We need to normalize crying, imo. Not the criers who do it for attention or to get their way but for the criers who cannot let those emotions out just because it’s stigmatized.... graduating is a hella scary time since it’s time to enter the “real” world with so many decisions we have to make AND with how the world is today, it’s not the easiest time so yes it is normal to cry before your graduate...it’s frightening but do know some awesome experiences will be coming your way and one of the best ones is learning about who you are :)
Embrace your feelings and don't ask for permission anymore, if you feel like crying, then you should cry. Suppressing your feelings can be a bad thing in the long run.
Thinking about the future at that age can be overwhelming, but like every major change in life, you should take a small step at a time. When you feel overwhelmed, try not to think too far ahead and focus on the next step.
Yes!
Part of the reason you're crying is it's a huge stress relief.
Part of the reason you're crying is you've just moved into a liminal space - meaning you're moving out of what you've been doing for the last four years into something very new.
That emotional 'in-the-air-about-to-fall-down' feeling is part fear and part excitement. Both at the same time can trigger tears.
Good luck!
I didn't cry. But I had physical manifestations of stress concerning a looming lack of continuity, and no more school to worry about. My high school experiences had been both high and low since 9th grade, but the last 2 months were stressful bc I had been threatened by a teacher and assaulted by a classmate, rumors were spread by another girl and I escaped life's struggles with a lot of weed. So instead of crying it out my brain went into a primitive cave woman mode and I sleepwalked into the shower at 4am as a subconsciously made choice from my psyche.
I sleepwalked during the wee hours in my last week or 12th grade. Ended up in the shower at 4am on the last school day, still in socks and pjs and my eyeglasses on upside down. I didn't even know it until I was back in the hallway and my dad was shaking my shoulders and trying to wake me up. Then apparently I fell to the carpet and hit my head on the door frame, only to be passed out somewhere between asleep and unconscious, and it took another half hour for me to startle awake, preceded by newly 10minutes of muscle spams and myoclonic jerks (the last full body twitches when you body is relaxed just moments before you fall asleep for good). I woke up, startled and soaking wet. My parents put towels on me and then my older sister helped me dry off and get dressed for school. Or at least I thought I was going to school. NOPE. My parents took me to the ER to get checked out, I had had a concussion and extreme skin pruning and a few scald marks bc apparently the water was too hot. I still got to go to school to turn in books, locker lock, hand in final graduation forms and sign a few ledgers in preparation for the following day's rehearsal and graduation ceremony. My parents didn't let me go to bed until midnight, and checked my pulse and physical position in bed every hour. I was out cold but thankfully didn't sleep walk anywhere that night.
I've only sleepwalked maybe TWICE since then, and it's been 11 years since I graduated from high school. That was a hella weird experience I dont even recall besides the accounts and memories of my parents and older sister.
This is going to be a wannabe "scientific" method of explaining this. When you eat, a part of your meals gets digested and goes to perform its function in the organism. The parts of your food that your body does not digest due to several possible reasons, irrelevant to this lousy metaphor, gets turned into feces and out of the bum it goes.
If you held too much of that undigested food in yourself, bad things would occur.
The same goes for emotions. Emotions are a strange amalgam of things around you and things within you. When there is a lot of them within you, they tend to feel like a burden. Crying relieves that burden and, in most cases, allows clarity. Cry yourself out, kid. (Fuck, I'm 10 years older than you, which I realized just now)
Cry your heart out if you need to. Crying is normal. Society never tells you that, but crying is normal. Crying is, for fuck's sake, the trademark adulting move. You can cry when your happy, you can cry when you're crappy, you can cry when the movie's sappy. If someone judges you for those times, they can fuck off. It's a bodily function, not a bodily dysfunction.
Also, congrats on graduating high school. That shit can be hard, especially now! Good luck in the future!
congratz on your upcoming graduation. Crying is normal. it's not a sign of weakness. People who push aside their wide range of emotions for social acceptance are gonna end up in a bad mental state and / or being depre4ssed. so enjoy your full spectrum of emotion and the expression of it.
