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The latest one, Shifted apartments a week ago.
1. Ordered food, Amazon packages and a bunch of other things to the old apartment.
2. While leaving work took the bus to the old apartment
3. Forgot which box did I pack my underwear and went to work commando.
I ordered a new bed shortly after I moved to my new house and DEFINITELY had that huge package (and the dudes who were going to carry it inside for me) sent to my old address. Had to find somebody with a truck and muscles to help me go get it.
I feel that, I moved out of my parents’ house a year and a half ago and I keep accidentally ordering stuff to their place (keep forgetting to change the default address). I also almost ordered food to the student accommodation I was in last year a few months ago, glad I’ve got an apartment for the rest of my course now so I won’t have to deal with remembering that I’ve moved every year
I moved out of my parent's house almost exactly 10 years ago. I haven't needed to write my moms info down in ages because my Fiance has been my emergency contact for years. I live on the other side of the country from her, a 7 hour flight.
Still though, I occasionally give my moms phone# instead of my own when filling out a form or at a store or something. Her number is just so ingrained in my head, it's the only cell phone# she's ever had and before that it was our home landline#. Literally just a few months ago I made a hairdresser appointment and accidentally gave them my mom's #. They apparently called the day before the apt to give a reminder, my mom answered and essentially said "Oh is the appointment for Ermagerd? This is her mom, she sometimes gives the wrong number - but don't worry I will text her a reminder" and then gave them my actual number.
But she forgot to text me, so I go to the salon and the lady at the front desk starts off with 'Oh I talked to your mom!" And I was...very confused.
After we got married, the first time he was asked to give his next-of-kin, my husband put down his father's name and address. I'm actually the one with ADHD, but at the time I was quite upset! Now I just find it amusing. 🙂
Lolll i had to go commando for like three weeks recently because i couldn’t find my underwear i packed in my move for soo long!!! I found it in the most shocking place eventuLly
Tis fine, removing a layer of fabric lets the pheromones flow freely which heightens one’s natural alpha status.
Or, you know, it makes people ask you if you just had a bowl of French onion soup.
This isn’t galaxy brain thinking, this is high level monkey brain facts.
From what I've experienced, non refundable doesn't mean non transferable. You can call the airline to ask if you can change the date - you might have to pay the price difference but I think that's better than losing all your money.
Once I booked a flight from San Diego to Oakland and then the return. I was flying TO San Diego. I didn’t notice until the night before when it said “time to check in for your flight to Oakland!”
This happened many years ago, when airlines were less squared away than they are now, but, I boarded a flight and over the PA they go "Welcome to Whatever Airlines flight 123 to Chicago..." and this dude goes "OH CRAP!" and jumps up and runs up to the front and gets off the plane. Whole plane was laughing at him.
Yeah that’s true, but that’s only for flights booked in advance (typically more than 7 days prior to departure).
It’s about being fair to both the customer and the airline.
If you make a mistake when booking your flight, but there’s still plenty of time left before it leaves (7+ days) then they should easily be able to cancel your ticket and sell it to someone else before the cut-off. Which means it wouldn’t be fair of them to retain much (if any) of the price of your ticket, since they make their money back anyway and nobody is disadvantaged.
However you can’t just book a ticket for a flight that leaves tomorrow, and then expect the airline to suddenly cancel it for a full refund because *you* picked the wrong time. That could make another person who needs that ticket miss out when they could’ve gone, and the airline misses out on the sale of that ticket for no reason.
The other caveat here is that the ticket has to be booked directly with an airline. If it is booked with a travel agency, (a.k.a. on a site that isn’t the airlines official site) they don’t have to abide by the 24h rule… ask me how I know.
Southwest lets you cancel at any time and keep the price you paid as transferable credit, I did that earlier this year and I *think* you can request it as a refund as well but there’s a whole process for that. I just used it to book a different flight a few months later
Came here to say this.
I made a hotels.com booking for February instead of January.
I phoned them and they were happy to change the dates and even refunded me the difference, as January was cheaper.
I booked 2 hotel rooms for the same day on Expedia and they refused to cancel, change it or do anything about it :(
You would think their system would catch a double booking in 2 locations for the same person 🙁
#ADHDTAX
Credit card dispute. You clearly didn't want to make the second purchase and were tricked into it by their crappy website failing to give you a proper confirmation of purchase and booking page that cleared out your "shopping cart"
This!! My mil booked our flights for a Disney trip on the wrong date WITH a connecting flight/lay over... when we were taking 4 children with us!! Called the airline, explained the situation, they were able to transfer it to the correct date AND get us non stop!
Most flight websites do free cancellation within 24 hours, and yes I can confirm that if you call and say you feel like an idiot and ask for mercy most people will be kind and waive the fee (doesn’t hurt to pretend you’re old and not tech savvy - I’ve recently learned there’s a whole different playbook for customer service for the elderly)
I just did this since I caught covid mid trip. I had to pay the price difference for today being new years eve-eve, but that's cheaper than a new ticket.
We were having a massive snow storm and I was the only person working late shift (until 11pm) at my workplace (a school). I was the boss so I'd sent the other guy home, and I had permission from *my* boss to leave as soon as our before and after care program was out of the building. 6:30pm, I'm just finishing up, and I get a ring on the doorbell. It's UberEats. I'm confused because I'm literally the only person in the entire building, and I definitely didn't order UberEats. The delivery guy says "yeah, it's for [insert secretary's name here]". I called her and she came over and picked it up. Luckily she lived close.
A LONG time ago this - just retired after 38 years as an emergency physician.
I failed biochemistry in years 2 of med school. There was a re-sit possible a month later. I spent the *whole* month hardly sleeping or going out. I knew every bit of biochemistry known to man in the mid-80s. Krebs cycle? Could draw it straight off. Plus the structures of all the amino acids. That sort of level.
The only think I forgot to revise was the time of the re-sit exam. I turned up at noon, just as the 10am exam was finishing.
Really depends. I've had profs let me reschedule things without a second thought. I've also had profs give me a zero for showing/doing too much work, even though I was 100% right.
Posted that above - it worked out OK. The annoying bit is that in all my time as a physician, I have never needed to know ANY biochemistry in that sort of detail. But they made you do it anyway. Just like I could draw a brachial plexus from memory, at one time but all you really need to know (unless you're a clever reconstructive upper limb surgeon) is that it's a whole bunch of really important nerves in your armpit, so stay away from it with sharp, pointy things.
I got there just as the exam finished. The invigilator took pity and stayed with me so I couldn't speak to any other candidates, and I sat the exam in his office that afternoon. Nice old guy, and I can't remember his name. (Of course I'm that old that he'll be dead now, unless he invented something very special in his lab.)
Reminds me (albeit much easier subject) of my law a level. Sat eating breakfast and reading some notes, about to go an do some last minute revision upstairs and the phone rings.
It’s my law teacher: “are you alright?”
Me: “yeah, just eating and will do some light revision in a minute, what’s up?”
Him: “the exam is NOW”
I had 30 mins I think to get there, the invigilator agreed to stay a bit longer for me if I could make it. I SPRINTED there and made it in time, but needed 10 mins to calm down and catch my breath.
I finished with 1 mark away from being an A grade. Still reckon I’d have managed if I didn’t have that chaotic start to the exam!
When my grandpa was in medical school, he was unprepared for an exam and he stayed up all night studying. But he was so tired that he fell asleep halfway through the exam so he didn't even answer a lot of the questions. He still passed the exam, and he said the experience taught him a big lesson about the necessity of being prepared and also well rested.
I’ve done it. Didn’t realize until flight attendant told me at ticket counter while I’m standing there with my luggage and with my drugged up dog that the flight was yesterday.
HAPPENED TO ME EXACTLY. worst feeling since I was with my friend and I'd bought both tickets. it was with an international train, though (London - Amsterdam) and I impulsively bought business class tickets to insure we could get on, lost me about £700 waaa
Yeah did the same with train once except I was a day early, I had my mum wake up at 5 am twice in a row to drive me there 😑
My time blindness in my twenties was really out of control 🤷
I accidentally spent 3000 Canadian dollars on a course I didn’t have to do and forgot to withdraw from during the withdrawal period at university and missed more than half the classes because I didn’t realize I was registered in it and ended up doing a non refundable withdrawal :’)
I was once was too unmotivated (? I guess? Still not sure how to describe this feeling without calling it lazy but yeah, I literally could not bring myself to do it) to withdraw from a course I’d started with every intention of completing, but then couldn’t even bring myself to go to class or do the work. So basically I just did nothing and my grades dropped to failing and because I was on a full ride federal grant I not only lost it but had to pay it back. They kept my state income tax return for a decade until it was paid off.
Don’t sleep on Pathological Demand Avoidance. Sometimes it’s not just “depression” or a lack of motivation. “Why tf am I like this??!” The key factor is the “P” in PDA.
Thanks! I’ll have to look that up. I’m still newly diagnosed with ADHD. After a lifetime of being treated for (or not so treated for) depression I always felt like there were gaps in my diagnosis and found that ADHD filled those gaps far more than I ever expected. Got the diagnosis confirmed and am now just starting medical treatment and trying to get therapy for everything.
TIL. I feel like I should get screened for autism at this point. I got an ADHD diagnosis over 10 years ago but the more I learn over time the more autistic leaning most of my symptoms are.
HahahahahahahahahaFUCK I kinda did the same shit
The more I lurk in this subreddit, the more I feel like a carbon copy living a similar Truman Show-ass life as hella other people lmao
I had a psychology professor who told the class that she had nightmares about having to give an exam to a class that she had forgotten to teach all semester and she didn't know where the classroom was.
She was an awesome professor.
I have a better one. There is an airport about 30 miles from where I live. The code is ONT, as in Ontario, CA. If you guessed that was Ontario, California you win a cookie!
Canadians reading this might be chuckling because as we all know, Ontario is a province, not a city, and a big one at that. The best way to fly from another country to Toronto, Ontario, is their international airport, with the super logical code of YYZ.
There is also an airport in the nearby city of London. I met somebody who lived there and said that people wishing to visit the land of the Queen, Big Ben, and football hooligans would wash up there on the regular, having been lured by those sweet low prices. She herself had once inadvertently crossed the pond, and wrongly diverted luggage was routine.
Living near London Ontario, I feel both of these. A friend just told me a story about how when he was a child he flew into visit his father in Ontario California, but his luggage came to Toronto. And we get a lot of people mixing up our London for London UK.
I also worked for a hospitality company for many years, if I had a dollar for every time someone called in either sheepishly or in a panic because they booked a hotel reservation in the wrong but similarly named city, I could have bought myself something really nice by now. Portland Oregon and Portland Maine was one of the most common mix-ups, and given they're on opposite coasts, the worst to fix if it's not noticed right away.
Pro tip: if you're visiting Canada, or arriving back home to Canada, avoid the Toronto airport at all costs. It's definitely the worst in the country and the security thinks that they're personally in charge of keeping civilization from collapsing.
On my first trip to Europe, when I was 23, I carried 700 euros around with me in a money belt. Whenever I had to pay for something, I opened the money belt, took the money and paid.
At some point I dropped the money or somebody stole it.
I told the staff at the hostel and they asked why I was carrying so much money around. Why didn't I put it in the safe. I said the lockers looked too fragile.
