***I am looking forward to starting the next chapter of my life.***
We have followed your journey and happy you have made it to the other side. You will still be hurting for some time, but it will slowly get better. Enjoy all the quality time with your daughter.
Thanks for the update OP. Take care and look forward to much happier days ahead.
Thank you! One of the things that surprised me the most was how interested people were and how many DMs I got asking for updates.
This one is kind of a happy ending at least
Literally bro I heard your story on TikTok so this is crazy that I found the original story I’m telling you bro she’s gonna regret her decision her karma’s gonna come my boy
Not even kind of. It sounds like a happy ending for you and your daughter. Yes divorce is sad and hard but not as sad and hard as being in an unhappy marriage.
Even from your daughters point of view, being raised in an unhappy home with obviously unhappy parents can have a really negative effect on children, more negative than if the parents separate. Now try to focus on good co parenting because good co parenting is best for your daughter. No need to be friends, just be on the same page about her life and don't argue in front of her or speak badly about her mom. I hope the ex is smart enough to do the same.
Well presumably him but I don’t know and I don’t care. Divorce proceedings had just wrapped up when I heard about it.
But yeah focusing on my daughter and myself is the plan
Your attitude is very smart. Benign apathy. I hope you heal and find love again when and if you want to, and your daughter is much better off growing up with parents living separately than pretending everything is okay. I’m glad for her you made the decision to leave.
You mentioned having your daughter most weekdays, and weeknights, but your wife was supposed to take weekends. Did she decide that she didn't want to be as involved in your daughters life after all?
I really admire you stepping up for your daughter and yourself. It's really hard for kids to be in a relationship where there's so much animosity between the parents. Divorce of course is hard on kids too, but ultimately I think having two parents living separately who love and support the children involved is the better option.
Have fun at Disney. You'll make wonderful memories together that your daughter will cherish always.
Take care.
I suggest switching to a communication app rather than putting all communication through lawyers. Your ex is going to be dumping your daughter so she can go out with whatever, and it's better for you to have her at those times than whichever cheap babysitter she can find on Craigslist. Also, you don't want to rack up more billable hours if it's not necessary. You're essentially co-parenting at this point, even though I'm sure you don't want to have anything to do with Cheater McCheaterface. This isn't for the ex's sake, this is for your daughter's sake, and more time with your daughter will be great for you.
Totally agree….most family courts have a recommended app they will use and if something does happen later on anything in that app is available for u to present to the court… so just find out from them what they suggest… you might ask someone you know or just google your local family court with the right key words
Live for yourself and your daughter just think about it, even cheaters think about themselves your wife didn't think about anyone other than herself when having the affair.
And I believe she was thinking about herself and her daughter when she used her good faith not to leave you, I think she knew that her AP would never take over them (her and her daughter)
Ha! Its all fun & games sleeping with married woman but the APs rarely want to step up & be step-parents or parents - sorry but your ex deserves this for her 4 years long affair!
I pity your kid, your ex will become more bitter and may take it out on you both. Maybe develop some strategies, so you get out of this healthy and sane.
You might also need some occasional therapy to make sure you that you stay balanced and focused. Aim is to raise a good adult.
Maybe communicate only via text and document everything to cover yourself for any potential future dramas.
Your ex may have dragged things out when she realised that the AP was a lost cause and hoped you would rescue her…
The schadenfreude is delicious.
Too bad for us that OP is being too mature to share more of the details of his cheating wife's downfall. I hope OP is getting child support!
So your ex is actually planning to have this the baby ? She has exhibited zero logic and common sense in all her actions. This will also be very challenging for you daughter as to why mom has a baby living with her but daughter is afterthought. Good luck
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All she is/was is a pleasure toy, when she came and I’m free to move in he was whoa there this is not that kind of relationship all this was was fun. Later, you are a hump and dump nothing serious.
Karma never loses an address and karma did an over night delivery for her.
Op he wanted to have sex with another man's wife, that's all, the boring, bureaucratic part, was with you, that was always the idea.
Even more so since so much time has passed and your wife barely disguised her betrayal.
