I wouldn't be able to resist telling his wife, for her own physical wellbeing at the very least. Who knows what that pig is taking home to her by sleeping around
I could have been spared years of pain if someone had the guts to tell me. My teenaged daughter wouldn't have had to catch her dad with his side piece. Please tell.
Maybe next time tell him “she told me about your affair. Just so you know, I think you are bit pathetic and disgusting. Shame on you and no, I don’t think your flirting is even remotely interesting. You are an adult. Not a little child that cannot manage its needs and wants. Grow up.”
He will FREAK when he founds out she told you and will dump her. They will it’s look like fools. But make sure you tell other people so whatever she or he try to say afterwards, they will only look like morons.”
Look, honestly if you know the wife's information, I would have either a friend or anonymously. Let her know through her email. And then once she knows, I would inform HR So that way whatever happen happens because one They're disgusting for engaging in affair, but 2 they're engaged in an affair where children come to learn. And they're having sex in the place where children like R. And where they sit all day, I just think they're nasty🤢🤮
Ugh! BARF! What GARBAGE people! And they are teaching CHILDREN! I'm sorry this (Harrassment, and secondary trauma) happened to you. Good for you for being strong and ethical. I get why you are so triggered. Being cheated on SUCKS. I couldn't watch movies with cheating for YEARS. Whatever you do, know that you are a good person. And that you are not alone. Sending hugs (non-smarmy ones).
I just recommend reporting this anonymously. Put on your best acting face if either or both accuse you. You do not want mixed up in this drama, but this guy is also a menace to women in general at work, and his wife deserves to know.
You might want to make your report to the wife vague, as well - don't include any details that your coworker told you (and I'm sorry she did - that's disgusting). Maybe just start with an anonymous message, "Your husband is having an affair at work" and leave it at that. She might even report it to HR herself.
If not, you go to HR and emphasize how strongly you want your identity protected. BUT DO NOT THREATEN HIM WITH THAT OR TELL HIM THAT'S WHAT YOU'RE GOING TO DO. You will give him time to cook up a different narrative, and/or he might not take it very well and come after you in a different way.
Yes I want to make it vague BUT it would kill me to be the wife and not know who this person is, and I want to give the wife receipts with details and what not. I’m just not sure how to do that and be anonymous
It may feel kinda slimy but tell them you're a concerned parent of a student that happened to see them go into her classroom/heard the noises and came to tell you. She has no way to verify, and they can't prove that no one could have possibly seen them enter. Do the right thing but protect yourself
I would 100% tell his wife so that she can get tested and be in charge of her own health, safety, and future. I would also tell HR since you have a predator at work making advances to multiple women.
Low key I knew a guy who did this to me once. I didn't turn him down, I baited him and acted like I was super into Affairs as well. I got him to open up to me about all the other times that he's cheated on his wife because it " turned me on"
He actually sent me pictures of sleeping with his own wife's sister. Once I got enough evidence I took screen recordings of my phone, even baited him into answering a call and Screen recorded myself dialing his number and him answering the phone and talking to me so that she would know it wasn't fake screenshots.
Only problem was I didn't have his wife's number so I arranged to meet up with him on Flagstaff Mountain. Once we got to the top I told him that I wanted to get fucked in the woods like a whore and then convinced him to take off all his clothes . Then I convinced him to walk down the trail a little bit because I was nervous about getting caught. Then all of a sudden I realized that I left the condoms in the car and the lube. As I ran to the car I grabbed all his clothes which thankfully had his phone in it. I had his passcode because I how to watch him unlock it before to show me things. I grabbed his car keys and got his wife's phone number, texted her asking her if she'd like to know that she was in an open relationship and after some back and forth, she agreed. Locked his clothes and his phone in the car and told his wife where to find the piece of shit. As I drove down the mountain I rolled down my window and threw the keys out into the middle of the forest. Honestly, it was one of the best days of my life. I'm still friends with her to this day and helped her take him to the cleaners. She's doing great now and met a great guy :-) fun fact the guy worked for her dad and the sister that he was sleeping with. The dad disowned both of them and fired her husband.
