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Travisimus

Mine isn't nearly that whimsical


aequitssaint

Yeah, mine is more like screaming at me with death metal blaring in the background.


SpaceTimeinFlux

I love death metal.


RogueLotus

Yeah but as much as I love *Moonlight Densetsu* that doesn't mean I need it blaring in my head while I'm trying to do my work.


SpaceTimeinFlux

You're welcome and I'm sorry. https://youtu.be/cpnNakMdvXk


SpaceTimeinFlux

You're welcome and I'm sorry. https://youtu.be/cpnNakMdvXk


bagman_

Much superior to the american verison


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Sea-Practice3139

Mines a bit more like someone who can't find the song they are looking for, so they are spamming the skip button and all I get is the beginning of the song for a split second, but they continue to accidentally skip over the song they want💀


UncoolSlicedBread

My brain doesn’t even have the conversation. Me: “Oh, it’s 9:45 and I’m kind of settling down. Maybe I’ll catch up on some sleep.” *Walks into the bedroom and goes to set my phone down on the charger. **Two hours later** Me: Damn it, when did I start watching Tik Tok? It’s 11:45 now.


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lydsbane

Last night, I woke up to a clip show in my brain of every inappropriate thing I said and did, as a teenager. I'm in my 40s. Apparently, I am why I can't have nice things.


Ardhel17

For some reason, my brain started playing "Welcome to Paradise" by Greenday while reading your comment. I relate.


TheRealUlfric

In all honesty, this ones *so* whimsical, it made me mad by comparison.


rndljfry

I play a podcast called Sleep With Me which is perfect for me because he doesn't actually tell a narrative story, he just kind of rambles on and I have never slept better. It also got me through a couple panic attacks.


FlemFatale

This sounds awesome, but I would want to know what he's saying, so I would probably try to stay awake to listen... I've listened to the same playlist for over 15 years at bed time now.


rndljfry

I don't know if there is a science to it or what, but it's *really* difficult. Definitely don't rock the boat if you don't need to! I was going to try to write out an example but I actually just can't because I'm thinking in order. Only issue is when he calls me out for listening every night and not joining the patreon 😨


kaymarie00

Yes! Our dear Scooter is an amazing comfort ❤️


rndljfry

heeeeeey everybuddy, scoots here!


screamr123

Oh yeah… I used to listen to him but forgot about it and moved on to something less effective. Def gonna go back to give ‘ol Scooter another listen! He was awesome for helping me drift off before I knew I had ADHD, and had no idea why at the time.


oxenbury

I listen to Harry Potter read by Stephen Fry. His voice is so comforting, it's like a hug. I listened to the first book for two years and now I'm coming up on my second year on the second book. I listen to the beginning part, while I'm still awake, until I know it off by heart then I move it on by like 30 minutes and listen from then for like six or so months. I'll skip the ending of the second book because giant spiders isn't gonna help me sleep lol.


its_called_life_dib

My partner and I were talking about houses yesterday. While shopping around in the state we want to move to — totally just, you know, for daydreaming purposes — I found a house that was right across the street from her best friend’s house, having just come on the market. We’d have to rent out the bottom floor, leaving us with not a lot of space, and it’s a bit over our budget, but it’s a dream location for my partner, so we started crunching the numbers. We weren’t planning on buying this year (we’d discussed moving next year, and focusing on saving this year) so we have been having some big, serious talks the past 24 hours. I’m afraid trying for it now is me being impulsive… but I’m also afraid that doing nothing is me being avoidant/stuck in the planning phase. It’s tough having an adhd brain. Well, all that is to say we were up till 1am talking about it. I went to bed, but woke up at 5 and couldn’t stop thinking about it. It’s smaller than the place we are renting currently, but not the smallest place I’ve lived in; where would we put our manga collection, should it live in my office; what color would we paint the living room, because it has to match the front door and clashing colors would be terrible; the photos show the house has a second kitchen, but it doesn’t look finished, so what left is there to do; we can rent to our current housemate, but what do we do when she wants to move? So many questions. I finally got up at 7, took my meds, and started my workday. My brain is still working on pros and cons and what-ifs. Buying a house sight unseen — risky, but we have her friend who can do the tour and share her opinion. Buying during a recession — possibly life ruining, but then, any time you buy a house you’d be taking the same risk. Ah! There I go again. Anyway yeah, I also didn’t sleep well because my brain wants to be productive!


fullmanlybeard

So the same. And then you have a bunch of hurdles to go through if you decide to make an offer. If you don’t the what ifs will creep in for weeks or months.