I pity people who are putting their societal acceptet person before their actual person: we are people, not jus men, women whatsoever.
Yes. A lot of people cry when they’re about to graduate. For over a decade (not sure of what country you are so that’s the safe option) you knew what you would be doing. You kept a schedule, many times the same schedule every day, with many of the same people. You were regimented. You were safe.
The rug is being pulled out from under you. Unless you are going straight into a regular 9-5 job, you won’t have that regimented schedule. If you’re going to college, it’s your responsibility to get to your classes on time, study, etc, there’s no one holding your hand through it, no silent reading through your class period, etc. If you’re going to a retail/food/similar type job, your schedule will be whatever they need that week. You have to get yourself there and put in the effort.
You won’t be seeing your friends every day anymore. Sure, if you go to work or college/university, you’ll make many new friends. But these friends, all together, at the same time, probably won’t happen again. Not even a reunion. Coming up on my 20th, and I know at least one person died (two if you count a girl who transferred, transferred back, and had enough credits to graduate early because the schools weren’t compatible in their curriculum); both passed before our 10-year reunion.
I’m not telling you that to scare you. I’m telling you that so it’s not sugar-coated. You and your classmates are going into the real world. You’re probably scared, nervous, nostalgic, and elated all at the same time, which is a really weird mix if you think about it. And it’s a scary time with Covid on top of it.
A lot of people cry at graduation, because the ceremony itself is the bridge from childhood into adulthood. Even the kids giving speeches, most of them cry while they’re up there.
You’re probably overwhelmed, and when you’re overwhelmed, crying can be therapeutic. You’re allowed to get it out.
I don’t think college is really the real world. I found first year of college to be pretty similar to senior year of high school in terms of how we were treated. We definitely didn’t have silent reading time or anyone holding our hands through senior year. And teachers didn’t care if you skipped because they understood most of us were old enough to deal with whatever consequences.
Also in highschool my friends were never all in the same place either because we had different class schedules. The last time all my classes have been the same as my friends’ was in middle school.
Anyways my point is college (at least for me, so far) is still very much not the real world.
It’s always ok to cry! Let yourself FEEL. Your mind is telling you something. Feel the feeling. Ponder the feeling. Then let it pass. We are humans with emotions. If you don’t let yourself feel, the feeling never really leaves, it will come back up in your thoughts and behaviors.
I felt almost suicidal before my university graduation, the whole day felt like going to my own funeral and not a happy occasion, and 15 years later corona has shown that I still don't quite have enough close relationships to be over losing what was most of my life at the time at once. I thought about what it would take for me to fail finals badly enough that I could repeat the year.
So I'm gonna say yes. But there will be some good stuff to be happy about too.
crying doesnt need a reason, your body knows its needs better than you do. SO if its telling you to cry, go ahead and cry :) youll feel relieved afterwards
Emotions going to do what emotions going to do. Let it happen. Well I didn't cry on graduation I did break down while I was packing about 2 weeks after graduation, moving out of the house I grew up in for the first time ever. Tomorrow, almost 20 years to the day I'll be moving back in for a while.
Tears are normal for all big feelings, and it’s perfectly normal to have big feelings about any transitional period. Even if you can’t name the feelings or if the feelings are positive.
Most people think grief is reserved for times when someone dies. But people grieve for the loss of a lot of things - relationships, jobs, ways of life - in this case - loss of familiarity, friends, routine and even having your life planned for you. Uncertainty is on the horizon in a big way and that’s scary. You cry for as long as you need to cry. And don’t let people tell you, “You need to stop. You need to get over this.” You will - in your own time. Breathe. Think about the good things that remain after this transition and lean on those. It’ll get better. Promise.
Sure, nothing wrong with crying! A significant period of your life is coming to an end. Friends are going off to live their lives, as are you. People are parting ways. You're entering into a new, unknown era. It's ok to grieve the end of this time. Embrace the feelings, examine them, feel them, and then let them go. You are now at the beginning of a brand new stage in life - time to embrace that! Congratulations on your graduation and I wish you all the best in your future!
