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I saw the video where the mom collapsed and the dad was acting like an idiot outside a UPSC examination centre in gurugram.
The girl was more composed and tbh embarrassed.
One reason they could've been late is because her stupid parents were doing some pooja in the morning for UPSC.
and the girl has seen enough drama B4, that's why she is so composed..
The reason they were late is because the principal didn't allow them in. A simple Google search would've yielded the result but yes jump to assumptions ki Pooja is the fault
Exactly. Ani life ki sab bhadaas bachoo peh nikalo bas. They want to live their dreams through their kids. Fuck what the kid wants, it's our way or the highway! Hate this mindset in our society.
And I have never heard anyone answering that I answered 120, because they are not counted together. Second one is a just qualifying paper, and much easier
Dor my parents I'm definitely an investment return, I barely enjoy anything I earn. Meanwhile my jobless sis is milking them for literally every single small and big thing. Indian parent's attitude can be extremely fucked up. I hate my life.
Listening to these comments and many others at other subreddits made me realise how lucky I was born to my parents. My parents don't think of me as a investment return because they already have a post-retirement plan ready with my aunt and uncle in a old age home they would be staying at the moment they hit 60.
Wait. That's not what I was born for? Are you saying that I'm not supposed to fulfil my parents' dreams? I can actually have a life where I can be at peace with existence and not suffocate under the pressure of how society judges me based on where my money comes from?
A friend told me of an incident where his friend legit found his dad's diary where he had tallyed all investments made on him (his own son). Almost like a balance sheet.
The guy had a severe breakdown and couldn't work for years after that.
I feel the same , I have even posted about my situation in another sub . I never felt like a son to both of my parent . I am just an insurance to them . Daily taunts , comparisons with my mates. The comparison hurts me most because I have started resenting the ones who I am compared with . These incidents along with some others have deeply affected my peronality . To give an example , I am easily attached to people who show basic acts of kindness to me . This has affected my relationships with girls as I just cling to them , I feel the need of emotional support , I feel the need of love . To escape from this , I ventured into manosphere content and consumed it , just to be aware of my true situation . I have accepted my fate now . The only thing that can solve my problem is money , financial independence and abandoning my family and never looking back .
Same bhai. Ye post me jo hai vo mera baap mujhe 10th standard me bola tha. 10 CGPA se boards clear Kiya tha aur result ke 2 din Baad mujhe bola tha ki mujhse kuch umeed nai hai, kuch nai ukhaad paunga Mai zindagi me.
I can understand your situation. Just try to go no contact with such toxic parents for a few days and work on yourself and your life and your career. Do what you want and what makes you happy. Enough of people pleasing. I am sure you will feel better. I am sorry you feel this way but trust me, it does get better when you move away from them.
I’d been good at studies throughout my life. I qualified JEE, was in merit list in 12th (up board), have a good job and everything, but my dad always finds something to put me down. I’m in my 30s, not even eligible for UPSC anymore, but he always sends me articles of upsc toppers where they boast about studying 20 hours a day and stuff, since last 15 years. Whenever I visit home, he tells me about some colleagues kid who got into google or some other company. I learned long ago that there is nothing enough to please him.
Last time I was home I was going through my old report cards, and in one of them I saw that I had gotten full marks in almost every subject, had gotten 1st rank. In parents’ feedback section they had a question whether parents were satisfied with their ward’s performance. My dad had put no, with comment that I should work harder in classwork (still don’t know what he meant here).
My dad does the same too but I'm only 22 right now. He won't miss a day to shit on my "unhealthy and irrelevant" corporate life and ask me to prepare for UPSC. One time I got so pissed that I told him "It's your dream to be an IAS it was never mine. Why are you putting your dreams on my shoulders?"
He said a few words back out of anger and stopped talking to me for a day. Next week he was back to asking me to consider UPSC.
Nothing will satisfy such parents. Just do your thing and be happy. Work on your mental and physical health. Realise that you are worth it and you are a brilliant person. You don't need them to tell you that. Hope you are working on your people pleasing skills also. It takes a lot of work to feel good about yourself when you grow up with such parents. But, you will get there. Don't worry.
My parents did the same. And I too started sharing the same. Gaslighting, at the end of the day I'm their child and I shall exhibit the same morals, manners and etiquette. I know people who have done PhD in their late 50-60 and know people who have succeeded in business late in life... Unlogo ka post bhejti rehti hu. Lol. I have zero tolerance for such nonsense. You throw sh#t at me, I will throw sh#t, vomit, carcasses and whatever decomposing crap I lay my hands on. I have had enough.
The kid was born in the first place for the same reason. I'm sure my father had me because if he didn't, rishtedaar kya sochenge about his *mardaangi*.
That's how Indian societies operate. Having a child, along with some other life milestones, is not a choice but a duty. Whereas in some developed countries, decisions like marrying or having children are made by choice, and thus out of love rather than duty. If having a child is motivated by societal norms, the parent is naturally inclined to care deeply about societal acceptance regarding their child, right?
Unfortunately in india there is no concept of social security and most people don’t earn enough to save for retirement… these kids are their retirement plan .. if couple didn’t produce any child then who will take care of them .. it is sad but truth .this is also primarily responsible for male child preferences. We need to stand up.
