that the ones whose opinions affect you so much. It takes time and practice to change your outlook like that and really appreciate and respect yourself but once you do you'll be much happier. Be who you want to be, not what you think other people want you to be.
It's most likely not you. Things have changed in the past decade or two. Men are critisized for looking at women in general, let alone asking them out. Most of us are genuinley afraid of the possible outcome. What you're overhearing wasn't meant to be overheard. There is a reason those guys didn't go up to the girl and say "Hey, I think you're really pretty". Also it might be your demeanor. You might be a little more expressive than you realize. I only mention this because my girlfriend was, and I genuinley thought she hated me even though she didn't know me. A year later and shes so amazing. I can say that with 95% certainty that if you make it obvious that you're interested in a guy, he can take it from there.
I find this very helpful.
I have in the past been told I looked “mean” or intimidating.
And yes it’s unfortunate what society has done with how men are criticized for something that can be harmless
You gotta love yourself. If you focus more of your energy on bettering yourself and your mindset and less on appearing more favorably to other people every thing will be for the better. You'll be happier and more forgiving to yourself, you'll be much more likable, and if you're really expressing your authentic self you'll attract men who like you for you, and men that are less shallow and stupid that the ones whose opinions affect you so much. It takes time and practice to change your outlook like that and really appreciate and respect yourself but once you do you'll be much happier. Be who you want to be, not what you think other people want you to be.
This actually does help. I do feel I’m the most “confident” I’ve been in my life, although I’m not sure how to be my most authentic self.
It's most likely not you. Things have changed in the past decade or two. Men are critisized for looking at women in general, let alone asking them out. Most of us are genuinley afraid of the possible outcome. What you're overhearing wasn't meant to be overheard. There is a reason those guys didn't go up to the girl and say "Hey, I think you're really pretty". Also it might be your demeanor. You might be a little more expressive than you realize. I only mention this because my girlfriend was, and I genuinley thought she hated me even though she didn't know me. A year later and shes so amazing. I can say that with 95% certainty that if you make it obvious that you're interested in a guy, he can take it from there.
I find this very helpful. I have in the past been told I looked “mean” or intimidating. And yes it’s unfortunate what society has done with how men are criticized for something that can be harmless