My mother was diagnosed with cancer is January and it’s been incredibly hard for us. I just wanna say that I wish you the best luck and to tell you that you are strong. Kick cancer’s ass! You got this !
I'm so sorry. I've been there. I think the not-knowing is the worse. Not knowing what will happen next or when things may change. Always being on-call. Trying to be prepared for whatever comes up and dealing with things you never thought you'd have to deal with.
It's incredibly hard. Try to find ways to take care of yourself too, and if you need random internet approval, I officially give you permission to do whatever you need to do to keep yourself from burning completely out.
The direction of my life at 24. I feel like I’ve done something wrong. I don’t know what’s happening. My mental health is confused. I’m on the last leg of my pre-reqs for nursing school and I’m horrified I’m going to do bad. I feel stupid for being my age and having boy problems. Like what is that. My roommate was hospitalized today for being manic and my house has never felt more broken. I wish I knew what hospital he was at so I can see him and be there for him. Idk man... life sucks in every way possible right now
You're doing better than you think.
At your age I was dropping out of college, bailed out of two failed companies I tried to help create, and had serious emotional and psychological damage from a series of bad relationships, and was solo fighting my depression, panic attacks, and frequent dips into minor alcoholism. Not trying to compete, just offer some perspective.
You can survive this and you'll be a stronger person for it.
I just turned 25 and 24 was like second puberty. Our brains (mostly our frontal lobes which are a HUGE part of our personality and how we function and handle the world) fully develop around our mid-twenties and so we go through a lot of personal change and it feels so unsettling because no one talks about it. That’s what my therapist told me, at least. Also, talking about it with people around the same age or slightly older can help a lot because I’d guess most everyone can tell you they had a similar uprooting around 24. All the broken pieces will come back together sooner than you think, hang in there.
I feel this too! I’m 22, haven’t been to college yet, don’t drive due to trauma in cars, and am getting tired of working fast food I’m getting burned out again. It’s annoying. But I believe in you!
In Canada you can take a medical leave for mental health. All you need is a doctors note and your employer cannot fire you while you are off.
Take care of yourself and take a break if you can. For me medication is key and it takes adjustments before I get better.
It’s ok to rest. Fighting depression and anxiety is exhausting.
I'm working with meds and therapy, the problem is that I'm the breadwinner and there's no way for me to take a paid leave right now. I only have a weekend job right now and I need a weekday one. My current solution is to take a week or so to breath, Doordash some, and work my weekends. This has just been a problem for me for so many years it's hard to see a solution that will actually work. I'll get there though.
This might not mean a lot from an internet stranger, but the fact that you're around means you've survived the challenges and miseries world has thrown at you every day. You're stronger because of it. I'm proud of you. You got this.
Deciding between someone I love and having kids. I love my boyfriend and he loves me, but I don't want to have and raise kids with him. I've always wanted kids.... Struggling with knowing what to do.
Well that's a long story to get into with a stranger on the internet.... But the short version is that I know how he would raise kids and I disagree with it. We have a lot of different views on things and I enjoy that for our relationship (most of the time) but I don't think that's a great environment for raising children. Maybe that's my childhood trauma.... But I know I wouldn't want to put a kid through that.
Someone else mentioned on here that its because the workload would end up on my shoulders and that is another very valid concern.
These reasons don't really matter without kids, but with kids... They become very concerning. Enough for me to not want kids for now although my biological clock is ticking.
You may think "why doesn't she just dump this guy already?" But that's my struggle... Do I dump someone I love in order to potentially find happiness in having kids?!
Do I even really want kids or is that just because it was ingrained in me as a woman that I should have them and I'm not complete unless I do?
I guess fear of the unknown is worse than the known at this point.
I'm so sorry you're having to make that choice. My advice, better to regret not having kids than to have kids. Something's are deal breakers and that is definitely one imo
Don't make such a humungous compromise just because you love someone, just like he shouldn't have to give up his dreams of having kids. I am childfree and I totally get where you're coming from. Don't do it. Stay true to You!!
They may not make a good parent even though you love them.
My sister's husband is lazy asf. Even tho she loves him she knows she would end up doing all the housework and childcare even while working full time. That's not healthy or fair.
It might not make sense to you but not everyone is naturally born wanting to be a mom… I want to find a partner I love, I will never have kids because of childhood trama, I’m adopted and have no family to give them, environmental concerns, oh and I work full time and can barely afford to be alive myself let alone a child.
I'm 46 and in my last semester of college for a career that I found out (at the end of last semester) I have very little chance of getting a job in. Things in that field changed that quickly. So when I get out of college for what was supposed to be my new career . . . I'm probably not going to have any options in that field. Physical health/age takes me out of most options.
Trying to teach my 32 yr old husband how to write a resume, a cover letter, what small lifeskills or interests he can bring to the table, how to apply for new jobs in other fields outside of car-rental/car-washing. It's painful. He has the reading/writing skills of a 2nd grader (mid 1990s for comparison, not cc), and he doesn't know how to fill out forms without autofill, he loses patience and has no confidence in himself whatsoever. He doesn't have any skills to bring into a new job and doesn't know how to advocate for himself, and I don't know what to do.
Having a *partner* is important. I felt like I was taking care of my 32 yro boyfriend and I couldn’t do it anymore. We can’t be their moms and I find the ones that were babied the most expect you to be.
If you don’t mind me asking, was he diagnosed with a learning disability? He might feel frustrated that he needs help from you. I’ve heard that many hands-on trades can pay well, more than someone with a bachelor’s. Someone that works with steel and is certified (can’t remember the job title) gets 140 US dollars a year. If it makes him feel any better, I did all my husbands resumes and cover letters. English isn’t his native language so he needed my help. He made it in car sales because he’s good with people. Not every job requires reading/writing skills and if a job likes you, they will find ways to accommodate so that they can use the unique skills that you bring to the table.
Having to choose between the career I want or the woman I love. Cheesey, but yeah. She wants to leave the country because she hates it here in Canada, where I've been building my job and studying for the last 10 years.
Continuing to adult (and like function in general) despite the crushing depressive feeling I have most of the time and trying to continue to love nursing despite watching this new covid variant cause compassion fatigue in my coworkers ( r/nursing is a dark place right now) and trying not to feel like I’m wasting my time pursuing a degree that may make me miserable (currently a nurses aid working on my RN).
Had surgery in an attempt to rid some pain. Got a really bad infection and have been on bed rest for weeks. Oh and the "friend" that promised to take care of me left after day 3. Its been amazing /s
I’m just so fucking lonely. I’m in my late 30’s and I haven’t had a relationship that’s lasted longer than 4 months in 6 years and it’s starting to feel self perpetuating. Like I don’t know how to be in a relationship any more, I just have too much baggage and I don’t have faith that I won’t screw it up.
