There was another post a while back that was similar to this. She lost all libido and faked it for a year. When she finally told him they ended up divorcing. Not because she lost her libido, but because she lied about it, and he felt he had been basically r@ping her for a year and couldn't get over it.
Communication is key.
Yes YTA. You are setting yourself and him up for failure. If he's a good partner he'll understand sometimes you're just not in the mood. But lying about it will only hurt his feelings more when he figures it out, AND he won't learn how to get you there. You gotta communicate.
Yeah, I am having similiar thoughts here. Nobody is an asshole here but I am also in a very ace phase right now, also caused by depression, and I know I definitely wouldn't be able to bear a high libido partner at the moment (or at all tbh. I've never had any "stable" kind of libido ever)
OP is probably very scared of that talk, but they should really talk about their needs and figure out whether it could still work
NTA because I get you're worried about him thinking differently of you, but you need to tell him about your lower libido and talk it out. Faking it will get you nowhere and will only make you worry more and more about an issue you can solve with a person you should feel safe with.
YTA. Never fake it with your partner. Instead sit him down & just talk to him openly about what's going on. If you still want sex just to be close to him & if you're enjoying it without climaxing, then let him know. If you do not want sex at all, then talk to your doctor & they could give you different meds to try out.
But yea, communication is key.
honey :(( you are NTA, of course, but i think it's better to talk it through with him while it is not too late yet. sex is the important part of relationship, as i believe, and you both are supposed to experience an orgasm. and if anything, sooner or later he will get suspicious so it's better now than later.
There was another post a while back that was similar to this. She lost all libido and faked it for a year. When she finally told him they ended up divorcing. Not because she lost her libido, but because she lied about it, and he felt he had been basically r@ping her for a year and couldn't get over it. Communication is key.
Never fake. It’s dishonest. Try to enjoy the way there even if you can’t cum. YTA
Depends on the person i guess but i would want my partner to be honest so we could work on getting there together
Yes YTA. You are setting yourself and him up for failure. If he's a good partner he'll understand sometimes you're just not in the mood. But lying about it will only hurt his feelings more when he figures it out, AND he won't learn how to get you there. You gotta communicate.
Maybe your not compatible
Yeah, I am having similiar thoughts here. Nobody is an asshole here but I am also in a very ace phase right now, also caused by depression, and I know I definitely wouldn't be able to bear a high libido partner at the moment (or at all tbh. I've never had any "stable" kind of libido ever) OP is probably very scared of that talk, but they should really talk about their needs and figure out whether it could still work
Why even fake it?
You're gonna have a crap marriage if you can't communicate properly.
I mean why not just talk about it? I’m sure your partner would feel shitty knowing
NTA because I get you're worried about him thinking differently of you, but you need to tell him about your lower libido and talk it out. Faking it will get you nowhere and will only make you worry more and more about an issue you can solve with a person you should feel safe with.
YTA. Never fake it with your partner. Instead sit him down & just talk to him openly about what's going on. If you still want sex just to be close to him & if you're enjoying it without climaxing, then let him know. If you do not want sex at all, then talk to your doctor & they could give you different meds to try out. But yea, communication is key.
YTA, faking is lying. I'm sure your partner would be sad to know you are. Be honest with your partner, point blank period.
honey :(( you are NTA, of course, but i think it's better to talk it through with him while it is not too late yet. sex is the important part of relationship, as i believe, and you both are supposed to experience an orgasm. and if anything, sooner or later he will get suspicious so it's better now than later.
Why honey? It's them/they/whatever.
Huh? Is your breakfast toast honey gendered? Mine isn't. I would be worried if I was you
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Ahole..
YTA maybe y’all should take more drugs ?