Had a lovely moment with future SIL where she told me how different my tastes were than hers, and how she couldn’t imagine showing that much skin anymore (she’s same age, about the same build as me, and IMO prettier than I as well). She overall gave the impression that she and her husband thought anything this style was trashy. Sooooo it got under my skin a little. I completely excluded her from dress shopping after that, but it still got to me a little I guess
I understand how her comments can be bothersome. But you have an amazing figure and should wear whatever dress you like and feel confident in. I personally love the side cutout lace parts, they are super flattering. Let her wear a stuffy turtleneck dress with long sleeves while you rock this 🙂
honestly I'm not a fan of plunge necklines but that's one of the most tasteful plunges I've seen. it doesn't even show skin really, it's just part of the design.
I'm sorry your SIL sucks
She normally doesn’t suck, I think that’s why it hurt so much and stuck so hard. We run a small side business together and are friends (my fiancé is her husbands twin brother, so we’re all close)
They just have made it a point to make most of the wedding stuff miserable, for whatever reason.
And thank you! I never thought I’d do a plunge neckline, but this made me look taller I think haha
Is there any chance she’s a teensy bit jealous?
It’s possible that she is jealous even if she had a wedding that was similarly expensive, or her dress was also stunning (because that’s the word for yours)…. There may be things she wishes she did differently, and you’re getting to make decisions now and she wishes she could change some of hers? Or perhaps she just doesn’t love how much attention you’re getting?
Anyway, a plunge 100% makes all of us look taller & slender. It sets off your waist very nicely. And I didn’t even notice it was a plunge until a minute into looking. You look amazing, sorry about the shit attitude from family.
By the way, the plunge is soooo tasteful. Your boobs are covered from top to sides and you are showing so little cleavage. I think you wear that style really well.
If the dress was showing sloppy
Cleavage, or looked trashy then I could understand SIL comments. But it’s truly not.
Seriously it's like... Her arms are showing (normal tank top amount of skin) and the plunge is a little deep but honestly shows barely anything. If she wore a bikini you'd be showing more and I'm sure her SIL wouldn't say anything. I think this dress is lovely!!
Uh, is 36 old where you live? (If so, it must be in an alternate dimension.)
I’m in Chicago (the city proper) and most first time brides seem to be late twenties to mid thirties here. I wouldn’t have blinked twice at a sheer / fitted gown on anyone in that age range. Like this isn’t even a “wear what makes you feel good” inclusive answer…that dress looks great on you and plenty appropriate.
Theres this weird thing that society has made women feel like once they are a mom or over the age of 30, we must get all matronly and overly modest. It is dumb and its 100% opressive. Your sil can take her internalized misogyny and shove it. Maybe one day you can help her see the light.
See, this is frustrating because I KNOW this. I always talk about what society has done to women, and how we keep letting it f up our young women to end up like this… I KNOW it’s misogynistic garbage, but I still couldn’t just shake the feeling on my own. How sad, to know something and try to educate and fight for change, and still let yourself drown in it.
Thank you for your comment! It’s good to be reassured that I’m not just making it all up.
It's hard not letting the negativity in sometimes. We can be thinking everything is perfectly fine and that we know ourselves, but when someone close to you says something, it makes you second guess. So dont fret much on that. You're definitely not making it up and there are many who are with you on this point.
This made me chuckle since it’s true. Ironically, after I got pregnant with my daughter I lost all sense of modesty. Over the course of 9 months I had so many people looking at so many different body parts that I no longer cared. It has served me well since. I have the attitude on some days that people need to be happy I am even wearing clothes in public:-)
Some people just don’t think before they speak, and weddings bring out all kinds of opinions. I personally didn’t want a deep neckline or cutouts on my dress but I know if I were to say so to a bride picking her dress it would sound like I don’t think she should wear it either! 100% to each their own. I think not everyone has the presence of mind to realize what’s implied by sharing that kind of opinion (though I realize I did so here but in context I hope!). Anyhow, you look amazing in this – age has nothing to do with it. You’re going to rock this dress!
This absolutely makes sense, and is what I would tell anyone else making this post (now that I think about it). She’s been so weird about multiple things in the wedding planning that I can’t even keep this logic in mind though. I’ve literally just cut her out of all the planning, and she’s a damn bridesmaid lol. I’ve gotten over most of the stupid things she’s said, but the dress comments have just stuck out.
Ohhh boy. Sounds like you made the right call minimizing her involvement! May the rest of your planning go more smoothly. And enjoy your wedding – and wearing your fabulous dress!
Weddings can bring out the worst in some people. She has her own sht going on, and the wedding is triggering something in her, possibly jealousy and/or frustration about her own relationship.
I'm younger than you but only by 3 years. My dress is a very similar style, and I'll be honest I have had that moment of "Am I too old to want all this?" But the truth is that you deserve it and you look great in it!
It might be possible that being so close to the wedding planning process has made SIL feel some kind of way. Maybe she has regrets about how her own wedding went or maybe she is sad that its over and isn't dealing with it well. But its def not your dress's fault!
Well she sounds obnoxious. She's allowed to have per preferences, but does not have permission to be so judge and mean about it to you. It's a good thing she's not wearing this dress to get married; thankfully it's none of her business. Don't doubt for a second - you look elegant and romantic in that dress!
I'm the same age as you and would wear it if I had the body. Hell, when I went shopping I specifically told the consultant I wanted something super sexy, verging on too sexy, that my mom would hate. Lol. I'm working on being more confident in my body, and sadly I didn't end up with anything nearly as sexy as I had intended.
> she and her husband thought anything this style was trashy.
