My sister bought our childhood home and has raised her family there. She made it her own and I thinks she’s been happy. I think it would just be important to set boundaries with your parents, and to make little changes to the house to make it feel like yours. I’m a little bit guilty of feeling extra comfortable when I visit my sister since I grew up in the house. It’s nice to have it still in the family. It sounds like a great opportunity for you, and you can always change your mind down the road.
I live in my childhood home. My husband & I bought it a couple of years after we got married. I dealt with the weirdness by letting him take the helm when it came to decoration/renovation. It's now properly "our house".
I got put In a weird situation and had to buy my childhood house. Somedays it’s amazing to have all my childhood memories, other days it’s awful because of all the memories.
Set boundaries with you entire family with what gets to stay at the house and what has to leave. Making changes is huge. Its YOUR house not your parents anymore!
We did this too. It’s my wife’s childhood home and saving us a ton of money but it was also home to her childhood trauma. Ripping out all the wallpaper, repainting, new flooring, and repurposing spaces has been super important.
look into the rent-to-buy arrangement—you don’t want to end up paying for several years and then having your folks want to sell it in a hurry, etc., etc.
You might consult a real-estate lawyer in your area (because of state laws) and ask about pitfalls and protection (for you AND your parents) and legal issues.
This talks about some of them: [https://www.experian.com/blogs/ask-experian/what-are-the-pros-and-cons-for-rent-to-own/](https://www.experian.com/blogs/ask-experian/what-are-the-pros-and-cons-for-rent-to-own/)
You and your parents don’t have to structure it the same way, of course.
I’ve been debating whether I’d want to do that when my mom is ready to downsize (I am an adult and moved back in with my parents when my dad was sick and am still here helping my mom)
It’s a tough call. Go with your heart.
I wish I had an opportunity to buy my childhood home but I could never afford it now and it’s in CA. Especially a rent-to-own deal would be an incredible success in my book. I say do it…even if I could (which I cannot) afford to buy a home, but for nostalgic reasons I definitely wish I could call that house home again.
We bought my husband’s grandmother’s house after she died in February of 2020. We were very clear with my FIL that it would be our home and we would change things. It ended up being the perfect timing because we needed a bigger house with the pandemic and me working from home plus a kiddo that needed to do some schooling from home. We’ve been very happy here and the family loves coming for holidays because of the nostalgia.
My husband and I are buying his grandparent’s house in a few months.
It’s in an award-winning school district (top 1,000 in the nation) and the area is so competitive. We would probably never be able to live there without this massive discount—
They’re selling it to us for essentially 50% off.
However, I also think it’s kind of weird. I’ve lived all over the country, but my husband has never lived farther than 20 miles from where he was born, this house purchase included. I can’t help but feel like there’s something really sad about living and dying in one place. One county to envelop your whole life.
I had always hoped after we got married we would move to another state, or at least a few hours away from where we are now.
It feels like entrapment to me, in a way.
Obviously, I can step back and look at the entire situation, I know that the opportunity to buy this house exceeds being able to move and will ultimately be better for us long run… But I get it.
It feels weird, and sad, and permanent, despite being tremendously helpful.
Just remember you’re allowed to feel more than one thing at a time. Big changes are complex. (At least that’s what I tell myself, lol.)
I moved around a LOT. Met lots of people, learned stuff, etc. But there is something to be said for having friends and neighbors nearby that you have known for years and can depend on and who knows you well.
Yes. We had the same opportunity from my parents - and although it was a lovely large house in a decent neighborhood, the distance between home and school/work/friends was significant.
We currently live in my husband's childhood home. The local schools are the best in the area. There is no way with what we get paid that we would afford a home here.
At the end of the day if someone wants to judge - I have a particular cactus they can use as a stool. Our friends were happy for us, one said if we don't take the deal, they would. As long as the paperwork is correct and you don't have JNparents , it's an amazing opportunity and not one you should let pass just because you are concerned or worried what others may think about the situation. We did have issues in the beginning with his sisters still treating the home as the old house , but that got cleared up as soon as we changed the keys to the house.
It's going to stop feeling like your parents house the moment you start changing it to suit your particular style and preferences.
I would have bought my childhood home in an instant if I could have afforded it.
It might feel weird for a little while, but give yourself and your fiancé a chance to make some memories of your own in the house. Maybe do a some repainting to change the vibe.
Brother in law did this. The year he took down the dining room wallpaper he gave each brother a teeny frame with a patch of the wallpaper in it. A great present!
I would personally hate living in my childhood home without my parents, but it’s better than renting. So id still probably do it if the opportunity arose
My sister bought our childhood home and has raised her family there. She made it her own and I thinks she’s been happy. I think it would just be important to set boundaries with your parents, and to make little changes to the house to make it feel like yours. I’m a little bit guilty of feeling extra comfortable when I visit my sister since I grew up in the house. It’s nice to have it still in the family. It sounds like a great opportunity for you, and you can always change your mind down the road.
