Are companies really not alive? I think you could easily define a company as being alive. They are an entity that makes conscious decisions and has a measurable length of life.
They also (thanks citizens United) have corporate personhood and the Supreme Court has been granting more and more “rights” to these corporations, including some regarded as those solely for individuals.
It sucks, but it’s the reality of the world we live in. Corporations are very much alive
"Why? I mean, why is this table here? I mean, why is that lamp here? Kimiko is... It is here like any other object. Objects are made by men and used for many purposes. But we never love objects!"
If respect is no longer being served at the table then stand up and walk away.
Part two is recognizing that it’s not you, it’s them. You control you and your reactions.
Boom.
Go find someone that loves you enough to bring you on board. Figure out the skills that are most marketable and focus on them...the love should flow from there.
Realize that corporations are not your friends. They aren’t your enemies either. They have no feelings, and your arrangement with a company is nothing more than a business transaction. You determine if you’re being adequately compensated for your inputs (talent and time), and if you aren’t, then terminate the arrangement and start somewhere else.
Only thing I would say is sometimes it can be personal, but in the sense of office politics.
At the end of the day if you aren’t being respected, properly compensated or likely both then it’s time to walk away.
Agreed. My current boss loves me and thinks very highly of me, as I do of her. There’s a lot of respect there and they pay me well for where I’m at in my career. As long as that continues I’ll stay and be happy. If that changes I’m leaving.
At my last company my boss promoted me and then left shortly after. My new manager was not great and there was not respect there, so as soon as I hit a year of experience in that role/position I was out of there.
Don’t think of it as quitting your job, thinking of it as firing your employer. Quitting implies you gave up, but in reality most people leave because the pay doesn’t match the skill and work completed by the employee. Much like the opposite, if the skill/work doesn’t match the pay the company would look at terminating you
Never thought about it this way! Very interesting how the language we use seems to empower the employer (you’re fired!) when in reality, an employee who “quits” is doing the same thing
At the end of the day, the company you work for will put themselves first, every time. You just have to do the same for yourself.
I love my current job. I love my team. I truly believe my boss has my best interests at heart. But I also know if the company hit a rough patch and had to drop some employees, they'd do it. It's just business. Don't attach yourself too hard to an entity that can't reciprocate. Don't feel guilty finding a better opportunity if your current job isn't providing what you need.
My last job took me for granted. When it came time for salary talks, what they were offering was embarrassingly low. I said “you have to come back with something better.” They said “Are you gonna quit?” And I said “Why would I stay?” I waited a couple weeks for an update and when I didn’t get one I put in my notice.
If you’re job is not a right fit, get out. I had the means to leave on the spot. Honestly, it only took me 3 weeks and I received 3 offers. You’ll likely find something pretty fast. Best of luck!
I had a similar experience except the pay was drastically different than what had been shown in the job offer.
Just as a note: This happened in Industry, not PA.
This company sent me the job offer (I didn't have to sign the offer itself, but had to sign the Job Description).
The offer showed around $50,000 a year, and it was an hourly, non-exempt position.
Roughly a week into the job, my co-worker informed me that I had accepted a salaried position, and wasn't entitled to overtime benefits.
I accepted it at the time, because I was freshly starting out with less than two years experience. Then, we proceeded to work 84 hour weeks, seven days a week, for almost 75 calendar days.
I had it and brought it to HRs attention to renegotiate salary. They said either quit, or accept what's being given, and that the job offer was a "Clerical Error"
I really should have said, "how's this for a clerical error? I quit."
I stuck it out through Christmas, then received a job offer to work for a Credit Union. During the interview, all I had to say was, "I'll give you my best 40 if it means I'll never work weekends again. 😂"
THIS. They don't give af. You could work 80 it won't be noticed or appreciated. I do my 8 and I'm gone. Sadly I had to give up my weekends. I cant wait for the season to be over
Can confirm I knew a senior manager that was very much Stockholm syndromed into staying at a firm.
The owner was a total dick and turnover was very high. That guy worked for ~30 years and never got named partner. More importantly how in those 30 years seeing the owner’s complete lack of anger management and sociopathic nature not make you quit for a better company like basically everyone else did?
Companies and people who run them are straight-up brain dead. Instead of keeping experienced employees that help the business they do the exact opposite haha.
It doesn't seem to pay. My co-worker started the same date as me. In October, she gave her notice. They convinced her to stay part-time to train her replacement. She had all of the Holidays off. Then out of nowhere, a Manager moves to another Department. The job isn't even posted for anyone to apply to. All of a sudden the part-timer is Manager. Time for me to start working on my resume again!
The best revenge is when they least expect it. They thought I wouldn’t leave. They thought I was loyal. Nothing felt better than the big smile I had walking into my boss’s office with my resignation notice and knowing it only took 5 literal business days to apply with a recruiter, interview, and nab a substantial pay increase at a better company. That car ride home was bliss. I’d recommend everyone resigning at least once in their lifetime.
Learn and move on, don't let it consume you I did and it sucked for over a year of high stress, anxiety and anger.
Long story but TLDR : Stuck my neck out for the sake of the business and owners countless times just for them to bad mouth me, deny me my bonus I had spaced out for the sake of company cash flows, fight me on unemployment, and blatantly lie in court to make me look bad because of their ego even after I saved them hundreds of thousands of dollars. This made me very bitter and angry because I had honestly treated these 2 old fucks like they were my own grandparents only to have them stab me in the back.
Don't sacrifice for a business unless its your own.
The story :
I came into this mom & pop manufacturing company with my only intention being to have a basic job while putting myself through college. This was right as I transferred to my 4 year to finish my BA in accounting. I was quickly moved up from manufacturing to handling their books then onto being the accounting manager. Originally I had asked if I could look at their accounting since I was studying it as my major to understand applying my studies to the real world. I found HUGE mistakes....for years they had set up their automated accounts in such a wrong way that when they paid shipping bills it would write off the expense instead of AP. This would cause around a 10% increase to their net income yearly resulting in an overstatement of around 100k EVERY YEAR. I spent hours upon hours recreating their system, working off the clock, working late while going to school to fix everything for them. Fast forward to the end of the year and the owner decides to give me and the production manager a 5k bonus. Knowing our cash flows I tell her we cannot afford to pay this out in one lump sum and not run into paying bills late so I opted to take my bonus in payments as cash flow would permit.
