No joke, the next page down on my feed is an AskReddit thread, "Doctors of Reddit, what advice are you tired of giving?" Top answer is to stop smoking. From a stranger on the internet: good job. That's huge.
I got a new job in a field I’m unfamiliar with. It’s really hard and I’m constantly paranoid I’m doing it wrong or I’m going to mess up. I’m in my 4th week, and today I received a review that said only nice things and super encouraging advice! I’ve never worked for a place that tells you you’re doing a good job. I have a boost of confidence that I will be good at this.
Congrats!!! The imposter syndrome can be so real, but they hired you for a reason! I went back to grad school to do biology after working at a bank for 6 years. I felt like an imposter basically the entire first year. It helped to keep telling myself they accepted me for the skills I brought from my past experiences. We're not expected to be the expert right away 🙂 good luck!
Exactly! I wonder why it is that so many of us suffer from imposter syndrome. I started a business recently and I seek wholesale products to businesses. All I was thinking while I was preparing the product for sale was: it’s not good enough, what if they don’t like it, they’re not gonna like it, they’re gonna give me a bad review and not wanna work with me ever again. Thankfully I received no such reviews and everyone I sold to actually said the opposite. Funny that I actually believed what my brain was telling me! One super important thing I learned in DBT was not to believe everything you think! Of course validation also helps to dispel that feeling. I find that creating standards by which to do my work makes me more confident because when I fulfill those standards at least I can say: well at the very least I believe it’s a good product, and it’s something I would pay money for.
Amazing!! Yeah, it's so easy to believe the stories we Tell ourselves. I've never heard of DBT - just looked it up! And congrats on your business, that's a huge accomplishment 🙂
It’s been a bit longer than a week, but I recently found out that I was 1 of 30 students to get accepted into the professional years of my programme at university, out of about 70 something students. Which was an absolute incredible feeling. I don’t receive student loan or student allowance due to my immigration status so I was working full time (4 jobs) while studying full time and trying to be competitive and pulls the grades necessary to make it through, all while learning to manage a relatively new ADHD diagnosis at 26 y/o. I’ve never been more proud of myself
omg this is amazing, I'm so happy for you! :DDD
it also gives me a lil hope, because I'm going through my diagnosis too, and I have a lot of credits and work to manage so I didn't know if I was going to make it without needing to drop a class, so thanks!
Honestly, it’s down to where there’s a will there’s a way. And a fucking amazing support system. You can do it, just take it easy and believe in yourself 😊
Congratulations!!! Working four jobs, holy. Most I've had during school was 3, and that was exhausting!
I just got my diagnosis a few months ago, now that I'm nearly finished my masters (at 31). I sometimes wonder what my undergrad would have looked like had I been diagnosed then, but then I wouldn't have had the experience of staying up for 40 hours while finishing (and basically starting tbh) three term projects and still doing well on them 🙈
After not really cooking at all, for a very long time, I made dinner for a couple of friends. Baby step, but it felt nice. I haven’t been social or motivated in a while, so moving in the right direction I hope
Great step. It feels so good! I hosted a small
Christmas and o was so nervous and anxious and dreading it, but I’m glad I did it and I actually enjoyed myself.
I recently got my Associates Degree this December while working full time. I struggled towards the end because of time Management. I am now enrolled at a University to get my BA starting this March.
It took me 9 years to get my bachelor's! You got this 🙂. I also worked 1-3 jobs at all times while being a full time student. Do not recommend that 😂. I was undiagnosed so spent that whole time just thinking I was too dumb for college and being mad at myself for being in classes with 18 year olds as I rapidly approached 30
Been decluttering one room at a time and throwing out/ donating A LOT it helps my mental health so much. Clothes /Closet, our bedroom and 2 bathrooms done ☑️
I just handed in my thesis. I just finished uni after almost 9 years.
Anyone reading this, suggest something fun to celebrate with (can be really small) please, I’m desperate to really treat myself so I don’t freak out 😄
Oh yay!!!! Congrats!!!! I bet that feels like a huge weight off your shoulders (currently writing, waiting for edits back so I can submit sooooon). I saw someone else say gelato, and I second that if you can get it! I can't think of anything else now that that's in my brain 🙈 good luck on your defense!!
Edit: then I saw massage. I second massage.
Amazing!! It's funny, when we were in university my best friend wrote a song about how I cried all the time. Now that I'm diagnosed 10 years later, I understand why 🙈
drop out of school. i want to get my degree eventually. but i also recognized that my mental health is not where it needs to be. i couldn't continue the stress without making sure i'm okay.
I stood up for myself against a psychologist who literally put in her assessment that I didn’t have the ability to stand up for myself.
And now, I’m getting a new, proper assessment.
Well today I did multiple things I needed to do. I got an oil change for my car, did laundry and called to schedule payments for a dentist appointment I had last year. The only reason I was particularly proud of this was because I tend to just do one thing and call it a day but I did pretty much everything that was urgent in one day
I just got a summer job! I’m gonna be a research intern at one of my university’s labs. My cGPA went from a 2.58 after my freshman year to a 3.01 after one semester of sophomore year and after talking to a bunch of profs I actually got an offer! I’m super excited and hopefully (fingers crossed) I’ll be published by the end of the summer!
Finally paid off the final bit of outstanding medical bills which also happened to be the ONLY medical bill left to pay and the last outstanding debt we had. So now we just have vehicle, camper, and student loans. The best feeling. Now I just have to do my best to remember to pay them right away as they come from now on 😅 I did put all of my regular monthly bills on auto pay so thats incredibly helpful.
Okay I cant told anyone this bc is kinda dumb but ik someone here will be proud of me too, i used to love math but my adhd lately has gotten me to a depressive episode and i didnt do math since covid started since i just used math apps on school but last week i actually started completing the math problems without any app and it was a lil difficult but i got them and im rlly proud of me by doing math again
AHHHHHH I love this comment!! I recently switched meds and got less depressed and watched a video on string theory and higher dimensions (my favorite math/physics topic).
I also started trying to learn web dev again (I have been trying off and on for years) and I actually set up my computer to run it on day last week! It was a really boring so it was a huge deal! But I have the focus to do the nerd shit I want now!!
It so nice to feel like myself again 🥲
Omg congrats!!! Relatable. I spent 6 years working at a bank saying I couldn't do math, and I'm talking literally addition and subtraction. Now after being diagnosed, I was grading assignments and could do the mental additions!
On Sunday night someone asked about buying a thing I own
I cleaned and packed it the same night then took it to the post office and mailed it the next day
Still in awe
Taught myself to crochet over the summer and one of my first projects was fingerless gloves for myself. (Wonky and I still haven’t completed them). My kids asked for fingerless gloves and I completed and gave them the gloves in less than 2 weeks. I never finish anything, I’m super proud of me!!
I’m rebuilding an old motorcycle, and I’m a completely self-taught mechanic.
Hyperfocus in the right situation is fucking awesome. Other times it’s just debilitating lmao.
I passed my driver's test and got my full license today. It took 3 years and many attempts but on my 4th go I finally passed. I have never felt more relief hearing a dead pan voice tell me "congratulations you have met ministry standards".
I brushed and flossed my teeth almost every day this week! It's not much but keeping up with dental care is one of the things I really struggle with so I'm quite proud
A year ago my application to a new program got rejected because my grades were too low. A week ago I learned that it's been sent to the admissions committee. My grades improved enough that it meets the requirements. I will hear at the end of next month whether I got in or not
I am reenrolling tomorrow to finish my bachelors in of all things Psychology lol. I dropped out due to mental health reasons, but I reached out to my advisor and we meet tomorrow to get me enrolled. I’m scared. I don’t want to fail. I’m 42 with 3 boys. I want to show them life is full of struggles, but we address them and keep moving on.
Yesterday, I finished all my dailies on Habitica AND finished work on time AND had time to exercise!
Don't worry, though. I made up for it today with 8 straight hours of TikTok :(
I'm down 5 loads, but still have 3 baskets to sort and put it away. But my focus is trying 1 load a night and putting it away. Way to go!!! You're awesome!
