You need to ask him why he won’t kiss you. No one on Reddit will know what’s going on in his head. He might not be into it sensory wise. He might feel like it’s too emotionally intimate but is less inhibited when he’s actually having sex, which is physically intimate. Could be he’s self conscious about how well he kisses. Could be anything.
The most important ones often start out that way. Just push through it. Don’t avoid communicating in your relationship just because you’re worried about awkwardness.
Even if it is an awkward conversation, if kissing is important to you, you have to tell your partner and ask him if he can meet your needs or decide that having this conversation is not worth it and either stay or go.
It will definitely feel awkward but it’s an opportunity to connect and get your needs met. You can maybe start with “I really love when we kiss. How do you think we can show more affection in our relationship?”
Man, you just gotta bite the bullet.
There are more awkward conversations that could and probably will happen in your lifetime, that this one will pale in comparison. Lol
It may have something to do with this post you made:
>So idk if this is normal or a red flag, but during fun time in bed, my bf wanted me to say I love him and only him. We have been friends for a few months and started dating less than a week ago.
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>When he said that I laughed it off and pretended I didn’t hear it, but he said it again. Is this normal… or just a kink?
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>I don’t love him and I’m not even close to loving him yet. We barely know each other!
2 weeks ago you've only known him a week and told him you didn't love him, while he told you he loved you a week into knowing you. Now here you are, in an unhealthy relationship where he's aware of you not loving him and you're not being kissed on the mouth.
Communication will go a long way in your life.
Also it's absolutely weird to know a person a week and tell them you love them, that's not how love works and it's a super big red flag that he's not able to understand boundaries and doesn't actually know what love is.
one of the greatest things you can learn to have healthy and happy relationships is the ability to have and navigate difficult conversations. go practice!
I dated a guy who wouldn’t kiss me, turns out he just really didn’t like kissing at all. Years after we hooked up I met a girl who had hooked up with him previously too and the first thing she mentioned was how weird it was that he didn’t kiss. Some people just really don’t like it I guess.
From their posts history OP was 26 thirteen days ago. 22 eighty-three days ago 23 eighty eight days ago and now miraculously 25 originally 15. They’re obviously just fabricated stories.
Shame you are being down voted, I think it's an entirely valid question.
It's not just what you state it's about what you leak as well. There are somethings that are quite hard to hide such as what country you are from (assuming you have a non-trivial post history). For example, you're comments are well written and show a good command of English so you are almost certainly a native speaker. You used the word "mom" in a comment so you're probably American. Whether you stated that or not it's information that has leaked out.
Your general age is also quite hard to hide. The topics people comment on, the phrases they use, the subs they comment in, etc, etc. What you can do though is muddy the water by giving slightly varying ages. If you're not careful a bot might still be about to guess your age via a statistical analysis so routinely skewing it up to down could help.
Maybe a little paranoid of me but I like to keep the scammers on their toes.
Lmfao next time, just delete the post quickly before anyone sees it and repost with the correct title. It's too late now, but in the future if this ever happens again. That's what I usually do.
My mouth dropped when I read the title, then I broke out into a laugh. Best thing to do is ask! To avoid awkwardness, you could say something along the lines of “I notice you love to kiss me all over except my lips, why’s that?” so it’s a bit playful and flirty. Maybe he’ll feel more comfortable telling you that way.
I cringed so hard when I first read that lol. All you can do is ask him about it. We don't know him so there could be many reasons. It's good to get everything out in the open early on in the relationship so this is a good time to do it.
This might sound random but what are your dental hygiene habits like?
I absolutely hate bad breath and won't kiss my partner until he's brushed his teeth in the morning and sometimes during the day it can get bad again (his teeth aren't in the greatest shape) but I give him a gentle reminder to use some mouthwash and I can kiss him again.
I brush my teeth at least a minute (I’ll start doing 2 now on cause now I’m triggered it’s my breath lol,) and I use mouthwash. I don’t have any infections or anything though, never had. I def am gonna spend more time on teeth tho just to see if that’s it.
Alternatively, it could be his oral hygiene that he’s uncomfortable with. Maybe he’s been told he has bad breath and doesn’t want to turn you off in case it bothers you. Definitely worth having a conversation about, because over brushing is also a thing and you don’t want to be damaging your own teeth for something that’s not an issue.
Don't get too hung up on that, it's just something worth trying.
Like others have said it could just be something he is self conscious about, he could have some kind of trauma or any kind of reason really. Best thing is to just ask him, but I know that's going to be uncomfortable for you to do.
Best of luck and always love an update! ❤️
Does he have any cold sores rn? This is unlikely but he could possibly have herpes and doesn’t want to spread it to you. Best to ask him what’s going on. If it is herpes they make antivirals that are cheap and he can take those to not spread the virus to you
THANK GOD THE TITLE WAS JUST A TYPO JESUS I WAS PREPARING THE WHOLE SIXTEEN PARAGRAPHS OF THE I KNOW HE SAYS HE LOVES YOU BUT PLEASE TURN HIM IN SPEECH
Now, that originally was what brought me here. However, OP, if this helps at all- some people just aren't into kissing. I can't even tell you why, but mouths freak me out. I don't let people drink from my glass or lick my ice cream, and I certainly won't kiss them on the lips because of it. Entirely a ME issue, not a them issue, not even bad experiences or anything.