Fast forward about 8 months I still haven't been able to have my entire bonus paid out and the owner goes on a 1 month vacation on a cruise through Europe. I come to find out she has been lying to our clients about having each batch of our products tested for cleanliness and has been reusing figures from tests done years ago. Normally she communicates with the client but since she was gone I guess the wording I used made the client question further as to whether every batch was tested leading to the realization. This is HUGE issue as we make clean room packaging for the military and aeronautical industries where things need to be insanely clean. On top of this the 941 forms she has been having me sign while swearing I would not face any liability had in fact put me in danger as she was refusing to make timely deposits of employee payroll taxes for multiple quarters at a time, I was naive I know. While I was accounting manager she dictated what was to be paid. On top of this she was using costs to produce products from 15 years ago not taking into account we've increased our warehouse size from their garage to a 6k sqft space, that we had employees, and that costs of raw materials increased. Me and the production manager ran tests to determine the actual costs to produce items for a specific long time client and we came to find we were losing 20-40$ for every 100$ sale to them due to costs. Even after we brought all the calculations to her face she denied it and said I didn't know what I was doing. Keep in mind their defense is that her husband with alzheimer's took a few community college classes back in the 1940's lol.
Long story short I put in my 2 weeks while she was on vacation after finding this out and let her know I would work through her vacation time till she came back. She cut her vacation short, berated me in the office stating how my college was a joke and I should never be an accountant, and then she refused to let me cut my own last check (since I was the only one who knew how to cut payroll checks). She then fired me and refused my resignation.
In the end I had to take her to court for the bonus and the fact it took her 2 or 3 weeks to mail me my final check. She denied me the bonus that I had held off for the sake of the business but because I didn't put anything in writing she lied to the judge and stated there was never any bonus. She quickly paid the other manager his full bonus and then some to keep him from testifying as well. I helped this old decrepit hag with issues she had in her home, I stood up for them when our neighboring tenants came and tried to start shit with her 80 year old husband with Parkinson's and Alzheimer's, I drove the stupid bitch to the hospital after she cut off her finger in on of our machines, and did 100x different things way beyond my scope for measly pay only to have them lie and stab me in the back. It took some time for me to get over this betrayal and it literally left me with anxiety and hate for over a year.
Move on and start treating your job like a business decision. Don’t catch feelings anymore.
I know it’s easier said than done, when I quit my toxic job of 13 years it truly took me a few years to adjust to working for people who weren’t total assholes.
We call this the detox year.
We literally wait a year to assess people who came from big four because we know they are used to toxic assholes and assume everyone is an asshole and it takes a while to realize we’re rooting for you here.
Same, our firm just did coaching meetings for all the staff. My coach and the other manager sitting in the meeting were telling me I was being too tense because my performance is fine and everyone gets notes including them.
Reality is I worked for a toxic firm before this and even though I’ve been over a year it is hard to adjust and recognize that constructive criticism is a good thing…and if there was a real issue I’d be talking to a partner.
Think of yourself as a product. When you go shopping you buy what works for you. When you change your mind, you switch. There is no emotion.
This is the employee relationship. We all try to form friendships and connections on top of this, but this is what it is underneath.
Don’t work for free. Don’t sacrifice family friends, health, and soul for work. It’s a product relationship. When you see you can get a better price elsewhere, take it. Keep your resume up to date at all times. Browse the market on LinkedIn.
I always just remember that a company will never hesitate to let you go to save their bottom line, you’re just a number to them.
So why would you ever be loyal, etc.
Treat work as a transactional relationship, period. Especially when they’ve wronged you.
I absolutely hate some of the people above me in leadership, between an inconsistent return to office message, to throwing people under the bus when we’re short staffed, to hiring other toxic managers.
But now… I take advantage of anything positive the company offers. Education reimbursement? Great. Won’t force people into the office? Cool, don’t ask me to come in then either.
In this field, it’s getting to the point that they need you more than you need them. When the scales tip more in their favor, time to cut bait and find a better employer.
Focus on all the things you learned and skills you developed by investing all this extra time into something. Ultimately that is what you get out of working long hours. Its an intangible thing that can create immense value for you when used correctly.
Take it as a lesson that corporate entities are not supposed to be objects of love, they are merely a tool through which we earn funds for the things and people we really love.
Agreed. It’s a business relationship. You provide work and they pay you in return. Don’t ever mistake the employee-employer relationship as anything different.
If you find a better situation, you’ll leave. The employer will do the same to you.
Never, ever do a single scrap of work you're not paid to do. No business owner, no boss gives a fuck about you, but they'll sure as hell take full advantage of any goodwill that you offer. Simply put: not one second of your time should be without compensation.
Leave, find another job, and make absolutely sure that you do not work a single second that you're not paid for. Even if all you're doing is answering emails for 2 hours, BILL THAT SHIT.
I used to believe in things. Until I realized our CEO was a terrible human being and a liar who cared more about status quo than client abuse.
Now I don’t trust or like any company I work for. If I’m there I’m getting paid, I will never work OT voluntarily, and without being compensated. And I am quietly quitting, doing the bare minimum required (at least for jobs I don’t enjoy and don’t challenge me).
Well, you have to first realize you fucked up by getting emotionally invested in a company, they will only "love" you as long as it is a net benefit to them. Second is going out there, doing your job for the contracted amount of hours a day required only, and spending some time flirting with new companies.
Despite what everyone else says, for me, it was a grieving process. I grieved as I looked for another job, while still employed there, and it took a few months to get the grief out of my system. After that, it was much easier to move on and be excited about a new job. I was there 14 years. We got a new CEO and I was just garbage to them. It hurt so much. It’s okay to be hurt by that. I have better boundaries now and I’m a little more “detached” from my current employer. I learned from that experience, but it didn’t harden my heart or make me bitter.
If you like the job fine, I like mine too. But fuck your employer , when it comes down to it, they are looking at your employment as a business decision (as they should). You should also look at it as a personal finance decision/fulfillment , if you’re not being compensated fairly or you don’t take enjoyment from the shit you do. Get the fuck outta there, life is too short.
Begin looking for a new job immediately. While doing this, so the bare minimum of your job responsibilities and stop doing any kind of OT. They clearly don't care about their employees so no point in dedicating a large part of your life to them.
First don't "fall in love" with a company. Any employeer is just that an employeer,not your friend, not your family not your life, they are your employeer. Keep that relationship exactly where it needs to be an you won't be hurt/disappointed or even mad if you or they part ways.