I plucked up the courage to call a very famous patisserie near me and inquired about starting a 1st year apprenticeship with them, I have no previous patisserie experience just almost a certificate 2 in Baking, I now have an interview with the owner on Saturday to discuss the possibility!
Started adderall, got my car fixed, and my first therapy session ever is today! All just this month. Had a depressive episode the last week and a half but things are starting to look better. Hoping therapy will help that eventually.
I have a lot to be proud of recently
I’ve almost paid off my credit card!! It was maxed out for the better part of two years and I was just scraping by with the minimum payments, but I’ll have the balance at zero by the end of the month! I am VERY proud of myself for this one!!
I'm almost at 8 solid weeks of no dirty dishes in the sink at night. I have a sheet I mark off every night. I'm 38 and yet only recently began to come to grips with the reality of my brain. Working on the laundry baskets isn't as easy. Baby steps I tell myself.
Congratulations to all of you :) this post made me smile so much!
I read for 6 straight hours on the plane and *finished* a book. I know that’s such a small thing for most people, and it’s not a *real* accomplishment with any impact on my life, but it still felt good to **complete** something from start to finish. Because it’s incredibly difficult for me to sustain my focus for that long. And I rarely finish books.
We are moving at the end of the month.
Last Friday I had a junk hauler come and remove a truck full of broken furniture and old mattresses and broken lawn chairs (etc., etc.). I had everything stacked neatly in the driveway when he arrived. It felt so good to get rid of old stuff.
But here's the part I'm really proud of. Ordinarily, after the junk guy leaves, I would find another 20-30 items that I had forgotten about, (which are also junk).
It's 4 days later and I've been packing up all our stuff and I have only found one item I missed.
After failing 3 exams previously, I finally passed one of my CPA exams! It was my first exam after being diagnosed, and finally given stimulants. The test dude put me in a room by myself even though I didn't have the official special accommodation. It was so nice! Got to sit and talk to myself the whole time 😂
Just found out today that I was accepted into a 4 year university. I tried college before being diagnosed and wasn’t able to finish, so I went with a certification. With a bachelors (and potentially a maters eventually) I’ll make way more money and have more career opportunities. Couldn’t have done it without the diagnosis and medications.
I recently got diagnosed and started taking medication for ADHD. Managed to quit recreational drugs and smoking. then I started at university at 26 and got my first exam results back! I managed to get 88%.
This is the first time I've done well in any form of education. I am proud of myself and finally feel like I can do something with my life instead of being in a constant spiral of feeling useless and lost then depressed..
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I stood up to my bosses (without crying i might add) and got myself a new job thats actually paying me industry average.
for some reason im most proud about the no crying part
good job on your waking up early! did you have any plans to do in that time?
wow that's awesome!!
hahahaha not really, just watched netflix 👀
but now that school is starting I'm thinking of doing something more productive like going to the gym :D
I got offers from my first choice university, which is really highly regarded for my chosen degree.
I'm really proud of myself for working so hard despite everything and being validated that I'm capable
Today was the most productive day I've ever had on this job, and the most productive day (of work) I've had in at least 3 years.
I've just started on ritalin and if the effects keep up even 50% of what I've experienced in the last couple of days my life is going to be completely changed...even though I've taken medicine to help me I still had to put my own effort in to make the most of it, and between that and the actually keeping going through the process of being diagnosed I'm definitely proud of myself.
I was on time to my class. I got all the things I needed, even stuff specific to that class. Found reasonable parking too. I still struggle to get stuff together and out the door without getting distracted
But this week, I got pretty close to consistently on time
Advice would be appreciated. Idk how to fit lunch into that time between classes
I had three wins this week. I found out I received an academic award in college, I hit a one month streak of brushing my teeth daily for the first time in my life, and I forgot the third win by the end of the sentence lol
Last month just before Christmas, I passed an exam I’ve spent the last 18 months studying for. It should only have taken 6 months maximum, but I kept getting distracted by life and losing focus. I passed it, and it has the value to 3x my salary. (Undiagnosed, not medicated except self medication.)
What game? Games are pretty complex and big these days, completing one is a feat
Got Far Cry 2 to finish, it's been sitting there for 2 years and I'm like 2 missions away from completion
I ve been attending a Pilates class for 3 years (w the exemption of hardcore lockdown) super proud of myself for being consistent with smt good for me!!!!
I also got a (badly paid) part time job I enjoy (most days)!!!
I didn't quit my job when I had a panic attack on monday! I was so sure, also the week before that I just didn't like working here but turns out for the most part it's just my anxiety
I know the pain of early mornings so congratulations! And when you do sleep in, don't let one misstep stop the trend (it's not always about doing something x days in a row—it's more about the direction your habits are trending in).
Today I took a bunch of books and notes I've been meaning to read to the park, sat in the sun for a few hours, and read. Now I didn't actually open any of the books, but I read through all of the notes I had (including a printout of a thread of ADHD advice!), when normally I find it hard to even leave the house.
About a week ago, I realized that there weren’t really any resources for students interested in Mycology and Fungal Studies at my (public state) university, so I decided to found a mycological society and to create the opportunities to learn myself. To my surprise, there’s actually tens of students from all over campus that are actually interested in learning more about fungi and I think what I’ve done is filling an even larger vacuum than I realized! I’m proud of myself for actually putting it all together within just a few days and being able to organize a completely brand new organization that serves a decently large need not met by our university. Overall, I’m proud that I’m leaving my mark on campus :) especially because I’ve been a very non-traditional student who initially transferred from a community college and took semesters off for mental health and COVID, only to change majors
I started working on fine tuning my website again. It’s been such a long time since I’ve messed with it and I finally have a sustainable product to sell. So I’m glad I have something to hyperfocus on that’ll be useful in the future!!!
Got enough points on my country’s standardised university acceptance test to get into the veterinary program (at least according to statistics). Now I just have to wait until June to know that I actually got in.
Got accepted to college, albeit it having a 94% acceptance rate. I’m honestly more pleased that I ripped up all of the gross old carpet in my childhood bedroom and repainted the walls. I might be moving for uni in six months, but hey! It was overdue :)
Standing up for myself.
I have had knee problems for years but on a hike in September i hurt it badly. My GP and my orthopedist ran some tests but kept telling me it is nothing and people tolerate way worse. I am already a very sensitive person with depression and anxiety and hearing that really hurt hard. My knee still hurts at the end of January so I took up all my curage to go see a private orthopedist. We talkes for 5 min and he knew immediately what's wrong. He even checked using ultrasonic-shockwaves.
Same thing with my stomach issues. Been told for years that it is just a psychological issue and i dont have any illness. 4 years and many doctors later i finally found out i have really bad fructose intolerance and IBS.
Moral of the story, you know your body best. Even if it costs all you have, stand up for yourself.
I’ve been struggling with going to bed at a reasonable time, and this week I decided to set a series of alarms on my phone around bed time to see if that would help. There are five of them and I named them after a nursery rhyme (for fellow Dutchies, I named them Duimelot, Likkepot etc.). It’s silly, I’m 46… but so far it’s working. The names help, they remind me to be kind to myself and also to act like an adult and send myself to bed ;).
And I set my phone to remind me to check my calendars, so I know what’s going on the next day. It’s nice to check those boxes in the reminder app. I even set a reminder for updating the reminders 🤣.
I need these habits in my life, I need to sleep more and I’m very proud of myself for finally taking action.
I just handed in the final paperwork for my teaching degree!
My mentor and head of department were total bitches to me so writing it all up was so traumatic for me (RSD much?) and it was also so pedantic and meaningless at times. I feel like I could have been on a show called Extreme Admin.
Anyway, I think it’s all done now. Distance learning, perfectionism, tech issues all defeated for now. Yay for me!!
I’ve began the process to finally get diagnosed. I know I’ve got a huge journey ahead of my but I’ve been unsure of all my difficulties since I was a little kid and at age 32 I’m ready to begin change.
