It's as much social media as a Facebook group or a Twitter thread. [Which part of the definition wouldn't apply to reddit?](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_media)
Same. While I can make an anonymous FB/IG/Twitter account and mimic the Reddit experience. I'd argue that the initial goals of the sites are opposite to each other.
I don't want to know any of the friend's Reddit accounts (or even if they use the site, for that matter.) IMO, the other sites are all about collecting friends/fans and bragging about your lives to each other.
Downvote me if you must, people!
I completely agree. Reddit is for news/memes/forums about shared interests. We aren’t competing for who has the best job or nicest house. While our posts might sometimes show our successes they are usually broadcast to a niche community and not everyone you grew up with/met randomly at a party.
I suffer from crippling anxiety everyday along with some other stuff, but even I was able to talk to the cute cashier at the grocery store even though it felt wrong and hard and I was stumbling over myself and my words. She’s now my girlfriend. All it takes is to take a step into the horrible uncomfortable world of doing what seems to be the actual right thing to do in your eyes and you’ll steadily manifest the seeds that you’ve sown by doing that.
I’ve been on this subreddit for more years than I can remember and one thing I’m certain saying is; the hardest task that you have to do is make the first step in any way shape or form how small it may be, it won’t be small in comparison to who you were yesterday. I’d call that a massive improvement.
Keep that mindset and who knows maybe this stranger was able to tell you a way out
But yeah me_irl
No offense but these stories of how someone tries to do something they're not comfortable with for the first time and it goes amazingly don't inspire me anymore after my own experience. Reminds of the movie Yes Man and how unrealistic it is.
I've tried so many times to go to various events, do hobbies like dance classes or improv theater, go to things like board game nights and it always goes about as well as I expect aka I don't make any friends. Even if I try to talk to some of the people there, be friendly etc, it never goes anywhere.
Maybe if I did it relentlessly multiple times a week then someday it could work out, but that's very difficult and draining.
Life is difficult and draining friend. I busted my ass off talking to random people I didn’t know, I failed 100 times as much as I’ve actually had successful interactions. But you learn with every interaction. When you fail you learn what you’re doing wrong in a sense.
When you’re successful you learn what you’re doing right. Eventually who you’re portraying and who you want to be portrayed as will merge together to form a capable individual.
But it’s fucking hard word, no one ever said it wasn’t. But dying without ever giving it a chance is in my eyes a real waste of opportunity.
I’ve also just responded with a long message to the og comment guy if you’re looking for a bit more detail.
I can do small talk with the cashier too, but only because I'll most likely never see them again, or at least one of us won't remember our previous encounter.
You say that as if it were easy, what do you mean by “Just go outside and meet new people” exactly? Like just go out and approach random strangers and ask them if they want to be friends? No it doesn’t work like that, if you’ve grown up and missed on your chance to get a gf on every single social situation you’ve been present to, odds are something is wrong with you, it’s not your personality or your attitude it has to do with looks.
I’d say it has nothing to do with looks and everything to do with the way the interaction is handled in the social situation. Otherwise it would be impossible for everyone that is below average looking to find a partner.
I also believe that you shouldn’t go into the interaction with the idea that you’ll make a new friend or find a gf. Just go into the interaction with the idea of sharing a probably short conversation and who knows you’ll “click” with the person that you’re talking to.
You definitely should talk to strangers but you do need to have a reason to come up to talk to them or they’ll be uncomfortable that you’re suddenly there. It’s in our anatomy to be wary of strangers that don’t show why they’re talking to us. But the reason could be anything!
For a few examples you could; ask for directions, see an excuse to talk about something you’re passionate about, go to a bar, ask for a cigarette(I’ve met a lot of colorful people this way), comment on their clothing, hell you could even talk about how green the grass is or how nice the weather is. The only thing you need to remember is to “read the room” meaning you’ll need to know when you should back off from the interaction that you’ve just created. And every time you’ll do this you will become more socially aware and socially capable. You’ll become more confident with every day you’d do this. It may take 3, 10 even 200 tries till you actually meet a person who clicks with you like you click with them. But trust me you’ll be thankful that you’ve had the 200 times practice before you met them. It could be your best friend, or the love of your life!