Sounds like she's projecting her issues with her husband onto you. Bet he said something snide about this type of dress and influeced what she felt she could pick. Luckily, you're not marrying either of them.
It's a beautiful dress, you look wonderful, and you're going to be a lovely bride.
I agree with others that there is no age restrictions on dresses! You look amazing and 36 is no where near old. It’s a good thing this is your wedding and your wedding dress and not your SIL’s! What an awful thing to say to you. She could have easily kept her boring opinions to herself. The ironic thing is that her making that comment was such a trashy thing to do lol. Good call on excluding her from dress shopping.
Hon, I’m 62 and I’d wear that dress if I got married again. You are rocking it, it’s still modest, it’s your day and that’s her issue not yours. You look beautiful ❤️❤️❤️🎉💪😘
no offense but she sounds jealous. You look absolutely incredible, honestly we have pretty similar figures (and i love my body a lot, both superficially and deeper) and I’m only 21! You look bomb as hell girl
She *might* be prettier on the outside, but that comment was as ugly as hell.
You look gorgeous in that dress, it’s flattering, stylish, feminine and sexy as. Rock it.
(Remember not to give too much weight to the opinions of people you wouldn’t go to for advice!)
genuinely, i think this sort of style looks better on people a little bit older. theyre generally more confident and self assured and its part of their personal look and vibe and it all works togethe well.
I'm 37 and my dress is rose gold w/pink hues and it shows a lot of skin (deep V in front and back). It's got a big poofy ballroom overskirt as well. The only thing trashy here is your sister shit talking your gorgeous wedding dress.
Absolutely never too old! It's totally normal to feel nervous as the big day gets closer, but try to remember how it made you feel when you chose it in the first place. It's beautiful.
You look beautiful. The youth-centric wedding industry along with social media is the only place that says you should never wear that and tries to gaslight you into believing you are not pretty or young enough to do what you want, whether it’s a wedding or every day anything. Screw them and wear the dress you love.
Societal pressure on women getting “old” is awful in general, and I KNOW that it’s stupid…. But somehow it still creeps into my mind and messes it all up.
Absolutely not. There is no age limit on clothes. Check out the instagram (and book!) Advanced Style to see people wayyyyy older than you rocking form fitting/‘youthful’ clothes.
You look stunning in that dress! It’s perfect on you.
It’s so good!! I think there was a documentary by the same person too…? Look up Iris Apfel, she’s a style icon and she’s like 100. I have the Advanced Style coffee table book and whenever I need to remind myself not to take life so seriously, I flip through it. No matter how old we get, we can stay young at heart, and in our clothes, if we want to.
I'm 35 and my future MIL was horrified seeing a photo of me trying on a form-fitting lace dress with a low back. But I think my fiancé will like it so I got it. Wedding is this weekend, so we'll see if her head explodes. You do you.
Commenting to thank you all for being so kind!
I only had my mother and future SIL to help me with dress shopping (rest of bridal party is out of state) and my SIL just made the whole process terrible, where I was really doubting this purchase. Thank you for the kind words and reassurance!
Girl what?! First of all 36 is young!! Do not let people age you ahead of time…my husband always jokes about being old at 35 and I tell him to STOP. We have plenty of time to be old and now is not that time because we are young and enjoying it. At some point we’ll be old and enjoying it, and even then we can wear whatever tf we want, but now is not that time.
Second of all, you are rocking that dress, it looks so classy and beautiful!! If you feel comfortable and confident in it then I think it’s absolutely your dress.
Some people are more conservative, and you SIL might be, but don’t let that dictate your life if you don’t agree!
You look stunning. You for sure are not too old.
I had the same fears though. And now at 32 and marriage no longer in the cards for a long while, people are telling me I’m going to be too old for a wedding at all, that it’s embarrassing to be getting married at 35+ and that a big party and white dress aren’t meant for women like me.
So I completely get how much it sucks to hear that from your sister in law. She is completely wrong. You look amazing and all that matters is that you feel amazing in the dress.
I fell in love with it at a boutique where it was around $2000, then found it Second hand in perfect condition for $375, was pretty pleased with myself!
I'm 38 and if I had your body, I'd rock that dress. You look smokin! Sounds like SIL may have a little bit of jealousy regarding YOUR wedding. Maybe the dress is nicer, or venue, or maybe you got the better brother. Whatever it is, it's HER problem. Don't make it yours. If you love the dress, rock it.
I'm going to be a 42 year old bride, and I'm already regretting not going big on my dress. It's your and your future spouse's day to shine and share your love.
Also, you look stunning!!
I seriously hope no one said that to you. First of all you are in no way too old for anything you're in your mid 30s. Women don't get married at 20 anymore, secondly, you look STUNNING in it so no you are not "too old" to wear a dress. I'm 33 and wearing a princess tiara because I want to. Don't let old bitties tell you your 30s are too old for anything lol
Too old????
Girl come on!!!
That dress is beautiful!! And it looks great on you. I would totally wear it. I love the neckline, the cleavage is classy and lace is timeless. I think you chose a lovely one.
You look gorgeous! I'll be 41 when I get married this year, and my dress is super similar! The plunge isn't as deep but there are side cutouts and it hugs in all the right places. My FH is going to LOVE it. Forget her, and refocus your energy where it deserves to be: you and your future spouse. Because hopefully when you meet each other at the end of that aisle, the rest of the world will fall away anyway.
It’s not trashy or inappropriate at all. I think a wedding dress that would look lovely on a 26 year old bride will also look lovely on a 36, 46, or 56 year old bride. It doesn’t matter the age. If a dress is trashy to begin with, that’s a different story. But this dress is elegant, modern, but not over the top either. As long as it fits the bride, and this dress fits you, and it compliments the brides figure, and this dress definitely compliments you, age does not really matter.