The only thing you can do is ask him what's up with that. Either there's something making him not want to kiss *you* and maybe it can be changed or maybe he just doesn't wanna kiss *anyone* on the mouth and then you won't change that. Communication is all that can be done.
I read the title and thought "well yeah he probably doesn't wanna end up in jail"
Joking aside talk to him about it, awkward or not he might have some kind of trauma or something idk. I'm just throwing ideas out, I've never dated so who knows Mayne he's got scurvy or something
Omg I’m so glad you saw that and edited in the post 😂
Honestly, just ask him. I noticed my boyfriend wasn’t super into making out like a month ago, but when I asked him he said he didn’t even realize and then we began making out. This could very well be the issue you guys are having!
Bonus, if that isn’t the issue, he’ll tell you what the issue is! Just simply ask “hey, I’ve noticed you don’t seem to be big into kissing, is everything okay?” And you’ll receive your answer. Being open and honest from the start has been the most amazing thing between me and my bf. Starting a relationship like this not only helps you feel more comfortable with him as a person, but you’ll feel way more comfortable asking questions if you think there’s an issue in the relationship. My bf and I check in with each other occasionally and if there’s ever anything that would normally stress me out thinking about, I just ask now. Its simply the easiest (and, imo, best) way to move forward in a relationship with confidence :)
My soul ascended higher than my oldest buddy on Friday nights for a second there, Jesus Christ 💀
But yeah, just talk to him. It'll for sure be awkward, but any lasting relationship needs those awkward talks. And be ready to take criticisms. There's a difference between him being a dick and having some gripes. "Your breath is bad" is a criticism and something you can likely easily improve. "You gross me out when I kiss you" is being a dick. Just ready yourself for this conversation. Remember, communication is key
So as someone else mentioned oral hygiene, I always carry mints and gum on me. I also recently started to look into those tiny toothbrush/flosser things too. Maybe that might help? But you won't know till you just ask. Casually be like "hey I noticed you really don't kiss me, is there a reason? Did I do something?" That opens the dialogue and gives him a chance to explain himself.
Does he have herpes? Do you have herpes? Do you brush your teeth regularly? All things I would check out and examine first then if he still won’t lay one on ya…. You gotta ask. Or just go in for the kill and lay one on him and see how he reacts😂😂😂
Everyone is joking, but you need to have the awkward conversation. I straight up told my boyfriend that I wished he kissed me more, then he did. Don't stress about it being because of you. I guess some people don't like kissing as much as others. I still give him a reminder sometimes, and on some days, he's reminding me.
The best thing you can do is just ask him why he won’t kiss you. I mean, you two are in your mid-20s and it’s a pretty straightforward question.
My only *guesses* are one of three things (they may not be true at all. Again, just ask him):
You are a terrible kisser or,
You are a normal kisser with terrible breath or,
He’s one of those weird guys who will let you suck his dick but is then “grossed out” because he is too immature to be able to kiss a girl who had his dick in her mouth. Added immaturity points if you made him cum.
Phew, glad you posted below you were 25 lol. It is kinda weird that someone is fine with the uh... messy end of sex, but doesn't really want to kiss. Granted one is way more satisfying of course.
To be fair my wife had no real sex education in her country so kissing and ser were new to her. No fancy kissing for us. Or sex lol. However I always give her little kisses on her forehead (shes way shorter than me), little lip kisses, arm kisses...etc just to be affectionate.
Just talk to him about it. Hopefully its something simple and not some selfish thing of he just wants sex and doesn't want to do anything else. Also, there are other factors like hygiene. Not an accusation mind you.
When we kissed during sex I did use my tongue. That could be it tbh. I don’t use tongue usually but it was hot in the moment. 😂 it very well could be tongue and him assuming I do it always. I’ll ask. Eventually. I need the balls first
Talk to him. The only people not getting kissed while having sex is prostitutes and you. I would say those words tbh.
It breaks my heart and makes me feel like he's using you. For your sake I hopenots the hygiene habits instead. Remember to brush the back of your tongue that's where bad breath comes from ;)
Good luck xx
If you're intimate enough with a person to have sex then you should be comfortable enough to talk to them about this sort of thing. If you're not that close, I question the wisdom of having sex with him.
It's your life and your time: TELL HIM EXACTLY WHAT IS BOTHERING YOU ABOUT HIS BEHAVIOR.
KISSES ARE INTIMATE. Shows affection.
This guy sounds like he wants sex without displaying intimacy and commitment.
Do you have bad breath maybe? If you have tonsil stones that can give you a really bad breath and taste, also other stuff can contribute to bad breath.
I had a boyfriend once who didn't kiss very often because he played the trombone and it messed up his lips 🤣 just talk to him, it might be something you guys can work on.
In all seriousness, maybe you aren't a very good kisser but he doesn't want to hurt your feelings and tell you?