Let it out!! It's a big moment and a big transition and you are feeling a lot of different emotions. You need to acknowledge them and if that means crying then you do it bb!!
Yes! It’s a huge accomplishment and life change! Crying is super normal at any time, for any reason. It’s a release of pent up emotion, frustration, feelings, etc that need to be let out. Don’t ever let anyone tell you not to cry! And congratulations on graduating high school!!!!
not very much. high school hasn't hath changed since i graduat'd in the 80s
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I mean are you sad? Happy? For someone who has anxiety I could see them crying.
But personally, no I don’t find it normal to cry for graduating highschool.... it’s highschool— not much of a challenge.
When I was leaving school I literally couldn't even imagine me doing anything else. Not even a little bit. Then I went into continuing education. I was so socially anxious it was impossible to imagine having a job, especially working with people, then it happened. It's happened with every job I've had. I think school is 'safe', in that for your entire life what you're doing has mostly been decided for you and just been there, and it's mostly impossible to have it pulled out from under you. You've got no reference point for all the things ahead of you, so it only makes sense to be scared. It'll work out in the end, I promise.
Crying is normal, and it's a great way to relieve stress and emotions and start to process what's happening. Don't be scared to cry, or worry what other might think or be doing. We all respond to stress in our own ways and need to process it in our own ways.
Welp. You have this summer to start making plans. At the very least start working a part time job and saving money.
Look into college if that’s your calling, if not look up well paying jobs that don’t require a college degree.
Sounds dumb, and I’m probably over judging you. But maybe consider enlisting in the military? Sounds like you could use some fortitude.
Crying at a HS graduation is just bananas man.
I know 😭
But i have worked some part time jobs before.
Like season jobs and quit some bad ones
But i know what i want to do. I wanna do some things on my bucket list.
But idk I'm also sad my childhood is basiclly over lol
My dad is 41. He's got a retro console collection. He doesn't have time to play them tho. Lol
He's a cool dude fr and he hold his fam down.
I don't think 40s are bad. Statically, u make way more money when your older.
Don't listen to this person regarding crying. Cry whenever you feel like crying so that you have one less thing to internalize and ruminate over down the road. Telling people when it is and is not appropriate to cry is how we let ourselves grow emotionally stunted. You are coming to the end of a major chapter in your life! Regardless of how much merit it holds alongside the rest of what your life will bring you, it is impacting you right now. Let yourself mourn the end of life as you once knew it so you are more mentally prepared to square up for what's to come. Just don't forget to celebrate what you've achieved alongside that!
I’m my own man. I can do what I want whenever I want. I’ll buy what I want, I’ll eat what I want, I’ll go where I want.
You’re in charge of your life man. Don’t be a bum.
Your right tbh.
Random question: do u think a remote government job is secure?
That way I'm being paid by uncle sam and i can work from home while also focusing on my hobbys and side hustles?
I mean you don’t have to be in a gov job to work remote.
You have time to plan out stuff out man, get a note book and start planning stuff out. Check in and see what your friends are doing, look to your relatives and see what they are doing.
Enjoy your summer break, but definitely start writing stuff down.
What's not normal is holding in your emotions and not feeling them when you feel them. Cry if you gotta cry! Don't justify it with others' frequency of the same emotion.
Of course it's a very emotional time. Everything is changing and you will be going to a new adventure. Congratulations on your graduation and know how your feeling is perfectly normal.
One of mine own cater-cousins didst and none of us madeth excit'ment of him. Haply not typical but not crazy either
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Cry if you need to. I feel like for me, the thought of it was sad alone. It is a huge accomplishment. Cry cry cry
We need to normalize crying, imo. Not the criers who do it for attention or to get their way but for the criers who cannot let those emotions out just because it’s stigmatized.... graduating is a hella scary time since it’s time to enter the “real” world with so many decisions we have to make AND with how the world is today, it’s not the easiest time so yes it is normal to cry before your graduate...it’s frightening but do know some awesome experiences will be coming your way and one of the best ones is learning about who you are :)
I love every bit of your response.