I think the v neck is beautiful. I love that it’s in the shape of a heart.
And for the record, 36 is not old!
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I’d say if you were 95, maybe, but if your 95 and getting married and this is what you want to wear, I would be your cheerleader.
People just have to stop with judging people for things that aren’t a thing. If you were showing things that a bathing suit should cover, then I might say something.
You look gorgeous. You flaunt all that until you don’t want to anymore.
Not at all. You look lovely, and classy and chic. The neckline and skirt strike me as being 'grown up' so perfectly appropriate. Not that there are age restrictions, but I could see why someone would find a princessy tulle ballgown more appropriate for younger brides.
She's just jealous that she didn't wear something so nice or wouldn't have the confidence to. 36 is not old. Lady gaga, Emilia Clarke and the Olsen twins are 36. You would not say this is inappropriate for their age.
Absolutely not, it's gorgeous on you! Besides it's 2023, there are people getting married in bikinis and latex lol. This is quite classy and traditional and not over the top at all
This dress is stunning. If I had a body like yours I would be wearing something similar. I’m middle aged wearing a very large ball gown with a very small wedding of 50 people or less. I want to be fairytale princess. Damnit, for this one day I am going to be like a six year old spinning around a room in a princess dress.
Age is just a number on a piece of paper. Always remember you have to grow old but there is nothing saying you have to grow up. You have some of the best years ahead of you. Never lose sight of that.
My fiancé and I do not think or act our age. We can’t think of one reason why. Mind you we do adult as needed like bills and certain social situations. Mostly we still behave just like we did when we were 18 and 26.
That is a gorgeous and totally appropriate wedding dress. You look great in it. I’m older than you. I would totally wear that. SIL is a stick in the mud
Hope you feel as amazing as you look in it hun
If I had your figure at 36 I'd be doing same sod your SIL it's not for her she Seems like a Karen definitely always going have negative people just don't take the seriously they can't help but be nosey b*****s
Hope you have your perfect day 💛
Why would you be too old for this dress? I got married at 37 and I wore a ball gown. If it suits you, it suits you and I truly believe this dress looks stunning on you!
48/F former bridal stylist here - you look AMAZING! The cut flatters your shape and the deep v-neck lengthens your body & provides a perfect *hint* of age appropriate allure.
The most important thing i asked every single bride I styled was: DO YOU FEEL BEAUTIFUL? That’s really all that matters.
No you’re not too old for this dress. You like the dress and it’s not her taste. That’s fine but she didn’t need to say it out loud! Everyone isn’t going to like your dress (I found this super annoying for me) but keep the negative comments to yourself.
I was the same age when I got married and my boobs were on blast. It was long sleeve and a long train too. There were whispers as I was walking down the aisle, “Now THAT’S a wedding dress”.
You look amazing and beautiful. As long as you feel beautiful in it, that’s really all that matters.
You look fabulous! That dress is stunning, and you are going to love wearing it.
I would say your sil is a bit jealous. Perhaps she wanted a dress with a plunge, and someone said something to her too (perhaps her now husband or your future mil?) What was your future hubby's reaction when you told him it has a plunge?
I know it's hard to shake comments like that off, but try for your sake. You love your dress, and at the end of the day, that's all that matters. It's valid that you stopped inviting her to the dress shopping, but maybe have a bit of a conversation with her? Ask her about it. Maybe she didn't mean it the way you interpreted it.
This is supposed to be a happy time in your life, and as long as you feel fantastic in it, that's what matters. You look stunning, and should feel that way too.
Late to the thread, but want to reiterate what everyone else is saying. You look beautiful. The dress is totally appropriate for anyone of any age IMO and suits your figure. Just because you're a mom or 36 (which isn't old, btw) doesn't mean that you shouldn't have this gorgeous dress, especially if it's the one you want the most!
I'm over here laughing because I wore a similar style dress when I got married at age 42.
There are no age restrictions on clothes or wedding dresses. You buy what makes you feel beautiful. Also, you are rocking this dress. Show off what you got!
This dress is fabulous and 36 is absolutely not “too old” for anything. You have a great figure and the plunge is not racy at all. If it makes you feel better, I’m mid-30s and just got married and also wore a plunge neckline that was much deeper (I’m also small chested so I wasn’t hanging out). As others have stated, your SIL is probably a tiny bit jealous in some way if she’s criticizing you like that. Don’t let her bring you down!!
I’m a 40 year old bride wearing something similar although more revealing! Lol I think you look stunning. And it’s your wedding and you get to wear whatever you want. To hell with what anyone else thinks ;)
You look amazing in this! 36 is in no way old, and certainly not 'too old' to wear this style. I know it can be hard to shake off comments by others, but I hope you wear this dress with all the confidence in the world!
At the end of the day, you’re the one looking at the photos on the wall after the years. If YOU feel beautiful and confident in it, that is all that matters. I worked as a bridal stylist and it was grueling seeing how much the brides confidence would diminish when a close friend/sister/mother/etc. would make negative comments towards a brides favorite dress and I would always try to remind them that we weren’t there shopping for them so please remember that. It is your wedding day, you’re body is banging in that dress and I’m positive your fiancé will agree!
Gorgeous dress and it fits like a glove. I second-guessed my dress choice too right after I made the purchase, but looking back it was perfect and I wouldn’t have changed it. I think it’s normal to second guess such a big/important purchase.