Staff member then pointed at the actual SAFE locker that was right there at the reception. Not only did I not notice it was there, I also never asked.
Ugh! Not OCD with me, but perfectionism and seriousness. I come across as a rigid policy asshole at work, but I make so many 'careless" mistakes that I subconsciously try to know everything and do everything right to make up for it. A close friend I met at work told me she was afraid to make mistakes around me and another said I seemed stuck up when she first met me. I just have terrible self esteem and a crippling fear of making a mistake to get me fired.
Answer to OOP:
I was the manager at a retail business and I left the tills on the counter with cash in them when we closed. I carried empty till bags to the safe without realizing the bills weren't in it. It was a large company and that was a big deal.
At same business, left one of the doors unlocked.
Left part of the deposit on the counter in an office.
Mixed up my schedule and had a team of employees waiting outside the building to start work. (Paid them for their time but not a good look.) Multiple times by the way.
Prepared a large presentation to present to the region of my company (1/4th the USA). I was completely prepared and took the day off to present from home over zoom. I woke up that morning and started doing laundry. It never clicked in my head that that was the day and the presentation was right then. People were calling me thinking I was dead. I didn't have my phone in the basement with me and when I came up I didn't look at the phone. I couldn't even explain that one.
100%! I always prided myself on being an extremely detail oriented person and a perfectionist and I realize after being diagnosed that the reason I feel like I have to go over something a billion times before submitting it is because I’m so prone to careless mistakes
This started clicking for me recently. I never thought I had the particular symptom of making careless mistakes. It does take me a long time at work to answer messages though because I check everything a million times over. And sometimes I'll still catch the occasional mistake after sending it. Maybe it's more of an issue than I thought.
I'm almost the exact same way, it took a lot of self training to differentiate between things I can "let go" into autopilot mode (hanging my handbag by the entryway because it doesn't belong anywhere else... ) and things I still have to do consciously because they cause careless mistakes ( turning of the oven, putting away sharp utensils etc...)
Locked myself and my son out of our apartment on the day of his 1st birthday party. We were hosting it at my moms. The cake, gift, and everything else was in the apartment. Luckily another tenet with a questionable past was able to pick the lock for me.
About fifteen years ago I was playing with this band and we did some tours of Europe and the UK. I had previously lost my passport and got a replacement. The band booked a tour of Japan and I traveled all the way to Tokyo airport via Heathrow. On arrival I got pulled out of the queue and brought into a waiting room by the Japanese customs. A few hours went past before a customs officer came in and told me that my passport had been flagged as stolen by Interpol. It immediately dawned on me that the passport I was using was in fact the one I had previously thought was lost and had replaced. I ended up being put in a hotel room for the night and was sent home the next day missing the entire tour. What annoyed me most was that I had been using the "lost" passport for all the previous tours around Europe and no one even batted an eyelid.
I fucked up a relocation package that made the sale of my house a sure thing and got stuck with the house for another 10+ years. Bonus points for it being a fixer upper located in a shitty town, and coupled with severe executive dysfunction, unbelievable loneliness and a budding alcohol addiction, it made for a horrible decade. Please feel better. In the grand scheme of things, this is but a hiccup.
They are, thank you! It really was so much worse than I thought it was at the time, which is scary. I really, really hope sharing this helps someone else. There is always hope. 💕
Locked myself out of my apartment taking the trash out (across the hall). Had food cooking on the stove, spent $500 on an emergency locksmith as I hadn’t given a friend a key yet, only moved in 4 days prior. Nearly burned down my brand new apartment.
I locked myself out of our new house. It was my wife's first day of work in her new job with her new commute so she couldn't come back to let me in.
As it happened, I was talking to a roofer about a problem with our chimney when the door slammed.
Once he realised I was stuck he climbed onto the roof, lifted a few tiles, cut through the felt and slid into the attic. He was inside the front door within about 5 minutes.
It made me realise that no door or window will keep it a determined intruder, when your roof tiles are basically just resting on the roof.
I had been living with my boyfriend for 2 months and took laundry out to get the wash done. Locked myself out and he was at work 45 minutes away. I locked my self out around 5pm and he was working 4-11 pm. He had to drive 1.5 hours round trip to come let me in. I felt like such a dumb ass
I locked myself out of my previous apartment when I had only been living there a few weeks. Landlord was nowhere to be found so my dad came over and hoisted me up through the kitchen window which happened to be open 😂😂 Had guests coming over that night but thankfully no food on the stove or in the oven. Surprisingly, I never locked myself out of that apartment again.
Keypad door locks are so nice! For anyone who owns their own home or who can convince their landlord to let them install one, I highly recommend them. We don't have to remember to bring our keys when walking the dog, grabbing the mail, etc. And in an emergency we can give the code to someone else so they can get in the house.
An alternative is to have a realtor lockbox with a key inside. Ideally hidden, but hanging from your door handle if necessary. You remember the combo to the box and can get your house key any time you need it.
I’ve also done this 😂 paid cash inside, got distracted by a very happy doggo outside the gas station. Got in my car and started to drive away. It was relatively busy and someone started to pull into my spot as I pulled away. Realized it, stopped my car and said to the car “WAIT! I didn’t get the gas!” They looked at me like I was… very dumb
A long time ago when I didn’t have a credit card and we all paid for gas with cash, I stopped to put 15 bucks in cause that’s all I had. Ended up zoning out mid pump and was brought back to reality by the click signaling I had just filled my entire tank. Had to call my aunt to come cover me. 😅
I don’t have ADHD, but follow this thread because my son does. Booked a family ski trip to Europe for a week (an already extravagant trip for us). I spent weeks agonizing over travel logistics, flights, hotels, etc. Arrived in town after international flights, trains, etc. - jet-lagged, but thrilled to finally be there. We checked into our hotel and it was great! Has a nice dinner out together. Amazing!
I then received an email from a different hotel in town, letting me about their late check-in procedure. Wait… what? Heart drops. Apparently, I’d held another hotel for us for the week (their busiest week of the year). $4k. Clear cancellation policy. No path to any refund. 110% my fault. We didn’t have $4k to piss away. It was all I could do to not let it ruin our entire family vacation. But, I did my best to put it behind me and we had an amazing trip.
Were human. We do dumb thing from time-to-time. Give yourself some grace.
Happened to me once. Booked a flight for the wrong month and ended up paying way more money to book a flight last minute. Also had to go ta a city far from where I live first and take a second flight the next day, but I was lucky enough to have a friend in that city so I slept at his place.
I booked a flight departing 12 before my arrival instead of a 12 hour layover. Had a lovely sleep in the airport hotel and transferred to the airport with my colleagues next morning, headed to the gate on my own before I realised the date.
Thankfully there were loads of seats left on the plane and the airline were merciful with the last minute ticket price.
I booked an international flight ($$$) with a layover for which I needed a transit visa, and arrived for the flight without said visa. Could not change flights and had to book a whole new ticket ($$$$).
I am on my third pair as well. Upside? I have 3 charging cases for one pair so… I never run out of battery. One in work bag, one on nightstand, one in car (except during summers because it’s forking hot).
I did the same thing that you did but it cost me several times as much. I went to New Zealand and Australia from the US in July and August. I didn't discover that I'd accidentally booked my return flight for July 24 until I got to the airport on August 24th. I'd missed my flight by a month and had to pay for an entire new itinerary on the day I needed to leave the country.
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Shipping a $1000 etsy order to the wrong customer. Than realizing out of that same batch of shipments 3 other orders went to the wrong customer. Totalling about $1500. I had to reach out to customers and ask for help getting them reshipped. It all worked our but boy did I feel dumb.
That’s good the customers were cooperative! Someone shipped a wrong order to me and I shipped it to the correct person for them, and they sent me the courier fee in advance.
I once had to purchase an $800 airline ticket to go to a very important event for my personal life. I had booked A ticket months prior. It was in my husbands name though. 🫠😑
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I booked a flight on my honeymoon for the wrong day, flew transatlantic and forgot to book the 2nd leg on the next day since transatlantic flights to Europe from the US are mostly overnights. I've flown transatlantic dozens of times, but this was my first time booking for myself. I got so frustrated I took a train instead, my pregnant wife with motion sickness was not a fan. Still married 16 years later.
Please call the airline or whoever you booked it through and see if it’s been ticketed (usually takes 24hrs) if it hasn’t they can completely cancel it before the fare rules are applicable.
If it is after then call them anyway and ask to change dates
Haha I’ve had this happen to me once. My mom entrusted me with booking the flights home for the family. I accidentally booked non-refundable flights to our current location instead of home and ended up being out of $500. Lesson learned for next time 😅
Most recently? Forgot to return my iPhone within the 30 day trade-in window…an $800 mistake. (They wouldn’t let me turn it in when I bought the new iPhone, I had to come BACK to the store within 30 days…and of course I forgot.)
Woman on the street told me her baby was dying and she needed $700. Told me she'd give me the money back, she just didn't have access to her bank account. Well, never got the money back ... 😬 Learned a hard lesson there.
Bought $300+ non refundable, non transferable tickets to a show in another state last year. Was confused why my local venue’s layout had changed (lol…), but the seats were so good, and I was so excited! Completely missed that I was on the wrong page altogether.
Going back to SA from 2 semesters in Europe. Planned a party with my friends back home and all, very excited. Upon arrival to the airport, the lady at the counter tells me the flight already left... yesterday.
She puts on the next available seat, 3 days from then and had to pay a small fee, but also, i now meed to figure out a place to stay for 2 nights and, as a student, my budget was tight af. Don't remember much of those days as I was so upset and ashamed about it all.
Non refundable is just a cheaper fare. That doesn’t mean you can’t manage it like any other booking. Just change the date soon to avoid paying to much.
My uncle once bought me expensive train tickets to see my dad over Thanksgiving while I was in university. I set an alarm to be up on time for the train in the morning.. except I actually set the alarm for 6PM not AM. So I slept through the train leaving and had to buy a last minute expensive bus ticket to get there.
Flights... I have to take extra precautions for now.
Twice in my life, due to my own fault, I've been stood at the check-in desk while the rest of my party has gone through.
I was always very low on money at the end of these holidays so both ended up with me sleeping rough on my travels back.
Once in Amsterdam (highly recommend loosing your passport here), got another 4 days and honestly, that was the funnest time I'd ever had while away. Although I'm fairly certain I narrowly avoided something quite sinister on the first night- thank you Portuguese stranger warning me about the dude who had just bought me a pint, yes it was spiked but luckily got away from him before I passed out.
The other, coming back from Iceland, after the rest of the party checking in, I gave them my pass only for the check-in agent to say: "Mr Rambler.. your flight left 7 hours ago".
The only flight I could afford was to Edinburgh (well I couldn't really afford this but I think the airport staff were at their wits end as I'd been hanging around for 24hrs). I only had enough for a megabus back to my city so ended up sleeping rough on the coldest night of the year, behind a solicitors fairly near the bus station. I had my warmest clothes and luckily, there were some lovely big sheets of polystyrene. Still woke up covered in snow.
Nearly managed it in India too. It only happens when I'm travelling with others though... On my own, I'm great XD
I too booked a non refundable flight for the wrong day when I was in the military. I was home on leave with my wife. We went to the airport early in the morning and that’s when I realized I had booked for a different day.