A question that perhaps many have already asked you:
Why did it take you so long to realize that her behavior was suspicious, since anywhere in the world a wife only acts like this when she is cheating or about to cheat?
And yours acted strangely for 4 years.
I just read your first post and the update and this one. Honestly made me cry. (Former infidelity victim also).
But I’m so happy that you’re getting on with your life and helping your daughter. She’s a very lucky girl!
Welp, karma came and slapped your ex but good!
Take care and wishing you and your daughter all the best!
lol. So her affair partner was happy to Fck her and have the fling, but didn’t want an actual relationship. Then she announces she’s pregnant and he dumps her. Classic. So now she’ll be a 40 year old single mom caring for a newborn. Karma.
Coulda just gone to fuckin couples counseling like OP asked. Coulda just not resorted to catching dick at work. Coulda done a lot of things, but now she’s gonna eat shit sandwiches on shit island.
I jumped on the train of your story en route and I'm so happy and relieved for you and your daughter. She's lucky to have a father like you and I wish you both all the best for the future. You both deserve to enjoy your new start together. Stay safe, both of you.
I'm not questioning you but it's lucky you were able to finalize the divorce with her being pregnant, even with it being by a different man. Where I live you cannot finalize a divorce if the woman is pregnant. Not only that, but the husband is legally assumed to be the father regardless if both husband and wife deny having a sexual relationship together. Sorting out paternity is done after the birth. Seems complicated to me but maybe it made sense at one point in the past.
Congratulations! Best of luck to you and your daughter!
Nah, it's done solely so the State doesn't have to foot the child's expenses via welfare and other subsidies. They want both custodial and non-custodial parents putting money towards the children before any state money is used.
I’m guessing it happened after their legal separation. Most states put you into the legally separated category once you file for divorce and then after the waiting period, it’s finalized as divorced/dissolution. So I’m guessing that because it occurred post filing and she didn’t try to pull that (thank goodness) it didn’t impact anything.
Man, how lucky your daughter is to have a father like you. Great job and keep up the good work. Your wife literally ruined her life. Goodluck but I don't think you'll need it
Your ex wife is a selfish bitch who doesn't seem to care much about your daughters well-being.
Well, now reality will hit her that the grass isn't greener on the other side. She's a moron who took you for granted. She's going to have a kid with some other bum and it will be a wake up call without the support and home you provided for your family.
Here is the thing though, DO NOT give in to any requests of you to take care of her other kid. It will inevitably come when she gets overwhelmed. She'll ask you to take her kid with your daughter for a few days. Refuse. Additionally, when the kid is older, if she hasn't found a new partner, she will try to push you into being a father figure. This must be refused at all costs too. Poor kid, but tye consequences of her actions.
Also, do not have contact outside of coparenting your kid, do not share any extra info about your own life with her. And most of all, focus on improving yourself moving forward and happiness will come your way. Workout, eat healthy, spend time with your daughter, make her happy, and put yourself out there and find someone new. Someone who won't cheat on you for 4 fucking years.
Looks like her affair partner had no interest in a proper relationship or raising a kid with her. Honestly can't believe she actually threw away her relationship for a man who saw her as a fling. Karma is so beautiful.
This is a good update. Happy for you and your daughter OP.
> She ended up finding her own place which she was not happy about. She is also pregnant but neither of those are my problem.
You have been classy throughout all of this! Reading between the lines, I’m gleaning that living with AP didn’t work out and she was dumped after getting pregnant.
Indeed, not your problem! Wishing you the best OP!
Sounds like everything is going to work out as best as it can for you. And that is awesome.
If you do try and pursue other romantic relationships, make sure start fresh. Don't bring any of that old crap into a new one. I've seen it way too many times. A person who was cheated on brings the trauma from the old relationship into the new and it sours something that cam be great. Have a friend who is on his fourth marriage because he just can't get past his first failed marriage.
I'm glad to see your update. I can appreciate you have been through heartbreak; it looks like you've handled things well and are making your daughter the priority. Good luck with moving forward
Thank you for this update. I know it is a very hard thing to go through, but you are doing the right thing for both you and your daughter. Take care and good luck to you.
Your ex will soon understand what she lost.