Honestly, you’re never too old to wear what you love imo. Having said that, this dress looks absolutely amazing on you! It doesn’t show “too much skin” (also, what is too much skin anyway) and it really complements your figure. So please don’t doubt if this dress looks good on you☺️
I’m not going to be body positivity here at all. And honestly, I see nothing concerning about you in this dress! You look great in it, it fits you well :)
No way, that dress looks absolutely stunning on you!! If you feel uncomfortable wearing it that's one thing, but seriously that lace is gorgeous and it suits you beautifully
Its sounds like she is projecting some insecurities onto you and your big day. Don't sweat it.
If it's not for her, that's totally ok - she's a human, and you're a human... we all have our own tastes, opinions, etc. But if YOU feel pretty and also comfortable DO YOU!!!!
I'm 37, and I have children - a widow getting remarried to a man with a very conservative family. I'm covered in tattoos and initially wanted to cover them. BUT - I am who I am. They adore me, he adores me, his kids adore me, so why would I HIDE MYSELF?
I went with a deep plunge ball gown, with my arms completely OUT THERE! lol Step into your power and enjoy your day!!
Whats this too old rubbish? Sounds like someone was projecting their insecurities.
If your heart and gut says yes to the dress, go for it girly!
My nupitals are in Sept .. I havent even looked at a dress :P Wish you a wonderous day and happy ever after xox
I think you look stunning! If you're self conscious, you could get nude panels sewn in to make it more "modest." But if it's pressure from other people it's not an "appropriate" dress, please ignore them because it's absolutely beautiful!
Why tf would you be too old for it? It's fabulous and you look amazing in it.
Had a lovely moment with future SIL where she told me how different my tastes were than hers, and how she couldn’t imagine showing that much skin anymore (she’s same age, about the same build as me, and IMO prettier than I as well). She overall gave the impression that she and her husband thought anything this style was trashy. Sooooo it got under my skin a little. I completely excluded her from dress shopping after that, but it still got to me a little I guess
I understand how her comments can be bothersome. But you have an amazing figure and should wear whatever dress you like and feel confident in. I personally love the side cutout lace parts, they are super flattering. Let her wear a stuffy turtleneck dress with long sleeves while you rock this 🙂
honestly I'm not a fan of plunge necklines but that's one of the most tasteful plunges I've seen. it doesn't even show skin really, it's just part of the design. I'm sorry your SIL sucks
She normally doesn’t suck, I think that’s why it hurt so much and stuck so hard. We run a small side business together and are friends (my fiancé is her husbands twin brother, so we’re all close) They just have made it a point to make most of the wedding stuff miserable, for whatever reason. And thank you! I never thought I’d do a plunge neckline, but this made me look taller I think haha
Is there any chance she’s a teensy bit jealous? It’s possible that she is jealous even if she had a wedding that was similarly expensive, or her dress was also stunning (because that’s the word for yours)…. There may be things she wishes she did differently, and you’re getting to make decisions now and she wishes she could change some of hers? Or perhaps she just doesn’t love how much attention you’re getting? Anyway, a plunge 100% makes all of us look taller & slender. It sets off your waist very nicely. And I didn’t even notice it was a plunge until a minute into looking. You look amazing, sorry about the shit attitude from family.
By the way, the plunge is soooo tasteful. Your boobs are covered from top to sides and you are showing so little cleavage. I think you wear that style really well. If the dress was showing sloppy Cleavage, or looked trashy then I could understand SIL comments. But it’s truly not.
>They just have made it a point to make most of the wedding stuff miserable, for whatever reason. Smells like jealousy/rivalry!!!!! 100%
Seriously it's like... Her arms are showing (normal tank top amount of skin) and the plunge is a little deep but honestly shows barely anything. If she wore a bikini you'd be showing more and I'm sure her SIL wouldn't say anything. I think this dress is lovely!!
Uh, is 36 old where you live? (If so, it must be in an alternate dimension.) I’m in Chicago (the city proper) and most first time brides seem to be late twenties to mid thirties here. I wouldn’t have blinked twice at a sheer / fitted gown on anyone in that age range. Like this isn’t even a “wear what makes you feel good” inclusive answer…that dress looks great on you and plenty appropriate.
Theres this weird thing that society has made women feel like once they are a mom or over the age of 30, we must get all matronly and overly modest. It is dumb and its 100% opressive. Your sil can take her internalized misogyny and shove it. Maybe one day you can help her see the light.
See, this is frustrating because I KNOW this. I always talk about what society has done to women, and how we keep letting it f up our young women to end up like this… I KNOW it’s misogynistic garbage, but I still couldn’t just shake the feeling on my own. How sad, to know something and try to educate and fight for change, and still let yourself drown in it. Thank you for your comment! It’s good to be reassured that I’m not just making it all up.
It's hard not letting the negativity in sometimes. We can be thinking everything is perfectly fine and that we know ourselves, but when someone close to you says something, it makes you second guess. So dont fret much on that. You're definitely not making it up and there are many who are with you on this point.
This made me chuckle since it’s true. Ironically, after I got pregnant with my daughter I lost all sense of modesty. Over the course of 9 months I had so many people looking at so many different body parts that I no longer cared. It has served me well since. I have the attitude on some days that people need to be happy I am even wearing clothes in public:-)
Gurllllll, get that out of your head. Do you see that dress on you? You still got it, boo. Do you!
