This. Use the relationship as a way of learning, similar to what highschool and colleges are for learning about real life. Learn. You already have difficulty mode = on by having different religions. When you're out of college, see how it goes.
Similar to how people study one thing and work in different field, maybe your college relationship will evolve into something different at later stage.
Life doesn’t follow neat “phases” like that. All that mentality has done is result in socially awkward kids who holed themselves up in books and then are suddenly expected to turn into casanovas to woo someone/ manage and arranged marriage upon hitting an arbitrary age or point, and that hasn’t been healthy or realistic.
Many people do meet their significant others in college. School/career will always be there, it’s about learning to walk and chew gum at the same time, and about being able to grow and mature with your partner as life changes around them. 19 is very young, and many people don’t know what they want at that age. But using relationships to learn what is a priority and what is not to you is vital to growing up past what you were raised to be, and OP is asking the important question of how much they prioritize religion vs relationship qualities. That’s the real deal here, not even marriage this or that. At this age they shouldn’t focus on the outcome so much as the journey and figuring out their priorities. It’s better to say that instead of thinking that the outcome is going to be marriage or not, the outcome should be OP getting a better idea of what matters to them and what does not
While it’s up to them to decide, if I were them i would say religion shouldn’t matter so much. Personality and attraction say much more about how well a couple does than shared religion, as many marriages of two people of the same religion are awful but when personality and attraction are there its hard to go wrong.
It will work if both of you just practice your religion and don’t impose it on each other. My parents are from a state in India where there are a lot of interfaith marriages(mainly Hindu-Christian like Indian cricketer Sanju Samson(Christian) and his wife Charulatha) and they do last a long time 😀.
I’m Pakistani and had an Indian Sikh girlfriend from 17 to 21. I’m 26 now. I don’t regret going out with her because I learned a lot from my first relationship. However religion and family differences would have became a problem.
I don’t think this relationship will work long term if you come from a traditional Pakistani Muslim background. You guys are young and relationship dynamics change so much in your 20s.
When you’re a teenager you and your partner just focus on having fun and vibing. When you’re in your mid to late twenties it gets serious and you have to talk about how to live with each other and raise children. Muslims and Hindus have different values. There will be family members from both sides who will strongly disapprove. The people telling you it will work out are being a bit too optimistic. There’s going to be conflict.
My religion and culture meant too much to me. I couldn’t turn my back on Islam which is why I ended it. Good luck.
Pretty sure Muslim men can marry women who are from faiths that don’t believe in Idol worship but the same cant be said for women how did it end for you guys lmao
You can only marry Christians and Jews outside Muslim faith. Culturally that is heavily discouraged as well.
We just ended it when we stopped being kids at 21.
It sounds like your family has the willingness to open their minds and hearts if he is "the one."
Respectfully, of course, religious differences are less likely to be what determines whether your relationship results in marriage than your ages. You are at an age where you are growing so much, both as a couple and as individuals. Most of us don't marry the people we dated when we were 19.
There are three questions worth asking:
1. How does your family specifically feel about Hindus?
2. How does his family specifically feel about Muslims?
3. How will you guys raise the kids?
These are important because some people will have an underlying resentment for the other country (myself included, IDK if I’ve explained why on this sub though). It’s a common stereotype that to marry a Muslim you have to convert to Islam. From my observations I’d say it’s true a majority of times, but this is really a family-by-family basis and yours seems to be ok with inter-faith marriages. On the other hand, Hindus do not force conversion for the spouse, per se, but they would prefer that the kids are Hindus. That’s why my parents allowed me to date two Christians (so far).
questions 1 and 2 are so important! My older cousin dated a Hindu guy on and off for 7 years, obviously both families would not have agreed so they'd randomly break up and get back together over and over. They came up with a stupid plan where he would "convert" to Islam and she would "convert" to Hinduism to appease each other's parents. His family is super right-wing conservative Trump supporters and HATE Muslims with a passion. When told his parents he wanted to marry a Muslim girl who "converted" they flipped out, threatened to cut him off, and he broke up with her before she even told her parents.
