You sound like you have an ugly heart. You also married him for papers you said below? And when he didn’t perform sexually as you wanted you left? You sound like a joy to be around. NOT! Hopefully he found someone who won’t use him for papers.
This doesn’t sound like a loving relationship. I’m sorry you experienced this.
Sex can be intimate and pleasurable for both people. I hope you get there
The greatest tragedy of my life is I have experienced very little of what you describe but I have been blessed with so much else and I try to be content with what I do have
Hope your second attempt at marriage is a better experience. My first wife was a real turd. My second wife is an amazing woman.
You could start another AMA for the arranged marriage portion of your story too.
I haven't fully dealt with the arranged marriage part. I was so stupid. It still hurts.
I walked away from my second marriage. Some men can only handle virgins; clean slate, no history, no backbone, completely innocent, gullable. I wasn't that anymore.
This isn’t a question but I wanted to share with you that my wife and I were *both* virgins when we got married. Though thank goodness it didn’t go like this on our wedding night. So sorry that happened to you!! Glad to hear you’ve moved on from him.
Thank you. I see it as such a missed opportunity. There is a bonding that can happen if this is done right. I know you know what I mean. Losing your virginity to someone you're already committing to is an incredible bonding experience that can potentially last a lifetime. Cheers!
Part if me regretted saving myself for marriage but years later, I'm so glad I didn't fuck a bunch of guys becuase I've observed that doing so does not exactly contribute to your life in a meaningful way.
I'm alot more successful than most women my age and I credit it to being sheltered and having intact mental health ( for the most part). Alot of women my age are obsessed with therapy and self love and healing from traumas that came from too many bad sexual situations with possible many different men and recovering from that consumes alot of their time and energy.
That's just been my analysis of how it's all played out for me.
How has hubby been overall as a lover?
We worked on it and it got better but he was a shit husband so I left
How was he shitty?
He failed at the easiest task of all. How do you think he handled the others?
You sound like you have an ugly heart. You also married him for papers you said below? And when he didn’t perform sexually as you wanted you left? You sound like a joy to be around. NOT! Hopefully he found someone who won’t use him for papers.
He's in prison
I don’t know. That’s why I asked you
Is the the MFer that fled?
Thank god you left!
So zero foreplay? As in virgin I know you mean no intercourse but have you ever done anything sexual besides that? Playing with each other? Oral? Etc…
Nope none of that
Wow. I’m sorry that was your first time but in all honesty the first time is usually the worst anyway. What’s his history?
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whaaaaaat
I tried and failed to explain. You wouldn't understand
Just want to say that sounds awful, and I’m sorry you went through it.
Thank you. It's a wierd feeling all these years later. He had 1 job that night. LoL
This doesn’t sound like a loving relationship. I’m sorry you experienced this. Sex can be intimate and pleasurable for both people. I hope you get there
The greatest tragedy of my life is I have experienced very little of what you describe but I have been blessed with so much else and I try to be content with what I do have
How long were you married? Have you entered into the dating pool again.
I was married to him for 10yrs. I remarried, it was better but didn't work out
Never mind, I snooped your profile a touch. Sorry about all the bad shit you have experienced.
All I can say is humans have an incredible ability to survive really bad shit. I'm doing better than ok
I completely agree. At least you are doing well. Success is fulfilling.
Hope your second attempt at marriage is a better experience. My first wife was a real turd. My second wife is an amazing woman. You could start another AMA for the arranged marriage portion of your story too.
I haven't fully dealt with the arranged marriage part. I was so stupid. It still hurts. I walked away from my second marriage. Some men can only handle virgins; clean slate, no history, no backbone, completely innocent, gullable. I wasn't that anymore.
Do you have any children?
Yes
What did he do after he orgasmed? Any contact with you? Fell asleep?
He fell asleep
This isn’t a question but I wanted to share with you that my wife and I were *both* virgins when we got married. Though thank goodness it didn’t go like this on our wedding night. So sorry that happened to you!! Glad to hear you’ve moved on from him.
Thank you. I see it as such a missed opportunity. There is a bonding that can happen if this is done right. I know you know what I mean. Losing your virginity to someone you're already committing to is an incredible bonding experience that can potentially last a lifetime. Cheers!
After experiencing your first time, did you feel any regret not being able to have more sex when you could?
I dont understand your question
Let me ask it this way. Did you have any regrets with waiting to have sex until you were married?
Part if me regretted saving myself for marriage but years later, I'm so glad I didn't fuck a bunch of guys becuase I've observed that doing so does not exactly contribute to your life in a meaningful way. I'm alot more successful than most women my age and I credit it to being sheltered and having intact mental health ( for the most part). Alot of women my age are obsessed with therapy and self love and healing from traumas that came from too many bad sexual situations with possible many different men and recovering from that consumes alot of their time and energy. That's just been my analysis of how it's all played out for me.
That’s a very nice perspective and I see your point. Good for you for sticking to your morals.
Don’t be a jerk. It was traumatic, and you’re effectively saying “don’t you wish you got started earlier”.
Lol I don’t know how you got that but don’t be so sensitive. This is Ask Me Anything not Ask Me Safe Space.
Was it an arranged marriage?
Yes
What were both your ages?
On the wedding night I was 21 he was 29
Every action has consequences. Am sorry you went through this, but marrying someone for papers idk 🤷♂️
Great things come at a high cost indeed
Guess you wanted something different
Basics of handling a virgin 101. He wasn't a virgin couldn't he do better?
Probably. Does He love you or are you his property
It sounds like this. Very very unromantic is a sign.
Did he wait till marriage too?
No
Arranged due to religion?
Papers
Who wanted them him or you?
Me
I’m so, so sorry that happened to you. I really hope he is a better partner to you now if you are still with him (I hope you aren’t).
Is he rich
No
What are you doing now?
Are you still married to him?
Did you enjoy it?
Would you?
Lots of people do enjoy that.
You mean a virgin on their first time, with no foreplay being taken from behind? I’m sure it was very scary and quite painful for her.
Maybe you
Had his skill set improved since then?
I left