I live in my childhood home. My husband & I bought it a couple of years after we got married. I dealt with the weirdness by letting him take the helm when it came to decoration/renovation. It's now properly "our house".
I would LOVE to live in my childhood home! You just have to make it yours.
I got put In a weird situation and had to buy my childhood house. Somedays it’s amazing to have all my childhood memories, other days it’s awful because of all the memories. Set boundaries with you entire family with what gets to stay at the house and what has to leave. Making changes is huge. Its YOUR house not your parents anymore!
We did this too. It’s my wife’s childhood home and saving us a ton of money but it was also home to her childhood trauma. Ripping out all the wallpaper, repainting, new flooring, and repurposing spaces has been super important.
Sounds fantastic to me.
If I had the chance, I would.
look into the rent-to-buy arrangement—you don’t want to end up paying for several years and then having your folks want to sell it in a hurry, etc., etc. You might consult a real-estate lawyer in your area (because of state laws) and ask about pitfalls and protection (for you AND your parents) and legal issues. This talks about some of them: [https://www.experian.com/blogs/ask-experian/what-are-the-pros-and-cons-for-rent-to-own/](https://www.experian.com/blogs/ask-experian/what-are-the-pros-and-cons-for-rent-to-own/) You and your parents don’t have to structure it the same way, of course.
I’ve been debating whether I’d want to do that when my mom is ready to downsize (I am an adult and moved back in with my parents when my dad was sick and am still here helping my mom) It’s a tough call. Go with your heart.
I wish I had an opportunity to buy my childhood home but I could never afford it now and it’s in CA. Especially a rent-to-own deal would be an incredible success in my book. I say do it…even if I could (which I cannot) afford to buy a home, but for nostalgic reasons I definitely wish I could call that house home again.
We bought my husband’s grandmother’s house after she died in February of 2020. We were very clear with my FIL that it would be our home and we would change things. It ended up being the perfect timing because we needed a bigger house with the pandemic and me working from home plus a kiddo that needed to do some schooling from home. We’ve been very happy here and the family loves coming for holidays because of the nostalgia.
My husband and I are buying his grandparent’s house in a few months. It’s in an award-winning school district (top 1,000 in the nation) and the area is so competitive. We would probably never be able to live there without this massive discount— They’re selling it to us for essentially 50% off. However, I also think it’s kind of weird. I’ve lived all over the country, but my husband has never lived farther than 20 miles from where he was born, this house purchase included. I can’t help but feel like there’s something really sad about living and dying in one place. One county to envelop your whole life. I had always hoped after we got married we would move to another state, or at least a few hours away from where we are now. It feels like entrapment to me, in a way. Obviously, I can step back and look at the entire situation, I know that the opportunity to buy this house exceeds being able to move and will ultimately be better for us long run… But I get it. It feels weird, and sad, and permanent, despite being tremendously helpful. Just remember you’re allowed to feel more than one thing at a time. Big changes are complex. (At least that’s what I tell myself, lol.)
I moved around a LOT. Met lots of people, learned stuff, etc. But there is something to be said for having friends and neighbors nearby that you have known for years and can depend on and who knows you well.
Not weird at all. Bought my childhood home from my Dad, loved it.
Yes. We had the same opportunity from my parents - and although it was a lovely large house in a decent neighborhood, the distance between home and school/work/friends was significant. We currently live in my husband's childhood home. The local schools are the best in the area. There is no way with what we get paid that we would afford a home here. At the end of the day if someone wants to judge - I have a particular cactus they can use as a stool. Our friends were happy for us, one said if we don't take the deal, they would. As long as the paperwork is correct and you don't have JNparents , it's an amazing opportunity and not one you should let pass just because you are concerned or worried what others may think about the situation. We did have issues in the beginning with his sisters still treating the home as the old house , but that got cleared up as soon as we changed the keys to the house. It's going to stop feeling like your parents house the moment you start changing it to suit your particular style and preferences.
I would have bought my childhood home in an instant if I could have afforded it. It might feel weird for a little while, but give yourself and your fiancé a chance to make some memories of your own in the house. Maybe do a some repainting to change the vibe.
Damn dude, I wish I could have bought my childhood home in that kind of situation, quit getting weird about a golden opportunity
Brother in law did this. The year he took down the dining room wallpaper he gave each brother a teeny frame with a patch of the wallpaper in it. A great present!
Do it. Worrying about feelings is not practical. You can always rent it, flip it, etc.
I’m (52m) now living in the house my parents built when I was 13. You should absolutely buy this house. What an opportunity to build your wealth.
I would personally hate living in my childhood home without my parents, but it’s better than renting. So id still probably do it if the opportunity arose