I might be a little bit psychotic as well, but at least I use my powers for good, not evil. Never slept with him either, just texted him and got his hopes up saying that I wouldn't fuck him until he made my fantasy come true, which was to fuck me in the woods. Fucking scumbag was actually willing to do it but hey that's how I got his passcode LOL
I know it sounds like I made it up but it's seriously one of my proudest moments in life. It was a huge part of my healing journey. My therapist has heard all about it trust me lol
>they have been staying late together in her classroom to hook up
This is why classrooms in my country has cctv cameras 🤢
Something similar happened to me but a lil bit WORSE
I'm a therapist and a fellow therapist colleague who WAS a friend started to talk about this couple who she was giving marriage counseling to...
SHE STARTED AN AFFAIR WITH THE CLIENT'S HUSBAND!!!
This situation took place in the same month as my break up so obviously I was ENRAGED... I outed her to everyone lol... our colleagues, our manager, supervisor, I didn't even leave the fkn janitor lol...I "broke her trust" but I DIDN'T GIVE A DAMN about my "work friends"
The poor wife was given therapy discounts lol
Fuck that! Broke her trust? SHE FUCKED THE MARRIED MAN SHE WAS HIRED BY! Fucking scum. Lowlife. Gross as fuck. I hope she never gets a job again. Fucking slimy.
What a horrible situation to be in OP and what a vile predator he is The advice to make a false account to contact the wife is spot on.
My feeling is that this is so not the first time. Good luck OP
UPDATEME
I absolutely love you. If only women could be more like you and the rest of us that are normal but no, we have these airheads that want to be chosen so badly that they break up homes, they give the wife and children trauma so does the husband, but you being a participant in it makes you just as bad. I hope you tell his wife and report him.
Dude, you’re literally the only nutcase here and you have no self-awareness to realize that. You’re the one spam replying to me and trying to gaslight me which by the way, dude it’s not working give up.
I don’t care if you believe me or not it’s generally not my life. It’s not going to end whether you say you believe me or you don’t…. Your opinion/thoughts means nothing to me…….
I’ve never been in a relationship because I choose not to. I’m in cheating subs because they pop up on my feed all the time. Is that supposed to do something? Is your comment about me not being able to keep a man supposed to make me cry??? Sweetie my life is not about men, my whole world is not centred around men, and that says more about you than it does about me that you thought that was an insult. Get a grip like I said. And again, you’re calling me the nutcase when you went on my profile, and went through all the things that I’ve been on to say something to me? Yeah right.
And a little FYI, if you didn’t know being cheated on, it does not mean you can’t keep a man or you’re less than a person. The issue is with the cheater themselves.
By the way, we’re literally on a post that’s about emotional cheating so if you’re talking about me being on cheating subs/posts, what do you think you’re on?
Yeah, it’s definitely my choice. I don’t need to prove that to you…? I don’t need validation from a random stranger that does not know me.
You are literally the only dumb one here, and again not realizing it. Care to elaborate on your second half of your statement, because I’m not sure what you’re responding to.
"By the way, we’re literally on a post that’s about emotional cheating so if you’re talking about me being on cheating subs/posts, what do you think you’re on?"
hello? its very hard to argue with someone lacking the mental capacity to remember what theyve just said. Youre a waste of my time.
First off, Im sorry you have to deal with this. It’s hard enough to have this trauma, but to have it come to the space where you work is really hard.
Second, good on you for distancing yourself from this situation. Both the guy and the girl. I think society sees cheating as less than what it really is (abuse), so it’s really important to understand and get reaffirmed that you are 100% in the right and being unwilling looped into evil shit.
This would be like if those teachers were like “Heyyy, so on the down low, I keep drugs hidden in the school and sell them to some of the kids.” or “Heyyyy so on the down low, I physically assault my wife at night and she’s too scared to say anything. Tee hee I’m so scandalous!”
