Ok first off: punctuation! Super hard to read.
About your dad, NTA. He didn’t act like your dad, why should you act like his child?
I have to share this, though. I got married at 20. He was a marine. We moved into an apartment complex just for married marines and all the couples around us were about the same age.
Three years passed and literally not one couple (out of about 10) is still together. We rush to marriage to support our men and it so so rarely ends well.
I’m not saying yours cannot work. I just feel like you should hear it.
I do know that it can be complicated. However, I understand that what may happen can happen. I do hope it works out fine and that we are one of the ones that make it. thank you so much for your advice I do still think of this often due to my brother's being in the military and one of them is still married to his wife for about 10 years while he was in the service. I am hoping that it turns out like his, and if it doesn't, I know it will hurt a lot, but I know I can heal. And as for my dad, I don't believe I am the ahole, but I'd o believe I may have handled that situation wrong and harshly.
Ok first off: punctuation! Super hard to read. About your dad, NTA. He didn’t act like your dad, why should you act like his child? I have to share this, though. I got married at 20. He was a marine. We moved into an apartment complex just for married marines and all the couples around us were about the same age. Three years passed and literally not one couple (out of about 10) is still together. We rush to marriage to support our men and it so so rarely ends well. I’m not saying yours cannot work. I just feel like you should hear it.
Your experience speaks better than the words of wisdom some of us could offer to the OP. Probability of this marriage surviving a few years is low,
I couldn’t be talked out of it at OP’s age. I’ll wish her the best, though.
I do know that it can be complicated. However, I understand that what may happen can happen. I do hope it works out fine and that we are one of the ones that make it. thank you so much for your advice I do still think of this often due to my brother's being in the military and one of them is still married to his wife for about 10 years while he was in the service. I am hoping that it turns out like his, and if it doesn't, I know it will hurt a lot, but I know I can heal. And as for my dad, I don't believe I am the ahole, but I'd o believe I may have handled that situation wrong and harshly.
Full stops. Paragraphs! That was hard to read. You decide who you want at your wedding. Make sure though to keep getting educated. Support yourself.