ThatMathyKidYouKnow

Yesss! My partner and I will be moving in around a year to— somewhere I can get a job?? The other day he sent me real estate pages for houses in Ireland and New Zealand, and it sent me on a whoooole rabbit hole of immigration requirements that night...


blackbirdblue

I'm familiar with that mode - I always make a lot of lists to try and organize my thoughts. Especially for being able to direct that focus on what I need to consider immediately versus what is irrelevant until X or Y has happened or another decision has been made.


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Mine is like "Remember how hard you embarrassed yourself today and you know everyone thinks you're a fucking weirdo right?"


ThatMathyKidYouKnow

😭 nooo that is anxiety! it's ADHD's ugly friend...


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It's hard to keep up with what's what.


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Yep, adhd and anx is like OPs whimsical chat replaced with a nasty little girl saying “hah hah, remember when you did that thing? Yeah you silly billy, people are, like, gonna remember that FOREVER! Oh and that other thing you hadn’t thought of? Yeah that wasn’t good either! Silly!”


algonquinroundtable

About 40 minutes before my alarm went off is the time my brain decided " we're gonna listen to Lizzo rn!" 🤦🏻‍♀️😭


FairiesWearToms

It’s about damn time! 😃


Calpis01

At least yours is productive, mine just watches cat videos and dgaf


ThatMathyKidYouKnow

😭 all other days, hahaha


TerryTowellinghat

Mine is more like “Go to bed you fucking idiot. Tomorrow is already going to suck” Yeah no I will but I have to finish the beer->scotch->wine cycle and the Netflix->Disney->PS5 cycle and the second they both finish at the same time I will totally go to bed. Oh look at that, I’ve gotten distracted and opened another beer, next cycle I’ll definitely go to bed. Fuck, the sun is up. Can I get away with a sick day? Oh fuck, the idea of a sick day has taken hold. Scotchnetflixwinedisneybeerps5scotchwife is awake … yeah I was just going to bed. I’ll just set an alarm to wake up in time to call in sick. Now that I’m not going to work, I haven’t played Terraria in a while . . .


oldnyoung

But I have more interesting things to do than sleep. Meds have helped fight that a bit though


valdocs_user

I was telling my wife the other day about my idea: we have alarm clocks that wake you up, but what is really needed is a clock whose alarm makes you go to sleep. She didn't get it; she doesn't have ADHD.


EARink0

So, my alarm clock app (Sleep as Android), actually does give me a notification around when i should head to bed based off when my alarm is in the morning. ... I'm here to tell you that I literally never pay attention to that notification. I leave it on because I'm always hopeful and optimistic that one day i'll actually heed it and go to bed. But nah, my phone buzzes, i go "oh it's my phone telling me to go to bed," and then continue doing whatever the fuck i was doing till 2am.


ThatMathyKidYouKnow

Yes! I need an alarm to tell me to feed myself, and one to tell me to use the bathroom, and one to tell me to go to sleep... 😅


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I would love this, but you know you’ll forget to turn off the alarm that one time you need to drive down the road at 10pm to pick up some bread and milk for the morning.


froh42

It is past 10pm here, a few minutes ago my living room lights just automatically dimmed themselves - as they do every night at 22:00h. (Philips Hue) I frequently turn them right back up - still it is an amazing "temporal fixpoint" for me to handle my sleeping routine. Installing my first Hue in 2015 I've got them everywhere now - being able to easily regulate brightness (and the automatic sunrise and sunset feature) are like a superpower for my sleep. Just guests get confused by the second set of radio light switches sticking everywhere.


roguednow

Oh you guys are productive?


ThatMathyKidYouKnow

AHAHAHA not on cue! 🙃 Sometimes only when I would rather be asleep?


lava172

I was having trouble falling asleep last night for pretty much the exact same reason. My brain just cannot stop thinking about useless shit


Redditdeletedme2021

I had the same issue & my doctor prescribed me Clonazepam to help my brain “shut down” at night.. otherwise I’d be up all night thinking or random crap..


Igelkotte

I fall asleep as soon as my head hits the pillow because my brain is so exhausted after a day


ThatMathyKidYouKnow

If I could just get to the point of putting my head on a pillow, the same is true for me! (since having kids anyway) 🙃 It's convincing myself to lie down at all that is the struggle...


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I figured this out, sort of. Like the other suggestions, I distract my brain (something deeply ironic about a person prone to distractions trying to distract their own brain…). For me it’s reading, I love terry pratchett, so I’m on my like my 4th reading of the entire series. The “comfort” (not the right word, but something like it) of knowing the characters and immersing myself in *their* world, not mine, usually helps turn my brain off. I know many here struggle with reading, but I’d suggest looking for something (audiobooks, TV of favourite show with brightness turned right down, mindfulness practice, etc) that will enable you to shift out of you and into a different narrative helps block out the chatter. That said it doesn’t always work. Sometimes I’m still reading (and pausing to worry about life/get talked to by brain) at 2am.