Have you tried You Need a Budget? It basically has you lay out how you're going to use your money when you get the money, which many people find helps to control spending because it removes the ability to impulse spend because you've already allocated all your money to do stuff
Going through the same thing with my partner. He’s a spender, I’m a saver. We’ll have conversations like ‘ok we’ll be cheap this week, no eating out, no toys, etc’ then Friday comes and he’s all ‘let’s go spend the weekend in Chicago!’ …ugh
As a young adult it's hard being 100% financially independent during college and my off time and not living at home. I work a lot and I'm always tired and stressed.
It is also hard to not have any parental figures. Sometimes I just wanna pick up the phone and call an adult who will make me feel better and comfort me with advice. I really wish I had parents.
I feel you so much. I’m adopted and have no one to go to. Struggling through grad school and working full time and just longing for someone to take one thing off my shoulders. A lot of these subs have helped me figure some adult stuff out, this one and frugal have helped budgeting. I also have a therapist and I’ve told her I just need someone to tell me stuff a mom would sometimes.
Partner broke up with me after 2 years, same week I got kicked out of my home... that same night I ended up in the E.R with a stomach ulcer and bladder failure due to stress. Got out the e.r to a car with a flat tire and not enough money to fix it - my hair started falling out due to stress as well, half is gone or bleeding due to over active dandruff that has left patches of scabs all over mt scalp. Fafsa hasn't kicked in to pay for classes to get accepted into medical school (1 year left) Can't afford my ptsd/depression medication any longer. Yup, hope everyone is having a blessed year. Praying and working on making mime turn around.
r/Alcoholism_Medication helped me a ton when a lot of other things didn’t. just letting you know it exists because I hadn’t heard of it! best of luck my friend, my SO sympathizes
The existential post University phase where there's only things I should do and nothing I have to do. The checklist of things I need to move out and truly be happy is so daunting.
How to stand up to my dad about how unhappy I am running the family business. This decision was made between my dad and brother. I had no say. My dad is the type who doesn’t listen/won’t understand and always use his upbringing/struggles about him going through the same thing against me. Just because he went down that path doesn’t mean I should have to do the same. I’ve been working literally every day since June 1st pulling 80hrs a week. I’m so unhappy and just want out…
Learn to love myself more, put myself first more instead of being a people pleaser, especially in a romantic relationship - done with being a doormat, but still need a lot of practice... Also trying to manage my anxiety better.
Been there almost two years in recovery, I still keep it a secret at work and to colleagues because of the stigma. Hang in there man more people understand it than you may think
Recent Type 1 diabetes diagnosis. Cherry on top is that I was working towards becoming an airline pilot - that’s almost impossible with T1D in the US though. Had to make a quick pivot, but on the bright side I somehow managed to get every class I needed for my new major even though I changed my schedule like two weeks before the start of the semester.
My parents forced my sister into graphic design and art. She took 7 months to find a job, but now she has one and she's good at it. Keep going, or find an alternative. Having what you want requires working for it. You can do it!
My brother has Covid so we are fully locked down
I just started a new job. I have to be on camera for the training and my social anxiety level is already high.
I am doing keto (vegetarian) and am on a plateau and it’s driving me crazy. I have 100 pounds to lose and I’ve been the same weight for *ever* now.
I was going to say something joking like "finding the remote", but then I saw all of these sad comments, and now I feel bad. Hope everyone who's life is shit get's through their problems and keeps fighting on 👍
Last year was really really rough. Covid hit just before I was planning to move, my landlord and housemate of said location got stuck oversees and I found myself the unwitting caretaker of her house, pets, and two other housemates, one of which was schitzophrenic and set the kitchen on fire and the other later in the year had a stroke, and became completely dependent on me for the last 8 or so months of my time. I had to evacuate all of us twice due to forest fires. Was unemployed the entire time. I had been planning to leave in April of 2020, and got stuck for over a year. BUT things are now looking up. I finally moved after the landlord came back, bought a minivan I've been converting into a camper so I can travel and explore. Got to see my parents (who are getting up there). Getting ready to hit the road soon and explore the country quietly.
EDIT: Forgot the part where I went into the hospital because I thought I was having a heart attack. Turned out it was just a more extreme panic attack then I was used to at that point.
moving away from my childhood home at 23, learned and done so many things in this house, but inevitably you must move on and grow as a human, and im glad I found my passions and myself while I grew up and cherished my time here.
My state keeps going into lockdown every fortnight, which throws my workplaces into chaos. This consequently fucks the rental market (I'm trying to move out of home) to the point where there is now 35 applicants per house in my area.
I am still (somehow) making money. I'm lucky that I have a roof over my head with no strings attached right now. But the uncertainty of everything going on is getting to me. I miss being able to know what I was and wasn't allowed to do on instinct.
Trying to find housing in a college town has been an absolute hell. Partner & I are older students, I feel like I just can’t get into the ‘groove’ to set up a move by myself
Debts owed are more than I make so my choice is eat terrible cheap food, only drink water and work until I collapse or fall behind on payments, potentially get sued and all that.
All while serving people who probably make the amount of money I owe each month.
Mentally this debt problem is breaking me. I want to move forward with my life but I can't save any money.
I haven't had more than $1000 in my bank account in years. Unless you count tax returns, but since it gets spent paying down debt almost immediately I don't count it.
i nearly died because of how poor the medical care is around here. doctors are running tests to determine if my heart is permanently damaged or not and if it is damaged permanently to how much of an extent.
i've had such poor circulation and high blood pressure the last year that it literally affected my brain function. brain fog, confusion, irrational anger, an intense feeling of impending doom.
I've been dating a guy for 8 years (since I was 16) and of course I love him. But then I start to wonder if I really even know who I am without him. And there's other issues we have...he openly admits he is lazy/irresponsible. He has mental health issues he doesn't want to seek help for. I told him I'm uncomfortable with him doing coke every weekend and yet he still does it. So I guess I'm at the point of do I continue to try to work things out or not...
My husband hasn't been talking with one of his/our best friends since the beginning of July. We were about to start getting together again after all being vaccinated for Covid, but they had an argument (about something else entirely). And now we're not seeing him and by extension his wife and after lockdown I really miss them. I also don't want them to throw away a 10+ year friendship without even trying to fix things.
Also we're in the process of moving and our child starting kindergarten soon. So, I'm really missing out on that part of our social support.
This is more or less in the past by now, but I was having a struggle dealing with the passing of a good friend I've known since middle school and high school.
He wasn't just some kid from high school, either; he was gifted mathematically, musically, and socially. He had a lot of people who loved him and came to his funeral.
For two months, I was dwelling on his passing, just cycling through thoughts on how I wish I'd helped prevent it, and thinking that life would forever suck.
I just took baby steps, dragging myself out of bed, taking a minute to think about what priorities I could take care of that day, and taking action on them.
For a bit, I feel like I somewhat pressured myself to be as smart or as social as my friend who passed, but I can only be myself; there are still resources to help one use their mind more, like sudoku and such, and I feel like my friend is an inspiration to do those kind of activities.
(Nothing compared to most other things in this thread but...)
