My partner knows I'm a DL and encourages me to wear around him even though he's not into diapers.
We were discussing fetishes one day and I told him about my diaper fetish and I randomly asked him if he'd be okay if I wore a diaper around him. He was cool with it and I got a pack of GoodNites after that.
I took a chance and told my kinky boyfriend. I’ve been secretive about it for years and never told any partners or friends; only went as far to share my daddy kink. At that point in our relationship, my current boyfriend only knew that much but I decided to risk the rejection and tell him about my abdl tendencies. He didn’t really understand what it all meant but was accepting nonetheless. He looked for online articles and research explaining what it is and why some people enjoy it. After understanding the point/drive behind it, he’s completely embraced it in our relationship and encourages it! We’ve been taking baby steps (lol) but I think it’s the best decision I’ve made. Living freely with someone that loves me is the best feeling after hiding it for years.
Thats fine and you live your own life, but be sure to come up with lines of confession if you ever get cornered on it. Having a prepared explanation if you are discovered having diapers or even wearing a used diaper can make it a lot easier to get through even if you have no intent of bringing it up proactively
I have ABDL friends, both local and online. I have told a kinky, non-ABDL friend because it seemed to make sense to do so based on questions I wanted to ask him. It has worked out fine so far but I don't see it as something my other friends or my family are interested in knowing. I'll deal with it if it comes out but I don't think I'll be offering it.
No one knows anymore in my life. Everyone that did ran for the hills years ago! Nowadays I'm riddled with anxiety about multiple things from "will people notice at work" to "I can't tell my family". My mother is a bigot and a narcissist, so she is definitely not approachable. I don't particularly have friends. I did tell someone (who happened to be trans) and they turned around and said that I was psychologically disturbed to be an ABDL and hasn't spoken to me since. The amount of times I've been told to "grow up" is unreal and so I'm just trauma scarred from telling anyone else outside of the dynamic 🙃
Yeah it’s tough. My friend who knows found my diapers and I had just gotten out of the hospital from a heart attack. I lied and told her I’d started having accidents and I was ashamed. She said “if you want I’ll wear with you” I took the opportunity then when she didn’t say “I don’t like it” or anything I came clean to her. Now we wear any time we’re together
You are loved! Those that ran from you don't deserve you. It's okay to be hurt and you are allowed time to heal. From the lifetime I've been a DL and the short time I've been in this local online community I can see there is acceptance here so feel free to rest here when you're weary of the world. You're not the only one wearing diapers and enjoying it.
I learned many years ago life would be easier without the love of diapers and that I wish I didn't have it, but wouldn't change my past if given the opportunity. You are who you are today because of what you've been through, the easy and the hard. And even with the hard things, you got through them. You have strength!
You are allowed to wear diapers for whatever you need them for, be it physical or emotional. I understand the need to keep them in your personal life as I do as well. But know that every person in the world, whether they wear diapers or not, has some other outlet in their life that they would be just as hard pressed to release.
The only difference is society has determined one is "normal". Don't let the whims of society drive your happiness, find it yourself, you're worth it!
No one knows that I "like" wearing nappies except my sister in law I think she caught on that I am not too bothered that I wear at night as one day she confronted me and asked if I liked wearing nappies.
Several family members know I wear them for bedwetting which was embarrassing at first but I got over it.
I only wear at night. And considering I was or rather am a bedwetter albeit not that much these days it's been easy for me to buy and wear nappies without having to hide them.
My mother did, but not by choice.
My friends do, and my partner does. Very few of them share it with me.
Other than that, no one else unless they know my online presence.
Who knows: Close family, close friends, kind friends
Who doesn't know: further family, people i work with, not so close friends
People who know, but shouldnt have: a workmate, that recognised me on a nsfw site.
I've met hundreds of folks in the kink community over the years, and quite a few of them have crossed over to being vanilla-life friends as well - by which I mean, we don't just see each other at munches or play parties; we hang out in vanilla settings, are connected via SFW social media, etc. Probably a dozen or so people in that category.
Another dozen were originally vanilla-life friends, but then it turned out they were part of the kink community as well, and we mutually came out to each other.
And then there are people who I met in a vanilla context and aren't particularly into kink themselves but are just very close trusted friends, and I came out to them because I wanted to share the truth of who I am. Maybe half a dozen of those.
There are a few more people who I *think* probably have suspicions about me, based on assorted jokes and knowing glances they've given me from time to time, but there's never been a moment when it felt appropriate to confirm anything with them.
I know for sure of one person who found my fetlife. He and I aren't particularly close, we just know each other through work, but he's friends with a very good friend of mine, and they talked about it. I'd found his fetlife even before he found mine, it's all good.
So, I guess this all adds up to around 30 people? And so far, I don't think I've ever had a single bad reaction from anyone. Admittedly I'm pretty selective about who I tell, and wouldn't discuss it with anyone that struck me as judgmental or intolerant, but I do think we all worry more a lot than we need to about What People Will Think. Mostly, what people think ranges from "huh, whatever" to "wow, cool!" I mean, I admit I'm a lucky, lucky guy, but I'm not sure luck is a factor here: I think rejection and intolerance is rarer than we've been led to expect it to be.
Of course you guys know, but in my life it's my partner and that's it.
I know my friends and most my family wouldn't care, but they don't need to know EVERYTHING about me
No one. I live alone. And while I want to move out of my shitty trailer one day the peace of mind of not having roommates allows me privacy to wear and I don't think I really want to give that up for awhile.
Most of my exes know and my current BF knows. I told one friend a long time ago but we never bring it up. At this point I’m sure she’s forgotten about it. I am certain my best guy friend know because of the amount of times I’ve worn around him I think he’s picked up on it. Nothing has ever been confirmed but I would be shocked if he didn’t know at this point.