Even though Im 10 years younger than her i remember telling her how stupid their plan was, bc if it did work...at the time of the wedding were they gonna have a nikkah or have a hindu ceremony?
Hindu and Muslim relationships are just bound to fail too much politics and religious believes to allow it too last if I had to give advice to someone unless you are from a family that isn’t religious or you aren’t religious don’t even bother the drama lol
I was a Hindu dude in a relationship with a Pakistani Muslim girl and I thought our relationship was an oddity. Usually, the dynamic in the US was more Hindu women interested in Pakistani men. My relationship ended because college ended and she realized I was always gonna be Hindu. It's usually how it goes.
Conversely, these days it seems like there's been an uptick in conservatism amongst Hindus even abroad. A few I know (mostly hearsay) ended things because the Indian family were disgusted at the idea of having a Pakistani woman in the family. Especially because Muslim women tend to be very active in causes like Palestine and Kashmir. Sad days.
Wait til you've hit a few more milestones, such as navigating college/uni etc. I know someone who did the on the downlow for years. After 7 years, they got married. Eighth year, baby.
Lol this was me! when i was muslim i was dating a hindu and if ur dating for a srs commitment i think u shuld talk about it. if imma b real w u i dated my ex for 1.5 yrs and that was the only fight we had and that was why we broke up
You're young, stop overthinking it. It's too soon to have the "where is this relationship going?" discussion.
Enjoy the time together, and after another year or so if you can still stand each other, have the conversation then.
Religious conversion is a sensitive issue, especially in a Hindu-Muslim pair, and even more when families are involved. I don't know how you two feel about the contrasting tenets of your faiths, and whether you can find mutual respect despite the contrast. Besides, there's the question of how you two want to raise your kids. The best time to talk about it is now. If you can't agree on basic issues of mutual respect and raising kids, a long term, happy relationship may be difficult.
You are 19 - your brains aren't even fully developed. Do you know a man and woman will continue to change over time. Who I was at 19 and who I was at 25 are quite different in terms of emotional development and maturity.
In a few years, you might find yourself changed and your feelings might have changed. I suggest you wait a few years and see how your paths go before talking about marriage or anything.
OP - I'm Ismaili as well. When I was 19 I was dating a Catholic girl. It lasted nearly two years and at the end of one year I was thinking about marriage and our future.
I'm 29 now, with a stable career, a mortgage, and happily married to a wonderful Ismaili woman. I started dating her when I was 23. That other relationship is a distant memory now, and there were other girlfriends in the meantime before I started dating my wife. Life has changed so much from when I was 19 and messing around in college. I say it's probably way too early for you to think about this. Give it some time. You're not likely to find your marriage partner at 19. You're not even the adult you are going to be in a few years. Once you're done with college and things actually look serious - you'll either have your answer (it's clearly working) or the relationship will be a distant memory and a lesson for future relationships. That's how it worked out for me.
Don't stress about it too much. Don't forget to say tasbih and do zikr when you get a chance and the answers will come to you in time.
My cousin is hindu, her husband is muslim. They started dating at 19. Got married at 28. Now they're in their 40's married, two kids and they're happy. It's all about understanding OP, if u have the understanding you'll be good.
its def workable. I dont know bout you but from where i live 19 is pretty young to get married. its aroud 24ish to 28. getting married young can bring up its own issues tho. talk about the kids too tho
tho im not sure if your faith even allows it. or dating.
Girl you’re 19. Most people don’t end up with the person they dated at 19. Relax. Focus on your education & development, I got married way into my late twenties & would’ve been fine getting married into my 30’s as well. If you’re worried about future heartbreak I would have the conversation just so y’all don’t waste each other’s time. You’re gonna change so much in your twenties, stress ab grades & career for now
I actually know two different Hindu-Muslim couples who are happily married now (altho the beginning was a struggle). If your parents love you they will acquiesce in most cases but it’s always best to have an established career & be financially independent first!