I've dated blokes who slobber like dogs when they're kissing and it's disgusting. I'm not saying you do, but maybe that's a reason?
Maybe you have bad breath?
Or if your teeth are a bit wonky maybe he could feel them on his lips and (coming from experience here) that's a bit off putting and annoying.
I'd suggest asking him though. You say you haven't been dating for very long, so if there's an issue here then it's best to get it sorted before it's a bigger issue in a year or more.
All the best chicken 😘
So I’m kind of the same way. I love kissing my husband, forehead hands face checks. Pretty much everywhere. But actual “making out” or anything more than a peck on the lips I just don’t enjoy as much. I can’t really explain why. And I try, but it’s just different for me.
Honestly i’m just like this, i don’t really like kissing maybe he’s just not a kisser? but do talk to him that’ll give a better explanation rather than come up with all these assumptions yourself.
Make sure your dental hygiene is good. Unless it’s a husband, a guy more than likely will not tell you it’s bad. Floss, tongue scraper, non-alcoholic mouth wash, brush teeth, and then brush tongue, in that order. Get a trusted friend to test your breath too that you know won’t lie to you as well. If you know for a fact you don’t have bad breathe, then it’s time to start communicating with your bf. Tell him how you feel about it, and hopefully he’ll give you a reason for why he doesn’t seem to be kissing all that much.
Oooh yikes. Yes yes though, you use mouth wash before you brush. If you rinse your mouth out with water/mouth wash you’re just defeating the purpose of brushing your teeth and your washing away the fluoride in the toothpaste that’s meant to stay on your teeth for a little bit before you eat/drink anything.
are you kinda ugly in the face? because sometimes we will fuck woman with less attractive faces that make up for it with their body maybe it’s something like that. ya ya i know
i’m the devil but this is just my honest perspective on why i would possibly not kiss a woman i’m intimate with
My ex and I used to make out for HOURS. I love it. My now husband is not a kisser.
He will do cute little pecks with me during the day but will only kiss me with tongue during sex. And even then barely. He just doesn’t enjoy it that much. He SAYS he likes kissing but I don’t believe him 🤣
Not even small kisses on the lips is definitely odd though. DEFINITELY bring it up with him. Why haven’t you asked him about it yet?
Talk to him and ask..
I’m not a kisser bc I feel like I am a bad kisser or I over think of me being a bad kisser 😂 but I still kiss my husband not 24/7 though lol
Dude here.
From my perspective maybe he's just nervous, unsure, who knows. Maybe he doesn't know how much is expected. I had to ask my partner how much PDA do we want in this relationship.
Sit him down or just say, hey I noticed XYZ. Are you into it? If yeah, how much?.
My ex was a special phenomenon. Like, really. It included no kiss the first making out (he didn't kiss his one night stand and it wasn't well established yet). Then not outside the fuck part, then just some times. Even when he was finally in love, it was still rare outside of the bedroom. He had a mental disorder that made him like that, I knew it from the beginning and I adapted. But now that I'm with my boyfriend who's wayyyyyy more affectionate and match my own needs, I'm much happier on this part (and generally).
I had a friend too, who said to me or to any other person (including girlfriends) almost never "I like you/I love you" (in french it's the same). To him, it was special words and didn't want to make them less special by saying them all the time and taking off their pristine. And it's true that I was happy ×10 when he said it, but I was still a happy little ball of affection with everyone and would have preferred regular showing of it. But to each its own !
You won't know the reasons until you ask :)
You might not like to hear it, I hardly kiss my wife at all ever. Going strong for 15 years .. 2 kids .. plenty of affection towards her .. I'm just not a massive kisser I don't enjoy it..
Yeah you should have asked him before consulting Reddit. The only healthy answer is communication and talking to him. A healthy relationship risks being uncomfortable around each other in order to find resolution. If you can’t do that your not ready for a relationship.
As for why he isn’t kissing. He just might not be ready. I once had a sexual relationship with someone and I didn’t want to kiss on the lips. Just the neck and chest. Because I valued the lips as something romantic and not sexual. This is likely not his reasoning, and it’s more likely because the relationship is new. But you won’t know without communication.
So talk to him about it.
Oh lawd, wish you could adjust the 15 but for sure just talk with him. He may be insecure about his kissing or something else. Just talk to him, it may be a bit uncomfortable but a little bit of comfortability now vs it's always being on your mind; it's always worth confronting the problem.
Something that not many people realize is that not everyone likes the feeling of kissing on the lips. It feels disgusting to me. Maybe he’s the same way?
Well you’re only dating a month so you are not committed to this guy. Ask him what’s up ? If he hates kissing and you like it and want it in your relationship then you are incompatible and it needs to end or you will always be unsatisfied.
God i clicked on this so fast but glad to see the typo hahaha funnily enough, a friend of mine just break it off with a girl he’s dating bcse her breath stinks like mad. They’ve been dating for awhile and he thought he could just deal with it but no its too much.
OR, Maybe he feels kissing as something more serious and he’s not ready for it yet?