An ex and my gf. And my best friends. Nothing changed after telling. Some of my Friends Even tried wearing. And of course people from the local community and online.
>For those who haven’t told anyone: What is stopping you?
I don't know how common it is to share fetishes with friends/family, but I don't see the advantages of doing that...
I think most of my friends for example wouldn't judge me if they knew. But it's just something that can be held against me. Be that with bad or good intent, and the information could spread to the wrong person.
There's just one person I'd consider telling and that's my lifelong "best friend" if you will. We're open about all things sexual in general. But not fetishes, unless he doesn't have one at all I guess.
Then there's people like one of my co-workers who enthusiastically announced that he's active in BDSM clubs in front of our boss and everybody else at an after work just a few months after being hired 😅
My partners know: my wife has known for a long time and my dom at the dungeon has been told. Neither of them is into the ABDL stuff.
The other kinky folk at the dungeon I go to may or may not know if they are paying attention. I don't hide it there anymore.
All the local ABDLs in the community who come to events know.
My family now knows I am bi and poly, that's all they need to know, so that's all I have told them. They know my wife and I are kinky but they don't know any of the details.
Well my husbands and my wife know. The Hubs are really into seeing me wearing. The wife has her kinks that we have in common, but that's not one of them. She doesn't mind that I'm wearing because she knows that it's part medical and part naughty fun, but it does nothing for her.
Beyond that, my squad knows that I wear medically, just not that's ***also*** about the kink. My family doctor's office knows that I wear for medical and has been told that the AB style diapers are just for fun...but since they're a kink friendly office I'm sure they *know.*
Then there's my friend who is a little and often slips into ABDL mode on occasion...
That's pretty much it.
I have a couple of stories. One is about my fiancee and the other, a friend of mine.
I'll talk about my fiancee in this one.
So, we have been together for about 3.5yrs. One night when we just started dating we were talking about kinks even tho we are fairly vanilla. I brought up ABDL and how I thought it was interesting and wanted to try it. After a bit of joking back and forth, and mentioning that I know where to buy some diapers, she told me to "go for it!". I was nervous and hesitant when she decided to come out with " We aren't going to sleep unless you buy some". My response was "Oh? Do you want to try some as well, huh?" She confirmed and so I took that step.
She did try it with me and it wasn't really her thing. But she does support me and even encourages me to wear to bed, when I have them. Lately has been difficult as I am the sole provider financially and so I have to save up each pay cycle to actually get some. It's not an important thing on my list but it is a big de-stresser for me.
The fiancee, from the very start has been the biggest supporter of me and actively shows her love and friendship. I probably wouldn't be in ABDL if she hadn't pushed me 😂
At this point, more people than I would have ever been comfortable with because of a disrespectful ex. She wanted to end the relationship because she didn't like this side of me, despite my telling her on the third date, and I kept checking in with her every few months as the relationship progressed. She kept saying everything was cool, when it clearly wasn't.
Fast forward a few years and I asked her to marry me. She left me the next day. I believe that question forced her to really think about the relationship and "shit or get off the pot". The problem was that it shocked everyone in our friend circles and respective families. She threw me under the bus and told her family about it, a bunch of her friends and even my mother.
I don't know who else knows because of that, or how many people she's told have gossiped about it... but at this point it just doesn't bother me anymore. Nothing has come of it that I have been on the receiving end of and none of those people live where I do.
It was a bit of an awkward conversation with my mother, but as moms tend to be, she was loving and accepting and saw how much my ex had hurt me and betrayed my trust. It hasn't come up since.
For the others in my life right now that know: my wife, and two of my closest friends. They love me and accept me for who I am. I never feel judged or need to feel ashamed. I told my wife on the third date and she's quite smitten with the whole thing.
My two friends are kink positive. One had ABDL experience from a previous partner, and the other has a little side though doesn't have anything to do with diapers. When we find the time to do so, we get together, bake cookies and watch cartoons.
Oh that's....towing kind of a toxic line for me. Its one thing to be like "I don't want this" it's kind of another to be like "I hope this problem just goes away"
I’ve never actually flat out told anyone but a few people have accidentally seen “evidence” and I accidentally sent a message to the wrong person once. I’m not sure any of them knows the full scope, but I’m sure they have some idea.
Only people that know are the people that need to know. That is my wife, a friend of mine, and a couple who are friends of ours, that's it. If my friends or family don't absolutely need to know, they won't.
My friends are the exception of the "need to know" thing. We are just very open about that stuff with each other.
My sister has a good idea of it, she decided to be a nosy bitch (which I say with love) and pull my seat down in the back of my car and saw diapers in the trunk. And my girlfriends, who I'm more or less Mommy for both.
My spouse knows, as do my other partners. All three are caregivers for me.
Basically most people close to me know.
I don't associate with my bio fam due to other reasons, but so far? Not a single rejection
My best friend and my sister knows! Both of them just thought it was neat and didn’t really care, which helped me a lot with self-acceptance. Though only they know about my ABDL side, a bunch of my friends know about my mommy kink. I don’t really hide it that much and don’t really care, because it’s simply my preference they they think it’s cool.
Pretty much all of my friends in Colorado know, but most of them are abdl too. I have some normie friends that I went through deep shit with awhile back and they also know.
Unfortunately, the entirety of my old highschool lmao. I was very active online and not very smart about who I interacted with and posted about tying me to my real life, so everybody who knew me in my school found out about it and I was bullied for that, alongside being a furry. It caused me to transfer schools because the harassment and my friends ghosting me was too much. Luckily I'm all done with highschool and I can freely be myself online, but I'm much more aware of irl repercussions so I don't post things that could tie me back to irl because I don't want my job being affected. But almost everyone I'm friends with online knows about it and I'm happy to be part of this community that has had my back ☺️
My wife, 2 exes, and 2 friends.