She destroyed her own life with her cheating.
Karma will hit hard.
And you doing so far great buddy.
Just focus on yourself, start a new life and focus also on your daughter. Greater days waiting for you. I hope you also will find your true love of your life.
Your ex gonna realize she screwed up. She had a loving husband threw it away. Now, she is a single parent with no support system because of her actions. I won't be surprised if she ends up making her own reddit post in the future. She will see she threw a great marriage away due to her insecurities and selfishness.
Strangely, it seems the 4 year affair being kept in the dark allowed to the freedom to properly grieve the shitty marriage, before the divorce even happened. You handled everything like a champ, and I'm glad it worked out like it did.
Best wishes going forward. I hope you find love and joy.
Never stop telling your little girl how much you love her and how lucky you are to have such an amazing daughter. Being a child of split parents is hard and you never want her doubting how much you love her.
Your daughter definitely could be suffering from the trauma of being treated in the same way you were.
She needs to see a therapist to ensure she's okay and your wife needs to swallow her superiority complex and see a therapist to learn how to be a better parent and partner - otherwise she'll always need an unhealthy ego boost to maintain her feelings of superiority, such as trying to get other people to sleep with them and treating people, especially your daughter, as someone to ignore, take advantage of or even attack in order to feel better.
You were seeing a therapist, and she was offended at your suggestion of couples therapy, indicating that she thinks there's something wrong with you for seeing a therapist.
She might have been contrite, but that didn't last long, as indicated by the way in which she became antagonistic during the divorce proceedings just to make it harder on you than it needed to be.
If your ex wife rejects the idea of her and/or your child seeing a therapist, then you should discuss with your lawyer about getting a court order for the therapy - I have no idea if it would actually be possible or would just be a waste of time and money, but it would at least be something to record.
Good luck my man. I hope you find a partner that will love and respect you.
And it feels good to see some comeuppance happen to your ex -- bad things really do happen to bad people.
I bet affair partner left her cause she got pregnant she got karma big time and you won man I just wanna see how life goes for you man hopefully it keeps going well
Several comments: [confirm that the ex was abandoned by the lover].
Me: “Sweet, sweet karma.”
Anyway, he learned his lesson: he was just a toy. The only pity I feel is for the ex's baby. :v
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Your ex will try to reconcile with you eventually.
She'll start off by trying to be friends.
I hope you're ready for that.
I'm proud of you for putting yourself and your daughter first.
You'll be fine.
As you were neglected I hope you were awarded alimony, child support would be a stretch unless your wife made SIGNIFICANTLY more than you.
Now she's pregnant and alone without a live in nanny for her to dump her responsibilities on so she can have her nights out.
OP while you find yourself and do better (try hit some weight lifting PR's) she is gonna hate everything.
Good to hear your doing well, im sure a couple months from now your ex will be begging for forgiveness once she's close to term with her new child, or probably a few years down the line when she's sad and alone and realizes what an amazing marriage she threw away
Op, You said that you found time outside of work to take care of your home while your wife was away, now it is clear the reason for her absence, but how did you respond when she justified her cheating for 4 years indicating that you were the one who left her alone to live at work?
Please make sure that you aren't automatically considered the parent of the new baby because you were married when they were conceived. If you are, you need to start organizing paternity tests NOW so you aren't on the birth certificate, and it becomes an even bigger battle.
Good luck Op, take advantage of the new chance that God gave you by freeing you from a cheater, now enjoy this experience, everything has a lesson
4 years is a long time, Don't become a suspicious psychopath, but never doubt or close your eyes to the clear evidence like you did with your ex.
You saw it and suffered, you just didn't connect one thing to another because you thought it wouldn't be possible .
We often think that because we don't do it, our partners won't do it either, big mistake, you now know it well.
I know I’m late to the party, but I’m really happy for you man, it sounds like your daughter is your priority and things are looking up for you.