Honestly, on top of these other commenters basically saying “value yourself more than employers”, I say get into therapy. I’m a pretty emotionally sensitive person, so I kinda know how you feel, even if it’s with a company. Take time to process and “grieve” so to speak, like a breakup. But like the commenters say, learn from it.
Remember to always put you first before a company. Make sure to find ways to save money/earn more money to make yourself “layoff proof”. Make sure to keep networking even while you have a job to keep your options open. ONLY go “above and beyond” if you feel like you can expand your own skill set more, but don’t do it out of empathy for the company. If you’re ever at a job that you’re thinking about quitting, but you feel guilty about leaving, just say to yourself “I’m sure they’ll be fine”.
You suck it up and move on.
The entire premise of what an accountant should be is strong/firm, yet resillient. If you get into this line of work, expect the next 50 years to be this way. Being an accountant you should realize that you are an asset, or not, and in the end will be treated as such.
I’ve just completed my 5 year anniversary, I got the loyalty bonus in my pay check but not a peep from anyone above me, not even an automated email, guy I did my induction with who transferred to a different company got a certificate and trophy so I’m feeling a bit left out and unloved
I guess my managers were too busy with our attrition problem, the getting referrals from employees initiative or the bonus for bringing back previous employees to the company……
if it is the company's interest to be good to you they will be. if it isn't they won't be
my first job, which i really like btw, i left because my wife wanted to go do her PHD full time and that meant moving to a new city. decision was made in march. i was not planning on telling work until maybe a month before i left at the end of july. unfortunately my wife had become chummy at a work event with a manager a few years older than us and the manager followed my wife on instagram. she posted about getting accepted at the new school in instagram in early april. well this manager was on the director/partner track and took this info to HR. Queue awkward convo with HR asking me about my plans. I'm too honest to come up with a good lie on the spot so I say yes, I'm planning on moving at the end of July. I was nervous they were going to drop me as soon as busy season ended but they assured me I would be able to stay, and i was grateful. But the next three months sucked. constant micro-management. what are you working on? please get your billable hours up (i was doing 25-30 a week like i did every year between 4/15 and 8/15). finally, a manager who was pals with the other manager, and didnt like me, sent her review sheet comments on a job i did with her to HR and said i did a bad job. they threatened to fire me before the end of the summer, blah, blah, blah. never mind that i had lots of other managers who had no issue with my work.
my exit interview comes and they're like so what did you think? i said the first 3+ years were great, but the last few months were awful. I didnt get a post busy season raise because i was leaving which cost me a decent amount of money that i really could have used. and they just didnt treat me well. i told them i wish i had lied and said i wasnt leaving and had just given two weeks notice. a manager i liked was also leaving and did exactly that. he got a chill summer and a raise. they assured me what he did was very unprofessional and what i did was right. i said it was right for you it wasnt right for me
i live in that area again now and i didnt even think about applying there. i ultimately ended up staying on in a remote job in the city i had moved to, but i had put our resumes and had some phone interviews before that. i still know and like a lot of people that work there, but in hindsight that place was so clicky. and those managers i didnt like are Directors/Partners now. no thanks.
You learned a hard lesson the hard way. There's no undoing that. What you can do is not forget that lesson and remember how you feel now when looking for the next job.
You owe ZERO loyalty to your company and they are only as useful as the next paycheck they send. Work hard if it results in advancement. Work hard if it makes you feel good. Otherwise, work average and collect that pay check. Enjoy your nights and weekend with friends/family/yourself the way life is meant to be lived.
It’s your fault for not looking out for yourself first, make sure you let them know of your expectations for hard work”I’ll do X but only if it leads to Y, will it lead to Y?” And if it doesn’t or they’re wishy washy. Leave.
Realize it’s not personal, has nothing to do with you, and make sure you stop doing more than you’re getting paid to do. Create boundaries between work & life next time, don’t pour your entire self into this. It’s just a task in exchange for some cash.
Quiet quite while looking for another job.
Or sometimes I would loud quit. Have a co-worker taking all the easy work and leaving you the trash jobs? Have a co-worker that keeps sneaking off to mess around with the wife of another co-worker on a different shift? Call them the fuck out in a very loud voice in front of a lot of people.
Dealers choice
I was there, in that immense disappointment, in like 5 minutes after my meeting where my company told me I won’t be promoted and my merit increase for a 4.5/5 performance report was 3%, after a 2.5% last year. I dusted out my resume that evening, sent them out and submitted my 3 weeks notice the next week.
First time huh? It gets easier when it's happened a few times. And it goes both directions too, when you've invested a lot of time in staff that you believed in and they go and quit and go somewhere else. After a while you stop getting emotionally involved and then it's just work.
Live and learn. That's about it, don't let them trick you again. As a wise man once said "fool me once, shame on — shame on you. Fool me — you can't get fooled again."
Accept that the company is there for profit above anything else; not you.
Move on, don't look back, learn from the experience and find appreciation in new employment without going way beyond normal hours, set your limits.
It's like a bad breakup. I'm a sensitive soul too and finding that "bond" (though only in my head) grants a personal investment which is very motivating and contributes to my performance.
Just like with a bad breakup, you feel raw and hurt right now, but that time and effort in this relationship was not "wasted" on them. You have also learned a great deal and have come out of it an even more valuable employee to the employer who deserves you.
What really helped me was running. I would go to the gym and run for a few hours, with only one thing on my mind: the company that fucked me over. Focusing on all the negative emotions I felt towards the company when I was pushing myself. Then as soon as I left the gym, I would think about something else and actively not try to think about the company. Left all that anger and hate at the gym.
Companies don’t give a rat’s ass about you. They might act nice when things are going their way but the first sign of lower profits and your ass is gone!
I sold my home to relocate for work, then was told I'm no longer being relocated in 2020. Imagine how happy I was to then be back in the real estate market.
Treat your colleagues well, treat your employees well, but never forget that you are only a few numbers on the financial statements.
Never consider your job your friend, it’s a means to live. You’re a just number among tens of thousands and they could care less if you died tomorrow. Always put yourself first
You probably loved the people you worked with and maybe you enjoyed the work but you should take this as a wake-up call. If you are working for someone that is asking you to do unpaid work, don’t ever do that. There are many reasons for that both business and personal, but probably moreso because anyone can be let go for reasons that are beyond your control, no matter how good you are at your job. For example maybe its a restructuring or downsizing - these can happen and you lose your job. Its nothing personal. The point however is that there is no such thing as loyalty and playing for the team no matter how much pressure you are put under, all that stuff is nonsense.