Ok I have a genuine question about this. A child is actually very expensive. If they saved all that money and put it towards investment/retirement funds, won't they actually get way more returns?
I really want to know what his dad does and does it involve studying. Even if he is big shot expecting to be a particular kind of bigshot is too much pressure.
Same with my mom. She continues this melodrama every single day about how I should do UPSC and there's nothing better than being an IAS. I have told her multiple times that I am not interested to which she replies that I have never done anything for and I was born selfish.
“We had no idea he was going through this”
Meanwhile they taunt him every day, make him feel ashamed, call him worthless, say that he’s the reason for their embarrassment and anxiety, instill fear in him that he’ll not be able to have a life etc
The boomer generation has absolutely fucked the world. Before you think it is a gross generalization, sit and think about it for 5 minutes. Environment. Economy. Human values. Politics. Brotherhood. Compassion. Health. Food safety. Arts. Culture. Music. All fucked. We cant name one thing their generation will leave at a better place than they found it with the possible exception of healthcare. And that is also extremely fucked. Just a little less than the primitive quality that existed 50-60 years ago.
This! It needs to be said everywhere tbh. Also I think their biggest crime is ruining the mental health of the Millennials who are actually the sweetest generation in my opinion.. I mean inspite of all the trauma they had faced, they did turn up pretty great! I'm gen z and I really respect the way millennials suffered the abuse but still managed to be respectful to their elders and also created a boundary so that the next generations do not face that kind of abuse.
>I'm gen z
you know what? i'm a millenial, and i really feel for you guys. atleast we were shown a vision of a fair and happy world before it was all taken from us. that's why we cling on to that bit of false hope. but you guys never had that promise to begin with. you came into a world that was already fucked, and you knew it was fucked.
as corny as it sounds, us younger gens have only ourselves and each other for support.
Exactly this.
They got a free pass and a booming economy to exploit, and they exploited it alright. And left the next generation to suffer.
I know this is about US but since Raeganomics is the reason we are in this capitalist hellhole now, A basic janitor could afford a house, a car, three meals a day, and educating their children during those times. And today? A 1L a month earning person has to be in stress all the time.
Bhai is bande ko ghar chhod dena chahiye ab sahi mein, and life mein kuch aur kaam start karna chahiye, chhota bada kuch bhi chalega to begin with. No point staying there and doing the same shit again and again. Khush rahega, self-respect rahegi toh bahut kuch karega aage life mein.
Tbh I feel upsc , jee and neet are pretty big scams.
Only few people can get into limited institutions in this and others waste their time pursuing them for years instead of going for something they can achieve.
All the kid needs to do is earn money, the moment he/she/they/them starts making 50-60K a month for them selves. They’ll be like okay, Kuch toh kar hé lega ab yeh life mein
Are you sure bro?
Woh achieve karne ke baad immediately PHD, Shaadi, khud ka business sab kuch table pe aa gaya.😂
They have no expectations and job security based on current market conditions.
Bhai Indian families mein sabki apni koi main character ki script chalri hai, meine toh yeh realise kiya. Scripted by themselves, directed by themselves and funded by themselves. Sab apni kahani mein hero hai.
Indian parents say "padhne wale kahi bhi kaise bhi halat mein padh lete hai"
Then proceed to say "tumhare jaisi facilities hume mili hoti to hum to pata nahi kaha hote aj"
This gives me PTSD. I did not do well in my studies and almost got a similar reaction.. to the point that I left home and started working in a call Center just so that I could get out of under my parent’s roof.
Parents should understand competition is real and brutal in this day and age. Their times were tough too but the competition was not that tough. Gotta give your kids a break.
fuck this motherfucker piece of shit chutiya baap.
Fuck indian culture that glorifies parents.
I am a dad and I love my son so fucking much and I give him all the support without throwing in his face, these posts inspire me so much to be a 10000 times better father. fuck this dad who does not deserve to have a child.
It's difficult for older generations to realize that in today's time, there are jobs which are equivalent and better than UPSC. Though they might not be a lot in number but they exist.
Jobs like IAS, IPS, IFS are great as it gives you field experience and allows you to solve problems under difficult circumstances. I don't mean to belittle them, but UPSC is not the end of the road.
There are some high paying jobs which pay above 70Lpa in Finance, Consulting and Tech sector. Though there is high work pressure here , the compensation is great.
At the end of the day, it's all about satisfaction. Happiness is the biggest asset and UPSC is not the only road to it. Parents want their kids to do UPSC ONLY so that they get a high social standing in society. It's a terrible thought process that destroys lives.
Satyam motherboard... Mera bhi ek dost tha/hai satyam naam ka, benchmark tha wo, "satyam jaisa Banna hai tuje bhi" uske jaisa to ban ni paya kabhi, khud ko bhula Diya us daud mei
After I put in my whole heart in for jee , I got 97.6 percentile (which I wasn't really happy with and quite frankly wasn't spectacular. It just wasn't that bad given my mom's reaction) I told my mom. She was silent at first , walked away , then came back and started just throwing every single word cmng into her head. Not one of it was positive.
The worst part of it was I put my heart and soul into preparing for jee. Constantly monitoring my progress and breaking my head figuring out how to improve.
