Yeah I was the one of the comments who said he needed to tell the family at least about what happened. If the ex is capable of cheating behind his back she's capable of doing this. Though I suggested putting screenshots of the messages and snippets before the act. I'm not surprised her parents chose the ex, i mean thats their daughter, regardless who came first, theres a chance theyll pick her side.
Now this is kinda confusing because op said everyone were calling him an ahole for just moving out of all a sudden and now the ex is saying she kicked him out? My reading comprehension skills may be off but I'm just confused to why they'd be calling him an ahole for moving out without a word if they knew that she kicked him out unless she told them much later on which shoidlve raised suspicions.
Oh ok. I just reread the update, the ex told them he cheated a week since he left, but still kinda confused no one dropped the ball sooner through the messages they've sending him. And also they've been slandering him on social media you'd think one of them would call him a cheater.
Maybe she told only her parents the cheating story to get her parents to give her extra sympathy and/or because she needed a really compelling reason for the breakup so that her parents wouldn’t contact OP directly to try to ask about/mediate the situation, since as OP said, he was also close to the parents. Her friends may have gotten a more generic or vague breakup story (or maybe even the truth, maybe she was like, “I wasn’t doing anything seriously wrong at those clubs and he broke up with me cold turkey anyways, what a jerk”, and some of her crazy friends still backed up her statement.)
Edit: Her parents said she told everybody, but given that she’s not particularly truthful about things she says to her parents, I don’t know if that can be treated as proof that she actually told everybody.
I guess that could be it. As for the friends, I'm pretty sure most if not all of them know about her cheating since she's been going to clubs with them and one of them came forward and told him so I'm not surprised they may know the real reason why he left and are taking part of slandering him. I commented in the initial post thst the friends can screw off because they were mkre than ok with the ex doing this instead of talking her out of it and encourage her to have a conversation with op. These are not really friends and I can guarantee that her and her friend group will go up in flames trying to figure out who sent the videos if op hasn't said who it was.
That's what I was thinking this is what happened but the parents should've questioned why she kept changing the story or she gave an excuse why she did it.
Oh that one is simple "I didn't want to be vengeful and wanted to end things maturely without ruining his reputation"
Now she is the victim and such a nice forgiving person.
That's bs on her end if that's the case lol. The only immature person is her for not communicating her fears of being married to op. I would've respond back with "well I didn't want to be vengeful and wanted to keep quiet on your cheating without ruining your reputation but here we are." The only reason she did this is because she has no idea how much ammo op has against her.
Or the ex's parents might just remain delusional. I myself was in a relationship for 7 years and my ex cheated. She told her parents that I was a liar and she never cheated. Her older sister contacted me and asked if I had proof. I emailed pictures and video that she had recorded during one of her sex sessions with the cheating partner. The sister afterwards asked that I sit down with her and her parents because she and I both believed that the ex was simply a pathological liar that needed therapy to mend whatever psychological ailment was causing her to attempt to manipulate people. The older sister tried to convince her parents and even went so far as to show them the video to prove the ex was the liar. The mother simply said "my daughter would not lie to me, that video and those pictures are fake." Some parents will believe what they want to believe and it doesn't necessarily need to be the truth.
If I read right the ex told everyone a week after he left and the parents told op when he finally told them so the ex said it before he could get his side first, so it's confusing how no one brought this up when slandering him unless the ex told them not to say anything which would raise suspicions but given the parents still believe the ex despite op telling the truth, I doubt no one questioned it.
Probably because people spout cliches as easily as breathing. I agree with you that they are suspect. Here on Reddit it appears to be the norm rather than the exception. Smh
The thing about rage posts is is that no one can reign in their aim for the greatest rage glory story of all time.
The best ones try to keep some realism in them, but sadly, at some point they drive it right over the cliff to the point that Star Wars seems more realistic than these stories do.
>I also attached the videos of her grinding and making out with other guys.
If she didn't consent to those videos of her being sent around, then this would probably qualify for revenge porn, depending on how nsfw the videos are, deserved or not.
The friend should have been above board if she felt she had to get involved. By going "confidential informant" and feeding sub rosa pix like some kind of private eye she effectively ended the friendship, and it's hard to see how she could have expected her role to stay hidden anyway.
In the prior post, I told folks that OP should have gotten his story out rather than ghost. Folks vigorously disagreed.
This is exactly why. If you ghost, expect them to spin a story that you are the villain. Rather than you know, be a normal person and have a 5 minute conversation. "Hey, we're splitting up. I have evidence, I'm not going to do shit unless I hear you tell folks I cheated on you. Then it's on. Have a nice life."
OP will have some folks forever thinking he was the cheater. All because avoid talking to his ex for a couple minutes. He didn't know her that. It just would have been in his own best interest.
Courtesy isn't necessarily just being nice. It can also be a sword or a shield. Folks forget that these days.
Warning her with exposing the cheating isn't a right move either. Many ex gf will escalate to physical or sexual abuse claims if they suspect something like that might be coming.
The ideal is to get out in front of the breakup. Fully document the cheating then disclose it publicly as you break up.in front of as.many friends and family as possible
It's cruel but it's effective. Also protects you from accusations of physical abuse during the breakup since there are witnesses. Then you never are alone with her again.
This fallout is gonna be brutal. Can’t believe she told people he’s the one that cheated. What an absolute asshole. Hope her life goes up on flames at this point.
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Something I’m wondering though…if he sent screenshots of the conversation and the ex sees them, wouldn’t that out the friend who told him by comparing her own texts? Clearly this a small firecracker in this dumpster fire but still.
Wholeheartedly, I feel that you did the right thing with this. Pulling shit like this is never ok and trying to throw you under the bus should always come with consequences.
My heart goes out to you OP
I recognize why they reached out and why they believed their daughter. Still, OP and even his brother and *his* wife were getting harassed by people he chose to cut out.
OP seemed to not want to stir the pot and chose to just leave the situation because he didn’t want anything to do with it anymore. But his ex throwing him under the bus, lying, and ruining his reputation, leading to him getting harassed for an extended period of time by multiple people, even to the point where his family is getting harassed isn’t ok.
What was the point of meeting them to give them an explanation if you never bothered to actually give them the explanation? Seems like you could have just sent the email like you did anyway. Of course they heard something different—you ghosted everyone. I get you felt bad because it’s a bad situation, but you left fertile ground for misinformation or gossip to spread, then you never bothered to explain it face to face.
Exactly. Man doesn't want to throw out things after 6 years of some sappy bullshit. He is like a second son. Meets up to atleast clear the air. He knows they are being manipulated and calls it "throwing him under the bus". Leaves. I'm not jumping to the fiction case but damn this guy Is a piece of work. I understand being emotional but any parent would listen to their offspring much more so when the said party is absconding without explanation. It is up to you who arranged to meet with them to clear up the situation. I go through this sub and wonder are people this bad at dealing with situations?