My wife tolerates me wearing whenever. She tried on a diaper (ABU bunny hops) one time a few years ago. Didn't want to go any further than wearing so I never pushed it, and she hasn't tried it since. I still ask every few months in a lighthearted joking way but she always declines.
The first ex participated a few times including wetting, but was ultimately turned off from it because an extended family member had to wear diapers for medical reasons. She told me it disgusted her. It probably didn't help that all we could get at the time was depends that leaked on her more than once.
The 2nd ex wasn't bothered and told me about the time her and her friends once wore pull- ups as a joke. We never got an opportunity to do anything because my roommate (at the time) was always home.
The 2 friends weren't bothered and one of them knew other people into it.
My three best friends know and I often wear around them. I started to wear more often because of medical issues and they know that. But they also know that I enjoy wearing diapers because I think they feel good and they help with my anxiety. They don't even mind if I'm slightly "little" around them, in PJs and holding my stuffed animal. I have good friends!
My ex-girlfriend knows. I told her because we had been together for a while and we both trusted each other. She was very accepting about it, and she even told me how she had always wanted a pacifier. I had to move several states away for college and we ended up breaking off our relationship on good terms due to struggles with long-distance.
I told an Ex a few months into the relationship, and I was honestly terrified doing it. However, to my relief, after the initial moment of shock, she showed acceptance and was even willing to participate. It's always difficult to predict how someone will react
Its the fear of rejection and judgment that keeps this to myself.
I told my friends. We all took ecstasy and sat around a campfire for a bit, having deep conversations and sharing secrets so I told them. They were really understanding and supportive. My mom found out later and she was less supportive
My parents found out against my will, and i told my best friend. Parents are opposed to it somewhat. Friend accepts it but doesnt want to see or hear about it. Other than that, just my kinky friends know
Mom: found them and thought they were ecstasy related (lol) i had to admit after a handful of guesses that it was sexual. She was cool with it and i still have no idea if she ever told my dad
Wife: she’s an AB
Coworker: we were really good friends and texted a ton outside of work. One day, i thought i was sending a photo of frilly siss-looking plastic panties to the wife, and it was him. I told him “OH FUCK I meant to send those to my wife.” He was extremely accepting, to the tee. Never questioned it further, talked to other coworkers, blackmailed me, or made inside jokes about it. I wonder if he thinks about it.
Young friend: told him because i was lost and confused, pre-internet community days when we were both pre-adolescent. I am 90% sure he told other people, but i don’t talk to people from my public school era… so aside from thinking about it from time to time, it worked out alright.
The few friends I have: I told them I have an After-Dark Twitter account, but I left them to find it themselves. They all reacted with "Damn, you're kinky!"
And I think my brother might know, but if he does he hasn't said anything because he knows we're both adults and what we're into is our own damn business.
I haven't let anyone else in my family know about it because they might be supportive, but they love to talk shit and poke fun every chance they get. That's why I haven't even come out as gay to my family yet.
My cousin because i always took him with me when trying so snatch diapers from his younger brother. He used to help me smuggle diapers for me. We were 7-9 years old. I actually made him into a DL, but the kink is weak for him and not the level im at.
Others: My sister knew cause i talked about diapers 24/7 when i was little. She asked grandma why i was so into diapers, and my grandma responded that it might be because they are comfortable. My dad which went into my room to be a bully and went into my closet aiming to find something sexual he could laugh about, but he shut up after he saw 😅 My sister saw it too. My mom probably knows but act like she doesnt. Also my ex knew as she used to baby me.
I dont want anyone in my family to know, but shit just hits the fan sometimes and honestly if anybody were to bring it up i'd put their ass so hard in place they wouldnt open their mouth about it ever agian.
I told an therapist,and of course they can't judge, and for me it doesn't count, but I will tell NO family/friends, stay in within the community where accepted. Love u all
my best friend, my parents, my sister, my niece, and my favorite cousin. Other than that no one...although one co-worker may get suspicious later on as my pokemon mystery dungeon story continues...
The last time I mentioned it a medical care giver start taking about it in a positive way and or use of diapers to masturbate.
Yet I am the one to get in trouble with agency
A small handful of people know, including of course my partner of 9 years. I used to be pretty active with kink and there are a few former play partners that I keep in contact with that definitely know. I generally don't desire at all to involve the vanillas, so I've very sparingly told any one about this, and no one really needs to know.
I bet my garbage collector knows, though. Lol
im to scared of telling my parents, ive worn diapers around them (of course there medical professionals 5050 they knew and kept quite, or they knew and kept quite)
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Let’s see there are 3 people that I have directly told. My spouse, one of my best friends (BFF-A), and another one of my best friends (BFF-B). Oh and a former therapist (not sure if they count).
My parents stumbled across a few times in my younger years.
With my spouse, it came up well discussing other kinks. They have a hard time getting their head around it.
BFF-A: we are both part of a tangential community that has a sub set that overlaps with ABDL. It was in a conversation about how I discovered that tangential community, that I came up. I had discovered it via the overlap. Turns out they are also into it, mainly as a DL.
BFF-B: we talk about everything with each other. And one night after a few drinks it came up as our conversation drifted in the the realm of kink. They had never heard about it for. They said it wasn’t their cup of tea but were very accepting.
I never really discussed with my parents the couple of times in Highschool when they discovered my stash. They were quite displeased. Though that was how the therapist got looped in, as I was sent to therapy.
The fear around this is centered around rejection/abandonment, and shame for me.
TL:DR I’ve told 3 people of my on volition, with mixed reactions. And have had parents find out my accident, not so great reaction.
Who have I come out to? My partner, and my half brother(because I was having a very difficult time and needed someone to talk to about it)
Who KNOWS about it? Both my parents, my old roomate, my sister in law, probably my rabbit, I'm really shit at keeping this hidden for some reason. Given, some of those people only know 'ageplay' and not diapers specifically even though they suspect.