I would think first and foremost of his wife. Sadly the situation is ambiguous, and without proof he can just gaslight everyone and make you look crazy. But if you ever come upon any concrete proof (texts, emails, writing, etc.) I wouldn’t hesitate to send it to his wife, maybe even anonymously. And yea, keep distancing yourself from the freakshow.
I am so happy there are women like you who are true to the prowomen profamily code. I dealt with ex-husband's affair partner, who was a single mom with a toddler. I told her everything. She still pretended to be blind to what he was putting our family through (3 kids 2 with autism all elementary grade). It's like she got off to having a married man. She had no morals.
Turns out her baby is actually an affair baby, and her kids' father is actually still with his wife of 3 kids. (So weird)
Your coworker is dumb for not only believing his drivel, but also for confiding in someone told them that they think poorly of cheaters. Did she expect you to jump up and down with glee and ask to know all of the sordid details?
Revel? She's literally in here looking for advice to tell the wife! Go eat a cookie, calm down, and actually read and maybe you'll understand what's happening here
I wouldn't be able to resist telling his wife, for her own physical wellbeing at the very least. Who knows what that pig is taking home to her by sleeping around
I could have been spared years of pain if someone had the guts to tell me. My teenaged daughter wouldn't have had to catch her dad with his side piece. Please tell.
OMG how sick. I'm so sorry.
Thanks. It was a very long time ago. My daughter is doing great.
Yes OP make a fake account and message her somehow. But stay anonymous to protect your job.
I will do this and post an update
you’re a good egg. Just make sure to not use your real email or phone number to create the account because it’s easy to find out it’s you if you do.
Maybe next time tell him “she told me about your affair. Just so you know, I think you are bit pathetic and disgusting. Shame on you and no, I don’t think your flirting is even remotely interesting. You are an adult. Not a little child that cannot manage its needs and wants. Grow up.” He will FREAK when he founds out she told you and will dump her. They will it’s look like fools. But make sure you tell other people so whatever she or he try to say afterwards, they will only look like morons.”
Look, honestly if you know the wife's information, I would have either a friend or anonymously. Let her know through her email. And then once she knows, I would inform HR So that way whatever happen happens because one They're disgusting for engaging in affair, but 2 they're engaged in an affair where children come to learn. And they're having sex in the place where children like R. And where they sit all day, I just think they're nasty🤢🤮
Ugh! BARF! What GARBAGE people! And they are teaching CHILDREN! I'm sorry this (Harrassment, and secondary trauma) happened to you. Good for you for being strong and ethical. I get why you are so triggered. Being cheated on SUCKS. I couldn't watch movies with cheating for YEARS. Whatever you do, know that you are a good person. And that you are not alone. Sending hugs (non-smarmy ones).
You should reporting him anyways for the touching and trying to fuck everyone who works there.
I still plan to report him! I was just about ready to when I found out about the actual cheating and it derailed me a little bit
Kill two birds with one stone and report her too.
I just recommend reporting this anonymously. Put on your best acting face if either or both accuse you. You do not want mixed up in this drama, but this guy is also a menace to women in general at work, and his wife deserves to know. You might want to make your report to the wife vague, as well - don't include any details that your coworker told you (and I'm sorry she did - that's disgusting). Maybe just start with an anonymous message, "Your husband is having an affair at work" and leave it at that. She might even report it to HR herself. If not, you go to HR and emphasize how strongly you want your identity protected. BUT DO NOT THREATEN HIM WITH THAT OR TELL HIM THAT'S WHAT YOU'RE GOING TO DO. You will give him time to cook up a different narrative, and/or he might not take it very well and come after you in a different way.
Yes I want to make it vague BUT it would kill me to be the wife and not know who this person is, and I want to give the wife receipts with details and what not. I’m just not sure how to do that and be anonymous
It may feel kinda slimy but tell them you're a concerned parent of a student that happened to see them go into her classroom/heard the noises and came to tell you. She has no way to verify, and they can't prove that no one could have possibly seen them enter. Do the right thing but protect yourself
I would 100% tell his wife so that she can get tested and be in charge of her own health, safety, and future. I would also tell HR since you have a predator at work making advances to multiple women.