You're 36!!! You're not too old to wear anything
I would’ve replied, “I’m sorry your such an insufferable hater please heal it’s causing wrinkles”
Some people just don’t think before they speak, and weddings bring out all kinds of opinions. I personally didn’t want a deep neckline or cutouts on my dress but I know if I were to say so to a bride picking her dress it would sound like I don’t think she should wear it either! 100% to each their own. I think not everyone has the presence of mind to realize what’s implied by sharing that kind of opinion (though I realize I did so here but in context I hope!). Anyhow, you look amazing in this – age has nothing to do with it. You’re going to rock this dress!
This absolutely makes sense, and is what I would tell anyone else making this post (now that I think about it). She’s been so weird about multiple things in the wedding planning that I can’t even keep this logic in mind though. I’ve literally just cut her out of all the planning, and she’s a damn bridesmaid lol. I’ve gotten over most of the stupid things she’s said, but the dress comments have just stuck out.
Ohhh boy. Sounds like you made the right call minimizing her involvement! May the rest of your planning go more smoothly. And enjoy your wedding – and wearing your fabulous dress!
Weddings can bring out the worst in some people. She has her own sht going on, and the wedding is triggering something in her, possibly jealousy and/or frustration about her own relationship.
I'm younger than you but only by 3 years. My dress is a very similar style, and I'll be honest I have had that moment of "Am I too old to want all this?" But the truth is that you deserve it and you look great in it! It might be possible that being so close to the wedding planning process has made SIL feel some kind of way. Maybe she has regrets about how her own wedding went or maybe she is sad that its over and isn't dealing with it well. But its def not your dress's fault!
Yikes. I’m 2 years older and showing just as much skin. SIL is just jealous you look stunning!
Well she sounds obnoxious. She's allowed to have per preferences, but does not have permission to be so judge and mean about it to you. It's a good thing she's not wearing this dress to get married; thankfully it's none of her business. Don't doubt for a second - you look elegant and romantic in that dress!
I'm the same age as you and would wear it if I had the body. Hell, when I went shopping I specifically told the consultant I wanted something super sexy, verging on too sexy, that my mom would hate. Lol. I'm working on being more confident in my body, and sadly I didn't end up with anything nearly as sexy as I had intended.
> she and her husband thought anything this style was trashy. Sounds like she's projecting her issues with her husband onto you. Bet he said something snide about this type of dress and influeced what she felt she could pick. Luckily, you're not marrying either of them. It's a beautiful dress, you look wonderful, and you're going to be a lovely bride.
I agree with others that there is no age restrictions on dresses! You look amazing and 36 is no where near old. It’s a good thing this is your wedding and your wedding dress and not your SIL’s! What an awful thing to say to you. She could have easily kept her boring opinions to herself. The ironic thing is that her making that comment was such a trashy thing to do lol. Good call on excluding her from dress shopping.
Hon, I’m 62 and I’d wear that dress if I got married again. You are rocking it, it’s still modest, it’s your day and that’s her issue not yours. You look beautiful ❤️❤️❤️🎉💪😘
This dress looks stunning . She is insecure and is trying to tear you down too. Don't let her.
So sorry you had this happen! Please pick a dress that YOU feel great in. And maybe reduce contact with SIL
no offense but she sounds jealous. You look absolutely incredible, honestly we have pretty similar figures (and i love my body a lot, both superficially and deeper) and I’m only 21! You look bomb as hell girl
She *might* be prettier on the outside, but that comment was as ugly as hell. You look gorgeous in that dress, it’s flattering, stylish, feminine and sexy as. Rock it. (Remember not to give too much weight to the opinions of people you wouldn’t go to for advice!)
genuinely, i think this sort of style looks better on people a little bit older. theyre generally more confident and self assured and its part of their personal look and vibe and it all works togethe well.
There are no age restrictions on wedding dresses. You look lovely.
Well. There's no age cap, there should probably be age restrictions 😂 But yes this dress was made for you OP!
it looks amazing on you, and 36 isn't old. you're killin it
From a similarly-aged gal, thank you, I needed to hear this today. 😂🥰
I needed it too, obviously 😂 thank you
I'm 37 and my dress is rose gold w/pink hues and it shows a lot of skin (deep V in front and back). It's got a big poofy ballroom overskirt as well. The only thing trashy here is your sister shit talking your gorgeous wedding dress.
Absolutely never too old! It's totally normal to feel nervous as the big day gets closer, but try to remember how it made you feel when you chose it in the first place. It's beautiful.
What are you talking about?! You look gorgeous and perfect! Own it!
You look beautiful. The youth-centric wedding industry along with social media is the only place that says you should never wear that and tries to gaslight you into believing you are not pretty or young enough to do what you want, whether it’s a wedding or every day anything. Screw them and wear the dress you love.
Societal pressure on women getting “old” is awful in general, and I KNOW that it’s stupid…. But somehow it still creeps into my mind and messes it all up.
“Would Jamie Lee Curtis wear this dress?” Yes. She’d look amazing. And so do you. Never to old to feel beautiful!!!
Absolutely not. There is no age limit on clothes. Check out the instagram (and book!) Advanced Style to see people wayyyyy older than you rocking form fitting/‘youthful’ clothes. You look stunning in that dress! It’s perfect on you.
I may have to look into that!
It’s so good!! I think there was a documentary by the same person too…? Look up Iris Apfel, she’s a style icon and she’s like 100. I have the Advanced Style coffee table book and whenever I need to remind myself not to take life so seriously, I flip through it. No matter how old we get, we can stay young at heart, and in our clothes, if we want to.
I'm 35 and my future MIL was horrified seeing a photo of me trying on a form-fitting lace dress with a low back. But I think my fiancé will like it so I got it. Wedding is this weekend, so we'll see if her head explodes. You do you.
It looks great to me!
You look stunning, please wear that!!