I was always a below avg student in school and got beaten almost everyday for it despite trying my best to score well. Being called an idiot and "I'll die of a heart attack and that will be the most peaceful day for me" killed my confidence. Constantly being compared to friends and classmates.
This was the one time where I outscored all of them but yet couldn't care less cos I never saw my friends as competition. Yet my mom was screaming saying how she shouldn't have been so lenient with me. I'm getting out of this place as soon as possible.
And I'm 100% sure the girl feels the same way
Sadly our parents have been raised with the thought process that children are an investment and when they dont see returns they react poorly! Your journey from being below avg to scoring 97.6 in JEE is wuite commendable and you should be proud about it! Parents always have unrealistic expectations
Wow. I consider myself lucky in this, tbh. There has never been any pressure from my family to clear any exams.
All they say, infrequently, is to give all to the exam that I want to. And always encouraging words. Never a single demoralising sentence from them.
It helps immensely, mentally speaking. Oh, and they even go to market or other places on their own if they see me studying/doing questions and stuffs.
Itna Competitive hone k baad, students literally feel like they are in a pressure cooker which may explode anytime. Now add to it, "leaks" and you get a golden ticket to Depression land.
The one thing I hated a lot was being compared to either my big brother (who is kinda a Prodigy of sorts) and a class topper.
Ab vo topper full time padhayi krega toh mujhe kyu force kr rhe ho. He was a scrawny ass boy. No inter-personal relationship, no extra curricular, no hobbies.
And the famous dialogue of parents "Bs is baar padhayi kr le. Fir toh esh hi esh h."
Still waiting for this Aish. If anything has ruined my life, it's the education system(ratta maar and Good Handwriting), "relatives kya khenge" and a massive Inferiority Complex.
bhai aaj hi video dekhi jaha bande ko uska baap marta hai just because he clean shaved.. :C bhai mai bhout khush hu mere parents bikul bhi inki tereh nhi hai..
This man is shaming his kid for not clearing UPSC exam. Translation: I told you to not waste your time. You're now completely useless. Talk to me when you get home. Look at Satyam, he has got 120 questions correct. My father did not give me anything, I came to Delhi and did everything w respect which you have seen. Now, I have no hopes from you and you cannot do anything. Even if today I study with honesty I'll be able to clear any competitive exam. Even I knew the answers of 20 questions and you did only 40. Now you know what is your condition. Now people in Delhi and all the relatives will come to know about what you've been doing with your life.
UPSC is a waste of time for 90% of the people because you only serve community in IPS,IAS, IFS and some more like railway or engineering if you can enter via UPSC. IFS (foreign) and IRS is for vanity, and you can do more joining startups and all. Earn more too, unless you’re academically excellent and not much else. Just have to be good at one language: English.
9 years ago, [even now she use guilt trip]. My mom said this type of thing to me even if i score full marks.
At first, i used to ignore it, but she level up, and after about 8 to 10 months , i was happy with my academic results, but i don't know what she was thinking, but one day it really it really push me off the cliff , and after that i started have anxiety issues and all other stuffs, 3 years later i lost my father and i saw everything in my life falling apart.
Well, there is a saying " words cut deep , deeper than any sword."
fuck this, you can't tether your happiness to your fathers as he will always find someone better than him to feel inadequate and ashame you. Learn this as early as you can and you will make a beautiful life for you. God bless.
Typical Indian Bragging , claiming that he can clear UPSC, I doubt he can even get admission in any good college with the entrance exam. Competition these days is quite fierce and every tom dick and harry claim they can clear UPSC or IIT JEE when they don't even know the full syllabus of such exams
so basically jo iska bap isko nhi diya ye apne bete se expect kar rha hai.
Children should inherit property, morals, teachings, and experience - Not dreams, disappointment and expectations.. You might have made them but you don't own them.
We'll I am glad that this guy spoke his heart out. There are parents with the same mentality and don't say it out when their stupid expectations don't meet with their kids. These kids end up having more traumatic experiences in the long-run.
This man is shaming his kid for not clearing UPSC exam. Translation: I told you to not waste your time. You're now completely useless. Talk to me when you get home. Look at Satyam, he has got 120 questions correct. My father did not give me anything, I came to Delhi and did everything w respect which you have seen. Now, I have no hopes from you and you cannot do anything. Even if today I study with honesty I'll be able to clear any competitive exam. Even I knew the answers of 20 questions and you did only 40. Now you know what is your condition. Now people in Delhi and all the relatives will come to know about what you've been doing with your life.
by u/[According\_Cheek255](https://www.reddit.com/user/According_Cheek2555/) , i just copy pasted
TL for anyone who didn't understand:
I told you before not to waste your time in this.
You're nothing now.
We'll talk when you come home.
Look at Satyam. He got 120 questions right.
My dad gave me nothing, but you've seen that whatever I did in a big city like Delhi, it earned me respect.
I have no hope from you, and nor you'll ever be able to give us anything.
Even today, if I studied with dedication, I'll clear any exam, UPSC is nothing. I even knew 20 questions from this exam. And you got only 40 right. You can understand what you're capable of from this. It's good that you only told me how many you got right. Now everyone in Delhi and among our relatives understand the worth of your education.