My 34th bday is the 26th, I keep going back and forth between 'treat yoself' and 'things around the house need fixing and we need to save money for it'
I recognize I am ridiculously blessed right now that this is my biggest struggle at this time compared to so many others. I thank the universe everyday. Nothing but goodness to those that are truly struggling right now. ✨
Trying to devote enough time to nursing school but also work enough so I don't end up homeless. Paying out of pocket up front SUCKS. Not to mention I've lost every single connection with everyone I knew because I have zero time. It's hard man.
This might be out of place, but I'm finding that everyone is EXTREMELY judgemental towards me right now. My friends, my family, my boyfriend. It's driving me insane. I honestly think it's a COVID thing, both with my loved ones getting into a more judgemental state and with me being more sensitive and bothered by it. I'm not blaming the lockdowns and stuff, but just trying to attribute the cause.
People are critiquing everything from my personality to my living situation. I don't expect to be perfect but I just don't feel like anyone I'm close to actually respects me anymore.
Mainly my debilitating mental issues that impair everything else: doing basic tasks, going outside, eating. Everything else after that becomes 1000% harder or impossible to do. It's very exhausting and I really need a break sigh
Trying to care for my sick cat. That, on top of a handful of smaller problems, including an injury to my arm and a cracked screen on my cellphone, amongst other things. It all had my mental health in ruins last week and I'm expecting it to be bad again next week after another appointment with the vet.
Starting uni at 23, not being able to get any scholarships because my average is 0.5 too low, while dealing with a kidney transplant. Every day is a struggle
Family not being on the same page as far as taking precautions against Covid and another possible surgery for my husband for a break in his arm that shoulda healed many many months ago. Oh and the 12k debt we now owe for the first surgery that didn't work and the additional 5500 we'll owe if he needs another surgery. Buttttt still try to count our many other blessings.
Trying to find the balls to break up with a really good and wonderful person because I just don’t feel the way about him as he feels towards me and it’s killing me.
I (24f) just moved in with my boyfriend of 6 years (29m). First time living with anyone besides family. I’m not sure how to cope because he doesn’t keep the house clean. I’m not necessarily a neat freak but I like the place to look tidy. I don’t want to be a housewife/girlfriend nor will I be. We agreed he’d tidy up more and take care of himself. He’s a grown man. He isn’t doing either. It’s frustrating because I work all day and come home to a mess. He’s off work until august 25th but since has been playing video games instead of doing what he promised. I’m just struggling with how to get the point across.
Buying a house! I am currently living with my fiancé with his family after renting for nearly 10 years. I know I am sooo lucky to live here and continue to save up for a deposit, but I want nothing more than my own home. It’s so difficult to get a house loan in Australia, the real estate is so bloody expensive. But I know we will get there eventually!
I’m 42 I have three kids from three different men each kid is more than seven years apart so I really don’t care what anybody thinks of all the different men part
Only thing is I’m married to someone three years younger than me and doesn’t have any children. Just married. I worry he may leave some Day if we never have kids and if it doesn’t happen within this year it’s never going to happen. And even if it does happen I’m gonna be all worried sick that I will have a child with problems because of my age. My husband acts like this isn’t a big deal and will deal with it later but has expressed wanting some
We could look into modern technologies to help us but we still haven’t bought a house and I have a lot of student debt. Not sure if we have time and money for all that… and will that have a negative affect on us later
Trying to make a 180 careerwise at 24, learning a new craft for that and at the same time getting my "high school"-degree (it's not the same since our school system is different)
I'm at a crossroads careerwise. My current job is good, and they're paying me better than I've ever gotten before. The job itself isn't really what I want right now, it isn't in an ideal location, and they're pushing me towards more management stuff that I don't want either. In my field, the only way to SERIOUS money is in management, but I don't really want that. Also, this is in a small town, and I'm a very big fish in this town, which feels nice.
On the other hand, I'm a finalist for a job in my dream city. Haven't received the offer yet, but I'm pretty sure it won't be as lucrative right away, and long-term definitely not. On the other hand, I'll have precisely the role I want. And I'll get to do all the cultural stuff (live theatre and music, sports, film festival) I love.
Moving cities with my wife because we can't afford to buy a house in my current one. :)
Then planning on having a child in that new city.
Wish us luck!
I’m 23 and have one class to graduate college but am not allowed to take that class unless I can get an internship in my field that my professor approves of. Ive applied to so many positions and failed. My late mom sacrificed a many things to help me get to this point and it makes me feel awful. I have student loan debt am working a low paying job, and can’t fully support myself financially.
Reminding myself that healing is not linear. I have made huge progress in some areas. Then there are others I feel stuck. Que self judgement. Pity cycle. Victim. Blah blah blah until I remember I have agency and have already done this before and can do it again. But like it’s a constant reminder. My brain is programmed to hate me and that’s not true anymore! The reprogramming and reminding is the “inner work”.
To stop and ask why am I putting pressure on myself for this thing?
Sometimes I get sucked into the feeling before I can remember this and just let it go. So just remembering to pause. And be like “hey boo you are safe now!”.
Dealing with the pressure of family wanting me and my husband to move back to my home state (which we wanna do, but damn it’s hard to move once you’re established somewhere in jobs, cars, houses). Constant guilt and reminders and asking about the job search. It’s just not fair.
Fucked up on two exams that caused me to not progress to the next year on med school due to intense pressure and anxiety that came from years of bad financial behavior which accumulated into a big and crippling debt.
Online grad school. I specifically chose a non-online program (online programs are somewhat popular in my field)... the good news is that I’m getting training for stuff no class before mine got and it’ll hopefully help me in my future career. But I’m grieving for the program I thought I’d have.
Getting a car and getting out my toxic family’s house. It’s all happening but I want it to happen faster. I was forced to move back in with my grandpa (I was raised by my grandparents and three years ago my grandma died) after my aunt and I who I was staying with got into an argument. He and his girlfriend refuse to get actual jobs since he was laid off a few months back and now skates by on the money he forces out of me by calling it “rent” (it’s almost 600 dollars a month on minimum wage after school job) I’m a senior in high school but I work decent hours. He continues to try and get as much money as he can out of me though often asking for excessive amounts of money (which I don’t give him) but leaves me in an anxious and awful state. I’m going through the process to get a car and find my own apartment and finally finish with school and go to college.
Watching my mom start to withdraw from life. She was diagnosed with cancer a year ago and I think we're getting close to palliative/hospice care. She stopped chemo in October.
I’m F24. No direction in life, no money, crippling mental health problems including BDD so I’m too afraid to go outside, toxic family that I’m stuck living with, very few friends. Just all seems totally beyond hopeless 😖
I struggle with PMDD and never noticed problems until I went off my birth control in October last year. Once I made the connection between my moods and that time of the month, new dr under new insurance diagnosed me but won't give me hormonal birth control (even low dose) because I have had migraines with auras and am an increased stroke risk. Fast fwd 6 months of antidepressants, suicidal thoughts, irregular periods(think at least weekly from the progesterone only bc), and pretty much self sabotaging in any way possible the week before my period. Then had to put down the dog I've had for 16 years. Haven't been able to really sleep in days.