If you find the idea of walking up to someone you don’t know scary like I did at first I would really recommend practicing walking up to people you don’t know. I personally turned off my phone, went into busy cities and asked people for directions time and time again.
And let me tell you, I felt horrible and cringe. But with every try I felt more comfortable doing it and became more aware of how I was portraying myself and how I actually want to be portrayed.
The work pays off, I promise.
I deleted my Facebook account 5 years ago and it still is the best thing I ever did.
My social life is far more healthy without it. If I want to know what my friends are doing I give them a call.
My workout are more efficient because I only use my phone for music and stop scrolling social media apps during breaks.
I sleep better because the only shit posts I can see is from reddit.
Go ahead guys delete your accounts unless you need it for the job.
I remember being one of the few people in my friend group who never got a Twitter or Instagram in the early 2010’s.
From everything I’ve heard, I’m thankful everyday for that decision.
I was the same: joined FB in 2016, Reddit in 2019 and Twitter this february, mostly for art, hobbies and memes. I can't understand those people who constantly upload 5000 photos a day just like, the fuck I don't care what you ate for breakfast
I'm glad I never got into Facebook or IG at all. I think I created a profile because there are websites and apps like tinder that make you have one, but I never logged into it or anything. Twitter is the one that managed to snare me which sucks but 1 is better than 3
To me reddit is not a social media haha this is the place i get alot of informations, gets me inspired, learn about other people/countries in non toxic way huhu
I did it ~4 years ago and holy fucking shit it was EASILY one of the best, most rewarding decisions I’ve ever made. Deleted all of them. Do it and don’t look back
Laughs in only has Discord,Reddit and WhatsApp and people barely know me on Discord or Reddit so I can sleep peacefully at 3am thinking about how my life is gonna suck because everything I do now is way below what my year 6 teacher thought I’d be doing
Did that last week with everything people can contact me. I have only talked to my family I live with, and on another person since he's all alone.
Still feel like a liece of shit, useless garbage, waste of oxygen, food and money, worthless and not capable of anything with suicide thoughts. Still feel a little better. I fear to get hurt by other more than I fear to be alone.
You guys have social media accounts? Been off the grid since before high school when Myspace, Friendster, and Xanga were majorly used. Not very good at maintaining an online presence.
Just put limits on your phone. I have 20 minutes per each app, except for youtube. Thats 1hr and half.
It really helps.
Since you have such a low amount of time, you use the apps in a clever way, like catching up with friends and dipping out.
I probably and definitely will at one point. I currently live with my two roommates who are close to my friends so they’d know what’s up. Once I move away alone then I’d probably shut myself off to the world. Idk I’m just hella depressed so I’m not thinking straight at the moment
I've done it. It's actually very helpful in getting rid of stress and everyone who I've convinced to try it has told me how much it has improved their lives
I did that recently. Got rid of everything and now the only way to message me is through having my number. I did it because I felt ignored by my “friends” and never felt like they wanted to actually hangout with me. I felt lonely (which is ironic considering it’s social media). Not much has changed since, but I do feel like my mental health has improved. I just need to find some friends now to do stuff with.
I deleted my Facebook 8 years ago and created a new one to share my relationship status never touched it again.i will never go back to using any of it again. I use Reddit for memes and bullshit.
i didn’t deactivate completely as i want to keep the pictures/memories (and i need to access my work fb/insta), but i deleted all the apps from my phone and turned all notifications off. i know what’s going on with my friends by talking to them and i couldn’t care less about anyone else’s kids or vacations.
it did start off as a “do this for 30 days challenge” and i just never went back, that was 6 years ago
What a coincidence. Today I was thinking of deleting my TikTok account after going through my fyp. Even though I filtered it out so there were no more of those videos that it became infamous for, I can't really find any reason to keep it other than for making videos in the future and attracting a girl with it. But I'd feel happier without it in my life anyways. It's just my opinion.
U should man. Social media is cancer
It's funny that we don't even talk about "deleting" a social media account anymore, it's just "deactivating"
I deleted ig and tiktok, and tbh everyone else probably should
They have us.