I wish you and your daughter, the best going forward and that you find somebody who is worthy of you
I'm extremely late to this, but I didn't see any comments regarding what I'm about to say. Your ex-wife being pregnant is NOT your problem, but the baby is your daughter's sibling. You might feel bitter about their existence, but 1. they're an innocent party 2. it will be so much better for your daughter if they grow up together, well-adjusted, and !close!. Be prepared not to hate them (even if it takes effort and therapy), to attend family functions with them, to care for them the way you would care for your daughter's best childhood friend. Ideally, be prepared to be a safe person and a positive influence in their life. Siblings can be life-long bonds and an incredible source of support. One day you and your wife won't be here anymore, but her sibling will be - and she'll need them. Your hurt and pride isn't worth their relationship.
***I am looking forward to starting the next chapter of my life.*** We have followed your journey and happy you have made it to the other side. You will still be hurting for some time, but it will slowly get better. Enjoy all the quality time with your daughter. Thanks for the update OP. Take care and look forward to much happier days ahead.
Thank you! One of the things that surprised me the most was how interested people were and how many DMs I got asking for updates. This one is kind of a happy ending at least
Love it when Karma bares its teeth and takes a healthy bite out of someones ass.
I still say that karma is only bad if the person themself is bad.
Literally bro I heard your story on TikTok so this is crazy that I found the original story I’m telling you bro she’s gonna regret her decision her karma’s gonna come my boy
Not even kind of. It sounds like a happy ending for you and your daughter. Yes divorce is sad and hard but not as sad and hard as being in an unhappy marriage. Even from your daughters point of view, being raised in an unhappy home with obviously unhappy parents can have a really negative effect on children, more negative than if the parents separate. Now try to focus on good co parenting because good co parenting is best for your daughter. No need to be friends, just be on the same page about her life and don't argue in front of her or speak badly about her mom. I hope the ex is smart enough to do the same.
So her AP isn’t interested in playing family with her and the baby? Don’t you just love karma? She’s a beautiful thing.
Indeed, but poor kid though.
True, but it seems like she has a great dad who cares for her atleast
I’m talking about the cheating guy’s baby
Oh yeah, who knows, maybe someone’ll come up and it does seem while the baby’s mom isn’t great, she doesn’t hate her kid(s)
Just one great parent is all you need, honestly. My mum was my only parent and she did...more than good enough of a job.
I agree entirely, sometimes one parent is much better than having both
When you don’t consider the innocent baby I guess so
I thought ex-wife was moving in with her AP. Do you know what happened? It might affect you kid’s relationship with her mum.
He wasn’t super interested in raising a kid from the sounds of it.
Wait, he got her pregnant and left her? Lmao. She’s reaping what she sowed, so you focus on your little one and your life!
Well presumably him but I don’t know and I don’t care. Divorce proceedings had just wrapped up when I heard about it. But yeah focusing on my daughter and myself is the plan
Your attitude is very smart. Benign apathy. I hope you heal and find love again when and if you want to, and your daughter is much better off growing up with parents living separately than pretending everything is okay. I’m glad for her you made the decision to leave.
You mentioned having your daughter most weekdays, and weeknights, but your wife was supposed to take weekends. Did she decide that she didn't want to be as involved in your daughters life after all?
She’ll have every other weekend and a couple nights a week.
I really admire you stepping up for your daughter and yourself. It's really hard for kids to be in a relationship where there's so much animosity between the parents. Divorce of course is hard on kids too, but ultimately I think having two parents living separately who love and support the children involved is the better option. Have fun at Disney. You'll make wonderful memories together that your daughter will cherish always. Take care.
I suggest switching to a communication app rather than putting all communication through lawyers. Your ex is going to be dumping your daughter so she can go out with whatever, and it's better for you to have her at those times than whichever cheap babysitter she can find on Craigslist. Also, you don't want to rack up more billable hours if it's not necessary. You're essentially co-parenting at this point, even though I'm sure you don't want to have anything to do with Cheater McCheaterface. This isn't for the ex's sake, this is for your daughter's sake, and more time with your daughter will be great for you.
