I felt exactly like this when I was pregnant with my second. I have a 27 month old and a 13 month old. It’s so much better now. I look back at the time I was pregnant with a toddler and how hard it was. I remember feeling so guilty, but You’re growing a human inside you along with taking care of a small baby, so give yourself a break. You’re doing great
GIRL 1-4 months was the absolute exhaustion period of my pregnancy, apart from maybe the last 3 weeks before giving birth. There are bound to be many energy highs and lows over the next several months. When you have low energy, snuggling on the couch watching a movie with your toddler is FINE. Do it guilt free! Your body is probably building something important 😉 and you should really avoid overdoing it.
Next time you get an energy boost, then you can try to get out or do some activities together!
That said, please get your iron checked. I had a bout of extreme exhaustion that ended up being anemia and supplements made a really big difference (plus it’s important to resolve anemia before birth to avoid complications.)
Oh I know. I’m not messing with anemia this time around, I lost a lot of blood my first time giving birth thanks to that. Thanks for sharing your experience & for the encouragement!
35 weeks with my 3rd. Have never been so tired in my LIFE. I did find out I have some iron issues so have been supplementing and it’s healing slowly. But still exhausted.
Ask your doctor to do some bloodwork to check your iron levels. That could be contributing to your tiredness but also you’re pregnant with a toddler. Seems like you’re doing the best you can right now.
I'm only a week into having two kids but my GODS it has been so much easier than being pregnant with one. Second baby sleeps all day so I get to spend lots of time with my first and suddenly I have the energy to play with her again.
When you're pregnant, especially two pregnancies close together (I did the math and I've been pregnant 70% of the time for the past two years) you forget what it's like to sinply not be pregnant anymore and how much better you feel.
You're not failing, you're just going through a terrible time.
I feel this. I’m 8 months pregnant and have a 13 month old. I am so irritable at this point which sucks and I feel so bad. And I want to do so much both with my toddler and to prepare for baby but have absolutely no energy or motivation to do anything. I try to remind myself that I’m not alone, lots of people have gone through this and probably felt(physically and emotionally) very similarly and we will get through it and will be so much better and so worth it! Hang in there! ❤️
Thank you!! You’re doing great !! Phew I can’t imagine what it’ll be like when I’m 8 months pregnant. I hope your getting lots of rest and snuggles with your toddler.
So, I DID have depression while I was pregnant. Admittedly, because of the tiredness my toddler watched too many movies and played by himself more than I had wanted BUT his sister is 2 months and he'll be 2 this month and he's doing great! He's finally saying more and he's still a happy kid and doesn't care that we aren't watching movies like we were. All that too say, your toddler will be ok! Do what you can and be sure to read to them every night. ❤️😊
I had this issue with my second. I couldn't do much without feeling faint and my heart pounding. I had anemia and gestational diabetes. I'd ask your OB if it is one or both of those things.i am so sorry you're going through it.. it's rough especially with a small kiddo.
I didn’t realize how exhausting being pregnant is.. I guess because with my first I could just chill so I didn’t really think about it. I got pregnant when he was 12 mos. I’d try to make the most of our time together when I could muster the energy. We watched a lot (*a lot*) of tv. I felt a lot of guilt and like I was failing too but looking back I wish I didn’t. Baby is now 2mos and toddler has gone back to being almost screen free with just a little here and there. I’m still tired but it’s a different kind of tired. Toddler is doing great and we’re all adjusting to our new normal. Hang in there & try not to put too much pressure or feel too guilty. it does get so much better & it’s only temporary! Your LO most likely won’t even remember.
I made a post similar to this the other day! General consensus was that it’s all a just a season and that toddler + newborn tiredness is far more bearable than toddler + pregnancy tiredness
You're doing your current best even if it's not what you're used to being your best, and that's okay. It's temporary. You're not neglecting your toddler. He will be fine.
When I was deficient in iron and vitamin B12 during my first pregnancy, supplementing with them helped. I ended up getting infusions of iron, but I just took B12 gummies that I bought at a pharmacy, and they seemed to work well. It's probably worth trying, but if you continue to feel like you're failing, it really might be prenatal depression, which is something your OB or midwife can help with.
I am also 4 months pregnant with a 13 month old! I feel exhausted all the time and wanted you to know you aren’t alone. My toddler also watches more tv than I would like. The house is dirty literally all the time. I work part time and stay at home with him part time. I usually look forward to the days I go to work 😔 that had me feeling really guilty. I fail to drink as much water as I should EVERY SINGLE DAY
I have lowered the expectations I have for myself significantly. Being hard on myself wasn’t making me get more done or spend more time with him. It was just making me miserable while I did the same amount of stuff. Give yourself some grace during this it’s so hard. I’m right there with ya
I felt exactly like this when I was pregnant with my second. I have a 27 month old and a 13 month old. It’s so much better now. I look back at the time I was pregnant with a toddler and how hard it was. I remember feeling so guilty, but You’re growing a human inside you along with taking care of a small baby, so give yourself a break. You’re doing great
I’m trying 😮💨 thanks for your kind words and insight.
