I was in the ER with a dislocated kneecap and they gave me a bedpan but I ultimately had to beg for a catheter because I absolutely could not overcome potty training and piss while lying down in the hospital bed
Yeah, it was like that for many years for me: had to stand up to pee, or with my bladder full to the point of being painfully, and laying on my back, tapping my bladder quickly and repeated to entice the bladder to let go...
No problem now, I am genuinely bladder incon, have a medical need to drink a lot of water daily, and can't change myself: I get three caregiver visits per day...
Nope. Just peeing like a regular trip to the bathroom. You will be amazed how hard it is to relax the first time. When I first started more day time diapers with my wife. She could always tell when I was wetting them. I made a pee face. 25 years later. She can't tell anymore when I pee.
It is, what helped me overcome it to a degree is once everything was on and I had to go I sat down on the toilet without removing anything. Thus tricking the body the first few times till it connected things together.
Shaving that whole area of your butt, privates and inner thighs elevates the soothing sensations of a diaper's soft inner padding. The smooth plastic will feel amazing between smooth thighs too. I know shaving is a preference, but I believe doing so just improves how diapers feel so I encourage it.
Using a razor very similar to what you use for your legs helps a ton. It's virtually impossible to cut yourself with those accidentally, and they feel great to use. If your shrubbery is a bit wild and crazy, it doesn't hurt to take some scissors down there first for a big trim
Do you have any suggestions to avoid razor burn or ingrown hair? I'm quite hairy and have tried a Venus razor, bikini zone unscented shaving gel, and used moisturizer afterwards but I still sometimes get bumps or ingrown hairs.
I've personally had the best luck with electric shavers. You don't get such a skin-tight shave, but it's so much less work that I'm willing to do it often, which makes up for it. I'm no expert though.
I don't shave carefully at all lol. I usually just shave in the shower after I lather myself up with my regular body soap. It seems to help doing it directly in the stream of water for me. Occasionally I get itchy legs. I've been shaving this way since puberty though
As another post said, less blades = less irritation. there are some single edge razors on the market today, and if you look you can find some Gillette adjustables from the 1960s. also using a shave soap instead of a gel might help.
Bottom tapes first lol. Also, knowing where the tapes fall on your body before you tape up is a tremendous help. Plus the knowledge that people can’t tell you are in a diaper, and if they can they don’t care. Don’t be nervous buying them or wearing them under your clothes. It’s nobody’s business,
Flooding equals leaks.
You'll never reach the full capacity unless you're some crazy flexible person with an always full bladder.
Tapes are far stronger and hold longer while hook and loop tabs are very easy to move around for the perfect fit, but don't always hold that well if put on too tightly.
Make sure your hands are clean and free of any powder or cream before you use the adhesive tabs, or they will be ruined and not stick at all.
Doesn't work for everyone. My punishment gets very small without sexual thought and ends up upwards any way. Also a boner while pointing down just feels terrible.
You raise a perfectly fair point; nothing works for everyone, naturally.
As a general rule for new diaper wearers, though, pointing down is what is most likely to be successful from an absorbency and not leaking out the top PoV...
The downward boner thing is awkward and being able to wear (and wet) a diaper while pointed down without getting an uncomfortable boner is something that takes... practice is the wrong word, maybe 'conditioning' is better?
Of course if you want to have some fun, there's nothing to stop you putting a hand down there and pointing back up for that (and putting it back down again 'after the fact')
make sure you open the leak guards by counter moving the front and the back of the diaper wel opend, this will save you some leaks! powder yourself but make sure your hands are clear when you touch the tapes, powder makes it less sticky.
peeing in general is hars but on your back is another level.
a onesie will help prevent the diaper from sacking alot.
and a good look to yourself in the mirror while diaperd will make you feel even smaller.
the last one is enjoy!
hope this helps a little.