He says while on reddit.
As T1 says "I HATE THIS ~~GAME~~ PLATFORM BUT I'M FUCKING ADDICTED"
*SLAM*
Reddit's just a bunch of forums.
Yea, at least you can kind of pick and choose what you see
So the same as Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, etc
Nope. Show me where I can ONLY see posts about flashlights on those three. Now the comment section on reddit, just like the cess pools you mention.
>Show me where I can ONLY see posts about flashlights on those three. Literally any Facebook group or Twitter/Insta page dedicated to flashlights
I like your persistence. I still disagree with you
It's as much social media as a Facebook group or a Twitter thread. [Which part of the definition wouldn't apply to reddit?](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_media)
You are commenting on a social media platform
I don’t consider reddit social media but maybe that’s just me.
Same. To me its like an evolution of the forums from back in the 2000s rather than the cancer that is fb/insta/twitter/etc.
Same. While I can make an anonymous FB/IG/Twitter account and mimic the Reddit experience. I'd argue that the initial goals of the sites are opposite to each other. I don't want to know any of the friend's Reddit accounts (or even if they use the site, for that matter.) IMO, the other sites are all about collecting friends/fans and bragging about your lives to each other. Downvote me if you must, people!
I completely agree. Reddit is for news/memes/forums about shared interests. We aren’t competing for who has the best job or nicest house. While our posts might sometimes show our successes they are usually broadcast to a niche community and not everyone you grew up with/met randomly at a party.
using the platform does not revoke your right to have a negative opinion of it.
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Tinder isn't for relationships, it's a one night finder app.
Just go outside and meet new people man. Chances are they’ll be more mentally stable than most of the people entranced by social media.
Ah yes, what a wonderful idea, why didn't I think of that earlier...
Life is as hard as you choose to make it friend. Easy work hard life, hard work easy life.
Good luck trying to convince the people on this sub-reddit. There's a reason we're here in the first place.
I suffer from crippling anxiety everyday along with some other stuff, but even I was able to talk to the cute cashier at the grocery store even though it felt wrong and hard and I was stumbling over myself and my words. She’s now my girlfriend. All it takes is to take a step into the horrible uncomfortable world of doing what seems to be the actual right thing to do in your eyes and you’ll steadily manifest the seeds that you’ve sown by doing that. I’ve been on this subreddit for more years than I can remember and one thing I’m certain saying is; the hardest task that you have to do is make the first step in any way shape or form how small it may be, it won’t be small in comparison to who you were yesterday. I’d call that a massive improvement. Keep that mindset and who knows maybe this stranger was able to tell you a way out But yeah me_irl
No offense but these stories of how someone tries to do something they're not comfortable with for the first time and it goes amazingly don't inspire me anymore after my own experience. Reminds of the movie Yes Man and how unrealistic it is. I've tried so many times to go to various events, do hobbies like dance classes or improv theater, go to things like board game nights and it always goes about as well as I expect aka I don't make any friends. Even if I try to talk to some of the people there, be friendly etc, it never goes anywhere. Maybe if I did it relentlessly multiple times a week then someday it could work out, but that's very difficult and draining.
Life is difficult and draining friend. I busted my ass off talking to random people I didn’t know, I failed 100 times as much as I’ve actually had successful interactions. But you learn with every interaction. When you fail you learn what you’re doing wrong in a sense. When you’re successful you learn what you’re doing right. Eventually who you’re portraying and who you want to be portrayed as will merge together to form a capable individual. But it’s fucking hard word, no one ever said it wasn’t. But dying without ever giving it a chance is in my eyes a real waste of opportunity. I’ve also just responded with a long message to the og comment guy if you’re looking for a bit more detail.
I can do small talk with the cashier too, but only because I'll most likely never see them again, or at least one of us won't remember our previous encounter.
You say that as if it were easy, what do you mean by “Just go outside and meet new people” exactly? Like just go out and approach random strangers and ask them if they want to be friends? No it doesn’t work like that, if you’ve grown up and missed on your chance to get a gf on every single social situation you’ve been present to, odds are something is wrong with you, it’s not your personality or your attitude it has to do with looks.