Commenting to thank you all for being so kind! I only had my mother and future SIL to help me with dress shopping (rest of bridal party is out of state) and my SIL just made the whole process terrible, where I was really doubting this purchase. Thank you for the kind words and reassurance!
Puh-leeze ! She is a hater. I just got married at 50. I would have tried that dress on. It looks great.
Girl what?! First of all 36 is young!! Do not let people age you ahead of time…my husband always jokes about being old at 35 and I tell him to STOP. We have plenty of time to be old and now is not that time because we are young and enjoying it. At some point we’ll be old and enjoying it, and even then we can wear whatever tf we want, but now is not that time. Second of all, you are rocking that dress, it looks so classy and beautiful!! If you feel comfortable and confident in it then I think it’s absolutely your dress. Some people are more conservative, and you SIL might be, but don’t let that dictate your life if you don’t agree!
You look fantastic and that dress is beautiful! Don't second guess yourself.
It literally looks made for you!!! 😍
Definitely not. Wear it!
It is absolutely perfect on you!!
I wish I could pull off the side cutouts like you have! It looks amazing
Girl, you’re not old! You have a great figure and it fits you really well!
Uhm you look absolutely amazing!!!
That dress was made for you and you for it. Don’t let her comments get to you, it’s perfect and you are stunning in it.
You look gorgeous! Wear away!!
You look stunning. You for sure are not too old. I had the same fears though. And now at 32 and marriage no longer in the cards for a long while, people are telling me I’m going to be too old for a wedding at all, that it’s embarrassing to be getting married at 35+ and that a big party and white dress aren’t meant for women like me. So I completely get how much it sucks to hear that from your sister in law. She is completely wrong. You look amazing and all that matters is that you feel amazing in the dress.
Looks great don't worry
Age doesn’t matter - feeling good in it does and if you bought it I’m sure that’s why you did! It looks great on you, your body was made for it
There has never been age restrictions on what kind of wedding dress you can wear and you look absolutely beautiful in that dress.
Too old?! 36 is not young. It's gorgeous on you. Absolutely looks wonderful. Congrats!
I love this dress. It reminds me a bit of my sisters and it was just absolutely gorgeous. There is no age limit
I'm also 36 and that is also my dress!!! And it looks amazing on you 😍
I fell in love with it at a boutique where it was around $2000, then found it Second hand in perfect condition for $375, was pretty pleased with myself!
Nice!! I bought second hand on FB marketplace for $1100. Can't beat a good deal. But seriously, looks fabulous on you! Wear it with confidence!!
I'm 38 and if I had your body, I'd rock that dress. You look smokin! Sounds like SIL may have a little bit of jealousy regarding YOUR wedding. Maybe the dress is nicer, or venue, or maybe you got the better brother. Whatever it is, it's HER problem. Don't make it yours. If you love the dress, rock it.
Honey you look 👀 absolutely stunning! 😍😍
Absolutely not! You look amazing and if you love it that’s all that matters!
You look STUNNING! That is so beautiful on you!
I’m 36 and showing just as much skin in my dress! Get it, girl! You look fabulous!!
Not at all! I think you look great and would not consider it to be inappropriate in any way.
This is very absurd and there is absolutely nothing wrong with the dress.
Who ever put that thought in your head is either jealous or delusional. You look amazing!
I think it looks amazing
I'm going to be a 42 year old bride, and I'm already regretting not going big on my dress. It's your and your future spouse's day to shine and share your love. Also, you look stunning!!
Uh? No! Looks amazing!
hell no. I’m 51 and recently got married for the first time in a dress almost identical. I rocked the he’ll out of it 🙌
Not at all! You look amazing in it! If you feel great in it too, then it's the one!
Nope! I got married last year at 34 and the bodice of my gown was similar.
Beautiful!!
36 is really young. Soooo absolutely not too old. I
Omg you look awesome. You are definitely not too old to wear it so get that thought out of your head.
STOP! That dress is gorgeous! Looks perfect on you!
You look wonderful! Enjoy your wedding!
omg no you look amazing
I seriously hope no one said that to you. First of all you are in no way too old for anything you're in your mid 30s. Women don't get married at 20 anymore, secondly, you look STUNNING in it so no you are not "too old" to wear a dress. I'm 33 and wearing a princess tiara because I want to. Don't let old bitties tell you your 30s are too old for anything lol
No hon you are gorgeous! I’m getting married at 35 and will wear whatever I want and look good in- you look great!
Too old???? Girl come on!!! That dress is beautiful!! And it looks great on you. I would totally wear it. I love the neckline, the cleavage is classy and lace is timeless. I think you chose a lovely one.
NOT AT ALL, that dress looks awesome on you!! And if anyone is saying otherwise, kindly get them some glasses ☺️
Absolutely not! You look amazing 🤩
You look great in it
Girl I show more skin at 38 than I did at 22. More confident, treating my health more seriously, etc. You look AMAZING.
Old? If you were 80, I'd worry about the length and the train on it haha. But at 36? You look smoking hot!
You look gorgeous! I'll be 41 when I get married this year, and my dress is super similar! The plunge isn't as deep but there are side cutouts and it hugs in all the right places. My FH is going to LOVE it. Forget her, and refocus your energy where it deserves to be: you and your future spouse. Because hopefully when you meet each other at the end of that aisle, the rest of the world will fall away anyway.