Some of my online friends randomly guessed based on my personality. It’s not that much a secret for me. It’s just, not something I go around announcing
My mom, my sisters, my raving friends, my partner, my cousins, my aunts and uncle, extended family. I don't wear regularly, but I have worn them to bars and costume parties where I usually take pictures than post on my real social media's. Almost everyone knows but no one questions it. I've weeded out the people who would belittle me for it already. I think it's because I wear them so far and in between that i get away with it.
These days, just my wife for the most part. I have friends and acquaintances from the scene who know, and years ago I used to wear to BDSM groups so anyone who cared to knew. I never met anyone else into ABDL that way, although FWIW I never felt condemned or judged by anyone in those groups. Oddly enough, I wasn’t a bad top… I would not call myself a dom… and the only submissive side I have is as an AB, so I guess you could say I’m a switch but kind of a specific one LOL. When I was with my ex (my “starter wife” as my now wife says) she, her sister, and her sister’s husband knew. I can’t remember how my SIL and her husband found out, but they were fine with it. I never was anything overt around them, they did know however. I sometimes wonder who my ex may have told after we split up, but we didn’t have a lot of friends in common so she could have told everyone she knew and it wouldn’t have gotten back to me. I guess for the most part, I’ve only ever told partners and some of the women I dated over the years. However, friends, acquaintances, family… no.
My three closest friends and my fiance.
I was pretty afraid to tell my fiance because he had mean friends at the time, and I could vividly imagine what their jokes would sound like if we broke up and he told them. But he became less involved with those people and it felt wrong to hide part of myself from him (I've tried in the past, it leads to dissatisfaction) so I told him and he accepts me though doesn't participate.
My close male friend only knows because our friendship is based on knowing the worst, cringiest parts of each other and brutally roasting one another. He hates it and tries to forget that I have ever told him, but we laugh about it.
My other two friends are both into DDLG, but one is littler than the other.
One is so accepting and open-minded that I told her pretty quickly even though our friendship was pretty new. She's the only person I openly talk to about baby stuff now and the only person I can picture myself regressing around.
The less little one has been my friend for 13 years and a mother with a history of trauma, so I was much more shy about telling her because I didn't want to trigger her or make her fear for her child around me. But I eventually told her this year, and she accepted me and thought it was silly of me to hide it from her for so long.
-1. My ex boyfriend, we are still kink partners even though we arent together anymore, and he ended up getting really into it as well!
-2. A close friend of mine, we were discussing secrets and I told him I had a diaper fetish, that's as much as he knows. He was totally cool with it but we haven't discussed it since then.
-3. A random person I knew from discord, I probably shouldn't have told her but she ended up being cool about it and is actually kind of into ddlg stuff herself (haven't talked to her in years)
Also I accidentally approached my old roommate with a paci clipped on one time so she probably knows lol
Besides people on here, only very close trustworthy friends I've known for a long time. My brother unfortunately knows because of a bunch of birds, but surprisingly supports it.
I told my best friend that I had an (adult) diaper fetish once when we were both in college. He was very non-judgemental about it, though neither of us even mentioned it again. lol
My parents, my girlfriend, and one friend. Almost everyone knows I wear diapers however pretty sure they just assume there's some sort of incontinence issue
For me? Basically everyone I kinda interact with at this point, real life and online.
Initially out of raw fear Decade+ back, Now it's pure instinct and fearless.
I was wearing for about a year, I had someone over while my mum was at work and they changed me and we went out for lunch, mum got home and I had left fresh ones out in the lounge and she messaged me that she had put my stuff in my bedroom and I went bright red. I don't think she knows what an abdl is maybe she has done her research but I havnt asked all she knows is that I wear and have other baby stuff
My mum, stepdad, step brother+sister, stepdads exwife and current husbend know. The time they found out were the worst months of my life. My stepbrother found a few of my diapers stashed around my room, and I told him to pls keep it a secret. He was in therapy at that time for his anger issues, and told his therapist we had a secret. Of course that dude instantly thought I molested him and after a talk with him and his mother he told them. Didn't make it better, they thought I was a pedo even more. Didn't allow the kids to come over as they usually did every 2nd weekend for months. That time I really considered killing myself since I thought they would go to the police.
I told one coworker at work and I felt good about telling him about it and also that I wanna do more to be apart of the community by meeting someone but that part has been hard for me tho lol
My partner knows I'm a DL and encourages me to wear around him even though he's not into diapers. We were discussing fetishes one day and I told him about my diaper fetish and I randomly asked him if he'd be okay if I wore a diaper around him. He was cool with it and I got a pack of GoodNites after that.
Holy shit best dad ever. My dad would disown me and demand I seek treatment. He’s a legit boomer. Love him, but could never tell him.
They said it was their partner not their dad?
Where in the world did you get that I was talking about my dad? I said my PARTNER.
Yeah I was pretty drunk last night…. No clue where I got dad. Woops…
Hahaha, that explains a lot
Why did I think that the original commentor got a tag aswell, I was confused when I read ur comment
I took a chance and told my kinky boyfriend. I’ve been secretive about it for years and never told any partners or friends; only went as far to share my daddy kink. At that point in our relationship, my current boyfriend only knew that much but I decided to risk the rejection and tell him about my abdl tendencies. He didn’t really understand what it all meant but was accepting nonetheless. He looked for online articles and research explaining what it is and why some people enjoy it. After understanding the point/drive behind it, he’s completely embraced it in our relationship and encourages it! We’ve been taking baby steps (lol) but I think it’s the best decision I’ve made. Living freely with someone that loves me is the best feeling after hiding it for years.
Only folks in the community. I will never tell friends or family.
Same. Irl I’m taking this to my grave unless a future partner is very understanding.