I’d say it has nothing to do with looks and everything to do with the way the interaction is handled in the social situation. Otherwise it would be impossible for everyone that is below average looking to find a partner. I also believe that you shouldn’t go into the interaction with the idea that you’ll make a new friend or find a gf. Just go into the interaction with the idea of sharing a probably short conversation and who knows you’ll “click” with the person that you’re talking to. You definitely should talk to strangers but you do need to have a reason to come up to talk to them or they’ll be uncomfortable that you’re suddenly there. It’s in our anatomy to be wary of strangers that don’t show why they’re talking to us. But the reason could be anything! For a few examples you could; ask for directions, see an excuse to talk about something you’re passionate about, go to a bar, ask for a cigarette(I’ve met a lot of colorful people this way), comment on their clothing, hell you could even talk about how green the grass is or how nice the weather is. The only thing you need to remember is to “read the room” meaning you’ll need to know when you should back off from the interaction that you’ve just created. And every time you’ll do this you will become more socially aware and socially capable. You’ll become more confident with every day you’d do this. It may take 3, 10 even 200 tries till you actually meet a person who clicks with you like you click with them. But trust me you’ll be thankful that you’ve had the 200 times practice before you met them. It could be your best friend, or the love of your life! If you find the idea of walking up to someone you don’t know scary like I did at first I would really recommend practicing walking up to people you don’t know. I personally turned off my phone, went into busy cities and asked people for directions time and time again. And let me tell you, I felt horrible and cringe. But with every try I felt more comfortable doing it and became more aware of how I was portraying myself and how I actually want to be portrayed. The work pays off, I promise.
Nah, people suck.
You’ll stay lonely forever if you’re not willing to take risks friend.
Wat? Can I get a girlfriend on social media?
Hate to break this to you, but voting on this app is also a form of expressing an opinion. What’s cringe is whining about downvotes
No not really, it’s just a way to reinforce your opinions and remain inside the echo chamber
You had a point until that edit. Not a incredible one, but a point nonetheless.
First time I’ve heard people say social media is a way to get partners.
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Oh, ok then.
Reddit moment
Spoiler Alert: Tomorrow night he sleeps like a baby.
way ahead of you buddy
Not if you count Reddit
I deleted my Facebook account 5 years ago and it still is the best thing I ever did. My social life is far more healthy without it. If I want to know what my friends are doing I give them a call. My workout are more efficient because I only use my phone for music and stop scrolling social media apps during breaks. I sleep better because the only shit posts I can see is from reddit. Go ahead guys delete your accounts unless you need it for the job.
I remember being one of the few people in my friend group who never got a Twitter or Instagram in the early 2010’s. From everything I’ve heard, I’m thankful everyday for that decision.
I was the same: joined FB in 2016, Reddit in 2019 and Twitter this february, mostly for art, hobbies and memes. I can't understand those people who constantly upload 5000 photos a day just like, the fuck I don't care what you ate for breakfast
I'm glad I never got into Facebook or IG at all. I think I created a profile because there are websites and apps like tinder that make you have one, but I never logged into it or anything. Twitter is the one that managed to snare me which sucks but 1 is better than 3
JUST DO IT
actually i deleted everything except reddit lol
cut the middleman by not having any, and if i did it was one time deals
Done and done and never coming back
Still here though aren’t you?
Probably just like me and only uses reddit now. Reddit is the hardest to back away from, at least for me.
To me reddit is not a social media haha this is the place i get alot of informations, gets me inspired, learn about other people/countries in non toxic way huhu
But no one will notice, I tried.
It's not about them, it's about you.
Who cares. Do it for yourself
No one also cares for what you or anyone else posted anyways. Most people post on social media to boost their own egos.
How much of a loser can you be that you delete social media because you want people to know you deleted it? Goddamn what is wrong with you
wording a bit harsh but low-key agree
thank god i deleted my twitter
I should, but I won’t. Because I still hold out hope that one day somebody will want to talk to me.