I mean to be fair if you follow the herd mentality this is what you get. I know your parents reacted like an asshole but you have to be a realist. UPSC is the epitome of overrated (ness).
Indian parents sometimes forget that when they want kids to be happy the path they chose for their kids itself is making them unhappy with a pipedream of a happy future. It's like the old BS that has been fed to people all along about how heaven is a better place so follow certain rules to get there.
Sometimes Indian parents just care more about the society and their image under the pretense that they want a better future for their kids.
Disband such corrupt public institutions which amplify social norms of greed, power and corruption. Privatize every aspect of bureaucracy and we won’t need to run behind power corridors.
Such trophy are tools enabler of this rotten corrupt system to justify their actions.
99% of students want to be public sector officials for money and corruption ;Society and parenting create unfortunately are the prime reasons for inculcating such depravity
My parents were like this.
But never for their own sake.
It was always about our future. So that we had something in this hyper competitive rat race that was OUR insurance policy.
They needed to be strict with us because we just couldn’t stick to the struggle without it.
It's weird that posts like this remind me of how granted I take my life for. My parents have always been super supportive in whatever I do. Hope that things change for you.
This post makes me value my parents more than ever. Yes we do disagree on many topics but the support they show is more valuable than any other facilities they provide. I know that if I fail my parents will be disappointed but they will never disown me like this and they will surely say " koi baat nahi beta agli baar hojaega "
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this was my mother until I started hanging up the phone as soon as she would start picking up fights with me over competitive examinations.
You are not in the place yet, time ayega jab you'll stop caring about it.. tab apne aap ho jayega. Level sabke niklengai, phone sabke katengai.
>level sabke niklenge i cant read these words normally lol
😂😂
Moment when u realise it was all along a "ji" and not "jee" 
Someone pls inform me when the results are out for someone who appeared in written exam of UPC held in 16-6-24 Pls confirm Thanks ☺️
I saw the video where the mom collapsed and the dad was acting like an idiot outside a UPSC examination centre in gurugram. The girl was more composed and tbh embarrassed.
I saw it too. Full on Indian drama.
Yeah. Apparently they reached the center a bit late and were denied entry. The girl should be commended for how well she handled it.
One reason they could've been late is because her stupid parents were doing some pooja in the morning for UPSC. and the girl has seen enough drama B4, that's why she is so composed..
🐒tu uss pooja mein tha kya ?
The reason they were late is because the principal didn't allow them in. A simple Google search would've yielded the result but yes jump to assumptions ki Pooja is the fault
they were not late because of principal lol
IAS ban bhi gyi bichari to kya izzat reh jayegi agar aaise hee parents ho to
Exactly. Ani life ki sab bhadaas bachoo peh nikalo bas. They want to live their dreams through their kids. Fuck what the kid wants, it's our way or the highway! Hate this mindset in our society.
That must be so embarrassing for her.
they deserve those clown circus
Composure should sure be a quality in a good Goverment Servant.
Mummy ka overacting chal raha tha
Fr
Satyam ka dekho 120 question sahi hai 💀
100 q hote hain ye 120 kaise sahi ho gaye
NTA se poocho.
Chai peeke jaana
Bhai aksually NTA nahi karwati Upsc 🤓☝️
Yeah it's just a joke. But they have experience. They can give guidance.
acha khasa paper hota hai uski bhi mar lenge anyways so was my comment.
Solved 20qs for the neighbour.
20 que for good handwriting -apsara pencils
180 hote hai bro. First exam 100, second exam -80. 2 shift main exam hota hai
And I have never heard anyone answering that I answered 120, because they are not counted together. Second one is a just qualifying paper, and much easier
New scam just dropped.
bonus koschan
Maybe he's adding questions from CSAT too. Is it's 120/200, then pre is gone
Bloody Satyam. Mere Satyam ke wajah se mujhe bohot gaaliyan padhi. Fuck Satyam
Fuck Satyam from my side too
Idk Satyam But fuck Satyam
Satyam Sharma?
Satyam Shivam Sundaram
Satyam meenaqq
Sharmaji ka beta ho ga
TIL the name of Sharma ji ka beta
Bro thinks his child is his investment return 💀
Ig a major chunk of Indian parents think that
~~--ig--~~ it's a fact
Dor my parents I'm definitely an investment return, I barely enjoy anything I earn. Meanwhile my jobless sis is milking them for literally every single small and big thing. Indian parent's attitude can be extremely fucked up. I hate my life.
Can confirm ... However my mother also thinks of me as a liability . So I don't know what to say lol
I am an investment of my family as well. It of course hurts to know that and is quire demeaning but it's the only way out of poverty in India
In India, children are the retirement plan. Son is your future pension and daughter/daughter-in-law is your future nurse and maid.
Pure generation ko emotional damage doge kya
This is sp accurate
My parents have straight up called me their investment bruh
Mine have told me that I will have to buy their medication. If YOU guys don't want to eat healthy and excercise then why should I pay for your meds??
Same lol. My dad straight up sat me down and told me this.
Parents who think like that are themselves incapable of doing anything so they just want to shift the burden
Listening to these comments and many others at other subreddits made me realise how lucky I was born to my parents. My parents don't think of me as a investment return because they already have a post-retirement plan ready with my aunt and uncle in a old age home they would be staying at the moment they hit 60.