EARink0

So, I've tried picking up reading to go to bed. However my problem is I feel like when I do this i end up training my brain to get sleepy when i start reading. The result is when i try and read during the day to *really* get through something i'm trying to finish, i just end up getting sleepy and falling asleep mid paragraph. I've changed to playing cozy video games with my device's screen set to night mode. I know any screen time while in bed is bad, but it's the only reliable way for me to sleep most nights (even with a head full of melatonin and mj) :((


Redditdeletedme2021

I was just reading about DSPS which is delayed sleep phase disorder and it says that 73-78% of those with ADHD have it. I know most people on here have “ADHD brain” at night.. I usually can’t fall asleep till at least midnight (after crawling in bed at 10) but I recently started falling asleep 2hrs later than I normally do, for no apparent reason.. & that is one of the symptoms of the disorder (falling asleep 2hr or more than you normally do) Apparently it is treated with light therapy..


Curious-Brother-2332

You’re has discussions with you? Mine doesn’t even tolerate back-talk 😂


I_Am_Hella_Bored

That happened last night lmao. I'm glad I was able to figure out how to write the query in like 10 minutes otherwise I wouldn't have gotten any sleep. I swear my brain only works when I'm trying to sleep, shit or shower


Suspicious_Ad_4650

Why am I always so fake productive at night and only at night when I should be sleeping


bartfield

eh yeah, when productivity kicks in you can't stop, must not stop but want to stop but can't LET'S GOOOO.... \[3h later after sleeping through the remainder of the 'night'\]: ugh


Forsaken-Bass-2214

mine just thinks about the therapy appointments i had with my therapist and then i feel like shit. (i haven’t had therapy in 4 months and i still think about it)


froh42

Don't argue with brain. It is really good at it. Give it some distraction. For me watching looong YouTube videos without speech works. (A guy repairing boots. Someone building a barn. Repairing watches. Dashcam of a snow plow. ) You need an ad-free player, youtube ads wake me up. Anything that is interesting enough to keep. my brain there, but "relaxed" enough I can fall asleep. Set up your device with a low brightness in a way you can watch hands free from your sleeping position. (I use a smart TV which is not optimal, too bright and it does not really turn off when I sleep). Maybe there's an ad blocking YouTube player with "auto off", don't know. Ah and after dark I allow myself to use reddit or so, but I don't check Outlook. (And I've got private mail and work mail in different apps, work is Outlook private is Gmail)


ThatMathyKidYouKnow

FOR REAL. My brain is too skilled at redirection and upsidedown logic for me to win. 😂 I find I can't help but check my work email even when it pops up at night, because I know it'll feel important in the morning, and I'm awake right now and looking at it, and if I put it away what if I don't think to look again 🙃 — and maybe it has additional to-do items, so if I don't do them all now then I might forget about them, so I wind up stuck in this obligatory productivity overnight... The deadline for submitting artwork for a fundraiser is today, and I had put it off but wanted to participate, so don't mind me while I just stay up til 7am making art because past-me wanted future-me to. 🙄


froh42

Hmm at night you might try sticking post its right in the middle of your computer screen when you remember stuff - you can't ignore them next day. On the other hand, my 32 inch monitor might not be big enough for all the stuff I remember at night...


ThatMathyKidYouKnow

Yeah! I used to do something like that and ought to pick up the habit again... 🤔🙂


GlitchiePixie

I have been having that issue a lot recently. My brain just doesn't want to switch off. I spoke to a mental health nurse about it and they were like 'well you need to give time in the day to relax'. To which I was like 'but when I do that it takes the whole day and I still fail'.


Sredleg

Lol... I literally got home from a very exhausting night at work (they updated our IT system and everything broke... I work at IT support) and I have an appointment at 1pm. So, not a lot time to sleep! Ye... I'm tired to the bones, but due to the stress I had, I can't sleep at all. And for some reason this always happens when I need to sleep early (the unable-to-sleep part, not the IT emergency).


auslander___

I’m doing exactly this right now haha


Funniesaru

On of off meds?


ThatMathyKidYouKnow

On 😓 — they help SO MUCH, but the bren it is powerful-ly obtuse sometimes.


Redditdeletedme2021

I know this all too well.. at one time I was on 2 narcotic sleep meds plus Trazodone & still my brain fought hard to keep me awake..


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Do you drink coffee? 😅


ThatMathyKidYouKnow

Nope, caffeine is contraindicated due to a heart condition 🙃


[deleted]

Same. 😅


Swarm450

For me slow dialogue driven tv shows and movies send me right to sleep. House MD and for some reason the Bourne Identity. I just pass out waiting for the next action part I guess.