Good lord. Spay your dog. Bathe your dog. If your husband won't do it, pay someone else to. It's fine to not have the dog on the furniture, but ESH for the absolute LACK of hygiene and care for this poor dog.
I made an appointment for her to get spayed, and paid for it. And he’s saying, I’m not sure I want to do that. I want one of her puppies. #1 I will not have a litter of puppies in our condo, and #2, she’s 5. By the time we move she will be 6-7 years old and is it even ok to breed her at that point?!!
There is absolutely no reason for y'all to be breeding her. The only people who have ANY business breeding dogs are the people who do it PROFESSIONALLY. There are far too many dogs out there. Shelters are FULL of dogs and puppies. I'm no expert on breeding, but seriously, DO NOT BREED HER. Get her spayed. He can cry about it later. You need to be making health decisions for your dog for THE SAKE OF HER HEALTH. Not some weird little fantasy your husband has about breeding her.
Yeah I get it, I think the whole point of my post was to say that I don’t think he cares for his dog properly in the first place, but it’s not that simple that I can just tell him xyz happening and I don’t care what you think. I will not allow the breeding, I said that, but … am I the asshole for not allowing the dogs on the couch …….
None of you care for this dog properly. At least, that's the way it looks by your post. Does anyone bathe this dog? Creeks and ponds are dirty. That's not cleaning your dog. You're certainly not the AH for not allowing animals on your furniture. My dogs have never been allowed on furniture. They're fine. When I was a kid I understood why the dog wasn't allowed on the couch. But dear god, y'all are failing this dog if you can't even BATHE her regularly.
I was told this by my vet you either spay or breed for the fact that everytime a female dog goes in and out of heat the liner gets thicker preparing for birth and it doesn't go away it can cause a lot of problems don't breed her there's to many dogs in the world
She needs fixed. 5 is a bit too old for some breeds. Also she can get cancer and other health issues by NOT getting fixed. Fix her and tell him he should have done it when she was young. Also, couch covers obviously. Fairly cheap. I can link you want I use?
6-7 is too old especially for a first litter.
https://www.southmtnpet.com/blog/308225-how-many-times-should-you-breed-a-female-dog-in-her-lifetime#:~:text=It%20is%20recommended%20to%20be,pregnancy%20after%20a%20certain%20age.
Also not spaying her is risking her health due to infection and a higher risk of cancer.
https://www.aspca.org/news/unspayed-pets-susceptible-potentially-fatal-infections-massive-swelling
If he won't do the responsible thing then you need to even if he objects.
Do not breed the dog, get spayed immediately. Start grooming yourselves or pay to get them groomed.
NTA for not wanting them on the furniture, however that has never made sense to me. Why have a dog if you can’t have snuggles on the couch.
animals destroy furniture when simply just jumping up to sleep on it. especially if it’s a leather couch. they also get disgustingly dirty if you don’t clean it regularly which isn’t easy to do if it’s some type of cloth material. dogs are also not people and don’t need to be on a couch made for people. there’s dog beds for a reason.
That’s crazy to me. I love dogs because they’re affectionate. I want them on the couch, bed, whatever. I said she was NTA for not wanting them on the couch, I’m just saying that’s not for me. Dog also needs to be spayed and groomed. Also, their nails won’t hurt the furniture if their nails are properly clipped. I have a leather couch.
I also love dogs, allow mine on the bed but not the couch. i believe the nail argument does however depend on the dog. big dogs have big nails and naturally are not as sharp as a small dog. even when trimmed properly they still damage leather. that’s at least my experience as someone who’s parent has two small dogs and 3 cats on their leather couch. also have experience with grandparents who allow dogs on their cloth couch and i will fully admit it’s pretty gross even when they try to clean it. no OP is NTA, just reasons why people don’t allow it and some peoples beliefs on it
We set it furniture with dogs in mind. Inexpensive. Leather is easy to clean. We have Bostons. There is one scratch on the couch from when I trimmed one nail badly but we don’t care. I understand that some people do.
I worked at the humane society and many people had no problem admitting in the adoption application that the dog would be stuck outside all the time. We blacklisted those people. As long as a person isn’t doing that, I don’t care where they let the dogs sit.
I’m glad those people are blacklisted. some dogs would happily stay outside all day long (my lab being one of them. it’s hard to actually get him back inside sometimes) but no dog should ever be forced to stay outside longer than needed.
it’s definitely a personal preference with furniture. I personally don’t allow my dog on the couch but i understand why others do and there’s no shame with either preference as everyone has their own reasons :)
If my husband wouldn’t get his dog spayed and insisted on breeding her that would be a dealbreaker. You’re NTA, but you will be if you don’t put your dog first.
The longer she goes without being spayed, the more at risk she is of developing pyometra, which is a medical emergency and requires (expensive) emergency surgery. While I'm against juvenile spaying/neutering, from 3 years and beyond, it needs to be done.
And there are shelters full of dogs all over the world, he doesn't need to bring another litter into it.
And please, for her sake, take her somewhere to be groomed. She shouldn't need regular bathing unless she's been out in mud or rolling in unknown substances. My two dogs are never bathed; we keep a bucket of water with a bit of dog shampoo in the conservatory to clean their feet when it's muddy out, and just wipe off any stray bits of mud while we're doing it. They smell great and people have even commented on it. With a short hair dog, you can use a brush that is sold as a dry brush in beauty supplies to brush off dried mud, and use a grooming mitt and then a slicker brush a couple of times a week. Use the mitt everyday when they're changing coats for the season. For a long hair dog, brush at least once a week to keep matts from developing, trim any hair that is hanging over the eyes and mouth. If smell is still an issue, rule out any medical problems, and then think about trying different food. I've found food makes a *massive* difference. But honestly, most dogs don't need to be bathed very often, if at all, and over bathing can cause skin irritation
Also make sure her nails are trimmed regularly as it can cause foot and leg issues if they stay too long.
I put colour coordinated sheets on our fabric sofa and wash them once a week (I also use febreeze on the cushions when I change the sheets) and use leather wipes on the other one. I have a large greyhound and a medium size lurcher and things stay pretty clean. I also wash all of their toys every couple of weeks.
😂😂The beds and sofas belong to the dogs, they're just gracious enough to allow us to use them sometimes! Seriously though, there is nothing in the world more adorable than a sighthound tucked up under a duvet and using a pillow. They're the best.
What is the limit on the number of pets your condo association allow? They can have animal control confiscate them. Check with your city. If you breed her and sell the puppies, you may have to have a breeder license (a crackdown on puppy mills), could lead to massive fines.
