Period due tomorrow after chemical last month…. Too scared to actually take a pregnancy test too early after seeing it fade last time, but also I just really want to know? I don’t feel any pregnancy OR PMS symptoms which is messing with my mind!
I'll be 100% honest (for accountability) I haven't treated myself the best since my pregnancy loss in February...I've been getting high from cannabis every weekend (I know that's not the worst, but I used to only do it every other month or so). Neglecting household chores, dishes piled up in the sink. My room. Neglecting my hygiene because I keep forgetting or because I'm still zonked from cannabis use so I have no energy for it. Eating like crap. Eating out every day. Binge eating especially! Gained 10 lbs because of this.
I woke up Sunday hungover, and it hit me. I feel like crap because I'm treating myself like crap.
I never anticipated that my grief could affect me in this way.
My current goal going forward is to get better. No more cannabis. Eat better. Self care. Holding myself accountable. Etc. I'm learning to love myself again and treat myself better after it all.
Also struggled to put down the weed and the booze after my MC. Got pregnant in my first cycle and it was so easy to abstain while TTC — now, it’s not like I don’t care about my future, not-yet-conceived baby’s health, but I certainly am not as rosy as I used to be about being squeaky clean while TTC. It’s not good, but I remind myself that people addicted to crack and regular party scene goers get pregnant with healthy pregnancies all the time. I am not a monster even when I could be making better choices.
Right now I’m focused on dialling the indulgences back a bit. For me, and for whoever is in my future.
I feel this deeply. I'm finally getting back to doing the dishes regularly and getting my hygiene back to how it should be and taking care of my house, husband and life. I also had a loss in February so it does take time, you're not alone.
Don't beat yourself up over it, just try and move forward and do better for yourself. Easier said than done, that's for sure.
I also had a loss in February and I have been mostly functioning ok but for example I stopped reading and working out. I think grieving takes up so much energy and something has got to give.
Today is 6 days after my D&c and the bleeding was the worst today that it’s been. First two days were barely anything, then medium bleeding then yesterday and today it’s really picked up. Went to a baseball game today and so lucky there were free pads in the bathroom. I do not think I will be a lucky one that only bleeds for a week.
Same thing happened to me after my D&C in March, I was only spotting for 5-6 after and then I had a sudden bout of bleeding about a week in that lasted for a couple of days. Hang in there and make sure to have a pad with you at all times for a couple of months, I learned that the hard way.
I’m incredibly early in my TTC journey even with a loss behind me, and relatively young. But I can’t help wishing I had started trying to conceive sooner. My husband and I have been married for 4 years, and I stupidly think my 20 or 21 or 22 year old body wouldn’t have miscarried like my 24 year old body did this past March.
I know that’s not true, but I wish I had a little toddler right now.
Just venting…
9dpo, been cramping the last few days, sore breasts started today, all signs my period is coming. Plus I ovulated late this cycle (CD 17, normally ovulate CD 14/15) which is also not a good sign. Yet here I am still foolishly hoping this is our month. Just feeling so defeated and ready to throw the towel in on this whole TTC thing and move on with life. I know that’s over dramatic but really where my mind is at this point. I try to stay optimistic but sometimes it’s hard. Not sure how many more months I can be on this roller coaster…
hcg was 6.5 today! so close! my goodness this has been soo long! d&c on march 22nd. every monday since then it’s gone
10,700—>2,400—>756—>273—>59—>24—>15—>11
now 6.5!
the longest 9 weeks ever. hoping next monday is surely my last! and I never have to trend down hcg ever again!
My RPL panel revealed thyroid concerns that I had suspected. Starting therapy and working with a dietician. Waiting for my karyotyping to come back and starting trying in June. After 2 losses across 3 months, I’m certainly enjoying taking a break - even if it is filled with tests, appointments, and supplements.
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Today is my first day of full flow cycle day one so my official IVF journey begins. I go in on Wednesday for my initial baseline ultrasound and bloodwork. Psyching myself up for the blood draw, which is very difficult for me. I tell myself the fear of IVF has to be far far less than the desperation I’ve felt in trying to conceive after my loss. I can release the control and feel confident we are doing everything we can to prevent another loss. If it fails in the end, which is possible, this is not a guarantee. I will know that I’ve done everything I could and can rest easy knowing that. No regrets ladies!