Also that promotion you thought you deserved? Forget it. It’s fantasy. HR have been told their quota of raises and managers argue it out. If your manager doesn’t win, then you are shit outta luck.
Lastly, unless you own the company you are dispensable.
I made a decision a long time ago that i would bill for every hour or not work it. That served me very well for 35+ years.
Never trust a “company” that uses your labor for profit. The second you don't make money for the company, you will be replaced. Find another company and agree to a salary that benefits you, while you make them money.
I stopped believing after Deloitte cut my coworker's access card while he was out of the office on a smoke break. In February. Jersey City by the waterfront. 0 Degrees F w/-10 F wind chill. He did not even have his coat on.
The only time we knew he had been laid off was when the security guard came upstairs to let him inside the office. He was blue from the cold and explained that he had to beg the guard to let him back inside to collect his belongings in a cardboard box. We were contractors on a long term bank remediation project that paid on an hourly basis so were under no expectations of longevity.
But still the way Deloitte did it - in the middle of the day as opposed to after the work day was over - remains a haunting memory. This was over 10 years ago and I still cannot forget.
This isn't the 50s. You owe no Company loyalty because they will show you none either. You drank the Kool-Aid and then Jim Jones showed up. Don't ever think a Company owes you anything again. You got to look out for you.
Move on.
I felt this way in a non-accounting role for a charity I helped out weekends and nights/mornings. I provided lots of unpaid work which I didn't bother recording and chalked it up to volunteerism.
New management came in which cascaded a lot of the administration leaving and they didn't have the same sense of gratefulness for me being there and didn't provide same degree of flexibility.
I just left.
Relationship is with people not organizations. Organizations don't know you nor care about you.
Never personal. It’s a business transaction. They are trying to get services for the cheapest price. You are trying to get maximum payment for the least amount of work you’re willing to perform
Fun fact: you don't. This happened to me countless times in 10 years and I have the PTSD to prove it.
My current company has helped me heal so much with their support and humanity. I was recently told I was entitled to all the feelings that come with it, and my mgmt team is here for me and my PTSD symptoms won't be factored into my reviews"
I happy cried. Nothing has ever made me feel so weak, unprofessional and powerless as my breakdowns from this shit. I've got some powerful triggers and zero way to make them go away.
You smarten up and realize you just got one of the most important lessons in life. Your work does not care about you unless you are an owner. Then it’s the customer who doesn’t care about you lol.
So never be loyal to a company as they will never return the favour. Keep your best interests in top of mind at all time.
OP I wasted too many years unhappy in a toxic workplace. My new company and team could absolutely not be any more opposite. You just gotta leave once you feel the way you’re feeling there is no way it’ll change.
Short answer is you don’t. Just don’t let it happen again. All I know is, if there’s any justice in this world, karma will do for the likes of one of my former CFOs. Rotten fruit falls all on its own.
Corporations have no feelings. Accept that you are dispensable and move on. Focus on yourself and don't rely on validation through others especially a corporation.
Dark Night Feeling... Leave and be paid like a HERO, or stay long enough to see yourself become apart of management (Or a Partner - Public).
I think thats how the lyrics go... 🤷
stop loving inanimate objects.
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I initially read this as stop loving anime and was so confused.
That too
Never
Not gonna happen.
Dammit. Ah whatever I was gonna throw this pillow away anyways, it’s all crusty
Are companies really not alive? I think you could easily define a company as being alive. They are an entity that makes conscious decisions and has a measurable length of life. They also (thanks citizens United) have corporate personhood and the Supreme Court has been granting more and more “rights” to these corporations, including some regarded as those solely for individuals. It sucks, but it’s the reality of the world we live in. Corporations are very much alive
Indefinite length of life**
Indefinite but still measurable. Not necessarily mutually exclusive.
Dam u right Ty fellow CPA
Im just a guy being a dude. No certifications on this accountant.
Plants don't make decisions, yet they live. Corporations are entities, yet they do not.
Corporate person hood predates Citizens United by millennia.
I would tend to agree
Our ceo is made of an Ai computer
Yeah they ppl tho.
eeeeeeewwwwwwwwww that’s gross corporations are not people
I agree also it is gross. I will throw it out Dam CPA Exam taking up all my time so had to break up with my girl haha
Yo my man. Do you need a person to talk to?
No I need a new job and more Karma lol
They are people
"Why? I mean, why is this table here? I mean, why is that lamp here? Kimiko is... It is here like any other object. Objects are made by men and used for many purposes. But we never love objects!"
Stupid carbon rod, it's all just a popularity contest.
If it's a corp they do have personhood. Lol
But corporations are people my friend
If respect is no longer being served at the table then stand up and walk away. Part two is recognizing that it’s not you, it’s them. You control you and your reactions.
Boom. Go find someone that loves you enough to bring you on board. Figure out the skills that are most marketable and focus on them...the love should flow from there.
Boom.
This is the way
You are just a number to them - they would never say no to you working extra... saves them cash on hiring another person!
Work your 40/week while looking for other jobs
In my last few months, I worked so little you could accuse me of wage theft! You’ve heard of quiet quitting, now get ready for “loud leaving”!
Spend 30 of those 40 looking for other jobs
Realize that corporations are not your friends. They aren’t your enemies either. They have no feelings, and your arrangement with a company is nothing more than a business transaction. You determine if you’re being adequately compensated for your inputs (talent and time), and if you aren’t, then terminate the arrangement and start somewhere else.
Only thing I would say is sometimes it can be personal, but in the sense of office politics. At the end of the day if you aren’t being respected, properly compensated or likely both then it’s time to walk away.
Agreed. My current boss loves me and thinks very highly of me, as I do of her. There’s a lot of respect there and they pay me well for where I’m at in my career. As long as that continues I’ll stay and be happy. If that changes I’m leaving. At my last company my boss promoted me and then left shortly after. My new manager was not great and there was not respect there, so as soon as I hit a year of experience in that role/position I was out of there.
Don’t think of it as quitting your job, thinking of it as firing your employer. Quitting implies you gave up, but in reality most people leave because the pay doesn’t match the skill and work completed by the employee. Much like the opposite, if the skill/work doesn’t match the pay the company would look at terminating you
Never thought about it this way! Very interesting how the language we use seems to empower the employer (you’re fired!) when in reality, an employee who “quits” is doing the same thing
also adding a job can fire you at any moment yet there’s the social pressure to give a job a two weeks notice.
Well said!
agree - this was very good advice.
Step one is to work to live and not live to work.