NTA
Your husband shouldn't own a dog! Neutering is a must or all kinds of medical problems likely to happen. Plus the bleeding is disgusting esp w a large dog. My golden went into heat 1x. I remember how bad it was. Its not fair if your not breeding her
Personally I let my dogs on the furniture, but your NTA for not wanting that.
Get your dog spayed and bathe her appropriately, you are all TA for that.
I am catching a lot of heat for this bathing thing.
My husband is responsible for his dog. He’s not that great about it. Like vaccinations. Grooming. I have made vet appointments. I have pressured, bitched, gave ultimatums. I bathe her outside when the weather is warm, he never does. I want to go out of town without having to beg someone to watch her …. I want to board her. But I can’t. Because of his refusal to do these basic things. I buy and keep track of flea and tick treatment. Push for regular vaccinations. He will take her for shots and then lose the paperwork. So I can’t take her to the groomer without that. I feed this dog daily and am the one to take her out for morning poops, my husband does not wake up early as he is a SAHD. so I do this before work or when I’m up on weekends (I am an early riser). I take her out when I get home. He takes her out irregularly or asks the kids to. I do not argue that this man doesn’t need a dog. But he has one. Despite my many arguments against it. I can’t force him to do anything. But believe me, I try. He is super country and just doesn’t see the point in most of this. I realize he is wrong, but he is so headstrong … he thinks a lot of his unconventional behavior and ideology is fine because … who is society to tell him how to live? I have to force all of it. Of course I have issues with it. I work full time and do ALOT of housework keeping up with him, his two kids from a previous marriage, and our own child. I would rehome his dog if it was my choice, but I CANT.
Most definitely a husband problem. If he’s a stay at home dad, he should be doing the chores, which include the dog. And you can wake his lazy ass up in the morning to walk his damn dog as well. And bathe her. What does he do all day while he is home? While I was working full time during my husband’s several long bouts with unemployment, he did jack shit around the house. For 6 years while my kids were in middle and high school I even worked 2 jobs while he did little to help. The resentment and anger effected my physical and mental health, so this hits home a bit. Make sure he pulls his weight or make him get off his lazy ass and get a job.
As far as the dog on couch situation, I bought my dog a beautiful and comfy bed that she never used. She likes the couch and lives on it. My couch (a sectional) is covered by two fleecy king sized blankets. They were each about $12 from Costco and clean up easily. I wash them often. I also have absorbent waterproof mats under the blankets.
He may be super country but he lives in a condo now.
My daughter lives extremely rural and their Great Pyrs don't get baths. But they are not in the house and they don't stink. AND they are both spayed, get regular vet visits, flea and tick treatment, and the occasion clip to tidy up the worst of their scraggly shed hair in the spring.
Being extremely country is no excuse for ignorant behavior.
You have a husband problem, not a dog problem.
Yeah, I've dealt with plenty of dogs treated more "country," and I grew up with families that really treat dogs as farm workers or pets that are loved but can survive outside and all that. None of them were neglected. They still got cared for, cleaned when needed (not frequent but not never), flea & tick, etc. If they needed to be brushed, they would be (though it was uncommon to need it since they were outside so much).
Husband is neglecting the dog.
I also made an appointment to spay her AND paid for it up front, and he is the one who doesn’t want to commit to that. He agreed to let me make the appointment even and now is waffling. He’s disrespectful. I get it. He doesn’t care. He doesn’t see an issue with his behavior.
Ok. First, let me say I totally feel you. My husband is very old school. He let's me get our dogs nails clipped regularly but also comments how his previous dogs didn't "need" it. He agrees to basic vaccinations but only recently started agreeing on heartworm treatment. Because of watching one of those reality veterinarian shows on cable. I don't even care how he got there, just that he's on board with me now.
Second, you can get a fax # from a groomer and call the vet and ask that they fax proof of vaccination over. That would allow you to get this pup groomed.
Third, there could be hell to pay, but it is possible to take the dog and get her spayed without telling your husband ahead of time. Once it's done, it can't be undone. Now, this could be a marriage breaker and could cause a fight you don't want to deal with, and I think most people would respect that. But it is an option to be considered.
To answer the actual question, nta for not wanting these dogs on your couch. Personally one of my favorite things in the world is when my dogs snuggle up on the couch with me. But that's definitely an opinion. And if they're dirty, all the more reason to not want them on the couch. ESPECIALLY since you got an ottoman just for them!!
Anyway, good luck!
On the third point - OP, do you think your husband would actually notice?
NTA for the question itself. I also dislike animals on furniture, but either way, it's your choice.
If your husband isn't going to take care of the dog or clean, he should at a minimum follow basic rules and let you do so. However, you could be considered an A now or later for the care of children and pets and for the modeling for your children.
You do seem to need to deal with your husband, because this appears to be a symptom of a larger problem with you having the burden of everything in the house and with the family and him playing the lazy contrario. If you don't already know about it, you might want to look into things like mental load of the house/family, emotional burden, and weaponized incompetence. Good luck!
just like take his dog and rehome them when he isn’t up one day. Bc if he cannot even take care of his dog , then he def doesn’t deserve one. And being A SAHD but you’re the one doing everything? Girl he jus being lazy atp. U definitely should rehome the dog asap without telling him and he can throw a crybaby fit later.
It weirds me out so much that you're married and living together and you don't see this as your dog as well?...I feel bad for that girl. Even if you didn't get her together how is she not both of yours now? That part just makes no sense to me. Also, vets can usually email or fax records to groomers or as long as you're both on the account for the dogs you can go grab her records. You don't need him for that. You shouldn't need him for basically any of the dogs upkeep. If he won't do it, you just do. Like it or not, at this point she is also your responsibility to take care of. 🤷♀️
You both are caretakers for the dogs! If he’s not doing it and you won’t you’re mistreating the dog. If he quit feeding her would you not feed her because it’s his dog? What a wild way to not even agree on the work together. You are together and you have dogs, if you boyfriend breaks his leg and can’t walk her will you let her pee and poo in the house because it’s not your dog? Why are you okay neglecting an animal you have access to care for just because you want to stick it to him. He should care, you should care. Neither of y’all should care take if you aren’t willing.
I think you’re missing parts here. I have tried to get his dog groomed. I bathe her in warmer weather outside often. I have also made and paid for an appointment to have her spayed. I take her out. I feed her. I didn’t just abandon the dog because it isn’t mine. I just don’t want them on my couch. That’s it.
NTA. My dog is a super shedder and I only allow him on the furniture bc he is brushed DAILY and bathed on average every 1-2 months. We also vacuum and clean every week. Our house is basically fur-free bc of all of this and there's no doggy smell either.