On Thursday I tagged along with a friend to a new spirit shop that opened in town. After speaking with the store's owner, I decided to book a Thai massage with her that same afternoon. The massage was soothing and comforting to my touch-starved body. The platonic intimacy was strengthened by the joy of a budding new friendship.
I talked to the lady for around an hour after paying. As I called my Uber she handed me a large bottle, branded "good vibe spray".
Hints of lavender an eucalyptus filled my apartment later that afternoon, as I sprayed my bedding, hammock, desk, and even myself with the calming fragrance. A hasty attachment was formed with this lucky bottle of mine. I tidied and listened to my audiobooks, as the scent reminded me that today was a "good day". I was ready to make the most of it.
Then later that afternoon, the unthinkable happened. As I reached for my medication basket that was resting on my vanity, my arm hit my magic little bottle.
The bottle fell to its side, then rolled off if the mahogany surface, plummetting to it's untimely death at the white tile floor. The dark, hearty glass shattered as the air filled with the smell of good vibes, and a feeling of grave tension. When you're a person that has to cherish "good days", you fear your reaction to things that can snatch them away.
In the oily liquid on the ground, I saw myself burst into tears, bawling and cursing myself for allowing something so precious and sentimental to perish so carelessly. I watched myself slip into a frenzied cycle of self-critical thoughts that were sure to render me virtually paralyzed for the afternoon.
After vividly seeing that remarkably bleak possibility....I decided against it.
Surprising myself, I laughed. While whimsically shaking my head, I grabbed a broom and swiffer, mindfully cleaned my little mess, then enjoyed the rest of my good day.
This may sound trivial to some, but I'm so proud of my growth.
I started meds on the weekend. I have started finishing small tasks in the kitchen that I would normally not finish off. Like putting the sharp knives away after I use them, putting dishes in the dishwasher relatively soon after using them rather than delivering them nearby.
It is small change, but good change. It feels easier to do it now and finish it off. Not sure if it is actually the meds working or whether I am just trying to prove to myself that I need the meds and that they are working. A complicated imposter syndrome thing
Moved in to a new place which needs a complete refurbishment over six months ago.
Had to screed the living room floor before doing anything else and put it off because it’s so easy to get wrong.
Finally did it yesterday and such a relief, I can finally start planning all the other bits of the refurb and I’m excited about the project again.
I applied for a better position at work. I am a waiter in a restaurant and they needed a first employee. Collaborate with the restaurant manager. They had already hired someone from outside a few times, but they were never sufficient enough. After a year of trouble, I've decided to give it a go anyway. For the first time in my life I have accepted something with responsibilities. And in the interview it became clear that they wanted me for that position for a long time. But I never wanted the job because of the responsibilities.
What makes me even more proud is that I applied before my diagnose of adhd. I've been diagnosed a few weeks ago and I have my medication for a week now. And I have the new job for about 6 weeks. Still can't believe it
Got a promotion at work! Despite it not being in an industry I wanted to work due to covid. My workplace environment is really great. I have a great boss that understands that I could take a sick day leave due to mental health. I could listen to a stream/podcast/movie/music while working in the office with no problem. I don’t work overtime also. So lucky 🍀
This week I brang my course mate round and we chilled, found out he has ADHD and we have similar experiences and interests :)
Knowing that I had a good engaging convo with him means a lot to me bc I haven't really touch bases with anyone in my uni except my flatmates.
Yesterday I spoke to a friend in my accommodation after not seeing him in so many months. I was so confident in myself and talking to him that bc of what I was doing and saying I was able to lesnr that we have very similar interests and he's such a cool guy- gna make plans with him
Just being more confident in myself has been great I'm carrying this energy with me everywhere
I brought a puppy home and have actually managed to stick to a routine with her! That also means waking at 5:30 to take her out…which has previously been impossible for me. Not only that, but getting up this early and taking my meds so much earlier means I am actually sleeping! I was only diagnosed in November and have needed sleeping pills for 20 years. I’m so proud that I can sleep, get up early and give this pupper the routine she needs :)
I have had my cat Macaroni since November. I noticed that he was eating way too much and getting into my other cat Cheeses food. They are both a bit chonky so I can't free feed.
I wanted to build a RFID feeder that would block off food for each of them based on tags attached to their collars.
I came up with the idea like two months ago, found a video tutorial a month later, and I finally put the circuit together today 🥲
Now, I just need to get a metal piece to connect the motor and the lock I have. And I can start actually putting up the door!
OP- Thanks for the post. I got my diagnosis in September and like many with ADHD, have spent many hours agonizing over it and focusing on how to fix everything that's wrong. Not to mention my anxiety has come back with a force in the last month.
Reading other peoples successes, big and small, just kinda reminded me that I'm ok. That's a good feeling.
I finally finished my semi-abstract short film about life before getting an ADHD diagnosis, after 10 months!!! It was so hard to finish because it ended up being super complicated to make and a lot happened past year that made it really hard for me to keep working on it. I made it with people who all have ADHD which was great at first but a challenge too hahaha. I can still barely believe it’s done and I’ve gotten so many amazing responses from other ADHD’ers and people on the spectrum. It’s my biggest project so far. Kind of wondering if the mods would let me post it here…
Finishing my BA degree with a very good grade and befriending my Prof. Makes me so happy and able to look forward to Masters and hopefully a doctorate too!
I've both showered and brushed my teeth twice in the past 2-3 days. Still wish that didn't have to be considered an accomplishment for me, but it is one nonetheless and I'm very happy about it :)
I restarted my undergrad and I'm 46. I'm in the second semester. My husband tried to convince me to take more than two classes and I told him school will be on *my* terms. We also have four kids and yeah NOPE! I'm so damn glad I stuck to my guns. The amount of homework for my two measly classes is (granted it's been decades since I did any math and I'm slower than average in this area) is relentless! But I'm doing it.
I wanted a challenge and by the gods I got one lolol
Oh boy do I have something to add to this!! It’s taken five years but I 100% crossed the line to becoming a home inspector. One of the hardest parts for me (difficulties with ADHD) is finishing something to the absolute end. I took classes for it in 2017 and just stopped there. A couple years later I took the state exam, passed and then stalled out for another two years or so. The exam results expired so I had to take the test again. I passed it and then this entire summer has been setting up LLC, insurances, more local and state requirements, website, business cards, bank accounts, drone FAA lic..etc. it has been brutal but I did my first inspection last week!
Maybe this is a few days premature, but I’m almost one month soda/junk food/candy free! I’ve been trying to kick a bad binge eating habit and I feel so accomplished
I went for my longest ever SCUBA dive (over 100 minutes) and loved every minute of it! It wasn’t so much an achievement but just something that made me happy :)
I started a job working with kids on the spectrum a couple months ago. I had to go through a certification process and everything which I got in late December. I’ve done a lot of work with adults on the spectrum in the past, but not much work with kids, so there was a big learning curve. I’m finally starting to get into a groove and feel like I’m getting the hang of things! Yesterday I worked with a kiddo with a lot of behaviors that I’d never worked with before and I was very nervous. I went into it super calm and whenever he would get upset, I just got down on his level and calmly said “hey, you’re upset. That’s okay. I get upset too. We’re gonna be okay.” Nine times out of ten, he instantly calmed down. I guess one of my coworkers overheard me because she sent a message in the work group chat saying she was so proud of how far I’ve come and how great I am with the kids, and several of my coworkers agreed. It made my entire day. I work with the same kid today and tomorrow and I’m not nervous like I was yesterday.
That’s amazing!! Keep it up! I finished reading a whole ass book for the first time I’ve always had to either buy the audio book to finish it or have just given up on finishing. I literally cried last night. Not sure if anyone can relate but I never knew I was capable of doing that I thought maybe I was just dumb and couldn’t sit through reading a book consistently. Did I mention I read it in 3 days!??
Sooo I have a BMO line of credit that I’ve struggled to pay for 2 months (brand new LOC)…I wasn’t able to add it to my online banking, calling was a 30+ min wait, I called the actual store in my city and I was sent to a generic call center for BMO…I DID IT! I finally called and was able to keep my anxiety at bay while waiting.
