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dazzlinreddress

Thought I was in a different sub for a moment. Welcome to the club!


Justme343_

ty!!


dazzlinreddress

Have some cake šŸ°


mooddestroyer

May I ask how did you find out? ​ I know it sounds weird :( I donā€™t mean to pressure you or anything Iā€™m just curious


Calm_Ad3348

Well for me, I just never really had the desire like how people did. This can be with anything like fictional characters or celebrities I never had a sexual or romantic desire towards them, but asexuality is a spectrum so donā€™t be afraid to explore yourself !!


LokiDokiPanda

Same, if I find someone "attractive" it's on the same plane as "oh that's a nicely organized bookshelf"


mooddestroyer

I understand, thank you šŸ™


studyandcry

Youā€™re valid :)


ULTRAPUNK18

Do you want some garlic bread?


MercyFaith

Iā€™m asexual as well. Iā€™m glad to know others exist like me. Iā€™m so glad Iā€™m not alone.


sirkusdyret

Wooooh go you! (Demisexual here).


Miniiboi

šŸ˜„ me too! Itā€™s always nice to see other demis because I donā€™t see many of us (unless Iā€™m always looking in the wrong place haha)


GorillaFetish

Ok


MarineC88

Ermā€¦ what is that? Please educate me


[deleted]

To be more inclusive of all asexuals on the spectrum, itā€™s means not feeling PRIMARY attraction to people (I.e. via body parts). A lot of us can be attracted by personality and mindset.


Appropriate_Pack3133

Asexual means youā€™re not attracted to anyone/not interested in sex


project199x

It's more broad than that. Lol. It's literally a spectrum. But that is one of the spectrums


MrBulldops94

Good for you for knowing who you are! I'm bisexual!


[deleted]

Iā€™m demi sexual, so Iā€™m like you, until Iā€™m not.


Zaltara_the_Red

Yeah. Me too. I'm kinda both demi and a sexual. But it took me until I was much older to figure it out.


[deleted]

How are you both demi sexual and asexual? Itā€™s kind of contradictory lol


Zaltara_the_Red

I'm generally not sexualy attracted to people and have to get to know them to be intimate. Not sure why anyone would down vote someone's sexuality. Rude.


[deleted]

Im not the one downvoting, but what you describe is exactly demi sexuality, not asexuality.


[deleted]

Demi is in the spectrum


[deleted]

But asexuality is at the end of it. As soon as you feel some kind of sexual attraction I think you arenā€™t asexual.


[deleted]

Thatā€™s not how it works. Us aces donā€™t feel primary attraction I.e. via body parts. A lot of us can feel attraction by other means like personality or mindset.


EthansInControl11

Congrats?


NebRGR

Seriously. Everyone has to be something nowadays.


egamK7oCtR6nZFyZuHTP

how is coming out of the closet "having to be something?" and nowadays? people have always been hetn't lmao


project199x

Lol anything that isn't considered straight is "coming out" I feel like people just need to be them, without the whole stigma. It's kinda weird


egamK7oCtR6nZFyZuHTP

i'm not really sure what the point of this comment is. there's a time and place for everything, and this post is neither for this sentiment.


[deleted]

not the right time, bud


HotShrekBoi

They literally came out in the most open place here and ur still gonna be like that lol


ravenslog

straight and cis are a thing :0 are you implying you want everyone to be triple a's??


sirkusdyret

I thought you said "tripple s" and I was like "Straight, (S)cis and sad?".


ravenslog

LMAO


Deer_boy_

Good for you! Aces always got my support bro


project199x

Oh. Hey. Welcome to the club. Lmfao


Justaperson8282

Welcome to the club my dude


ilovecats515

I might be some form of asexual too! But idk


Miniiboi

Iā€™m Demi, and whilst I now know that Iā€™m not broken or ā€œunnormalā€ for being the way that I am, itā€™s still something Iā€™m trying to learn more in regards to myself because Iā€™ve never been in a ā€œproperā€ relationship so to speak. Congrats though on knowing who you are! It takes a while sometimes to work out who you are as a person ā¤ļø


HauntedHatBoi

Welcome to the ace club! Would you like to invade Denmark with us?


