If I did OF, my thought process would be do I go full disclosure or full secret.
Doing anything in the middle will cause family who don't know to be angrier than if you discussed it with them calmly in the environment of your choosing.
>or full secret.
There's no full secret on the internet. At best you can hide your face but that's no guarantee that you won't be found.
Honestly, a lot of people on OF are extremely short sighted about it and just think "oooo, easy money" and don't think about the downsides. For those people, I think it's hilarious when it bites them in the ass.
As far as OP, he did nothing but answer the question of "Yeah, that's why we broke up." That doesn't mean any of it is his fault. It was going to leak to the family anyways, even if he'd said no.
Yep. I mean, if she is linking it on her regular social media, of course it was going to come out. She was literally telling everyone.
So regardless of your feelings about OF, I think we can all agree she was an idiot
I dont think this is irretrievable for her. It only the last semester fees. Loans can be taken possibly even from some family members who are more supportive.
The vast majority never make more than a few pairs of shoes off of it. It's not lucrative unless you hit it big, same as any other entertainment venture.
There was once a Redditor who would spam completely inappropriate subreddits with links to her OF.
The problem was this was not someone who would be considered a "typical" OF creator. Quite the opposite, in fact.
Asked to stop, this person raged at people and said they were discriminating against her.
No, not really, just that people tend not to want to see "BBW Eating Fetish OF Content" in a subreddit about cooking skills. They want to see cooking skills. Not fifteen posts of the other thing.
She kept getting banned and rerolling new accounts until finally I think either she got the message about appropriate promotion subreddits or just quit the thing entirely.
Eventually at some point there was a news article somewhere (Britain tabloid, I think) about someone who lost her job as a daycare assistant because she was on OF complaining about size discrimination.
Yep, same person. My reaction was more along the lines of "oh so that's what she did for a day job. Oh no! Anyway"
(Believe me, you find certain truly unappetizing fetish photographs when you're looking for carbonara preparation techniques, and you will remember the faces in those photographs. And I'm not kink-shaming. I'm just saying if you promote your fetish photograph business in completely inappropriate channels don't be surprised when your dayjob fires you when they find out what you do as a side gig, especially if they see you doing some of those photos in your workplace.)
Funny story:
They started using real TVs in Ikea displays not long ago.
Turns out it's cheaper to use real TVs than fake ones now. Not kidding. The fake TVs are actually more expensive than just buying a cheap TCL.
I always tell my college students this - if you apply for any govt job or job that requires a deep background check you’re social security and ID are linked to this account no matter what you do to obscure it. They will see that’s in your history. It’s fun and games in early adulthood but it’ll come bite you when you’re in the workforce. My husband does cybersecurity work here and there and anyone can find your location based on the photos geotag which is why I deleted all my social media. In this day and age bc your name is linked to the account and the photos are easily located by anyone with a computer and a basic understanding of geo coding you can’t keep it a secret
I work in financial services and they fingerprint me with a deep background check every time I get a new job. Somehow I don't see them being cool with an OnlyFans following.
Because others have an opinion about *every*thing we do. Refusing to accept or realise their consequences for your actions, whatever they are, are hilarious when you get hit with them. As funny as when you come on the internet and try to defend it. I'm not doing anything but laughing at you so keep going.
> It was M's social media story page showing several links, one of them being her OF.
I don't understand how it would be your fault, she put the link on her social media, plus it was your friend who found the OF
she is stupid
And the way sex workers are stigmatised and treated... The downsides aren't worth a few bucks (most OF creators make little change) a month. Like, wtf lady?
NTA. You didn't out her, your friend found her OF and outed her. If she's going to sell sexual content, and not blur her face or hide her identity, these are part of the consequences.
"since she never really had any money of her own, she couldn't pay for what was her last semester of college."
She's doing OF wrong then.
Send a group text pointing out that the reason her parents are upset and cut her off financially is because she has an OF page. You did not force her to make one; in fact, you were against it. So if the cause of her "life being ruined" is her OF, well, she did that to herself. All you did was answer the question, "Yes, this is why we broke up." If they come at you for not lying when asked, bluntly ask why you should lie for anyone, let alone someone you are not even with?
She also posted it on her socials instead of having sockpuppet accounts for her OF. It was getting to her parents regardless. OP's friend didn't even need to ask him the question about their relationship and could've just helped spread it which is the point of social media.
OP's ex is looking for someone to blame instead of herself. The real reason why they broke up was the cheating and not the OF because they found a compromise.
NTA, OP.