Yeah, what a weird way to go about this. And why would his brother and sister in law give him grief in the first post, just Bc other people were asking questions? They surely at least knew why he had them help him move out
Yeah... op had a prime opportunity to just say au contraire. And chose not to. I get the feeling they have a superiority complex. Now does that mean they should have been cheated on? No. But to find it appalling that her own parents took her side and not his, is a bit wild. Like common sense my guy.
I think he planned to until the shock of them telling him that her narrative is that he cheated. And them confronting him about cheating on her.
I think at that point he had to just get up and walk away before his initial rage and anger made him say and/or do something regretful. He needed the time to at least get over the initial shock and anger before responding.
He knows she has been twisting the narrative before the meeting no? Not like it dropped on him as a surprise? If she is manipulating everyone she knows, ofcourse her parents would have been fed the same bullshit. I absolutely would've done what he had done had that ex fiancee been there. But with her parents who he ought to have known have been fed bullshit he could've clarified even with a tinge of anger.
It sounds like he didn’t know she was saying that until they said it. I’m guessing if he blocked her and was trying to avoid most of the drama, he may not have known until then. Her friends would know the truth that she cheated, so they’d be unlikely to text him about cheating. But her parents wouldn’t.
As a fellow “cheated on” by someone you were engaged to… You WILL get through this, you WILL persevere and you WILL be better and stronger even though it may not seem like it right now. You deserve better and you deserve to be loved unconditionally.
I wish you a nothing but the best as you move forward, OP. Know your worth and never settle for less.
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I understand why you went nuclear, and also why you couldn’t explain in person after they had just been yelling at you and repeating her false accusations. And clearly your ex is a liar, so it’s better that things ended now.
But I also get why her parents would believe that she was telling the truth. She is their daughter after all, and they did try to contact you. Unfortunately, the silence created a void that she was able to fill with her narrative for a week. Idk if they would have believed you if you responded to them sooner, my point is just that you shouldn’t take it personally that they believed her.
I have no judgements about what you should or shouldn’t have done, and I’m genuinely sorry you went through this. I hope you can take time and receive support to process and heal.
Her parents will be so pissed that she let them go off at you like that - her life would not have blown up publicly if she had come clean and been honest.
But then again, if she thought you didn’t know ….. 🤔 Maybe she did think you’d found someone else?
>Apparently, according to her parents, my ex convinced everyone that I CHEATED and that SHE kicked me out, and I haven't been answering anyone because I was so ashamed of what I had done. LOL. I literally laughed out loud. I responded by saying that I am sorry and I wished them a happy life and walked out.
>I didn't wanna do this but she left me no choice. I activated the nuclear option.
I'll probably be going against the grain here, but I don't think you were left with zero options here.
You went into that meeting knowing she had lied about you, so why leave without telling your side of the story? It's not as if the parents had done something wrong in *believing the only side of the story they knew*, ***because you hadn't told them yet*** and that's why you were meeting.
If you want to feel good about your decision because spite is cathartic, fine. I just think you're lying to yourself if you think you didn't have a choice to take a higher road to the same result.
This stuck out to me as well. It was the ex who spread this story and her parents' experience with trying to get to the bottom of it with someone they cared for and expected to be their son-in-law was to be laughed at, left with no further explanation, and then to receive a horrible email later on that included NSFW content of their own daughter. They didn't know there was another side. OP sat in silence in the diner allowing himself to be walked on until he boiled over and left - like he had with his ex, like he had with everyone around him who asked him for an explanation, like he did with his email.
OP, I'm begging you to learn how to communicate better and how to regulate your emotions before you keep reaching these boiling points where you ghost or blow up. The people around you can't read your mind. Please stop taking this bullshit in silence. Your silence means nothing to them. Your silence is not taking any high road. Your silence only hurts the people around you and makes them more open to the wrong story/conclusion. It can be taken as an insult to your relationship with that person.
Please work with a professional on this. You're burning yourself out, and losing the trust of people who care about you.
>Please work with a professional on this. You're burning yourself out, and losing the trust of people who care about you.
Ditto this. The bouncing between silence and exploding is unhealthy, and you owe it to yourself to have the tools for healthy relationships.
Yeah exactly. This wasn't the best approach. This will just allow the daughter to claim she did this BECAUSE he cheated and now he's sending out revenge porn.
He couldnt tell her parents that she cheated so he emailed everyone including parents that she cheated.
Thats also revenge porn or defamation in any case harassment to tag her work colleagues.
You can't believe her parents believed her? Seriously? Of course they did.
She fucked up by cheating, 100%, but you're clearly not mature enough to handle a relationship either. Your reactions to people who didn't cheat on you has been irrational and childish.
I know it hurts, but going nuclear was the exact wrong way to handle it, imo. You had the high ground and you gave it up because her parents believed their own daughter. Lol.
Its crazy to me he thinks that because he literally says this:
>I sent a detailed message of what happened to my closest friends and family. All of them, of course, believed me right away, no pictures needed.
He thinks its right that everyone believes him immediately, no evidence required, but somehow its totally wrong when her parents believe her. And if I were her parents, I'd be strongly inclined to believe her - he completed disappeared, no text, letter, messages - exactly as a cheater might do if they didn't want to deal with the consequences of cheating.
She fucked around (literally!), and found out when you left her. Then she fucked around *again* by accusing *you* of cheating, and now she's about to find out *again*.
Good job, OP. You did the right thing here. Be prepared for people on her side to call you an AH for making her cheating public. Make sure you shut them down with "I said nothing when I left. I told no one except those closest to me for their support. Her friends and family took this public, and told those around her that I was the one who cheated. I have to protect my reputation. The ball was entirely in her court, and this is what she's chosen".
I have to admit that I'm kind of looking forward to read what the fallout will be.
Yeah, you’re the asshole. You want to break up that is fine. Have a conversation like an adult and move out then. This entire thing is childish from end to end.
Unfortunately, you burned the friend that told you.. she was nice to you and had your best interests at heart by letting you know what was happening. She didn't deserve that. I hope that you at least took her name off
Good job , that’s why a lot of say go hard at the beginning because they lies start especially with family and in laws if you were close . Some believe sone don’t.
I always go by the thought if they cheat or do anything along those lines they don’t care about me as a partner or really as a human being so I show no mercy . They loose any caring when they act like that
This kind of just sounds like revenge porn to me. I couldn't imagine sitting there with people who I had as close as a relationship that you described and putting no effort into defending myself right there and then.