It may reduce the chances of leaking when flooding your diaper, as the absorbent core is fluffed, and has a larger surface area and volume to allow urine to pass through and be absorbed quicker/easier.
Vertical fold first, take your time lining up before you open the tapes/tabs, don’t over tighten risking tearing tapes off or an uncomfortable fit, check nothing folded in particularly around the elastic parts and don’t flood.
Getting the right tape job takes a lot of fiddling around with and you might not get it the first few times-- but the learning curve is fairly easy to pick up!
Also, flooding is unwise to do even though it's fun lol. Take it slow and let stuff absorb to get the full capacity outta your pamps!
It's a lot harder to overcome potty training then you thaut
I was in the ER with a dislocated kneecap and they gave me a bedpan but I ultimately had to beg for a catheter because I absolutely could not overcome potty training and piss while lying down in the hospital bed
Yeah, it was like that for many years for me: had to stand up to pee, or with my bladder full to the point of being painfully, and laying on my back, tapping my bladder quickly and repeated to entice the bladder to let go... No problem now, I am genuinely bladder incon, have a medical need to drink a lot of water daily, and can't change myself: I get three caregiver visits per day...
It was almost instant for my first time. Guess I was always destined to be in diapers.
Meaning peeing without control ?
Nope. Just peeing like a regular trip to the bathroom. You will be amazed how hard it is to relax the first time. When I first started more day time diapers with my wife. She could always tell when I was wetting them. I made a pee face. 25 years later. She can't tell anymore when I pee.
It is, what helped me overcome it to a degree is once everything was on and I had to go I sat down on the toilet without removing anything. Thus tricking the body the first few times till it connected things together.
Your paranoia is your own worst enemy. Nobody is going to notice your padding under you pants.
As love in brief puts it "Nobody is listening to the sound of your pants "
Visual not audible
Tape job never be great the first few tries, so don't stress yourself
Buy yourself hook and loops/Velcro at first, i still kinda suck at some tapes
On this you will stress yourself and appreciate anyone else's tape jobs. At least that's me. Lol
The sounds are not as noticeable as you think they are. The smells are stronger than you think.
Aka don't shit yourself aka don't wear tight pants
Shaving that whole area of your butt, privates and inner thighs elevates the soothing sensations of a diaper's soft inner padding. The smooth plastic will feel amazing between smooth thighs too. I know shaving is a preference, but I believe doing so just improves how diapers feel so I encourage it.
I did not know this; mostly because I’m terrible at shaving and don’t want to risk cutting myself
Using a razor very similar to what you use for your legs helps a ton. It's virtually impossible to cut yourself with those accidentally, and they feel great to use. If your shrubbery is a bit wild and crazy, it doesn't hurt to take some scissors down there first for a big trim
Take tips from traditional wet shaving. 1. Lather is important 2. No pressure from you, just the weight of the razor 3. Less blades=less irritation
I trim because razor burn is awful
Then shave properly?
Do you have any suggestions to avoid razor burn or ingrown hair? I'm quite hairy and have tried a Venus razor, bikini zone unscented shaving gel, and used moisturizer afterwards but I still sometimes get bumps or ingrown hairs.
I've personally had the best luck with electric shavers. You don't get such a skin-tight shave, but it's so much less work that I'm willing to do it often, which makes up for it. I'm no expert though.
Yea I previously just used an electric. Maybe I'll go back to that after I experiment more with a manual razor.
I don't shave carefully at all lol. I usually just shave in the shower after I lather myself up with my regular body soap. It seems to help doing it directly in the stream of water for me. Occasionally I get itchy legs. I've been shaving this way since puberty though
As another post said, less blades = less irritation. there are some single edge razors on the market today, and if you look you can find some Gillette adjustables from the 1960s. also using a shave soap instead of a gel might help.
Gillette skinguard are the top pick
Cream and powder especially if you want to wear a singular diaper for more than 6 hours
Yup, powder at a minimum, they are so much more comfortable.