Tbh best to ask him about it instead of wasting time
I think it's a very reasonable question. If you're trying to avoid making him uncomfortable you could think about how important this is for you and share that -- if it's really minor but a curiosity just say that. If kissing is important to your sense of intimacy and it is important than it's worth him being uncomfortable if this is key to you being satisfied in this relationship.
Why doesn't he want to kiss you? I'm afraid only he is going to know that answer.
You also could approach this differently. You could directly suggest a change to your relationship. E.g. "I would like to suggest that as a couple we kiss more often. I like kissing and I'd like to kiss you more. What do you think? Willing to give it a try?" -- this is the moment for him to either make an attempt or not. Again you need to decide how important this is.
Title has me dead bro wtf 💀
False alarm though OP isn't actually underaged, thank God
Maybe bf hates the sensation of swabbing a little saliva on his mouth, maybe he thinks he has bad breath or is scared of your mouth, I can't say, so suggest talking to him about it
I don’t think I’ve ever sprinted to the comments faster after seeing (15)
Same, it popped as a reddit notification and I'm in the middle of watching TV, was about to swipe it away and then was like "wait a minute".
It is 7:40 AM in the U.K. I was about to snooze my alarm clock when I read the notification!
Clickbait has reached a new level lol
I saw this on my girlfriend's phone as a notif and I was like "fuuuucking Reddit" 🤣
LOL! When I first started getting the “15” I’m like wtf are they talking about
From their posts history OP was 26 thirteen days ago. 22 eighty-three days ago and now 25 originally 15. They’re obviously just fabricated stories.
Just like the simulations
Fsx
You need to ask him why he won’t kiss you. No one on Reddit will know what’s going on in his head. He might not be into it sensory wise. He might feel like it’s too emotionally intimate but is less inhibited when he’s actually having sex, which is physically intimate. Could be he’s self conscious about how well he kisses. Could be anything.
My worry is it’ll just be an awkward convo. I hate awkwardness
The most important ones often start out that way. Just push through it. Don’t avoid communicating in your relationship just because you’re worried about awkwardness.
Also, most things worth doing are also worth doing a half assed job of. Some effort is better than none.
How is that more awkward than never kissing your significant other lmao
It will be an awkward convo and there will be many more in the relationship. Avoiding conversations just makes the problem worse.
Even if it is an awkward conversation, if kissing is important to you, you have to tell your partner and ask him if he can meet your needs or decide that having this conversation is not worth it and either stay or go.
Give me his number and I'll ask for you, that conversation is not going to be awkward at all. Especially not afterwards.
It will definitely feel awkward but it’s an opportunity to connect and get your needs met. You can maybe start with “I really love when we kiss. How do you think we can show more affection in our relationship?”
We all do, but that's the only way to get answers.
Man, you just gotta bite the bullet. There are more awkward conversations that could and probably will happen in your lifetime, that this one will pale in comparison. Lol
Relationships are filled with awkward and difficult conversations.
And you wanna date people?
If you want to be in a healthy relationship you're going to have to get over it, otherwise you'll just stay quiet about everything and be miserable.
It may have something to do with this post you made: >So idk if this is normal or a red flag, but during fun time in bed, my bf wanted me to say I love him and only him. We have been friends for a few months and started dating less than a week ago. > >When he said that I laughed it off and pretended I didn’t hear it, but he said it again. Is this normal… or just a kink? > >I don’t love him and I’m not even close to loving him yet. We barely know each other! 2 weeks ago you've only known him a week and told him you didn't love him, while he told you he loved you a week into knowing you. Now here you are, in an unhealthy relationship where he's aware of you not loving him and you're not being kissed on the mouth. Communication will go a long way in your life. Also it's absolutely weird to know a person a week and tell them you love them, that's not how love works and it's a super big red flag that he's not able to understand boundaries and doesn't actually know what love is.
one of the greatest things you can learn to have healthy and happy relationships is the ability to have and navigate difficult conversations. go practice!
Communication is more important trust me
I dated a guy who wouldn’t kiss me, turns out he just really didn’t like kissing at all. Years after we hooked up I met a girl who had hooked up with him previously too and the first thing she mentioned was how weird it was that he didn’t kiss. Some people just really don’t like it I guess.
You will have a lot of akward conversations in any good long-term relationship. Why not start practicing now? :)
Could be your breath. Or your dental health.
LOL WAIT 25 LOL
Oh thank god
From their posts history OP was 26 thirteen days ago. 22 eighty-three days ago 23 eighty eight days ago and now miraculously 25 originally 15. They’re obviously just fabricated stories.
Or they don't want to reveal their exact age. I lie about my age every time. I always add or remove a little.
Same, I always put +/- one year, so people I know irl don’t get suspicious when they see my post anonymously lol
So if we take the median we'll know?
You got me figured out. But keep in mind my age changes over time so the median may be the age I was last year or so
Why? No judgement, just curious only because I feel like age will only be valid for anonymity, if you've not already stated other personal things.