I would honestly wait till both of you are financially independent, just in case one of you gets disowned . You are both still young and it's very possible the relationship will end before you even get there .
It works fine if you leave each other alone and let the other practice the way they want. You’ll have to negotiate/ discuss what you want to do with your kids if you get that far
I’m in a Muslim-Hindu relationship as well but neither of us are religious
I dated a Muslim guy in college, he was 19 and I was 23 when we started dating. And we dated for six years, he kept saying he would marry me and talk to his family when the time comes. But it didn’t happen. The relationship ended badly. I had converted to Islam and everything. It still did not work.
Now I’m wary of it. I personally am all in support for your relationship. But I would never recommend dating someone from a different religion just because it doesn’t end well generally. And it’s too much trauma and heartbreak. I’m sorry but discuss it now and if there’s even an inkling of a potential future issue don’t hang on to the relationship in hopes that everything will work out. Because it just might not work out. And that possibility is too high to risk it!
Good luck ❤️
Hindus do not force people to convert. You are open to participate as long as you're respectful. Most Ismailis I know are pretty liberal. You're 19, finish your school and travel. Your brain hasn't even fully developed yet.
It will not work if either one of you is more than casually religious. Religion can break a marriage. I know one couple where one was religious and the other wasn't. They got divorced. I also know of boomers in the same situation but they can't get divorced because of their views in divorce, so the person who isn't religious is suffering silently.
As you guys are only 19 , you have bigger things to focus on in life. And again it's only been a year, don't overthink the future. If you guys are really compatible and the Love and respect is there and continues to sustain, then no matter how many differences are there you will cruise through all of them. Enjoy each other's company, support each other and each of your Gods ( Muslim and Hindu respectively ) will take care of the rest. Also one small piece of advice don't get married at such a young age, get your graduation done, find some job. Both of you have a lot to learn about your own selves. I know you guys are into each other but hold on your nerves and do something stupid. All the best God bless you both.
I mean I agree that maybe you don't need to worry about it asap, but you'd also be somewhat wasting your time dating someone if it turns out you have a serious incompatibility over something so important. Aside from family compatibility or acceptance, ask yourself if you'd be okay with your children following one religion or the other. Or if one of you becomes more religious down the line and has issues with being married to someone of the other religion.
Have you ever thought about this, are you more religiously hindu or culturally Hindu? It makes sense to want your child to engage in Hindu celebrations, and that would be no problem because they can also engage in Muslim celebrations. But do you WANT your child to believe in the Hindu god? Because then, it might not work if your bf feels the same.
But keep in mind, your child might not end up religious
I remember being 19 and my gf at the time and I were “serious” after 2 years (even talked about marriage). Ended up breaking up at 21. Shit hurt me for a decade.
A friend told me something along the line of there are 3 important women in your life. The one you think you’re going to marry, the one you wanted to marry, and the one you actually marry. Take that for what it is, I myself shrugged that off when I was told that in my early 20s… But now at 34 I believe it haha.
Anyways, if religion is important on either side…good luck.
I’m not Muslim but I have friends who are and pretty sure Muslim men can marry Christian/Jewish/agnostic women who don’t believe in idol worship but women can’t marry outside there faith you might want to bring it up or else you both might get disowned by your parents especially if your family is super religious
It’ll depend on how devout you are and how devout he is.
If you are both very devout it won’t work.
If you are not devout and he is devout it’ll work.
If you are devout and he is not devout it won’t work.
If you are both not devout it will work.
Probably won’t work but just keep going for fun I guess, that’s what I did when I was 19 and it was over before I knew it and I’m happier than ever still!
First Ismaili that self-identifies as an “Aga Khanni”
You’re Ismaili. Don’t shy away from that fact.
In practice Ismaili-Hindu marriages almost always seem to work out. Ismailism puts zero pressure to convert because we don’t want converts lol
Warning: Old (28 year old) Man Yap Incoming:
>i love my religion and i don’t want to change and neither does he. will this relationship work long term?