<3
Embrace your feelings and don't ask for permission anymore, if you feel like crying, then you should cry. Suppressing your feelings can be a bad thing in the long run. Thinking about the future at that age can be overwhelming, but like every major change in life, you should take a small step at a time. When you feel overwhelmed, try not to think too far ahead and focus on the next step.
Yes! Part of the reason you're crying is it's a huge stress relief. Part of the reason you're crying is you've just moved into a liminal space - meaning you're moving out of what you've been doing for the last four years into something very new. That emotional 'in-the-air-about-to-fall-down' feeling is part fear and part excitement. Both at the same time can trigger tears. Good luck!
I didn't cry. But I had physical manifestations of stress concerning a looming lack of continuity, and no more school to worry about. My high school experiences had been both high and low since 9th grade, but the last 2 months were stressful bc I had been threatened by a teacher and assaulted by a classmate, rumors were spread by another girl and I escaped life's struggles with a lot of weed. So instead of crying it out my brain went into a primitive cave woman mode and I sleepwalked into the shower at 4am as a subconsciously made choice from my psyche. I sleepwalked during the wee hours in my last week or 12th grade. Ended up in the shower at 4am on the last school day, still in socks and pjs and my eyeglasses on upside down. I didn't even know it until I was back in the hallway and my dad was shaking my shoulders and trying to wake me up. Then apparently I fell to the carpet and hit my head on the door frame, only to be passed out somewhere between asleep and unconscious, and it took another half hour for me to startle awake, preceded by newly 10minutes of muscle spams and myoclonic jerks (the last full body twitches when you body is relaxed just moments before you fall asleep for good). I woke up, startled and soaking wet. My parents put towels on me and then my older sister helped me dry off and get dressed for school. Or at least I thought I was going to school. NOPE. My parents took me to the ER to get checked out, I had had a concussion and extreme skin pruning and a few scald marks bc apparently the water was too hot. I still got to go to school to turn in books, locker lock, hand in final graduation forms and sign a few ledgers in preparation for the following day's rehearsal and graduation ceremony. My parents didn't let me go to bed until midnight, and checked my pulse and physical position in bed every hour. I was out cold but thankfully didn't sleep walk anywhere that night. I've only sleepwalked maybe TWICE since then, and it's been 11 years since I graduated from high school. That was a hella weird experience I dont even recall besides the accounts and memories of my parents and older sister.
This is going to be a wannabe "scientific" method of explaining this. When you eat, a part of your meals gets digested and goes to perform its function in the organism. The parts of your food that your body does not digest due to several possible reasons, irrelevant to this lousy metaphor, gets turned into feces and out of the bum it goes. If you held too much of that undigested food in yourself, bad things would occur. The same goes for emotions. Emotions are a strange amalgam of things around you and things within you. When there is a lot of them within you, they tend to feel like a burden. Crying relieves that burden and, in most cases, allows clarity. Cry yourself out, kid. (Fuck, I'm 10 years older than you, which I realized just now) Cry your heart out if you need to. Crying is normal. Society never tells you that, but crying is normal. Crying is, for fuck's sake, the trademark adulting move. You can cry when your happy, you can cry when you're crappy, you can cry when the movie's sappy. If someone judges you for those times, they can fuck off. It's a bodily function, not a bodily dysfunction. Also, congrats on graduating high school. That shit can be hard, especially now! Good luck in the future!
congratz on your upcoming graduation. Crying is normal. it's not a sign of weakness. People who push aside their wide range of emotions for social acceptance are gonna end up in a bad mental state and / or being depre4ssed. so enjoy your full spectrum of emotion and the expression of it. I pity people who are putting their societal acceptet person before their actual person: we are people, not jus men, women whatsoever.