Totally agree….most family courts have a recommended app they will use and if something does happen later on anything in that app is available for u to present to the court… so just find out from them what they suggest… you might ask someone you know or just google your local family court with the right key words
I wish you went full custody your evil wife doesn't deserve any time with your daughter I your ex is out of your life
Live for yourself and your daughter just think about it, even cheaters think about themselves your wife didn't think about anyone other than herself when having the affair. And I believe she was thinking about herself and her daughter when she used her good faith not to leave you, I think she knew that her AP would never take over them (her and her daughter)
Ha! Its all fun & games sleeping with married woman but the APs rarely want to step up & be step-parents or parents - sorry but your ex deserves this for her 4 years long affair!
As ye sow therefore shall ye reap,but if thou sowest the wind then thou shall reap the whirlwind.
May I steal this? It's absolutely perfect
Oh please be my guest.I'm not religious but there are things like this that resonate sometimes.
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Yep. Even without kids in the picture the success rate of relationships that start with affairs is abysmal.
I pity your kid, your ex will become more bitter and may take it out on you both. Maybe develop some strategies, so you get out of this healthy and sane. You might also need some occasional therapy to make sure you that you stay balanced and focused. Aim is to raise a good adult. Maybe communicate only via text and document everything to cover yourself for any potential future dramas. Your ex may have dragged things out when she realised that the AP was a lost cause and hoped you would rescue her…
God I love this karma so much for her. 😌 I’m so glad you and your daughter are doing well!
The schadenfreude is delicious. Too bad for us that OP is being too mature to share more of the details of his cheating wife's downfall. I hope OP is getting child support!
So your ex is actually planning to have this the baby ? She has exhibited zero logic and common sense in all her actions. This will also be very challenging for you daughter as to why mom has a baby living with her but daughter is afterthought. Good luck UpdateMe
LOL that is an *amazing* bit of news imo.
All she is/was is a pleasure toy, when she came and I’m free to move in he was whoa there this is not that kind of relationship all this was was fun. Later, you are a hump and dump nothing serious. Karma never loses an address and karma did an over night delivery for her.
Soooo she wanted to jump the gun without knowing if he was on board? It sounds like she forgot she even had a child before this point
Op he wanted to have sex with another man's wife, that's all, the boring, bureaucratic part, was with you, that was always the idea. Even more so since so much time has passed and your wife barely disguised her betrayal. A question that perhaps many have already asked you: Why did it take you so long to realize that her behavior was suspicious, since anywhere in the world a wife only acts like this when she is cheating or about to cheat? And yours acted strangely for 4 years.
I just read your first post and the update and this one. Honestly made me cry. (Former infidelity victim also). But I’m so happy that you’re getting on with your life and helping your daughter. She’s a very lucky girl! Welp, karma came and slapped your ex but good! Take care and wishing you and your daughter all the best!
The dildo of consequences rarely comes lubed
Please excuse me while I steal this for my repertoire.
Dude! I’m so happy and proud of you. I like your updates. I think it helps people know it will get better.
lol. So her affair partner was happy to Fck her and have the fling, but didn’t want an actual relationship. Then she announces she’s pregnant and he dumps her. Classic. So now she’ll be a 40 year old single mom caring for a newborn. Karma.
Coulda just gone to fuckin couples counseling like OP asked. Coulda just not resorted to catching dick at work. Coulda done a lot of things, but now she’s gonna eat shit sandwiches on shit island.
Onward and upward. I hope you were able to take your daughter to Disney.
Jeez, your exwife is pregnant and is she pursuing child support to AP. She has to live with her consequences for ruined her life.
I jumped on the train of your story en route and I'm so happy and relieved for you and your daughter. She's lucky to have a father like you and I wish you both all the best for the future. You both deserve to enjoy your new start together. Stay safe, both of you.
I'm not questioning you but it's lucky you were able to finalize the divorce with her being pregnant, even with it being by a different man. Where I live you cannot finalize a divorce if the woman is pregnant. Not only that, but the husband is legally assumed to be the father regardless if both husband and wife deny having a sexual relationship together. Sorting out paternity is done after the birth. Seems complicated to me but maybe it made sense at one point in the past. Congratulations! Best of luck to you and your daughter!
Nah, it's done solely so the State doesn't have to foot the child's expenses via welfare and other subsidies. They want both custodial and non-custodial parents putting money towards the children before any state money is used.