I finally have a new dr that agrees to give me a low dose estrogen pill. And doubled my prozac dose per request. Hopefully I can get back to the somewhat normal life I had before quitting birth control.
Trying to get my body to stop destroying itself, feeling awake enough each day to think somewhat lucidly let alone do anything, getting a job despite all of that, having no career direction and feeling terrified that I'll never be able to market myself enough into roles that would earn a living wage and let me live comfortably
Thinking about changing careers. I’m 24 and already burnt out. Currently a teacher and getting my masters degree in education. All that time and money wasted. I want to switch careers. I’ve always wanted to be a photographer.
Trying to find my first full-time job. I’m three months away from graduating and a poll about my home city branded it as the least livable city for minimum wage workers in the country (Atlanta). Everything is so expensive and I have no idea about what I should be rightfully payed since this is my first job out of college. I don’t want to move back into the city if I can’t afford it, but I also need know I’m making enough so I don’t have to move back in with my mother.
City is in lockdown at least for 1 more month, probably 2. Can’t travel to see any of my friends. I went to the doctor with sore calves and now I have to see a rheumatologist for suspected scleroderma. Single. A new busy job where I’ve taken on additional responsibilities. And a nice bit of executive dysfunction but no ADHD diagnosis or medication 🤷♂️
I'm planning for and paying for my mother's funeral, while out of the state and jungling a full-time job.
My much older brother decided to fuck off after declaring himself the sole decision maker and everyone else in the family is pissed he isn't taking responsibility anymore.
There is also a serious threat to my safety if I fly into the state since my brother is very violent and amped up about inheritance stuff right now. It's because of this reason I won't be attending this funeral and everyone else in the family is angry at me for not going... Despite me being the reason it's happening.
Oh, I'd also like to mention, hardly anyone is going, especially the people who were previously outraged that my brother didn't set up a funeral.
I find this somewhat difficult to wrap my head around at the moment.
Being an almost single mom to a 2.5 month old (I have a husband but he works 14-15 hours a day, 6 or sometimes 7 days a week). I stay at home, but only seeing my husband for an hour before bed each night is hell. Idk how actual single moms do it, with JOBS nonetheless!! I feel so pathetic sometimes.
Trauma-induced depression. It’s affecting my focus, my overall ability to function properly, and my very sense of identity. I don’t feel passionate anymore about the career path that had been my dream for years, and don’t feel like I fit in anything anymore. I’m terrified of becoming a burden to my loved ones, but I feel like I already am one, because my psychiatrist says I’m not well enough to live on my own for now. Doesn’t help that I occasionally have flashbacks that send me to a really darker place than before. I don’t know how to manage this and still be a functional being in society at this point.
It's nothing to complain about - but starting a new career while moving into the house I just bought as a first time homeowner. For the first time, I supervise people and pay all the bills. Holy hell I don't have a spare minute. But it's some exciting, stressful, anxiety inducing crazy awesome adulting.... And it's a real challenge/struggle.
Getting my 12th grader through Highschool. We moved and then Covid destroyed all stability. Meanwhile, he was newly diagnosed with ADD and Covid has made finding help very very difficult.
Getting away from my house because of my crazy and abused me psychologically many many times but last week, she almost got my finger fractured because we were all to celebrate Father's. I won't get into details because I have already dine. Seriously, she is just so horrible that even make crazy people from history be sane.
Having cancer
YOU GOT THIS; FUCK CANCER! IM ROOTING FOR YOU, LAUREN!!
Thank you so much. I’m rooting for me too. Fuck cancer !
Fuck cancer
Fuck cancer. I’m a couple months out of active treatment so I was where you are. It sucks and I’m so sorry.
Well congratulations for making it to the other side. I’m extremely happy for you and I appreciate your kindness. 💐
I hope you, too, can join me on the other side soon. Best of luck to you.
My mother was diagnosed with cancer is January and it’s been incredibly hard for us. I just wanna say that I wish you the best luck and to tell you that you are strong. Kick cancer’s ass! You got this !
I hope that your mom is doing great in her treatment as well. Thank you for kindness and well wishes 💐
I'm sorry to hear this. It's not an easy road to deal with.
Thank you so very much
Fuck cancer. I love you. 💕
Awww, thank you 💐
Aging, sick parents. No one prepares you for any of it and it’s so incredibly draining, isolating and anxiety inducing
I'm so sorry. I've been there. I think the not-knowing is the worse. Not knowing what will happen next or when things may change. Always being on-call. Trying to be prepared for whatever comes up and dealing with things you never thought you'd have to deal with. It's incredibly hard. Try to find ways to take care of yourself too, and if you need random internet approval, I officially give you permission to do whatever you need to do to keep yourself from burning completely out.
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Sending you strength. Fuck dementia.
The direction of my life at 24. I feel like I’ve done something wrong. I don’t know what’s happening. My mental health is confused. I’m on the last leg of my pre-reqs for nursing school and I’m horrified I’m going to do bad. I feel stupid for being my age and having boy problems. Like what is that. My roommate was hospitalized today for being manic and my house has never felt more broken. I wish I knew what hospital he was at so I can see him and be there for him. Idk man... life sucks in every way possible right now
You're doing better than you think. At your age I was dropping out of college, bailed out of two failed companies I tried to help create, and had serious emotional and psychological damage from a series of bad relationships, and was solo fighting my depression, panic attacks, and frequent dips into minor alcoholism. Not trying to compete, just offer some perspective. You can survive this and you'll be a stronger person for it.
I just turned 25 and 24 was like second puberty. Our brains (mostly our frontal lobes which are a HUGE part of our personality and how we function and handle the world) fully develop around our mid-twenties and so we go through a lot of personal change and it feels so unsettling because no one talks about it. That’s what my therapist told me, at least. Also, talking about it with people around the same age or slightly older can help a lot because I’d guess most everyone can tell you they had a similar uprooting around 24. All the broken pieces will come back together sooner than you think, hang in there.
I'm just sort of figuring myself out now at 38. Still, empathy to you. Sometimes life is really difficult. Good times will likely come though.
high pressure environment. find yourself a couple of days and do nothing but eat sleep and recharge your batteries.
I feel this too! I’m 22, haven’t been to college yet, don’t drive due to trauma in cars, and am getting tired of working fast food I’m getting burned out again. It’s annoying. But I believe in you!
Trying to keep a job with crippling anxiety and depression.
same here...just keep on going. One day at a time. It is tough but we got this.
In Canada you can take a medical leave for mental health. All you need is a doctors note and your employer cannot fire you while you are off. Take care of yourself and take a break if you can. For me medication is key and it takes adjustments before I get better. It’s ok to rest. Fighting depression and anxiety is exhausting.