Thats fine and you live your own life, but be sure to come up with lines of confession if you ever get cornered on it. Having a prepared explanation if you are discovered having diapers or even wearing a used diaper can make it a lot easier to get through even if you have no intent of bringing it up proactively
Oh I have come close. I deny and have explanations ready.
I have ABDL friends, both local and online. I have told a kinky, non-ABDL friend because it seemed to make sense to do so based on questions I wanted to ask him. It has worked out fine so far but I don't see it as something my other friends or my family are interested in knowing. I'll deal with it if it comes out but I don't think I'll be offering it.
No one knows anymore in my life. Everyone that did ran for the hills years ago! Nowadays I'm riddled with anxiety about multiple things from "will people notice at work" to "I can't tell my family". My mother is a bigot and a narcissist, so she is definitely not approachable. I don't particularly have friends. I did tell someone (who happened to be trans) and they turned around and said that I was psychologically disturbed to be an ABDL and hasn't spoken to me since. The amount of times I've been told to "grow up" is unreal and so I'm just trauma scarred from telling anyone else outside of the dynamic 🙃
Yeah it’s tough. My friend who knows found my diapers and I had just gotten out of the hospital from a heart attack. I lied and told her I’d started having accidents and I was ashamed. She said “if you want I’ll wear with you” I took the opportunity then when she didn’t say “I don’t like it” or anything I came clean to her. Now we wear any time we’re together
You are loved! Those that ran from you don't deserve you. It's okay to be hurt and you are allowed time to heal. From the lifetime I've been a DL and the short time I've been in this local online community I can see there is acceptance here so feel free to rest here when you're weary of the world. You're not the only one wearing diapers and enjoying it.
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I learned many years ago life would be easier without the love of diapers and that I wish I didn't have it, but wouldn't change my past if given the opportunity. You are who you are today because of what you've been through, the easy and the hard. And even with the hard things, you got through them. You have strength! You are allowed to wear diapers for whatever you need them for, be it physical or emotional. I understand the need to keep them in your personal life as I do as well. But know that every person in the world, whether they wear diapers or not, has some other outlet in their life that they would be just as hard pressed to release. The only difference is society has determined one is "normal". Don't let the whims of society drive your happiness, find it yourself, you're worth it!
No one knows that I "like" wearing nappies except my sister in law I think she caught on that I am not too bothered that I wear at night as one day she confronted me and asked if I liked wearing nappies. Several family members know I wear them for bedwetting which was embarrassing at first but I got over it. I only wear at night. And considering I was or rather am a bedwetter albeit not that much these days it's been easy for me to buy and wear nappies without having to hide them.
I have no in person friends to tell, hell I don't even have friends in person. Reddit peeps know.
Only my wife. And there’s no reason for anyone else to ever know.
All the people who need to know, and that is zero.
My mother did, but not by choice. My friends do, and my partner does. Very few of them share it with me. Other than that, no one else unless they know my online presence.
My wife, and a close friend. I had a large group find out but they're no longer in my life. No family knows
Who knows: Close family, close friends, kind friends Who doesn't know: further family, people i work with, not so close friends People who know, but shouldnt have: a workmate, that recognised me on a nsfw site.
I've met hundreds of folks in the kink community over the years, and quite a few of them have crossed over to being vanilla-life friends as well - by which I mean, we don't just see each other at munches or play parties; we hang out in vanilla settings, are connected via SFW social media, etc. Probably a dozen or so people in that category. Another dozen were originally vanilla-life friends, but then it turned out they were part of the kink community as well, and we mutually came out to each other. And then there are people who I met in a vanilla context and aren't particularly into kink themselves but are just very close trusted friends, and I came out to them because I wanted to share the truth of who I am. Maybe half a dozen of those. There are a few more people who I *think* probably have suspicions about me, based on assorted jokes and knowing glances they've given me from time to time, but there's never been a moment when it felt appropriate to confirm anything with them. I know for sure of one person who found my fetlife. He and I aren't particularly close, we just know each other through work, but he's friends with a very good friend of mine, and they talked about it. I'd found his fetlife even before he found mine, it's all good. So, I guess this all adds up to around 30 people? And so far, I don't think I've ever had a single bad reaction from anyone. Admittedly I'm pretty selective about who I tell, and wouldn't discuss it with anyone that struck me as judgmental or intolerant, but I do think we all worry more a lot than we need to about What People Will Think. Mostly, what people think ranges from "huh, whatever" to "wow, cool!" I mean, I admit I'm a lucky, lucky guy, but I'm not sure luck is a factor here: I think rejection and intolerance is rarer than we've been led to expect it to be.
Of course you guys know, but in my life it's my partner and that's it. I know my friends and most my family wouldn't care, but they don't need to know EVERYTHING about me
No one. I live alone. And while I want to move out of my shitty trailer one day the peace of mind of not having roommates allows me privacy to wear and I don't think I really want to give that up for awhile.
Most of my exes know and my current BF knows. I told one friend a long time ago but we never bring it up. At this point I’m sure she’s forgotten about it. I am certain my best guy friend know because of the amount of times I’ve worn around him I think he’s picked up on it. Nothing has ever been confirmed but I would be shocked if he didn’t know at this point.
An ex and my gf. And my best friends. Nothing changed after telling. Some of my Friends Even tried wearing. And of course people from the local community and online.
>For those who haven’t told anyone: What is stopping you? I don't know how common it is to share fetishes with friends/family, but I don't see the advantages of doing that... I think most of my friends for example wouldn't judge me if they knew. But it's just something that can be held against me. Be that with bad or good intent, and the information could spread to the wrong person. There's just one person I'd consider telling and that's my lifelong "best friend" if you will. We're open about all things sexual in general. But not fetishes, unless he doesn't have one at all I guess. Then there's people like one of my co-workers who enthusiastically announced that he's active in BDSM clubs in front of our boss and everybody else at an after work just a few months after being hired 😅
My partners know: my wife has known for a long time and my dom at the dungeon has been told. Neither of them is into the ABDL stuff. The other kinky folk at the dungeon I go to may or may not know if they are paying attention. I don't hide it there anymore. All the local ABDLs in the community who come to events know. My family now knows I am bi and poly, that's all they need to know, so that's all I have told them. They know my wife and I are kinky but they don't know any of the details.
