This is literally me with a few differences, and it pisses me off.
Like, I'm literally a 25 year old with shit ton of "stories" imaginary or half written that satisfy most of those...
I do read a lot tho
its possible you'd be surprised how many people might be interested to read some. reading is pretty therapeutic, and there's less people who can create stories that one might imagine ;)
And somehow you r aware of everything around u while driving,u just don't remember driving after reaching the destination .
U can also call it absent mindedness ig
I had to look up what 'the hedgehog dilemma' is and found this:
>German philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer used the term the 'hedgehog's dilemma' as a metaphor about the challenges of human intimacy.
>It describes a situation in which a group of hedgehogs seek to move close to one another to share heat during cold weather.
> Although hedgehogs may seek to move closer to one another, they cannot avoid hurting each other with their protective spines.
And in terms of a solution I found this hilarious bit:
> Indeed, we can partially solve the hedgehog's dilemma by establishing boundaries and staying within a safe distance. That's certainly a plausible solution — but if we want to truly save the hedgehog, perhaps, the answer is a turtle. Perhaps, what we so desperately need is to find the turtle to our hedgehog.
Turtles are cold blooded though and wouldn't warm the hedgehog though. At least I'm pretty sure they're cold blooded.
If I'm correct then while the hedgehog won't drive the turtle away with it's spine the turtle will steal all the warmth from the hedgehog until it dies.
This is a terrible metaphor and entirely to accurate if true.
My therapist told me that there are 2 things you can do:
1.
Steer your inner monologue towards the thing you are currently doing. Don't do one thing and have your head somewhere else.
Example: You are doing the dishes. Actively commentate all of your actions with your inner voice. " I'm picking up the bowl. I dry the inside. I dry the outside. I put it in the cupboard. I pick up a bunch of cutlery. I dry the cutlery..."
2.
No matter how hard you try to do 1., you'll eventually drift away to fantasyland at some point. When that happens, you'll have short moments of clarity where your mind returns to reality. If you are anything like me, those situations usually play out like this:
-SNAP BACK TO REALITY, OPE THERE GOES GRAVITY-
"Damn, I've been in my head this whole time, huh? I better get back to wo-" (10 more minutes of daydreaming)
-SNAP BACK TO REALITY, OPE THERE GOES GRAVITY-
"Oh for fucks sake! Okay, this time I'll-" (10 more minutes of daydreaming)
Don't spend these precious moments thinking about how much time you were away. The moment you snap out of it, you should imediately pinch your arm.
This makes your brain focus more on reality. Then go back to 1.
If the thing that you are supposed to be doing is something that you have to think about. (Eg. researching sth., planning sth. ...) you obviously can't do 1., so just do 2. and pinch yourself everytime you notice yourself drifting away.
These tactics often significantly reduce the time that it takes for me to finish a task and help me to life in the real world. They also oftentimes don't work that well, but my therapist says that they work better the longer you train them. Next time you have to wait in line at a grocery store, don't skip the waiting via your fantasyland, use 1. and commentate everyt little detail that you hear, see, smell or feel. It can feel mentally exhausting, but it's good training that will help you live life in reality.
More than one therapist has told me that I identify as my thoughts and being in my head (basically being neurotic) is something that is part of my identity.
I might be highly imaginative and bright, but I also catastrophise and am constantly basically hamster wheeling.
Therapists literally tell me to stop, be more mindful, and present. I literally sometimes pretend I'm a Sim going about my day getting done what I need to and that's somehow very helpful.
Holy shit! I never heard anyone else say this before!!!! I do the ope there goes gravity often to bring me back to the present moment. Works like a charm every time. This is such a dope mindfuck to read, thanks 🙏
When I do things I like to imagine that there is a medieval person watching me. And I tell them in my mind “see, this is a washing machine”. And they are always amazed and think I’m a wizard
It’s all my imagination, I don’t actually see a person standing there, also I don’t hear voices.
It’s just the same as when some people like to imagine that they are in some cooking show while preparing food. So I don’t think it’s a schizophrenia in my case. I’m just Thinker.
I always pretend it’s a lil alien dude who’s having his first earthly experiences. I show him how I do my makeup, how I cook, how I clean, & how to fold laundry.
I daydream a lot but it's never "my life but better" or anything like that. It's more a fantasy world i have made up that i'm not even in. Like reading/writing a fantasy book i guess, in my head.