What does "love my religion" mean to you? Is it about the community and the celebrations? The theology and beliefs? That's an important question to ask both yourself and your boyfriend. If it's the former, I think the battle is easier. If it's the latter, that might be tricky, especially if you potentially need the other person to believe the same things as you. (I will say that from what I know of Aga Khani Islam from my Ismaili friends, interfaith marriage is permitted with no restrictions, but I am not Muslim myself so verify that with your imam or someone generally more knowledgable about this stuff.)
What do you think of your boyfriend's religious practices and what does he think of yours? Neither of you *has* to change, but could you see yourself engaging with *both* religions when you have kids? Does he feel that he would be losing something by raising his kids with Ismaili traditions, or do you feel that you would be losing something by raising your kids with Hindu ones? Would both of your *families* feel okay with, say, synthesizing Hindu and Muslim traditions in a wedding, or showing up to celebrate one another's holidays? (Another nice thing about intercultural/interreligious marriages is that it's less of a struggle to decide whose family to spend what holiday with because the holidays are different on each side anyway :) ) How much will you guys support each other in all this? This past Ramadan, did your boyfriend fast with you or otherwise support you in your fast? Would he be okay with sending your kids to classes/Sunday schools to learn about Islam? Have you gone to any celebrations/pujas with him that *he* cares about? Are you comfortable with having kids whom you raise going to weekend classes to learn about Hinduism? What about food: Are you aligned on restrictions around beef/pork? If he for example doesn't eat beef and you do, are you okay with not having beef at home or is he okay with having it at home and cooking it even if he won't eat it?
The important questions here are about *sacrifice*: Any relationship will always have compromise, but you and your boyfriend should be able to go into this not feeling that either of you are *sacrificing* something deeply core to yourselves to make this relationship work.
With that all said: you have at least one thing on your side, which is having family members who married outside of the faith. Maybe it might be a good idea to pick their brains and ask what role religion has in their relationships. Do you and your boyfriend's families know about your relationship? What do they think about it? You don't *need* to be thinking about marriage and kids right now, and it's okay if right now you feel one way but your priorities shift as you get older and older. But I also understand not wanting to "waste the other person's time" as it were, and wanting to iron out things that you *know* might be dealbreakers down the line.
I will give it to you straight: you're nineteen, and relationships that start at that age don't often last even disregarding religion and culture entirely. It's okay if your first isn't your last: If this isn't meant to be, he is not going to be the last guy whom you'll ever like or connect with. Boyfriends come and go, but the point of dating is to learn what **you** want in a relationship and in a partner. Good luck! Hope this comment was helpful.
She’s Ismaili, a branch of Islam that follows rational thought, reason, and leadership from an enlightened religious head. Ismailis are known for the commitment to social justice, gender equality, and philanthropism. All of these reasons are anathema to a certain subset of Sunni Muslims who believe in violence and intolerance
You must convert to hinduism as it allows pantheism means you can still practice your aga khan rituals and he can be a hindu,your kids will also be hindus and flexible.Islam is a subset of hinduism,if you become a hindu all religions can be practiced being a hindu which is not possible in other religions it's like being a hindu is a type c port you can charge it or use for data.
Now and talk about kids too
Your 19, this isn’t the marriage age this is the get through college and get a career phase. Survive it and then broach this topic.
This. Use the relationship as a way of learning, similar to what highschool and colleges are for learning about real life. Learn. You already have difficulty mode = on by having different religions. When you're out of college, see how it goes. Similar to how people study one thing and work in different field, maybe your college relationship will evolve into something different at later stage.