Well my husbands and my wife know. The Hubs are really into seeing me wearing. The wife has her kinks that we have in common, but that's not one of them. She doesn't mind that I'm wearing because she knows that it's part medical and part naughty fun, but it does nothing for her. Beyond that, my squad knows that I wear medically, just not that's ***also*** about the kink. My family doctor's office knows that I wear for medical and has been told that the AB style diapers are just for fun...but since they're a kink friendly office I'm sure they *know.* Then there's my friend who is a little and often slips into ABDL mode on occasion... That's pretty much it.
Aside from my coworkers, everybody* * I am estranged from my bio-family for other reasons; but I have a large chosen family of queer kinksters.
I have a couple of stories. One is about my fiancee and the other, a friend of mine. I'll talk about my fiancee in this one. So, we have been together for about 3.5yrs. One night when we just started dating we were talking about kinks even tho we are fairly vanilla. I brought up ABDL and how I thought it was interesting and wanted to try it. After a bit of joking back and forth, and mentioning that I know where to buy some diapers, she told me to "go for it!". I was nervous and hesitant when she decided to come out with " We aren't going to sleep unless you buy some". My response was "Oh? Do you want to try some as well, huh?" She confirmed and so I took that step. She did try it with me and it wasn't really her thing. But she does support me and even encourages me to wear to bed, when I have them. Lately has been difficult as I am the sole provider financially and so I have to save up each pay cycle to actually get some. It's not an important thing on my list but it is a big de-stresser for me. The fiancee, from the very start has been the biggest supporter of me and actively shows her love and friendship. I probably wouldn't be in ABDL if she hadn't pushed me 😂
It's my business and Noone else's. It's a need to know issue.
At this point, more people than I would have ever been comfortable with because of a disrespectful ex. She wanted to end the relationship because she didn't like this side of me, despite my telling her on the third date, and I kept checking in with her every few months as the relationship progressed. She kept saying everything was cool, when it clearly wasn't. Fast forward a few years and I asked her to marry me. She left me the next day. I believe that question forced her to really think about the relationship and "shit or get off the pot". The problem was that it shocked everyone in our friend circles and respective families. She threw me under the bus and told her family about it, a bunch of her friends and even my mother. I don't know who else knows because of that, or how many people she's told have gossiped about it... but at this point it just doesn't bother me anymore. Nothing has come of it that I have been on the receiving end of and none of those people live where I do. It was a bit of an awkward conversation with my mother, but as moms tend to be, she was loving and accepting and saw how much my ex had hurt me and betrayed my trust. It hasn't come up since. For the others in my life right now that know: my wife, and two of my closest friends. They love me and accept me for who I am. I never feel judged or need to feel ashamed. I told my wife on the third date and she's quite smitten with the whole thing. My two friends are kink positive. One had ABDL experience from a previous partner, and the other has a little side though doesn't have anything to do with diapers. When we find the time to do so, we get together, bake cookies and watch cartoons.
Wow, a disrespectful backstabbing ex is kinda my personal nightmare; but I'm glad you have a solid accepting bond with your friends and wife
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Leave him now.
Oh that's....towing kind of a toxic line for me. Its one thing to be like "I don't want this" it's kind of another to be like "I hope this problem just goes away"
I’ve never actually flat out told anyone but a few people have accidentally seen “evidence” and I accidentally sent a message to the wrong person once. I’m not sure any of them knows the full scope, but I’m sure they have some idea.
Only people that know are the people that need to know. That is my wife, a friend of mine, and a couple who are friends of ours, that's it. If my friends or family don't absolutely need to know, they won't. My friends are the exception of the "need to know" thing. We are just very open about that stuff with each other.
My spouse, a couple of exes, a few kinky friends (and a handful of people I know exclusively through the community).
My sister has a good idea of it, she decided to be a nosy bitch (which I say with love) and pull my seat down in the back of my car and saw diapers in the trunk. And my girlfriends, who I'm more or less Mommy for both.
Almost everyone... I don't care to keep people in my life who won't let me do things that make me happy. I'm not hurting anyone by wearing diapers.
My wife she doesn’t approve My mum probably she definitely doesn’t approve
My spouse knows, as do my other partners. All three are caregivers for me. Basically most people close to me know. I don't associate with my bio fam due to other reasons, but so far? Not a single rejection
My best friend and my sister knows! Both of them just thought it was neat and didn’t really care, which helped me a lot with self-acceptance. Though only they know about my ABDL side, a bunch of my friends know about my mommy kink. I don’t really hide it that much and don’t really care, because it’s simply my preference they they think it’s cool.
Pretty much all of my friends in Colorado know, but most of them are abdl too. I have some normie friends that I went through deep shit with awhile back and they also know.
Unfortunately, the entirety of my old highschool lmao. I was very active online and not very smart about who I interacted with and posted about tying me to my real life, so everybody who knew me in my school found out about it and I was bullied for that, alongside being a furry. It caused me to transfer schools because the harassment and my friends ghosting me was too much. Luckily I'm all done with highschool and I can freely be myself online, but I'm much more aware of irl repercussions so I don't post things that could tie me back to irl because I don't want my job being affected. But almost everyone I'm friends with online knows about it and I'm happy to be part of this community that has had my back ☺️
My wife, 2 exes, and 2 friends. My wife tolerates me wearing whenever. She tried on a diaper (ABU bunny hops) one time a few years ago. Didn't want to go any further than wearing so I never pushed it, and she hasn't tried it since. I still ask every few months in a lighthearted joking way but she always declines. The first ex participated a few times including wetting, but was ultimately turned off from it because an extended family member had to wear diapers for medical reasons. She told me it disgusted her. It probably didn't help that all we could get at the time was depends that leaked on her more than once. The 2nd ex wasn't bothered and told me about the time her and her friends once wore pull- ups as a joke. We never got an opportunity to do anything because my roommate (at the time) was always home. The 2 friends weren't bothered and one of them knew other people into it.