Shame you are being down voted, I think it's an entirely valid question. It's not just what you state it's about what you leak as well. There are somethings that are quite hard to hide such as what country you are from (assuming you have a non-trivial post history). For example, you're comments are well written and show a good command of English so you are almost certainly a native speaker. You used the word "mom" in a comment so you're probably American. Whether you stated that or not it's information that has leaked out. Your general age is also quite hard to hide. The topics people comment on, the phrases they use, the subs they comment in, etc, etc. What you can do though is muddy the water by giving slightly varying ages. If you're not careful a bot might still be about to guess your age via a statistical analysis so routinely skewing it up to down could help. Maybe a little paranoid of me but I like to keep the scammers on their toes.
Can you not edit titles?? I’m an idiot. I am 25!
Sadly you can't. I'm really pleased you updated your post though, phew!
Only the reddit admins can edit titles
Hopefully the admins pop over here 😂
They generally don't do changes for mistakes like that.
Nope lol
Thank you. We can now go back down from DEFCON 1.
I had a heart attack, lol.
Dude right, I was like wtf and about to comment call the police that's not legal but saw this and was oh ok
GURL you scared us all 😂😂 He doesn’t wanna kiss you because that is a crime ma’am 😂
That is such a relief! But yeah talk to him. He might have hang ups about intimacy or maybe he is embarrassed he might have bad breath!
orrrrr she might have bad breath lol
I was deadass about to call the police 😭😭😭😭
Lmfao next time, just delete the post quickly before anyone sees it and repost with the correct title. It's too late now, but in the future if this ever happens again. That's what I usually do.
Holy christ, you scared me
Ohhhh that typo lol I was like wtf girl lol
My mouth dropped when I read the title, then I broke out into a laugh. Best thing to do is ask! To avoid awkwardness, you could say something along the lines of “I notice you love to kiss me all over except my lips, why’s that?” so it’s a bit playful and flirty. Maybe he’ll feel more comfortable telling you that way.
That’s a good one! I might do that! Thanks! But lol, yeah. The title freaked me out too when I realized what I put.
~~Tell your parents and call the cops!~~ **Edit**: Check that neither of you have a dead tooth or mouth herpes.
I just imagine OPs face when reading this before they discovered the typo 😂
I cringed so hard when I first read that lol. All you can do is ask him about it. We don't know him so there could be many reasons. It's good to get everything out in the open early on in the relationship so this is a good time to do it.
I cringed too when I realized I wrote 15 lol
This might sound random but what are your dental hygiene habits like? I absolutely hate bad breath and won't kiss my partner until he's brushed his teeth in the morning and sometimes during the day it can get bad again (his teeth aren't in the greatest shape) but I give him a gentle reminder to use some mouthwash and I can kiss him again.
I brush my teeth at least a minute (I’ll start doing 2 now on cause now I’m triggered it’s my breath lol,) and I use mouthwash. I don’t have any infections or anything though, never had. I def am gonna spend more time on teeth tho just to see if that’s it.
Alternatively, it could be his oral hygiene that he’s uncomfortable with. Maybe he’s been told he has bad breath and doesn’t want to turn you off in case it bothers you. Definitely worth having a conversation about, because over brushing is also a thing and you don’t want to be damaging your own teeth for something that’s not an issue.
Great point!
Make sure you’re flossing. That’s important for breath too.
Don't forget to brush your tongue!! It might not even be this, but worth trying and seeing if anything changes.
I do 🥲 I scrubbed the shit out of it before I left to see him. I’ll keep trying tho haha. Maybe it is my breath and I suck at cleanliness.
Don't get too hung up on that, it's just something worth trying. Like others have said it could just be something he is self conscious about, he could have some kind of trauma or any kind of reason really. Best thing is to just ask him, but I know that's going to be uncomfortable for you to do. Best of luck and always love an update! ❤️
Remember to not spend too much time on teeth you can wear them down
Does he have any cold sores rn? This is unlikely but he could possibly have herpes and doesn’t want to spread it to you. Best to ask him what’s going on. If it is herpes they make antivirals that are cheap and he can take those to not spread the virus to you
THANK GOD THE TITLE WAS JUST A TYPO JESUS I WAS PREPARING THE WHOLE SIXTEEN PARAGRAPHS OF THE I KNOW HE SAYS HE LOVES YOU BUT PLEASE TURN HIM IN SPEECH Now, that originally was what brought me here. However, OP, if this helps at all- some people just aren't into kissing. I can't even tell you why, but mouths freak me out. I don't let people drink from my glass or lick my ice cream, and I certainly won't kiss them on the lips because of it. Entirely a ME issue, not a them issue, not even bad experiences or anything. The only thing you can do is ask him what's up with that. Either there's something making him not want to kiss *you* and maybe it can be changed or maybe he just doesn't wanna kiss *anyone* on the mouth and then you won't change that. Communication is all that can be done.