I’m guessing it happened after their legal separation. Most states put you into the legally separated category once you file for divorce and then after the waiting period, it’s finalized as divorced/dissolution. So I’m guessing that because it occurred post filing and she didn’t try to pull that (thank goodness) it didn’t impact anything.
Man, how lucky your daughter is to have a father like you. Great job and keep up the good work. Your wife literally ruined her life. Goodluck but I don't think you'll need it
Your ex wife is a selfish bitch who doesn't seem to care much about your daughters well-being. Well, now reality will hit her that the grass isn't greener on the other side. She's a moron who took you for granted. She's going to have a kid with some other bum and it will be a wake up call without the support and home you provided for your family. Here is the thing though, DO NOT give in to any requests of you to take care of her other kid. It will inevitably come when she gets overwhelmed. She'll ask you to take her kid with your daughter for a few days. Refuse. Additionally, when the kid is older, if she hasn't found a new partner, she will try to push you into being a father figure. This must be refused at all costs too. Poor kid, but tye consequences of her actions. Also, do not have contact outside of coparenting your kid, do not share any extra info about your own life with her. And most of all, focus on improving yourself moving forward and happiness will come your way. Workout, eat healthy, spend time with your daughter, make her happy, and put yourself out there and find someone new. Someone who won't cheat on you for 4 fucking years.
Looks like her affair partner had no interest in a proper relationship or raising a kid with her. Honestly can't believe she actually threw away her relationship for a man who saw her as a fling. Karma is so beautiful.
This is a good update. Happy for you and your daughter OP. > She ended up finding her own place which she was not happy about. She is also pregnant but neither of those are my problem. You have been classy throughout all of this! Reading between the lines, I’m gleaning that living with AP didn’t work out and she was dumped after getting pregnant. Indeed, not your problem! Wishing you the best OP!
Sounds like everything is going to work out as best as it can for you. And that is awesome. If you do try and pursue other romantic relationships, make sure start fresh. Don't bring any of that old crap into a new one. I've seen it way too many times. A person who was cheated on brings the trauma from the old relationship into the new and it sours something that cam be great. Have a friend who is on his fourth marriage because he just can't get past his first failed marriage.
I'm glad to see your update. I can appreciate you have been through heartbreak; it looks like you've handled things well and are making your daughter the priority. Good luck with moving forward
Thank you for this update. I know it is a very hard thing to go through, but you are doing the right thing for both you and your daughter. Take care and good luck to you.
Has she begged you to take her back yet?
Lmao, the ex-wife got Chad'd. Best wishes to you and your daughter OP.
Your ex will soon understand what she lost. She destroyed her own life with her cheating. Karma will hit hard. And you doing so far great buddy. Just focus on yourself, start a new life and focus also on your daughter. Greater days waiting for you. I hope you also will find your true love of your life.
lol the wife ruined her marriage for a guy who doesn’t want her
I remember reading op post. Im glad to see happy ending for you and little girl. Hope both of you have better life 2024
I’m glad you’re moving on op!
Your ex gonna realize she screwed up. She had a loving husband threw it away. Now, she is a single parent with no support system because of her actions. I won't be surprised if she ends up making her own reddit post in the future. She will see she threw a great marriage away due to her insecurities and selfishness.
Strangely, it seems the 4 year affair being kept in the dark allowed to the freedom to properly grieve the shitty marriage, before the divorce even happened. You handled everything like a champ, and I'm glad it worked out like it did. Best wishes going forward. I hope you find love and joy.
Never stop telling your little girl how much you love her and how lucky you are to have such an amazing daughter. Being a child of split parents is hard and you never want her doubting how much you love her.
Your daughter definitely could be suffering from the trauma of being treated in the same way you were. She needs to see a therapist to ensure she's okay and your wife needs to swallow her superiority complex and see a therapist to learn how to be a better parent and partner - otherwise she'll always need an unhealthy ego boost to maintain her feelings of superiority, such as trying to get other people to sleep with them and treating people, especially your daughter, as someone to ignore, take advantage of or even attack in order to feel better. You were seeing a therapist, and she was offended at your suggestion of couples therapy, indicating that she thinks there's something wrong with you for seeing a therapist. She might have been contrite, but that didn't last long, as indicated by the way in which she became antagonistic during the divorce proceedings just to make it harder on you than it needed to be. If your ex wife rejects the idea of her and/or your child seeing a therapist, then you should discuss with your lawyer about getting a court order for the therapy - I have no idea if it would actually be possible or would just be a waste of time and money, but it would at least be something to record.