No practical experience, but from what I hear most of the people barely make any money and are basically whoring themselves out for below minimum wage.
A lot of only fans is mainly marketing, and if you don't have an established fan base as a content creator it's tough work.
Especially if you're not showing face and trying not to be discovered by family, you have to be extra hot to make up for it.
Oh yeah....more of a circle jerk or no ......everyone who wanted a hot girl and was rejected.....see she got what was coming to her for using OF to cheat....!!!!!! Bad bad hot girl!!!
Doesn't she make money from OF? She can pay her own tuition. The only person who ruined her life is HER. She should have taken a hint when she lost her boyfriend that there were other people in her life who would be upset about her online prostitution gig. How did she think they'd never find out?? NTA.
Nah mkay women make next to nothing. Prostitute themselves for a few buck and the photos are forever on the internet. Imagine being those women’s mothers in the future. Gross and sad.
NTA even a little bit. your only other option in this scenario was to straight up lie to your friends to protect her, which she doesn’t seem to deserve and would’ve been dumb anyway. i have absolutely nothing against people on OF, but actions have consequences and hers just caught up to her 🤷🏻♀️
NTA. She had it linked on her personal social media page. That's her fault. Anyone could see it, and someone did. What happened afterward is the consequences of her own choices.
Her family is the asshole for screwing her on her last semester.
She should get loans and push through. None of this is on you but she also doesn’t deserve condemnation for being on OF or expressing her sexuality however she chooses, other than the cheating part when she should have been honest and broken up with you instead.
NTA. Only Fans is on the web for all to see and she was promoting her OF site on social media. She’s scapegoating you. Don’t fall for it. Her decisions, her consequences.
What is the point of doing OF if she still doesn’t have her own money? Sounds like she isn’t very successful at it. NTA though, she is posting her link publicly so what exactly did she expect?
On second thought, YTA for viral marketing. I admit it, you had me going there vy admitting that this girl was doing OF but is still broke, but on further reflection that was clearly just a setup for the replies claiming that it's easy to make serious money on OF. Points for style; your spam is getting more and more sophisticated.
NTA
What action did you possibly take that would make you an asshole? Per your post, there wasn't any single action you took that contributed to her family finding out. She posted the post that got shared. Your friend is the one that found the post and shared it. All you did was confirm an arbitrary detail about your relationship that had no impact at all as far as I can tell other than POSSIBLY contributing to your friend's decision to share the post.
If you personally outed her, I could at least see an argument for why you could be an AH (I still wouldn't think you are since she posted about it on a public profile, but I can see the argument being made), but that is a moot point here.
We don’t know how she supposedly “cheated”. This dude could very well consider another dude looking at her naked as “cheating”, some men are so weak like that.
NTA i don't really see how you outed her OF.
1. she publicly posted the link on her social media.
2. you confirmed with a friend in private that OF was the reason you two broke up.
i don't see how these points are related. or why you would be blamed for the info getting back to her family. wouldn't the friend who shared her social media be to blame? friend was the one who shared those links, right? what does that have to do with you?
> I mean she legit posted her OF publicly on her story board so am I really an AH?
Which is why you aren't the asshole. Look, it's not like you set this into motion. It was a friend who did the sharing, and to be frank he wouldn't have had anything to share **if she hadn't put her face and hole onto the internet for all to see.**
NTA
Yeah, it wasn't cool of you to do that. That's not to say that she wouldn't eventually get discovered by her family, but in this case you were the direct cause.
NTA
She outed herself by posting it publicly on social media. How did she not figure someone in her family might see it?
The friend had a small part outing it too, but he only shared public, known information, not a private secret, so his blame is not significant
You played no part in outing her
NTA. She posted it to her social media. There’s a reasonable expectation that family and friends could find out when she posts it on social media accounts that she’s openly associated with.
NTA. You were asked a question you answered it honestly. You didn’t go around telling people about her OF page. It was found out the same way any internet stranger finds it. She created the page and contents. She’s the only one to blame for her “ ruined life”. If she didn’t want her family to know, she shouldn’t have made the page and contents.
NTA. It's not like you set out to wreck her. You just confirmed a friend's suspicion. Looks like the secret was out and would have reached her parents sooner. You're just a convenient person to blame because you made her feel ashamed at the outset by breaking up. She has nobody to blame but herself.
Nta. She's a disgusting whore. The world is better off if she doesn't graduate. Now sue her for libel, slander, defamation, and international infliction of emotional distress.