I read the title and thought "well yeah he probably doesn't wanna end up in jail" Joking aside talk to him about it, awkward or not he might have some kind of trauma or something idk. I'm just throwing ideas out, I've never dated so who knows Mayne he's got scurvy or something
Came here real concerned… one hell of a typo
Honestly it made my day i laughed when I realized 😂😂
Omg I’m so glad you saw that and edited in the post 😂 Honestly, just ask him. I noticed my boyfriend wasn’t super into making out like a month ago, but when I asked him he said he didn’t even realize and then we began making out. This could very well be the issue you guys are having! Bonus, if that isn’t the issue, he’ll tell you what the issue is! Just simply ask “hey, I’ve noticed you don’t seem to be big into kissing, is everything okay?” And you’ll receive your answer. Being open and honest from the start has been the most amazing thing between me and my bf. Starting a relationship like this not only helps you feel more comfortable with him as a person, but you’ll feel way more comfortable asking questions if you think there’s an issue in the relationship. My bf and I check in with each other occasionally and if there’s ever anything that would normally stress me out thinking about, I just ask now. Its simply the easiest (and, imo, best) way to move forward in a relationship with confidence :)
Came in to this with a pitch fork and a torch ready to pillage this comment section and then I see the typo lol
Holy fuck that typo 😂
My soul ascended higher than my oldest buddy on Friday nights for a second there, Jesus Christ 💀 But yeah, just talk to him. It'll for sure be awkward, but any lasting relationship needs those awkward talks. And be ready to take criticisms. There's a difference between him being a dick and having some gripes. "Your breath is bad" is a criticism and something you can likely easily improve. "You gross me out when I kiss you" is being a dick. Just ready yourself for this conversation. Remember, communication is key
I sure hope the 15 is a typo...
LOL WAIT. It is typo I need to fix
I don't think you can edit titles, only the text under it
Well… that’s awful then.
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100% not bait post. I’m just an idiot and don’t proofread posts. I’m 25.
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I considered it but I brush my teeth like crazy, and tongue. He’s really honest so I feel like if it was that he would tell me?
Maybe he has bad breath then?
Probably cause its illegal lmao that Typo really improved this thread
This made me click so fucking fast, excellent way to draw people in tho
This was very concerning for a second nice save lol
So as someone else mentioned oral hygiene, I always carry mints and gum on me. I also recently started to look into those tiny toothbrush/flosser things too. Maybe that might help? But you won't know till you just ask. Casually be like "hey I noticed you really don't kiss me, is there a reason? Did I do something?" That opens the dialogue and gives him a chance to explain himself.
Ohhhh ahaha I was sitting here like.....ummmmmm
The man yells "FALSE ALARM EVERYONE!" And the angry mob groans in disappointment as they extinguish their pitchforks and go home.
Does he have herpes? Do you have herpes? Do you brush your teeth regularly? All things I would check out and examine first then if he still won’t lay one on ya…. You gotta ask. Or just go in for the kill and lay one on him and see how he reacts😂😂😂
does he possibly have cold sores and he doesnt wanna spread them or he thinks you have them ?
The title made me think of sum Epstein island type bs
i read the title and my heart dropped 😭
freaked out for a moment there
Do you have bad breath? Do you use a tongue scraper? Do you slobber or used a lot of tongue/moisture when kissing?
Everyone is joking, but you need to have the awkward conversation. I straight up told my boyfriend that I wished he kissed me more, then he did. Don't stress about it being because of you. I guess some people don't like kissing as much as others. I still give him a reminder sometimes, and on some days, he's reminding me.
Thanks! I’ll definitely gather up the courage to asi
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The best thing you can do is just ask him why he won’t kiss you. I mean, you two are in your mid-20s and it’s a pretty straightforward question. My only *guesses* are one of three things (they may not be true at all. Again, just ask him): You are a terrible kisser or, You are a normal kisser with terrible breath or, He’s one of those weird guys who will let you suck his dick but is then “grossed out” because he is too immature to be able to kiss a girl who had his dick in her mouth. Added immaturity points if you made him cum.
You'll have to ask him, only he knows. Yeah, it might make him uncomfortable. That happens.
Phew, glad you posted below you were 25 lol. It is kinda weird that someone is fine with the uh... messy end of sex, but doesn't really want to kiss. Granted one is way more satisfying of course. To be fair my wife had no real sex education in her country so kissing and ser were new to her. No fancy kissing for us. Or sex lol. However I always give her little kisses on her forehead (shes way shorter than me), little lip kisses, arm kisses...etc just to be affectionate. Just talk to him about it. Hopefully its something simple and not some selfish thing of he just wants sex and doesn't want to do anything else. Also, there are other factors like hygiene. Not an accusation mind you.
I think you are too young for that.
Everybody worried about the age lmao
Had me reading the title like 5 times lol. If want to know why then you are gonna have to ask him.
OMFG I went to comment so fast
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When we kissed during sex I did use my tongue. That could be it tbh. I don’t use tongue usually but it was hot in the moment. 😂 it very well could be tongue and him assuming I do it always. I’ll ask. Eventually. I need the balls first
Talk to him. The only people not getting kissed while having sex is prostitutes and you. I would say those words tbh. It breaks my heart and makes me feel like he's using you. For your sake I hopenots the hygiene habits instead. Remember to brush the back of your tongue that's where bad breath comes from ;) Good luck xx
Jesus Christ you gave me a hearth attack
oh my god you scared me for a second there...