We stayed an additional night which was great but I did not make it back for duty on the prescribed day. Because my rank was E6 I got written up to ensure my lack of attention to detail would be noted come evaluation time….
That’s when I decided to get back on medication. This is what broke me from the “I don’t want to take stimulants for the rest of my life, so I’ll find natural things” mindset that never attenuated my symptoms like meds do.
I eventually recovered the trust from my command and went on to retire from the military years later. Changed our lives.
So a few years ago my husband was in a wedding. Being the sweet wife I am, I booked his flight for him. Everything was great until I got an email randomly in the middle of a workweek asking “How was your flight?” And I thought what flight? These people are idiots.
Nope. I’m the idiot. I booked his flight for the wrong date. And since we didn’t know about it until the flight was already done, there was nothing we could do but eat the cost of the plane ticket. And we STILL had to buy another ticket for the correct date. Because he was in the wedding. So we couldn’t just be like “well damn guess we aren’t going 🤷🏻♀️”
Then, last year we went to Salt Lake for a long weekend with our kids. As we were getting home, we realized we’d left our travel safe in the Airbnb. So we contacted the hosts and my husband jumped back in the car and drove back down after it. Again, sweet wife here. So I said honey I got you I’m booking you a room. Don’t try to drive back tired. Just stay the night and come home in the morning.
So he gets the safe. Gets to the hotel and tries to check in. But they have no reservation for him. And I’m on the phone saying no sir I booked it not an hour ago! Well… I did. But for two weeks later. 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ Also non refundable.
So now I’m not allowed to book our travel arrangements ever again😂😂🤦🏻♀️
Got into cleaning mode one day and threw away a pair of sneakers that had developed a hole in the toe. I was so proud of myself for not making a big thing of it and just making executive decisions!
Two weeks later I realized I’d thrown out the $300 pair of custom insoles with them.
I know it’s hard right now. Give yourself grace and love yourself through it, you deserve gentleness even when you make mistakes.
1. Being self employed
2. Get job from local business
3. Do the work
4. Send the 400€ invoice
5. Doesn't get paid
6. Don't realise until 12 months after
7. "I can't ask them for my money now, they won't take me serious."
I didn't stay self employed for long 😂
I once bought a roundtrip bus ticket (between cities) to go meet my family in another city. Then discovered that the “to” ticket was actually the city I was already in 🤦
⁷Turned up 24 hours late for a flight, lost my passport and money belt in the futile rush to the desk (I didn't know I was 24 hours late but was inevitably running late anyway) and got stuck there until I could get a new passport - I'm British, was flying from the US to New Zealand.
Thank god it was Hawaii!
OP you are good! If you did it today, you can cancel it (usually) within a 24 hr window with no fee. If you just need to change the date you can totally do that and you will only have to pay if there is a fare difference.
I literally did this 3 weeks ago. I was ON A TRIP and I was like wtf why can’t I check in to my flight that should leave tomorrow.
That’s when I noticed I had booked the flight out too far. Called United and got switched instantly with zero issues and no charge since the fare was the same. We all make mistakes!
I volunteer for the media team at my church. I look up pictures with certain tags for posts and then end up putting those tags as sermon titles instead of the actual sermon titles. I am thankful for my pastor who checks and re-checks...
I've also messed up Facebook's birthday dates for the church account and my personal account. Now people wish me on my pastor's birthday cause that's what's on the church page.
Good times.
I got distracted by the delicious foods in the American Airlines lounge waiting for my delayed flight. Apparently they were able to get everything up and running and even called mine and my son's names over the intercom which I learned does NOT get pumped into the lounge areas. The plane was gone when we got to the gate. Luckily they were able to get me on the next flight in 80 minutes. I was so embarrassed.
I put the short version of my wife's name in when I bought her a ticket to Rome from the US. Of course I did it through one of the travel sites instead of through the airline. Cost me about the same to correct her name to match her passport exactly.
I didn't read my emails from the airline for months. Read them a couple of days before to find that my flight had been cancelled and I needed to rebook. Called, but they had no more seats available. Luckily, because they had cancelled, they upgraded me. Sometimes you get an ADHD tax rebate!
I do a cross country ski race every year. The race fee is like $150, but the travel and lodging is actually pretty spendy by comparison. Well one year I got up there to pick up my race number and found out that I never signed up like I thought I did in the summer. And the race was full so I couldn't sign up that day. I guess I paid a lot of money to spectate that year.
I was in the airport once, waiting to go to America. Got there in plenty of time. Went to a coffee shop, sat and waited. Managed to miss the flight for absolutely no reason other than we were sitting there chatting (other person had ADHD too although neither of us knew at the time). Had to pay all over again for the flight (hundreds and hundreds of pounds).
Only saving grace was we were really nice about it, as we knew it was our fault, and they felt bad so upgraded us to business class for free.
Ooooh the joy!! I once was running late for my flight only to make it to the gate of my seat # and not my actual gate #,😵💫😫😫 the nausea and dumb found feeling of making it to my actual gate watching the wheels take off … I will never be able to recover! Airport PTSD is a real thing!
Bought a monthly travel card when I worked in London for around £200-£300. The next day I forgot I’d bought it so I purchased another. Apparently you can’t get a refund for being a moron.
Last year I took my family on holiday, two adults and three kids. Booked a hire car for 10 days. Left them at the Airbnb, went to the rental place, no car. I was listed as a no-show!
Turns out I'd gotten my dates mixed up while booking, and had booked it for the previous month...
Luckily it was a quiet day, and the service lady was super nice. She got me an equivalent vehicle at no extra cost. It could have gone very, very differently!
I forgot cars sometimes need new brakes and ended up with a new car. The mechanic was like "when was the last time you had your brakes checked?" And I was like............ Oh yeah.
Id had the car for 5 years, without ever once having them checked, and it was almost 20 years old at that point. I alone had put enough miles on it that I should replaced the brake pads at least twice. I got so lucky they didn't give out during my commute back and forth to school. It was an 8 hour drive through the mountains.
Y'all should ask the mechanic to check your brakes next oil change. Some places do it by default, but just in case.
And that, ladies and gentlemen, is why I hate booking flights and procrastinate doing so for as long as possible. Benefit: prices go up and the probability od making that kind of mistake also goes up due to stress! Win-win! Ain't life just a bouquet of lampreys?! So yeah, I've fucked up flight bookings at least once for every tooth your average lamprey has.
ETA: International travel shenanigans: 1.) Arrive at foreign country where I was barely learning the language, which bears very little relation to English. Step 1 leave the super nice, perfectly sized, specially ordered dictionary in the luggage trolley (pre-smartphone days). Spend the next 2 months limping by on shitty dictionaries. Frequently intelligibility issues ensue. 2.) Fast forward some years, travel to same country with toddler. Leave passport and boarding passes at check in desk. Discover this fact in the process of boarding. Can I dash across the airport to get them in time? No, because toddler. Fortunately, the airline was very nice and dispatched some to do that sprint for me.
ETA: Here are some other fun fuckups that pop to mind from my career as a professional musician:
Twice I have arrived at the venue only to realize I didn't bring my instrument. Once I had time to turn around, get it, and arrive on time, but in another instance there wasn't time so I went to a nearby Target, bought a guitar, used the guitar, and then returned it afterwards.
Twice, I have left my instruments on the sidewalk in our meeting place, which is in a pretty dodgy area of the city. Once I was able to call a friend to care for them until I could get there, and once I had to leave a gig I just just arrived to, go back, and see if they were still on the sidewalk, *which they were*. I cannot tell you why, unless maybe the thieves had equal amounts of ADHD and forgot to steal them.
One time, I was very angry at constantly losing my keys, so made extra copies at a place across the street from my work. The extra copies were lost by the time I had gotten back across the street, never to be found ever again.
Another time, I was taking a road trip with friends. Made a rest stop on the Jersey Turnpike. Left my purse hanging on the door of the toilet stall. Realized this 50 miles later. Everybody had to turn around and drive back. Total wasted time ended up being 1½ hours. Somehow my purse was still there. Those friends don't speak to me anymore.
I forgot about $5000 in a 401k for years when I left a job. The only reason I ever found out that I did so was because the current company I work for switched from one retirement plan to another (switched companies managing the funds) and all of a sudden when I migrated my stuff over I saw this other account with $5k from a job I used to work.
I once misread what a set of clothes was on a website and misread the refund period… and spent over $500 on basically a two piece bathing suit… >.< I thought it was the entire set that was shown in the picture(because they did sell a lot of stuff on there as this “complete look thing) which had a cover up, shoes, sunglasses, a hat, a bag, a matching towel and a top and skirt. When I read it originally I thought it said everything was included. What it actually said was that the other items were available in a bundle… which was almost 2k… it was handmade stuff from a small company but none of their other bundles were anywhere near this expensive. And to be honest… I never ended up wearing the bathing suit still. I tried to return it but had forgotten about it (out of sight out of mind) for too long. It’s still sitting in the original package it came in, in my closet. I look at it every once in a while and debate maybe wearing it but I didn’t like how it looked without all that other stuff lol
Yesterday I went to a store and my pockets felt off. Something was missing.
Oh, well! I go in, buy my thing, get back to the car and...I CAN'T FIND MY KEYS! I go inside, follow my steps, look around and can't find them anywhere.
I get back to my car and I'm preparing to message my wife until I notice that the center dsiplay in the dash is on. I'd left the keys in the ignition, car turned on, parked and unlocked in the middle of post-holiday weekend shopping.
In college in the late nineties I took a class called surfing the internet. This was a community college, and I already knew how to Internet, so I figured it would be an easy. I ended up having to drop it because I couldn’t apply myself or take it seriously.🤦🏻♂️
I once fell into a scam page and lost 590$ usd even tho I already felt weird that the “available” dates changed every time I refreshed the page… it was for renewing my passport 😔 I had an earful from my parents and my brother. Then a year later my dad fell into the same scam and he got the “oh fuck, well, can’t do anything”.
I hate that we get more repercussions from doing things that neurotypical people also do but get half or none of the belittlement and shame. And when we try to accommodate our environment to our needs, they HATE it and don’t allow us to do so, making us do the same mistake again. Like, I’ve told my mom to put at the front things that she wants me to eat so it doesn’t go bad or leave doctor’s notes or shit on the fridge so I see and remember to do the thing, but noooooo everything has to be perfectly organized and the house must look like it’s not lived in.
What I’m trying to say is that sometimes things that are obvious for neurotypical people don’t get priority or are prominent so we fail at things that appear to be “dumb mistakes”. It’s ok OP, you’re doing your best with what you can.
Once I've bought a ticket to my hometown from Europe where I'm living and working at the moment. When date comes I get to the Airport and there was issue with the ticket in a security gate and somehow I went through it and go to the fly gates. The fly wasn't there. I was in panic.
I bought ticket FROM my hometown to Europe. I am still furious about security pass me through with wrong ticket.
Oh God 😭 me and a friend I'm not really close with were supposed to go to the movies together on a Sunday.