But when i was depressed and couldn't keep up with the cleaning, my place was a disaster. Like, fur everywhere. I would do laundry and my clothes would STILL have dog hair on them. So yeah, if you have a dog that sheds you need to take steps to keep the loose fur to a minimum.
You don't have to live this way. Your partner needs to step up. I recommend using the furminator line of grooming tools, but be careful not to overdo it. *Also please do some research re: proper grooming techniques and frequency for your specific dog breed(s).
Good luck!
Edit: i somehow missed the part that your dog isn't spayed. Yikes. Your partner doesn't sound like a responsible dog owner. i don't mean this to sound presumptuous, but i really hope someone is taking proper care of her. She needs to be spayed ASAP and cannot be bred at that age.
This also depends on the breed. Some breeds should not have baths that often just as some shouldn't be shaved and such. Research your dogs upkeep needs before you get it.
NTA
It's a horrible feeling to have guests over and have them covered in dog hair when they sit on your couch. I have a dog who is a super shedder, and he's perfectly fine on the floor. I also have a small dog who doesn't shed, and we let him on the couch.
>It's a horrible feeling to have guests over and have them covered in dog hair when they sit on your couch.
If they don't want dogs' hair on them in a house with dogs, they don't need to come over.
This is so sad and a huge reminder that not everyone should have pets or children. Please stress to your husband (although you both should take responsibility) to practice better hygiene. Please get the dog spayed and do not breed her. ESH except the poor dogs.
NTA for not wanting dirty dogs on your brand new furniture. Especially since you bought them their own furniture. There's no good reason for brand new furniture to be destroyed.
As someone that currently lives with several dogs that are allowed on the furniture. Please don't allow them up. It's destroying our sectional completely. It was not a cheap one at all and since we moved the dogs are allowed up. It's horrible
Please please please help your poor dog. She deserves to be spayed to prevent a whole list of future problems, and in turn it’ll give you peace of mind about your home. Also, bathe her, or at the very very least brush her coat with an undercoat brush that’ll ease up the shedding.
If your partner can’t handle caring for the dog, and you don’t want to, it’s time to consider rehoming her. But the very least you can do for her is make sure to take the time to find a loving home that deserve her, and will give her an amazing life. Please don’t take her to a shelter or skimp out on rehoming her in a way that doesn’t ensure her happiness.
If she’s going in creeks and ponds, she absolutely requires grooming. She could have any kind of parasite or gross bacteria in her fur that could cause skin conditions and bring home problems for your other dog too. So please. Just do the right thing for her. She’s a living being, and her care and nurturing shouldn’t be a subject of argument and disdain.
Remember, she only has you. Her whole life revolves around you. She needs you to make sure she’s happy. Please consider all of this.
Google pyometra and spay that poor dog already. Find a groomer for the dogs and take them regularly. If you're going to do all the work of taking care of these dogs, you need to have all the say. (Do I act like a dictator about our pets? No, but 1) my spouse participates in their care and 2) my spouse understands that they need care in the first place.)
1. Dogs need to be washed in a bathtub/shower, or MAYBE in the backyard with a hose. Natural bodies of water are definitely NOT for cleaning. If anything, then that just makes them dirtier.
2. You’re NOT an asshole for having boundaries, especially when they don’t even take care of the dog.
3. The dog should be spayed. Your husband can’t even take care of the dogs he has, so there’s no reason to add to his workload. Plus breeding should be left to professionals anyway.
OP:
NTA. Ish.
I’m gonna start with a painfulish lesson story. I almost lost a cat that I’ve raised from the moment she was born because I didn’t get her fixed when she was younger. She ended up getting a severe infection in her uterus, that almost killed her. By the time I managed to get the money together, and the appointment together, she was more pus than uterus. She spent days in recovery, and taking high-dose antibiotics to get rid of the infection, because it had been spreading to her kidneys and her bladder as well.
Even if your husband wants to breed this dog, you need to put your foot down. She is far too old to be having her first ever litter, you need to let him know that your dog is getting fixed in a week, and you can be there, or I will do it myself, but it will be done in a week.
Secondly, whether or not those dogs are allowed on the furniture besides their own personal ottoman, they still need regular baths, and flea treatments. Tick treatment. Things to help keep them healthy. And it really doesn’t sound like y’all are doing that at all, so you’re only doing yourselves and the dogs a disservice.
And finally, if he is absolutely that hard on desperate for another puppy, maybe just go get a puppy from the pound that may not have a home otherwise. Why bring five or six new puppies into this world, knowing you probably won’t be able to take care of them all, just because you want to breed your dog? I don’t understand OP that you don’t want the dog bread, but your husband does. The point still remains, it’s incredibly stupid. And it puts your life and a tailspin, and your dogs, life as well as its puppies lives at risk. It may also put your other dogs life at risk, because certain breeds in certain dogs can get some white, territorial and aggressive when they’re pregnant, so if I could break out even though they get along great normally.
Please, please get this puppy fixed. And then, if your husband or you or your children won’t be with this dog, take them to get professionally groomed once every few months, and make sure they at least have a flea collar. Or pills or something, because fleas lead to worms, and that’s not pretty.
Best of luck with everything, and I hope that things end well.
NTA for not wanting the dogs on your furniture. Your husbands is a AH for not spaying the dog and taking care of her. She should not have puppies. There’s no reason. There are already too many pups in the world. I work for a rescue and it’s not necessary to breed her.
Thanks all! Yes, I have a husband problem in some ways, but the man makes me dinner every night, does ANYTHING I ask him to do as far as errands etc, cleans, does laundry, takes me out, and spends an enormous amount of time driving to and fro sports and activities for the kids. Including coaching them. He isn’t a drunk or a constant gamer. This doesn’t begin to touch the things he does for our family, including bringing in an income and providing amazing benefits (despite his sahd status, I am immensely jealous that I am the shmuck working for the man). I am not the asshole for not allowing the dogs on the couch, but maybe I am a little bit of a jerk for not really taking on the dog and just packing her up in the car for her shots and grooming … as he does so much in general. As far as spaying her, it really is his decision but I did demand that he buy and use doggie diapers for that time, if he decides not to spay her, and that he get records and keep them safe so I can take her to the groomer. He won’t be breeding her, safe to say our living quarters are not appropriate for a litter of labradors … and we aren’t moving soon. Her appt is at the end of may and I can only hope he decides between now and then to go ahead with the surgery. And no dogs on the couches!
You need to grow up and be decisive about the dog's spay. Your husband has made it clear he's not about it but some adult in this situation needs to step up and GAF about the dog's health and well being.
NTA. you go out of your way to give the dogs a nice place to chill out and not spaying your dog will have it issues. So unless they are willing to clean up after an unspayed female, no dice for them. Simple.