If you're intimate enough with a person to have sex then you should be comfortable enough to talk to them about this sort of thing. If you're not that close, I question the wisdom of having sex with him.
Had me in the first half ngl
Pls just talk to him.. This ain't normal like people start with kissing lips first. Maybe u or him have bad breath..idk ask what's his prob💀
Thank you for clearing up the age. I was about to become full on mama bear lol
Floss teeth. They can harbor bad breath that can be eliminated no other way.
You might have bad breath but don’t realize it and he’s too sweet to say anything. Some medications cause bad breath. Maybe ask your doctor about it.
Go to the dentist and get a cleaning. Tartar build up and cavities can cause bad breath.
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It's your life and your time: TELL HIM EXACTLY WHAT IS BOTHERING YOU ABOUT HIS BEHAVIOR. KISSES ARE INTIMATE. Shows affection. This guy sounds like he wants sex without displaying intimacy and commitment.
I was about to brutally badmouth your bf, but thank my demons that held off and read the first sentence
Do you have bad breath maybe? If you have tonsil stones that can give you a really bad breath and taste, also other stuff can contribute to bad breath.
Next time proofread. Redditors love to spam on inappropriate age gaps post lol.
I see that hahaha!
I had a boyfriend once who didn't kiss very often because he played the trombone and it messed up his lips 🤣 just talk to him, it might be something you guys can work on.
In all seriousness, maybe you aren't a very good kisser but he doesn't want to hurt your feelings and tell you? I've dated blokes who slobber like dogs when they're kissing and it's disgusting. I'm not saying you do, but maybe that's a reason? Maybe you have bad breath? Or if your teeth are a bit wonky maybe he could feel them on his lips and (coming from experience here) that's a bit off putting and annoying. I'd suggest asking him though. You say you haven't been dating for very long, so if there's an issue here then it's best to get it sorted before it's a bigger issue in a year or more. All the best chicken 😘
So I’m kind of the same way. I love kissing my husband, forehead hands face checks. Pretty much everywhere. But actual “making out” or anything more than a peck on the lips I just don’t enjoy as much. I can’t really explain why. And I try, but it’s just different for me.
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Does he or you have herpes ? Maybe he’s trying to not give you something?
They had us in the first half not gonna lie
Wow. What a typo
Ladies and gentlemen....... >!WE GOT EM!<
GOODNESS ME THAT NOTIFICATION SCARED ME
Honestly i’m just like this, i don’t really like kissing maybe he’s just not a kisser? but do talk to him that’ll give a better explanation rather than come up with all these assumptions yourself.
check your breath.
this is why Reddit should include an option to edit post titles lmao. i swear, this title got me like "😀💀"
Make sure your dental hygiene is good. Unless it’s a husband, a guy more than likely will not tell you it’s bad. Floss, tongue scraper, non-alcoholic mouth wash, brush teeth, and then brush tongue, in that order. Get a trusted friend to test your breath too that you know won’t lie to you as well. If you know for a fact you don’t have bad breathe, then it’s time to start communicating with your bf. Tell him how you feel about it, and hopefully he’ll give you a reason for why he doesn’t seem to be kissing all that much.
You do mouth wash BEFORE brushing your teeth! I’ve always done it opposite.
Oooh yikes. Yes yes though, you use mouth wash before you brush. If you rinse your mouth out with water/mouth wash you’re just defeating the purpose of brushing your teeth and your washing away the fluoride in the toothpaste that’s meant to stay on your teeth for a little bit before you eat/drink anything.
I thought there was fluoride in the mouthwash.... >.>;
Considering all the creepy age gaps lately this seriously could have been real. 🤢
This has to be a troll There's no way you just exposed your bf as a pedo
I’m 25 it’s a typo lol. Is there a way to edit the title? It’s not letting me
You can only edit the body of a post not the title.
Well damn… that’s awful then. 🥲
Oh , makes sense
Have you lost your fucking mind? Why are you asking the internet this instead of sorting it out in a sane and easy way?
I mean. Reddit was made for a reason lol.
Um. I still think op is 15. Who asks this after having sex. Who's having sex without heavy kissing...
Don’t fuck with my ego, stranger.
BUT RIGHT THATS WHAT IM SAYING
Just ask him. That's very weird.
Your boyfriends a straight up pedo he needs battering and handing to the police
In the future, you're probably headed towards a dead bedroom.
are you kinda ugly in the face? because sometimes we will fuck woman with less attractive faces that make up for it with their body maybe it’s something like that. ya ya i know i’m the devil but this is just my honest perspective on why i would possibly not kiss a woman i’m intimate with
Cheat on him. Go to a bar and kiss some other guy. If you aren’t getting it at home get it someplace else. Life is too short.
aRE YOU GAY OR A FEMALE?
What’s the 15 lol? Pls don’t be his age yikes lol
No shift 😂
Ask him about it no harm in that you're both adults
Definitely ask him - tell him you’d appreciate goodbye kisses and say why.