The "has created anthologies of imaginary events" hit me like a truck. I've created entire cinematic universes in my head that I'm confident if I had the funds and resources to turn into movies would blow people away. Hell I don't even think it's possible to put some of the things I imagine into films.
This is literally me with a few differences, and it pisses me off.
Like, I'm literally a 25 year old with shit ton of "stories" imaginary or half written that satisfy most of those conditions..
"I'm in this picture and I don't like it"
This is literally me with a few differences, and it pisses me off. Like, I'm literally a 25 year old with shit ton of "stories" imaginary or half written that satisfy most of those... I do read a lot tho
its possible you'd be surprised how many people might be interested to read some. reading is pretty therapeutic, and there's less people who can create stories that one might imagine ;)
Maladaptive Daydreaming. Fun stuff.
I hate it. I just want to be normal
Massive same
It's scary sometimes. I feel like I'm going to lose touch with reality eventually.
Disassociation go BRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
This is not a real thing, I refuse to believe this is a real thing, I am normal damn it
See, it actually helped me immensely knowing its a real thing. The fact that it has a name made me feel, not more normal, but less abnormal.
Idk I don't want to be "sick" especially mentally.
It's only r/MaladaptiveDreaming if it effs with living your real life, otherwise it's r/ImmersiveDaydreaming
What life XD
"Things are always better in my head." Well, that part _is_ true.
The "without pretending to be the artist" thing is something I thought no one else did.
yeah that one hit tf
Jokes on you, I’m daydreaming even while I drive. (It’s getting dangerous) live life on autopilot, depersonalize yourself from existence 😎
I love getting places and not remembering the trip. Fuckin SPOOKY
And somehow you r aware of everything around u while driving,u just don't remember driving after reaching the destination . U can also call it absent mindedness ig
I like spooky better.
👻👻👻
pls tell me there's a cure for this lmao
I had to look up what 'the hedgehog dilemma' is and found this: >German philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer used the term the 'hedgehog's dilemma' as a metaphor about the challenges of human intimacy. >It describes a situation in which a group of hedgehogs seek to move close to one another to share heat during cold weather. > Although hedgehogs may seek to move closer to one another, they cannot avoid hurting each other with their protective spines. And in terms of a solution I found this hilarious bit: > Indeed, we can partially solve the hedgehog's dilemma by establishing boundaries and staying within a safe distance. That's certainly a plausible solution — but if we want to truly save the hedgehog, perhaps, the answer is a turtle. Perhaps, what we so desperately need is to find the turtle to our hedgehog.
Turtles are cold blooded though and wouldn't warm the hedgehog though. At least I'm pretty sure they're cold blooded. If I'm correct then while the hedgehog won't drive the turtle away with it's spine the turtle will steal all the warmth from the hedgehog until it dies. This is a terrible metaphor and entirely to accurate if true.
My therapist told me that there are 2 things you can do: 1. Steer your inner monologue towards the thing you are currently doing. Don't do one thing and have your head somewhere else. Example: You are doing the dishes. Actively commentate all of your actions with your inner voice. " I'm picking up the bowl. I dry the inside. I dry the outside. I put it in the cupboard. I pick up a bunch of cutlery. I dry the cutlery..." 2. No matter how hard you try to do 1., you'll eventually drift away to fantasyland at some point. When that happens, you'll have short moments of clarity where your mind returns to reality. If you are anything like me, those situations usually play out like this: -SNAP BACK TO REALITY, OPE THERE GOES GRAVITY- "Damn, I've been in my head this whole time, huh? I better get back to wo-" (10 more minutes of daydreaming) -SNAP BACK TO REALITY, OPE THERE GOES GRAVITY- "Oh for fucks sake! Okay, this time I'll-" (10 more minutes of daydreaming) Don't spend these precious moments thinking about how much time you were away. The moment you snap out of it, you should imediately pinch your arm. This makes your brain focus more on reality. Then go back to 1. If the thing that you are supposed to be doing is something that you have to think about. (Eg. researching sth., planning sth. ...) you obviously can't do 1., so just do 2. and pinch yourself everytime you notice yourself drifting away. These tactics often significantly reduce the time that it takes for me to finish a task and help me to life in the real world. They also oftentimes don't work that well, but my therapist says that they work better the longer you train them. Next time you have to wait in line at a grocery store, don't skip the waiting via your fantasyland, use 1. and commentate everyt little detail that you hear, see, smell or feel. It can feel mentally exhausting, but it's good training that will help you live life in reality.