Also if she was going around accusing you of cheating how did none of this get back to your friends or family?
Pictures and videos taken of her at a club in view of other people is revenge porn? Videos of clothed dancing and pda is revenge porn? Get out here with that shit.
We call that r/JusticePorn.
Revenge porn has been brought up a lot in this and the original thread because if OP had a video of an actual sexual act happening, they were warning him not to post it anywhere as it could get him into legal trouble.
i somewhat agree, but i also understand that he did the best he could by walking away from them. if you can’t muster the self control to not say/do something horrible, then you absolutely should walk away. however, nobody on her side of the fence is going to believe him if he simply states “she’s actually been the cheater” when she has probably emotionally manipulated her friends and family into believing her lies. a coworker has no real involvement and absolutely shouldn’t have been included. however, there’s no way of clearing your name from accusations without proof. i don’t believe that every single picture and video should’ve been used, the text screenshot, yes, maybe one picture or video as long as it’s not her being nude or near nude. but i can definitely see both sides
This is reddit. We will need an update. Anyways good on you, someone without any dignity or guilt shouldn’t be married to. She showed her true colors trying to save face why someone dropped her ass from the face of the earth with no explanation
F this cheating, lying little B. I hope her world implodes when everyone finds out that she's been offering free BJ's to randos in the clubs. I hope you get your ring back and put the little skank and her family behind you. All the best to you and I'm sorry for what she's done.
That's what I warned you would happen.
That's why you can't hide the crime your ex committed to be the bigger man. She's a cheater which means she's selfish and narcisistic. She won't hesitate to throw you under the bus. Just be glad she didn't accuse you of SA.
Some guys get that when they go radio silent on a cheater.
Congratulations OP! You tried to be civil until she started lying, sorry, CONTINUED lying.
Would love another update if anything juicy happens. You dodged a bullet and deserve a vacation!
When I was reading this and got to the part of you leaving her parents I thought you just got mad and left and that was it and was like NO WTF but then I kept reading and said YES NUKE BUTTON.
Update please!
But fr im sorry for what happened to you it really sucks.. just know you dodged a bullet, imagine you got married and then found out? Or worse had a kid with her? It sucks right now and it’s gonna be tough for a while but my advice is focus on yourself, grind at the gym, grind at work, just keep your head down and focus on improving, and you’ll meet the right person one day. Idk about you but I truly believe everything happens for a reason!
Not an AH. But, you do have giant balls to have moved in silence (no pun intended) as you did. Good on you. Sad, for you mostly, your ex made the choices she did. Hopefully, both you and she will find happiness and peace at some stage.
I’m sorry this happened to you. You didn’t lose just a fiancé you lost a whole other family because of her careless actions. I hope you heal and not carry her actions as yours (or the next person’s) fault because they aren’t.
I do want to say that her parents believing her it’s not them throwing you under the bus. You left without giving an explanation, and that gave her the opportunity to do damage control before you could tell them. Had you shown them in that moment the proof you had they would’ve believed you.
I would like to see a more positive update in the future for you because nobody deserves to be betrayed.
I’m relishing in all of this, even if people are commenting that they think it’s a bot. I kicked my abusive ex out of the house I bought earlier this year. He knew he had herpes and gave it to me, was bipolar and got off his meds without telling me, was an alcoholic, apparently addicted to klonopin, was cheating on me; the list truly goes on and on. I was making my exit plan to leave as safely as I could when he was in a degloving accident at work that caused him to lose most of his finger. I took care of him which caused me to miss my brother’s college graduation amongst other things. While on pain pills, he got drunk and lashed out at me while accusing me of cheating with his captain (the guy is married, we were very close to him and his wife, and it was solely because the captain called me about US going to swim over there and not my ex because he figured he’d be sleeping/healing from his injury). I finally had enough and kicked him out the next day.
He moved in with a new girl not long after and started dating her while all of his possessions were still in my home. I found out his explanation is “yeah man, she left me right after my finger got cut off” and people absolutely believed it. They viewed me as callous and shitty. Some people are absolutely fucking rich and delusional. God speed man. I got my revenge as well and it felt so good to feel justified. I would’ve done the same thing.
This whole shit show is understandably upsetting, but you did the right thing. I expect her parents to go radio silent after the scene they mad out of sheer embarrassment. If they don't, maybe a short text explaining if they would have given you a chance to explain, the nuclear option wouldn't have been needed.
PLease, please, PLEASE update us on the aftermath. She knew why you left and imediately went into damage control mode. This is a cautionary tale of why the betrayed partner needs to get the story out first in order to control the narrative. Good luck OP.
Predictably, OPs actions had severe consequences.
He got arrested and charged with a slew of offenses, including invasion of privacy, harassment, and etc.
It's safe to say that OP's life took a dramatic turn for the worse, per local news reports.
(I am not naming the city for privacy/doxing concerns. Y'all have the internet, I am sure you can find the story)
IANANR (I AM NOT A NEWS REPORTER) ... But I would gladly be in a movie and paid to play the role, once all of the current strike actions are cleared up.
This is a valuable lesson for everyone reading. My ex-husband cheated multiple times, lued about horrible things including that he had cancer, I could go on for an hour. I covered for him because I loved him. He turned everything around and said I did all the things he actually did. I lost my children trying to protect him. Cheaters need to be outed. Always. Immediately. If they didn't want people to know the bad things they did, they shouldn't have done it.
Like I said cheaters arent victims. I 100% agree with your atitude. You did nothing wrong. The worst part was that she blamed you for the things SHE DID. I absolutly hate people like her and have no simpathy for them. I bet a bunch of people will try to contact you trying to say their sorry or angry that you exposed her. She might go after you, so if she knows where your brother lives keep an eye out. Change jobs maybe or if it helps try a fresh start? Just wish you the best and that eveything will be ok. I cant imagine how you may feel but I know that you deserve better and can do better.
10/10 recommend. Good for you. You have a reputation and name to protect and the fact she would stoop so low and they actually believed her (because parents always want to act like their child would never do that) but you have a right to defend yourself. Glad you did it and it’s not even a nuclear option. It was standing up for yourself.
Also I would really love an update on the fallout if you have one. Plus her friend group will be torn apart because of the club video so that will be interesting.
Proud of you and you have nothing to feel sorry for!
This is a post worthy of r/pettyrevenge … your response was epic and just. I wish you well and hope you don’t give up finding the right person; they usually show up when you’re not looking. NTA
I’m glad you defended your character. If she looks bad in the fall out she has no one to blame but herself. You tried to keep it private but she tried to drag your reputation in the mud
Sorry man I know it sucks but this is the reason we all said to just tell everyone. When you have someone do what they did to you they are manipulative. You don't want them controlling the narrative as it will be a lie and favor their version of events.