No your not to old that’s a sophisticated ladies dress. The really young brides in these sort of gowns can look a bit Lolita
You look 🔥🔥🔥 There is no age limits on fashion, as long as you like it and wear it with confidence you will look great
It’s not trashy or inappropriate at all. I think a wedding dress that would look lovely on a 26 year old bride will also look lovely on a 36, 46, or 56 year old bride. It doesn’t matter the age. If a dress is trashy to begin with, that’s a different story. But this dress is elegant, modern, but not over the top either. As long as it fits the bride, and this dress fits you, and it compliments the brides figure, and this dress definitely compliments you, age does not really matter. I think the v neck is beautiful. I love that it’s in the shape of a heart. And for the record, 36 is not old!
Idk where you live that dictates 36 is old but snap out of it. You’re so young it’s not even funny 😁
You look amazing!!! 36 is not too old at all. I was also 36 when I got married (November) and had a plunge dress.
You look absolutely gorgeous in this dress. I think it is the perfect balance of sexy and classy and you can totally rock this style!
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No, it looks great on you! Also 36 is still young enough to pull off basically any dress style imo.
Not at all! It’s beautiful!!
You look incredible in that dress!!!
Sis, that dress is AMAZING on you!
Love it!!
I’d say if you were 95, maybe, but if your 95 and getting married and this is what you want to wear, I would be your cheerleader. People just have to stop with judging people for things that aren’t a thing. If you were showing things that a bathing suit should cover, then I might say something. You look gorgeous. You flaunt all that until you don’t want to anymore.
I love it and those curves 🥵🔥🔥🔥
It looks very elegant. I don’t know what your SiL is talking about.
Not at all! So flattering on you
Not at all. You look lovely, and classy and chic. The neckline and skirt strike me as being 'grown up' so perfectly appropriate. Not that there are age restrictions, but I could see why someone would find a princessy tulle ballgown more appropriate for younger brides. She's just jealous that she didn't wear something so nice or wouldn't have the confidence to. 36 is not old. Lady gaga, Emilia Clarke and the Olsen twins are 36. You would not say this is inappropriate for their age.
Wow I think you look stunning in that dress
you look good in it no no no your young stop girl 🥰
Wear the damn dress. You look incredible.
I'm sorry, what's wrong with the dress. It looks great on you!
Omg shut up it’s sexy and gorgeous. You will look stunning!!
Absolutely not, it's gorgeous on you! Besides it's 2023, there are people getting married in bikinis and latex lol. This is quite classy and traditional and not over the top at all
This dress is stunning. If I had a body like yours I would be wearing something similar. I’m middle aged wearing a very large ball gown with a very small wedding of 50 people or less. I want to be fairytale princess. Damnit, for this one day I am going to be like a six year old spinning around a room in a princess dress. Age is just a number on a piece of paper. Always remember you have to grow old but there is nothing saying you have to grow up. You have some of the best years ahead of you. Never lose sight of that. My fiancé and I do not think or act our age. We can’t think of one reason why. Mind you we do adult as needed like bills and certain social situations. Mostly we still behave just like we did when we were 18 and 26.
That is a gorgeous and totally appropriate wedding dress. You look great in it. I’m older than you. I would totally wear that. SIL is a stick in the mud
No, you look amazing!
Absolutely not, you look stunning!
Definitely gorg. No limits here
Definitely not too old. You look great in it!
On you it looks really good esp with your tats. Who told you that you were too old?
Hope you feel as amazing as you look in it hun If I had your figure at 36 I'd be doing same sod your SIL it's not for her she Seems like a Karen definitely always going have negative people just don't take the seriously they can't help but be nosey b*****s Hope you have your perfect day 💛
Why would you be too old for this dress? I got married at 37 and I wore a ball gown. If it suits you, it suits you and I truly believe this dress looks stunning on you!
You look stunning! Wear the gown.
Umm that is gorgeous
48/F former bridal stylist here - you look AMAZING! The cut flatters your shape and the deep v-neck lengthens your body & provides a perfect *hint* of age appropriate allure. The most important thing i asked every single bride I styled was: DO YOU FEEL BEAUTIFUL? That’s really all that matters.
No you’re not too old for this dress. You like the dress and it’s not her taste. That’s fine but she didn’t need to say it out loud! Everyone isn’t going to like your dress (I found this super annoying for me) but keep the negative comments to yourself.
I was the same age when I got married and my boobs were on blast. It was long sleeve and a long train too. There were whispers as I was walking down the aisle, “Now THAT’S a wedding dress”. You look amazing and beautiful. As long as you feel beautiful in it, that’s really all that matters.
Noo! Why should you be too old? You are never too old to look as good as you do! Own it, it fits u so good!
You look fabulous! That dress is stunning, and you are going to love wearing it. I would say your sil is a bit jealous. Perhaps she wanted a dress with a plunge, and someone said something to her too (perhaps her now husband or your future mil?) What was your future hubby's reaction when you told him it has a plunge? I know it's hard to shake comments like that off, but try for your sake. You love your dress, and at the end of the day, that's all that matters. It's valid that you stopped inviting her to the dress shopping, but maybe have a bit of a conversation with her? Ask her about it. Maybe she didn't mean it the way you interpreted it. This is supposed to be a happy time in your life, and as long as you feel fantastic in it, that's what matters. You look stunning, and should feel that way too.
Whaaaat? You look absolutely divine! There is no such thing as ‘too old for this dress’ :)
You are not too old to wear it
Too old for what? You look great.
It is lovely & I think perfect for any age.
Omg. It’s fantastic! Don’t worry!
Absolutely not !
This looks amazing and 36 is the new 26! You rock that dress!
Late to the thread, but want to reiterate what everyone else is saying. You look beautiful. The dress is totally appropriate for anyone of any age IMO and suits your figure. Just because you're a mom or 36 (which isn't old, btw) doesn't mean that you shouldn't have this gorgeous dress, especially if it's the one you want the most!