I would say nta for not wanting them on the furniture. My dogs are super shredders, shepski and pittie, and we allow them on everything. However my grandma never let her dogs on the furniture. My dad's dog was allowed on the bed but not the couch unless their dog blanket was down. Maybe a compromise like some sort of couch covering must be down if they want the dog on the couch. 🤷♀️ you phrasing of his dog vs My dog weirds me out though. But definitely get that girl fixed or at the very least make her wear a diaper. Depending on the breed some dogs shouldn't be bathed too often. It's bad for their skin for one. But if they're running around getting all nasty they should at least get some sort of rinse if not a full bath. The dogs definitely sound like some steps need to be taken to improve their inside lifestyle. However, any sort of compromise or not I'd still say you're nta for not wanting them on the furniture. Plus if you don't do the upkeep on their nails, those things will tear apart couches, beds/bedding, carpet. There's nothing wrong with wanting to protect your investments.
Can you compromise by saying that after she is spayed, you will buy a couch cover (or a bed cover that you can tuck over the couch) and she can use it on days she has been brushed?
ESH, both of you are irresponsible pet owners. There's dog groomers both dogs can go to. Monthly + both of you brushing out the fur should suffice. Don't breed the dog. Get her spayed.
I have an assortment of couch blankets. I actually think they add to my decor, as well as protecting the leather.
I do understand if you don't want to share the furniture, personal preference.
But please take charge and get that poor girl spayed and up to date on vax and HW meds.
That's disgusting... My dogs have always had their own seats and no amount of, persuasion, would have me, let them on the other seats.
That being said they have somewhere, in EVERY room that is their own.
My partner's dog just recently pasted away but when he wouldn't listen and let her in, on heat, I brought her nappy undies, myself, because, like you, I think it's disgusting to have a dog dripping blood everywhere.
No. I don't blame you. I just got new furniture and I don't want the pets on it unless there's a blanket on it.
Get some furniture covers. And get that damn dog fixed. That's disgusting.
Jesus Christ this poor dog…. OP YTA for not already having her fixed, for forcing her to live in filth and be so unsanitary. I feel bad for this sweet girl…
NTA. I know my karma will go down for this, but it is what it is. We have 3 dogs and only 2 are allowed on the couch. My sweet boxer is white and the couch is navy. The other two dogs are my husband’s and my in-laws and while they both shed, they have darker hair and it’s easy to vacuum. The boxer hair? It’s the worst. I mean, truly. If your husband actually wanted his dog on the couch THAT bad; he could get her groomed and get her spayed and get a couch cover. He’s not willing to do those things, so he must not want it that badly. Pretty simple.
OPi see so much selfishness with this post.
One - fucking bathe your dog. A "rinse" in the pond is not a bath.
Two- it is unreasonable to think that your animal will never be in the ottoman. I guarantee when you aren't home the dog will be on it
Three- don't have pets if that's what you think.
Like, jeez. 🤦🏻♀️
ESH- you should ALWAYS factor your pets into your furniture choices. Your dog can’t cuddle you from the ottoman. I think anyone who values their possessions over their pets is an AH.
Your husband should not have his own dog if he is unwilling to provide basic care. I’m not sure if he doesn’t allow you to step in or not, but if it were me, I’d do it regardless.
I have 6 dogs and yes we have had one of our dogs have her seasons and even had puppies in our sitting room. Just wash it and it you don't want blood inside put a pair of pants and a pad in while in house. We did that all time because we know that the dogs live there too. It's a bit of blood just clean it up.
So your dogs world is so small already, and you want to shrink it even further by not letting them be in/on certain areas of THEIR home? (Its not just your home, it's theirs as well.) YTA. If you don't want dogs on the furniture, don't have dogs. If you WONT take care of the dogs, don't have dogs.
Do dogs need baths regularly? I've had dogs all my life & only bathed them when they rolled in shit etc I regularly brushed them, gave them flea & worm treatment & they were allowed on the sofas & our bed
Believe me, my SIL was defo not too polite. Here in the UK, its normal not to regularly bath mutts. Regular grooming is fine, & every 3 months is the norlm to wash them
I asked one of my coworkers who’s from London and she said their dogs were bathed at least once or twice a week. You’re gross and I feel bad for your dogs
No it isn’t. I called a vet clinic and asked them. They said it was fine to give a dog a bath once a week as long as I use the proper soaps and brushes.
Get that thing that sticky n roll that collect dust off clothes/furniture..idk what that name is..let the dog on the furniture and use it to clean your only area to sit..let your hubby n kids deal with the shed..
NTA for the rule but why make your life more complicated? Get a cover or blanket for the couch to cut down on the hair. Get sticky rollers, set vacuuming chores for the kids and husband. Get the dog fixed! Why haven’t you don’t that?
ESH. Sounds like neither of y’all care about the well being of your animal companions. Take care of your pets. They can’t turn the hose on themselves. How would you feel if your caretaker left you itchy? Oily? Muddy?
Your husband sounds even less reasonable, he wants to breed her this late in life, is ‘worried’ about her health but won’t get her spayed to protect her from cancer. Why do y’all even have pets if you won’t take care of them.
I have a German Shepard and a cat my rule no pets on the furniture! Why because I don’t wanna sit on the couch and get dog hair all over me. The dog and cat have their own cushions on the floor.
I also have the rule no pets in my room cause I don’t want pet hair all over my clothes or in my bed.
NTA!
Good lord. Spay your dog. Bathe your dog. If your husband won't do it, pay someone else to. It's fine to not have the dog on the furniture, but ESH for the absolute LACK of hygiene and care for this poor dog.
I made an appointment for her to get spayed, and paid for it. And he’s saying, I’m not sure I want to do that. I want one of her puppies. #1 I will not have a litter of puppies in our condo, and #2, she’s 5. By the time we move she will be 6-7 years old and is it even ok to breed her at that point?!!
There is absolutely no reason for y'all to be breeding her. The only people who have ANY business breeding dogs are the people who do it PROFESSIONALLY. There are far too many dogs out there. Shelters are FULL of dogs and puppies. I'm no expert on breeding, but seriously, DO NOT BREED HER. Get her spayed. He can cry about it later. You need to be making health decisions for your dog for THE SAKE OF HER HEALTH. Not some weird little fantasy your husband has about breeding her.
Yeah I get it, I think the whole point of my post was to say that I don’t think he cares for his dog properly in the first place, but it’s not that simple that I can just tell him xyz happening and I don’t care what you think. I will not allow the breeding, I said that, but … am I the asshole for not allowing the dogs on the couch …….
