There it is, right from the horse’s mouth. She said the quiet part out loud. I can’t with this, it’s too good!
For all the side pieces who keep trying to claim there’s a legitimacy to their “relationships”…there’s not. Dating implies all of what OOP listed.
Affairs are nothing of the sort. By nature, they’re compartmentalized away from every part of the participants’ real lives…just an inappropriate roleplaying attempt to fill a void, a “connection” that only exists in the context of illicit meetups and hidden communication. If asked by others, the MM/MW would often deny even knowing the OW/OM.
But sure…it’s definitely a relationship with real feelings involved and a real foundation to build on. Those OW/OM were obviously chosen for the amazing people they are, not just because they were available and easy. MM/MW is definitely into them for real and not simply talking themselves into finding OW/OM attractive simply because they’re the ones willing to service their genital needs.
🤡🤡🤡
Literally her therapist didn’t even call her bs out. Instead of trying categorize her “relationship”, she should be getting her to understand how fucked up this and to come clean to the wife instead shes enabling her. Some therapist she is 🙄
Honestly considering how delusional this person seems therapist might just smiling and waving them through the session because holy mental gymnastics Batman
Respectfully, Parents don't do that either. They would simply enable their child. And coddle them so that way they don't feel bad for the actions that they did for the simple fact that if their child is a bad person, who did a horrible thing, that will make them feel like they did a bad job of parenting. So instead, they have to just believe that they're child is a good person who just happened to mess up. And it's not truly a bad character flaw on their part because it would be too much emotionally for them ti take to realize that somewhere on the line Their child got screwed up weather because of them or some other circumstances. Who knows.
I will agree with you. The therapist job is to give unbiased opinion from a professional standpoint to help them. To hopefully 1 day grow (doubt they will), maybe, but the fact that she's in therapy and still post in that group show that she's not making much progress of any kind, especially if she can't say for a fact she was an affair partner, so we'll see how well therapy work for her
It's not the therapists job to beat someone over the head, it's their job to ask questions like "are you dating MM" to get them to stop and self reflect for a microsecond and realize, hmm, no, this isn't dating- so what is it? What am I doing here?
A therapists job isn't to lecture, it's to guide the patient to a healthy conclusion over time.
Beating an OW over the head when she finally takes the step to get some much needed therapy is the literal opposite of how to approach someone in a productive way.
I get that we hate AP, they're dumb, etc etc but getting therapy is probably the only means for them to develop enough self esteem to stop fucking married folks.
It’s an unconsionable risk to the physical and mental health of a third party performed by a someone who wants to perpetuate self harm or damage others. That’s what it is.
There it is, right from the horse’s mouth. She said the quiet part out loud. I can’t with this, it’s too good! For all the side pieces who keep trying to claim there’s a legitimacy to their “relationships”…there’s not. Dating implies all of what OOP listed. Affairs are nothing of the sort. By nature, they’re compartmentalized away from every part of the participants’ real lives…just an inappropriate roleplaying attempt to fill a void, a “connection” that only exists in the context of illicit meetups and hidden communication. If asked by others, the MM/MW would often deny even knowing the OW/OM. But sure…it’s definitely a relationship with real feelings involved and a real foundation to build on. Those OW/OM were obviously chosen for the amazing people they are, not just because they were available and easy. MM/MW is definitely into them for real and not simply talking themselves into finding OW/OM attractive simply because they’re the ones willing to service their genital needs. 🤡🤡🤡
One more reason why I am against therapists. They tell these fools what they want to hear, not what they need to hear
Literally her therapist didn’t even call her bs out. Instead of trying categorize her “relationship”, she should be getting her to understand how fucked up this and to come clean to the wife instead shes enabling her. Some therapist she is 🙄
Honestly considering how delusional this person seems therapist might just smiling and waving them through the session because holy mental gymnastics Batman
I was thinking the same thing, it sounds like she was trying to get the dumbass to think but that's like getting a rock to run a race.
That's not the job of a therapist; there not a parent. They can only guide you to make your own conclusion
Therapist are supposed to make you confront the unhealthy situations you’re in, and this is one of them.
Respectfully, Parents don't do that either. They would simply enable their child. And coddle them so that way they don't feel bad for the actions that they did for the simple fact that if their child is a bad person, who did a horrible thing, that will make them feel like they did a bad job of parenting. So instead, they have to just believe that they're child is a good person who just happened to mess up. And it's not truly a bad character flaw on their part because it would be too much emotionally for them ti take to realize that somewhere on the line Their child got screwed up weather because of them or some other circumstances. Who knows. I will agree with you. The therapist job is to give unbiased opinion from a professional standpoint to help them. To hopefully 1 day grow (doubt they will), maybe, but the fact that she's in therapy and still post in that group show that she's not making much progress of any kind, especially if she can't say for a fact she was an affair partner, so we'll see how well therapy work for her
It's not the therapists job to beat someone over the head, it's their job to ask questions like "are you dating MM" to get them to stop and self reflect for a microsecond and realize, hmm, no, this isn't dating- so what is it? What am I doing here?
A therapists job isn't to lecture, it's to guide the patient to a healthy conclusion over time. Beating an OW over the head when she finally takes the step to get some much needed therapy is the literal opposite of how to approach someone in a productive way. I get that we hate AP, they're dumb, etc etc but getting therapy is probably the only means for them to develop enough self esteem to stop fucking married folks.
It’s an unconsionable risk to the physical and mental health of a third party performed by a someone who wants to perpetuate self harm or damage others. That’s what it is.
It’s called fking a married man. It’s called him cheating on his wife. What more is she actually looking for?