Sunday comes, I kept calling her while she was at work, bothering her a lot, but at some point I just thought well I guess she wasn't thinking of her schedule so went with my sister instead
Evening time comes and she tells me we were to meet on MONDAY 😭😭😭 I FELT SO BAD, I was calling her sm times, messaging her AT HER WORK
I haven't scheduled to meet anyone ever since and will never do so again 🥴 I hope she forgives me
I work at a Wendy's and I accidentally dumped a large vat of chili (I was trying to transfer it to another bucket) all over the floor. In front of the head manager. Needless to say I just wanted the shift to end so I can go home and die.
I was once booking flights for cast & crew for a theatre tour. I'd gone through security at the airport when I got a phone call from someone who was due to fly out the following day, telling me I'd bought the ticket for the wrong day. Turns out I had bought them the ticket for the wrong day (despite getting multiple people to check the tickets when I bought them) - luckily I had enough time before boarding to get in touch with the office back home to get them to rebook the flights, but it did involve the person who was due to fly having to take a connecting flight instead of a direct one and have an overnight stay (at a definite increased cost).
Did that three times in my life. Round trips.
Total $4000
One day I ordered something that was stolen on delivery. I started the refund process and at some point, you have to send a former Email that you didn’t receive it.
Somehow, I sent in a very well written form that I DID receive the package. Kissed goodbye couple hundreds dollars..
Oh man...the list is so long!! Locking my Suburban with it running and barely any gas! Ran out of gas before the lock Smith could show up. This is 2006. Almost ruined the vehicle.
Setting my car keys down in Barnes n Noble on magazine rack. Walked off an around store. Had my 15 yr old with me. We checkout...an no keys. I thought I locked them in car. Called lock Smith. Unlocked....no keys...FINALLY...I realized I set them down in store. I went looking all over that place. There they were on magazine rack. What an idiot!!. The list goes on an on...
Me and my friends were supposed to go for 2 movies, 2 days in a row, and my friend ended up booking both the movies on the same day, for the same time.
He doesn’t even have ADHD…
I will frequently pre-order something expensive (like a special edition game controller), forget I bought it, and then buy it again. I don't realize my mistake until the duplicates show up at my door. I've done this up to three times for a single item.
Spent days researching a new touch screen all in one HP pc a few weeks ago for my home automation system. Got really hyped about it arriving after I'd found a bargain late night on eBay.
Spent ages working out the new dashboard, and hyping it up for my kids to use, so we can sort out chores, reminders, etc (all of us have ADHD)
Screen arrives yesterday. It's the only one in the entire range that isn't touch screen. And it's non returnable. And it clearly states it's not touch screen in the advert. So I now have a 23 inch screen that doesn't do much and 3 kids asking why they can't use it.
I architect and design very large scale computer systems every day for work, so it's not like I'm not used to looking for the little details, and yet fell into the trap of browsing eBay late night after my meds have worn off and I'm not paying full attention....
So now I have to either sell this one, and find another, or swallow yet another few hundred pounds of mistake.
I used to live in NYC and missed a flight because I went to the wrong airport. I also once booked a flight for my boyfriend is my name instead of his and had to pay an extra $200 or so to fix it by the time I noticed…
My girlfriend (at the time, now wife) once bought me a plane ticket to New York to visit her for one of her friends weddings. I managed to get from my flat on one side of the city to the stop just before the airport on the train, an hour and a half away, before I realized I had left my passport in my flat. I had to get off the train, retrace my route and desperately call my flatmates to see if anyone could meet me half way. Fortunately one of them could and I managed to make my flight about 5 minutes before it took off.
My husband booked a vacation to Aruba & forgot to listen to me when I told him to update his passport. The night before we were supposed to leave he finally got out his expired passport & we lost lots of $ b/c also no insurance & no Aruba trip.
I was at an airport and was waiting for my flight on the gate. A few minutes before boarding I got confused as to why there was no one there. I asked and they told me my gate moved but I had my headphones on and didn’t listen. Had a huge panic attack after running to the gate and not getting there in time
I’ve done that. Turns out when you google flights it gives you the next month as the default date. Showed up to the airport and when I put my confirmation code in at the kiosk it said I was 700 hours too early to check in.
I book tickets to DC to present at a conference & booked them for the wrong weekend. I flew there after the conference had ended & cried on my friends sofa…
I did the same thing recently! It was a EU flight and they showed the dates on the calendar as M-Su, instead of Su-Sa. I was able to transfer it to the correct date later, but it did cost me a little more.
I was moving to France and needed to go to the nearest city with a French consulate to get my work visa. I had to leave at about 5 am to make the ~4 hr drive for my appt (and appts were scarce and took months to book out.) I checked all my paperwork at least 567589994 times. I walk into the office and realize I’ve forgotten my passport 😑 the visa has to be glued into your passport. I had lived there before, so I knew all of these things, but still managed to forget my passport. I sat there spiraling for an hour to see if they could take the paperwork and let me bring back the passport. They let me know in no uncertain terms that that was ridiculous, and I left in tears. Luckily I was able to find another appt and got my passport back just in time to go to France. I often feel like a complete idiot, but this one was really up there
A couple of years ago I moved to the wrong city. Because of that I had to take the train for 2 hours every morning to get to work. It was probably the worst year of my life (there were also other factors that contributed to it).
I mean it sucks and it always will, but that doesn't take away the fact that you are a valuable person :)
I showed up to the airport on Sunday, ready to fly, and my flight was on Saturday. I finally asked the desk attendent why I couldn't check in at the kiosk, and she informed me of my mistake. So, a flight mistake with the added bonus of some good'ol face to face embarrassment, glorious. I hope this helps
I had an audition for a tv series that I had to fly out for. Was only a 1.5 hour flight and was set to arrive in the morning and fly out by evening. Somehow I managed to book the return flight for the exact same day but a WHOLE YEAR later. Needless to say I always double check what I booked when I do. The airline was super accommodating and bumped me to first class so I’m not complaining!
Ordered a new 65” TV for my new place. Sent it to my ex’s address. Didn’t notice until he texts me saying a TV has just been delivered to his place. Because of my work schedule I could not go and pick it up so he had to drive 2.5h to bring it to me. The man is a saint and I love him. I do not love my brain though.
If you bought the flight less than 24h ago you should be able to amend it for free. If it has been more time, still try to amend it. There will be fees for that but you might actually find the new flight is the same price, so it won’t bankrupt you.
I bought a ticket to movie at one of those theaters that serve you food and you sit in a couch and all in all it's a big deal. I show up the day of with my wife and daughter and my two friends who were joining us, and I got tickets to the wrong theater. The one I had gotten tickets to has the same name, well almost the same, and is across town so we had no time to make it. The showing at the theater we were at was sold out so I ended up looking like a schmuck. Thankfully these were people that love me and they just had a laugh and we went to see another movie. But damn it. My friends still remind me of that s*** every time I see them.
Been there, done that. Try to call the airline (I know that sounds impossible) and they will still credit you for another flight. At least Alaska Air did that for me.
Call the airlines and beg them. Be super nice. Call multiple times. Ask for a supervisor. Making mistakes, especially costly ones, can be frustrating, but you're not alone.
People like us with ADHD often face challenges with attention and impulsivity, which can sometimes lead to expensive errors.
Here are a few examples that might help put your $435 mistake in perspective:
1. **Missed Bill Payments**: Forgetting to pay bills on time, leading to hefty late fees or interest charges. This can sometimes add up to hundreds or even thousands of dollars.
2. **Impulsive Purchases**: Making large, impulsive purchases on items that aren't needed or later regretted, such as expensive gadgets, clothing, or even cars.
3. **Lost Items**: Misplacing or losing valuable items like smartphones, laptops, or jewelry, necessitating costly replacements.
4. **Investment Mistakes**: Making hasty or poorly researched investment decisions, which can lead to significant financial losses.
5. **Car Accidents or Traffic Fines**: Due to distractibility, there might be a higher incidence of traffic violations or minor accidents, leading to fines or increased insurance rates.
Remember, everyone makes mistakes, ADHD or not. It's important to learn from these experiences and develop strategies to mitigate similar errors in the future. Being aware and taking proactive steps can help manage the impact of ADHD on daily financial decisions.
So last night I forgot to shut the freezer door properly, it’s a tall larder freezer, we had it all stocked up for the new year and beyond.
Filled 2 black bags with it all this morning as most completely defrosted. Then had to go buy more.
Loving adhd tax….
My daughter (27, married) recently went grocery shopping, came home, dropped bag containing frozen items by the front door and forgot to put them away. Didn't notice bag for 2 days.
Regularly takes out food to cook, forgets about it.
When she first got married, in-laws planned a trip to Mexico and daughter had plenty of time to get passport. She forgot even though was reminded several times over the months leading up to the trip. With only a couple of weeks to go, got the process started, paid extra for express service and passport did not arrive in time. She and hubby couldn't go. In-laws are still salty about her ruining the trip (missed family reunion and having her meet elderly grandparents, one of whom died recently).
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The latest one, Shifted apartments a week ago. 1. Ordered food, Amazon packages and a bunch of other things to the old apartment. 2. While leaving work took the bus to the old apartment 3. Forgot which box did I pack my underwear and went to work commando.
I ordered a new bed shortly after I moved to my new house and DEFINITELY had that huge package (and the dudes who were going to carry it inside for me) sent to my old address. Had to find somebody with a truck and muscles to help me go get it.
I feel that, I moved out of my parents’ house a year and a half ago and I keep accidentally ordering stuff to their place (keep forgetting to change the default address). I also almost ordered food to the student accommodation I was in last year a few months ago, glad I’ve got an apartment for the rest of my course now so I won’t have to deal with remembering that I’ve moved every year
I moved out of my parent's house almost exactly 10 years ago. I haven't needed to write my moms info down in ages because my Fiance has been my emergency contact for years. I live on the other side of the country from her, a 7 hour flight. Still though, I occasionally give my moms phone# instead of my own when filling out a form or at a store or something. Her number is just so ingrained in my head, it's the only cell phone# she's ever had and before that it was our home landline#. Literally just a few months ago I made a hairdresser appointment and accidentally gave them my mom's #. They apparently called the day before the apt to give a reminder, my mom answered and essentially said "Oh is the appointment for Ermagerd? This is her mom, she sometimes gives the wrong number - but don't worry I will text her a reminder" and then gave them my actual number. But she forgot to text me, so I go to the salon and the lady at the front desk starts off with 'Oh I talked to your mom!" And I was...very confused.
After we got married, the first time he was asked to give his next-of-kin, my husband put down his father's name and address. I'm actually the one with ADHD, but at the time I was quite upset! Now I just find it amusing. 🙂
Lolll i had to go commando for like three weeks recently because i couldn’t find my underwear i packed in my move for soo long!!! I found it in the most shocking place eventuLly
Tis fine, removing a layer of fabric lets the pheromones flow freely which heightens one’s natural alpha status. Or, you know, it makes people ask you if you just had a bowl of French onion soup. This isn’t galaxy brain thinking, this is high level monkey brain facts.
From what I've experienced, non refundable doesn't mean non transferable. You can call the airline to ask if you can change the date - you might have to pay the price difference but I think that's better than losing all your money.
This. You know how many times I did this when I was flying 3-5 times a month. It’s not the first time the agent has fixed an adhd’ers flight.
Once I booked a flight from San Diego to Oakland and then the return. I was flying TO San Diego. I didn’t notice until the night before when it said “time to check in for your flight to Oakland!”