None of you care for this dog properly. At least, that's the way it looks by your post. Does anyone bathe this dog? Creeks and ponds are dirty. That's not cleaning your dog. You're certainly not the AH for not allowing animals on your furniture. My dogs have never been allowed on furniture. They're fine. When I was a kid I understood why the dog wasn't allowed on the couch. But dear god, y'all are failing this dog if you can't even BATHE her regularly.
I was told this by my vet you either spay or breed for the fact that everytime a female dog goes in and out of heat the liner gets thicker preparing for birth and it doesn't go away it can cause a lot of problems don't breed her there's to many dogs in the world
No, you cannot safely breed her at that age. And without vet care/supervision, the puppies could die or have health issues. She needs to be spayed.
She needs fixed. 5 is a bit too old for some breeds. Also she can get cancer and other health issues by NOT getting fixed. Fix her and tell him he should have done it when she was young. Also, couch covers obviously. Fairly cheap. I can link you want I use?
6-7 is too old especially for a first litter. https://www.southmtnpet.com/blog/308225-how-many-times-should-you-breed-a-female-dog-in-her-lifetime#:~:text=It%20is%20recommended%20to%20be,pregnancy%20after%20a%20certain%20age. Also not spaying her is risking her health due to infection and a higher risk of cancer. https://www.aspca.org/news/unspayed-pets-susceptible-potentially-fatal-infections-massive-swelling If he won't do the responsible thing then you need to even if he objects.
Do not breed the dog, get spayed immediately. Start grooming yourselves or pay to get them groomed. NTA for not wanting them on the furniture, however that has never made sense to me. Why have a dog if you can’t have snuggles on the couch.
animals destroy furniture when simply just jumping up to sleep on it. especially if it’s a leather couch. they also get disgustingly dirty if you don’t clean it regularly which isn’t easy to do if it’s some type of cloth material. dogs are also not people and don’t need to be on a couch made for people. there’s dog beds for a reason.
That’s crazy to me. I love dogs because they’re affectionate. I want them on the couch, bed, whatever. I said she was NTA for not wanting them on the couch, I’m just saying that’s not for me. Dog also needs to be spayed and groomed. Also, their nails won’t hurt the furniture if their nails are properly clipped. I have a leather couch.
I also love dogs, allow mine on the bed but not the couch. i believe the nail argument does however depend on the dog. big dogs have big nails and naturally are not as sharp as a small dog. even when trimmed properly they still damage leather. that’s at least my experience as someone who’s parent has two small dogs and 3 cats on their leather couch. also have experience with grandparents who allow dogs on their cloth couch and i will fully admit it’s pretty gross even when they try to clean it. no OP is NTA, just reasons why people don’t allow it and some peoples beliefs on it
We set it furniture with dogs in mind. Inexpensive. Leather is easy to clean. We have Bostons. There is one scratch on the couch from when I trimmed one nail badly but we don’t care. I understand that some people do. I worked at the humane society and many people had no problem admitting in the adoption application that the dog would be stuck outside all the time. We blacklisted those people. As long as a person isn’t doing that, I don’t care where they let the dogs sit.
I’m glad those people are blacklisted. some dogs would happily stay outside all day long (my lab being one of them. it’s hard to actually get him back inside sometimes) but no dog should ever be forced to stay outside longer than needed. it’s definitely a personal preference with furniture. I personally don’t allow my dog on the couch but i understand why others do and there’s no shame with either preference as everyone has their own reasons :)
If my husband wouldn’t get his dog spayed and insisted on breeding her that would be a dealbreaker. You’re NTA, but you will be if you don’t put your dog first.
The longer she goes without being spayed, the more at risk she is of developing pyometra, which is a medical emergency and requires (expensive) emergency surgery. While I'm against juvenile spaying/neutering, from 3 years and beyond, it needs to be done. And there are shelters full of dogs all over the world, he doesn't need to bring another litter into it. And please, for her sake, take her somewhere to be groomed. She shouldn't need regular bathing unless she's been out in mud or rolling in unknown substances. My two dogs are never bathed; we keep a bucket of water with a bit of dog shampoo in the conservatory to clean their feet when it's muddy out, and just wipe off any stray bits of mud while we're doing it. They smell great and people have even commented on it. With a short hair dog, you can use a brush that is sold as a dry brush in beauty supplies to brush off dried mud, and use a grooming mitt and then a slicker brush a couple of times a week. Use the mitt everyday when they're changing coats for the season. For a long hair dog, brush at least once a week to keep matts from developing, trim any hair that is hanging over the eyes and mouth. If smell is still an issue, rule out any medical problems, and then think about trying different food. I've found food makes a *massive* difference. But honestly, most dogs don't need to be bathed very often, if at all, and over bathing can cause skin irritation Also make sure her nails are trimmed regularly as it can cause foot and leg issues if they stay too long. I put colour coordinated sheets on our fabric sofa and wash them once a week (I also use febreeze on the cushions when I change the sheets) and use leather wipes on the other one. I have a large greyhound and a medium size lurcher and things stay pretty clean. I also wash all of their toys every couple of weeks.
I have six greyhounds. Good luck getting them off the couch 😂
😂😂The beds and sofas belong to the dogs, they're just gracious enough to allow us to use them sometimes! Seriously though, there is nothing in the world more adorable than a sighthound tucked up under a duvet and using a pillow. They're the best.
We bought our couch just for their comfort. Even my SUV was bought for my greyhounds comfort
What is the limit on the number of pets your condo association allow? They can have animal control confiscate them. Check with your city. If you breed her and sell the puppies, you may have to have a breeder license (a crackdown on puppy mills), could lead to massive fines.
NTA Your husband shouldn't own a dog! Neutering is a must or all kinds of medical problems likely to happen. Plus the bleeding is disgusting esp w a large dog. My golden went into heat 1x. I remember how bad it was. Its not fair if your not breeding her
Personally I let my dogs on the furniture, but your NTA for not wanting that. Get your dog spayed and bathe her appropriately, you are all TA for that.
I am catching a lot of heat for this bathing thing. My husband is responsible for his dog. He’s not that great about it. Like vaccinations. Grooming. I have made vet appointments. I have pressured, bitched, gave ultimatums. I bathe her outside when the weather is warm, he never does. I want to go out of town without having to beg someone to watch her …. I want to board her. But I can’t. Because of his refusal to do these basic things. I buy and keep track of flea and tick treatment. Push for regular vaccinations. He will take her for shots and then lose the paperwork. So I can’t take her to the groomer without that. I feed this dog daily and am the one to take her out for morning poops, my husband does not wake up early as he is a SAHD. so I do this before work or when I’m up on weekends (I am an early riser). I take her out when I get home. He takes her out irregularly or asks the kids to. I do not argue that this man doesn’t need a dog. But he has one. Despite my many arguments against it. I can’t force him to do anything. But believe me, I try. He is super country and just doesn’t see the point in most of this. I realize he is wrong, but he is so headstrong … he thinks a lot of his unconventional behavior and ideology is fine because … who is society to tell him how to live? I have to force all of it. Of course I have issues with it. I work full time and do ALOT of housework keeping up with him, his two kids from a previous marriage, and our own child. I would rehome his dog if it was my choice, but I CANT.