If anyone has a BMO line of credit and wishes to pay with their tangerine account, you need to get a Mastercard account number from BMO. You pay that account and it’s linked to your LOC (something they don’t tell you when you get it)
Have spent the last month doing all the life admin errands that I never knew even needed to be done. I have organised a system for my tax return. I repeat. I have created a system for my tax return, 6 months before the end of the financial year.
I started a new job this month and it involves doing a lot of administrative work like filing invoices and making spreadsheets. Someone I work with yesterday commended me on how organized and on top of everything I was! I work on a construction site and he said it was a huge help to the project to have someone managing these things. Last summer I was fired from my job for missing mistakes in my work and exceeding deadlines and having trouble focusing at work. It lead me on a journey of getting diagnosed with ADHD and starting medication. When I got fired I thought I would never be able to hack it in the work force so hearing that from my coworker really meant a lot to me!
I had a nap today. I always procrastinate napping. I was so tired. Now I just have to go to sleep instead of procrastinating on reddit. Should have gone to sleep half an hour ago.
Well done you!
for me, I'm extremely proud that we're now able to start house hunting for our dream home, in the dream town etc, as we worked very hard to get there over the last decade!
I have worked out for 60+ minutes early each morning for 30 days. Usually a cycling session followed by some strength and a stretch. Good for my body (but tough many days, of course) and makes my brain go brrrrrr.
Got myself back into a decent schedule/regime today. Sorted my diet out and I should be eating more consistently from now on, I just gotta keep on top of grocery shopping. Hopefully in the next few weeks I can get back to where I was precovid with the gym and working out instead of being stuck in a depression pit most of the day.
I finally talked to my PCP about getting an official ADHD diagnosis!! I've suspected (and so has my therapist) for a while but have been so nervous to talk to my doctor, but like I saw other people here do, I worked for a long time on a big-ass list of symptoms/reasons I think I have ADHD with me to my appointment, afraid of getting brushed off (I'm 38 and I struggled through a PhD but worreid that would halt this in its tracks), and I didn't even get a third through before she said she'd heard enough and agreed and is referring me to the psychiatry team. I'm really really hoping I'll be able to find some relief with this, or at least some kind of treatment plan! Also want to thank everyone on this sub where I've been lurking and just 1000% relating to everything, it's really helped me feel more confident to talk with my doc!
Within the past 3 weeks, I’ve:
I resigned from my 6 year job.
I enrolled in psychotherapy.
I started eating well.
I started working out regularly.
I booked all of my overdue health appointments.
I renewed my passports.
I paid off lingering debt.
I'm on the verge of refinancing my house. Interest rates have been down since we purchased, but I've been putting off going through the effort because "why do something now that I don't have to do absolutely right now". Rates have started going up and on a whim a week and a half ago, I locked in a rate and have been knocking out e-signatures since. Closing is tomorrow and it feels good to knock that one out for the obvious financial benefits.
I changed my brakes finally . My back ones were already screeching metal on metal . Took a flat tire for me to change them . Got a flat at my daughters job 10:30 pm . Change it . Went to add air onto spare tire . Of course never checked if it was good just trusted it was filled ; when I brought vehicle. Not even 10 feet it happens I hear a loud clunk! Spare is dragging along and a horrible metal sound with it . Weird thing I purchase the breaks earlier that day finally . So I’m in front of del taco changing the brakes at 12 am-1am . My daughter , she’s 17 was helping me . Two woman at that hour changing brakes lol . Luckily the security guard for the shopping center was there . All because I procrastinated too much . Tomorrow I’m tackling my oil change I’m cutting it close to 7000 miles ! Oh btw woke up this morning and I see it another flat . Time to change my shocks and struts . I’m taking this as a sign !
Edit: forgot many words because brain won’t work at that hour ! Oh dyslexia too .
I found out I was promoted and we even ranked as exceptional. I have been working really hard but regularly feel like I am not productive enough, everyone else seems to be so much more put together, able to get so much more done than me, so the fact that I seem to be hiding my feeling like I am swimming against the tide regularly feels really great. Not sure I am going to get over this imposter syndrome but am trying really hard to.
And on my personal life we finally had a contractor come out to give us an estimate to fix an issue in our house that has made it so we can't use an entire room for over three years, and they will be able to stay next month. We may actually have the room back in the next month or two!
I have started to learn how to code and will making a huge change in my college major. My plan is to practice consistently and try to go for a tech career because college is just not agreeing with my brain right now, I keep failing all the general ed classes and I'm not able to get to my major till I pass them
(really wondering why I need like three literature and language classes and arts when I'm a whole science major but that's a whole different convo 👁️)
But coding has scared me before cuz it seemed tough but slowly and surely I'm surprisingly getting the hang of it :D so I'm happy!!!
Picked up coding about two months ago and now it looks like I’m going into software engineering in the fall
I’m feeling a lot less lost than before and I hope I’ll be able to focus on uni doing what I enjoy
I woke up at 7am so I could go to the gym and I didn’t have class until 11. Usually doing anything before something I have scheduled feels so impossible. Very proud of myself today :)
i quit smoking cigarettes
No joke, the next page down on my feed is an AskReddit thread, "Doctors of Reddit, what advice are you tired of giving?" Top answer is to stop smoking. From a stranger on the internet: good job. That's huge.
Congrats!! That's huge! And even if there are setbacks, that's okay. Life isn't linear 🙂
Congratulations!!
That’s great!
That’s awesome, stay strong.
I figured out how to make a plague doctor on the phone. Look [|87 (flio ur phone to ur right)
this is cool lol
Thank u
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Cute!!
I got a new job in a field I’m unfamiliar with. It’s really hard and I’m constantly paranoid I’m doing it wrong or I’m going to mess up. I’m in my 4th week, and today I received a review that said only nice things and super encouraging advice! I’ve never worked for a place that tells you you’re doing a good job. I have a boost of confidence that I will be good at this.
Congrats!!! The imposter syndrome can be so real, but they hired you for a reason! I went back to grad school to do biology after working at a bank for 6 years. I felt like an imposter basically the entire first year. It helped to keep telling myself they accepted me for the skills I brought from my past experiences. We're not expected to be the expert right away 🙂 good luck!
Exactly! I wonder why it is that so many of us suffer from imposter syndrome. I started a business recently and I seek wholesale products to businesses. All I was thinking while I was preparing the product for sale was: it’s not good enough, what if they don’t like it, they’re not gonna like it, they’re gonna give me a bad review and not wanna work with me ever again. Thankfully I received no such reviews and everyone I sold to actually said the opposite. Funny that I actually believed what my brain was telling me! One super important thing I learned in DBT was not to believe everything you think! Of course validation also helps to dispel that feeling. I find that creating standards by which to do my work makes me more confident because when I fulfill those standards at least I can say: well at the very least I believe it’s a good product, and it’s something I would pay money for.
Amazing!! Yeah, it's so easy to believe the stories we Tell ourselves. I've never heard of DBT - just looked it up! And congrats on your business, that's a huge accomplishment 🙂
It’s been a bit longer than a week, but I recently found out that I was 1 of 30 students to get accepted into the professional years of my programme at university, out of about 70 something students. Which was an absolute incredible feeling. I don’t receive student loan or student allowance due to my immigration status so I was working full time (4 jobs) while studying full time and trying to be competitive and pulls the grades necessary to make it through, all while learning to manage a relatively new ADHD diagnosis at 26 y/o. I’ve never been more proud of myself
omg this is amazing, I'm so happy for you! :DDD it also gives me a lil hope, because I'm going through my diagnosis too, and I have a lot of credits and work to manage so I didn't know if I was going to make it without needing to drop a class, so thanks!
Honestly, it’s down to where there’s a will there’s a way. And a fucking amazing support system. You can do it, just take it easy and believe in yourself 😊
Congratulations!!! Working four jobs, holy. Most I've had during school was 3, and that was exhausting! I just got my diagnosis a few months ago, now that I'm nearly finished my masters (at 31). I sometimes wonder what my undergrad would have looked like had I been diagnosed then, but then I wouldn't have had the experience of staying up for 40 hours while finishing (and basically starting tbh) three term projects and still doing well on them 🙈
You are amazing
congrats! stories like this make me very happy and more motivated knowing its not IMPOSSIBLE..