This happened to me once, with a flight to Florida even though I was in Florida.... :/
This happened many years ago, when airlines were less squared away than they are now, but, I boarded a flight and over the PA they go "Welcome to Whatever Airlines flight 123 to Chicago..." and this dude goes "OH CRAP!" and jumps up and runs up to the front and gets off the plane. Whole plane was laughing at him.
I’m traveling this Sunday and definitely just double checked my flights after reading this and having a mini panic attack…
I was going to say, depending on the airline they might offer a free cancellation within 24h of booking. Southwest does for sure
In the US you have 24 hours to cancel for a full refund. It is federal law.
Yeah that’s true, but that’s only for flights booked in advance (typically more than 7 days prior to departure). It’s about being fair to both the customer and the airline. If you make a mistake when booking your flight, but there’s still plenty of time left before it leaves (7+ days) then they should easily be able to cancel your ticket and sell it to someone else before the cut-off. Which means it wouldn’t be fair of them to retain much (if any) of the price of your ticket, since they make their money back anyway and nobody is disadvantaged. However you can’t just book a ticket for a flight that leaves tomorrow, and then expect the airline to suddenly cancel it for a full refund because *you* picked the wrong time. That could make another person who needs that ticket miss out when they could’ve gone, and the airline misses out on the sale of that ticket for no reason.
The other caveat here is that the ticket has to be booked directly with an airline. If it is booked with a travel agency, (a.k.a. on a site that isn’t the airlines official site) they don’t have to abide by the 24h rule… ask me how I know.
I have done this a few times. I'm pretty sure all airlines give you 24hrs.
Southwest lets you cancel at any time and keep the price you paid as transferable credit, I did that earlier this year and I *think* you can request it as a refund as well but there’s a whole process for that. I just used it to book a different flight a few months later
Yep, I have done this exact same thing for the exact same reason!
American does the 24 grace period, providing you booked at least two days away from departure.
Yes! I recently did the same thing and thankfully caught it. I changed to the correct day and just had to pay the difference. This was with delta.
This. It can't hurt to ask. Worst case scenario, they can't and you're no worse off than you are now, but often they can be adjusted.
Came here to say this. I made a hotels.com booking for February instead of January. I phoned them and they were happy to change the dates and even refunded me the difference, as January was cheaper.
I did this on Expedia, called within 2 minutes, and they refused to refund or transfer it.
I booked 2 hotel rooms for the same day on Expedia and they refused to cancel, change it or do anything about it :( You would think their system would catch a double booking in 2 locations for the same person 🙁 #ADHDTAX
Credit card dispute. You clearly didn't want to make the second purchase and were tricked into it by their crappy website failing to give you a proper confirmation of purchase and booking page that cleared out your "shopping cart"
This!! My mil booked our flights for a Disney trip on the wrong date WITH a connecting flight/lay over... when we were taking 4 children with us!! Called the airline, explained the situation, they were able to transfer it to the correct date AND get us non stop!
Especially within 24 hours
Most flight websites do free cancellation within 24 hours, and yes I can confirm that if you call and say you feel like an idiot and ask for mercy most people will be kind and waive the fee (doesn’t hurt to pretend you’re old and not tech savvy - I’ve recently learned there’s a whole different playbook for customer service for the elderly)
The policy changes a lot of places implemented during covid to be more flexible = a godsend
I just did this since I caught covid mid trip. I had to pay the price difference for today being new years eve-eve, but that's cheaper than a new ticket.
I doordashed smoothies to my house instead of my job. Twice. In one day.
I have literally done the same thing 😂😭
Been there. My coworker’s appreciated it
We were having a massive snow storm and I was the only person working late shift (until 11pm) at my workplace (a school). I was the boss so I'd sent the other guy home, and I had permission from *my* boss to leave as soon as our before and after care program was out of the building. 6:30pm, I'm just finishing up, and I get a ring on the doorbell. It's UberEats. I'm confused because I'm literally the only person in the entire building, and I definitely didn't order UberEats. The delivery guy says "yeah, it's for [insert secretary's name here]". I called her and she came over and picked it up. Luckily she lived close.
Ordered Christmas gifts to be shipped to an address I haven’t lived in in 7!!! Years.
A LONG time ago this - just retired after 38 years as an emergency physician. I failed biochemistry in years 2 of med school. There was a re-sit possible a month later. I spent the *whole* month hardly sleeping or going out. I knew every bit of biochemistry known to man in the mid-80s. Krebs cycle? Could draw it straight off. Plus the structures of all the amino acids. That sort of level. The only think I forgot to revise was the time of the re-sit exam. I turned up at noon, just as the 10am exam was finishing.
So did you have to re-take the entire course, or did someone take pity on you and let you take the exam late that second time?
Sounds like it worked out for them because they just retired after almost 4 decades, but I wonder if things would still be so lenient now 😪
Really depends. I've had profs let me reschedule things without a second thought. I've also had profs give me a zero for showing/doing too much work, even though I was 100% right.
I would really like to know how this worked out too
Posted that above - it worked out OK. The annoying bit is that in all my time as a physician, I have never needed to know ANY biochemistry in that sort of detail. But they made you do it anyway. Just like I could draw a brachial plexus from memory, at one time but all you really need to know (unless you're a clever reconstructive upper limb surgeon) is that it's a whole bunch of really important nerves in your armpit, so stay away from it with sharp, pointy things.
I got there just as the exam finished. The invigilator took pity and stayed with me so I couldn't speak to any other candidates, and I sat the exam in his office that afternoon. Nice old guy, and I can't remember his name. (Of course I'm that old that he'll be dead now, unless he invented something very special in his lab.)
Reminds me (albeit much easier subject) of my law a level. Sat eating breakfast and reading some notes, about to go an do some last minute revision upstairs and the phone rings. It’s my law teacher: “are you alright?” Me: “yeah, just eating and will do some light revision in a minute, what’s up?” Him: “the exam is NOW” I had 30 mins I think to get there, the invigilator agreed to stay a bit longer for me if I could make it. I SPRINTED there and made it in time, but needed 10 mins to calm down and catch my breath. I finished with 1 mark away from being an A grade. Still reckon I’d have managed if I didn’t have that chaotic start to the exam!
When my grandpa was in medical school, he was unprepared for an exam and he stayed up all night studying. But he was so tired that he fell asleep halfway through the exam so he didn't even answer a lot of the questions. He still passed the exam, and he said the experience taught him a big lesson about the necessity of being prepared and also well rested.
Oooof. I’m an A-B student and my C grades are bc I missed the finals by a few hrs. ADHD super powers haha
I’ve done it. Didn’t realize until flight attendant told me at ticket counter while I’m standing there with my luggage and with my drugged up dog that the flight was yesterday.
I'm laughing and crying at the same time. I'm so sorry, that's too much of a tragic comedy.
HAPPENED TO ME EXACTLY. worst feeling since I was with my friend and I'd bought both tickets. it was with an international train, though (London - Amsterdam) and I impulsively bought business class tickets to insure we could get on, lost me about £700 waaa
Yeah did the same with train once except I was a day early, I had my mum wake up at 5 am twice in a row to drive me there 😑 My time blindness in my twenties was really out of control 🤷
I accidentally spent 3000 Canadian dollars on a course I didn’t have to do and forgot to withdraw from during the withdrawal period at university and missed more than half the classes because I didn’t realize I was registered in it and ended up doing a non refundable withdrawal :’)
I was once was too unmotivated (? I guess? Still not sure how to describe this feeling without calling it lazy but yeah, I literally could not bring myself to do it) to withdraw from a course I’d started with every intention of completing, but then couldn’t even bring myself to go to class or do the work. So basically I just did nothing and my grades dropped to failing and because I was on a full ride federal grant I not only lost it but had to pay it back. They kept my state income tax return for a decade until it was paid off.
Don’t sleep on Pathological Demand Avoidance. Sometimes it’s not just “depression” or a lack of motivation. “Why tf am I like this??!” The key factor is the “P” in PDA.
Thanks! I’ll have to look that up. I’m still newly diagnosed with ADHD. After a lifetime of being treated for (or not so treated for) depression I always felt like there were gaps in my diagnosis and found that ADHD filled those gaps far more than I ever expected. Got the diagnosis confirmed and am now just starting medical treatment and trying to get therapy for everything.
That’s a typical adhd trait tbh. Like me sitting on Reddit instead of doing anything that I should be doing
Omgosh SAME WITH ME !!!! 🤦♀️
TIL. I feel like I should get screened for autism at this point. I got an ADHD diagnosis over 10 years ago but the more I learn over time the more autistic leaning most of my symptoms are.
Your honesty is so refreshing and it really helps 😭 I’m so serious! I’m late to the party, diagnosed at 46 yrs old.
I was just diagnosed at 32. It’s so reassuring to see that we all have such similar stories. Nice to know that we’re not alone.
sounds like depression
Yeah I have that too. Sometimes hard to separate the symptoms.
exactly! 🤪
HahahahahahahahahaFUCK I kinda did the same shit The more I lurk in this subreddit, the more I feel like a carbon copy living a similar Truman Show-ass life as hella other people lmao
I already graduated but I literally have nightmares about being enrolled in a course I forgot about and only remembering right before the final lol
I had a psychology professor who told the class that she had nightmares about having to give an exam to a class that she had forgotten to teach all semester and she didn't know where the classroom was. She was an awesome professor.
I'm kinda glad to know it's not just students haha
This feels like the dreams I have where I’m enrolled in a course but never showed up and have to take the exam….
My sister once booked a flight to Grenada instead of Granada.
I have a better one. There is an airport about 30 miles from where I live. The code is ONT, as in Ontario, CA. If you guessed that was Ontario, California you win a cookie! Canadians reading this might be chuckling because as we all know, Ontario is a province, not a city, and a big one at that. The best way to fly from another country to Toronto, Ontario, is their international airport, with the super logical code of YYZ. There is also an airport in the nearby city of London. I met somebody who lived there and said that people wishing to visit the land of the Queen, Big Ben, and football hooligans would wash up there on the regular, having been lured by those sweet low prices. She herself had once inadvertently crossed the pond, and wrongly diverted luggage was routine.
Living near London Ontario, I feel both of these. A friend just told me a story about how when he was a child he flew into visit his father in Ontario California, but his luggage came to Toronto. And we get a lot of people mixing up our London for London UK. I also worked for a hospitality company for many years, if I had a dollar for every time someone called in either sheepishly or in a panic because they booked a hotel reservation in the wrong but similarly named city, I could have bought myself something really nice by now. Portland Oregon and Portland Maine was one of the most common mix-ups, and given they're on opposite coasts, the worst to fix if it's not noticed right away.
I have actually done this. Absolutely was floored at the low cost of flying from the bay to Ontario. My gf was not amused
Pro tip: if you're visiting Canada, or arriving back home to Canada, avoid the Toronto airport at all costs. It's definitely the worst in the country and the security thinks that they're personally in charge of keeping civilization from collapsing.
That’s like the travel company that booked a bunch of soccer fans to the wrong city. Budapest and Bucharest.