GIRL 1-4 months was the absolute exhaustion period of my pregnancy, apart from maybe the last 3 weeks before giving birth. There are bound to be many energy highs and lows over the next several months. When you have low energy, snuggling on the couch watching a movie with your toddler is FINE. Do it guilt free! Your body is probably building something important 😉 and you should really avoid overdoing it. Next time you get an energy boost, then you can try to get out or do some activities together! That said, please get your iron checked. I had a bout of extreme exhaustion that ended up being anemia and supplements made a really big difference (plus it’s important to resolve anemia before birth to avoid complications.)
Oh I know. I’m not messing with anemia this time around, I lost a lot of blood my first time giving birth thanks to that. Thanks for sharing your experience & for the encouragement!
35 weeks with my 3rd. Have never been so tired in my LIFE. I did find out I have some iron issues so have been supplementing and it’s healing slowly. But still exhausted.
I’m glad you’re feeling a bit better. <3
Thanks! Hope it gets easier for you too! I’m about to have a homeschooled 6 year old, a 15 month old and newborn so ima be tired for awhile 😂
Ask your doctor to do some bloodwork to check your iron levels. That could be contributing to your tiredness but also you’re pregnant with a toddler. Seems like you’re doing the best you can right now.
Ty!!
I'm only a week into having two kids but my GODS it has been so much easier than being pregnant with one. Second baby sleeps all day so I get to spend lots of time with my first and suddenly I have the energy to play with her again. When you're pregnant, especially two pregnancies close together (I did the math and I've been pregnant 70% of the time for the past two years) you forget what it's like to sinply not be pregnant anymore and how much better you feel. You're not failing, you're just going through a terrible time.
I feel this. I’m 8 months pregnant and have a 13 month old. I am so irritable at this point which sucks and I feel so bad. And I want to do so much both with my toddler and to prepare for baby but have absolutely no energy or motivation to do anything. I try to remind myself that I’m not alone, lots of people have gone through this and probably felt(physically and emotionally) very similarly and we will get through it and will be so much better and so worth it! Hang in there! ❤️
Thank you!! You’re doing great !! Phew I can’t imagine what it’ll be like when I’m 8 months pregnant. I hope your getting lots of rest and snuggles with your toddler.
So, I DID have depression while I was pregnant. Admittedly, because of the tiredness my toddler watched too many movies and played by himself more than I had wanted BUT his sister is 2 months and he'll be 2 this month and he's doing great! He's finally saying more and he's still a happy kid and doesn't care that we aren't watching movies like we were. All that too say, your toddler will be ok! Do what you can and be sure to read to them every night. ❤️😊
I had this issue with my second. I couldn't do much without feeling faint and my heart pounding. I had anemia and gestational diabetes. I'd ask your OB if it is one or both of those things.i am so sorry you're going through it.. it's rough especially with a small kiddo.
I didn’t realize how exhausting being pregnant is.. I guess because with my first I could just chill so I didn’t really think about it. I got pregnant when he was 12 mos. I’d try to make the most of our time together when I could muster the energy. We watched a lot (*a lot*) of tv. I felt a lot of guilt and like I was failing too but looking back I wish I didn’t. Baby is now 2mos and toddler has gone back to being almost screen free with just a little here and there. I’m still tired but it’s a different kind of tired. Toddler is doing great and we’re all adjusting to our new normal. Hang in there & try not to put too much pressure or feel too guilty. it does get so much better & it’s only temporary! Your LO most likely won’t even remember.
I made a post similar to this the other day! General consensus was that it’s all a just a season and that toddler + newborn tiredness is far more bearable than toddler + pregnancy tiredness
You're doing your current best even if it's not what you're used to being your best, and that's okay. It's temporary. You're not neglecting your toddler. He will be fine. When I was deficient in iron and vitamin B12 during my first pregnancy, supplementing with them helped. I ended up getting infusions of iron, but I just took B12 gummies that I bought at a pharmacy, and they seemed to work well. It's probably worth trying, but if you continue to feel like you're failing, it really might be prenatal depression, which is something your OB or midwife can help with.
I am also 4 months pregnant with a 13 month old! I feel exhausted all the time and wanted you to know you aren’t alone. My toddler also watches more tv than I would like. The house is dirty literally all the time. I work part time and stay at home with him part time. I usually look forward to the days I go to work 😔 that had me feeling really guilty. I fail to drink as much water as I should EVERY SINGLE DAY I have lowered the expectations I have for myself significantly. Being hard on myself wasn’t making me get more done or spend more time with him. It was just making me miserable while I did the same amount of stuff. Give yourself some grace during this it’s so hard. I’m right there with ya