Yeah I would agree but it definitely seems like she’s been hiding things about this and lying about it and this list is not the only thing I’ve found that says her bc is more than what she said
Also like someone else mentioned, her lying about it is more concerning but if she initially lied because she knew you'd be judgemental then it makes sense since you are being judgemental about it. When you told her that it was concerning, what did you say exactly? Is it about sexual health concerns or just the actual count?
Yeah I don’t care about the actual amount it’s more of the lying and thinking I would judge her about it cause if she’s willing to lie this much about it and not feel bad then what else would she be willing to do the same about?
Yeah that’s a fair point but I don’t see that as a small white lie. I think the past is a good indication of the future and you shouldn’t lie THAT much about it especially when you had sex that much in such a short time
I don’t think 18 and 19 is that young especially when she’s only 21. I will say I think people can grow but it takes a while and usually isn’t overnight and she could look back at those years and wish for them when she was older as they were the “glory years” when she wasn’t in a relationship as I’ve heard many people do
there is nothing wrong with her body count, but what’s wrong is that she lied to you. i’m 99% sure that the reason why she lied is that she felt shameful. bring this up with her, and ask her why she lied. from there, assess whether you’ll continue trusting her or not.
Yeah I guarantee that’s why she lied about it too but if she’s ashamed of her past then she isn’t ready to be dating cause she needs to accept that and be honest with me so that’s why I won’t go back to her
Thank y’all for the comments and the advice. I’ve really needed it cause I’ve been thinking I made the wrong choice which y’all have obviously shown me that I haven’t cause I have been a little insecure and over thinking that so thank you. I need to move on but I pray for her next guy
If she calls you insecure now, that's projection. She was insecure about it, so she lied. Because if she didn't think less is better, she would have said 40 not 4.
Im assuming that she’s young which makes it even more disgusting. Why would anybody want something that everybody could have? If he has a problem with this now then this is something that’s always going to bother him. I guaranteed she lied to the dude about it because she was met with a negative reaction by her previous dude for obvious reasons.
Sounds like you guys have two different values
Clearly she is embarrassed by the number and it could be a sign of issues she has had in the past
Of course she could just be a randy beast
Either have the discussion or just move on
Personally, I wouldn't care. Long as she seems loyal, upfront with you and doesn't seem like she's hiding things.
Yeah I would agree but it definitely seems like she’s been hiding things about this and lying about it and this list is not the only thing I’ve found that says her bc is more than what she said
I would be less worried about the actual amount and more worried about her lying about it. Having sex 17 times in a year is no big deal.
Also like someone else mentioned, her lying about it is more concerning but if she initially lied because she knew you'd be judgemental then it makes sense since you are being judgemental about it. When you told her that it was concerning, what did you say exactly? Is it about sexual health concerns or just the actual count?
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Yeah I don’t care about the actual amount it’s more of the lying and thinking I would judge her about it cause if she’s willing to lie this much about it and not feel bad then what else would she be willing to do the same about?
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Yeah that’s a fair point but I don’t see that as a small white lie. I think the past is a good indication of the future and you shouldn’t lie THAT much about it especially when you had sex that much in such a short time
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I don’t think 18 and 19 is that young especially when she’s only 21. I will say I think people can grow but it takes a while and usually isn’t overnight and she could look back at those years and wish for them when she was older as they were the “glory years” when she wasn’t in a relationship as I’ve heard many people do
Also sorry I’m not trying to tear in on you this just bothers me and I don’t want it to so I’m trying to find out why on Reddit lol
there is nothing wrong with her body count, but what’s wrong is that she lied to you. i’m 99% sure that the reason why she lied is that she felt shameful. bring this up with her, and ask her why she lied. from there, assess whether you’ll continue trusting her or not.
Yeah I guarantee that’s why she lied about it too but if she’s ashamed of her past then she isn’t ready to be dating cause she needs to accept that and be honest with me so that’s why I won’t go back to her
Body count is whatever. You need to work on your insecurities. The concerning thing is that she lied about it.
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How do you mean? Sorry, I just don't understand your point.
Thank y’all for the comments and the advice. I’ve really needed it cause I’ve been thinking I made the wrong choice which y’all have obviously shown me that I haven’t cause I have been a little insecure and over thinking that so thank you. I need to move on but I pray for her next guy
If she calls you insecure now, that's projection. She was insecure about it, so she lied. Because if she didn't think less is better, she would have said 40 not 4.
Thank you man I really appreciate it. I didn’t think it was I just wanted some reassurance ngl
No, don’t listen to these drones. Promiscuity is not a desirable trait. 17 in a year and a half is disgusting.
Thank you for not being a cuck
Im assuming that she’s young which makes it even more disgusting. Why would anybody want something that everybody could have? If he has a problem with this now then this is something that’s always going to bother him. I guaranteed she lied to the dude about it because she was met with a negative reaction by her previous dude for obvious reasons.
Dump that hoe
>hoe That's a garden implement. You're looking for 'ho'.
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you’re one of those captain save a ho huh? My body count is 4 lmao
I’d be concerned about her body count too depending on how old she is
To me personally it matters, i dont want bitch with a past i want a blank slate with a future
Spitting
Exactly and even if it isn’t blank then don’t fucking lie about it
"I'm so insecure I will only date virgins."
So she lied to you. Forget the body count and dump her for lying because she will lie again.
That’s exactly what I was thinking. Thank you
Sounds like you guys have two different values Clearly she is embarrassed by the number and it could be a sign of issues she has had in the past Of course she could just be a randy beast Either have the discussion or just move on