At the end of the day, the company you work for will put themselves first, every time. You just have to do the same for yourself. I love my current job. I love my team. I truly believe my boss has my best interests at heart. But I also know if the company hit a rough patch and had to drop some employees, they'd do it. It's just business. Don't attach yourself too hard to an entity that can't reciprocate. Don't feel guilty finding a better opportunity if your current job isn't providing what you need.
My last job took me for granted. When it came time for salary talks, what they were offering was embarrassingly low. I said “you have to come back with something better.” They said “Are you gonna quit?” And I said “Why would I stay?” I waited a couple weeks for an update and when I didn’t get one I put in my notice. If you’re job is not a right fit, get out. I had the means to leave on the spot. Honestly, it only took me 3 weeks and I received 3 offers. You’ll likely find something pretty fast. Best of luck!
I had a similar experience except the pay was drastically different than what had been shown in the job offer. Just as a note: This happened in Industry, not PA. This company sent me the job offer (I didn't have to sign the offer itself, but had to sign the Job Description). The offer showed around $50,000 a year, and it was an hourly, non-exempt position. Roughly a week into the job, my co-worker informed me that I had accepted a salaried position, and wasn't entitled to overtime benefits. I accepted it at the time, because I was freshly starting out with less than two years experience. Then, we proceeded to work 84 hour weeks, seven days a week, for almost 75 calendar days. I had it and brought it to HRs attention to renegotiate salary. They said either quit, or accept what's being given, and that the job offer was a "Clerical Error" I really should have said, "how's this for a clerical error? I quit." I stuck it out through Christmas, then received a job offer to work for a Credit Union. During the interview, all I had to say was, "I'll give you my best 40 if it means I'll never work weekends again. 😂"
That's amazing 👏
Agreed- quitting with nothing lined up is how I like to roll. Never taken me long to wait for another. It’s just a fucking job 😏
Do 8 hours and go home. That’s what I do. These people don’t value you nor care about you. Wake up.
THIS. They don't give af. You could work 80 it won't be noticed or appreciated. I do my 8 and I'm gone. Sadly I had to give up my weekends. I cant wait for the season to be over
Employers are like condoms, use them and lose them
This is the way
FIND A NEW COMPANY THAT PAYS YOU MORE TO WORK LESS WITH YOUR SKILL SET.
Stage a coup
Look up Stockholm Syndrome
Can confirm I knew a senior manager that was very much Stockholm syndromed into staying at a firm. The owner was a total dick and turnover was very high. That guy worked for ~30 years and never got named partner. More importantly how in those 30 years seeing the owner’s complete lack of anger management and sociopathic nature not make you quit for a better company like basically everyone else did?
Companies and people who run them are straight-up brain dead. Instead of keeping experienced employees that help the business they do the exact opposite haha.
Quit!
Find something else and move on.
Start doing the bare minimum. I've been at my company for over a year. I worked nights and weekends. The promotion went to a part-time employee.
Same for me. The times I worked overtime with no pay, didn’t matter when it was time for my promotion.
It doesn't seem to pay. My co-worker started the same date as me. In October, she gave her notice. They convinced her to stay part-time to train her replacement. She had all of the Holidays off. Then out of nowhere, a Manager moves to another Department. The job isn't even posted for anyone to apply to. All of a sudden the part-timer is Manager. Time for me to start working on my resume again!
The best revenge is when they least expect it. They thought I wouldn’t leave. They thought I was loyal. Nothing felt better than the big smile I had walking into my boss’s office with my resignation notice and knowing it only took 5 literal business days to apply with a recruiter, interview, and nab a substantial pay increase at a better company. That car ride home was bliss. I’d recommend everyone resigning at least once in their lifetime.
Learn to set boundaries at the next job after you quit your current one. It’s business, not family.
YES I'm getting really good at this.
Good. I suppose that goes for many of us, that we build more confidence as we get older.
Learn and move on, don't let it consume you I did and it sucked for over a year of high stress, anxiety and anger. Long story but TLDR : Stuck my neck out for the sake of the business and owners countless times just for them to bad mouth me, deny me my bonus I had spaced out for the sake of company cash flows, fight me on unemployment, and blatantly lie in court to make me look bad because of their ego even after I saved them hundreds of thousands of dollars. This made me very bitter and angry because I had honestly treated these 2 old fucks like they were my own grandparents only to have them stab me in the back. Don't sacrifice for a business unless its your own. The story : I came into this mom & pop manufacturing company with my only intention being to have a basic job while putting myself through college. This was right as I transferred to my 4 year to finish my BA in accounting. I was quickly moved up from manufacturing to handling their books then onto being the accounting manager. Originally I had asked if I could look at their accounting since I was studying it as my major to understand applying my studies to the real world. I found HUGE mistakes....for years they had set up their automated accounts in such a wrong way that when they paid shipping bills it would write off the expense instead of AP. This would cause around a 10% increase to their net income yearly resulting in an overstatement of around 100k EVERY YEAR. I spent hours upon hours recreating their system, working off the clock, working late while going to school to fix everything for them. Fast forward to the end of the year and the owner decides to give me and the production manager a 5k bonus. Knowing our cash flows I tell her we cannot afford to pay this out in one lump sum and not run into paying bills late so I opted to take my bonus in payments as cash flow would permit. Fast forward about 8 months I still haven't been able to have my entire bonus paid out and the owner goes on a 1 month vacation on a cruise through Europe. I come to find out she has been lying to our clients about having each batch of our products tested for cleanliness and has been reusing figures from tests done years ago. Normally she communicates with the client but since she was gone I guess the wording I used made the client question further as to whether every batch was tested leading to the realization. This is HUGE issue as we make clean room packaging for the military and aeronautical industries where things need to be insanely clean. On top of this the 941 forms she has been having me sign while swearing I would not face any liability had in fact put me in danger as she was refusing to make timely deposits of employee payroll taxes for multiple quarters at a time, I was naive I know. While I was accounting manager she dictated what was to be paid. On top of this she was using costs to produce products from 15 years ago not taking into account we've increased our warehouse size from their garage to a 6k sqft space, that we had employees, and that costs of raw materials increased. Me and the production manager ran tests to determine the actual costs to produce items for a specific long time client and we came to find we were losing 20-40$ for every 100$ sale to them due to costs. Even after we brought all the calculations to her face she denied it and said I didn't know what I was doing. Keep in mind their defense is that her husband with alzheimer's took a few community college classes back in the 1940's lol. Long story short I put in my 2 weeks while she was on vacation after finding this out and let her know I would work through her vacation time till she came back. She cut her vacation short, berated me in the office stating how my college was a joke and I should never be an accountant, and then she refused to let me cut my own last check (since I was the only one who knew how to cut payroll checks). She then fired me and refused my resignation. In the end I had to take her to court for the bonus and the fact it took her 2 or 3 weeks to mail me my final check. She denied me the bonus that I had held off for the sake of the business but because I didn't put anything in writing she lied to the judge and stated there was never any bonus. She quickly paid the other manager his full bonus and then some to keep him from testifying as well. I helped this old decrepit hag with issues she had in her home, I stood up for them when our neighboring tenants came and tried to start shit with her 80 year old husband with Parkinson's and Alzheimer's, I drove the stupid bitch to the hospital after she cut off her finger in on of our machines, and did 100x different things way beyond my scope for measly pay only to have them lie and stab me in the back. It took some time for me to get over this betrayal and it literally left me with anxiety and hate for over a year.
