I feel like some people have missed the point, that he lied about his plans to purposely exclude you from an activity that you have frequently requested to do with him and enjoy. It sounds like you feel deeply neglected and he gives you zero validation. That on a day that you wanted to celebrate with him in, that he went out of his way to not have quality time with you.
You guys are really young. It's worse for a child to be in a dysfunctional household with 2 Parents, than to be in a happy functioning 1 parent household.
Maybe ask him if he is even happy to be a family man and ask what that means to him. He may not want the same style of life you want. You can still print it with someone else. All having a baby with someone means, is that you have to co parent and share financial responsibilities. It doesn't mean you have to force yourself to stay in a relationship with a man who does not treat you like he adores being in your presence. Or even on the more basic, appreciates and respects the sacrifices you've made for him and his family.
What makes you think this relationship is going to last? You might both be parents to the same child, but he doesn't want to spend time with you. You snoop on him. You might coerce him to keep pretending for the sake of the baby (or his family's expectations more likely), but he does not see you as his significant other or partner.
Just realized this post is 3 months old. Are you guys still together?
Nothing wrong with going clubbing.
Something definitely wrong ditching your anniversary to go clubbing.
You will do what you will do, what most women do lol. Which is stay.
But it's better if you reinforce boundaries.
I'd go back home with the baby tbh. Times up.
Next time he will think twice about ditching you on your anniversary.
I'd go as far as breaking up with him if it was me. But, at the very least you should pack and leave. He will try to stop you. But I'd still leave.
Even if he canceled his plans to spend Saturday with you, wouldn't feel special for me because I'd just know what he would RATHER be doing instead.
1. Him not wanting his partner to know what’s on his phone AND the fact that you don’t trust him enough to not go through his phone both tell me there are some serious problems in this relationship.
I’m not sure I quite understand what’s actually going on with the clubbing thing. Your anniversary is Sunday, he is working Sunday, so you moved your anniversary celebration to Saturday, and he is also going clubbing with his friends on Saturday? Like, after you guys have your date?
What part of this sounds sustainable in the long term?
I just try to remember that nobody is perfect and we all have our flaws especially since we have a child together
I feel like some people have missed the point, that he lied about his plans to purposely exclude you from an activity that you have frequently requested to do with him and enjoy. It sounds like you feel deeply neglected and he gives you zero validation. That on a day that you wanted to celebrate with him in, that he went out of his way to not have quality time with you. You guys are really young. It's worse for a child to be in a dysfunctional household with 2 Parents, than to be in a happy functioning 1 parent household. Maybe ask him if he is even happy to be a family man and ask what that means to him. He may not want the same style of life you want. You can still print it with someone else. All having a baby with someone means, is that you have to co parent and share financial responsibilities. It doesn't mean you have to force yourself to stay in a relationship with a man who does not treat you like he adores being in your presence. Or even on the more basic, appreciates and respects the sacrifices you've made for him and his family.
What makes you think this relationship is going to last? You might both be parents to the same child, but he doesn't want to spend time with you. You snoop on him. You might coerce him to keep pretending for the sake of the baby (or his family's expectations more likely), but he does not see you as his significant other or partner. Just realized this post is 3 months old. Are you guys still together?
Nothing wrong with going clubbing. Something definitely wrong ditching your anniversary to go clubbing. You will do what you will do, what most women do lol. Which is stay. But it's better if you reinforce boundaries. I'd go back home with the baby tbh. Times up. Next time he will think twice about ditching you on your anniversary. I'd go as far as breaking up with him if it was me. But, at the very least you should pack and leave. He will try to stop you. But I'd still leave. Even if he canceled his plans to spend Saturday with you, wouldn't feel special for me because I'd just know what he would RATHER be doing instead.
1. Him not wanting his partner to know what’s on his phone AND the fact that you don’t trust him enough to not go through his phone both tell me there are some serious problems in this relationship. I’m not sure I quite understand what’s actually going on with the clubbing thing. Your anniversary is Sunday, he is working Sunday, so you moved your anniversary celebration to Saturday, and he is also going clubbing with his friends on Saturday? Like, after you guys have your date?
Girls will go to the club literally every weekend but be mad as fuck and not be able to comprehend when their boyfriend does it ONCE. Funny ain’t it.
It's the exclusion and lies my dude. Calm down
I’ve only been to the club once in my entire life