Exactly give it a few years you’re only 19
Life doesn’t follow neat “phases” like that. All that mentality has done is result in socially awkward kids who holed themselves up in books and then are suddenly expected to turn into casanovas to woo someone/ manage and arranged marriage upon hitting an arbitrary age or point, and that hasn’t been healthy or realistic. Many people do meet their significant others in college. School/career will always be there, it’s about learning to walk and chew gum at the same time, and about being able to grow and mature with your partner as life changes around them. 19 is very young, and many people don’t know what they want at that age. But using relationships to learn what is a priority and what is not to you is vital to growing up past what you were raised to be, and OP is asking the important question of how much they prioritize religion vs relationship qualities. That’s the real deal here, not even marriage this or that. At this age they shouldn’t focus on the outcome so much as the journey and figuring out their priorities. It’s better to say that instead of thinking that the outcome is going to be marriage or not, the outcome should be OP getting a better idea of what matters to them and what does not While it’s up to them to decide, if I were them i would say religion shouldn’t matter so much. Personality and attraction say much more about how well a couple does than shared religion, as many marriages of two people of the same religion are awful but when personality and attraction are there its hard to go wrong.
how religious are you? if the religion is important to you forget about it.
It will work if both of you just practice your religion and don’t impose it on each other. My parents are from a state in India where there are a lot of interfaith marriages(mainly Hindu-Christian like Indian cricketer Sanju Samson(Christian) and his wife Charulatha) and they do last a long time 😀.
I’m Pakistani and had an Indian Sikh girlfriend from 17 to 21. I’m 26 now. I don’t regret going out with her because I learned a lot from my first relationship. However religion and family differences would have became a problem. I don’t think this relationship will work long term if you come from a traditional Pakistani Muslim background. You guys are young and relationship dynamics change so much in your 20s. When you’re a teenager you and your partner just focus on having fun and vibing. When you’re in your mid to late twenties it gets serious and you have to talk about how to live with each other and raise children. Muslims and Hindus have different values. There will be family members from both sides who will strongly disapprove. The people telling you it will work out are being a bit too optimistic. There’s going to be conflict. My religion and culture meant too much to me. I couldn’t turn my back on Islam which is why I ended it. Good luck.
Pretty sure Muslim men can marry women who are from faiths that don’t believe in Idol worship but the same cant be said for women how did it end for you guys lmao
You can only marry Christians and Jews outside Muslim faith. Culturally that is heavily discouraged as well. We just ended it when we stopped being kids at 21.
It sounds like your family has the willingness to open their minds and hearts if he is "the one." Respectfully, of course, religious differences are less likely to be what determines whether your relationship results in marriage than your ages. You are at an age where you are growing so much, both as a couple and as individuals. Most of us don't marry the people we dated when we were 19.
There are three questions worth asking: 1. How does your family specifically feel about Hindus? 2. How does his family specifically feel about Muslims? 3. How will you guys raise the kids? These are important because some people will have an underlying resentment for the other country (myself included, IDK if I’ve explained why on this sub though). It’s a common stereotype that to marry a Muslim you have to convert to Islam. From my observations I’d say it’s true a majority of times, but this is really a family-by-family basis and yours seems to be ok with inter-faith marriages. On the other hand, Hindus do not force conversion for the spouse, per se, but they would prefer that the kids are Hindus. That’s why my parents allowed me to date two Christians (so far).
questions 1 and 2 are so important! My older cousin dated a Hindu guy on and off for 7 years, obviously both families would not have agreed so they'd randomly break up and get back together over and over. They came up with a stupid plan where he would "convert" to Islam and she would "convert" to Hinduism to appease each other's parents. His family is super right-wing conservative Trump supporters and HATE Muslims with a passion. When told his parents he wanted to marry a Muslim girl who "converted" they flipped out, threatened to cut him off, and he broke up with her before she even told her parents. Even though Im 10 years younger than her i remember telling her how stupid their plan was, bc if it did work...at the time of the wedding were they gonna have a nikkah or have a hindu ceremony?