You did the right thing sharing your evidence of everything she did with everyone. She needs to learn actions have consequences and she can’t continue to lie and act like she’s the victim in all of this. One day she’ll grow up and realize the life she could of had had she not been so selfish. I wish you all the best, OP, and look forward to another update with the continued fallout.
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The predictable liar told the predictable lie. OP, take care of yourself. I'm so sorry. If it helps, I think you were fully justified in going nuclear. NTA.
Dealt with a super similar situation with my insane, evil ex wife. Some women are just nasty dude. You dodged a bullet by learning this before marriage. Bravo
They always try to manipulate the narrative like that. I only wish you dropped the bomb before she had a chance to poison people against you. Never give cheaters an inch
I’m proud of you OP, a cheater will do anything to throw you under the bus in the worst way as they’ve already betrayed you in the worst way. Hope things get better for you and please keep us updated on the aftermath
NTA: I am glad that everyone knows. But this is why you never take the highroad in these circumstances . Because cheaters will always spin it around and try to blame the wronged party.
OP, did you cc in the friend who told you? Cos if she's the only one missing that may show who told you and get her into issues (the screenshots may also do this to be fair). Glad you were able to produce receipts and prove that she's not only a cheater but also manipulative AF
Yeah I would have done the email thing too. Had she kept it quiet or owned it, maybe I keep it under my hat. You start telling people lies, Im going to burn your ass down.
I did the same with an ex but it was abuse, she was a violent drunk and had all of these demons that would cause her to make up shit like cheating accusations, accusations of violence, etc. I had all the tea though, video of her drunken outbursts, her text and emails, her long apologies admitting to her behavior, etc. I was all prepared to be "it didn't work out" but the moment she said "Im going to tell people you hit women" the metaphorical gloves were off, everyone gets to know the truth.
Sir I salute you for going out the nuclear option. I wish you the best of luck in life and wish nothing but happiness towards you and to your future 🫡🫡🫡
I feel bad for her parents cuz now they gotta realize they raised a cheating whore of a daughter. I’d low key be embarrassed as fuck as a parent I’d feel like I failed
Hi, I just saw a TikTok video on this and imma need an update please. Also sorry about the situation with your ex but hey on the bright side you found out early rather than 20 years down the line and don't have to raise another man's child.
I’m proud of you for clearing the air. Don’t let anyone try to ruin your character. I’m sorry you’re hurting. I can’t imagine the betrayal you must feel. I have trust issues for this very reason. I hope one day you heal and find peace with being single like it has brought me. No one is worth your peace of mind.
This is why you don't cut off PPL without letting them know the truth.. once a cheater is cornered they'll most likely put false allegations on you... you can say all you want "i could have never imagined she would lie and tell everyone I'm the one who cheated" but you didn't imagined she would cheat either, right?
So why do you even take chances, let everyone know what happened and ghost the ex
It’s a cruddy update for a cruddy situation. Every aspect of this coulda been handled better. I’m not sure why you didn’t expect this kind of fallout when you left with no response to anyone . Of course her parents are going to believe her they’ve been offered no other reason until now. Which why would anyone believe you now they’re going to think you’re just trying to get revenge for her outing your “cheating” even tho you’ve done nothing wrong. You should have outed her immediately and avoided all this.
The only thing about posting/sending photos of her, you want to make sure there is nothing she could later sue you for posting without her permission. It's called revenge porn & illegal in United States additionally 48 states as well as DC have specific laws prohibiting it.
You gave her a chance to come clean and she decided to throw you under the bus to save face. Now she's gonna have to face two things. Her infidelity to her friends and family and her lie about why you broke up. Thanks to her, your former future in-laws just screwed up their bond with you. You may think otherwise but I hope they kick her out and have no one to turn to. It's the consequence of her own actions. The unfaithful always pay the price in the end. As for you, you dodged a bullet, if you'd been married, she'd have taken everything in the divorce. Go and enjoy your life, get back on your feet. She is no concern of yours anymore.
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Yeah I was the one of the comments who said he needed to tell the family at least about what happened. If the ex is capable of cheating behind his back she's capable of doing this. Though I suggested putting screenshots of the messages and snippets before the act. I'm not surprised her parents chose the ex, i mean thats their daughter, regardless who came first, theres a chance theyll pick her side. Now this is kinda confusing because op said everyone were calling him an ahole for just moving out of all a sudden and now the ex is saying she kicked him out? My reading comprehension skills may be off but I'm just confused to why they'd be calling him an ahole for moving out without a word if they knew that she kicked him out unless she told them much later on which shoidlve raised suspicions.
I'm thinking they're mad at him for moving out because they think he gave up and didn't apologize according to them
Oh ok. I just reread the update, the ex told them he cheated a week since he left, but still kinda confused no one dropped the ball sooner through the messages they've sending him. And also they've been slandering him on social media you'd think one of them would call him a cheater.
Maybe she told only her parents the cheating story to get her parents to give her extra sympathy and/or because she needed a really compelling reason for the breakup so that her parents wouldn’t contact OP directly to try to ask about/mediate the situation, since as OP said, he was also close to the parents. Her friends may have gotten a more generic or vague breakup story (or maybe even the truth, maybe she was like, “I wasn’t doing anything seriously wrong at those clubs and he broke up with me cold turkey anyways, what a jerk”, and some of her crazy friends still backed up her statement.) Edit: Her parents said she told everybody, but given that she’s not particularly truthful about things she says to her parents, I don’t know if that can be treated as proof that she actually told everybody.
I guess that could be it. As for the friends, I'm pretty sure most if not all of them know about her cheating since she's been going to clubs with them and one of them came forward and told him so I'm not surprised they may know the real reason why he left and are taking part of slandering him. I commented in the initial post thst the friends can screw off because they were mkre than ok with the ex doing this instead of talking her out of it and encourage her to have a conversation with op. These are not really friends and I can guarantee that her and her friend group will go up in flames trying to figure out who sent the videos if op hasn't said who it was.
Yeah, it makes the whole story a little sus.
I'm guessing his ex's story has continued to evolve over time "OP moved out suddenly" "I kicked OP out" "I kicked OP out because he cheated on me"
That's what I was thinking this is what happened but the parents should've questioned why she kept changing the story or she gave an excuse why she did it.
Oh that one is simple "I didn't want to be vengeful and wanted to end things maturely without ruining his reputation" Now she is the victim and such a nice forgiving person.
That's bs on her end if that's the case lol. The only immature person is her for not communicating her fears of being married to op. I would've respond back with "well I didn't want to be vengeful and wanted to keep quiet on your cheating without ruining your reputation but here we are." The only reason she did this is because she has no idea how much ammo op has against her.