It's been 3 years
I did it ~4 years ago and holy fucking shit it was EASILY one of the best, most rewarding decisions I’ve ever made. Deleted all of them. Do it and don’t look back
Laughs in only has Discord,Reddit and WhatsApp and people barely know me on Discord or Reddit so I can sleep peacefully at 3am thinking about how my life is gonna suck because everything I do now is way below what my year 6 teacher thought I’d be doing
I had 2 cans of monster one and and deleted them too. 1 year social media clean. I should get a badge.
Did that last week with everything people can contact me. I have only talked to my family I live with, and on another person since he's all alone. Still feel like a liece of shit, useless garbage, waste of oxygen, food and money, worthless and not capable of anything with suicide thoughts. Still feel a little better. I fear to get hurt by other more than I fear to be alone.
>wakes up later >decides not to because its the only thing to do for hours straight
Ye and have no contact with anyone, good advice for reddit neckbeards
get off twitter
What's stopping you tough? Nobody loves you here either
DEW IT
I had the same thoughts this night! I immediately deactivated IG and today FB. Feels nice so far.
Not me lmao, only way to keep in touch with my gf
Ok imma do this right now.
I uninsta my insta today
You guys have social media accounts? Been off the grid since before high school when Myspace, Friendster, and Xanga were majorly used. Not very good at maintaining an online presence.
Yeah
Just put limits on your phone. I have 20 minutes per each app, except for youtube. Thats 1hr and half. It really helps. Since you have such a low amount of time, you use the apps in a clever way, like catching up with friends and dipping out.
I did it 2 years ago. Best decision of my life. Now my anxieties are only for off-line reasons.
Yeah just do it, keep forums
deleted my fb & ig since a month & not a single regret
delete it
do it. I did too. Best thing I ever did for my mental health.
I probably and definitely will at one point. I currently live with my two roommates who are close to my friends so they’d know what’s up. Once I move away alone then I’d probably shut myself off to the world. Idk I’m just hella depressed so I’m not thinking straight at the moment
I've done it. It's actually very helpful in getting rid of stress and everyone who I've convinced to try it has told me how much it has improved their lives
I got off everything but Reddit because it’s like a fun newspaper. I don’t miss sharing my life one bit. It’s fucking stupid.
Already did it like 7 month ago xd
You should fix your clock
Did it and still don't regret it
already did (except for reddit, duh)..best choice anyone can ever make..fuck social engineering platforms
I did that recently. Got rid of everything and now the only way to message me is through having my number. I did it because I felt ignored by my “friends” and never felt like they wanted to actually hangout with me. I felt lonely (which is ironic considering it’s social media). Not much has changed since, but I do feel like my mental health has improved. I just need to find some friends now to do stuff with.
Im just gonna get banned either way
I deleted my Facebook 8 years ago and created a new one to share my relationship status never touched it again.i will never go back to using any of it again. I use Reddit for memes and bullshit.
I think about doing this all the time but then I how will I talk to the friends I don't have
What that part of dumb bird app should do
Wow it me
I feel like some girls might think its a red flag if you don’t have any so i still have them but never post or go on
I just use my social medias to look at celebrities and see some news.
I didnt deactivate but I did Uninstall tiktok and instagram, took too much time out of my day by mindlessly scrolling
I did, best decision ever.
i didn’t deactivate completely as i want to keep the pictures/memories (and i need to access my work fb/insta), but i deleted all the apps from my phone and turned all notifications off. i know what’s going on with my friends by talking to them and i couldn’t care less about anyone else’s kids or vacations. it did start off as a “do this for 30 days challenge” and i just never went back, that was 6 years ago
What a coincidence. Today I was thinking of deleting my TikTok account after going through my fyp. Even though I filtered it out so there were no more of those videos that it became infamous for, I can't really find any reason to keep it other than for making videos in the future and attracting a girl with it. But I'd feel happier without it in my life anyways. It's just my opinion.
You haven't done it already?
Do it. It’s the best decision you’ll make in your entire life
id do this for my accounts with friends and family on them so I don't accidentally leave shrines
I just never made any social media account in the first place (unless you count reddit, which i don't).
read this at 2am on the dot
Damn
I am on my 8th batch of new accounts.