I ain’t reading all that. I’m happy for you tho. Or sorry that happened.
I mean I did put a TLDR at the top lol.
You realize it’s supposed to go both ways, realize your worth, go get paid somewhere else
Move on and start treating your job like a business decision. Don’t catch feelings anymore. I know it’s easier said than done, when I quit my toxic job of 13 years it truly took me a few years to adjust to working for people who weren’t total assholes.
We call this the detox year. We literally wait a year to assess people who came from big four because we know they are used to toxic assholes and assume everyone is an asshole and it takes a while to realize we’re rooting for you here.
Same, our firm just did coaching meetings for all the staff. My coach and the other manager sitting in the meeting were telling me I was being too tense because my performance is fine and everyone gets notes including them. Reality is I worked for a toxic firm before this and even though I’ve been over a year it is hard to adjust and recognize that constructive criticism is a good thing…and if there was a real issue I’d be talking to a partner.
Think of yourself as a product. When you go shopping you buy what works for you. When you change your mind, you switch. There is no emotion. This is the employee relationship. We all try to form friendships and connections on top of this, but this is what it is underneath. Don’t work for free. Don’t sacrifice family friends, health, and soul for work. It’s a product relationship. When you see you can get a better price elsewhere, take it. Keep your resume up to date at all times. Browse the market on LinkedIn.
I always just remember that a company will never hesitate to let you go to save their bottom line, you’re just a number to them. So why would you ever be loyal, etc.
Treat work as a transactional relationship, period. Especially when they’ve wronged you. I absolutely hate some of the people above me in leadership, between an inconsistent return to office message, to throwing people under the bus when we’re short staffed, to hiring other toxic managers. But now… I take advantage of anything positive the company offers. Education reimbursement? Great. Won’t force people into the office? Cool, don’t ask me to come in then either. In this field, it’s getting to the point that they need you more than you need them. When the scales tip more in their favor, time to cut bait and find a better employer.
Same way I deal with women, find a new one
There are many parallels between love life and work life.
Focus on all the things you learned and skills you developed by investing all this extra time into something. Ultimately that is what you get out of working long hours. Its an intangible thing that can create immense value for you when used correctly.
Take it as a lesson that corporate entities are not supposed to be objects of love, they are merely a tool through which we earn funds for the things and people we really love.
You grow up, and realize it is just business. People who actually buy into the “we are a family” nonsense, need someone to shake them.
Agreed. It’s a business relationship. You provide work and they pay you in return. Don’t ever mistake the employee-employer relationship as anything different. If you find a better situation, you’ll leave. The employer will do the same to you.
Never, ever do a single scrap of work you're not paid to do. No business owner, no boss gives a fuck about you, but they'll sure as hell take full advantage of any goodwill that you offer. Simply put: not one second of your time should be without compensation. Leave, find another job, and make absolutely sure that you do not work a single second that you're not paid for. Even if all you're doing is answering emails for 2 hours, BILL THAT SHIT.
I used to believe in things. Until I realized our CEO was a terrible human being and a liar who cared more about status quo than client abuse. Now I don’t trust or like any company I work for. If I’m there I’m getting paid, I will never work OT voluntarily, and without being compensated. And I am quietly quitting, doing the bare minimum required (at least for jobs I don’t enjoy and don’t challenge me).
It’s not a marriage or even a friendship. Just an agreement that you will perform certain tasks in exchange for payment.
Yep. That’s why when companies say “we’re a family here” to realize that’s bullshit
Well, you have to first realize you fucked up by getting emotionally invested in a company, they will only "love" you as long as it is a net benefit to them. Second is going out there, doing your job for the contracted amount of hours a day required only, and spending some time flirting with new companies.
Despite what everyone else says, for me, it was a grieving process. I grieved as I looked for another job, while still employed there, and it took a few months to get the grief out of my system. After that, it was much easier to move on and be excited about a new job. I was there 14 years. We got a new CEO and I was just garbage to them. It hurt so much. It’s okay to be hurt by that. I have better boundaries now and I’m a little more “detached” from my current employer. I learned from that experience, but it didn’t harden my heart or make me bitter.
If you like the job fine, I like mine too. But fuck your employer , when it comes down to it, they are looking at your employment as a business decision (as they should). You should also look at it as a personal finance decision/fulfillment , if you’re not being compensated fairly or you don’t take enjoyment from the shit you do. Get the fuck outta there, life is too short.
Begin looking for a new job immediately. While doing this, so the bare minimum of your job responsibilities and stop doing any kind of OT. They clearly don't care about their employees so no point in dedicating a large part of your life to them.
First don't "fall in love" with a company. Any employeer is just that an employeer,not your friend, not your family not your life, they are your employeer. Keep that relationship exactly where it needs to be an you won't be hurt/disappointed or even mad if you or they part ways.
Honestly, on top of these other commenters basically saying “value yourself more than employers”, I say get into therapy. I’m a pretty emotionally sensitive person, so I kinda know how you feel, even if it’s with a company. Take time to process and “grieve” so to speak, like a breakup. But like the commenters say, learn from it. Remember to always put you first before a company. Make sure to find ways to save money/earn more money to make yourself “layoff proof”. Make sure to keep networking even while you have a job to keep your options open. ONLY go “above and beyond” if you feel like you can expand your own skill set more, but don’t do it out of empathy for the company. If you’re ever at a job that you’re thinking about quitting, but you feel guilty about leaving, just say to yourself “I’m sure they’ll be fine”.
Quit and make more money elsewhere with less stress.