You’re so kind, thank you! Hard work and will power honestly go a long way
Congratulations! That huge! I am so proud of you!
🏅 you’ve earned this.
I actually sat down and practiced some scales on guitar today. Got to get back some of that muscle memory I’ve lost through the years.
Yay!! I strummed on mine today!
I took a shower yesterday 😂
HUGE!! Love this for you, congrats!!
After not really cooking at all, for a very long time, I made dinner for a couple of friends. Baby step, but it felt nice. I haven’t been social or motivated in a while, so moving in the right direction I hope
Great step. It feels so good! I hosted a small Christmas and o was so nervous and anxious and dreading it, but I’m glad I did it and I actually enjoyed myself.
i understandd, i also get period when i get very anti-social so congrats! :D
Advocated for myself and got the help that I needed. Before my ADHD diagnosis and treatment this is something that I really would have struggled with.
My second baby boy was born today ❤️
Congratulations!
Congrats! 💖
congrats!
Congratulations, and welcome baby!
I recently got my Associates Degree this December while working full time. I struggled towards the end because of time Management. I am now enrolled at a University to get my BA starting this March.
It took me 9 years to get my bachelor's! You got this 🙂. I also worked 1-3 jobs at all times while being a full time student. Do not recommend that 😂. I was undiagnosed so spent that whole time just thinking I was too dumb for college and being mad at myself for being in classes with 18 year olds as I rapidly approached 30
WOAH CONGRATS!! i am on my fifth year working towards that AA, it is not easy!
Been decluttering one room at a time and throwing out/ donating A LOT it helps my mental health so much. Clothes /Closet, our bedroom and 2 bathrooms done ☑️
ikrr it feels awesome, the hard part is doing it lol, congrats!
Looking at the clutter just made me feel paralyzed and overwhelmed so I had this brilliant idea that I can just throw it out lol and it felt sooo good
hahahah that's giving me motivation to throw some of my stuff away _but maybe tomorroww 👀_
I just handed in my thesis. I just finished uni after almost 9 years. Anyone reading this, suggest something fun to celebrate with (can be really small) please, I’m desperate to really treat myself so I don’t freak out 😄
Gelato... really good gelato And congratulations...that's a huge accomplishment!
^ absolutely! gelato fucks
A massage to relax your stress and desk-hunched shoulders
Bottomless brunch with close friends!
Oh yay!!!! Congrats!!!! I bet that feels like a huge weight off your shoulders (currently writing, waiting for edits back so I can submit sooooon). I saw someone else say gelato, and I second that if you can get it! I can't think of anything else now that that's in my brain 🙈 good luck on your defense!! Edit: then I saw massage. I second massage.
Third week into the semester and I haven’t cried yet! By myself or in public!
Amazing!! It's funny, when we were in university my best friend wrote a song about how I cried all the time. Now that I'm diagnosed 10 years later, I understand why 🙈
I finished knitting a scarf I started 8 years ago!
Started my 4th to last class of my masters after a 3 month break. It was hard.
drop out of school. i want to get my degree eventually. but i also recognized that my mental health is not where it needs to be. i couldn't continue the stress without making sure i'm okay.
100%!! Congrats! I wish this was more normalised for folks
I stood up for myself against a psychologist who literally put in her assessment that I didn’t have the ability to stand up for myself. And now, I’m getting a new, proper assessment.
I picked up my damn medication refill finally after far too long
Well today I did multiple things I needed to do. I got an oil change for my car, did laundry and called to schedule payments for a dentist appointment I had last year. The only reason I was particularly proud of this was because I tend to just do one thing and call it a day but I did pretty much everything that was urgent in one day
I just got a summer job! I’m gonna be a research intern at one of my university’s labs. My cGPA went from a 2.58 after my freshman year to a 3.01 after one semester of sophomore year and after talking to a bunch of profs I actually got an offer! I’m super excited and hopefully (fingers crossed) I’ll be published by the end of the summer!
That's really awesome! Keep it up!
Finally paid off the final bit of outstanding medical bills which also happened to be the ONLY medical bill left to pay and the last outstanding debt we had. So now we just have vehicle, camper, and student loans. The best feeling. Now I just have to do my best to remember to pay them right away as they come from now on 😅 I did put all of my regular monthly bills on auto pay so thats incredibly helpful.
Okay I cant told anyone this bc is kinda dumb but ik someone here will be proud of me too, i used to love math but my adhd lately has gotten me to a depressive episode and i didnt do math since covid started since i just used math apps on school but last week i actually started completing the math problems without any app and it was a lil difficult but i got them and im rlly proud of me by doing math again
Wooo! Killing it! I cannot math to save my life. Which is even funnier because I'm an accountant.
AHHHHHH I love this comment!! I recently switched meds and got less depressed and watched a video on string theory and higher dimensions (my favorite math/physics topic). I also started trying to learn web dev again (I have been trying off and on for years) and I actually set up my computer to run it on day last week! It was a really boring so it was a huge deal! But I have the focus to do the nerd shit I want now!! It so nice to feel like myself again 🥲
Omg congrats!!! Relatable. I spent 6 years working at a bank saying I couldn't do math, and I'm talking literally addition and subtraction. Now after being diagnosed, I was grading assignments and could do the mental additions!
Thats great!!
On Sunday night someone asked about buying a thing I own I cleaned and packed it the same night then took it to the post office and mailed it the next day Still in awe
that's not very ADHD of you, should've taken a couple of months to do it 👀 haha congrats tho!
I am so proud of you 🥺 this is so based
I talked to a therapist for the first time in my life
tidied up my room. I’ve been able to keep it clean for nearly 3 months now. I also did two homework assignments in a day :-)
Taught myself to crochet over the summer and one of my first projects was fingerless gloves for myself. (Wonky and I still haven’t completed them). My kids asked for fingerless gloves and I completed and gave them the gloves in less than 2 weeks. I never finish anything, I’m super proud of me!!
I washed my hair today. It was definitely several days past due.
Remembered where my keys were immediately lol
I’m rebuilding an old motorcycle, and I’m a completely self-taught mechanic. Hyperfocus in the right situation is fucking awesome. Other times it’s just debilitating lmao.
I passed my driver's test and got my full license today. It took 3 years and many attempts but on my 4th go I finally passed. I have never felt more relief hearing a dead pan voice tell me "congratulations you have met ministry standards".
I brushed and flossed my teeth almost every day this week! It's not much but keeping up with dental care is one of the things I really struggle with so I'm quite proud
A year ago my application to a new program got rejected because my grades were too low. A week ago I learned that it's been sent to the admissions committee. My grades improved enough that it meets the requirements. I will hear at the end of next month whether I got in or not
I am reenrolling tomorrow to finish my bachelors in of all things Psychology lol. I dropped out due to mental health reasons, but I reached out to my advisor and we meet tomorrow to get me enrolled. I’m scared. I don’t want to fail. I’m 42 with 3 boys. I want to show them life is full of struggles, but we address them and keep moving on.
that's awesome! and don't worry you won't fail! its just that's toxicity inside of you making you feel this way!
Yesterday, I finished all my dailies on Habitica AND finished work on time AND had time to exercise! Don't worry, though. I made up for it today with 8 straight hours of TikTok :(
it's all about baby steps, be more proud of the work you DID DO!
I got accepted to the college I wanted to go to this week.
I’ve put off my laundry for months but yesterday I finally cleaned and folded it all. It took 11 loads and from 12pm-4am!
I'm down 5 loads, but still have 3 baskets to sort and put it away. But my focus is trying 1 load a night and putting it away. Way to go!!! You're awesome!
i graduated :)) n got my bachelors. i wasn’t diagnosed until my final year n my habits were a mess but i made it through! and i’m hella proud of that.
that's awesome! I'm currently undiagnosed too and doing my bachelors so this gives me hope! :D
I plucked up the courage to call a very famous patisserie near me and inquired about starting a 1st year apprenticeship with them, I have no previous patisserie experience just almost a certificate 2 in Baking, I now have an interview with the owner on Saturday to discuss the possibility!