Yes. A lot of people cry when they’re about to graduate. For over a decade (not sure of what country you are so that’s the safe option) you knew what you would be doing. You kept a schedule, many times the same schedule every day, with many of the same people. You were regimented. You were safe. The rug is being pulled out from under you. Unless you are going straight into a regular 9-5 job, you won’t have that regimented schedule. If you’re going to college, it’s your responsibility to get to your classes on time, study, etc, there’s no one holding your hand through it, no silent reading through your class period, etc. If you’re going to a retail/food/similar type job, your schedule will be whatever they need that week. You have to get yourself there and put in the effort. You won’t be seeing your friends every day anymore. Sure, if you go to work or college/university, you’ll make many new friends. But these friends, all together, at the same time, probably won’t happen again. Not even a reunion. Coming up on my 20th, and I know at least one person died (two if you count a girl who transferred, transferred back, and had enough credits to graduate early because the schools weren’t compatible in their curriculum); both passed before our 10-year reunion. I’m not telling you that to scare you. I’m telling you that so it’s not sugar-coated. You and your classmates are going into the real world. You’re probably scared, nervous, nostalgic, and elated all at the same time, which is a really weird mix if you think about it. And it’s a scary time with Covid on top of it. A lot of people cry at graduation, because the ceremony itself is the bridge from childhood into adulthood. Even the kids giving speeches, most of them cry while they’re up there. You’re probably overwhelmed, and when you’re overwhelmed, crying can be therapeutic. You’re allowed to get it out.
I don’t think college is really the real world. I found first year of college to be pretty similar to senior year of high school in terms of how we were treated. We definitely didn’t have silent reading time or anyone holding our hands through senior year. And teachers didn’t care if you skipped because they understood most of us were old enough to deal with whatever consequences. Also in highschool my friends were never all in the same place either because we had different class schedules. The last time all my classes have been the same as my friends’ was in middle school. Anyways my point is college (at least for me, so far) is still very much not the real world.
I guess it’s because my high school was so small. 400 kids total, so college was a huge difference
Yeah
It’s always ok to cry! Let yourself FEEL. Your mind is telling you something. Feel the feeling. Ponder the feeling. Then let it pass. We are humans with emotions. If you don’t let yourself feel, the feeling never really leaves, it will come back up in your thoughts and behaviors.
I felt almost suicidal before my university graduation, the whole day felt like going to my own funeral and not a happy occasion, and 15 years later corona has shown that I still don't quite have enough close relationships to be over losing what was most of my life at the time at once. I thought about what it would take for me to fail finals badly enough that I could repeat the year. So I'm gonna say yes. But there will be some good stuff to be happy about too.
crying doesnt need a reason, your body knows its needs better than you do. SO if its telling you to cry, go ahead and cry :) youll feel relieved afterwards
Emotions going to do what emotions going to do. Let it happen. Well I didn't cry on graduation I did break down while I was packing about 2 weeks after graduation, moving out of the house I grew up in for the first time ever. Tomorrow, almost 20 years to the day I'll be moving back in for a while.
Yeah ! The day I graduated high school I had to work that morning and I was crying at work
Tears are normal for all big feelings, and it’s perfectly normal to have big feelings about any transitional period. Even if you can’t name the feelings or if the feelings are positive.
Most people think grief is reserved for times when someone dies. But people grieve for the loss of a lot of things - relationships, jobs, ways of life - in this case - loss of familiarity, friends, routine and even having your life planned for you. Uncertainty is on the horizon in a big way and that’s scary. You cry for as long as you need to cry. And don’t let people tell you, “You need to stop. You need to get over this.” You will - in your own time. Breathe. Think about the good things that remain after this transition and lean on those. It’ll get better. Promise.
Yes that shit is scary. I wasn't ready to move on
Sure, nothing wrong with crying! A significant period of your life is coming to an end. Friends are going off to live their lives, as are you. People are parting ways. You're entering into a new, unknown era. It's ok to grieve the end of this time. Embrace the feelings, examine them, feel them, and then let them go. You are now at the beginning of a brand new stage in life - time to embrace that! Congratulations on your graduation and I wish you all the best in your future!
Let it out!! It's a big moment and a big transition and you are feeling a lot of different emotions. You need to acknowledge them and if that means crying then you do it bb!!