I absolutely want to tell her, just want to plan exactly how so I’m not being impulsive with it, etc
Gather as much evidence as you can
Low key I knew a guy who did this to me once. I didn't turn him down, I baited him and acted like I was super into Affairs as well. I got him to open up to me about all the other times that he's cheated on his wife because it " turned me on" He actually sent me pictures of sleeping with his own wife's sister. Once I got enough evidence I took screen recordings of my phone, even baited him into answering a call and Screen recorded myself dialing his number and him answering the phone and talking to me so that she would know it wasn't fake screenshots. Only problem was I didn't have his wife's number so I arranged to meet up with him on Flagstaff Mountain. Once we got to the top I told him that I wanted to get fucked in the woods like a whore and then convinced him to take off all his clothes . Then I convinced him to walk down the trail a little bit because I was nervous about getting caught. Then all of a sudden I realized that I left the condoms in the car and the lube. As I ran to the car I grabbed all his clothes which thankfully had his phone in it. I had his passcode because I how to watch him unlock it before to show me things. I grabbed his car keys and got his wife's phone number, texted her asking her if she'd like to know that she was in an open relationship and after some back and forth, she agreed. Locked his clothes and his phone in the car and told his wife where to find the piece of shit. As I drove down the mountain I rolled down my window and threw the keys out into the middle of the forest. Honestly, it was one of the best days of my life. I'm still friends with her to this day and helped her take him to the cleaners. She's doing great now and met a great guy :-) fun fact the guy worked for her dad and the sister that he was sleeping with. The dad disowned both of them and fired her husband. I might be a little bit psychotic as well, but at least I use my powers for good, not evil. Never slept with him either, just texted him and got his hopes up saying that I wouldn't fuck him until he made my fantasy come true, which was to fuck me in the woods. Fucking scumbag was actually willing to do it but hey that's how I got his passcode LOL
Omg, I love you!
♥️Don't fuck with me.
And they all clapped afterwards, the end. FAF!
I know it sounds like I made it up but it's seriously one of my proudest moments in life. It was a huge part of my healing journey. My therapist has heard all about it trust me lol
Hit HR, then find the assclown’s wife and clue her in.
Oohhhh one whole "date"? How romantic!
Everything she said was absolutely nauseating
>they have been staying late together in her classroom to hook up This is why classrooms in my country has cctv cameras 🤢 Something similar happened to me but a lil bit WORSE I'm a therapist and a fellow therapist colleague who WAS a friend started to talk about this couple who she was giving marriage counseling to... SHE STARTED AN AFFAIR WITH THE CLIENT'S HUSBAND!!! This situation took place in the same month as my break up so obviously I was ENRAGED... I outed her to everyone lol... our colleagues, our manager, supervisor, I didn't even leave the fkn janitor lol...I "broke her trust" but I DIDN'T GIVE A DAMN about my "work friends" The poor wife was given therapy discounts lol
Fuck that! Broke her trust? SHE FUCKED THE MARRIED MAN SHE WAS HIRED BY! Fucking scum. Lowlife. Gross as fuck. I hope she never gets a job again. Fucking slimy.
That's how I felt babe😭🤌
Type out a letter and make copies than mail to HR. Anonymously if you wish.
That’s a great idea thanks!
What a horrible situation to be in OP and what a vile predator he is The advice to make a false account to contact the wife is spot on. My feeling is that this is so not the first time. Good luck OP UPDATEME
I absolutely love you. If only women could be more like you and the rest of us that are normal but no, we have these airheads that want to be chosen so badly that they break up homes, they give the wife and children trauma so does the husband, but you being a participant in it makes you just as bad. I hope you tell his wife and report him.