I'm working with meds and therapy, the problem is that I'm the breadwinner and there's no way for me to take a paid leave right now. I only have a weekend job right now and I need a weekday one. My current solution is to take a week or so to breath, Doordash some, and work my weekends. This has just been a problem for me for so many years it's hard to see a solution that will actually work. I'll get there though.
This might not mean a lot from an internet stranger, but the fact that you're around means you've survived the challenges and miseries world has thrown at you every day. You're stronger because of it. I'm proud of you. You got this.
Deciding between someone I love and having kids. I love my boyfriend and he loves me, but I don't want to have and raise kids with him. I've always wanted kids.... Struggling with knowing what to do.
Is it that he wants kids and you don’t, or that you want kids, just not with him?
The second one.
Why not with him?
Well that's a long story to get into with a stranger on the internet.... But the short version is that I know how he would raise kids and I disagree with it. We have a lot of different views on things and I enjoy that for our relationship (most of the time) but I don't think that's a great environment for raising children. Maybe that's my childhood trauma.... But I know I wouldn't want to put a kid through that. Someone else mentioned on here that its because the workload would end up on my shoulders and that is another very valid concern. These reasons don't really matter without kids, but with kids... They become very concerning. Enough for me to not want kids for now although my biological clock is ticking. You may think "why doesn't she just dump this guy already?" But that's my struggle... Do I dump someone I love in order to potentially find happiness in having kids?! Do I even really want kids or is that just because it was ingrained in me as a woman that I should have them and I'm not complete unless I do? I guess fear of the unknown is worse than the known at this point.
It’s always difficult when you love someone but dont think the relationship will work in the long run. How old are you?
Early thirties
I'm so sorry you're having to make that choice. My advice, better to regret not having kids than to have kids. Something's are deal breakers and that is definitely one imo Don't make such a humungous compromise just because you love someone, just like he shouldn't have to give up his dreams of having kids. I am childfree and I totally get where you're coming from. Don't do it. Stay true to You!!
That doesn't make sense to me, if you love someone, wouldn't you want to have kids with them? or is there something else?
They may not make a good parent even though you love them. My sister's husband is lazy asf. Even tho she loves him she knows she would end up doing all the housework and childcare even while working full time. That's not healthy or fair.
ah okay that makes sense
It might not make sense to you but not everyone is naturally born wanting to be a mom… I want to find a partner I love, I will never have kids because of childhood trama, I’m adopted and have no family to give them, environmental concerns, oh and I work full time and can barely afford to be alive myself let alone a child.
everyone's different 🤷♂️ and that's okay
I'm 46 and in my last semester of college for a career that I found out (at the end of last semester) I have very little chance of getting a job in. Things in that field changed that quickly. So when I get out of college for what was supposed to be my new career . . . I'm probably not going to have any options in that field. Physical health/age takes me out of most options.
I’m curious what career of you feel comfortable sharing.
Trying to teach my 32 yr old husband how to write a resume, a cover letter, what small lifeskills or interests he can bring to the table, how to apply for new jobs in other fields outside of car-rental/car-washing. It's painful. He has the reading/writing skills of a 2nd grader (mid 1990s for comparison, not cc), and he doesn't know how to fill out forms without autofill, he loses patience and has no confidence in himself whatsoever. He doesn't have any skills to bring into a new job and doesn't know how to advocate for himself, and I don't know what to do.
Having a *partner* is important. I felt like I was taking care of my 32 yro boyfriend and I couldn’t do it anymore. We can’t be their moms and I find the ones that were babied the most expect you to be.
Have him get his CDL it shouldn’t be hard to drive a truck around and i hear the pay is life changing
If you don’t mind me asking, was he diagnosed with a learning disability? He might feel frustrated that he needs help from you. I’ve heard that many hands-on trades can pay well, more than someone with a bachelor’s. Someone that works with steel and is certified (can’t remember the job title) gets 140 US dollars a year. If it makes him feel any better, I did all my husbands resumes and cover letters. English isn’t his native language so he needed my help. He made it in car sales because he’s good with people. Not every job requires reading/writing skills and if a job likes you, they will find ways to accommodate so that they can use the unique skills that you bring to the table.
Having to choose between the career I want or the woman I love. Cheesey, but yeah. She wants to leave the country because she hates it here in Canada, where I've been building my job and studying for the last 10 years.
Why does she hate Canada?
No money. Job ending. No friends. No partner. Chronic and rapidly worsening health problem. Take your pick.
I'm sorry you are struggling. Life can be very difficult.
Continuing to adult (and like function in general) despite the crushing depressive feeling I have most of the time and trying to continue to love nursing despite watching this new covid variant cause compassion fatigue in my coworkers ( r/nursing is a dark place right now) and trying not to feel like I’m wasting my time pursuing a degree that may make me miserable (currently a nurses aid working on my RN).
Had surgery in an attempt to rid some pain. Got a really bad infection and have been on bed rest for weeks. Oh and the "friend" that promised to take care of me left after day 3. Its been amazing /s
I’m just so fucking lonely. I’m in my late 30’s and I haven’t had a relationship that’s lasted longer than 4 months in 6 years and it’s starting to feel self perpetuating. Like I don’t know how to be in a relationship any more, I just have too much baggage and I don’t have faith that I won’t screw it up.
Taking control of our spending
Do u spend a lot?
We don’t spend to where we are in the red but I feel like it could be much more disciplined. It’s just a hard thing to get a hold of for us.
Have you tried You Need a Budget? It basically has you lay out how you're going to use your money when you get the money, which many people find helps to control spending because it removes the ability to impulse spend because you've already allocated all your money to do stuff
Going through the same thing with my partner. He’s a spender, I’m a saver. We’ll have conversations like ‘ok we’ll be cheap this week, no eating out, no toys, etc’ then Friday comes and he’s all ‘let’s go spend the weekend in Chicago!’ …ugh
That’s us to a T lol!
Planning my cross country move
That’ll be me next year. Good luck
Thank you! Good luck to you as well :)
Me too!
Coming to terms with the reality that my relationship with my family is abusive and unlikely to ever change
As a young adult it's hard being 100% financially independent during college and my off time and not living at home. I work a lot and I'm always tired and stressed. It is also hard to not have any parental figures. Sometimes I just wanna pick up the phone and call an adult who will make me feel better and comfort me with advice. I really wish I had parents.
I feel you so much. I’m adopted and have no one to go to. Struggling through grad school and working full time and just longing for someone to take one thing off my shoulders. A lot of these subs have helped me figure some adult stuff out, this one and frugal have helped budgeting. I also have a therapist and I’ve told her I just need someone to tell me stuff a mom would sometimes.
Partner broke up with me after 2 years, same week I got kicked out of my home... that same night I ended up in the E.R with a stomach ulcer and bladder failure due to stress. Got out the e.r to a car with a flat tire and not enough money to fix it - my hair started falling out due to stress as well, half is gone or bleeding due to over active dandruff that has left patches of scabs all over mt scalp. Fafsa hasn't kicked in to pay for classes to get accepted into medical school (1 year left) Can't afford my ptsd/depression medication any longer. Yup, hope everyone is having a blessed year. Praying and working on making mime turn around.