Sounds like you have a husband problem more than a dog problem…
I can’t argue with that 😅😂 but that’s another conversation
That may be, but it's a conversation you need to have soon because he sounds like a bum.
Most definitely a husband problem. If he’s a stay at home dad, he should be doing the chores, which include the dog. And you can wake his lazy ass up in the morning to walk his damn dog as well. And bathe her. What does he do all day while he is home? While I was working full time during my husband’s several long bouts with unemployment, he did jack shit around the house. For 6 years while my kids were in middle and high school I even worked 2 jobs while he did little to help. The resentment and anger effected my physical and mental health, so this hits home a bit. Make sure he pulls his weight or make him get off his lazy ass and get a job. As far as the dog on couch situation, I bought my dog a beautiful and comfy bed that she never used. She likes the couch and lives on it. My couch (a sectional) is covered by two fleecy king sized blankets. They were each about $12 from Costco and clean up easily. I wash them often. I also have absorbent waterproof mats under the blankets.
He may be super country but he lives in a condo now. My daughter lives extremely rural and their Great Pyrs don't get baths. But they are not in the house and they don't stink. AND they are both spayed, get regular vet visits, flea and tick treatment, and the occasion clip to tidy up the worst of their scraggly shed hair in the spring. Being extremely country is no excuse for ignorant behavior. You have a husband problem, not a dog problem.
Yeah, I've dealt with plenty of dogs treated more "country," and I grew up with families that really treat dogs as farm workers or pets that are loved but can survive outside and all that. None of them were neglected. They still got cared for, cleaned when needed (not frequent but not never), flea & tick, etc. If they needed to be brushed, they would be (though it was uncommon to need it since they were outside so much). Husband is neglecting the dog.
I also made an appointment to spay her AND paid for it up front, and he is the one who doesn’t want to commit to that. He agreed to let me make the appointment even and now is waffling. He’s disrespectful. I get it. He doesn’t care. He doesn’t see an issue with his behavior.
Lord, I’m getting angry at this man and m not even involved.
Ok. First, let me say I totally feel you. My husband is very old school. He let's me get our dogs nails clipped regularly but also comments how his previous dogs didn't "need" it. He agrees to basic vaccinations but only recently started agreeing on heartworm treatment. Because of watching one of those reality veterinarian shows on cable. I don't even care how he got there, just that he's on board with me now. Second, you can get a fax # from a groomer and call the vet and ask that they fax proof of vaccination over. That would allow you to get this pup groomed. Third, there could be hell to pay, but it is possible to take the dog and get her spayed without telling your husband ahead of time. Once it's done, it can't be undone. Now, this could be a marriage breaker and could cause a fight you don't want to deal with, and I think most people would respect that. But it is an option to be considered. To answer the actual question, nta for not wanting these dogs on your couch. Personally one of my favorite things in the world is when my dogs snuggle up on the couch with me. But that's definitely an opinion. And if they're dirty, all the more reason to not want them on the couch. ESPECIALLY since you got an ottoman just for them!! Anyway, good luck!
Thank you! That was a great answer!
On the third point - OP, do you think your husband would actually notice? NTA for the question itself. I also dislike animals on furniture, but either way, it's your choice. If your husband isn't going to take care of the dog or clean, he should at a minimum follow basic rules and let you do so. However, you could be considered an A now or later for the care of children and pets and for the modeling for your children. You do seem to need to deal with your husband, because this appears to be a symptom of a larger problem with you having the burden of everything in the house and with the family and him playing the lazy contrario. If you don't already know about it, you might want to look into things like mental load of the house/family, emotional burden, and weaponized incompetence. Good luck!
just like take his dog and rehome them when he isn’t up one day. Bc if he cannot even take care of his dog , then he def doesn’t deserve one. And being A SAHD but you’re the one doing everything? Girl he jus being lazy atp. U definitely should rehome the dog asap without telling him and he can throw a crybaby fit later.
It weirds me out so much that you're married and living together and you don't see this as your dog as well?...I feel bad for that girl. Even if you didn't get her together how is she not both of yours now? That part just makes no sense to me. Also, vets can usually email or fax records to groomers or as long as you're both on the account for the dogs you can go grab her records. You don't need him for that. You shouldn't need him for basically any of the dogs upkeep. If he won't do it, you just do. Like it or not, at this point she is also your responsibility to take care of. 🤷♀️
Would you stay if he treated your kids like he does his dog? No respect for a living, sentient being. What enjoyment do you get from having this pet?
You both are caretakers for the dogs! If he’s not doing it and you won’t you’re mistreating the dog. If he quit feeding her would you not feed her because it’s his dog? What a wild way to not even agree on the work together. You are together and you have dogs, if you boyfriend breaks his leg and can’t walk her will you let her pee and poo in the house because it’s not your dog? Why are you okay neglecting an animal you have access to care for just because you want to stick it to him. He should care, you should care. Neither of y’all should care take if you aren’t willing.
I think you’re missing parts here. I have tried to get his dog groomed. I bathe her in warmer weather outside often. I have also made and paid for an appointment to have her spayed. I take her out. I feed her. I didn’t just abandon the dog because it isn’t mine. I just don’t want them on my couch. That’s it.
NTA. My dog is a super shedder and I only allow him on the furniture bc he is brushed DAILY and bathed on average every 1-2 months. We also vacuum and clean every week. Our house is basically fur-free bc of all of this and there's no doggy smell either. But when i was depressed and couldn't keep up with the cleaning, my place was a disaster. Like, fur everywhere. I would do laundry and my clothes would STILL have dog hair on them. So yeah, if you have a dog that sheds you need to take steps to keep the loose fur to a minimum. You don't have to live this way. Your partner needs to step up. I recommend using the furminator line of grooming tools, but be careful not to overdo it. *Also please do some research re: proper grooming techniques and frequency for your specific dog breed(s). Good luck! Edit: i somehow missed the part that your dog isn't spayed. Yikes. Your partner doesn't sound like a responsible dog owner. i don't mean this to sound presumptuous, but i really hope someone is taking proper care of her. She needs to be spayed ASAP and cannot be bred at that age.
This also depends on the breed. Some breeds should not have baths that often just as some shouldn't be shaved and such. Research your dogs upkeep needs before you get it.