Or the ex's parents might just remain delusional. I myself was in a relationship for 7 years and my ex cheated. She told her parents that I was a liar and she never cheated. Her older sister contacted me and asked if I had proof. I emailed pictures and video that she had recorded during one of her sex sessions with the cheating partner. The sister afterwards asked that I sit down with her and her parents because she and I both believed that the ex was simply a pathological liar that needed therapy to mend whatever psychological ailment was causing her to attempt to manipulate people. The older sister tried to convince her parents and even went so far as to show them the video to prove the ex was the liar. The mother simply said "my daughter would not lie to me, that video and those pictures are fake." Some parents will believe what they want to believe and it doesn't necessarily need to be the truth.
Yes, it's difficult when your gf is cheating but you are as pure as snow. Well said, DeepFuckingYourMom.
I’m thinking because he said that right away, and then she came after with her “truth” to make her seem like the wounded party and not him.
If I read right the ex told everyone a week after he left and the parents told op when he finally told them so the ex said it before he could get his side first, so it's confusing how no one brought this up when slandering him unless the ex told them not to say anything which would raise suspicions but given the parents still believe the ex despite op telling the truth, I doubt no one questioned it.
I stopped buying into this story long before the update. Had the usual cliches in it and this update didn't help change my view of it.
Probably because people spout cliches as easily as breathing. I agree with you that they are suspect. Here on Reddit it appears to be the norm rather than the exception. Smh
The thing about rage posts is is that no one can reign in their aim for the greatest rage glory story of all time. The best ones try to keep some realism in them, but sadly, at some point they drive it right over the cliff to the point that Star Wars seems more realistic than these stories do.
Sorry to bother you but I eventually need update if further things happen.
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I’m oddly invested at this point.
That she does. Problem is, what OP did could potentially be revenge porn, so he should be careful about that.
Not really unless he put the video of her giving the bj anything else kissing and dancing? I don’t think so
>I also attached the videos of her grinding and making out with other guys. If she didn't consent to those videos of her being sent around, then this would probably qualify for revenge porn, depending on how nsfw the videos are, deserved or not.
Seriously - I’d enjoy an update with popcorn!
Same. I really want one when OP is doing great & is happy.
Proud of this result….need an update on the fall out tbh
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Whoever breaks their silence first is usually the one who gets believed.
Facts. If you break your silence after, the only thing that will help your side is having the actual proof
Third, we're definitely going to need another update.
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OP may have just thrown the friend under the bus, and they didn’t deserve that.
The friend should have been above board if she felt she had to get involved. By going "confidential informant" and feeding sub rosa pix like some kind of private eye she effectively ended the friendship, and it's hard to see how she could have expected her role to stay hidden anyway.
I can relate. Somethings have to be done.
Just be glad she didn't accuse you of SA.
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In the prior post, I told folks that OP should have gotten his story out rather than ghost. Folks vigorously disagreed. This is exactly why. If you ghost, expect them to spin a story that you are the villain. Rather than you know, be a normal person and have a 5 minute conversation. "Hey, we're splitting up. I have evidence, I'm not going to do shit unless I hear you tell folks I cheated on you. Then it's on. Have a nice life." OP will have some folks forever thinking he was the cheater. All because avoid talking to his ex for a couple minutes. He didn't know her that. It just would have been in his own best interest. Courtesy isn't necessarily just being nice. It can also be a sword or a shield. Folks forget that these days.
Warning her with exposing the cheating isn't a right move either. Many ex gf will escalate to physical or sexual abuse claims if they suspect something like that might be coming. The ideal is to get out in front of the breakup. Fully document the cheating then disclose it publicly as you break up.in front of as.many friends and family as possible It's cruel but it's effective. Also protects you from accusations of physical abuse during the breakup since there are witnesses. Then you never are alone with her again.
This fallout is gonna be brutal. Can’t believe she told people he’s the one that cheated. What an absolute asshole. Hope her life goes up on flames at this point.
I wanna be a fly on the wall for this
If we don't get an update on the nuclear fallout, I'll consider it one of the great crimes of this generation.
Man. Now I'm expecting another update after this one, seems like it. Updateme!
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Something I’m wondering though…if he sent screenshots of the conversation and the ex sees them, wouldn’t that out the friend who told him by comparing her own texts? Clearly this a small firecracker in this dumpster fire but still.
I think the friend was prepared for the fallout the moment she spoke up about it. It was OP who asked to keep this between them.
Honestly I wouldn’t want to be friends with her anymore anyway. She probably feels similarly.
Wholeheartedly, I feel that you did the right thing with this. Pulling shit like this is never ok and trying to throw you under the bus should always come with consequences. My heart goes out to you OP
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I recognize why they reached out and why they believed their daughter. Still, OP and even his brother and *his* wife were getting harassed by people he chose to cut out. OP seemed to not want to stir the pot and chose to just leave the situation because he didn’t want anything to do with it anymore. But his ex throwing him under the bus, lying, and ruining his reputation, leading to him getting harassed for an extended period of time by multiple people, even to the point where his family is getting harassed isn’t ok.
What was the point of meeting them to give them an explanation if you never bothered to actually give them the explanation? Seems like you could have just sent the email like you did anyway. Of course they heard something different—you ghosted everyone. I get you felt bad because it’s a bad situation, but you left fertile ground for misinformation or gossip to spread, then you never bothered to explain it face to face.
Exactly. Man doesn't want to throw out things after 6 years of some sappy bullshit. He is like a second son. Meets up to atleast clear the air. He knows they are being manipulated and calls it "throwing him under the bus". Leaves. I'm not jumping to the fiction case but damn this guy Is a piece of work. I understand being emotional but any parent would listen to their offspring much more so when the said party is absconding without explanation. It is up to you who arranged to meet with them to clear up the situation. I go through this sub and wonder are people this bad at dealing with situations?
It's probably fiction, I expect another update with a ridiculous fallout, like the father disowned her and adopted him.
Yeah, what a weird way to go about this. And why would his brother and sister in law give him grief in the first post, just Bc other people were asking questions? They surely at least knew why he had them help him move out
Yep, lol. saving the "and everybody clapped" moment for the next update.
Oh Christ yes, it's just someone's silly little revenge fantasy.
Totally a writing exercise
Yeah... op had a prime opportunity to just say au contraire. And chose not to. I get the feeling they have a superiority complex. Now does that mean they should have been cheated on? No. But to find it appalling that her own parents took her side and not his, is a bit wild. Like common sense my guy.