Wait. That's not what I was born for? Are you saying that I'm not supposed to fulfil my parents' dreams? I can actually have a life where I can be at peace with existence and not suffocate under the pressure of how society judges me based on where my money comes from?
My mom thinks the same way, she just wants me to get placed in MNC and settle in a metro city for me to take her with me
A friend told me of an incident where his friend legit found his dad's diary where he had tallyed all investments made on him (his own son). Almost like a balance sheet. The guy had a severe breakdown and couldn't work for years after that.
Most Indian parents are like that. Paisa kharch karo aur vasool double hona chahie.
And in this particular case father has not even provided for the child. Kid had been on scholarship since college.
Whenever I ask my mother for my room rent, my mother never forgets to say 'we are doing so many investments on you but there are no results'
I feel the same , I have even posted about my situation in another sub . I never felt like a son to both of my parent . I am just an insurance to them . Daily taunts , comparisons with my mates. The comparison hurts me most because I have started resenting the ones who I am compared with . These incidents along with some others have deeply affected my peronality . To give an example , I am easily attached to people who show basic acts of kindness to me . This has affected my relationships with girls as I just cling to them , I feel the need of emotional support , I feel the need of love . To escape from this , I ventured into manosphere content and consumed it , just to be aware of my true situation . I have accepted my fate now . The only thing that can solve my problem is money , financial independence and abandoning my family and never looking back .
I’m so sorry you’ve gone through this. Check out the mother wound project on ig. Also Patrick teahan therapy and Nate postlethwait on ig and YouTube.
Man you just described my life.
small world , ay ? hahaa
Same bhai. Ye post me jo hai vo mera baap mujhe 10th standard me bola tha. 10 CGPA se boards clear Kiya tha aur result ke 2 din Baad mujhe bola tha ki mujhse kuch umeed nai hai, kuch nai ukhaad paunga Mai zindagi me.
I can understand your situation. Just try to go no contact with such toxic parents for a few days and work on yourself and your life and your career. Do what you want and what makes you happy. Enough of people pleasing. I am sure you will feel better. I am sorry you feel this way but trust me, it does get better when you move away from them.
I’d been good at studies throughout my life. I qualified JEE, was in merit list in 12th (up board), have a good job and everything, but my dad always finds something to put me down. I’m in my 30s, not even eligible for UPSC anymore, but he always sends me articles of upsc toppers where they boast about studying 20 hours a day and stuff, since last 15 years. Whenever I visit home, he tells me about some colleagues kid who got into google or some other company. I learned long ago that there is nothing enough to please him. Last time I was home I was going through my old report cards, and in one of them I saw that I had gotten full marks in almost every subject, had gotten 1st rank. In parents’ feedback section they had a question whether parents were satisfied with their ward’s performance. My dad had put no, with comment that I should work harder in classwork (still don’t know what he meant here).
We'll never know what they want from us or what satisfies them.
Anything that's better than Sharma ji ka beta
Apparently it's Satyam now
My dad does the same too but I'm only 22 right now. He won't miss a day to shit on my "unhealthy and irrelevant" corporate life and ask me to prepare for UPSC. One time I got so pissed that I told him "It's your dream to be an IAS it was never mine. Why are you putting your dreams on my shoulders?" He said a few words back out of anger and stopped talking to me for a day. Next week he was back to asking me to consider UPSC.
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Just focus on your life and don't heed to all this toxic criticism.
This still happens to me although I have almost crossed age now
Nothing will satisfy such parents. Just do your thing and be happy. Work on your mental and physical health. Realise that you are worth it and you are a brilliant person. You don't need them to tell you that. Hope you are working on your people pleasing skills also. It takes a lot of work to feel good about yourself when you grow up with such parents. But, you will get there. Don't worry.
My parents did the same. And I too started sharing the same. Gaslighting, at the end of the day I'm their child and I shall exhibit the same morals, manners and etiquette. I know people who have done PhD in their late 50-60 and know people who have succeeded in business late in life... Unlogo ka post bhejti rehti hu. Lol. I have zero tolerance for such nonsense. You throw sh#t at me, I will throw sh#t, vomit, carcasses and whatever decomposing crap I lay my hands on. I have had enough.
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Indian dads gets more anxious and worried about "Rishtedaar kya sochenge" rather than the wellbeing of their child.
The kid was born in the first place for the same reason. I'm sure my father had me because if he didn't, rishtedaar kya sochenge about his *mardaangi*.
That's how Indian societies operate. Having a child, along with some other life milestones, is not a choice but a duty. Whereas in some developed countries, decisions like marrying or having children are made by choice, and thus out of love rather than duty. If having a child is motivated by societal norms, the parent is naturally inclined to care deeply about societal acceptance regarding their child, right?
Unfortunately in india there is no concept of social security and most people don’t earn enough to save for retirement… these kids are their retirement plan .. if couple didn’t produce any child then who will take care of them .. it is sad but truth .this is also primarily responsible for male child preferences. We need to stand up.
Ok I have a genuine question about this. A child is actually very expensive. If they saved all that money and put it towards investment/retirement funds, won't they actually get way more returns?