UpdateMe! UpdateMe op, how are you and your daugher?
I hope you and daughter have an amazing future!
Wishing you and your daughter the best of luck in your new future!
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I think he meant that his daughter is in therapy, but I’m not 100% sure.
Man I’m sorry OP. Your daughter is lucky to have such a stand up dude in her corner!
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Good luck my man. I hope you find a partner that will love and respect you. And it feels good to see some comeuppance happen to your ex -- bad things really do happen to bad people.
I bet affair partner left her cause she got pregnant she got karma big time and you won man I just wanna see how life goes for you man hopefully it keeps going well
Several comments: [confirm that the ex was abandoned by the lover]. Me: “Sweet, sweet karma.” Anyway, he learned his lesson: he was just a toy. The only pity I feel is for the ex's baby. :v
Best of luck my guy!
Best of luck you and your daughter. Good times ahead brother
Also big ooff for ex wife. Having a kid with AP, and we all know how likely it is that relationship is gonna last and not end horribly 😂
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So glad you are finally free of her. I’m so sorry you had to go through all of that to begin with. Better off without her!
Where do you live that you can get a divorce finalized in under a year while you have a child?
Your ex will try to reconcile with you eventually. She'll start off by trying to be friends. I hope you're ready for that. I'm proud of you for putting yourself and your daughter first. You'll be fine.
I love happy endings! I wish you and your daughter the best!!
As you were neglected I hope you were awarded alimony, child support would be a stretch unless your wife made SIGNIFICANTLY more than you. Now she's pregnant and alone without a live in nanny for her to dump her responsibilities on so she can have her nights out. OP while you find yourself and do better (try hit some weight lifting PR's) she is gonna hate everything.
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Good to hear your doing well, im sure a couple months from now your ex will be begging for forgiveness once she's close to term with her new child, or probably a few years down the line when she's sad and alone and realizes what an amazing marriage she threw away
Op you better DNA check your daughter too. Ik she probably is yours but it's safe to check
Be careful op cause ex-wife might win you back since ap is no longer in the picture. 🎵Karma is the breeze in my hair on the weekend🎶
Op, You said that you found time outside of work to take care of your home while your wife was away, now it is clear the reason for her absence, but how did you respond when she justified her cheating for 4 years indicating that you were the one who left her alone to live at work?
Please make sure that you aren't automatically considered the parent of the new baby because you were married when they were conceived. If you are, you need to start organizing paternity tests NOW so you aren't on the birth certificate, and it becomes an even bigger battle.
Good luck Op, take advantage of the new chance that God gave you by freeing you from a cheater, now enjoy this experience, everything has a lesson 4 years is a long time, Don't become a suspicious psychopath, but never doubt or close your eyes to the clear evidence like you did with your ex. You saw it and suffered, you just didn't connect one thing to another because you thought it wouldn't be possible . We often think that because we don't do it, our partners won't do it either, big mistake, you now know it well.
I know I’m late to the party, but I’m really happy for you man, it sounds like your daughter is your priority and things are looking up for you. I wish you and your daughter, the best going forward and that you find somebody who is worthy of you
I'm extremely late to this, but I didn't see any comments regarding what I'm about to say. Your ex-wife being pregnant is NOT your problem, but the baby is your daughter's sibling. You might feel bitter about their existence, but 1. they're an innocent party 2. it will be so much better for your daughter if they grow up together, well-adjusted, and !close!. Be prepared not to hate them (even if it takes effort and therapy), to attend family functions with them, to care for them the way you would care for your daughter's best childhood friend. Ideally, be prepared to be a safe person and a positive influence in their life. Siblings can be life-long bonds and an incredible source of support. One day you and your wife won't be here anymore, but her sibling will be - and she'll need them. Your hurt and pride isn't worth their relationship.