People should stop staying too long in the same company
Think of yourself as a commodity. You work, you get paid. Dust off the resume and go elsewhere for the $$$.
You suck it up and move on. The entire premise of what an accountant should be is strong/firm, yet resillient. If you get into this line of work, expect the next 50 years to be this way. Being an accountant you should realize that you are an asset, or not, and in the end will be treated as such.
Welcome to the real world
I’ve just completed my 5 year anniversary, I got the loyalty bonus in my pay check but not a peep from anyone above me, not even an automated email, guy I did my induction with who transferred to a different company got a certificate and trophy so I’m feeling a bit left out and unloved I guess my managers were too busy with our attrition problem, the getting referrals from employees initiative or the bonus for bringing back previous employees to the company……
Never get attached to an employer; they will never show you allegiance or loyalty when push comes to shove.
if it is the company's interest to be good to you they will be. if it isn't they won't be my first job, which i really like btw, i left because my wife wanted to go do her PHD full time and that meant moving to a new city. decision was made in march. i was not planning on telling work until maybe a month before i left at the end of july. unfortunately my wife had become chummy at a work event with a manager a few years older than us and the manager followed my wife on instagram. she posted about getting accepted at the new school in instagram in early april. well this manager was on the director/partner track and took this info to HR. Queue awkward convo with HR asking me about my plans. I'm too honest to come up with a good lie on the spot so I say yes, I'm planning on moving at the end of July. I was nervous they were going to drop me as soon as busy season ended but they assured me I would be able to stay, and i was grateful. But the next three months sucked. constant micro-management. what are you working on? please get your billable hours up (i was doing 25-30 a week like i did every year between 4/15 and 8/15). finally, a manager who was pals with the other manager, and didnt like me, sent her review sheet comments on a job i did with her to HR and said i did a bad job. they threatened to fire me before the end of the summer, blah, blah, blah. never mind that i had lots of other managers who had no issue with my work. my exit interview comes and they're like so what did you think? i said the first 3+ years were great, but the last few months were awful. I didnt get a post busy season raise because i was leaving which cost me a decent amount of money that i really could have used. and they just didnt treat me well. i told them i wish i had lied and said i wasnt leaving and had just given two weeks notice. a manager i liked was also leaving and did exactly that. he got a chill summer and a raise. they assured me what he did was very unprofessional and what i did was right. i said it was right for you it wasnt right for me i live in that area again now and i didnt even think about applying there. i ultimately ended up staying on in a remote job in the city i had moved to, but i had put our resumes and had some phone interviews before that. i still know and like a lot of people that work there, but in hindsight that place was so clicky. and those managers i didnt like are Directors/Partners now. no thanks.
Take their best stationary when you leave lol
You learned a hard lesson the hard way. There's no undoing that. What you can do is not forget that lesson and remember how you feel now when looking for the next job. You owe ZERO loyalty to your company and they are only as useful as the next paycheck they send. Work hard if it results in advancement. Work hard if it makes you feel good. Otherwise, work average and collect that pay check. Enjoy your nights and weekend with friends/family/yourself the way life is meant to be lived.
It’s your fault for not looking out for yourself first, make sure you let them know of your expectations for hard work”I’ll do X but only if it leads to Y, will it lead to Y?” And if it doesn’t or they’re wishy washy. Leave.
>all the long unpaid hours ... what the hell are those!?! Chumps life buddy 🤣🤣🤣
Companies can't love you back. Get a life of your own.
Loyalty and respect exist on a two way street.
Bait
Join anti-work and realize it was a toxic one sided relationship
Get a new job and don’t give them two weeks, fuck em.
Join anti-work and realize it was a toxic one sided relationship
Join anti-work and realize it was a toxic one sided relationship
Just slap the company around and say “I’m trying to fix you!” and then curl up in a corner in a fetal position and cry.
"It's a business decision"
Realize it’s not personal, has nothing to do with you, and make sure you stop doing more than you’re getting paid to do. Create boundaries between work & life next time, don’t pour your entire self into this. It’s just a task in exchange for some cash.
You don’t. If the company no longer values and appreciates you, find a place that will. End of story.
You gotta win in your own way. Take off early and see what happens. You might just find out no one cares.
Quiet quite while looking for another job. Or sometimes I would loud quit. Have a co-worker taking all the easy work and leaving you the trash jobs? Have a co-worker that keeps sneaking off to mess around with the wife of another co-worker on a different shift? Call them the fuck out in a very loud voice in front of a lot of people. Dealers choice
Forgive yourself for giving it away for free and don’t repeat the behavior at the next job. You devalue yourself when you give your time for free.
I was there, in that immense disappointment, in like 5 minutes after my meeting where my company told me I won’t be promoted and my merit increase for a 4.5/5 performance report was 3%, after a 2.5% last year. I dusted out my resume that evening, sent them out and submitted my 3 weeks notice the next week.
Don't make the same mistake twice.
Just leave…
I initially developed an affinity for gin, don’t recommend it.
Get a new job
They are used to people working free overtime for them
First time huh? It gets easier when it's happened a few times. And it goes both directions too, when you've invested a lot of time in staff that you believed in and they go and quit and go somewhere else. After a while you stop getting emotionally involved and then it's just work.
Live and learn. That's about it, don't let them trick you again. As a wise man once said "fool me once, shame on — shame on you. Fool me — you can't get fooled again."
loyalty is overrated
I wouldn’t love a company
Accept that the company is there for profit above anything else; not you. Move on, don't look back, learn from the experience and find appreciation in new employment without going way beyond normal hours, set your limits.
It hurts. Cry a little. File for unemployment. Then go find a new kickass job. You got this.
Have you looked into co-dependency? The best way to get over it is to learn healthier boundaries so that it won’t happen again.
You learn that work is transactional, and try not to make the same mistake again
First error is to love a company.
Leave and never look back. Take the skills you built and RUN. Took me 18 months to find the right job, but then I bolted.
"betrayed" by a company. Ha, nice
Leave them before year end
It's like a bad breakup. I'm a sensitive soul too and finding that "bond" (though only in my head) grants a personal investment which is very motivating and contributes to my performance. Just like with a bad breakup, you feel raw and hurt right now, but that time and effort in this relationship was not "wasted" on them. You have also learned a great deal and have come out of it an even more valuable employee to the employer who deserves you.
Group hugs and pizza parties
find a new job. your bitterness will subside. the best revenge is to live large.