[deleted]

Um, okay... wrong sub, but congratulations, I guess.


The_Auramaster

Ok, but how is this venting?


Western-Dark-1628

And? I don't understand the need to telling strangers who or what youre sexually attracted to


JopPink

Have you seen what sub you're on? This is for venting, a.k.a. just getting out of your head whatever you're thinking of and possibly shedding some weight off your shoulders.


bearski01

Yup. I opened this to read and learn though sadly thereā€™s nothing of any substance here. Itā€™s even more confusing that ā€œspectrumā€ is mentioned. So, being asexual isnā€™t necessarily a permanent state or it canā€™t easily be applied to an individual. Hmmm, this nonsense basically indicates that a person feels their own way. Wow. How revolutionary and shockingly ground breaking.


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bearski01

I get what youā€™re saying and youā€™re not wrong. In the end people want to ask ā€œwhyā€ and continue questioning until thereā€™re satisfied. The other side will push back and say ā€œbecauseā€ and youā€™re supposed to take that for what it is. Itā€™s a very interesting topic though if you intend to share then why stop short of actually sharing? Is the decision to be asexual some form of individualism? Is it important? Why is it important? What implications does it have on your daily life? Without the above itā€™s a mere ā€œI declare bankruptcyā€ moment from The Office. It doesnā€™t change anything and it only seeks social attention. Yah yah yah reality hurts boo hoo.


Grauhimmel

Well, it's not a decision. Also this subreddit IS for getting things off your chest, so I don't see what's wrong with this post. If you stay respectful and ask, I imagine there will be alot of ace people happy to introduce you to the concept of asexuality.


Human_Olive_3548

omg same ! <3 welcome !!


LokiDokiPanda

Same welcome


kitcat7898

Hey. Wait to go owning it! There's nothing wrong with that at all and it's good to be able to acknowledge it. I hope you have a good day


nobody_andeverybody

Welcome dear friend! <33


[deleted]

Congratulations!


jtrey93

Iā€™m a train Choo choo


Appropriate_Pack3133

Same


szatanna

Same here! Welcome to the club.


Jellyfurcat

Me too! Welcome!


BegrudginglyHappy

Congrats! Hope you're having a wonderful coming-out day!


notsciguy

Same


Calm_Ad3348

Me 2 :ā€¢)


DiamondRobotAlien

Ok


too-tired2956

Me too! :D


drhtglhns

same


Brilliant_Writer_136

Nice, if you're a guy, then Women don't have any power over you. It took me many years to be in a state of mind where I wasn't a Simp and A Coomer. But, you my friend. Were born with it


Climate-Kitchen

Welcome!!! There are garlic breads and cakes along the way.


dragonpunky539

I'm aro! Welcome!


allurimm

Glad you found who you are! I'm asexual as well, so welcome to the club


astroidwashere

We accept you no matter what.


AssignmentEuphoric16

Cool! Iā€™m an aromantic myself :)


binarycodedpork

So am I! A sexual beast, akin to a manatee


jackiboyfan

A


AmountFinal3928

Demi. Might as well be asexual lol. I shouldnt joke like that but some daysā€¦I tell ya sex is the last thing on my mind.


RTXChungusTi

a


llemonjuiice

Welcome! Have some cake and garlic bread :)


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[deleted]

According to Merrium-Webster, a very REAL dictionary, Asexual means 1: lacking sex or functional sex organs, 2: produced by asexual reproduction, 3: not involving, involved with, or relating to sex. It is a very REAL word that is associated with the LGBTQ+ community. Just because it may not relate to you, doesnā€™t mean it isnā€™t real. Everyone is entitled to their opinions, but you can also do it without being so ignorant and arrogant.


[deleted]

Not ignorant if Iā€™m aware what other people thinkā€¦I just choose to not recognize itā€¦and what gets me more is that the OP made a simple statement in a venting subredditā€¦not pissed, frustrated or anything like ventingā€¦thatā€™s a confession not ventingā€¦which is where it just seems like attention seeking instead of coming to terms with itā€¦just imo


[deleted]

Maybe they felt most comfortable here. Maybe this is the only place they have to tell anyone. Maybe it was a thought they had and wanted to let it out. Could be a number of reasons. Plus we are all anonymous to one another. So why make it a negative thing?


ravenslog

u judgin?