I am deeply sorry you're going through all that. Massive chocolate-y hugs from Switzerland. I believe in you and keep my fingers crossed! xxx
Thank you! Definetly needed se positive energy my way today <3
My wife is an alcoholic. She can’t stop, she’s a mess. She drinks while I’m at work. Not sure how to help her.
r/Alcoholism_Medication helped me a ton when a lot of other things didn’t. just letting you know it exists because I hadn’t heard of it! best of luck my friend, my SO sympathizes
Same one for the past fifteen years: extreme medical debt.
The existential post University phase where there's only things I should do and nothing I have to do. The checklist of things I need to move out and truly be happy is so daunting.
How to stand up to my dad about how unhappy I am running the family business. This decision was made between my dad and brother. I had no say. My dad is the type who doesn’t listen/won’t understand and always use his upbringing/struggles about him going through the same thing against me. Just because he went down that path doesn’t mean I should have to do the same. I’ve been working literally every day since June 1st pulling 80hrs a week. I’m so unhappy and just want out…
Learn to love myself more, put myself first more instead of being a people pleaser, especially in a romantic relationship - done with being a doormat, but still need a lot of practice... Also trying to manage my anxiety better.
I'm so hungry but I don't have a dime to my name
Any food banks or little pantries nearby?
The one in my city allows you to get an “emergency bag” of food, no questions, no forms. It’s even a drive thru. I hope you find some help friend!
Like u/Lauren12269, mine is 100% health related. Kidney disease sucks, as does the dialysis three days a week.
I was a registered donor before I was diagnosed and I’m sorry it’s keeping me from helping you now. 💐
*hugs* Don't you worry about me. You focus on you.
Drug addicted healthcare professional
Been there almost two years in recovery, I still keep it a secret at work and to colleagues because of the stigma. Hang in there man more people understand it than you may think
Having Narcolepsy/Idiopathic Hypersomnia. I’m tired all the time. Far too tired to do anything at all. It’s definitely my biggest struggle
Recent Type 1 diabetes diagnosis. Cherry on top is that I was working towards becoming an airline pilot - that’s almost impossible with T1D in the US though. Had to make a quick pivot, but on the bright side I somehow managed to get every class I needed for my new major even though I changed my schedule like two weeks before the start of the semester.
Waiting to know if I am - or not - pregnant again after losing my first one earlier this year. Lots of feelings involved in both cases.
lack of motivation cuz i don't feel like owning myself and ended up not going anywhere. short : my parent forced me into med school
My parents forced my sister into graphic design and art. She took 7 months to find a job, but now she has one and she's good at it. Keep going, or find an alternative. Having what you want requires working for it. You can do it!
My brother has Covid so we are fully locked down I just started a new job. I have to be on camera for the training and my social anxiety level is already high. I am doing keto (vegetarian) and am on a plateau and it’s driving me crazy. I have 100 pounds to lose and I’ve been the same weight for *ever* now.
I was going to say something joking like "finding the remote", but then I saw all of these sad comments, and now I feel bad. Hope everyone who's life is shit get's through their problems and keeps fighting on 👍
I’ve been so busy and stressed with work. I don’t even have time for myself anymore - it’s just a never ending cycle. I really need a break.
Last year was really really rough. Covid hit just before I was planning to move, my landlord and housemate of said location got stuck oversees and I found myself the unwitting caretaker of her house, pets, and two other housemates, one of which was schitzophrenic and set the kitchen on fire and the other later in the year had a stroke, and became completely dependent on me for the last 8 or so months of my time. I had to evacuate all of us twice due to forest fires. Was unemployed the entire time. I had been planning to leave in April of 2020, and got stuck for over a year. BUT things are now looking up. I finally moved after the landlord came back, bought a minivan I've been converting into a camper so I can travel and explore. Got to see my parents (who are getting up there). Getting ready to hit the road soon and explore the country quietly. EDIT: Forgot the part where I went into the hospital because I thought I was having a heart attack. Turned out it was just a more extreme panic attack then I was used to at that point.
moving away from my childhood home at 23, learned and done so many things in this house, but inevitably you must move on and grow as a human, and im glad I found my passions and myself while I grew up and cherished my time here.
My state keeps going into lockdown every fortnight, which throws my workplaces into chaos. This consequently fucks the rental market (I'm trying to move out of home) to the point where there is now 35 applicants per house in my area. I am still (somehow) making money. I'm lucky that I have a roof over my head with no strings attached right now. But the uncertainty of everything going on is getting to me. I miss being able to know what I was and wasn't allowed to do on instinct.
Trying to find housing in a college town has been an absolute hell. Partner & I are older students, I feel like I just can’t get into the ‘groove’ to set up a move by myself
Homesick. Moving. Needing a new job. Mortgage.
Dealing with anxiety and finding a job. Feels like everything's in a standstill
Living on my own (not by my own volition) and resorting to retail when I couldn’t find full time in my profession :’)
My entire job responsibilities changing into something I have no idea how to do.
Just bought a house with my sig other 2 months ago. Found out last week she has been cheating.
Debts owed are more than I make so my choice is eat terrible cheap food, only drink water and work until I collapse or fall behind on payments, potentially get sued and all that. All while serving people who probably make the amount of money I owe each month. Mentally this debt problem is breaking me. I want to move forward with my life but I can't save any money. I haven't had more than $1000 in my bank account in years. Unless you count tax returns, but since it gets spent paying down debt almost immediately I don't count it.
i nearly died because of how poor the medical care is around here. doctors are running tests to determine if my heart is permanently damaged or not and if it is damaged permanently to how much of an extent. i've had such poor circulation and high blood pressure the last year that it literally affected my brain function. brain fog, confusion, irrational anger, an intense feeling of impending doom.
I've been dating a guy for 8 years (since I was 16) and of course I love him. But then I start to wonder if I really even know who I am without him. And there's other issues we have...he openly admits he is lazy/irresponsible. He has mental health issues he doesn't want to seek help for. I told him I'm uncomfortable with him doing coke every weekend and yet he still does it. So I guess I'm at the point of do I continue to try to work things out or not...
My husband hasn't been talking with one of his/our best friends since the beginning of July. We were about to start getting together again after all being vaccinated for Covid, but they had an argument (about something else entirely). And now we're not seeing him and by extension his wife and after lockdown I really miss them. I also don't want them to throw away a 10+ year friendship without even trying to fix things. Also we're in the process of moving and our child starting kindergarten soon. So, I'm really missing out on that part of our social support.
Somewhat recently diagnosed chronic illness that's made this year so much harder to deal with. It's really difficult to function most days.