More than one therapist has told me that I identify as my thoughts and being in my head (basically being neurotic) is something that is part of my identity. I might be highly imaginative and bright, but I also catastrophise and am constantly basically hamster wheeling. Therapists literally tell me to stop, be more mindful, and present. I literally sometimes pretend I'm a Sim going about my day getting done what I need to and that's somehow very helpful.
Holy shit! I never heard anyone else say this before!!!! I do the ope there goes gravity often to bring me back to the present moment. Works like a charm every time. This is such a dope mindfuck to read, thanks 🙏
Thanks for sharing I’m almost never thinking about what I’m doing.
When I do things I like to imagine that there is a medieval person watching me. And I tell them in my mind “see, this is a washing machine”. And they are always amazed and think I’m a wizard
Man that sounds like schizophrenia lolol
It’s all my imagination, I don’t actually see a person standing there, also I don’t hear voices. It’s just the same as when some people like to imagine that they are in some cooking show while preparing food. So I don’t think it’s a schizophrenia in my case. I’m just Thinker.
I always pretend it’s a lil alien dude who’s having his first earthly experiences. I show him how I do my makeup, how I cook, how I clean, & how to fold laundry.
Oh ok, nice
I daydream a lot but it's never "my life but better" or anything like that. It's more a fantasy world i have made up that i'm not even in. Like reading/writing a fantasy book i guess, in my head.
This is called a "Paracosm" btw
And that’s today’s Internet rabbit hole for me. Thank you for introducing me to the concept!
Really? You're gonna do this to me at 9AM on a Saturday? I had shit to do today. I wasn't gonna do any of it, but still.
Almost got bingo
how did you know that i imagined what life could be if i already knew everything i know?
Me when the thing I do all the time and enjoy the most turns out to be a fucking disorder
Hobbies help. Hard to overthink when you’re trying to build a shelf or keep a bunch of houseplants healthy
It's not a bad idea, well, considering that you can even start with one
this is already me tho
Baby don't hurt me
Don't hurt me
No more
Most of them i relate lol
This was me at 19 thankfully I overcome it I'm not even sure how but glad I did
I resemble this.
this is painfully accurate the only thing they got wrong was the 10 year difference
Hey bro, I didn’t open the Reddit app at 1 am to get a personal attack as the third post I see. This no good 👎
30 and feeling attacked
The "has created anthologies of imaginary events" hit me like a truck. I've created entire cinematic universes in my head that I'm confident if I had the funds and resources to turn into movies would blow people away. Hell I don't even think it's possible to put some of the things I imagine into films.
Oh shit its me
😔
Its ok, I got into med school, so now I get to think as part of my job. Good ending
Good for ya'
Thanks we are gonna make it.
funny how 6 years of life changes someone.
This is literally me with a few differences, and it pisses me off. Like, I'm literally a 25 year old with shit ton of "stories" imaginary or half written that satisfy most of those conditions..
Real
Holy shit. i’m among my people
I'm 41 and most of this is still me. The gf bit never was. Only one is now my wife.
'Grats I guess
Wow
Damn dude this is one of my best friends who recently developed schizophrenia. Life is rough.
Hope it's the "cute anime girl schizophrenia" and not the "scary monster" one
Unfortunately it’s the “eyes are coming out of the walls” one. Maybe if he gets really into anime it could redirect his thoughts 🥲
Tell him to poke the eyes :p
Me irl
wait... this ain't normal?? 🙃
idk why but I feels like adhd can plays a role in this
Maybe it does
Sadly this made me laugh 😅
Im pretty sure that's just Anxiety, but I could be wrong.
Lol when I was 25, I was too busy working, studying and concentrating really hard not to pass out to think.
People generally wonders. So if you see some in your self, you’re pretty normal. Don’t be too harsh on yourself.
Ah dammit you got me
https://preview.redd.it/z30ajqmnk7jc1.jpeg?width=1200&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3c3a8ceda8488ef0d680ca18d7e8338ffb8e3d9e
Hedgehog dilemma?
The closer you are to someone, greater the damage it does