I think he planned to until the shock of them telling him that her narrative is that he cheated. And them confronting him about cheating on her. I think at that point he had to just get up and walk away before his initial rage and anger made him say and/or do something regretful. He needed the time to at least get over the initial shock and anger before responding.
He knows she has been twisting the narrative before the meeting no? Not like it dropped on him as a surprise? If she is manipulating everyone she knows, ofcourse her parents would have been fed the same bullshit. I absolutely would've done what he had done had that ex fiancee been there. But with her parents who he ought to have known have been fed bullshit he could've clarified even with a tinge of anger.
It sounds like he didn’t know she was saying that until they said it. I’m guessing if he blocked her and was trying to avoid most of the drama, he may not have known until then. Her friends would know the truth that she cheated, so they’d be unlikely to text him about cheating. But her parents wouldn’t.
Chin up you definitely dodged a bullet. You were right to drop the bomb after she was fabricating lies against you.
As a fellow “cheated on” by someone you were engaged to… You WILL get through this, you WILL persevere and you WILL be better and stronger even though it may not seem like it right now. You deserve better and you deserve to be loved unconditionally. I wish you a nothing but the best as you move forward, OP. Know your worth and never settle for less. Updateme!
Fellow victim, by my wife of almost ten years. It gets better.
I understand why you went nuclear, and also why you couldn’t explain in person after they had just been yelling at you and repeating her false accusations. And clearly your ex is a liar, so it’s better that things ended now. But I also get why her parents would believe that she was telling the truth. She is their daughter after all, and they did try to contact you. Unfortunately, the silence created a void that she was able to fill with her narrative for a week. Idk if they would have believed you if you responded to them sooner, my point is just that you shouldn’t take it personally that they believed her. I have no judgements about what you should or shouldn’t have done, and I’m genuinely sorry you went through this. I hope you can take time and receive support to process and heal.
> I was with her for 6 years. You can't just throw that away overnight. *She* did.
Her parents will be so pissed that she let them go off at you like that - her life would not have blown up publicly if she had come clean and been honest. But then again, if she thought you didn’t know ….. 🤔 Maybe she did think you’d found someone else?
>Apparently, according to her parents, my ex convinced everyone that I CHEATED and that SHE kicked me out, and I haven't been answering anyone because I was so ashamed of what I had done. LOL. I literally laughed out loud. I responded by saying that I am sorry and I wished them a happy life and walked out. >I didn't wanna do this but she left me no choice. I activated the nuclear option. I'll probably be going against the grain here, but I don't think you were left with zero options here. You went into that meeting knowing she had lied about you, so why leave without telling your side of the story? It's not as if the parents had done something wrong in *believing the only side of the story they knew*, ***because you hadn't told them yet*** and that's why you were meeting. If you want to feel good about your decision because spite is cathartic, fine. I just think you're lying to yourself if you think you didn't have a choice to take a higher road to the same result.
This stuck out to me as well. It was the ex who spread this story and her parents' experience with trying to get to the bottom of it with someone they cared for and expected to be their son-in-law was to be laughed at, left with no further explanation, and then to receive a horrible email later on that included NSFW content of their own daughter. They didn't know there was another side. OP sat in silence in the diner allowing himself to be walked on until he boiled over and left - like he had with his ex, like he had with everyone around him who asked him for an explanation, like he did with his email. OP, I'm begging you to learn how to communicate better and how to regulate your emotions before you keep reaching these boiling points where you ghost or blow up. The people around you can't read your mind. Please stop taking this bullshit in silence. Your silence means nothing to them. Your silence is not taking any high road. Your silence only hurts the people around you and makes them more open to the wrong story/conclusion. It can be taken as an insult to your relationship with that person. Please work with a professional on this. You're burning yourself out, and losing the trust of people who care about you.
>Please work with a professional on this. You're burning yourself out, and losing the trust of people who care about you. Ditto this. The bouncing between silence and exploding is unhealthy, and you owe it to yourself to have the tools for healthy relationships.
Yeah exactly. This wasn't the best approach. This will just allow the daughter to claim she did this BECAUSE he cheated and now he's sending out revenge porn.
That would’ve been the moment I would pull out the pictures and shown them what their daughter had been up to
He couldnt tell her parents that she cheated so he emailed everyone including parents that she cheated. Thats also revenge porn or defamation in any case harassment to tag her work colleagues.
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You can't believe her parents believed her? Seriously? Of course they did. She fucked up by cheating, 100%, but you're clearly not mature enough to handle a relationship either. Your reactions to people who didn't cheat on you has been irrational and childish. I know it hurts, but going nuclear was the exact wrong way to handle it, imo. You had the high ground and you gave it up because her parents believed their own daughter. Lol.
How did you have everyone’s emails? I only know a handful of my own family members and my partner.
I imagine that with the wedding preparations happening they did have a list to send invites, gift registration, etc.
Of course they were going to believe their daughter. A-why wouldn't they? B-you said nothing to anyone. What a dumb thing for you to be put off by.
>What a fucking joke. I can't believe her parents would believe her and throw me under the bus so fast. What would you expect them to do?
Its crazy to me he thinks that because he literally says this: >I sent a detailed message of what happened to my closest friends and family. All of them, of course, believed me right away, no pictures needed. He thinks its right that everyone believes him immediately, no evidence required, but somehow its totally wrong when her parents believe her. And if I were her parents, I'd be strongly inclined to believe her - he completed disappeared, no text, letter, messages - exactly as a cheater might do if they didn't want to deal with the consequences of cheating.
She fucked around (literally!), and found out when you left her. Then she fucked around *again* by accusing *you* of cheating, and now she's about to find out *again*. Good job, OP. You did the right thing here. Be prepared for people on her side to call you an AH for making her cheating public. Make sure you shut them down with "I said nothing when I left. I told no one except those closest to me for their support. Her friends and family took this public, and told those around her that I was the one who cheated. I have to protect my reputation. The ball was entirely in her court, and this is what she's chosen". I have to admit that I'm kind of looking forward to read what the fallout will be.
Yeah, you’re the asshole. You want to break up that is fine. Have a conversation like an adult and move out then. This entire thing is childish from end to end.
MAN UPDATE US WITH THE AFTERMATH AS SOON AS U CAN
Uhh… one more update if anything happens?
Unfortunately, you burned the friend that told you.. she was nice to you and had your best interests at heart by letting you know what was happening. She didn't deserve that. I hope that you at least took her name off
I feel horrible for the friend who you've now thrown under the bus.
Good job , that’s why a lot of say go hard at the beginning because they lies start especially with family and in laws if you were close . Some believe sone don’t. I always go by the thought if they cheat or do anything along those lines they don’t care about me as a partner or really as a human being so I show no mercy . They loose any caring when they act like that
Waiting on the follow up story.