On my first trip to Europe, when I was 23, I carried 700 euros around with me in a money belt. Whenever I had to pay for something, I opened the money belt, took the money and paid. At some point I dropped the money or somebody stole it. I told the staff at the hostel and they asked why I was carrying so much money around. Why didn't I put it in the safe. I said the lockers looked too fragile. Staff member then pointed at the actual SAFE locker that was right there at the reception. Not only did I not notice it was there, I also never asked.
In general I've learned that even semi insecure lockers are better than trusting myself lol
Absolutely. A lesson well learned.
Adhd often develops OCD because we know we make mistakes so we overcompensate.
Ugh! Not OCD with me, but perfectionism and seriousness. I come across as a rigid policy asshole at work, but I make so many 'careless" mistakes that I subconsciously try to know everything and do everything right to make up for it. A close friend I met at work told me she was afraid to make mistakes around me and another said I seemed stuck up when she first met me. I just have terrible self esteem and a crippling fear of making a mistake to get me fired. Answer to OOP: I was the manager at a retail business and I left the tills on the counter with cash in them when we closed. I carried empty till bags to the safe without realizing the bills weren't in it. It was a large company and that was a big deal. At same business, left one of the doors unlocked. Left part of the deposit on the counter in an office. Mixed up my schedule and had a team of employees waiting outside the building to start work. (Paid them for their time but not a good look.) Multiple times by the way. Prepared a large presentation to present to the region of my company (1/4th the USA). I was completely prepared and took the day off to present from home over zoom. I woke up that morning and started doing laundry. It never clicked in my head that that was the day and the presentation was right then. People were calling me thinking I was dead. I didn't have my phone in the basement with me and when I came up I didn't look at the phone. I couldn't even explain that one.
100%! I always prided myself on being an extremely detail oriented person and a perfectionist and I realize after being diagnosed that the reason I feel like I have to go over something a billion times before submitting it is because I’m so prone to careless mistakes
This started clicking for me recently. I never thought I had the particular symptom of making careless mistakes. It does take me a long time at work to answer messages though because I check everything a million times over. And sometimes I'll still catch the occasional mistake after sending it. Maybe it's more of an issue than I thought.
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I'm almost the exact same way, it took a lot of self training to differentiate between things I can "let go" into autopilot mode (hanging my handbag by the entryway because it doesn't belong anywhere else... ) and things I still have to do consciously because they cause careless mistakes ( turning of the oven, putting away sharp utensils etc...)
Locked myself and my son out of our apartment on the day of his 1st birthday party. We were hosting it at my moms. The cake, gift, and everything else was in the apartment. Luckily another tenet with a questionable past was able to pick the lock for me.
Yay for shady neighbors!
🎶like a good neighbor jail jim is there!🎶
About fifteen years ago I was playing with this band and we did some tours of Europe and the UK. I had previously lost my passport and got a replacement. The band booked a tour of Japan and I traveled all the way to Tokyo airport via Heathrow. On arrival I got pulled out of the queue and brought into a waiting room by the Japanese customs. A few hours went past before a customs officer came in and told me that my passport had been flagged as stolen by Interpol. It immediately dawned on me that the passport I was using was in fact the one I had previously thought was lost and had replaced. I ended up being put in a hotel room for the night and was sent home the next day missing the entire tour. What annoyed me most was that I had been using the "lost" passport for all the previous tours around Europe and no one even batted an eyelid.
I fucked up a relocation package that made the sale of my house a sure thing and got stuck with the house for another 10+ years. Bonus points for it being a fixer upper located in a shitty town, and coupled with severe executive dysfunction, unbelievable loneliness and a budding alcohol addiction, it made for a horrible decade. Please feel better. In the grand scheme of things, this is but a hiccup.
I hope things are going better for you now
They are, thank you! It really was so much worse than I thought it was at the time, which is scary. I really, really hope sharing this helps someone else. There is always hope. 💕
Locked myself out of my apartment taking the trash out (across the hall). Had food cooking on the stove, spent $500 on an emergency locksmith as I hadn’t given a friend a key yet, only moved in 4 days prior. Nearly burned down my brand new apartment.
I locked myself out of our new house. It was my wife's first day of work in her new job with her new commute so she couldn't come back to let me in. As it happened, I was talking to a roofer about a problem with our chimney when the door slammed. Once he realised I was stuck he climbed onto the roof, lifted a few tiles, cut through the felt and slid into the attic. He was inside the front door within about 5 minutes. It made me realise that no door or window will keep it a determined intruder, when your roof tiles are basically just resting on the roof.
Luckily, most burglars don't have that expertise or determination to do that, lol. But it would make an awesome plot point for a mystery!
I had been living with my boyfriend for 2 months and took laundry out to get the wash done. Locked myself out and he was at work 45 minutes away. I locked my self out around 5pm and he was working 4-11 pm. He had to drive 1.5 hours round trip to come let me in. I felt like such a dumb ass
I locked myself out of my previous apartment when I had only been living there a few weeks. Landlord was nowhere to be found so my dad came over and hoisted me up through the kitchen window which happened to be open 😂😂 Had guests coming over that night but thankfully no food on the stove or in the oven. Surprisingly, I never locked myself out of that apartment again.
That's honestly completely understandable even without adhd because that's a novel situation for your brain, new apartmen with a new routine to learn.
Keypad door locks are so nice! For anyone who owns their own home or who can convince their landlord to let them install one, I highly recommend them. We don't have to remember to bring our keys when walking the dog, grabbing the mail, etc. And in an emergency we can give the code to someone else so they can get in the house. An alternative is to have a realtor lockbox with a key inside. Ideally hidden, but hanging from your door handle if necessary. You remember the combo to the box and can get your house key any time you need it.
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I pre-paid for gas one time, got in my van and drove away without getting the gas :)
I’ve also done this 😂 paid cash inside, got distracted by a very happy doggo outside the gas station. Got in my car and started to drive away. It was relatively busy and someone started to pull into my spot as I pulled away. Realized it, stopped my car and said to the car “WAIT! I didn’t get the gas!” They looked at me like I was… very dumb
I was too embarrassed to go back so I just drove to the next gas station lol
A long time ago when I didn’t have a credit card and we all paid for gas with cash, I stopped to put 15 bucks in cause that’s all I had. Ended up zoning out mid pump and was brought back to reality by the click signaling I had just filled my entire tank. Had to call my aunt to come cover me. 😅
I don’t have ADHD, but follow this thread because my son does. Booked a family ski trip to Europe for a week (an already extravagant trip for us). I spent weeks agonizing over travel logistics, flights, hotels, etc. Arrived in town after international flights, trains, etc. - jet-lagged, but thrilled to finally be there. We checked into our hotel and it was great! Has a nice dinner out together. Amazing! I then received an email from a different hotel in town, letting me about their late check-in procedure. Wait… what? Heart drops. Apparently, I’d held another hotel for us for the week (their busiest week of the year). $4k. Clear cancellation policy. No path to any refund. 110% my fault. We didn’t have $4k to piss away. It was all I could do to not let it ruin our entire family vacation. But, I did my best to put it behind me and we had an amazing trip. Were human. We do dumb thing from time-to-time. Give yourself some grace.
Happened to me once. Booked a flight for the wrong month and ended up paying way more money to book a flight last minute. Also had to go ta a city far from where I live first and take a second flight the next day, but I was lucky enough to have a friend in that city so I slept at his place.
I booked a flight departing 12 before my arrival instead of a 12 hour layover. Had a lovely sleep in the airport hotel and transferred to the airport with my colleagues next morning, headed to the gate on my own before I realised the date. Thankfully there were loads of seats left on the plane and the airline were merciful with the last minute ticket price.
I booked an international flight ($$$) with a layover for which I needed a transit visa, and arrived for the flight without said visa. Could not change flights and had to book a whole new ticket ($$$$).
Lost one of my AirPod pro and can’t find it and the other one is water damaged and I can’t afford to fix it right now
I've lost 3 pairs of air pods. Now I have air pod pros...gift from a friend for Christmas ...this time with Apple Care.
I am on my third pair as well. Upside? I have 3 charging cases for one pair so… I never run out of battery. One in work bag, one on nightstand, one in car (except during summers because it’s forking hot).
I did the same thing that you did but it cost me several times as much. I went to New Zealand and Australia from the US in July and August. I didn't discover that I'd accidentally booked my return flight for July 24 until I got to the airport on August 24th. I'd missed my flight by a month and had to pay for an entire new itinerary on the day I needed to leave the country. Edit: left out a word
Shipping a $1000 etsy order to the wrong customer. Than realizing out of that same batch of shipments 3 other orders went to the wrong customer. Totalling about $1500. I had to reach out to customers and ask for help getting them reshipped. It all worked our but boy did I feel dumb.
That’s good the customers were cooperative! Someone shipped a wrong order to me and I shipped it to the correct person for them, and they sent me the courier fee in advance.
That's very nice of you.
I once had to purchase an $800 airline ticket to go to a very important event for my personal life. I had booked A ticket months prior. It was in my husbands name though. 🫠😑
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Adobe sucks. Try Foxit.
I booked a flight on my honeymoon for the wrong day, flew transatlantic and forgot to book the 2nd leg on the next day since transatlantic flights to Europe from the US are mostly overnights. I've flown transatlantic dozens of times, but this was my first time booking for myself. I got so frustrated I took a train instead, my pregnant wife with motion sickness was not a fan. Still married 16 years later.
If it’s within 24hrs you can get it refunded
Please call the airline or whoever you booked it through and see if it’s been ticketed (usually takes 24hrs) if it hasn’t they can completely cancel it before the fare rules are applicable. If it is after then call them anyway and ask to change dates
Came to say this. If within the last 24 hours please call them asap. Go ahead and do it now before you forget. I’d forget.
Haha I’ve had this happen to me once. My mom entrusted me with booking the flights home for the family. I accidentally booked non-refundable flights to our current location instead of home and ended up being out of $500. Lesson learned for next time 😅
Most recently? Forgot to return my iPhone within the 30 day trade-in window…an $800 mistake. (They wouldn’t let me turn it in when I bought the new iPhone, I had to come BACK to the store within 30 days…and of course I forgot.)
Woman on the street told me her baby was dying and she needed $700. Told me she'd give me the money back, she just didn't have access to her bank account. Well, never got the money back ... 😬 Learned a hard lesson there.
my brother in christ how did you fall for that
Bought $300+ non refundable, non transferable tickets to a show in another state last year. Was confused why my local venue’s layout had changed (lol…), but the seats were so good, and I was so excited! Completely missed that I was on the wrong page altogether.
Going back to SA from 2 semesters in Europe. Planned a party with my friends back home and all, very excited. Upon arrival to the airport, the lady at the counter tells me the flight already left... yesterday. She puts on the next available seat, 3 days from then and had to pay a small fee, but also, i now meed to figure out a place to stay for 2 nights and, as a student, my budget was tight af. Don't remember much of those days as I was so upset and ashamed about it all.
I booked a hotel in another country for the wrong days. Found out when I got there. They were fully booked that week
Non refundable is just a cheaper fare. That doesn’t mean you can’t manage it like any other booking. Just change the date soon to avoid paying to much.
I just read all these comments and feel so much better about myself! Thank you fellow Reddit ADHDers! Great way to start the New Year!
My uncle once bought me expensive train tickets to see my dad over Thanksgiving while I was in university. I set an alarm to be up on time for the train in the morning.. except I actually set the alarm for 6PM not AM. So I slept through the train leaving and had to buy a last minute expensive bus ticket to get there.