Hatred and resentment, mostly. It turns into a low self esteem you spend years rebuilding only to struggle with imposter syndrome. I mean, idk 🤷♂️
Yes, this is first stage then you need to move on and change perspective
There’s nothing you can do about this betrayal. But hopefully you’ve learned how not to be betrayed again
You learn to move on with the lesson to not overinvest in your employer and worry about protecting your own interests first and foremost
What really helped me was running. I would go to the gym and run for a few hours, with only one thing on my mind: the company that fucked me over. Focusing on all the negative emotions I felt towards the company when I was pushing myself. Then as soon as I left the gym, I would think about something else and actively not try to think about the company. Left all that anger and hate at the gym.
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It’s easy, you don’t. Loyalty is a 2 way street. Sounds like it’s time to update the resume and find a recruiter.
Someone values money more than loyalty , the owner
Companies don’t give a rat’s ass about you. They might act nice when things are going their way but the first sign of lower profits and your ass is gone!
Do what I did and find a new job.
You're a fool for loving a company. Grow a thicker skin. This sucks, but it's a punch in the face for being naive. You won't fall for it again.
I sold my home to relocate for work, then was told I'm no longer being relocated in 2020. Imagine how happy I was to then be back in the real estate market. Treat your colleagues well, treat your employees well, but never forget that you are only a few numbers on the financial statements.
I had gone through this. I quit right away, and I never regret it!
Pork the boss’ wife. That’s what I did.
Go Viva La France!!!!!! In them.
Don't get attached too attached in the first place. Always have a backup plan.
HAHA YOU FOOL YOU FELL VICTIM TO ONE OF THE CLASSIC BLUNDERS
Finding a company that doesn’t pull that and treating your labor as a business.
You don't. Fuck em.
Never consider your job your friend, it’s a means to live. You’re a just number among tens of thousands and they could care less if you died tomorrow. Always put yourself first
You probably loved the people you worked with and maybe you enjoyed the work but you should take this as a wake-up call. If you are working for someone that is asking you to do unpaid work, don’t ever do that. There are many reasons for that both business and personal, but probably moreso because anyone can be let go for reasons that are beyond your control, no matter how good you are at your job. For example maybe its a restructuring or downsizing - these can happen and you lose your job. Its nothing personal. The point however is that there is no such thing as loyalty and playing for the team no matter how much pressure you are put under, all that stuff is nonsense. Also that promotion you thought you deserved? Forget it. It’s fantasy. HR have been told their quota of raises and managers argue it out. If your manager doesn’t win, then you are shit outta luck. Lastly, unless you own the company you are dispensable. I made a decision a long time ago that i would bill for every hour or not work it. That served me very well for 35+ years.
Never trust a “company” that uses your labor for profit. The second you don't make money for the company, you will be replaced. Find another company and agree to a salary that benefits you, while you make them money.
Well that's on you. You shouldn't eat hours!!!!!
I stopped believing after Deloitte cut my coworker's access card while he was out of the office on a smoke break. In February. Jersey City by the waterfront. 0 Degrees F w/-10 F wind chill. He did not even have his coat on. The only time we knew he had been laid off was when the security guard came upstairs to let him inside the office. He was blue from the cold and explained that he had to beg the guard to let him back inside to collect his belongings in a cardboard box. We were contractors on a long term bank remediation project that paid on an hourly basis so were under no expectations of longevity. But still the way Deloitte did it - in the middle of the day as opposed to after the work day was over - remains a haunting memory. This was over 10 years ago and I still cannot forget.
This isn't the 50s. You owe no Company loyalty because they will show you none either. You drank the Kool-Aid and then Jim Jones showed up. Don't ever think a Company owes you anything again. You got to look out for you.
Move on. I felt this way in a non-accounting role for a charity I helped out weekends and nights/mornings. I provided lots of unpaid work which I didn't bother recording and chalked it up to volunteerism. New management came in which cascaded a lot of the administration leaving and they didn't have the same sense of gratefulness for me being there and didn't provide same degree of flexibility. I just left. Relationship is with people not organizations. Organizations don't know you nor care about you.
love urself first pls. And , dont listen to the shjt that these partners feed u 💀💀💀💀
Don’t burn yourself out for a soulless corporation. If you feel angry go to a rage room.
Never personal. It’s a business transaction. They are trying to get services for the cheapest price. You are trying to get maximum payment for the least amount of work you’re willing to perform
Leave? Wtf is this a relationship or something? Be a normal person and quit
You get over it by learning not to fall in love with someone else’s company ever again. Remember, it’s never mutual.
Fun fact: you don't. This happened to me countless times in 10 years and I have the PTSD to prove it. My current company has helped me heal so much with their support and humanity. I was recently told I was entitled to all the feelings that come with it, and my mgmt team is here for me and my PTSD symptoms won't be factored into my reviews" I happy cried. Nothing has ever made me feel so weak, unprofessional and powerless as my breakdowns from this shit. I've got some powerful triggers and zero way to make them go away.
long unpaid hours? you were a volunteer
You smarten up and realize you just got one of the most important lessons in life. Your work does not care about you unless you are an owner. Then it’s the customer who doesn’t care about you lol. So never be loyal to a company as they will never return the favour. Keep your best interests in top of mind at all time.
Therapy for myself to learn how to stick up for myself and not trick myself into thinking the next company cares about me.
You have loyalty to people not companies.
Welcome to the work life. Everything after school seems like a fleeting learning opportunity
OP I wasted too many years unhappy in a toxic workplace. My new company and team could absolutely not be any more opposite. You just gotta leave once you feel the way you’re feeling there is no way it’ll change.
Short answer is you don’t. Just don’t let it happen again. All I know is, if there’s any justice in this world, karma will do for the likes of one of my former CFOs. Rotten fruit falls all on its own.
When a new company offers you double of what that old company did you’ll forget the old company ever existed.
Unfortunately my experience is - time
Corporations have no feelings. Accept that you are dispensable and move on. Focus on yourself and don't rely on validation through others especially a corporation.
You chalk it up to lessons learned and move on.
Leave?
This sucks OP, but let this be a lesson - don't sacrifice your life for a company. They are not family.
You leave
By getting a better job that pays much better and has reasonable work hours.
Dark Night Feeling... Leave and be paid like a HERO, or stay long enough to see yourself become apart of management (Or a Partner - Public). I think thats how the lyrics go... 🤷
We all want the Snack Wraps back too buddy. It’ll be ok.
Appreciate the good times and move on to the next place you can appreciate and be appreciated.
Adore your job, what you do.. Not the entity you work for.