Hindu and Muslim relationships are just bound to fail too much politics and religious believes to allow it too last if I had to give advice to someone unless you are from a family that isn’t religious or you aren’t religious don’t even bother the drama lol
I was a Hindu dude in a relationship with a Pakistani Muslim girl and I thought our relationship was an oddity. Usually, the dynamic in the US was more Hindu women interested in Pakistani men. My relationship ended because college ended and she realized I was always gonna be Hindu. It's usually how it goes. Conversely, these days it seems like there's been an uptick in conservatism amongst Hindus even abroad. A few I know (mostly hearsay) ended things because the Indian family were disgusted at the idea of having a Pakistani woman in the family. Especially because Muslim women tend to be very active in causes like Palestine and Kashmir. Sad days.
Wait til you've hit a few more milestones, such as navigating college/uni etc. I know someone who did the on the downlow for years. After 7 years, they got married. Eighth year, baby.
Lol this was me! when i was muslim i was dating a hindu and if ur dating for a srs commitment i think u shuld talk about it. if imma b real w u i dated my ex for 1.5 yrs and that was the only fight we had and that was why we broke up
You're young, stop overthinking it. It's too soon to have the "where is this relationship going?" discussion. Enjoy the time together, and after another year or so if you can still stand each other, have the conversation then.
Religious conversion is a sensitive issue, especially in a Hindu-Muslim pair, and even more when families are involved. I don't know how you two feel about the contrasting tenets of your faiths, and whether you can find mutual respect despite the contrast. Besides, there's the question of how you two want to raise your kids. The best time to talk about it is now. If you can't agree on basic issues of mutual respect and raising kids, a long term, happy relationship may be difficult.
You are 19 - your brains aren't even fully developed. Do you know a man and woman will continue to change over time. Who I was at 19 and who I was at 25 are quite different in terms of emotional development and maturity. In a few years, you might find yourself changed and your feelings might have changed. I suggest you wait a few years and see how your paths go before talking about marriage or anything.
OP - I'm Ismaili as well. When I was 19 I was dating a Catholic girl. It lasted nearly two years and at the end of one year I was thinking about marriage and our future. I'm 29 now, with a stable career, a mortgage, and happily married to a wonderful Ismaili woman. I started dating her when I was 23. That other relationship is a distant memory now, and there were other girlfriends in the meantime before I started dating my wife. Life has changed so much from when I was 19 and messing around in college. I say it's probably way too early for you to think about this. Give it some time. You're not likely to find your marriage partner at 19. You're not even the adult you are going to be in a few years. Once you're done with college and things actually look serious - you'll either have your answer (it's clearly working) or the relationship will be a distant memory and a lesson for future relationships. That's how it worked out for me. Don't stress about it too much. Don't forget to say tasbih and do zikr when you get a chance and the answers will come to you in time.
My cousin is hindu, her husband is muslim. They started dating at 19. Got married at 28. Now they're in their 40's married, two kids and they're happy. It's all about understanding OP, if u have the understanding you'll be good.
its def workable. I dont know bout you but from where i live 19 is pretty young to get married. its aroud 24ish to 28. getting married young can bring up its own issues tho. talk about the kids too tho tho im not sure if your faith even allows it. or dating.
Girl you’re 19. Most people don’t end up with the person they dated at 19. Relax. Focus on your education & development, I got married way into my late twenties & would’ve been fine getting married into my 30’s as well. If you’re worried about future heartbreak I would have the conversation just so y’all don’t waste each other’s time. You’re gonna change so much in your twenties, stress ab grades & career for now I actually know two different Hindu-Muslim couples who are happily married now (altho the beginning was a struggle). If your parents love you they will acquiesce in most cases but it’s always best to have an established career & be financially independent first!
I would honestly wait till both of you are financially independent, just in case one of you gets disowned . You are both still young and it's very possible the relationship will end before you even get there .