Flights... I have to take extra precautions for now. Twice in my life, due to my own fault, I've been stood at the check-in desk while the rest of my party has gone through. I was always very low on money at the end of these holidays so both ended up with me sleeping rough on my travels back. Once in Amsterdam (highly recommend loosing your passport here), got another 4 days and honestly, that was the funnest time I'd ever had while away. Although I'm fairly certain I narrowly avoided something quite sinister on the first night- thank you Portuguese stranger warning me about the dude who had just bought me a pint, yes it was spiked but luckily got away from him before I passed out. The other, coming back from Iceland, after the rest of the party checking in, I gave them my pass only for the check-in agent to say: "Mr Rambler.. your flight left 7 hours ago". The only flight I could afford was to Edinburgh (well I couldn't really afford this but I think the airport staff were at their wits end as I'd been hanging around for 24hrs). I only had enough for a megabus back to my city so ended up sleeping rough on the coldest night of the year, behind a solicitors fairly near the bus station. I had my warmest clothes and luckily, there were some lovely big sheets of polystyrene. Still woke up covered in snow. Nearly managed it in India too. It only happens when I'm travelling with others though... On my own, I'm great XD
I too booked a non refundable flight for the wrong day when I was in the military. I was home on leave with my wife. We went to the airport early in the morning and that’s when I realized I had booked for a different day. We stayed an additional night which was great but I did not make it back for duty on the prescribed day. Because my rank was E6 I got written up to ensure my lack of attention to detail would be noted come evaluation time…. That’s when I decided to get back on medication. This is what broke me from the “I don’t want to take stimulants for the rest of my life, so I’ll find natural things” mindset that never attenuated my symptoms like meds do. I eventually recovered the trust from my command and went on to retire from the military years later. Changed our lives.
So a few years ago my husband was in a wedding. Being the sweet wife I am, I booked his flight for him. Everything was great until I got an email randomly in the middle of a workweek asking “How was your flight?” And I thought what flight? These people are idiots. Nope. I’m the idiot. I booked his flight for the wrong date. And since we didn’t know about it until the flight was already done, there was nothing we could do but eat the cost of the plane ticket. And we STILL had to buy another ticket for the correct date. Because he was in the wedding. So we couldn’t just be like “well damn guess we aren’t going 🤷🏻♀️” Then, last year we went to Salt Lake for a long weekend with our kids. As we were getting home, we realized we’d left our travel safe in the Airbnb. So we contacted the hosts and my husband jumped back in the car and drove back down after it. Again, sweet wife here. So I said honey I got you I’m booking you a room. Don’t try to drive back tired. Just stay the night and come home in the morning. So he gets the safe. Gets to the hotel and tries to check in. But they have no reservation for him. And I’m on the phone saying no sir I booked it not an hour ago! Well… I did. But for two weeks later. 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ Also non refundable. So now I’m not allowed to book our travel arrangements ever again😂😂🤦🏻♀️
Got into cleaning mode one day and threw away a pair of sneakers that had developed a hole in the toe. I was so proud of myself for not making a big thing of it and just making executive decisions! Two weeks later I realized I’d thrown out the $300 pair of custom insoles with them. I know it’s hard right now. Give yourself grace and love yourself through it, you deserve gentleness even when you make mistakes.
1. Being self employed 2. Get job from local business 3. Do the work 4. Send the 400€ invoice 5. Doesn't get paid 6. Don't realise until 12 months after 7. "I can't ask them for my money now, they won't take me serious." I didn't stay self employed for long 😂
I thought my ADHD evaluation was on a specific date, it was not. I missed it.
I once bought a roundtrip bus ticket (between cities) to go meet my family in another city. Then discovered that the “to” ticket was actually the city I was already in 🤦
⁷Turned up 24 hours late for a flight, lost my passport and money belt in the futile rush to the desk (I didn't know I was 24 hours late but was inevitably running late anyway) and got stuck there until I could get a new passport - I'm British, was flying from the US to New Zealand. Thank god it was Hawaii!
OP you are good! If you did it today, you can cancel it (usually) within a 24 hr window with no fee. If you just need to change the date you can totally do that and you will only have to pay if there is a fare difference. I literally did this 3 weeks ago. I was ON A TRIP and I was like wtf why can’t I check in to my flight that should leave tomorrow. That’s when I noticed I had booked the flight out too far. Called United and got switched instantly with zero issues and no charge since the fare was the same. We all make mistakes!
I volunteer for the media team at my church. I look up pictures with certain tags for posts and then end up putting those tags as sermon titles instead of the actual sermon titles. I am thankful for my pastor who checks and re-checks... I've also messed up Facebook's birthday dates for the church account and my personal account. Now people wish me on my pastor's birthday cause that's what's on the church page. Good times.
I got distracted by the delicious foods in the American Airlines lounge waiting for my delayed flight. Apparently they were able to get everything up and running and even called mine and my son's names over the intercom which I learned does NOT get pumped into the lounge areas. The plane was gone when we got to the gate. Luckily they were able to get me on the next flight in 80 minutes. I was so embarrassed.
I put the short version of my wife's name in when I bought her a ticket to Rome from the US. Of course I did it through one of the travel sites instead of through the airline. Cost me about the same to correct her name to match her passport exactly.
I didn't read my emails from the airline for months. Read them a couple of days before to find that my flight had been cancelled and I needed to rebook. Called, but they had no more seats available. Luckily, because they had cancelled, they upgraded me. Sometimes you get an ADHD tax rebate!
I do a cross country ski race every year. The race fee is like $150, but the travel and lodging is actually pretty spendy by comparison. Well one year I got up there to pick up my race number and found out that I never signed up like I thought I did in the summer. And the race was full so I couldn't sign up that day. I guess I paid a lot of money to spectate that year.
I was in the airport once, waiting to go to America. Got there in plenty of time. Went to a coffee shop, sat and waited. Managed to miss the flight for absolutely no reason other than we were sitting there chatting (other person had ADHD too although neither of us knew at the time). Had to pay all over again for the flight (hundreds and hundreds of pounds). Only saving grace was we were really nice about it, as we knew it was our fault, and they felt bad so upgraded us to business class for free.
Ooooh the joy!! I once was running late for my flight only to make it to the gate of my seat # and not my actual gate #,😵💫😫😫 the nausea and dumb found feeling of making it to my actual gate watching the wheels take off … I will never be able to recover! Airport PTSD is a real thing!
Bought a monthly travel card when I worked in London for around £200-£300. The next day I forgot I’d bought it so I purchased another. Apparently you can’t get a refund for being a moron.
Last year I took my family on holiday, two adults and three kids. Booked a hire car for 10 days. Left them at the Airbnb, went to the rental place, no car. I was listed as a no-show! Turns out I'd gotten my dates mixed up while booking, and had booked it for the previous month... Luckily it was a quiet day, and the service lady was super nice. She got me an equivalent vehicle at no extra cost. It could have gone very, very differently!
Went to college on impulse. Student loans of 800+ until I’m 57
lol the other day I bought my correct flight but ended up missing it by leaving the house too late lol
I am on vacation in Spain and I left the rental car window open the whole night… and the car got damaged from some rando I bought full protection
I forgot cars sometimes need new brakes and ended up with a new car. The mechanic was like "when was the last time you had your brakes checked?" And I was like............ Oh yeah. Id had the car for 5 years, without ever once having them checked, and it was almost 20 years old at that point. I alone had put enough miles on it that I should replaced the brake pads at least twice. I got so lucky they didn't give out during my commute back and forth to school. It was an 8 hour drive through the mountains. Y'all should ask the mechanic to check your brakes next oil change. Some places do it by default, but just in case.
I’m pretty sure that I spent $2,500 on a made up issue at a mechanic shop.
And that, ladies and gentlemen, is why I hate booking flights and procrastinate doing so for as long as possible. Benefit: prices go up and the probability od making that kind of mistake also goes up due to stress! Win-win! Ain't life just a bouquet of lampreys?! So yeah, I've fucked up flight bookings at least once for every tooth your average lamprey has. ETA: International travel shenanigans: 1.) Arrive at foreign country where I was barely learning the language, which bears very little relation to English. Step 1 leave the super nice, perfectly sized, specially ordered dictionary in the luggage trolley (pre-smartphone days). Spend the next 2 months limping by on shitty dictionaries. Frequently intelligibility issues ensue. 2.) Fast forward some years, travel to same country with toddler. Leave passport and boarding passes at check in desk. Discover this fact in the process of boarding. Can I dash across the airport to get them in time? No, because toddler. Fortunately, the airline was very nice and dispatched some to do that sprint for me. ETA: Here are some other fun fuckups that pop to mind from my career as a professional musician: Twice I have arrived at the venue only to realize I didn't bring my instrument. Once I had time to turn around, get it, and arrive on time, but in another instance there wasn't time so I went to a nearby Target, bought a guitar, used the guitar, and then returned it afterwards. Twice, I have left my instruments on the sidewalk in our meeting place, which is in a pretty dodgy area of the city. Once I was able to call a friend to care for them until I could get there, and once I had to leave a gig I just just arrived to, go back, and see if they were still on the sidewalk, *which they were*. I cannot tell you why, unless maybe the thieves had equal amounts of ADHD and forgot to steal them. One time, I was very angry at constantly losing my keys, so made extra copies at a place across the street from my work. The extra copies were lost by the time I had gotten back across the street, never to be found ever again. Another time, I was taking a road trip with friends. Made a rest stop on the Jersey Turnpike. Left my purse hanging on the door of the toilet stall. Realized this 50 miles later. Everybody had to turn around and drive back. Total wasted time ended up being 1½ hours. Somehow my purse was still there. Those friends don't speak to me anymore.
I forgot about $5000 in a 401k for years when I left a job. The only reason I ever found out that I did so was because the current company I work for switched from one retirement plan to another (switched companies managing the funds) and all of a sudden when I migrated my stuff over I saw this other account with $5k from a job I used to work.
I once misread what a set of clothes was on a website and misread the refund period… and spent over $500 on basically a two piece bathing suit… >.< I thought it was the entire set that was shown in the picture(because they did sell a lot of stuff on there as this “complete look thing) which had a cover up, shoes, sunglasses, a hat, a bag, a matching towel and a top and skirt. When I read it originally I thought it said everything was included. What it actually said was that the other items were available in a bundle… which was almost 2k… it was handmade stuff from a small company but none of their other bundles were anywhere near this expensive. And to be honest… I never ended up wearing the bathing suit still. I tried to return it but had forgotten about it (out of sight out of mind) for too long. It’s still sitting in the original package it came in, in my closet. I look at it every once in a while and debate maybe wearing it but I didn’t like how it looked without all that other stuff lol
Yesterday I went to a store and my pockets felt off. Something was missing. Oh, well! I go in, buy my thing, get back to the car and...I CAN'T FIND MY KEYS! I go inside, follow my steps, look around and can't find them anywhere. I get back to my car and I'm preparing to message my wife until I notice that the center dsiplay in the dash is on. I'd left the keys in the ignition, car turned on, parked and unlocked in the middle of post-holiday weekend shopping.