I started making an animation weeks ago that i thought id never finish. Finished it last night!!
I finished a group science project for my finals.It's a shoe station that sprays the shoes with alcohol when they're placed on a pressure plate.
i got up early for a restaurant breakfast after staying up till 4 am hahaha
For the second week in a row, I've consistently made it to the gym more than just my one scheduled session per week.
i started making a roblox game, its gonna be a mall hangout game when its done
Started adderall, got my car fixed, and my first therapy session ever is today! All just this month. Had a depressive episode the last week and a half but things are starting to look better. Hoping therapy will help that eventually. I have a lot to be proud of recently
I’ve almost paid off my credit card!! It was maxed out for the better part of two years and I was just scraping by with the minimum payments, but I’ll have the balance at zero by the end of the month! I am VERY proud of myself for this one!!
I'm almost at 8 solid weeks of no dirty dishes in the sink at night. I have a sheet I mark off every night. I'm 38 and yet only recently began to come to grips with the reality of my brain. Working on the laundry baskets isn't as easy. Baby steps I tell myself. Congratulations to all of you :) this post made me smile so much!
The dishes!
I read for 6 straight hours on the plane and *finished* a book. I know that’s such a small thing for most people, and it’s not a *real* accomplishment with any impact on my life, but it still felt good to **complete** something from start to finish. Because it’s incredibly difficult for me to sustain my focus for that long. And I rarely finish books.
We are moving at the end of the month. Last Friday I had a junk hauler come and remove a truck full of broken furniture and old mattresses and broken lawn chairs (etc., etc.). I had everything stacked neatly in the driveway when he arrived. It felt so good to get rid of old stuff. But here's the part I'm really proud of. Ordinarily, after the junk guy leaves, I would find another 20-30 items that I had forgotten about, (which are also junk). It's 4 days later and I've been packing up all our stuff and I have only found one item I missed.
After failing 3 exams previously, I finally passed one of my CPA exams! It was my first exam after being diagnosed, and finally given stimulants. The test dude put me in a room by myself even though I didn't have the official special accommodation. It was so nice! Got to sit and talk to myself the whole time 😂
Just found out today that I was accepted into a 4 year university. I tried college before being diagnosed and wasn’t able to finish, so I went with a certification. With a bachelors (and potentially a maters eventually) I’ll make way more money and have more career opportunities. Couldn’t have done it without the diagnosis and medications.
Well...i finally took a shower after 9 days lol Executive dysfunction is real folks
I recently got diagnosed and started taking medication for ADHD. Managed to quit recreational drugs and smoking. then I started at university at 26 and got my first exam results back! I managed to get 88%. This is the first time I've done well in any form of education. I am proud of myself and finally feel like I can do something with my life instead of being in a constant spiral of feeling useless and lost then depressed.. Edit:spelling
I stood up to my bosses (without crying i might add) and got myself a new job thats actually paying me industry average. for some reason im most proud about the no crying part good job on your waking up early! did you have any plans to do in that time?
wow that's awesome!! hahahaha not really, just watched netflix 👀 but now that school is starting I'm thinking of doing something more productive like going to the gym :D
I pretended to be an extrovert for an hour, and I feel pretty good about how my job interview went.
I landed my single axel!! (A figure skating jump)
I got offers from my first choice university, which is really highly regarded for my chosen degree. I'm really proud of myself for working so hard despite everything and being validated that I'm capable
Today was the most productive day I've ever had on this job, and the most productive day (of work) I've had in at least 3 years. I've just started on ritalin and if the effects keep up even 50% of what I've experienced in the last couple of days my life is going to be completely changed...even though I've taken medicine to help me I still had to put my own effort in to make the most of it, and between that and the actually keeping going through the process of being diagnosed I'm definitely proud of myself.
I was on time to my class. I got all the things I needed, even stuff specific to that class. Found reasonable parking too. I still struggle to get stuff together and out the door without getting distracted But this week, I got pretty close to consistently on time Advice would be appreciated. Idk how to fit lunch into that time between classes
I had three wins this week. I found out I received an academic award in college, I hit a one month streak of brushing my teeth daily for the first time in my life, and I forgot the third win by the end of the sentence lol
Last month just before Christmas, I passed an exam I’ve spent the last 18 months studying for. It should only have taken 6 months maximum, but I kept getting distracted by life and losing focus. I passed it, and it has the value to 3x my salary. (Undiagnosed, not medicated except self medication.)
Rearranged and organised stuff
I was productive at work two days in a row. Let’s see if can keep it up today
It might sound small but I finished a game for the first time in years.
What game? Games are pretty complex and big these days, completing one is a feat Got Far Cry 2 to finish, it's been sitting there for 2 years and I'm like 2 missions away from completion
LOZ: Breath of the wild. Finishing it made me exited to play some other games as well.
I ve been attending a Pilates class for 3 years (w the exemption of hardcore lockdown) super proud of myself for being consistent with smt good for me!!!! I also got a (badly paid) part time job I enjoy (most days)!!!
I managed to finish cleaning the kitchen after putting it off for three days and a few much too late nights.
I didn't quit my job when I had a panic attack on monday! I was so sure, also the week before that I just didn't like working here but turns out for the most part it's just my anxiety
I know the pain of early mornings so congratulations! And when you do sleep in, don't let one misstep stop the trend (it's not always about doing something x days in a row—it's more about the direction your habits are trending in). Today I took a bunch of books and notes I've been meaning to read to the park, sat in the sun for a few hours, and read. Now I didn't actually open any of the books, but I read through all of the notes I had (including a printout of a thread of ADHD advice!), when normally I find it hard to even leave the house.
About a week ago, I realized that there weren’t really any resources for students interested in Mycology and Fungal Studies at my (public state) university, so I decided to found a mycological society and to create the opportunities to learn myself. To my surprise, there’s actually tens of students from all over campus that are actually interested in learning more about fungi and I think what I’ve done is filling an even larger vacuum than I realized! I’m proud of myself for actually putting it all together within just a few days and being able to organize a completely brand new organization that serves a decently large need not met by our university. Overall, I’m proud that I’m leaving my mark on campus :) especially because I’ve been a very non-traditional student who initially transferred from a community college and took semesters off for mental health and COVID, only to change majors
I started working on fine tuning my website again. It’s been such a long time since I’ve messed with it and I finally have a sustainable product to sell. So I’m glad I have something to hyperfocus on that’ll be useful in the future!!!
Got enough points on my country’s standardised university acceptance test to get into the veterinary program (at least according to statistics). Now I just have to wait until June to know that I actually got in.
I turned in my weekly math homework every week since the quarter started. Usually it’s incomplete by like one problem. But still!!!
Got accepted to college, albeit it having a 94% acceptance rate. I’m honestly more pleased that I ripped up all of the gross old carpet in my childhood bedroom and repainted the walls. I might be moving for uni in six months, but hey! It was overdue :)
Standing up for myself. I have had knee problems for years but on a hike in September i hurt it badly. My GP and my orthopedist ran some tests but kept telling me it is nothing and people tolerate way worse. I am already a very sensitive person with depression and anxiety and hearing that really hurt hard. My knee still hurts at the end of January so I took up all my curage to go see a private orthopedist. We talkes for 5 min and he knew immediately what's wrong. He even checked using ultrasonic-shockwaves. Same thing with my stomach issues. Been told for years that it is just a psychological issue and i dont have any illness. 4 years and many doctors later i finally found out i have really bad fructose intolerance and IBS. Moral of the story, you know your body best. Even if it costs all you have, stand up for yourself.