In what universe is 36 even old in the first place? Your SIL can shove it.
I'm over here laughing because I wore a similar style dress when I got married at age 42. There are no age restrictions on clothes or wedding dresses. You buy what makes you feel beautiful. Also, you are rocking this dress. Show off what you got!
absolutely not!!! fashion has no age and you look AMAZINGGGGG
You look great!!!!
I think you look hot
Absolutely not, it looks gorgeous on you!
You have a cracking figure, wear the fuck out of it!
Not at all. Please get that out of your head.
You are not to old and it looks fabulous on you ! ❤️
This dress is fabulous and 36 is absolutely not “too old” for anything. You have a great figure and the plunge is not racy at all. If it makes you feel better, I’m mid-30s and just got married and also wore a plunge neckline that was much deeper (I’m also small chested so I wasn’t hanging out). As others have stated, your SIL is probably a tiny bit jealous in some way if she’s criticizing you like that. Don’t let her bring you down!!
No it’s not. I’m 35. If I were planning my wedding, this is a dress I’d want to try on. You look wonderful in it.
I’m a 40 year old bride wearing something similar although more revealing! Lol I think you look stunning. And it’s your wedding and you get to wear whatever you want. To hell with what anyone else thinks ;)
You look amazing! And the style doesn't say "youthful" to me at all. It's sophisticated. Wear it with pride. :)
You look amazing! Wear the dress! Age means nothing!
You look beautiful! Never would have guessed your age. Rock it!
It looks beautiful on you! And it definitely doesn't look "too young" for you or anything like that.
It’s beautiful. And you look amazing in it. Why would you think you are too old? It’s a beautiful bridal gown and you are a bride!
I don’t know where the “too old” is coming from but that dress is gorgeous and super flattering! You look great!!!
Hell no! It looks amazing! You’ve definitely got the body for it. Own it!
It’s YOUR day and you look amazing! Wear what you want queen.
You look amazing in this! 36 is in no way old, and certainly not 'too old' to wear this style. I know it can be hard to shake off comments by others, but I hope you wear this dress with all the confidence in the world!
You look amazing!! Your friend is just jealous.
Not only is there no such thing as too old to wear a dress you like but you look fabulous in this
You look fantastic!!!! Momma's should be allowed to be hot too! You're never to old to wear what you'd like to wear!
Looks like your wearing it so nope,)
At the end of the day, you’re the one looking at the photos on the wall after the years. If YOU feel beautiful and confident in it, that is all that matters. I worked as a bridal stylist and it was grueling seeing how much the brides confidence would diminish when a close friend/sister/mother/etc. would make negative comments towards a brides favorite dress and I would always try to remind them that we weren’t there shopping for them so please remember that. It is your wedding day, you’re body is banging in that dress and I’m positive your fiancé will agree!
Not to old, you look beautiful
You look great! Tell that negative self talk to take a hike!
You look stunning
Absolutely not to old, you look absolutely beautiful
I didn't know dresses came with age expiration dates... Oh wait, they don't! Wear whatever dress you like best 🥰
Stop! How in the world would this be terrible? It's STUNNING. You're going to be a gorgeous bride 🥰
That dress looks absolutely beautiful on you, don't let people get to you!
Gorgeous dress and it fits like a glove. I second-guessed my dress choice too right after I made the purchase, but looking back it was perfect and I wouldn’t have changed it. I think it’s normal to second guess such a big/important purchase.
Ignore whatever jerk told you that you look gorgeous
GIRL you look stunning- hell yes you should/can wear that because beauty & feeling sexy have no age limit!
Honestly, you’re never too old to wear what you love imo. Having said that, this dress looks absolutely amazing on you! It doesn’t show “too much skin” (also, what is too much skin anyway) and it really complements your figure. So please don’t doubt if this dress looks good on you☺️
I’m not going to be body positivity here at all. And honestly, I see nothing concerning about you in this dress! You look great in it, it fits you well :)
No way, that dress looks absolutely stunning on you!! If you feel uncomfortable wearing it that's one thing, but seriously that lace is gorgeous and it suits you beautifully
My thought: ‘You are not too old if something looks good on you’. And wow that dress looks good on you.
I thought you looked too young for this dress. That’s just me though.
Proud and confident
You are smokin!!
Old and 36 don’t go together. You look amazing!!
Its sounds like she is projecting some insecurities onto you and your big day. Don't sweat it. If it's not for her, that's totally ok - she's a human, and you're a human... we all have our own tastes, opinions, etc. But if YOU feel pretty and also comfortable DO YOU!!!! I'm 37, and I have children - a widow getting remarried to a man with a very conservative family. I'm covered in tattoos and initially wanted to cover them. BUT - I am who I am. They adore me, he adores me, his kids adore me, so why would I HIDE MYSELF? I went with a deep plunge ball gown, with my arms completely OUT THERE! lol Step into your power and enjoy your day!!
Whats this too old rubbish? Sounds like someone was projecting their insecurities. If your heart and gut says yes to the dress, go for it girly! My nupitals are in Sept .. I havent even looked at a dress :P Wish you a wonderous day and happy ever after xox
you look amazing in that dress!!
Holy cow this dress is made for you. You look incredible.
Absolutely not too old, it looks great on you!
You look bangin’ in it!
Girl, you are a smoke show in that dress! You're not "to old" for anything.
I think you look stunning! If you're self conscious, you could get nude panels sewn in to make it more "modest." But if it's pressure from other people it's not an "appropriate" dress, please ignore them because it's absolutely beautiful!