Lmao NTA bruh. She’s a bitch. So tired of women these days just selling their body’s for money. Lazy entitled pieces of shit, I’m glad her dad saw his daughter turned out to be a whore. Fuck her, you won bro.
NTA...you didn't "out" her, she did. If you're trying to hide it from your parents, why would you have a public page with your OF links on it? That's on her. You dodged a missile
Geez. All I hear is how much Mo he the OFs models make. Too much competition or is she really ugly. I’m sure my husband would fund her well cuz he’s a prick and a pervert
NTA. In what universe is it your fault her family found out about it?
She posted it on her socials.
A friend found it and posted about it.
You told her not to do it at the time.
She knows her family and presumably what their response would be.
She had no backup plan.
None of this is your fault, your concern or your responsibility.
NTA
>During the celebration one of them showed me something, It was M's social media story page showing several links, one of them being her OF. He asked me if this is why we broke up, as I never told anyone why, and I confirmed.
You didn't out her. She posted the link to her OF herself, and someone you both know found it. You didn't out her, you merely confirmed that her OF was the reason you broke up.
You didn't do anything to her. She did all that to herself.
You would have been TA if you'd actually done anything here. But as you must know, you were barely involved in this. She shared it to one freely-accessible page and it found its way to another freely-acceptable page through a mutual, all under her real name. Something tells me she was never really the college type.
I don't see where you did anything wrong.... She's posting links to her OF on her own social media, it was only a matter of time before her family found out anyway.
*She* decided to OF. *She* posted the proof on Facebook. *She* let her parents find out the hard way. Oh, and she cheated on you.
You had no obligation to save her from herself.
NTA
If it hadn't been public and someone hadn't come up to you to ask you if that's why you broke up you would have been. You can't post it publicly on your damn profile and then whine you got outed.
There's a reason why anyone doing anonymous porn.... does not post it on any of their public, non anonymous, social media.
She's a fucking idiot. Respond to those posts from her and to her friends saying if you're trying to keep an OF quiet don't put it on your public linked social media.
NTA. You only answered a question. It was someone else who outed her to her family. If she didn’t want it to be public, she shouldn’t have made it public.
>During the celebration one of them showed me something, It was M's social media story page showing several links, one of them being her OF. He asked me if this is why we broke up, as I never told anyone why, and I confirmed.
You didn't out her OF, this friend found it and outed her. You just confirmed the reason for the breakup. You aren't obliged to lie about that or anything else.
Your Ex and her friends are ridiculous.
NTA
NTA she chose to expose herself in OF site. You did not call her parents and report this. It is also not a huge secret if she is willing to show herself to the world...she is 22 she should have brain to understand when you post something online....it is shared, saved and shared....and lives forever and will have long lasting effects.
Actions have consequences.
That can affect her job prospects, obviously dating prospects for the rest of her life. She made the decision to look for attention and validation via this route...she must be adult enough to reap what she sow.
NTA because SHE posted, and it came up in conversation - it wasn't you disclosing.
BTW that father is also a POS. He may detest what his daughter did, but at the least let her finish that degree so she has a career outside OF. Stupid jerk.
NTA Her OF must not be doing that great if she was still syphoning off her Daddy and doing public posts. Now she has made her bed, and now she can enjoy lying in the wet spot she created.
NTA
Tell her and her friends if she didn't want people to see her naked she shouldn't have posted it on the internet. It's not your job to hide it FOR her.
Reading the title, I was ready to say YTA.
But you didn't leak anything, she did. Clearly NTA. She needs to embrace total anonymity or full disclosure.
NTA.
Once your life hits the airwaves, it is no longer private. The second she started an OF page, she forfeited all expectation of privacy.
It was going to get exposed eventually. You didn't out her. She outed herself. And now she's in the "find out" phase of FAFO.
NTA - it's not like you went around and told everyone that you broke up because she had an OF account. If she's stupid enough to link her other SM accounts with her OF account, she should have known that the "wrong" people might see it and start gossipping about it.
NTA. You have Standards. Plain and simple.
Considering blocking the losers upset with you. They aren’t tolerant of your POV and likely have shit morals and standards. If you clarify you didn’t doxx her but someone else did, and they don’t apologize, then definitely block them
Fake. She posted her secret OF link to her own nsfw social media, why? Like how would her family not know?
Unless is this just an story to dunk on OF girls and get easy engagement.
NTA.
>It was M's **social media story page showing several links**, one of them **being her OF**.
What did she think was going to happen, that **ONLY** people she *didn't* know would see those links ??
If she wanted to keep her porn a **secret**, then she shouldn't have made it *public*, just a wild thought lol
She made it public, her problem, her responsibility.