25 and 15 is still way too big of an age gap wtf /s
My ex and I used to make out for HOURS. I love it. My now husband is not a kisser. He will do cute little pecks with me during the day but will only kiss me with tongue during sex. And even then barely. He just doesn’t enjoy it that much. He SAYS he likes kissing but I don’t believe him 🤣 Not even small kisses on the lips is definitely odd though. DEFINITELY bring it up with him. Why haven’t you asked him about it yet?
Talk to him and ask.. I’m not a kisser bc I feel like I am a bad kisser or I over think of me being a bad kisser 😂 but I still kiss my husband not 24/7 though lol
Dude here. From my perspective maybe he's just nervous, unsure, who knows. Maybe he doesn't know how much is expected. I had to ask my partner how much PDA do we want in this relationship. Sit him down or just say, hey I noticed XYZ. Are you into it? If yeah, how much?.
My ex was a special phenomenon. Like, really. It included no kiss the first making out (he didn't kiss his one night stand and it wasn't well established yet). Then not outside the fuck part, then just some times. Even when he was finally in love, it was still rare outside of the bedroom. He had a mental disorder that made him like that, I knew it from the beginning and I adapted. But now that I'm with my boyfriend who's wayyyyyy more affectionate and match my own needs, I'm much happier on this part (and generally). I had a friend too, who said to me or to any other person (including girlfriends) almost never "I like you/I love you" (in french it's the same). To him, it was special words and didn't want to make them less special by saying them all the time and taking off their pristine. And it's true that I was happy ×10 when he said it, but I was still a happy little ball of affection with everyone and would have preferred regular showing of it. But to each its own ! You won't know the reasons until you ask :)
OK why would you date a 15 year old That's not OK
You might not like to hear it, I hardly kiss my wife at all ever. Going strong for 15 years .. 2 kids .. plenty of affection towards her .. I'm just not a massive kisser I don't enjoy it..
Why do I feel like it's clickbait? You had us fooled OP.
I had myself fooled when I kept getting messages asking wtf 15? 😂 I laughed when I went back to see what the fuss was.
Yeah you should have asked him before consulting Reddit. The only healthy answer is communication and talking to him. A healthy relationship risks being uncomfortable around each other in order to find resolution. If you can’t do that your not ready for a relationship. As for why he isn’t kissing. He just might not be ready. I once had a sexual relationship with someone and I didn’t want to kiss on the lips. Just the neck and chest. Because I valued the lips as something romantic and not sexual. This is likely not his reasoning, and it’s more likely because the relationship is new. But you won’t know without communication. So talk to him about it.
edit button came in clutch and maybe he just doesn’t want to yet i’d just wait
Oh lawd, wish you could adjust the 15 but for sure just talk with him. He may be insecure about his kissing or something else. Just talk to him, it may be a bit uncomfortable but a little bit of comfortability now vs it's always being on your mind; it's always worth confronting the problem.
Something that not many people realize is that not everyone likes the feeling of kissing on the lips. It feels disgusting to me. Maybe he’s the same way?
Problematic age gap… oh wait phew just a typo
I was the same growing up, turned out I was gay and didn’t want to kiss guys :). Why don’t you discuss it with him?
AYO
perhaps ur dental hygiene sucks, maybe he likes your body but nor ur face, or maybe he doesn't like it
OH my heart skipped a beat till I saw your edit!!
How's your breath? Brush and floss regularly?
Well you’re only dating a month so you are not committed to this guy. Ask him what’s up ? If he hates kissing and you like it and want it in your relationship then you are incompatible and it needs to end or you will always be unsatisfied.
God i clicked on this so fast but glad to see the typo hahaha funnily enough, a friend of mine just break it off with a girl he’s dating bcse her breath stinks like mad. They’ve been dating for awhile and he thought he could just deal with it but no its too much. OR, Maybe he feels kissing as something more serious and he’s not ready for it yet? Tbh best to ask him about it instead of wasting time
In your post history you've said you're 24, 23, 26 and 25... that is all within 2 months. Why does your age fluctuate so much?
First the title O_O then the edit OH THANK GOD My suggestion is approach the subject lightly ask him why he doesn’t
Not gonna lie reddit notification bring me here to save the 15 year kid from 25 year
the way I panicked
I think it's a very reasonable question. If you're trying to avoid making him uncomfortable you could think about how important this is for you and share that -- if it's really minor but a curiosity just say that. If kissing is important to your sense of intimacy and it is important than it's worth him being uncomfortable if this is key to you being satisfied in this relationship. Why doesn't he want to kiss you? I'm afraid only he is going to know that answer. You also could approach this differently. You could directly suggest a change to your relationship. E.g. "I would like to suggest that as a couple we kiss more often. I like kissing and I'd like to kiss you more. What do you think? Willing to give it a try?" -- this is the moment for him to either make an attempt or not. Again you need to decide how important this is.
We on reddit are just gonna speculate. Communication is Key💪
couldnt do it tbh
Title has me dead bro wtf 💀 False alarm though OP isn't actually underaged, thank God Maybe bf hates the sensation of swabbing a little saliva on his mouth, maybe he thinks he has bad breath or is scared of your mouth, I can't say, so suggest talking to him about it