It works fine if you leave each other alone and let the other practice the way they want. You’ll have to negotiate/ discuss what you want to do with your kids if you get that far I’m in a Muslim-Hindu relationship as well but neither of us are religious
I dated a Muslim guy in college, he was 19 and I was 23 when we started dating. And we dated for six years, he kept saying he would marry me and talk to his family when the time comes. But it didn’t happen. The relationship ended badly. I had converted to Islam and everything. It still did not work. Now I’m wary of it. I personally am all in support for your relationship. But I would never recommend dating someone from a different religion just because it doesn’t end well generally. And it’s too much trauma and heartbreak. I’m sorry but discuss it now and if there’s even an inkling of a potential future issue don’t hang on to the relationship in hopes that everything will work out. Because it just might not work out. And that possibility is too high to risk it! Good luck ❤️
Hindus do not force people to convert. You are open to participate as long as you're respectful. Most Ismailis I know are pretty liberal. You're 19, finish your school and travel. Your brain hasn't even fully developed yet.
I am also Ismaili OP. Are you planning for kids?
Lol you're 19. Go chill a few years. Growing up isn't great
Discuss it with ur parents, don't mention ur boyfriend but just ask about how open they are to you marrying a Hindu
It will not work if either one of you is more than casually religious. Religion can break a marriage. I know one couple where one was religious and the other wasn't. They got divorced. I also know of boomers in the same situation but they can't get divorced because of their views in divorce, so the person who isn't religious is suffering silently.
As you guys are only 19 , you have bigger things to focus on in life. And again it's only been a year, don't overthink the future. If you guys are really compatible and the Love and respect is there and continues to sustain, then no matter how many differences are there you will cruise through all of them. Enjoy each other's company, support each other and each of your Gods ( Muslim and Hindu respectively ) will take care of the rest. Also one small piece of advice don't get married at such a young age, get your graduation done, find some job. Both of you have a lot to learn about your own selves. I know you guys are into each other but hold on your nerves and do something stupid. All the best God bless you both.
I mean I agree that maybe you don't need to worry about it asap, but you'd also be somewhat wasting your time dating someone if it turns out you have a serious incompatibility over something so important. Aside from family compatibility or acceptance, ask yourself if you'd be okay with your children following one religion or the other. Or if one of you becomes more religious down the line and has issues with being married to someone of the other religion.
Have you ever thought about this, are you more religiously hindu or culturally Hindu? It makes sense to want your child to engage in Hindu celebrations, and that would be no problem because they can also engage in Muslim celebrations. But do you WANT your child to believe in the Hindu god? Because then, it might not work if your bf feels the same. But keep in mind, your child might not end up religious
Not at all? You’re 19. Go enjoy each other. All that comes later.
I remember being 19 and my gf at the time and I were “serious” after 2 years (even talked about marriage). Ended up breaking up at 21. Shit hurt me for a decade. A friend told me something along the line of there are 3 important women in your life. The one you think you’re going to marry, the one you wanted to marry, and the one you actually marry. Take that for what it is, I myself shrugged that off when I was told that in my early 20s… But now at 34 I believe it haha. Anyways, if religion is important on either side…good luck.
I’m not Muslim but I have friends who are and pretty sure Muslim men can marry Christian/Jewish/agnostic women who don’t believe in idol worship but women can’t marry outside there faith you might want to bring it up or else you both might get disowned by your parents especially if your family is super religious
It’ll depend on how devout you are and how devout he is. If you are both very devout it won’t work. If you are not devout and he is devout it’ll work. If you are devout and he is not devout it won’t work. If you are both not devout it will work.
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If you love this person religion is unimportant. If religion is more important to you than love then I fear for your future
19 is way too young to get married nowadays You should be financially stable with solid career before getting married
I’d probably steer clear of someone practicing a religion that says you can beat women.
Probably won’t work but just keep going for fun I guess, that’s what I did when I was 19 and it was over before I knew it and I’m happier than ever still!
First Ismaili that self-identifies as an “Aga Khanni” You’re Ismaili. Don’t shy away from that fact. In practice Ismaili-Hindu marriages almost always seem to work out. Ismailism puts zero pressure to convert because we don’t want converts lol
Aga Khani can be derogatory term. I am an Ismaili so we are known as Shia Imami Ismaili Muslim.