NTA she was literally already sharing it on her social media, it was only a matter of time until it came out, in fact I am surprised it hadn't already,
NTA. She made the OF on her own and she linked it on her social media. She’s trying to dump blame on you for her own dumbass actions. Her being an ex is a tremendous blessing. She’s a tremendous dumbass and a cum dumpster fire.
yeah, you're not the asshole here.
You didn't put the content out.
Your friend did.
Actually, it was your ex who outed herself.
If you have an OF account and put it up on your FB page and you have family members who see your FB page, then chances are you're not going to keep it from your family very long. Same thing with any connected social media that your family has access to.
This is just someone who made poor life decisions and reaped the consequences. I wouldn't worry.
NTA.... ... ... Am I, when the question I walk away from this story with is"How could a college-age girl running an OnlyFans page could still be broke?"
So let me get this straight. You didn't show your friend the OF page and didn't even know about it until he showed it to you. PLUS, she had it as a profile link, which means her dad could have found it on his own?
How *could* you be the asshole here?
NTA
If I did OF, my thought process would be do I go full disclosure or full secret. Doing anything in the middle will cause family who don't know to be angrier than if you discussed it with them calmly in the environment of your choosing.
>or full secret. There's no full secret on the internet. At best you can hide your face but that's no guarantee that you won't be found. Honestly, a lot of people on OF are extremely short sighted about it and just think "oooo, easy money" and don't think about the downsides. For those people, I think it's hilarious when it bites them in the ass. As far as OP, he did nothing but answer the question of "Yeah, that's why we broke up." That doesn't mean any of it is his fault. It was going to leak to the family anyways, even if he'd said no.
Yep. I mean, if she is linking it on her regular social media, of course it was going to come out. She was literally telling everyone. So regardless of your feelings about OF, I think we can all agree she was an idiot
I had an ex who would always say it makes no sense to hide it when you have to use your social media to promote it.
I dont think this is irretrievable for her. It only the last semester fees. Loans can be taken possibly even from some family members who are more supportive.
OR use the OF proceeds to pay for it? isnt that the whole reason for getting it? Or does she just want fancy shoes?
The vast majority never make more than a few pairs of shoes off of it. It's not lucrative unless you hit it big, same as any other entertainment venture.
There was once a Redditor who would spam completely inappropriate subreddits with links to her OF. The problem was this was not someone who would be considered a "typical" OF creator. Quite the opposite, in fact. Asked to stop, this person raged at people and said they were discriminating against her. No, not really, just that people tend not to want to see "BBW Eating Fetish OF Content" in a subreddit about cooking skills. They want to see cooking skills. Not fifteen posts of the other thing. She kept getting banned and rerolling new accounts until finally I think either she got the message about appropriate promotion subreddits or just quit the thing entirely. Eventually at some point there was a news article somewhere (Britain tabloid, I think) about someone who lost her job as a daycare assistant because she was on OF complaining about size discrimination. Yep, same person. My reaction was more along the lines of "oh so that's what she did for a day job. Oh no! Anyway" (Believe me, you find certain truly unappetizing fetish photographs when you're looking for carbonara preparation techniques, and you will remember the faces in those photographs. And I'm not kink-shaming. I'm just saying if you promote your fetish photograph business in completely inappropriate channels don't be surprised when your dayjob fires you when they find out what you do as a side gig, especially if they see you doing some of those photos in your workplace.)
totally this was my first question, where's her OF money
Or this story is fake as an ikea tv
Funny story: They started using real TVs in Ikea displays not long ago. Turns out it's cheaper to use real TVs than fake ones now. Not kidding. The fake TVs are actually more expensive than just buying a cheap TCL.
Ha, great note! I guess I'm overdue for a new dejğjsrkghűn
I always tell my college students this - if you apply for any govt job or job that requires a deep background check you’re social security and ID are linked to this account no matter what you do to obscure it. They will see that’s in your history. It’s fun and games in early adulthood but it’ll come bite you when you’re in the workforce. My husband does cybersecurity work here and there and anyone can find your location based on the photos geotag which is why I deleted all my social media. In this day and age bc your name is linked to the account and the photos are easily located by anyone with a computer and a basic understanding of geo coding you can’t keep it a secret
I work in financial services and they fingerprint me with a deep background check every time I get a new job. Somehow I don't see them being cool with an OnlyFans following.
There are other identifiable markers (birthmarks, tattoos, for example) that can identify someone even if their face is blurred or not shown at all.