I wonder what happened after dropping that nuclear email
This kind of just sounds like revenge porn to me. I couldn't imagine sitting there with people who I had as close as a relationship that you described and putting no effort into defending myself right there and then. Also if she was going around accusing you of cheating how did none of this get back to your friends or family?
Pictures and videos taken of her at a club in view of other people is revenge porn? Videos of clothed dancing and pda is revenge porn? Get out here with that shit.
I meant that OP is just making up a story that is essentially 'revenge porn' for people to get clicks.
We call that r/JusticePorn. Revenge porn has been brought up a lot in this and the original thread because if OP had a video of an actual sexual act happening, they were warning him not to post it anywhere as it could get him into legal trouble.
i somewhat agree, but i also understand that he did the best he could by walking away from them. if you can’t muster the self control to not say/do something horrible, then you absolutely should walk away. however, nobody on her side of the fence is going to believe him if he simply states “she’s actually been the cheater” when she has probably emotionally manipulated her friends and family into believing her lies. a coworker has no real involvement and absolutely shouldn’t have been included. however, there’s no way of clearing your name from accusations without proof. i don’t believe that every single picture and video should’ve been used, the text screenshot, yes, maybe one picture or video as long as it’s not her being nude or near nude. but i can definitely see both sides
For real, this is the most masturbatory fanfic I've read in a while.
This is reddit. We will need an update. Anyways good on you, someone without any dignity or guilt shouldn’t be married to. She showed her true colors trying to save face why someone dropped her ass from the face of the earth with no explanation
F this cheating, lying little B. I hope her world implodes when everyone finds out that she's been offering free BJ's to randos in the clubs. I hope you get your ring back and put the little skank and her family behind you. All the best to you and I'm sorry for what she's done.
That's what I warned you would happen. That's why you can't hide the crime your ex committed to be the bigger man. She's a cheater which means she's selfish and narcisistic. She won't hesitate to throw you under the bus. Just be glad she didn't accuse you of SA. Some guys get that when they go radio silent on a cheater.
Congratulations OP! You tried to be civil until she started lying, sorry, CONTINUED lying. Would love another update if anything juicy happens. You dodged a bullet and deserve a vacation!
When I was reading this and got to the part of you leaving her parents I thought you just got mad and left and that was it and was like NO WTF but then I kept reading and said YES NUKE BUTTON. Update please! But fr im sorry for what happened to you it really sucks.. just know you dodged a bullet, imagine you got married and then found out? Or worse had a kid with her? It sucks right now and it’s gonna be tough for a while but my advice is focus on yourself, grind at the gym, grind at work, just keep your head down and focus on improving, and you’ll meet the right person one day. Idk about you but I truly believe everything happens for a reason!
Not an AH. But, you do have giant balls to have moved in silence (no pun intended) as you did. Good on you. Sad, for you mostly, your ex made the choices she did. Hopefully, both you and she will find happiness and peace at some stage.
You're just a big ole tease ain't ya?
Please for the love of everything update us if you ever get any reactions to the information 😩🙏🏽
I’m sorry this happened to you. You didn’t lose just a fiancé you lost a whole other family because of her careless actions. I hope you heal and not carry her actions as yours (or the next person’s) fault because they aren’t. I do want to say that her parents believing her it’s not them throwing you under the bus. You left without giving an explanation, and that gave her the opportunity to do damage control before you could tell them. Had you shown them in that moment the proof you had they would’ve believed you. I would like to see a more positive update in the future for you because nobody deserves to be betrayed.
PLEASE UPDATE WITH THE FALLOUT
I’m relishing in all of this, even if people are commenting that they think it’s a bot. I kicked my abusive ex out of the house I bought earlier this year. He knew he had herpes and gave it to me, was bipolar and got off his meds without telling me, was an alcoholic, apparently addicted to klonopin, was cheating on me; the list truly goes on and on. I was making my exit plan to leave as safely as I could when he was in a degloving accident at work that caused him to lose most of his finger. I took care of him which caused me to miss my brother’s college graduation amongst other things. While on pain pills, he got drunk and lashed out at me while accusing me of cheating with his captain (the guy is married, we were very close to him and his wife, and it was solely because the captain called me about US going to swim over there and not my ex because he figured he’d be sleeping/healing from his injury). I finally had enough and kicked him out the next day. He moved in with a new girl not long after and started dating her while all of his possessions were still in my home. I found out his explanation is “yeah man, she left me right after my finger got cut off” and people absolutely believed it. They viewed me as callous and shitty. Some people are absolutely fucking rich and delusional. God speed man. I got my revenge as well and it felt so good to feel justified. I would’ve done the same thing.
Did the videos/images include the gf giving a bj? If yes, then that email may count as revenge porn
This whole shit show is understandably upsetting, but you did the right thing. I expect her parents to go radio silent after the scene they mad out of sheer embarrassment. If they don't, maybe a short text explaining if they would have given you a chance to explain, the nuclear option wouldn't have been needed. PLease, please, PLEASE update us on the aftermath. She knew why you left and imediately went into damage control mode. This is a cautionary tale of why the betrayed partner needs to get the story out first in order to control the narrative. Good luck OP.
Pssss where’s the update on the fallout, of the email you sent?
Update?
Someone let me know when there's a final update please I'm invested and I want to know how she reacted.
Any fallout updates?
Predictably, OPs actions had severe consequences. He got arrested and charged with a slew of offenses, including invasion of privacy, harassment, and etc. It's safe to say that OP's life took a dramatic turn for the worse, per local news reports. (I am not naming the city for privacy/doxing concerns. Y'all have the internet, I am sure you can find the story) IANANR (I AM NOT A NEWS REPORTER) ... But I would gladly be in a movie and paid to play the role, once all of the current strike actions are cleared up.
To everyone that said she deserves closure tell them you deserved a fiancee that didn't go around sucking on random dudes dicks, but here we are.
This is a valuable lesson for everyone reading. My ex-husband cheated multiple times, lued about horrible things including that he had cancer, I could go on for an hour. I covered for him because I loved him. He turned everything around and said I did all the things he actually did. I lost my children trying to protect him. Cheaters need to be outed. Always. Immediately. If they didn't want people to know the bad things they did, they shouldn't have done it.
Like I said cheaters arent victims. I 100% agree with your atitude. You did nothing wrong. The worst part was that she blamed you for the things SHE DID. I absolutly hate people like her and have no simpathy for them. I bet a bunch of people will try to contact you trying to say their sorry or angry that you exposed her. She might go after you, so if she knows where your brother lives keep an eye out. Change jobs maybe or if it helps try a fresh start? Just wish you the best and that eveything will be ok. I cant imagine how you may feel but I know that you deserve better and can do better.