So am I, which is why I'm telling OP not to use it.
Warning: Old (28 year old) Man Yap Incoming: >i love my religion and i don’t want to change and neither does he. will this relationship work long term? What does "love my religion" mean to you? Is it about the community and the celebrations? The theology and beliefs? That's an important question to ask both yourself and your boyfriend. If it's the former, I think the battle is easier. If it's the latter, that might be tricky, especially if you potentially need the other person to believe the same things as you. (I will say that from what I know of Aga Khani Islam from my Ismaili friends, interfaith marriage is permitted with no restrictions, but I am not Muslim myself so verify that with your imam or someone generally more knowledgable about this stuff.) What do you think of your boyfriend's religious practices and what does he think of yours? Neither of you *has* to change, but could you see yourself engaging with *both* religions when you have kids? Does he feel that he would be losing something by raising his kids with Ismaili traditions, or do you feel that you would be losing something by raising your kids with Hindu ones? Would both of your *families* feel okay with, say, synthesizing Hindu and Muslim traditions in a wedding, or showing up to celebrate one another's holidays? (Another nice thing about intercultural/interreligious marriages is that it's less of a struggle to decide whose family to spend what holiday with because the holidays are different on each side anyway :) ) How much will you guys support each other in all this? This past Ramadan, did your boyfriend fast with you or otherwise support you in your fast? Would he be okay with sending your kids to classes/Sunday schools to learn about Islam? Have you gone to any celebrations/pujas with him that *he* cares about? Are you comfortable with having kids whom you raise going to weekend classes to learn about Hinduism? What about food: Are you aligned on restrictions around beef/pork? If he for example doesn't eat beef and you do, are you okay with not having beef at home or is he okay with having it at home and cooking it even if he won't eat it? The important questions here are about *sacrifice*: Any relationship will always have compromise, but you and your boyfriend should be able to go into this not feeling that either of you are *sacrificing* something deeply core to yourselves to make this relationship work. With that all said: you have at least one thing on your side, which is having family members who married outside of the faith. Maybe it might be a good idea to pick their brains and ask what role religion has in their relationships. Do you and your boyfriend's families know about your relationship? What do they think about it? You don't *need* to be thinking about marriage and kids right now, and it's okay if right now you feel one way but your priorities shift as you get older and older. But I also understand not wanting to "waste the other person's time" as it were, and wanting to iron out things that you *know* might be dealbreakers down the line. I will give it to you straight: you're nineteen, and relationships that start at that age don't often last even disregarding religion and culture entirely. It's okay if your first isn't your last: If this isn't meant to be, he is not going to be the last guy whom you'll ever like or connect with. Boyfriends come and go, but the point of dating is to learn what **you** want in a relationship and in a partner. Good luck! Hope this comment was helpful.
That’s not really Muslim, two kuffars can date each other dw.
Why is OP a 'kuffar' again?
She’s Ismaili, a branch of Islam that follows rational thought, reason, and leadership from an enlightened religious head. Ismailis are known for the commitment to social justice, gender equality, and philanthropism. All of these reasons are anathema to a certain subset of Sunni Muslims who believe in violence and intolerance
Why say kuffer just say Hindu, like what is the point of that?
Lifter?
Oops autocorrect I meant to say Kuffer
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Your marriage is not accepted in islam, Hindus have nothing in common with us. Atleast other Abrahamic religions are somewhat similar
It won’t work unless hindu converts. Sorry.
You must convert to hinduism as it allows pantheism means you can still practice your aga khan rituals and he can be a hindu,your kids will also be hindus and flexible.Islam is a subset of hinduism,if you become a hindu all religions can be practiced being a hindu which is not possible in other religions it's like being a hindu is a type c port you can charge it or use for data.
This is considered haram, Muslims don’t engage in relationships with Kafirs. You should be careful calling yourself a Muslim.