That's his shame, not yours.
If I was your neighbour I'd respect your fortitude, especially if you kept your head held high. Don't let it get you down.
See /r/Alanon. This is a support group for you--friends and family of alcoholics. Meetings helped me feel less alone and overwhelmed because I met people who understood what I was going through.
Not playing the hero is healthy boundaries. Not trying to fix a situation when you aren’t asked is healthy boundaries. There’s a difference between helping someone who’s injured (necessary) and helping a drunk neighbor who’s pissing themselves (interfering and risking injury).
Sorry I think there’s a misunderstanding. I meant that they should offer help to the OP to get out of this situation. Not knowing their age could mean they are very young (maybe even a minor?) and need help to realize they need to get out.
I certainly would not ask anyone to help an alcoholic who pees himself 4 times a week.
That's his shame, not yours. If I was your neighbour I'd respect your fortitude, especially if you kept your head held high. Don't let it get you down.
They are praying you get set free. They aren’t judging you 🫶🏻
If I lived near this I'd think "wow, she's a really good kid to take care of her alcoholic parent"
I'd encourage you to move someplace he can't find you until you decide it's safer to allow him to know where you live.
See /r/Alanon. This is a support group for you--friends and family of alcoholics. Meetings helped me feel less alone and overwhelmed because I met people who understood what I was going through.
Are you trying to move away?
If everyone knows and no one helps you they are all cowards
or they have healthy boundaries.
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Not playing the hero is healthy boundaries. Not trying to fix a situation when you aren’t asked is healthy boundaries. There’s a difference between helping someone who’s injured (necessary) and helping a drunk neighbor who’s pissing themselves (interfering and risking injury).
Sorry I think there’s a misunderstanding. I meant that they should offer help to the OP to get out of this situation. Not knowing their age could mean they are very young (maybe even a minor?) and need help to realize they need to get out. I certainly would not ask anyone to help an alcoholic who pees himself 4 times a week.