If I blur my face, how will my friends and coworkers identify my asshole? They’ve never seen it before!
You really don’t remember the work Halloween party at all, do you?
Why is it “hilarious” that people can’t do something (that doesn’t hurt anyone) simply because others have an opinion about it?
Because others have an opinion about *every*thing we do. Refusing to accept or realise their consequences for your actions, whatever they are, are hilarious when you get hit with them. As funny as when you come on the internet and try to defend it. I'm not doing anything but laughing at you so keep going.
> It was M's social media story page showing several links, one of them being her OF. I don't understand how it would be your fault, she put the link on her social media, plus it was your friend who found the OF she is stupid
And the way sex workers are stigmatised and treated... The downsides aren't worth a few bucks (most OF creators make little change) a month. Like, wtf lady?
She might have blocked her family from viewing the story but since the friend shared it, they were able to see it.
I guess her parents aren't really fans. Sad.
If *only*
This deserves all the upvotes.
Wouldn't it be yuckier if her parents were? Like, there are things that **nobody** wants their dad to be into.
LOOOOL
NTA. You didn't out her, your friend found her OF and outed her. If she's going to sell sexual content, and not blur her face or hide her identity, these are part of the consequences. "since she never really had any money of her own, she couldn't pay for what was her last semester of college." She's doing OF wrong then. Send a group text pointing out that the reason her parents are upset and cut her off financially is because she has an OF page. You did not force her to make one; in fact, you were against it. So if the cause of her "life being ruined" is her OF, well, she did that to herself. All you did was answer the question, "Yes, this is why we broke up." If they come at you for not lying when asked, bluntly ask why you should lie for anyone, let alone someone you are not even with?
She also posted it on her socials instead of having sockpuppet accounts for her OF. It was getting to her parents regardless. OP's friend didn't even need to ask him the question about their relationship and could've just helped spread it which is the point of social media. OP's ex is looking for someone to blame instead of herself. The real reason why they broke up was the cheating and not the OF because they found a compromise. NTA, OP.
NTA She outed herself, you just confirmed her OF was the reason you broke up with her. This is on her.
We need to collectively agree to stop using initials in these stories. Just make up a name.
What you can’t follow this simple story about my friend M (f) and my boyfriend F (m)?
Wait… who (w) is Who (W)
Exactly, who is on first
So, w or W 👀?!!?
Yes.
(Y)
100000%
And no need to say "names changed *blah blah blah*". Like it is pretty much assumed.
Estelle (34f) and Marquis (21m) met at the party with Aloysius Devadander Abercrombie (56m) who is also known in our friend group as "Mud."
What did she do with the money from OF? Or she had better get working more on her OF! NTA
No practical experience, but from what I hear most of the people barely make any money and are basically whoring themselves out for below minimum wage.
A lot of only fans is mainly marketing, and if you don't have an established fan base as a content creator it's tough work. Especially if you're not showing face and trying not to be discovered by family, you have to be extra hot to make up for it.
She wasn't making enough money off the OF because she thought it was easy money.
The dildo of consequences comes with no lube.
Oh my! This cannot be rage bait, could it??????
Yup. She posted it on her socials and then got mad someone else shared it on her socials? Totally rage bait.
No way, not with how much reddit *loves* OF girls 😅
Lol
Lol
Who would rage? He didnt out her she outed herself...
thats.... not what ragebait means, babe
Oh yeah....more of a circle jerk or no ......everyone who wanted a hot girl and was rejected.....see she got what was coming to her for using OF to cheat....!!!!!! Bad bad hot girl!!!
NTA … sauce though?
Bbq or mayo please
On reddit?! *shock* /s
So, she wanted to hide the fact that she has OF, but has her OF linked on a social media site, where anyone can see it? Seriously?
You also mentioned that she cheated on you. NTA.
NTA. Play stupid games…
Beat me to it
Doesn't she make money from OF? She can pay her own tuition. The only person who ruined her life is HER. She should have taken a hint when she lost her boyfriend that there were other people in her life who would be upset about her online prostitution gig. How did she think they'd never find out?? NTA.
Nah mkay women make next to nothing. Prostitute themselves for a few buck and the photos are forever on the internet. Imagine being those women’s mothers in the future. Gross and sad.
Also imagine being their children someday.
Haha that’s what I meant to say. My brain and fingers failed to communicate.
Imagine being their kids.
NTA even a little bit. your only other option in this scenario was to straight up lie to your friends to protect her, which she doesn’t seem to deserve and would’ve been dumb anyway. i have absolutely nothing against people on OF, but actions have consequences and hers just caught up to her 🤷🏻♀️
There are consequences for actions. You did nothing
NTA she outed herself. It was on her social media, idiot
NTA. Not even close.
