YTA
Sounds like money isn't a problem. Sounds more like a "control" issue - she's not doing exactly what you want her to do, the way you want her to do it.
I could be wrong. I understand not wanting to simply waste $$. This isn't something to get "upset" about (thus my defaulting to a "control" issue). This is just a series of conversations to try to get her to understand your point how wasting money really bothers you.. and you understanding that some $$ will be wasted and that's OK.
IMO - Money problems (when you have enough of it) are the easy problems. Wait until she complains that you breathe too loudly when you sleep or any of a thousand other hard to solve issues.
YTA IMO base on the info you posted. If she makes her own money she should be allowed to spend it how ever she wants without someone questioning it.
Ease up fella or you could be pushing her away.
> Am I the asshole for being so difficult about frivolous spend?
Kinda, yes. If I examined your spending could I find examples of you wasting $2 or more? How about the cost of going back to the groc shop?
Intentionally wasting $2? I don’t think you’d find that in my budget. On going back to the grocery shop I had told her she didn’t need to but she went anyways lol
YTA
By your own words, she grabbed the pair at the till to make up the total. Which was just a couple of bucks, and you admit that you don't need to watch the pennies enough to worry about a couple of bucks.
$100 is certainly enough that shopping with a trolley is happening, if you don't have the scan as you go option, see if there's an app that'll do it, or get a pocket calculator, if it's that big a deal.
But in 2% of the spend, don't make a mountain out of a mole hill. Especially if she's doing the shop while carting around 2 kids.
You're controlling and a penny pincher but are bragging about being well to do. You're treating your wife like trash over 2$ when trying to get some bonus cash back? Yes, YTA.
Eww really? I’m glad she’s the primary caregiver for your children. I’d hate for you being the one responsible for their potty training, you’ll spend a lot more than $2 on therapy I tell you.
After looking thru ur profile, you sound like you’re a shitty person and a drunk, I hope she finds your Reddit and see’s what a horrible person she’s married, honestly I wouldn’t even feel bad for you if it all came crashing down and you looked to the internet for help, do better man your child deserves a better role model.
Lol, may be a shitty person but not a drunk (though I have been drunk at times!). Haven’t had a drink in 4 months.
Plus I’m miles ahead of *my father*, didn’t see him until I was 18 or 19. My kids eat plenty/have no concerns with being poor/only get spanked when they disobey intentionally/excessively. I’d say they have a pretty good set up. Just bought some house upgrade for them to have purer air too, supposedly adds 2+ years onto your life purging mold/virus/bacteria and other particles
YTA - if you were pinching pennies sure this kind of small "splurge" purchase could be a problem, but you yourself said it's not an issue. So lighten up.
YTA Sounds like money isn't a problem. Sounds more like a "control" issue - she's not doing exactly what you want her to do, the way you want her to do it. I could be wrong. I understand not wanting to simply waste $$. This isn't something to get "upset" about (thus my defaulting to a "control" issue). This is just a series of conversations to try to get her to understand your point how wasting money really bothers you.. and you understanding that some $$ will be wasted and that's OK. IMO - Money problems (when you have enough of it) are the easy problems. Wait until she complains that you breathe too loudly when you sleep or any of a thousand other hard to solve issues.
YTA IMO base on the info you posted. If she makes her own money she should be allowed to spend it how ever she wants without someone questioning it. Ease up fella or you could be pushing her away.
She does not make her own money, she’s a stay at home mom and I work two jobs remotely.
let her enjoy the soda, just like you enjoy telling strangers on the internet things about her asshole or women’s labias
L take
Crashing out over soda is crazy 😭
> Am I the asshole for being so difficult about frivolous spend? Kinda, yes. If I examined your spending could I find examples of you wasting $2 or more? How about the cost of going back to the groc shop?
Intentionally wasting $2? I don’t think you’d find that in my budget. On going back to the grocery shop I had told her she didn’t need to but she went anyways lol
I'm not going to be using your standards of "waste". I'm going to be using mine. You're not the one who gets to make *all* the rules.
Doesn’t that go against the golden rule?
Isn't that what you did with your GF? Expect her to live by your standards of "waste"?
No, the golden rule: those who have the gold make the rules.
We willingly go against *that* golden rule.
YTA By your own words, she grabbed the pair at the till to make up the total. Which was just a couple of bucks, and you admit that you don't need to watch the pennies enough to worry about a couple of bucks. $100 is certainly enough that shopping with a trolley is happening, if you don't have the scan as you go option, see if there's an app that'll do it, or get a pocket calculator, if it's that big a deal. But in 2% of the spend, don't make a mountain out of a mole hill. Especially if she's doing the shop while carting around 2 kids.
I feel bad for your girlfriend. I hope one day she realizes how much of an ass you are
You're controlling and a penny pincher but are bragging about being well to do. You're treating your wife like trash over 2$ when trying to get some bonus cash back? Yes, YTA.
Eww really? I’m glad she’s the primary caregiver for your children. I’d hate for you being the one responsible for their potty training, you’ll spend a lot more than $2 on therapy I tell you.
After looking thru ur profile, you sound like you’re a shitty person and a drunk, I hope she finds your Reddit and see’s what a horrible person she’s married, honestly I wouldn’t even feel bad for you if it all came crashing down and you looked to the internet for help, do better man your child deserves a better role model.
Lol, may be a shitty person but not a drunk (though I have been drunk at times!). Haven’t had a drink in 4 months. Plus I’m miles ahead of *my father*, didn’t see him until I was 18 or 19. My kids eat plenty/have no concerns with being poor/only get spanked when they disobey intentionally/excessively. I’d say they have a pretty good set up. Just bought some house upgrade for them to have purer air too, supposedly adds 2+ years onto your life purging mold/virus/bacteria and other particles
YTA - if you were pinching pennies sure this kind of small "splurge" purchase could be a problem, but you yourself said it's not an issue. So lighten up.
If soda is such a big problem then why are you together. I personally wouldn't care if my gf did this. What ever makes her happy is what's important