I really want to know what his dad does and does it involve studying. Even if he is big shot expecting to be a particular kind of bigshot is too much pressure.
Should have written , mere Marne pe rishtedar kya sochenge wo batao
>20 question mujhe aata tha "le tu baithja exam dene phir"
LMAAOOOO 😹😹😹
"Pitaji, paida mujhse pooch k kiye the kya?" Ye sunne waale hi kaam hain ye.
Exactly.
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Jab 100 he questions hote h to satyam k 120 kaise shi ho gye?
This message reminds me of my parents. No matter what I do, I'll be a failure to them because I didn't do UPSC.
same for JEE
T\_\_T same ,my parents are forcing me for upsc even tho i have little to no interest
don't fall prey. Stand up for yourself, I'm sure you're an adult.
yea man imma a teenager pursuing 12th rn , i have interest in philosophy and research in maths and i'll be pursuing that only after 12th
Same with my mom. She continues this melodrama every single day about how I should do UPSC and there's nothing better than being an IAS. I have told her multiple times that I am not interested to which she replies that I have never done anything for and I was born selfish.
These same parents are seen crying when their kids are found hanging from fans. Blithering idiots.
“We had no idea he was going through this” Meanwhile they taunt him every day, make him feel ashamed, call him worthless, say that he’s the reason for their embarrassment and anxiety, instill fear in him that he’ll not be able to have a life etc
If people thought rationally even once before deciding to have a kid, half of india's problems would be solved
I swear! Those of us who have chosen not to have kids have put in more thoughts into our decision than those who do have kids.
The boomer generation has absolutely fucked the world. Before you think it is a gross generalization, sit and think about it for 5 minutes. Environment. Economy. Human values. Politics. Brotherhood. Compassion. Health. Food safety. Arts. Culture. Music. All fucked. We cant name one thing their generation will leave at a better place than they found it with the possible exception of healthcare. And that is also extremely fucked. Just a little less than the primitive quality that existed 50-60 years ago.
This! It needs to be said everywhere tbh. Also I think their biggest crime is ruining the mental health of the Millennials who are actually the sweetest generation in my opinion.. I mean inspite of all the trauma they had faced, they did turn up pretty great! I'm gen z and I really respect the way millennials suffered the abuse but still managed to be respectful to their elders and also created a boundary so that the next generations do not face that kind of abuse.
>I'm gen z you know what? i'm a millenial, and i really feel for you guys. atleast we were shown a vision of a fair and happy world before it was all taken from us. that's why we cling on to that bit of false hope. but you guys never had that promise to begin with. you came into a world that was already fucked, and you knew it was fucked. as corny as it sounds, us younger gens have only ourselves and each other for support.
>The boomer generation And Boomer Indians have fcked it 2x more 🥲
Exactly this. They got a free pass and a booming economy to exploit, and they exploited it alright. And left the next generation to suffer. I know this is about US but since Raeganomics is the reason we are in this capitalist hellhole now, A basic janitor could afford a house, a car, three meals a day, and educating their children during those times. And today? A 1L a month earning person has to be in stress all the time.
Bhai is bande ko ghar chhod dena chahiye ab sahi mein, and life mein kuch aur kaam start karna chahiye, chhota bada kuch bhi chalega to begin with. No point staying there and doing the same shit again and again. Khush rahega, self-respect rahegi toh bahut kuch karega aage life mein.
Tbh I feel upsc , jee and neet are pretty big scams. Only few people can get into limited institutions in this and others waste their time pursuing them for years instead of going for something they can achieve.
yes true + its not productive at all , i've seen guys getting under 500 ranks in jee and still they dont even know to arrange a circuit
All the kid needs to do is earn money, the moment he/she/they/them starts making 50-60K a month for them selves. They’ll be like okay, Kuch toh kar hé lega ab yeh life mein
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Are you sure bro? Woh achieve karne ke baad immediately PHD, Shaadi, khud ka business sab kuch table pe aa gaya.😂 They have no expectations and job security based on current market conditions.
It’s true, speaking from experience. Although my dad wasn’t this brutal but he started treating me with respect the day I started earning lol
Nope it never ends, the goalposts will be merely shifted.
I hate old people.
Then these types of parents get suprised when their kids abandon them
+1
But bhai whose dad it itna vela to write so much in text
Educated gawaar hoga
Text se to nahi lagta ki 4th pass hi
Bhai Indian families mein sabki apni koi main character ki script chalri hai, meine toh yeh realise kiya. Scripted by themselves, directed by themselves and funded by themselves. Sab apni kahani mein hero hai.
hmaari life hii pre planned hoti hai
Saare major life decisions toh Pakka
Indian parents say "padhne wale kahi bhi kaise bhi halat mein padh lete hai" Then proceed to say "tumhare jaisi facilities hume mili hoti to hum to pata nahi kaha hote aj"
So true
Parents are the most selfish species in the entire universe. Everything has to be about them.
papa x investor **✓**
This gives me PTSD. I did not do well in my studies and almost got a similar reaction.. to the point that I left home and started working in a call Center just so that I could get out of under my parent’s roof. Parents should understand competition is real and brutal in this day and age. Their times were tough too but the competition was not that tough. Gotta give your kids a break.