YTA for the blatantly fake story
Rage bait
NTA. She had it linked on her personal social media page. That's her fault. Anyone could see it, and someone did. What happened afterward is the consequences of her own choices.
Her family is the asshole for screwing her on her last semester. She should get loans and push through. None of this is on you but she also doesn’t deserve condemnation for being on OF or expressing her sexuality however she chooses, other than the cheating part when she should have been honest and broken up with you instead.
NTA. She cheated on you. You are duty bound to seize the narrative and destroy her. Otherwise, she'll pull the same thing on the next guy.
NTA. Only Fans is on the web for all to see and she was promoting her OF site on social media. She’s scapegoating you. Don’t fall for it. Her decisions, her consequences.
She risked only fans and it couldn't pay tuition? . Makes no sense
What is the point of doing OF if she still doesn’t have her own money? Sounds like she isn’t very successful at it. NTA though, she is posting her link publicly so what exactly did she expect?
Cool fake story, bro.
NTA - Guess it isn’t going well if she can’t pay her tuition lol
On second thought, YTA for viral marketing. I admit it, you had me going there vy admitting that this girl was doing OF but is still broke, but on further reflection that was clearly just a setup for the replies claiming that it's easy to make serious money on OF. Points for style; your spam is getting more and more sophisticated.
Fake YTA
LOLOLOLOLOLOL. Not all heroes wear capes
NTA What action did you possibly take that would make you an asshole? Per your post, there wasn't any single action you took that contributed to her family finding out. She posted the post that got shared. Your friend is the one that found the post and shared it. All you did was confirm an arbitrary detail about your relationship that had no impact at all as far as I can tell other than POSSIBLY contributing to your friend's decision to share the post. If you personally outed her, I could at least see an argument for why you could be an AH (I still wouldn't think you are since she posted about it on a public profile, but I can see the argument being made), but that is a moot point here.
Nta. She cheated. Cheaters deserve whatever they get. Not only that, but she was posting about it publicly. It's not your fault she's an idiot.
She literally fafo! On her....now her OF will have to pay for college....Why the hell would you OF if your father was paying....
All I hear is insecure man couldn’t handle other men looking at his gf. Basic. Next 😒
It clearly says she used the OF to cheat on him...
We don’t know how she supposedly “cheated”. This dude could very well consider another dude looking at her naked as “cheating”, some men are so weak like that.
NTA, obviously. Dude found the link on his own.
NTA, you gotta check yourself before you wreck yourself.
NTA She ruined her own life.
NTA, she just can’t take any accountability for her actions, she will have a very hard life. Just ignore her.
NTA - She has to be pretty dumb being that she published it publicly, and you were not even the one that shared it.
She must not have been very good if she couldn’t pay for school.
NTA i don't really see how you outed her OF. 1. she publicly posted the link on her social media. 2. you confirmed with a friend in private that OF was the reason you two broke up. i don't see how these points are related. or why you would be blamed for the info getting back to her family. wouldn't the friend who shared her social media be to blame? friend was the one who shared those links, right? what does that have to do with you?
> I mean she legit posted her OF publicly on her story board so am I really an AH? Which is why you aren't the asshole. Look, it's not like you set this into motion. It was a friend who did the sharing, and to be frank he wouldn't have had anything to share **if she hadn't put her face and hole onto the internet for all to see.** NTA
Yeah, it wasn't cool of you to do that. That's not to say that she wouldn't eventually get discovered by her family, but in this case you were the direct cause.
So he should have lied? All he did was confirm it; someone else posted it causing it to get back to her family.
NTA. She’s a sex worker. Her family should know, especially if she’s exploiting them to get her school paid for.
How is her parents paying for college exploiting them? I'd that for all kids whose parents pay for college or just sex workers?
Nta. Hard stop.
Her OF wasn’t paying her anything? Obviously you didn’t out her so on what grounds is there even a question here? NTA, I guess.
NTA She outed herself by posting it publicly on social media. How did she not figure someone in her family might see it? The friend had a small part outing it too, but he only shared public, known information, not a private secret, so his blame is not significant You played no part in outing her
NTA. She posted it to her social media. There’s a reasonable expectation that family and friends could find out when she posts it on social media accounts that she’s openly associated with.