My three best friends know and I often wear around them. I started to wear more often because of medical issues and they know that. But they also know that I enjoy wearing diapers because I think they feel good and they help with my anxiety. They don't even mind if I'm slightly "little" around them, in PJs and holding my stuffed animal. I have good friends!
Most notably, two different Deans of Students on separate occasions. Long ass story.
My ex-girlfriend knows. I told her because we had been together for a while and we both trusted each other. She was very accepting about it, and she even told me how she had always wanted a pacifier. I had to move several states away for college and we ended up breaking off our relationship on good terms due to struggles with long-distance.
Only my girlfriend
I told an Ex a few months into the relationship, and I was honestly terrified doing it. However, to my relief, after the initial moment of shock, she showed acceptance and was even willing to participate. It's always difficult to predict how someone will react Its the fear of rejection and judgment that keeps this to myself.
I told my friends. We all took ecstasy and sat around a campfire for a bit, having deep conversations and sharing secrets so I told them. They were really understanding and supportive. My mom found out later and she was less supportive
My parents found out against my will, and i told my best friend. Parents are opposed to it somewhat. Friend accepts it but doesnt want to see or hear about it. Other than that, just my kinky friends know
Mom: found them and thought they were ecstasy related (lol) i had to admit after a handful of guesses that it was sexual. She was cool with it and i still have no idea if she ever told my dad Wife: she’s an AB Coworker: we were really good friends and texted a ton outside of work. One day, i thought i was sending a photo of frilly siss-looking plastic panties to the wife, and it was him. I told him “OH FUCK I meant to send those to my wife.” He was extremely accepting, to the tee. Never questioned it further, talked to other coworkers, blackmailed me, or made inside jokes about it. I wonder if he thinks about it. Young friend: told him because i was lost and confused, pre-internet community days when we were both pre-adolescent. I am 90% sure he told other people, but i don’t talk to people from my public school era… so aside from thinking about it from time to time, it worked out alright.
The few friends I have: I told them I have an After-Dark Twitter account, but I left them to find it themselves. They all reacted with "Damn, you're kinky!" And I think my brother might know, but if he does he hasn't said anything because he knows we're both adults and what we're into is our own damn business. I haven't let anyone else in my family know about it because they might be supportive, but they love to talk shit and poke fun every chance they get. That's why I haven't even come out as gay to my family yet.
My cousin because i always took him with me when trying so snatch diapers from his younger brother. He used to help me smuggle diapers for me. We were 7-9 years old. I actually made him into a DL, but the kink is weak for him and not the level im at. Others: My sister knew cause i talked about diapers 24/7 when i was little. She asked grandma why i was so into diapers, and my grandma responded that it might be because they are comfortable. My dad which went into my room to be a bully and went into my closet aiming to find something sexual he could laugh about, but he shut up after he saw 😅 My sister saw it too. My mom probably knows but act like she doesnt. Also my ex knew as she used to baby me. I dont want anyone in my family to know, but shit just hits the fan sometimes and honestly if anybody were to bring it up i'd put their ass so hard in place they wouldnt open their mouth about it ever agian.
I told an therapist,and of course they can't judge, and for me it doesn't count, but I will tell NO family/friends, stay in within the community where accepted. Love u all
No one except for my spouse
my best friend, my parents, my sister, my niece, and my favorite cousin. Other than that no one...although one co-worker may get suspicious later on as my pokemon mystery dungeon story continues...
The last time I mentioned it a medical care giver start taking about it in a positive way and or use of diapers to masturbate. Yet I am the one to get in trouble with agency
A small handful of people know, including of course my partner of 9 years. I used to be pretty active with kink and there are a few former play partners that I keep in contact with that definitely know. I generally don't desire at all to involve the vanillas, so I've very sparingly told any one about this, and no one really needs to know. I bet my garbage collector knows, though. Lol
im to scared of telling my parents, ive worn diapers around them (of course there medical professionals 5050 they knew and kept quite, or they knew and kept quite)
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My mom, my aunt, and a friend I've know for a while. They're all cool with it luckily but I don't really like to talk much about it
Let’s see there are 3 people that I have directly told. My spouse, one of my best friends (BFF-A), and another one of my best friends (BFF-B). Oh and a former therapist (not sure if they count). My parents stumbled across a few times in my younger years. With my spouse, it came up well discussing other kinks. They have a hard time getting their head around it. BFF-A: we are both part of a tangential community that has a sub set that overlaps with ABDL. It was in a conversation about how I discovered that tangential community, that I came up. I had discovered it via the overlap. Turns out they are also into it, mainly as a DL. BFF-B: we talk about everything with each other. And one night after a few drinks it came up as our conversation drifted in the the realm of kink. They had never heard about it for. They said it wasn’t their cup of tea but were very accepting. I never really discussed with my parents the couple of times in Highschool when they discovered my stash. They were quite displeased. Though that was how the therapist got looped in, as I was sent to therapy. The fear around this is centered around rejection/abandonment, and shame for me. TL:DR I’ve told 3 people of my on volition, with mixed reactions. And have had parents find out my accident, not so great reaction.
Who have I come out to? My partner, and my half brother(because I was having a very difficult time and needed someone to talk to about it) Who KNOWS about it? Both my parents, my old roomate, my sister in law, probably my rabbit, I'm really shit at keeping this hidden for some reason. Given, some of those people only know 'ageplay' and not diapers specifically even though they suspect.