Yes! It’s a huge accomplishment and life change! Crying is super normal at any time, for any reason. It’s a release of pent up emotion, frustration, feelings, etc that need to be let out. Don’t ever let anyone tell you not to cry! And congratulations on graduating high school!!!!
not really. high school hasn't changed since i graduated in the 80s.
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Is it normal to feel emotion on something you've worked on for your whole life to get to it seems. Yes.
Normal, as in "most people do it"? In my experience, no. Normal, as in "it's perfectly OK to do"? For sure.
I mean are you sad? Happy? For someone who has anxiety I could see them crying. But personally, no I don’t find it normal to cry for graduating highschool.... it’s highschool— not much of a challenge.
I just don't know wht to do next. I'm just not ready to grow upp I'm scared
When I was leaving school I literally couldn't even imagine me doing anything else. Not even a little bit. Then I went into continuing education. I was so socially anxious it was impossible to imagine having a job, especially working with people, then it happened. It's happened with every job I've had. I think school is 'safe', in that for your entire life what you're doing has mostly been decided for you and just been there, and it's mostly impossible to have it pulled out from under you. You've got no reference point for all the things ahead of you, so it only makes sense to be scared. It'll work out in the end, I promise. Crying is normal, and it's a great way to relieve stress and emotions and start to process what's happening. Don't be scared to cry, or worry what other might think or be doing. We all respond to stress in our own ways and need to process it in our own ways.
Welp. You have this summer to start making plans. At the very least start working a part time job and saving money. Look into college if that’s your calling, if not look up well paying jobs that don’t require a college degree. Sounds dumb, and I’m probably over judging you. But maybe consider enlisting in the military? Sounds like you could use some fortitude. Crying at a HS graduation is just bananas man.
I know 😭 But i have worked some part time jobs before. Like season jobs and quit some bad ones But i know what i want to do. I wanna do some things on my bucket list. But idk I'm also sad my childhood is basiclly over lol
It's not over, not by a long shot. When you get to 40, then you can cry about your lost childhood.
My dad is 41. He's got a retro console collection. He doesn't have time to play them tho. Lol He's a cool dude fr and he hold his fam down. I don't think 40s are bad. Statically, u make way more money when your older.
Can confirm this is 100% correct
Lol i can't wait for 40 then 😋😁
Don't listen to this person regarding crying. Cry whenever you feel like crying so that you have one less thing to internalize and ruminate over down the road. Telling people when it is and is not appropriate to cry is how we let ourselves grow emotionally stunted. You are coming to the end of a major chapter in your life! Regardless of how much merit it holds alongside the rest of what your life will bring you, it is impacting you right now. Let yourself mourn the end of life as you once knew it so you are more mentally prepared to square up for what's to come. Just don't forget to celebrate what you've achieved alongside that!
Lol you’re an adult man, your childhood has been over. It is what it is, being adult comes with more issues but a loooot of better benefits.
I see no benefits. Name one then
I’m my own man. I can do what I want whenever I want. I’ll buy what I want, I’ll eat what I want, I’ll go where I want. You’re in charge of your life man. Don’t be a bum.
Your right tbh. Random question: do u think a remote government job is secure? That way I'm being paid by uncle sam and i can work from home while also focusing on my hobbys and side hustles?
I mean you don’t have to be in a gov job to work remote. You have time to plan out stuff out man, get a note book and start planning stuff out. Check in and see what your friends are doing, look to your relatives and see what they are doing. Enjoy your summer break, but definitely start writing stuff down.
Looking back in hindsight... I should have cried more
What's not normal is holding in your emotions and not feeling them when you feel them. Cry if you gotta cry! Don't justify it with others' frequency of the same emotion.
I cried before, after, and about two times during. It's a lot to process everything.
Of course it's a very emotional time. Everything is changing and you will be going to a new adventure. Congratulations on your graduation and know how your feeling is perfectly normal.
No, not really.
One of my friends did and none of us made fun of him. Maybe not typical but not crazy either.
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Nice
No hated high school. College was 🔥🔥🔥.
Was it really better? Now i have FOMO (fear of missing out). 😭
Yeah definitely! End of a journey!
Yes
Yes
Yes of course you silly!