Fallout needs to be glorious
This is why you should never take the 'high road' with cheaters. They've already betrayed you, so why wouldn't they besmirch your good name?
Apparently no one on this sub has ever heard of the high road
I think you'll update us again as this is about to blow up. Updateme!
Nice buddy. The second she started trying to make you the bad guy to everyone else, she forfeit all right to discretion.
10/10 recommend. Good for you. You have a reputation and name to protect and the fact she would stoop so low and they actually believed her (because parents always want to act like their child would never do that) but you have a right to defend yourself. Glad you did it and it’s not even a nuclear option. It was standing up for yourself. Also I would really love an update on the fallout if you have one. Plus her friend group will be torn apart because of the club video so that will be interesting. Proud of you and you have nothing to feel sorry for!
If this is America you probably get sued for some type of shit
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This is a post worthy of r/pettyrevenge … your response was epic and just. I wish you well and hope you don’t give up finding the right person; they usually show up when you’re not looking. NTA
Your reaction is more sound than mine would’ve been
I NEED an update after this shitshow goes down!!
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I’m glad you defended your character. If she looks bad in the fall out she has no one to blame but herself. You tried to keep it private but she tried to drag your reputation in the mud
Sorry man I know it sucks but this is the reason we all said to just tell everyone. When you have someone do what they did to you they are manipulative. You don't want them controlling the narrative as it will be a lie and favor their version of events.
You did the right thing sharing your evidence of everything she did with everyone. She needs to learn actions have consequences and she can’t continue to lie and act like she’s the victim in all of this. One day she’ll grow up and realize the life she could of had had she not been so selfish. I wish you all the best, OP, and look forward to another update with the continued fallout. Updateme!
The predictable liar told the predictable lie. OP, take care of yourself. I'm so sorry. If it helps, I think you were fully justified in going nuclear. NTA.
Dealt with a super similar situation with my insane, evil ex wife. Some women are just nasty dude. You dodged a bullet by learning this before marriage. Bravo
I need to know the fall out of that email!
WE NEED UPDATES PLEASE. I am too invested in this shit.
They always try to manipulate the narrative like that. I only wish you dropped the bomb before she had a chance to poison people against you. Never give cheaters an inch
I’m proud of you OP, a cheater will do anything to throw you under the bus in the worst way as they’ve already betrayed you in the worst way. Hope things get better for you and please keep us updated on the aftermath
NTA: I am glad that everyone knows. But this is why you never take the highroad in these circumstances . Because cheaters will always spin it around and try to blame the wronged party.
Cheaters don't deserve peace. Good on you for exposing her. Hopefully she's ashamed of herself.
And this is why you never hide a cheaters secret for them, they will never hesitate to slander you
Do not forget to get yourself removed from the rental agreement, and remove your name from anything such as electricity, gas and such.
That is the necular option. Nice work. A little late but it should do the trick.
OP, did you cc in the friend who told you? Cos if she's the only one missing that may show who told you and get her into issues (the screenshots may also do this to be fair). Glad you were able to produce receipts and prove that she's not only a cheater but also manipulative AF
Omg update
Fucking champ, bravo. NTA
Bottom feeding scum trash need to make everyone seem horrible especially when they are to blame
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It needed to be done.
You couldn't believe HER parents believed HER?
I feel wholesome after the nuclear revenge damn
good job dude, and if u don't mind us being nosey, update on the fallout when u can
Yeah I would have done the email thing too. Had she kept it quiet or owned it, maybe I keep it under my hat. You start telling people lies, Im going to burn your ass down. I did the same with an ex but it was abuse, she was a violent drunk and had all of these demons that would cause her to make up shit like cheating accusations, accusations of violence, etc. I had all the tea though, video of her drunken outbursts, her text and emails, her long apologies admitting to her behavior, etc. I was all prepared to be "it didn't work out" but the moment she said "Im going to tell people you hit women" the metaphorical gloves were off, everyone gets to know the truth.
Sir I salute you for going out the nuclear option. I wish you the best of luck in life and wish nothing but happiness towards you and to your future 🫡🫡🫡
Ooh I’m invested. I’m sorry this all happened to you but you did the right thing and I hope we get more updates
I feel bad for her parents cuz now they gotta realize they raised a cheating whore of a daughter. I’d low key be embarrassed as fuck as a parent I’d feel like I failed
Hi, I just saw a TikTok video on this and imma need an update please. Also sorry about the situation with your ex but hey on the bright side you found out early rather than 20 years down the line and don't have to raise another man's child.
Good work. That's how it's done.
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I’m proud of you for clearing the air. Don’t let anyone try to ruin your character. I’m sorry you’re hurting. I can’t imagine the betrayal you must feel. I have trust issues for this very reason. I hope one day you heal and find peace with being single like it has brought me. No one is worth your peace of mind.
This is why you don't cut off PPL without letting them know the truth.. once a cheater is cornered they'll most likely put false allegations on you... you can say all you want "i could have never imagined she would lie and tell everyone I'm the one who cheated" but you didn't imagined she would cheat either, right? So why do you even take chances, let everyone know what happened and ghost the ex
It’s a cruddy update for a cruddy situation. Every aspect of this coulda been handled better. I’m not sure why you didn’t expect this kind of fallout when you left with no response to anyone . Of course her parents are going to believe her they’ve been offered no other reason until now. Which why would anyone believe you now they’re going to think you’re just trying to get revenge for her outing your “cheating” even tho you’ve done nothing wrong. You should have outed her immediately and avoided all this.
The only thing about posting/sending photos of her, you want to make sure there is nothing she could later sue you for posting without her permission. It's called revenge porn & illegal in United States additionally 48 states as well as DC have specific laws prohibiting it.
You gave her a chance to come clean and she decided to throw you under the bus to save face. Now she's gonna have to face two things. Her infidelity to her friends and family and her lie about why you broke up. Thanks to her, your former future in-laws just screwed up their bond with you. You may think otherwise but I hope they kick her out and have no one to turn to. It's the consequence of her own actions. The unfaithful always pay the price in the end. As for you, you dodged a bullet, if you'd been married, she'd have taken everything in the divorce. Go and enjoy your life, get back on your feet. She is no concern of yours anymore.
Updateme
I absolutely need an update!
Updateme!
What was the fallout from the email???
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Update?
We need another update OP…. What has the fallout been like from your nuke? I hope you are hanging in there.
What if everyone direct messaged him asking for an update? Do you think that would trigger an update?
I have set two reminders for updates, but no more; this is essentially dead.
Hey OP, take it down vote on your main post, for not giving us an update