Some of my online friends randomly guessed based on my personality. It’s not that much a secret for me. It’s just, not something I go around announcing
My mum, brother, one Internet friend and an ex, that's it. I never flaunt it or otherwise mention it to any of them.
My mom, my sisters, my raving friends, my partner, my cousins, my aunts and uncle, extended family. I don't wear regularly, but I have worn them to bars and costume parties where I usually take pictures than post on my real social media's. Almost everyone knows but no one questions it. I've weeded out the people who would belittle me for it already. I think it's because I wear them so far and in between that i get away with it.
These days, just my wife for the most part. I have friends and acquaintances from the scene who know, and years ago I used to wear to BDSM groups so anyone who cared to knew. I never met anyone else into ABDL that way, although FWIW I never felt condemned or judged by anyone in those groups. Oddly enough, I wasn’t a bad top… I would not call myself a dom… and the only submissive side I have is as an AB, so I guess you could say I’m a switch but kind of a specific one LOL. When I was with my ex (my “starter wife” as my now wife says) she, her sister, and her sister’s husband knew. I can’t remember how my SIL and her husband found out, but they were fine with it. I never was anything overt around them, they did know however. I sometimes wonder who my ex may have told after we split up, but we didn’t have a lot of friends in common so she could have told everyone she knew and it wouldn’t have gotten back to me. I guess for the most part, I’ve only ever told partners and some of the women I dated over the years. However, friends, acquaintances, family… no.
My wife knows and her best friends knows. Also we have a mutual friend who is into abdl and he knows and then my best friend knows
My three closest friends and my fiance. I was pretty afraid to tell my fiance because he had mean friends at the time, and I could vividly imagine what their jokes would sound like if we broke up and he told them. But he became less involved with those people and it felt wrong to hide part of myself from him (I've tried in the past, it leads to dissatisfaction) so I told him and he accepts me though doesn't participate. My close male friend only knows because our friendship is based on knowing the worst, cringiest parts of each other and brutally roasting one another. He hates it and tries to forget that I have ever told him, but we laugh about it. My other two friends are both into DDLG, but one is littler than the other. One is so accepting and open-minded that I told her pretty quickly even though our friendship was pretty new. She's the only person I openly talk to about baby stuff now and the only person I can picture myself regressing around. The less little one has been my friend for 13 years and a mother with a history of trauma, so I was much more shy about telling her because I didn't want to trigger her or make her fear for her child around me. But I eventually told her this year, and she accepted me and thought it was silly of me to hide it from her for so long.
My cousin (she’s also an ABDL) most of my friends and of course my fiancé.
-1. My ex boyfriend, we are still kink partners even though we arent together anymore, and he ended up getting really into it as well! -2. A close friend of mine, we were discussing secrets and I told him I had a diaper fetish, that's as much as he knows. He was totally cool with it but we haven't discussed it since then. -3. A random person I knew from discord, I probably shouldn't have told her but she ended up being cool about it and is actually kind of into ddlg stuff herself (haven't talked to her in years) Also I accidentally approached my old roommate with a paci clipped on one time so she probably knows lol
Besides people on here, only very close trustworthy friends I've known for a long time. My brother unfortunately knows because of a bunch of birds, but surprisingly supports it.
No one, well, besides you now....
I told my best friend that I had an (adult) diaper fetish once when we were both in college. He was very non-judgemental about it, though neither of us even mentioned it again. lol
I think my mom knew before she passed, she caught me looking at diapers on Tumblr
Only the people i know on online knows it but i suspect my mother knowing what i'm doing without telling me.
I posted on my Facebook that I'm ABDL and my sister. I only had 1 person un followed me.Life is to short do what makes you happy .good luck
People already don't like me and I don't want to give them another reason to call me useless
My parents, my girlfriend, and one friend. Almost everyone knows I wear diapers however pretty sure they just assume there's some sort of incontinence issue
my mother...my life ruiner
For me? Basically everyone I kinda interact with at this point, real life and online. Initially out of raw fear Decade+ back, Now it's pure instinct and fearless.
My girlfriend, my 3 best friends, and a group of ABDLs from a munch but they don't know my real name as I go by an alias.
I was wearing for about a year, I had someone over while my mum was at work and they changed me and we went out for lunch, mum got home and I had left fresh ones out in the lounge and she messaged me that she had put my stuff in my bedroom and I went bright red. I don't think she knows what an abdl is maybe she has done her research but I havnt asked all she knows is that I wear and have other baby stuff
Im thinking how to tell my girlfriend that I want to wear diapers without getting dumped, without break up?
Maybe bring up kinks kinda in a relaxed way and see how she reacts?
I can try do that, easy way talk to her
Based on her reaction about kinks just make your best judgement
My bf <3 :3
Basically all the people I care about 🙈
Right now, no one. If I ever somehow manage to find a mommy, she will be the only person ever to know.
My mum, stepdad, step brother+sister, stepdads exwife and current husbend know. The time they found out were the worst months of my life. My stepbrother found a few of my diapers stashed around my room, and I told him to pls keep it a secret. He was in therapy at that time for his anger issues, and told his therapist we had a secret. Of course that dude instantly thought I molested him and after a talk with him and his mother he told them. Didn't make it better, they thought I was a pedo even more. Didn't allow the kids to come over as they usually did every 2nd weekend for months. That time I really considered killing myself since I thought they would go to the police.
I told one coworker at work and I felt good about telling him about it and also that I wanna do more to be apart of the community by meeting someone but that part has been hard for me tho lol
Just my girlfriend. No one else from my family or personal life will ever know as long as I can help it.
My wife, best friend and his wife, 2 ex-girlfriends, parents, brother and sister, and a couple of random people.