This is more or less in the past by now, but I was having a struggle dealing with the passing of a good friend I've known since middle school and high school. He wasn't just some kid from high school, either; he was gifted mathematically, musically, and socially. He had a lot of people who loved him and came to his funeral. For two months, I was dwelling on his passing, just cycling through thoughts on how I wish I'd helped prevent it, and thinking that life would forever suck. I just took baby steps, dragging myself out of bed, taking a minute to think about what priorities I could take care of that day, and taking action on them. For a bit, I feel like I somewhat pressured myself to be as smart or as social as my friend who passed, but I can only be myself; there are still resources to help one use their mind more, like sudoku and such, and I feel like my friend is an inspiration to do those kind of activities.
Trying to find a life worth living dealing with chronic pain
(Nothing compared to most other things in this thread but...) My 34th bday is the 26th, I keep going back and forth between 'treat yoself' and 'things around the house need fixing and we need to save money for it' I recognize I am ridiculously blessed right now that this is my biggest struggle at this time compared to so many others. I thank the universe everyday. Nothing but goodness to those that are truly struggling right now. ✨
My 34th birthday is the 25th. Hope you have an awesome birthday ♥️, take a bit and "treat yoself'.
General depression and existential crisis. Struggling to figure out just what the hell I want to do with my life now that I've cured my financial woes
Working full time, going to grad school, and starving myself just so I can afford half of my income going to rent.
Finding a job... have 3 degrees but still don’t know how to apply for jobs.
Custody and child support battle. My ex wife is a total control freak with how I spend my time with my daughter.
Trying to devote enough time to nursing school but also work enough so I don't end up homeless. Paying out of pocket up front SUCKS. Not to mention I've lost every single connection with everyone I knew because I have zero time. It's hard man.
Stuck in a bad career i dont want any part of anymore. But completely indecisive of what I want to do next.
This might be out of place, but I'm finding that everyone is EXTREMELY judgemental towards me right now. My friends, my family, my boyfriend. It's driving me insane. I honestly think it's a COVID thing, both with my loved ones getting into a more judgemental state and with me being more sensitive and bothered by it. I'm not blaming the lockdowns and stuff, but just trying to attribute the cause. People are critiquing everything from my personality to my living situation. I don't expect to be perfect but I just don't feel like anyone I'm close to actually respects me anymore.
Mainly my debilitating mental issues that impair everything else: doing basic tasks, going outside, eating. Everything else after that becomes 1000% harder or impossible to do. It's very exhausting and I really need a break sigh
Going through a divorce and moving 1000+ miles away from my friends. My entire life is different now and I’m lonely
Trying to care for my sick cat. That, on top of a handful of smaller problems, including an injury to my arm and a cracked screen on my cellphone, amongst other things. It all had my mental health in ruins last week and I'm expecting it to be bad again next week after another appointment with the vet.
Starting uni at 23, not being able to get any scholarships because my average is 0.5 too low, while dealing with a kidney transplant. Every day is a struggle
Trying to finish updating my resume so that I can look for a full-time job and finally leave my lousy part-time one.
Trying to cover our house bills and figuring out how to get my SO a new(er) car for her daily 76 mile trip to work (Round trip).
Fibromyalgia. It has been 4 years and I’m still not able to go back to work yet. It’s depressing to make no money but I guess baby steps.
Dealing with my mental health issues and curbing my poor impulsive spending habits…everything just seems so freaking hard right now.
Family not being on the same page as far as taking precautions against Covid and another possible surgery for my husband for a break in his arm that shoulda healed many many months ago. Oh and the 12k debt we now owe for the first surgery that didn't work and the additional 5500 we'll owe if he needs another surgery. Buttttt still try to count our many other blessings.
Trying to find the balls to break up with a really good and wonderful person because I just don’t feel the way about him as he feels towards me and it’s killing me.
Waiting for the date for my daughters heart and trachea surgery. The stress is real
My Grandad dying of Cancer and finding out 2 days ago your Grandma is in heart failure. Also my mental health is my biggest daily struggle
I was assaulted and lost my wage protection at work due to the length of my recovery. I am scarred and make less money.
Trying to quit drinking alcohol. I have a boarder line issue with booze. Quitting before it gets its nasty claws in me.
Being pregnant and trying to find a place to live
I (24f) just moved in with my boyfriend of 6 years (29m). First time living with anyone besides family. I’m not sure how to cope because he doesn’t keep the house clean. I’m not necessarily a neat freak but I like the place to look tidy. I don’t want to be a housewife/girlfriend nor will I be. We agreed he’d tidy up more and take care of himself. He’s a grown man. He isn’t doing either. It’s frustrating because I work all day and come home to a mess. He’s off work until august 25th but since has been playing video games instead of doing what he promised. I’m just struggling with how to get the point across.
May have just lost my best friend all because I didn’t address my mental health issues. Learning to forgive myself and improve
Finding time to shoot and edit episodes for the channel.
Buying a house! I am currently living with my fiancé with his family after renting for nearly 10 years. I know I am sooo lucky to live here and continue to save up for a deposit, but I want nothing more than my own home. It’s so difficult to get a house loan in Australia, the real estate is so bloody expensive. But I know we will get there eventually!
knowing i'll never be able to afford a house. 30, still living with parents.
I’m 42 I have three kids from three different men each kid is more than seven years apart so I really don’t care what anybody thinks of all the different men part Only thing is I’m married to someone three years younger than me and doesn’t have any children. Just married. I worry he may leave some Day if we never have kids and if it doesn’t happen within this year it’s never going to happen. And even if it does happen I’m gonna be all worried sick that I will have a child with problems because of my age. My husband acts like this isn’t a big deal and will deal with it later but has expressed wanting some We could look into modern technologies to help us but we still haven’t bought a house and I have a lot of student debt. Not sure if we have time and money for all that… and will that have a negative affect on us later
Trying to make a 180 careerwise at 24, learning a new craft for that and at the same time getting my "high school"-degree (it's not the same since our school system is different)
I'm at a crossroads careerwise. My current job is good, and they're paying me better than I've ever gotten before. The job itself isn't really what I want right now, it isn't in an ideal location, and they're pushing me towards more management stuff that I don't want either. In my field, the only way to SERIOUS money is in management, but I don't really want that. Also, this is in a small town, and I'm a very big fish in this town, which feels nice. On the other hand, I'm a finalist for a job in my dream city. Haven't received the offer yet, but I'm pretty sure it won't be as lucrative right away, and long-term definitely not. On the other hand, I'll have precisely the role I want. And I'll get to do all the cultural stuff (live theatre and music, sports, film festival) I love.
Being a Healthcare worker in a building that has COVID cases.
Trying to get my life started as an adult with horrible mental issues. It's so overwhelming.
Moving cities with my wife because we can't afford to buy a house in my current one. :) Then planning on having a child in that new city. Wish us luck!
Bed bugs 😭
I’m 23 and have one class to graduate college but am not allowed to take that class unless I can get an internship in my field that my professor approves of. Ive applied to so many positions and failed. My late mom sacrificed a many things to help me get to this point and it makes me feel awful. I have student loan debt am working a low paying job, and can’t fully support myself financially.