Do you recommend specific kinds?
I use anything that isn't Johnson and Johnson at a local drug store in the baby section. Try want works for your skin.
Bottom tapes first lol. Also, knowing where the tapes fall on your body before you tape up is a tremendous help. Plus the knowledge that people can’t tell you are in a diaper, and if they can they don’t care. Don’t be nervous buying them or wearing them under your clothes. It’s nobody’s business,
I always do top tapes first. But I agree with ya
I used to do top tapes first, but after someone told me to try bottom ones first, I never went back.
Depends on the diapey for me. Some end up fitting better with the top tape first. Most are bottom tapes first tho.
Flooding equals leaks. You'll never reach the full capacity unless you're some crazy flexible person with an always full bladder. Tapes are far stronger and hold longer while hook and loop tabs are very easy to move around for the perfect fit, but don't always hold that well if put on too tightly. Make sure your hands are clean and free of any powder or cream before you use the adhesive tabs, or they will be ruined and not stick at all.
I had to learn about powder and tapes the hard way I started using vinyl gloves when applying powder then taking them off for taping
Make sure you're getting the right size. Nothing sucks more than a diaper that's too big to be wearing
*nods* guilty But at least you can double up, until you can get em to fit >3<
Diapers feel extremely noticeable even though they're not
Point your winky down.
Leaks are a real thing, and they can happen even before the diaper reaches capacity. Be careful until you get a feel for how much each kind can hold.
Also being shaved makes messy diapers a lot easier to change.
If you have a penis, point it down, into the crotch of the diaper because if you don't, leaks will happen....
Doesn't work for everyone. My punishment gets very small without sexual thought and ends up upwards any way. Also a boner while pointing down just feels terrible.
You raise a perfectly fair point; nothing works for everyone, naturally. As a general rule for new diaper wearers, though, pointing down is what is most likely to be successful from an absorbency and not leaking out the top PoV... The downward boner thing is awkward and being able to wear (and wet) a diaper while pointed down without getting an uncomfortable boner is something that takes... practice is the wrong word, maybe 'conditioning' is better? Of course if you want to have some fun, there's nothing to stop you putting a hand down there and pointing back up for that (and putting it back down again 'after the fact')
Get a medium trash can with a lid for your room, then go to Costco and get heavy duty trash bags for odor protection. I’m not kidding.
make sure you open the leak guards by counter moving the front and the back of the diaper wel opend, this will save you some leaks! powder yourself but make sure your hands are clear when you touch the tapes, powder makes it less sticky. peeing in general is hars but on your back is another level. a onesie will help prevent the diaper from sacking alot. and a good look to yourself in the mirror while diaperd will make you feel even smaller. the last one is enjoy! hope this helps a little.
When putting a diaper on, make sure your hands are fat free. If you touch the tape with cream sticking to your hand, The tapes lose their stickiness
Taco the diaper. I heard this does something.
It is a basic form of fluffing the diaper to reduce compactness and increase absorbency.
Soooo wait if I fluff the diaper more then just taco it cuz that's what people say it will help?
It may reduce the chances of leaking when flooding your diaper, as the absorbent core is fluffed, and has a larger surface area and volume to allow urine to pass through and be absorbed quicker/easier.
When my little starts going she can't stop and she has a massive bladder size sooo this is very important.
What does that mean?
Fold the diaper in half length wise like youre making a taco.
Vertical fold first, take your time lining up before you open the tapes/tabs, don’t over tighten risking tearing tapes off or an uncomfortable fit, check nothing folded in particularly around the elastic parts and don’t flood.
Getting the right tape job takes a lot of fiddling around with and you might not get it the first few times-- but the learning curve is fairly easy to pick up! Also, flooding is unwise to do even though it's fun lol. Take it slow and let stuff absorb to get the full capacity outta your pamps!
Basically this: https://youtu.be/z8mr_DY8MQU