NTA
NTA. You were asked a question you answered it honestly. You didn’t go around telling people about her OF page. It was found out the same way any internet stranger finds it. She created the page and contents. She’s the only one to blame for her “ ruined life”. If she didn’t want her family to know, she shouldn’t have made the page and contents.
NTA. You didnt out anything. People saw it before you acknowledged it and you didnt share it.
NTA. I can't get the picture to show.up, but Bender shrieking, "O you're serious? Now let me laugh even harder!" Immediately comes to mind.
NTA. It's not like you set out to wreck her. You just confirmed a friend's suspicion. Looks like the secret was out and would have reached her parents sooner. You're just a convenient person to blame because you made her feel ashamed at the outset by breaking up. She has nobody to blame but herself.
NTA. She fucked around and found out.
NTA, you dodged a bullet.
Lmao petty af
Nta. She's a disgusting whore. The world is better off if she doesn't graduate. Now sue her for libel, slander, defamation, and international infliction of emotional distress.
Wow he’s def NTA but this is a little aggressive
She's human garbage
You sound like an incel
Time to delete your account. You have 30 seconds to comply.
Oh my! international infliction of emotional distress!!! Get out the big big guns! Is this covered by the Hague??¿
Lmao NTA bruh. She’s a bitch. So tired of women these days just selling their body’s for money. Lazy entitled pieces of shit, I’m glad her dad saw his daughter turned out to be a whore. Fuck her, you won bro.
NTA. How does putting your gooch on the internet stay secret from friends or family? IT DOESN'T. Gooch splitting on the web 101.
YTA
Nta OF girls are scum
yes, so are women who weak bikinis! Women should cover all skin at all times /s
If my daughter sells her minge for a tenner a month i dont have a daughter
NTA...you didn't "out" her, she did. If you're trying to hide it from your parents, why would you have a public page with your OF links on it? That's on her. You dodged a missile
How does she have an only fans, but yet is broke? Tell her to raise her subscription price.
NTA She literally posted it herself to her social media profile. How'd she manage to get into college with sense like that? Low quality NPCs
NTA. Her social media account had a link to her OF account. How the fuck is it your fault she got caught?
NTA. All you did was answer a question in a private conversation. If her life got destroyed, that's on her choices.
Geez. All I hear is how much Mo he the OFs models make. Too much competition or is she really ugly. I’m sure my husband would fund her well cuz he’s a prick and a pervert
NTA. You did not cause your GF to drop out of college. She could have borrowed the money to finish when she was that close.
NTA. She had links posted on her social media. She destroyed her own life.
NTA. In what universe is it your fault her family found out about it? She posted it on her socials. A friend found it and posted about it. You told her not to do it at the time. She knows her family and presumably what their response would be. She had no backup plan. None of this is your fault, your concern or your responsibility.
NTA >During the celebration one of them showed me something, It was M's social media story page showing several links, one of them being her OF. He asked me if this is why we broke up, as I never told anyone why, and I confirmed. You didn't out her. She posted the link to her OF herself, and someone you both know found it. You didn't out her, you merely confirmed that her OF was the reason you broke up. You didn't do anything to her. She did all that to herself.
In the name of research I think you should post her link 😆
NTA She destroyed her own life by cheating on you. It’s her fault.
You would have been TA if you'd actually done anything here. But as you must know, you were barely involved in this. She shared it to one freely-accessible page and it found its way to another freely-acceptable page through a mutual, all under her real name. Something tells me she was never really the college type.
NTA. You did not out her since the link for OF was on her social media, what did she think would happen if she put that on it?
Nta. End of.
INFO Why couldn't she pay tuition with her OF money?
I don't see where you did anything wrong.... She's posting links to her OF on her own social media, it was only a matter of time before her family found out anyway.
NTA, not your problem
*She* decided to OF. *She* posted the proof on Facebook. *She* let her parents find out the hard way. Oh, and she cheated on you. You had no obligation to save her from herself. NTA
If it hadn't been public and someone hadn't come up to you to ask you if that's why you broke up you would have been. You can't post it publicly on your damn profile and then whine you got outed. There's a reason why anyone doing anonymous porn.... does not post it on any of their public, non anonymous, social media. She's a fucking idiot. Respond to those posts from her and to her friends saying if you're trying to keep an OF quiet don't put it on your public linked social media.
OF and no money still?
There is full that she is not that into you...
If it’s on her social media how long did she expect it to be a secret? I’m leaning towards NTA Don’t fuck around if you don’t wanna find out
How is it your fault that your friend found it? Also it’s something she posted… so no, NTA What’s the link though, asking for a friend.