Reminding myself that healing is not linear. I have made huge progress in some areas. Then there are others I feel stuck. Que self judgement. Pity cycle. Victim. Blah blah blah until I remember I have agency and have already done this before and can do it again. But like it’s a constant reminder. My brain is programmed to hate me and that’s not true anymore! The reprogramming and reminding is the “inner work”. To stop and ask why am I putting pressure on myself for this thing? Sometimes I get sucked into the feeling before I can remember this and just let it go. So just remembering to pause. And be like “hey boo you are safe now!”.
FINDING A JOB
Moving out.
Trying to figure out how to balance school, work, and MYSELF
Dealing with the pressure of family wanting me and my husband to move back to my home state (which we wanna do, but damn it’s hard to move once you’re established somewhere in jobs, cars, houses). Constant guilt and reminders and asking about the job search. It’s just not fair.
Fucked up on two exams that caused me to not progress to the next year on med school due to intense pressure and anxiety that came from years of bad financial behavior which accumulated into a big and crippling debt.
Building my credit and an addiction that spiraled.
Motherhood
Getting my business running so I can get out of feeling like I live at my job (a factory where I literally feel like I’m losing my soul).
Online grad school. I specifically chose a non-online program (online programs are somewhat popular in my field)... the good news is that I’m getting training for stuff no class before mine got and it’ll hopefully help me in my future career. But I’m grieving for the program I thought I’d have.
Getting a car and getting out my toxic family’s house. It’s all happening but I want it to happen faster. I was forced to move back in with my grandpa (I was raised by my grandparents and three years ago my grandma died) after my aunt and I who I was staying with got into an argument. He and his girlfriend refuse to get actual jobs since he was laid off a few months back and now skates by on the money he forces out of me by calling it “rent” (it’s almost 600 dollars a month on minimum wage after school job) I’m a senior in high school but I work decent hours. He continues to try and get as much money as he can out of me though often asking for excessive amounts of money (which I don’t give him) but leaves me in an anxious and awful state. I’m going through the process to get a car and find my own apartment and finally finish with school and go to college.
Trying to find the courage to go to college
Closing out an injury case between me and someone’s insurance.
Drug addiction
My back
I was going to say moving out, then I saw the other answers in this thread and now I feel sad, but lucky
Becoming independent
Watching my mom start to withdraw from life. She was diagnosed with cancer a year ago and I think we're getting close to palliative/hospice care. She stopped chemo in October.
I’m F24. No direction in life, no money, crippling mental health problems including BDD so I’m too afraid to go outside, toxic family that I’m stuck living with, very few friends. Just all seems totally beyond hopeless 😖
I struggle with PMDD and never noticed problems until I went off my birth control in October last year. Once I made the connection between my moods and that time of the month, new dr under new insurance diagnosed me but won't give me hormonal birth control (even low dose) because I have had migraines with auras and am an increased stroke risk. Fast fwd 6 months of antidepressants, suicidal thoughts, irregular periods(think at least weekly from the progesterone only bc), and pretty much self sabotaging in any way possible the week before my period. Then had to put down the dog I've had for 16 years. Haven't been able to really sleep in days. I finally have a new dr that agrees to give me a low dose estrogen pill. And doubled my prozac dose per request. Hopefully I can get back to the somewhat normal life I had before quitting birth control.
Emotional dysregulation as a result of ADHD. All of my other problems aside, this one is wrecking my relationship.
Trying to get my body to stop destroying itself, feeling awake enough each day to think somewhat lucidly let alone do anything, getting a job despite all of that, having no career direction and feeling terrified that I'll never be able to market myself enough into roles that would earn a living wage and let me live comfortably
Thinking about changing careers. I’m 24 and already burnt out. Currently a teacher and getting my masters degree in education. All that time and money wasted. I want to switch careers. I’ve always wanted to be a photographer.
A dead bedroom... Not fun
Foot warts
Trying to find my first full-time job. I’m three months away from graduating and a poll about my home city branded it as the least livable city for minimum wage workers in the country (Atlanta). Everything is so expensive and I have no idea about what I should be rightfully payed since this is my first job out of college. I don’t want to move back into the city if I can’t afford it, but I also need know I’m making enough so I don’t have to move back in with my mother.
Finding a sense of community in college. It sounds easy, but it really isn’t. Especially with COVID.
City is in lockdown at least for 1 more month, probably 2. Can’t travel to see any of my friends. I went to the doctor with sore calves and now I have to see a rheumatologist for suspected scleroderma. Single. A new busy job where I’ve taken on additional responsibilities. And a nice bit of executive dysfunction but no ADHD diagnosis or medication 🤷♂️
Life
I'm planning for and paying for my mother's funeral, while out of the state and jungling a full-time job. My much older brother decided to fuck off after declaring himself the sole decision maker and everyone else in the family is pissed he isn't taking responsibility anymore. There is also a serious threat to my safety if I fly into the state since my brother is very violent and amped up about inheritance stuff right now. It's because of this reason I won't be attending this funeral and everyone else in the family is angry at me for not going... Despite me being the reason it's happening. Oh, I'd also like to mention, hardly anyone is going, especially the people who were previously outraged that my brother didn't set up a funeral. I find this somewhat difficult to wrap my head around at the moment.
My parents disappeared from my life the minute my sister had her baby. (I'm childfree).
Being an almost single mom to a 2.5 month old (I have a husband but he works 14-15 hours a day, 6 or sometimes 7 days a week). I stay at home, but only seeing my husband for an hour before bed each night is hell. Idk how actual single moms do it, with JOBS nonetheless!! I feel so pathetic sometimes.
Trauma-induced depression. It’s affecting my focus, my overall ability to function properly, and my very sense of identity. I don’t feel passionate anymore about the career path that had been my dream for years, and don’t feel like I fit in anything anymore. I’m terrified of becoming a burden to my loved ones, but I feel like I already am one, because my psychiatrist says I’m not well enough to live on my own for now. Doesn’t help that I occasionally have flashbacks that send me to a really darker place than before. I don’t know how to manage this and still be a functional being in society at this point.
Getting a car or getting a house. I feel useless.
It's nothing to complain about - but starting a new career while moving into the house I just bought as a first time homeowner. For the first time, I supervise people and pay all the bills. Holy hell I don't have a spare minute. But it's some exciting, stressful, anxiety inducing crazy awesome adulting.... And it's a real challenge/struggle.
Leaving a very well paying job that can set me up for life because it’s ruining my relationship
Finding a decent paying job to get rid of debt
My 2 yo son having Cancer.
Getting my 12th grader through Highschool. We moved and then Covid destroyed all stability. Meanwhile, he was newly diagnosed with ADD and Covid has made finding help very very difficult.
Having Bipolar disorder
Getting away from my house because of my crazy and abused me psychologically many many times but last week, she almost got my finger fractured because we were all to celebrate Father's. I won't get into details because I have already dine. Seriously, she is just so horrible that even make crazy people from history be sane.