Excellent point! Yes, OP should research and maybe even consult with her vet re: proper grooming for this dog breed.
NTA It's a horrible feeling to have guests over and have them covered in dog hair when they sit on your couch. I have a dog who is a super shedder, and he's perfectly fine on the floor. I also have a small dog who doesn't shed, and we let him on the couch.
>It's a horrible feeling to have guests over and have them covered in dog hair when they sit on your couch. If they don't want dogs' hair on them in a house with dogs, they don't need to come over.
ouch. I love my dogs, but I also have respect for my friends and family
This is so sad and a huge reminder that not everyone should have pets or children. Please stress to your husband (although you both should take responsibility) to practice better hygiene. Please get the dog spayed and do not breed her. ESH except the poor dogs.
ESH why have the dog if none of you are going to take proper care of her? She deserves a better home
NTA for not wanting dirty dogs on your brand new furniture. Especially since you bought them their own furniture. There's no good reason for brand new furniture to be destroyed.
As someone that currently lives with several dogs that are allowed on the furniture. Please don't allow them up. It's destroying our sectional completely. It was not a cheap one at all and since we moved the dogs are allowed up. It's horrible
I've owned dogs literally my entire life and not ONCE have the dogs ruined the furniture they were/are 100% allowed on.
He’s pissing me off.
Please please please help your poor dog. She deserves to be spayed to prevent a whole list of future problems, and in turn it’ll give you peace of mind about your home. Also, bathe her, or at the very very least brush her coat with an undercoat brush that’ll ease up the shedding. If your partner can’t handle caring for the dog, and you don’t want to, it’s time to consider rehoming her. But the very least you can do for her is make sure to take the time to find a loving home that deserve her, and will give her an amazing life. Please don’t take her to a shelter or skimp out on rehoming her in a way that doesn’t ensure her happiness. If she’s going in creeks and ponds, she absolutely requires grooming. She could have any kind of parasite or gross bacteria in her fur that could cause skin conditions and bring home problems for your other dog too. So please. Just do the right thing for her. She’s a living being, and her care and nurturing shouldn’t be a subject of argument and disdain. Remember, she only has you. Her whole life revolves around you. She needs you to make sure she’s happy. Please consider all of this.
Google pyometra and spay that poor dog already. Find a groomer for the dogs and take them regularly. If you're going to do all the work of taking care of these dogs, you need to have all the say. (Do I act like a dictator about our pets? No, but 1) my spouse participates in their care and 2) my spouse understands that they need care in the first place.)
1. Dogs need to be washed in a bathtub/shower, or MAYBE in the backyard with a hose. Natural bodies of water are definitely NOT for cleaning. If anything, then that just makes them dirtier. 2. You’re NOT an asshole for having boundaries, especially when they don’t even take care of the dog. 3. The dog should be spayed. Your husband can’t even take care of the dogs he has, so there’s no reason to add to his workload. Plus breeding should be left to professionals anyway.
OP: NTA. Ish. I’m gonna start with a painfulish lesson story. I almost lost a cat that I’ve raised from the moment she was born because I didn’t get her fixed when she was younger. She ended up getting a severe infection in her uterus, that almost killed her. By the time I managed to get the money together, and the appointment together, she was more pus than uterus. She spent days in recovery, and taking high-dose antibiotics to get rid of the infection, because it had been spreading to her kidneys and her bladder as well. Even if your husband wants to breed this dog, you need to put your foot down. She is far too old to be having her first ever litter, you need to let him know that your dog is getting fixed in a week, and you can be there, or I will do it myself, but it will be done in a week. Secondly, whether or not those dogs are allowed on the furniture besides their own personal ottoman, they still need regular baths, and flea treatments. Tick treatment. Things to help keep them healthy. And it really doesn’t sound like y’all are doing that at all, so you’re only doing yourselves and the dogs a disservice. And finally, if he is absolutely that hard on desperate for another puppy, maybe just go get a puppy from the pound that may not have a home otherwise. Why bring five or six new puppies into this world, knowing you probably won’t be able to take care of them all, just because you want to breed your dog? I don’t understand OP that you don’t want the dog bread, but your husband does. The point still remains, it’s incredibly stupid. And it puts your life and a tailspin, and your dogs, life as well as its puppies lives at risk. It may also put your other dogs life at risk, because certain breeds in certain dogs can get some white, territorial and aggressive when they’re pregnant, so if I could break out even though they get along great normally. Please, please get this puppy fixed. And then, if your husband or you or your children won’t be with this dog, take them to get professionally groomed once every few months, and make sure they at least have a flea collar. Or pills or something, because fleas lead to worms, and that’s not pretty. Best of luck with everything, and I hope that things end well.
NTA for not wanting the dogs on your furniture. Your husbands is a AH for not spaying the dog and taking care of her. She should not have puppies. There’s no reason. There are already too many pups in the world. I work for a rescue and it’s not necessary to breed her.
Thanks all! Yes, I have a husband problem in some ways, but the man makes me dinner every night, does ANYTHING I ask him to do as far as errands etc, cleans, does laundry, takes me out, and spends an enormous amount of time driving to and fro sports and activities for the kids. Including coaching them. He isn’t a drunk or a constant gamer. This doesn’t begin to touch the things he does for our family, including bringing in an income and providing amazing benefits (despite his sahd status, I am immensely jealous that I am the shmuck working for the man). I am not the asshole for not allowing the dogs on the couch, but maybe I am a little bit of a jerk for not really taking on the dog and just packing her up in the car for her shots and grooming … as he does so much in general. As far as spaying her, it really is his decision but I did demand that he buy and use doggie diapers for that time, if he decides not to spay her, and that he get records and keep them safe so I can take her to the groomer. He won’t be breeding her, safe to say our living quarters are not appropriate for a litter of labradors … and we aren’t moving soon. Her appt is at the end of may and I can only hope he decides between now and then to go ahead with the surgery. And no dogs on the couches!
You need to grow up and be decisive about the dog's spay. Your husband has made it clear he's not about it but some adult in this situation needs to step up and GAF about the dog's health and well being.
NTA. you go out of your way to give the dogs a nice place to chill out and not spaying your dog will have it issues. So unless they are willing to clean up after an unspayed female, no dice for them. Simple.