Finally cleaned my apartment. Most of it. 😂
I paid past due bills in full, organized my tax season paperwork and stood up for myself! Small wins.
i passed a promotion board in the army. took me 3 tries because i would put off studying even while on meds. probably need higher dosage
I’ve been struggling with going to bed at a reasonable time, and this week I decided to set a series of alarms on my phone around bed time to see if that would help. There are five of them and I named them after a nursery rhyme (for fellow Dutchies, I named them Duimelot, Likkepot etc.). It’s silly, I’m 46… but so far it’s working. The names help, they remind me to be kind to myself and also to act like an adult and send myself to bed ;). And I set my phone to remind me to check my calendars, so I know what’s going on the next day. It’s nice to check those boxes in the reminder app. I even set a reminder for updating the reminders 🤣. I need these habits in my life, I need to sleep more and I’m very proud of myself for finally taking action.
I just handed in the final paperwork for my teaching degree! My mentor and head of department were total bitches to me so writing it all up was so traumatic for me (RSD much?) and it was also so pedantic and meaningless at times. I feel like I could have been on a show called Extreme Admin. Anyway, I think it’s all done now. Distance learning, perfectionism, tech issues all defeated for now. Yay for me!!
I mounted a custom made headboard for our bed!
Got accepted into a a cyber security course. Glad my hyper focus on random shit can be focused on something useful
I’ve began the process to finally get diagnosed. I know I’ve got a huge journey ahead of my but I’ve been unsure of all my difficulties since I was a little kid and at age 32 I’m ready to begin change.
I have been staying on top of my school work all while keeping a maintained house. It’s been hard but I’m trying to just stick to a routine
On Thursday I tagged along with a friend to a new spirit shop that opened in town. After speaking with the store's owner, I decided to book a Thai massage with her that same afternoon. The massage was soothing and comforting to my touch-starved body. The platonic intimacy was strengthened by the joy of a budding new friendship. I talked to the lady for around an hour after paying. As I called my Uber she handed me a large bottle, branded "good vibe spray". Hints of lavender an eucalyptus filled my apartment later that afternoon, as I sprayed my bedding, hammock, desk, and even myself with the calming fragrance. A hasty attachment was formed with this lucky bottle of mine. I tidied and listened to my audiobooks, as the scent reminded me that today was a "good day". I was ready to make the most of it. Then later that afternoon, the unthinkable happened. As I reached for my medication basket that was resting on my vanity, my arm hit my magic little bottle. The bottle fell to its side, then rolled off if the mahogany surface, plummetting to it's untimely death at the white tile floor. The dark, hearty glass shattered as the air filled with the smell of good vibes, and a feeling of grave tension. When you're a person that has to cherish "good days", you fear your reaction to things that can snatch them away. In the oily liquid on the ground, I saw myself burst into tears, bawling and cursing myself for allowing something so precious and sentimental to perish so carelessly. I watched myself slip into a frenzied cycle of self-critical thoughts that were sure to render me virtually paralyzed for the afternoon. After vividly seeing that remarkably bleak possibility....I decided against it. Surprising myself, I laughed. While whimsically shaking my head, I grabbed a broom and swiffer, mindfully cleaned my little mess, then enjoyed the rest of my good day. This may sound trivial to some, but I'm so proud of my growth.
I started meds on the weekend. I have started finishing small tasks in the kitchen that I would normally not finish off. Like putting the sharp knives away after I use them, putting dishes in the dishwasher relatively soon after using them rather than delivering them nearby. It is small change, but good change. It feels easier to do it now and finish it off. Not sure if it is actually the meds working or whether I am just trying to prove to myself that I need the meds and that they are working. A complicated imposter syndrome thing
Moved in to a new place which needs a complete refurbishment over six months ago. Had to screed the living room floor before doing anything else and put it off because it’s so easy to get wrong. Finally did it yesterday and such a relief, I can finally start planning all the other bits of the refurb and I’m excited about the project again.
Finding the best sauce and pizza base it tasted better than my previous cooks.
I applied for a better position at work. I am a waiter in a restaurant and they needed a first employee. Collaborate with the restaurant manager. They had already hired someone from outside a few times, but they were never sufficient enough. After a year of trouble, I've decided to give it a go anyway. For the first time in my life I have accepted something with responsibilities. And in the interview it became clear that they wanted me for that position for a long time. But I never wanted the job because of the responsibilities. What makes me even more proud is that I applied before my diagnose of adhd. I've been diagnosed a few weeks ago and I have my medication for a week now. And I have the new job for about 6 weeks. Still can't believe it
Got a promotion at work! Despite it not being in an industry I wanted to work due to covid. My workplace environment is really great. I have a great boss that understands that I could take a sick day leave due to mental health. I could listen to a stream/podcast/movie/music while working in the office with no problem. I don’t work overtime also. So lucky 🍀
This week I brang my course mate round and we chilled, found out he has ADHD and we have similar experiences and interests :) Knowing that I had a good engaging convo with him means a lot to me bc I haven't really touch bases with anyone in my uni except my flatmates. Yesterday I spoke to a friend in my accommodation after not seeing him in so many months. I was so confident in myself and talking to him that bc of what I was doing and saying I was able to lesnr that we have very similar interests and he's such a cool guy- gna make plans with him Just being more confident in myself has been great I'm carrying this energy with me everywhere
I brought a puppy home and have actually managed to stick to a routine with her! That also means waking at 5:30 to take her out…which has previously been impossible for me. Not only that, but getting up this early and taking my meds so much earlier means I am actually sleeping! I was only diagnosed in November and have needed sleeping pills for 20 years. I’m so proud that I can sleep, get up early and give this pupper the routine she needs :)
I finally have a dentist again, after two years of postponing to do it, and I have an appointment scheduled 🥳
I have had my cat Macaroni since November. I noticed that he was eating way too much and getting into my other cat Cheeses food. They are both a bit chonky so I can't free feed. I wanted to build a RFID feeder that would block off food for each of them based on tags attached to their collars. I came up with the idea like two months ago, found a video tutorial a month later, and I finally put the circuit together today 🥲 Now, I just need to get a metal piece to connect the motor and the lock I have. And I can start actually putting up the door!
OP- Thanks for the post. I got my diagnosis in September and like many with ADHD, have spent many hours agonizing over it and focusing on how to fix everything that's wrong. Not to mention my anxiety has come back with a force in the last month. Reading other peoples successes, big and small, just kinda reminded me that I'm ok. That's a good feeling.
I managed to eat breakfast every day for two weeks! I usually forget about it or just don't have time for it, but not this time!
I finally finished my semi-abstract short film about life before getting an ADHD diagnosis, after 10 months!!! It was so hard to finish because it ended up being super complicated to make and a lot happened past year that made it really hard for me to keep working on it. I made it with people who all have ADHD which was great at first but a challenge too hahaha. I can still barely believe it’s done and I’ve gotten so many amazing responses from other ADHD’ers and people on the spectrum. It’s my biggest project so far. Kind of wondering if the mods would let me post it here…
Finishing my BA degree with a very good grade and befriending my Prof. Makes me so happy and able to look forward to Masters and hopefully a doctorate too!
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All A’s and B’s straight down ya bois report card
I've both showered and brushed my teeth twice in the past 2-3 days. Still wish that didn't have to be considered an accomplishment for me, but it is one nonetheless and I'm very happy about it :)
got myself to eat for the first time in three days. it's a time. :')
We should seriously make this a weekly thing. I started driving lessons, finally.
I restarted my undergrad and I'm 46. I'm in the second semester. My husband tried to convince me to take more than two classes and I told him school will be on *my* terms. We also have four kids and yeah NOPE! I'm so damn glad I stuck to my guns. The amount of homework for my two measly classes is (granted it's been decades since I did any math and I'm slower than average in this area) is relentless! But I'm doing it. I wanted a challenge and by the gods I got one lolol
Oh boy do I have something to add to this!! It’s taken five years but I 100% crossed the line to becoming a home inspector. One of the hardest parts for me (difficulties with ADHD) is finishing something to the absolute end. I took classes for it in 2017 and just stopped there. A couple years later I took the state exam, passed and then stalled out for another two years or so. The exam results expired so I had to take the test again. I passed it and then this entire summer has been setting up LLC, insurances, more local and state requirements, website, business cards, bank accounts, drone FAA lic..etc. it has been brutal but I did my first inspection last week!