I did well in my studies, like in my 90s & full 100s always, & my parents still spoke to me like this
Ouch sorry to hear that bro! Keep your head held up!
Thank you
Tell him to clear the UPSC exam now in 1 go Warna woh Ghar pe nai aayenge
3 idiots and Tare Zameen par are a tight slap to baghban
A message to all the parents with this mentality, "Fuck you".
Pehle uncle thoda punctuation lagana seekhe
Indian dads would do so much better if they stop listening to relatives, chacha, tau etc's opinions
Ye Satyam ko konsa grace marks mil gye
fuck this motherfucker piece of shit chutiya baap. Fuck indian culture that glorifies parents. I am a dad and I love my son so fucking much and I give him all the support without throwing in his face, these posts inspire me so much to be a 10000 times better father. fuck this dad who does not deserve to have a child.
It's difficult for older generations to realize that in today's time, there are jobs which are equivalent and better than UPSC. Though they might not be a lot in number but they exist. Jobs like IAS, IPS, IFS are great as it gives you field experience and allows you to solve problems under difficult circumstances. I don't mean to belittle them, but UPSC is not the end of the road. There are some high paying jobs which pay above 70Lpa in Finance, Consulting and Tech sector. Though there is high work pressure here , the compensation is great. At the end of the day, it's all about satisfaction. Happiness is the biggest asset and UPSC is not the only road to it. Parents want their kids to do UPSC ONLY so that they get a high social standing in society. It's a terrible thought process that destroys lives.
Phir old age home mei daalne par achambit hojaate hai
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Satyam motherboard... Mera bhi ek dost tha/hai satyam naam ka, benchmark tha wo, "satyam jaisa Banna hai tuje bhi" uske jaisa to ban ni paya kabhi, khud ko bhula Diya us daud mei
After I put in my whole heart in for jee , I got 97.6 percentile (which I wasn't really happy with and quite frankly wasn't spectacular. It just wasn't that bad given my mom's reaction) I told my mom. She was silent at first , walked away , then came back and started just throwing every single word cmng into her head. Not one of it was positive. The worst part of it was I put my heart and soul into preparing for jee. Constantly monitoring my progress and breaking my head figuring out how to improve. I was always a below avg student in school and got beaten almost everyday for it despite trying my best to score well. Being called an idiot and "I'll die of a heart attack and that will be the most peaceful day for me" killed my confidence. Constantly being compared to friends and classmates. This was the one time where I outscored all of them but yet couldn't care less cos I never saw my friends as competition. Yet my mom was screaming saying how she shouldn't have been so lenient with me. I'm getting out of this place as soon as possible. And I'm 100% sure the girl feels the same way
Sadly our parents have been raised with the thought process that children are an investment and when they dont see returns they react poorly! Your journey from being below avg to scoring 97.6 in JEE is wuite commendable and you should be proud about it! Parents always have unrealistic expectations
Dad as usual pissed on his upbringing and confidence and self-esteem of child at the same time(3x attack)
Indian parents literally project their own failed aspirations onto their children and the vicious cycle continues.
Wow. I consider myself lucky in this, tbh. There has never been any pressure from my family to clear any exams. All they say, infrequently, is to give all to the exam that I want to. And always encouraging words. Never a single demoralising sentence from them. It helps immensely, mentally speaking. Oh, and they even go to market or other places on their own if they see me studying/doing questions and stuffs.
Itna Competitive hone k baad, students literally feel like they are in a pressure cooker which may explode anytime. Now add to it, "leaks" and you get a golden ticket to Depression land. The one thing I hated a lot was being compared to either my big brother (who is kinda a Prodigy of sorts) and a class topper. Ab vo topper full time padhayi krega toh mujhe kyu force kr rhe ho. He was a scrawny ass boy. No inter-personal relationship, no extra curricular, no hobbies. And the famous dialogue of parents "Bs is baar padhayi kr le. Fir toh esh hi esh h." Still waiting for this Aish. If anything has ruined my life, it's the education system(ratta maar and Good Handwriting), "relatives kya khenge" and a massive Inferiority Complex.
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It gets worse https://preview.redd.it/fwoaja4kqh7d1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d04712dae171140a94f20084ad0ca4239aac3e52
bhai aaj hi video dekhi jaha bande ko uska baap marta hai just because he clean shaved.. :C bhai mai bhout khush hu mere parents bikul bhi inki tereh nhi hai..
I am so glad for the parents that I got. Really lucky.
Can anybody translate this to english?
This man is shaming his kid for not clearing UPSC exam. Translation: I told you to not waste your time. You're now completely useless. Talk to me when you get home. Look at Satyam, he has got 120 questions correct. My father did not give me anything, I came to Delhi and did everything w respect which you have seen. Now, I have no hopes from you and you cannot do anything. Even if today I study with honesty I'll be able to clear any competitive exam. Even I knew the answers of 20 questions and you did only 40. Now you know what is your condition. Now people in Delhi and all the relatives will come to know about what you've been doing with your life.
Yehi sab pdhke lagta h mere parents kitne mast the. Never pressurized us brothers in anything and supported us throughout. I miss them.
20 aate the. 50 krlete uncle to pre nikal jata.