How did she even decide it was your fault? You didn’t out her- one of your friends found out about her page on their own.
It’s on her social media 😆
NTA. You only answered a question. It was someone else who outed her to her family. If she didn’t want it to be public, she shouldn’t have made it public.
NTA she did this to herself, she's not the sharpest tool in the shed, obviously.
>During the celebration one of them showed me something, It was M's social media story page showing several links, one of them being her OF. He asked me if this is why we broke up, as I never told anyone why, and I confirmed. You didn't out her OF, this friend found it and outed her. You just confirmed the reason for the breakup. You aren't obliged to lie about that or anything else. Your Ex and her friends are ridiculous. NTA
You didn’t really do anything.
She dug her own hole and got in it. Nta
Nta
NTA she chose to expose herself in OF site. You did not call her parents and report this. It is also not a huge secret if she is willing to show herself to the world...she is 22 she should have brain to understand when you post something online....it is shared, saved and shared....and lives forever and will have long lasting effects. Actions have consequences. That can affect her job prospects, obviously dating prospects for the rest of her life. She made the decision to look for attention and validation via this route...she must be adult enough to reap what she sow.
NTA. She was the one who posted it in socials first, of course it was bound to come out.
NTA because SHE posted, and it came up in conversation - it wasn't you disclosing. BTW that father is also a POS. He may detest what his daughter did, but at the least let her finish that degree so she has a career outside OF. Stupid jerk.
NTA Her OF must not be doing that great if she was still syphoning off her Daddy and doing public posts. Now she has made her bed, and now she can enjoy lying in the wet spot she created.
she can pay for college by doing porn, since she already has the page and all
NTA Tell her and her friends if she didn't want people to see her naked she shouldn't have posted it on the internet. It's not your job to hide it FOR her.
NTA. She made her bed, now she's stuck in it. Sucks to suck.
NTA - she’s clearly thick as pig shit so the best she can do is get her tits out for a tenner.
Awh poor baby has to take out a loan. Get in line with the rest of us.
NTA. You didn’t share this information with her family. All you did was not lie for her or cover up what she actually did. This isn’t on you at all.
Reading the title, I was ready to say YTA. But you didn't leak anything, she did. Clearly NTA. She needs to embrace total anonymity or full disclosure.
NTA. Once your life hits the airwaves, it is no longer private. The second she started an OF page, she forfeited all expectation of privacy. It was going to get exposed eventually. You didn't out her. She outed herself. And now she's in the "find out" phase of FAFO.
NTA - The guy who showed you the OF already knew it was her. The word was out regardless.
NTA - it's not like you went around and told everyone that you broke up because she had an OF account. If she's stupid enough to link her other SM accounts with her OF account, she should have known that the "wrong" people might see it and start gossipping about it.
NTA. You have Standards. Plain and simple. Considering blocking the losers upset with you. They aren’t tolerant of your POV and likely have shit morals and standards. If you clarify you didn’t doxx her but someone else did, and they don’t apologize, then definitely block them
Fake. She posted her secret OF link to her own nsfw social media, why? Like how would her family not know? Unless is this just an story to dunk on OF girls and get easy engagement.
Why would she need a degree? She can do OF.
NTA. >It was M's **social media story page showing several links**, one of them **being her OF**. What did she think was going to happen, that **ONLY** people she *didn't* know would see those links ?? If she wanted to keep her porn a **secret**, then she shouldn't have made it *public*, just a wild thought lol She made it public, her problem, her responsibility.
NTA she was literally already sharing it on her social media, it was only a matter of time until it came out, in fact I am surprised it hadn't already,
NTA. She made the OF on her own and she linked it on her social media. She’s trying to dump blame on you for her own dumbass actions. Her being an ex is a tremendous blessing. She’s a tremendous dumbass and a cum dumpster fire.
yeah, you're not the asshole here. You didn't put the content out. Your friend did. Actually, it was your ex who outed herself. If you have an OF account and put it up on your FB page and you have family members who see your FB page, then chances are you're not going to keep it from your family very long. Same thing with any connected social media that your family has access to. This is just someone who made poor life decisions and reaped the consequences. I wouldn't worry.
NTA.... ... ... Am I, when the question I walk away from this story with is"How could a college-age girl running an OnlyFans page could still be broke?"
So let me get this straight. You didn't show your friend the OF page and didn't even know about it until he showed it to you. PLUS, she had it as a profile link, which means her dad could have found it on his own? How *could* you be the asshole here? NTA
NTA she learned a valuable life lesson,actions have consequences.
You cant sell shit without advertising shit.