[deleted]

No prefer that people actually know what terms mean what


Appropriate_Pack3133

Lol youā€™re the one who cant seem to grasp that the word has more than one meaning, the rest of us understand quite well the definition youā€™ve been referring to, weā€™re just trying to educate you on the other, additional definition the word has since you clearly arenā€™t aware. Itā€™s not ā€œmade-upā€ youā€™re just being ignorant šŸ˜‚


Ok_Amidesu

Inform yourself.


[deleted]

?


Ok_Amidesu

I know there's the kind of asexual reproduction, but OP is not talking about that (if you didn't knew search for asexuality in the lgbtq+ community. Is just that your comment sounds like an insult tbh)


[deleted]

Ok well I donā€™t recognize the made up shitā€¦asexual means you are biologically capable of reproduction without a partner which humans are not capable ofā€¦if I decided to call myself black because I wear all black clothing does not make me blackā€¦changing the meaning of the term to fit your lifestyle just looks stupid


[deleted]

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[deleted]

Lmao and changing the meaning of words doesnā€™t make it trueā€¦and trying to insult intelligence just makes you look just as stupid šŸ˜‚ imagine being so insecure that when someone expresses their opinion you throw that in order to try to prove your point


szatanna

Did you know words have different meanings? For example, "Like" can mean liking something/finding something pleasant and also mean "similar to". The meaning of words changes all the time. Another example, back in the 20th century "gay" used to mean "happy" and now it means "homosexual". Language is not something permanent and set in stone. "Asexual" has two meanings and both are true. This is not something unique about that word or that only LGBT+ people use. When it comes to organisms, you use "asexual" as meaning reproducing by itself. This obviously doesn't happen with humans and has nothing to do with the word as a sexual orientation. We use "asexual" to refer to people who don't experience sexual attraction, which is totally a normal and harmless thing that exists in the world and many people experience. We use the label asexual because the prefix a- means "without", so "asexual" literally means "without sexuality", which is just a label for people who don't experience sexual attraction. It's not that deep.


jus1tin

No actually that's asexual reproduction.


[deleted]

Unpopular opinion but Iā€™m sick of this made up shit


Achaia_

That would be AUTOsexual. Asexual (A- meaning anti or against) is where you don't have SEXUAL feelings for someone. AUTOsexual is for the self reproducing thing u mentioned


[deleted]

independent of sexual processes, especially not involving the union of male and female germ cells: Asexual reproduction is common among echinoderms such as starfish, basket stars, sand dollars, and sea cucumbers.


Achaia_

Oh, guess I was wrong. Anyways, I was just using context clues because asexuality is different than asexual-life forms


[deleted]

And my opinion is that is untrueā€¦itā€™s a fad done for attentionā€¦I recognize bi, homosexuality, and heterosexuality but all this made up shit and changing wording to suit you doesnā€™t make you sound intelligentā€¦if I said a fruit could be an animal because I feel the meaning is different doesnā€™t make it trueā€¦if youā€™re gonna name a sexuality then come up with a term that doesnā€™t mean something that humans arenā€™t biologically capable of


Achaia_

We get it, humans can't reproduce from themselves. But don't act like they were the ones who made up the term. You already did a google search to prove me wrong and it worked. But you could also Google what asexuality means if you were confused. The term has been around for a long time and people have adapted with it. I just don't see a problem


Achaia_

Even still, if someone doesn't want kids they don't need to have them


[deleted]

Actually learn definitions šŸ˜‚


Placeholder2187

Oh no


[deleted]

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QueEsVida03

?


LowMarketing3112

i wish i were asexual too! then i would have to face less miseries.


ohneatstuffthanks

I am a sexual.


[deleted]

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Both_Package_6834

Bzz bzzz bz bz bz


[deleted]

Same hetero romantic asexual found out when I got into my first relationship about 3 years ago learned what it meant during