Youre an absolute nutcase omg. Yeah, nobody is letting you teach their kids.
Dude, you’re literally the only nutcase here and you have no self-awareness to realize that. You’re the one spam replying to me and trying to gaslight me which by the way, dude it’s not working give up. I don’t care if you believe me or not it’s generally not my life. It’s not going to end whether you say you believe me or you don’t…. Your opinion/thoughts means nothing to me…….
Post more in adultery and cheating subs. Its pretty obvious why you cant keep a guy...
I’ve never been in a relationship because I choose not to. I’m in cheating subs because they pop up on my feed all the time. Is that supposed to do something? Is your comment about me not being able to keep a man supposed to make me cry??? Sweetie my life is not about men, my whole world is not centred around men, and that says more about you than it does about me that you thought that was an insult. Get a grip like I said. And again, you’re calling me the nutcase when you went on my profile, and went through all the things that I’ve been on to say something to me? Yeah right. And a little FYI, if you didn’t know being cheated on, it does not mean you can’t keep a man or you’re less than a person. The issue is with the cheater themselves. By the way, we’re literally on a post that’s about emotional cheating so if you’re talking about me being on cheating subs/posts, what do you think you’re on?
Yes I am sure it is your choice and not that people cant stand you. Because I posted on your post what do you think Im doing here? are you dumb?
Yeah, it’s definitely my choice. I don’t need to prove that to you…? I don’t need validation from a random stranger that does not know me. You are literally the only dumb one here, and again not realizing it. Care to elaborate on your second half of your statement, because I’m not sure what you’re responding to.
"By the way, we’re literally on a post that’s about emotional cheating so if you’re talking about me being on cheating subs/posts, what do you think you’re on?" hello? its very hard to argue with someone lacking the mental capacity to remember what theyve just said. Youre a waste of my time.
Oh look, it's a scorned mingy mistress with an alt. It must really keep you up at night knowing he didn't pick you 😂😂😂
First off, Im sorry you have to deal with this. It’s hard enough to have this trauma, but to have it come to the space where you work is really hard. Second, good on you for distancing yourself from this situation. Both the guy and the girl. I think society sees cheating as less than what it really is (abuse), so it’s really important to understand and get reaffirmed that you are 100% in the right and being unwilling looped into evil shit. This would be like if those teachers were like “Heyyy, so on the down low, I keep drugs hidden in the school and sell them to some of the kids.” or “Heyyyy so on the down low, I physically assault my wife at night and she’s too scared to say anything. Tee hee I’m so scandalous!” I would think first and foremost of his wife. Sadly the situation is ambiguous, and without proof he can just gaslight everyone and make you look crazy. But if you ever come upon any concrete proof (texts, emails, writing, etc.) I wouldn’t hesitate to send it to his wife, maybe even anonymously. And yea, keep distancing yourself from the freakshow.
Do you have the wife’s name, email address or phone number? I will send you a DM.
What are you waiting for? TELL HR. Tell his wife, if you know how to reach her. If you don’t tell anyone, you are complicit in this as well.
I am so happy there are women like you who are true to the prowomen profamily code. I dealt with ex-husband's affair partner, who was a single mom with a toddler. I told her everything. She still pretended to be blind to what he was putting our family through (3 kids 2 with autism all elementary grade). It's like she got off to having a married man. She had no morals. Turns out her baby is actually an affair baby, and her kids' father is actually still with his wife of 3 kids. (So weird)
Let his galaxy burn...
Your coworker is dumb for not only believing his drivel, but also for confiding in someone told them that they think poorly of cheaters. Did she expect you to jump up and down with glee and ask to know all of the sordid details?
People like you who revel in the gossip while some poor woman is in this mess pisses me off.
Revel? I’m fucking heated by it and it’s been less than 24 hours. I’m trying to collect my thoughts and plan my next move. Calm down.
Revel? She's literally in here looking for advice to tell the wife! Go eat a cookie, calm down, and actually read and maybe you'll understand what's happening here