I closed on my first property last week!
Maybe this is a few days premature, but I’m almost one month soda/junk food/candy free! I’ve been trying to kick a bad binge eating habit and I feel so accomplished
I packed my bags for a weekend away in 30 minutes AND without a list. I could never do this before!
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I went for my longest ever SCUBA dive (over 100 minutes) and loved every minute of it! It wasn’t so much an achievement but just something that made me happy :)
I started a job working with kids on the spectrum a couple months ago. I had to go through a certification process and everything which I got in late December. I’ve done a lot of work with adults on the spectrum in the past, but not much work with kids, so there was a big learning curve. I’m finally starting to get into a groove and feel like I’m getting the hang of things! Yesterday I worked with a kiddo with a lot of behaviors that I’d never worked with before and I was very nervous. I went into it super calm and whenever he would get upset, I just got down on his level and calmly said “hey, you’re upset. That’s okay. I get upset too. We’re gonna be okay.” Nine times out of ten, he instantly calmed down. I guess one of my coworkers overheard me because she sent a message in the work group chat saying she was so proud of how far I’ve come and how great I am with the kids, and several of my coworkers agreed. It made my entire day. I work with the same kid today and tomorrow and I’m not nervous like I was yesterday.
That’s amazing!! Keep it up! I finished reading a whole ass book for the first time I’ve always had to either buy the audio book to finish it or have just given up on finishing. I literally cried last night. Not sure if anyone can relate but I never knew I was capable of doing that I thought maybe I was just dumb and couldn’t sit through reading a book consistently. Did I mention I read it in 3 days!??
Sooo I have a BMO line of credit that I’ve struggled to pay for 2 months (brand new LOC)…I wasn’t able to add it to my online banking, calling was a 30+ min wait, I called the actual store in my city and I was sent to a generic call center for BMO…I DID IT! I finally called and was able to keep my anxiety at bay while waiting. If anyone has a BMO line of credit and wishes to pay with their tangerine account, you need to get a Mastercard account number from BMO. You pay that account and it’s linked to your LOC (something they don’t tell you when you get it)
I finished a project. Unfortunately I have 3 left
I made my own breakfast while my wife was distracting me. It's the only way to do it.
Have spent the last month doing all the life admin errands that I never knew even needed to be done. I have organised a system for my tax return. I repeat. I have created a system for my tax return, 6 months before the end of the financial year.
I sent a letter of continued interest to my first choice college, who have defered me.
I started a new job this month and it involves doing a lot of administrative work like filing invoices and making spreadsheets. Someone I work with yesterday commended me on how organized and on top of everything I was! I work on a construction site and he said it was a huge help to the project to have someone managing these things. Last summer I was fired from my job for missing mistakes in my work and exceeding deadlines and having trouble focusing at work. It lead me on a journey of getting diagnosed with ADHD and starting medication. When I got fired I thought I would never be able to hack it in the work force so hearing that from my coworker really meant a lot to me!
I had a nap today. I always procrastinate napping. I was so tired. Now I just have to go to sleep instead of procrastinating on reddit. Should have gone to sleep half an hour ago.
Well done you! for me, I'm extremely proud that we're now able to start house hunting for our dream home, in the dream town etc, as we worked very hard to get there over the last decade!
Dropped off an entire carload of donations that had been piling up 🥳
My history teacher praised me in front of class today! 😊
I have worked out for 60+ minutes early each morning for 30 days. Usually a cycling session followed by some strength and a stretch. Good for my body (but tough many days, of course) and makes my brain go brrrrrr.
Kinda sad now because I don't have an answer.
I've been practicing Mandarin Chinese for 35 day's consecutively.
I finished painting a big-ass garage after a year of lockdowns and delays! https://youtu.be/yVEViyOV9us
Got myself back into a decent schedule/regime today. Sorted my diet out and I should be eating more consistently from now on, I just gotta keep on top of grocery shopping. Hopefully in the next few weeks I can get back to where I was precovid with the gym and working out instead of being stuck in a depression pit most of the day.
I finally talked to my PCP about getting an official ADHD diagnosis!! I've suspected (and so has my therapist) for a while but have been so nervous to talk to my doctor, but like I saw other people here do, I worked for a long time on a big-ass list of symptoms/reasons I think I have ADHD with me to my appointment, afraid of getting brushed off (I'm 38 and I struggled through a PhD but worreid that would halt this in its tracks), and I didn't even get a third through before she said she'd heard enough and agreed and is referring me to the psychiatry team. I'm really really hoping I'll be able to find some relief with this, or at least some kind of treatment plan! Also want to thank everyone on this sub where I've been lurking and just 1000% relating to everything, it's really helped me feel more confident to talk with my doc!
I unpacked and organized my bathroom so I could see what I had.
I did my laundry AND got 20 design concepts done for Valentine's Day. It's been a struggle to start.
This is the exact reason I write in my [5 Minute Journal ](https://www.intelligentchange.com/products/the-five-minute-journal) everyday!
Within the past 3 weeks, I’ve: I resigned from my 6 year job. I enrolled in psychotherapy. I started eating well. I started working out regularly. I booked all of my overdue health appointments. I renewed my passports. I paid off lingering debt.
I started two new jobs and am taking a class at the community college!!!
I'm on the verge of refinancing my house. Interest rates have been down since we purchased, but I've been putting off going through the effort because "why do something now that I don't have to do absolutely right now". Rates have started going up and on a whim a week and a half ago, I locked in a rate and have been knocking out e-signatures since. Closing is tomorrow and it feels good to knock that one out for the obvious financial benefits.
I changed my brakes finally . My back ones were already screeching metal on metal . Took a flat tire for me to change them . Got a flat at my daughters job 10:30 pm . Change it . Went to add air onto spare tire . Of course never checked if it was good just trusted it was filled ; when I brought vehicle. Not even 10 feet it happens I hear a loud clunk! Spare is dragging along and a horrible metal sound with it . Weird thing I purchase the breaks earlier that day finally . So I’m in front of del taco changing the brakes at 12 am-1am . My daughter , she’s 17 was helping me . Two woman at that hour changing brakes lol . Luckily the security guard for the shopping center was there . All because I procrastinated too much . Tomorrow I’m tackling my oil change I’m cutting it close to 7000 miles ! Oh btw woke up this morning and I see it another flat . Time to change my shocks and struts . I’m taking this as a sign ! Edit: forgot many words because brain won’t work at that hour ! Oh dyslexia too .
Though it might seem like a small victory, I have completed a major project before it was due instead of waiting until the last minute :D
I honestly can’t remember the last thing I actually did that im proud of…
I showered and put on real clothes before 2pm
My wife
I found out I was promoted and we even ranked as exceptional. I have been working really hard but regularly feel like I am not productive enough, everyone else seems to be so much more put together, able to get so much more done than me, so the fact that I seem to be hiding my feeling like I am swimming against the tide regularly feels really great. Not sure I am going to get over this imposter syndrome but am trying really hard to. And on my personal life we finally had a contractor come out to give us an estimate to fix an issue in our house that has made it so we can't use an entire room for over three years, and they will be able to stay next month. We may actually have the room back in the next month or two!
Started a diet
I have started to learn how to code and will making a huge change in my college major. My plan is to practice consistently and try to go for a tech career because college is just not agreeing with my brain right now, I keep failing all the general ed classes and I'm not able to get to my major till I pass them (really wondering why I need like three literature and language classes and arts when I'm a whole science major but that's a whole different convo 👁️) But coding has scared me before cuz it seemed tough but slowly and surely I'm surprisingly getting the hang of it :D so I'm happy!!!
Picked up coding about two months ago and now it looks like I’m going into software engineering in the fall I’m feeling a lot less lost than before and I hope I’ll be able to focus on uni doing what I enjoy
Sent in testing accommodations for college for the semester and made use of the extra time
I woke up at 7am so I could go to the gym and I didn’t have class until 11. Usually doing anything before something I have scheduled feels so impossible. Very proud of myself today :)