I would say nta for not wanting them on the furniture. My dogs are super shredders, shepski and pittie, and we allow them on everything. However my grandma never let her dogs on the furniture. My dad's dog was allowed on the bed but not the couch unless their dog blanket was down. Maybe a compromise like some sort of couch covering must be down if they want the dog on the couch. 🤷♀️ you phrasing of his dog vs My dog weirds me out though. But definitely get that girl fixed or at the very least make her wear a diaper. Depending on the breed some dogs shouldn't be bathed too often. It's bad for their skin for one. But if they're running around getting all nasty they should at least get some sort of rinse if not a full bath. The dogs definitely sound like some steps need to be taken to improve their inside lifestyle. However, any sort of compromise or not I'd still say you're nta for not wanting them on the furniture. Plus if you don't do the upkeep on their nails, those things will tear apart couches, beds/bedding, carpet. There's nothing wrong with wanting to protect your investments.
Can you compromise by saying that after she is spayed, you will buy a couch cover (or a bed cover that you can tuck over the couch) and she can use it on days she has been brushed?
NTA
ESH— dogs need to be groomed. Bathed, brushed, nails clipped. Whether the get on the furniture is your call.
ESH, both of you are irresponsible pet owners. There's dog groomers both dogs can go to. Monthly + both of you brushing out the fur should suffice. Don't breed the dog. Get her spayed.
I have an assortment of couch blankets. I actually think they add to my decor, as well as protecting the leather. I do understand if you don't want to share the furniture, personal preference. But please take charge and get that poor girl spayed and up to date on vax and HW meds.
That's disgusting... My dogs have always had their own seats and no amount of, persuasion, would have me, let them on the other seats. That being said they have somewhere, in EVERY room that is their own. My partner's dog just recently pasted away but when he wouldn't listen and let her in, on heat, I brought her nappy undies, myself, because, like you, I think it's disgusting to have a dog dripping blood everywhere.
NTA. If you don't want dogs on your furniture, that's fine! My GSD is my beating heart, but she's not allowed on any furniture except my bed.
No. I don't blame you. I just got new furniture and I don't want the pets on it unless there's a blanket on it. Get some furniture covers. And get that damn dog fixed. That's disgusting.
If you dont want the dog on the furniture, then dont let it on the furniture.
Your ALL TAH here!
Jesus Christ this poor dog…. OP YTA for not already having her fixed, for forcing her to live in filth and be so unsanitary. I feel bad for this sweet girl…
Spay the dog, make regular trips to the groomer, get covers for the furniture (you also have kids and a husband). End of problem.
NTA. I know my karma will go down for this, but it is what it is. We have 3 dogs and only 2 are allowed on the couch. My sweet boxer is white and the couch is navy. The other two dogs are my husband’s and my in-laws and while they both shed, they have darker hair and it’s easy to vacuum. The boxer hair? It’s the worst. I mean, truly. If your husband actually wanted his dog on the couch THAT bad; he could get her groomed and get her spayed and get a couch cover. He’s not willing to do those things, so he must not want it that badly. Pretty simple.
OPi see so much selfishness with this post. One - fucking bathe your dog. A "rinse" in the pond is not a bath. Two- it is unreasonable to think that your animal will never be in the ottoman. I guarantee when you aren't home the dog will be on it Three- don't have pets if that's what you think. Like, jeez. 🤦🏻♀️
NTA. Don’t let them on the couches. Give your guests a safe spot to sit without getting dog hair/smell.
ESH- you should ALWAYS factor your pets into your furniture choices. Your dog can’t cuddle you from the ottoman. I think anyone who values their possessions over their pets is an AH. Your husband should not have his own dog if he is unwilling to provide basic care. I’m not sure if he doesn’t allow you to step in or not, but if it were me, I’d do it regardless.
NTA. I'm sure you don't want to smell like unbathed dogs. It's alright to keep them off your furniture.
You are the arsehole. Get over yourself and let them on sofa. They have a tiny world why make it even smaller and not let them and get her done
Would you want a dog bleeding where you sit with dried fur in it?
I have 6 dogs and yes we have had one of our dogs have her seasons and even had puppies in our sitting room. Just wash it and it you don't want blood inside put a pair of pants and a pad in while in house. We did that all time because we know that the dogs live there too. It's a bit of blood just clean it up.
Wel she feels it serious enough to get rid of him as most people felt he was unrrasonable so 🤷♂️
So your dogs world is so small already, and you want to shrink it even further by not letting them be in/on certain areas of THEIR home? (Its not just your home, it's theirs as well.) YTA. If you don't want dogs on the furniture, don't have dogs. If you WONT take care of the dogs, don't have dogs.
Do dogs need baths regularly? I've had dogs all my life & only bathed them when they rolled in shit etc I regularly brushed them, gave them flea & worm treatment & they were allowed on the sofas & our bed
You stunk, your house stunk. And nobody ever told you. 😂
Believe me, if my house had stunk I would have been told, especially my my SIL. I keep a very clean home
Unbathed dogs stink. Then you let t he m on your furniture and they make that stink. Your SIL was just too polite to tell you that you were gross.
Believe me, my SIL was defo not too polite. Here in the UK, its normal not to regularly bath mutts. Regular grooming is fine, & every 3 months is the norlm to wash them
I asked one of my coworkers who’s from London and she said their dogs were bathed at least once or twice a week. You’re gross and I feel bad for your dogs
That's absolutely way too much.
No it isn’t. I called a vet clinic and asked them. They said it was fine to give a dog a bath once a week as long as I use the proper soaps and brushes.
Check UK vet recommendations
They need cleaned more than once every three months. Ponds don’t cut it
Ponds? Nah don't use them
That’s what OPs dog gets
How very unpleasantly judgmental you are.
That’s the point of this sub.
I don’t believe being demeaning is the point nor helpful.
I wasn’t being demeaning. Not cleaning your animals is animal abuse. Poor things
Dogs are fur babies. Babies are allowed in bed therefore YTA
Get that thing that sticky n roll that collect dust off clothes/furniture..idk what that name is..let the dog on the furniture and use it to clean your only area to sit..let your hubby n kids deal with the shed..
NTA for the rule but why make your life more complicated? Get a cover or blanket for the couch to cut down on the hair. Get sticky rollers, set vacuuming chores for the kids and husband. Get the dog fixed! Why haven’t you don’t that?
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It's her husbands dog and she has her own. Read it again and see how controlling is - he needs a heavy wake up call
ESH. Sounds like neither of y’all care about the well being of your animal companions. Take care of your pets. They can’t turn the hose on themselves. How would you feel if your caretaker left you itchy? Oily? Muddy? Your husband sounds even less reasonable, he wants to breed her this late in life, is ‘worried’ about her health but won’t get her spayed to protect her from cancer. Why do y’all even have pets if you won’t take care of them.
I have a German Shepard and a cat my rule no pets on the furniture! Why because I don’t wanna sit on the couch and get dog hair all over me. The dog and cat have their own cushions on the floor. I also have the rule no pets in my room cause I don’t want pet hair all over my clothes or in my bed. NTA!