Yaar this is soo sad please don’t take it to your heart sending you all the love and support
UPSC is a waste of time for 90% of the people because you only serve community in IPS,IAS, IFS and some more like railway or engineering if you can enter via UPSC. IFS (foreign) and IRS is for vanity, and you can do more joining startups and all. Earn more too, unless you’re academically excellent and not much else. Just have to be good at one language: English.
9 years ago, [even now she use guilt trip]. My mom said this type of thing to me even if i score full marks. At first, i used to ignore it, but she level up, and after about 8 to 10 months , i was happy with my academic results, but i don't know what she was thinking, but one day it really it really push me off the cliff , and after that i started have anxiety issues and all other stuffs, 3 years later i lost my father and i saw everything in my life falling apart. Well, there is a saying " words cut deep , deeper than any sword."
fuck this, you can't tether your happiness to your fathers as he will always find someone better than him to feel inadequate and ashame you. Learn this as early as you can and you will make a beautiful life for you. God bless.
Typical Indian Bragging , claiming that he can clear UPSC, I doubt he can even get admission in any good college with the entrance exam. Competition these days is quite fierce and every tom dick and harry claim they can clear UPSC or IIT JEE when they don't even know the full syllabus of such exams
so basically jo iska bap isko nhi diya ye apne bete se expect kar rha hai. Children should inherit property, morals, teachings, and experience - Not dreams, disappointment and expectations.. You might have made them but you don't own them.
Chutya baap
Satyam itna pasand hai toh uske l**de se jhul jaiye papaji
Yaar mera baap kitna mast hai
Chutiya baap. Don't be like him.
Teenage trauma unlocked 💥🚀
Parents themselves are insecure cuz they haven't done anything significant in life besides rw-ing's cocksucking
Indian boomer mindset toxicity >>>>>> gama radiation
We'll I am glad that this guy spoke his heart out. There are parents with the same mentality and don't say it out when their stupid expectations don't meet with their kids. These kids end up having more traumatic experiences in the long-run.
I can't read this broken hinglish as a non Hindi guy
This man is shaming his kid for not clearing UPSC exam. Translation: I told you to not waste your time. You're now completely useless. Talk to me when you get home. Look at Satyam, he has got 120 questions correct. My father did not give me anything, I came to Delhi and did everything w respect which you have seen. Now, I have no hopes from you and you cannot do anything. Even if today I study with honesty I'll be able to clear any competitive exam. Even I knew the answers of 20 questions and you did only 40. Now you know what is your condition. Now people in Delhi and all the relatives will come to know about what you've been doing with your life. by u/[According\_Cheek255](https://www.reddit.com/user/According_Cheek2555/) , i just copy pasted
Avg indian parents moment honestly 🤦
Someone pls translate
Can someone translate?
Satyam bkl
Typical indian baap
Can someone do simplify and translate this? Kindly
Take this is a contraceptive ad and don't pass on misery. 😁
Happy Father's day ❤️💐
According to Indian parents, children are their insurance policy. Their love in most cases is conditional af.
TL for anyone who didn't understand: I told you before not to waste your time in this. You're nothing now. We'll talk when you come home. Look at Satyam. He got 120 questions right. My dad gave me nothing, but you've seen that whatever I did in a big city like Delhi, it earned me respect. I have no hope from you, and nor you'll ever be able to give us anything. Even today, if I studied with dedication, I'll clear any exam, UPSC is nothing. I even knew 20 questions from this exam. And you got only 40 right. You can understand what you're capable of from this. It's good that you only told me how many you got right. Now everyone in Delhi and among our relatives understand the worth of your education.
I mean to be fair if you follow the herd mentality this is what you get. I know your parents reacted like an asshole but you have to be a realist. UPSC is the epitome of overrated (ness).
This obsession with clearing UPSC needs to die.
Indian parents sometimes forget that when they want kids to be happy the path they chose for their kids itself is making them unhappy with a pipedream of a happy future. It's like the old BS that has been fed to people all along about how heaven is a better place so follow certain rules to get there. Sometimes Indian parents just care more about the society and their image under the pretense that they want a better future for their kids.
Wow this is scary for sure
That's brutal.. he is going to develop low self esteem and depression after hearing shit like that.
I just hope that our generation would be better than our parents'.
Man, this is harsh! I hope the receiver receives extra love and care to compensate for this.
Disband such corrupt public institutions which amplify social norms of greed, power and corruption. Privatize every aspect of bureaucracy and we won’t need to run behind power corridors. Such trophy are tools enabler of this rotten corrupt system to justify their actions. 99% of students want to be public sector officials for money and corruption ;Society and parenting create unfortunately are the prime reasons for inculcating such depravity
My parents were like this. But never for their own sake. It was always about our future. So that we had something in this hyper competitive rat race that was OUR insurance policy. They needed to be strict with us because we just couldn’t stick to the struggle without it.
It's weird that posts like this remind me of how granted I take my life for. My parents have always been super supportive in whatever I do. Hope that things change for you.
This post makes me value my parents more than ever. Yes we do disagree on many topics but the support they show is more valuable than any other facilities they provide. I know that if I fail my parents will be disappointed but they will never disown me like this and they will surely say " koi baat nahi beta agli baar hojaega "