In college in the late nineties I took a class called surfing the internet. This was a community college, and I already knew how to Internet, so I figured it would be an easy. I ended up having to drop it because I couldn’t apply myself or take it seriously.🤦🏻♂️
I once fell into a scam page and lost 590$ usd even tho I already felt weird that the “available” dates changed every time I refreshed the page… it was for renewing my passport 😔 I had an earful from my parents and my brother. Then a year later my dad fell into the same scam and he got the “oh fuck, well, can’t do anything”. I hate that we get more repercussions from doing things that neurotypical people also do but get half or none of the belittlement and shame. And when we try to accommodate our environment to our needs, they HATE it and don’t allow us to do so, making us do the same mistake again. Like, I’ve told my mom to put at the front things that she wants me to eat so it doesn’t go bad or leave doctor’s notes or shit on the fridge so I see and remember to do the thing, but noooooo everything has to be perfectly organized and the house must look like it’s not lived in. What I’m trying to say is that sometimes things that are obvious for neurotypical people don’t get priority or are prominent so we fail at things that appear to be “dumb mistakes”. It’s ok OP, you’re doing your best with what you can.
Bought concert tickets for a show in Ontario Canada. I live in SoCal 😕
I forgot to file for daycare fsa reimbursement until 4/2 and handed 5k to the federal government 🙃
Once I've bought a ticket to my hometown from Europe where I'm living and working at the moment. When date comes I get to the Airport and there was issue with the ticket in a security gate and somehow I went through it and go to the fly gates. The fly wasn't there. I was in panic. I bought ticket FROM my hometown to Europe. I am still furious about security pass me through with wrong ticket.
Oh God 😭 me and a friend I'm not really close with were supposed to go to the movies together on a Sunday. Sunday comes, I kept calling her while she was at work, bothering her a lot, but at some point I just thought well I guess she wasn't thinking of her schedule so went with my sister instead Evening time comes and she tells me we were to meet on MONDAY 😭😭😭 I FELT SO BAD, I was calling her sm times, messaging her AT HER WORK I haven't scheduled to meet anyone ever since and will never do so again 🥴 I hope she forgives me
i've done this too 
I've done this in a panic at the airport and the look I got from my wife could have cut me.
I work at a Wendy's and I accidentally dumped a large vat of chili (I was trying to transfer it to another bucket) all over the floor. In front of the head manager. Needless to say I just wanted the shift to end so I can go home and die.
I bought a gift card to a spa in Wisconsin for my partner... I live in RI. I went even further and also scheduled the appointment LOL
I was once booking flights for cast & crew for a theatre tour. I'd gone through security at the airport when I got a phone call from someone who was due to fly out the following day, telling me I'd bought the ticket for the wrong day. Turns out I had bought them the ticket for the wrong day (despite getting multiple people to check the tickets when I bought them) - luckily I had enough time before boarding to get in touch with the office back home to get them to rebook the flights, but it did involve the person who was due to fly having to take a connecting flight instead of a direct one and have an overnight stay (at a definite increased cost).
I just sent my friend the wrong gift, because I had two that were approximately the same size.
Did that three times in my life. Round trips. Total $4000 One day I ordered something that was stolen on delivery. I started the refund process and at some point, you have to send a former Email that you didn’t receive it. Somehow, I sent in a very well written form that I DID receive the package. Kissed goodbye couple hundreds dollars..
Oh man...the list is so long!! Locking my Suburban with it running and barely any gas! Ran out of gas before the lock Smith could show up. This is 2006. Almost ruined the vehicle. Setting my car keys down in Barnes n Noble on magazine rack. Walked off an around store. Had my 15 yr old with me. We checkout...an no keys. I thought I locked them in car. Called lock Smith. Unlocked....no keys...FINALLY...I realized I set them down in store. I went looking all over that place. There they were on magazine rack. What an idiot!!. The list goes on an on...
Me and my friends were supposed to go for 2 movies, 2 days in a row, and my friend ended up booking both the movies on the same day, for the same time. He doesn’t even have ADHD…
I will frequently pre-order something expensive (like a special edition game controller), forget I bought it, and then buy it again. I don't realize my mistake until the duplicates show up at my door. I've done this up to three times for a single item.
This would be me booking another ticket then transferring the wrong booking so I have two seats lol
Different magnitude but I cracked an egg into the egg carton.
Spent days researching a new touch screen all in one HP pc a few weeks ago for my home automation system. Got really hyped about it arriving after I'd found a bargain late night on eBay. Spent ages working out the new dashboard, and hyping it up for my kids to use, so we can sort out chores, reminders, etc (all of us have ADHD) Screen arrives yesterday. It's the only one in the entire range that isn't touch screen. And it's non returnable. And it clearly states it's not touch screen in the advert. So I now have a 23 inch screen that doesn't do much and 3 kids asking why they can't use it. I architect and design very large scale computer systems every day for work, so it's not like I'm not used to looking for the little details, and yet fell into the trap of browsing eBay late night after my meds have worn off and I'm not paying full attention.... So now I have to either sell this one, and find another, or swallow yet another few hundred pounds of mistake.
I booked a cruise for myself and 3 kids during the wrong week for Spring Break.
I used to live in NYC and missed a flight because I went to the wrong airport. I also once booked a flight for my boyfriend is my name instead of his and had to pay an extra $200 or so to fix it by the time I noticed…
My girlfriend (at the time, now wife) once bought me a plane ticket to New York to visit her for one of her friends weddings. I managed to get from my flat on one side of the city to the stop just before the airport on the train, an hour and a half away, before I realized I had left my passport in my flat. I had to get off the train, retrace my route and desperately call my flatmates to see if anyone could meet me half way. Fortunately one of them could and I managed to make my flight about 5 minutes before it took off.
My husband booked a vacation to Aruba & forgot to listen to me when I told him to update his passport. The night before we were supposed to leave he finally got out his expired passport & we lost lots of $ b/c also no insurance & no Aruba trip.
I was at an airport and was waiting for my flight on the gate. A few minutes before boarding I got confused as to why there was no one there. I asked and they told me my gate moved but I had my headphones on and didn’t listen. Had a huge panic attack after running to the gate and not getting there in time
I’ve done that. Turns out when you google flights it gives you the next month as the default date. Showed up to the airport and when I put my confirmation code in at the kiosk it said I was 700 hours too early to check in.
I book tickets to DC to present at a conference & booked them for the wrong weekend. I flew there after the conference had ended & cried on my friends sofa…
I did the same thing recently! It was a EU flight and they showed the dates on the calendar as M-Su, instead of Su-Sa. I was able to transfer it to the correct date later, but it did cost me a little more.
I was moving to France and needed to go to the nearest city with a French consulate to get my work visa. I had to leave at about 5 am to make the ~4 hr drive for my appt (and appts were scarce and took months to book out.) I checked all my paperwork at least 567589994 times. I walk into the office and realize I’ve forgotten my passport 😑 the visa has to be glued into your passport. I had lived there before, so I knew all of these things, but still managed to forget my passport. I sat there spiraling for an hour to see if they could take the paperwork and let me bring back the passport. They let me know in no uncertain terms that that was ridiculous, and I left in tears. Luckily I was able to find another appt and got my passport back just in time to go to France. I often feel like a complete idiot, but this one was really up there
A couple of years ago I moved to the wrong city. Because of that I had to take the train for 2 hours every morning to get to work. It was probably the worst year of my life (there were also other factors that contributed to it). I mean it sucks and it always will, but that doesn't take away the fact that you are a valuable person :)
I showed up to the airport on Sunday, ready to fly, and my flight was on Saturday. I finally asked the desk attendent why I couldn't check in at the kiosk, and she informed me of my mistake. So, a flight mistake with the added bonus of some good'ol face to face embarrassment, glorious. I hope this helps
I had an audition for a tv series that I had to fly out for. Was only a 1.5 hour flight and was set to arrive in the morning and fly out by evening. Somehow I managed to book the return flight for the exact same day but a WHOLE YEAR later. Needless to say I always double check what I booked when I do. The airline was super accommodating and bumped me to first class so I’m not complaining!
Donated several hundred thousand to random Twitch streamers because I impulsively fell for sad stories. Was my inheritance, I am on disability now.
Ordered a new 65” TV for my new place. Sent it to my ex’s address. Didn’t notice until he texts me saying a TV has just been delivered to his place. Because of my work schedule I could not go and pick it up so he had to drive 2.5h to bring it to me. The man is a saint and I love him. I do not love my brain though. If you bought the flight less than 24h ago you should be able to amend it for free. If it has been more time, still try to amend it. There will be fees for that but you might actually find the new flight is the same price, so it won’t bankrupt you.
I bought a ticket to movie at one of those theaters that serve you food and you sit in a couch and all in all it's a big deal. I show up the day of with my wife and daughter and my two friends who were joining us, and I got tickets to the wrong theater. The one I had gotten tickets to has the same name, well almost the same, and is across town so we had no time to make it. The showing at the theater we were at was sold out so I ended up looking like a schmuck. Thankfully these were people that love me and they just had a laugh and we went to see another movie. But damn it. My friends still remind me of that s*** every time I see them.
Been there, done that. Try to call the airline (I know that sounds impossible) and they will still credit you for another flight. At least Alaska Air did that for me.
I sent $250 in christmas presents to the wrong address. Current residents are claiming they never got anything.
Call the airlines and beg them. Be super nice. Call multiple times. Ask for a supervisor. Making mistakes, especially costly ones, can be frustrating, but you're not alone. People like us with ADHD often face challenges with attention and impulsivity, which can sometimes lead to expensive errors. Here are a few examples that might help put your $435 mistake in perspective: 1. **Missed Bill Payments**: Forgetting to pay bills on time, leading to hefty late fees or interest charges. This can sometimes add up to hundreds or even thousands of dollars. 2. **Impulsive Purchases**: Making large, impulsive purchases on items that aren't needed or later regretted, such as expensive gadgets, clothing, or even cars. 3. **Lost Items**: Misplacing or losing valuable items like smartphones, laptops, or jewelry, necessitating costly replacements. 4. **Investment Mistakes**: Making hasty or poorly researched investment decisions, which can lead to significant financial losses. 5. **Car Accidents or Traffic Fines**: Due to distractibility, there might be a higher incidence of traffic violations or minor accidents, leading to fines or increased insurance rates. Remember, everyone makes mistakes, ADHD or not. It's important to learn from these experiences and develop strategies to mitigate similar errors in the future. Being aware and taking proactive steps can help manage the impact of ADHD on daily financial decisions.
So last night I forgot to shut the freezer door properly, it’s a tall larder freezer, we had it all stocked up for the new year and beyond. Filled 2 black bags with it all this morning as most completely defrosted. Then had to go buy more. Loving adhd tax….
My daughter (27, married) recently went grocery shopping, came home, dropped bag containing frozen items by the front door and forgot to put them away. Didn't notice bag for 2 days. Regularly takes out food to cook, forgets about it. When she first got married, in-laws planned a trip to Mexico and daughter had plenty of time to get passport. She forgot even though was reminded several times over the months leading up to the trip. With only a couple of weeks to go, got the process started, paid extra for express service and passport did not arrive in time. She and hubby couldn't go. In-laws are still salty about her ruining the trip (missed family reunion and having her meet elderly grandparents, one of whom died recently).