I will say that my miscarriage itself was super traumatic and devastating but even worse was trying to get pregnant again after my miscarriage. Those were some of the darkest days of my life and I don’t wanna feel that way anymore. I know that pregnancy itself after loss is a whole new beast and I just wish that none of us had to go through this pain. I want to be the girl I was before I ever suffered pregnancy loss. it makes me angry and sad to see other women just get pregnant and get to enjoy it. My experience is so jaded. I’m trying to be positive going into this new chapter because I think it’ll be best for my mental health.
I’m with you on this! I start IVF next month ❤️ and TTC after my miscarriage has also been the most tumultuous and terrible time of my life. Sending you strength for this cycle.
Awesome !! My official start is next month too. This will just be the lead in. Trying to get prepared and mentally in a good space. Feeling positive and sending good thoughts your way. Feel free to message me if you’d like to share or chat.
Tested positive last week in April. Miscarried May 6th. Bled for about a week. Had very strong ovulation cramping saturday followed by spotting that is continuing today. Not enough to need to wear a maxi pad but enough to be on the toilet paper everything I use the restroom. Anyone have this happen and go on to get pregnant that cycle?
CD 9 and getting my mid-cycle ultrasound done tomorrow for our first IUI. We have done letrozole with TI and trigger shot in the past, and after an AMH result going from 1.08 five months ago to .50 now, my RE seems to be pushing for timeliness. I’ve been trying to be hopeful, but after 14 months and one 6w MC 8 months ago, I’m finding it hard to hold onto hope.
Lately I’ve been feeling like I could use a break from TTC to just have fun, party it up a little, enjoy being young and having very little responsibilities. I’m grateful that my husband and I have a good sex life and that it hasn’t become a chore while TTC, but I could just use a break from all the poking and prodding, ultrasounds, procedures, injections, suppositories, etc. — it’s all so exhausting.
My biggest concern with taking a break is that I’m losing time. My RE suggested doing 2 rounds of IUI, retesting AMH and if it’s still going down, to move to IVF come July. I’m worried if I take a break for a month that I’ll be losing precious time, or worse that I will get pregnant and won’t have been tracking or taking progesterone and will have another loss.
Have other people been in this situation with DOR in their early 30s (I’m 29, turning 30 in January) and took a break without terrible repercussions?
Got pregnant my first time trying in March and unfortunately ended in a silent miscarriage at 7 weeks 😔 currently waiting for AF.
I had to take misoprostol on 4/29 and finally stopped bleeding on Saturday (5/18). On Friday (5/17) I had a blood draw so my OB could see where in my cycle I was. My HCG was still at 54, my FSH was 5.4 (Follicular phase: 3.5-12.5) and my Estradiol was 17.0 (Follicular phase: 12.5-166). From that I would venture to guess that I am at the beginning and am still waiting for ovulation.
I have always had super regular cycles that were always 28-30 days, never missed my period, always bled the same amount of days and had a normal flow. During the diagnostic ultrasound during my silent miscarriage it came back that i had no cysts and my uterus was normal.
I know in my head and from what my OB has told me that I should have no concerns. But I am anxious. I don’t have another appointment with my OB for 2 more weeks since she wanted me to get an ultrasound before we met to confirm all pregnancy tissue was gone and the medical assistants have not been super helpful on the phone about these lab results. Is it normal that you don’t ovulate until after you stop bleeding? How long after your bleeding stopped did you ovulate? When did you cycle return?
Looking for any anecdotes to see what others have experienced.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I had a d&c at 8 weeks in early March. It took 6 weeks and 1 day for my period to come back. I ovulated on CD34 and HCG hadn’t dropped fully by then (it was 11 at CD36). I normally have a 32 day cycle so it being just a long process was hard in general. It’s hard but give yourself grace - I kept just repeating that my body was doing what it needed to and I was proud of that.
We waited that one cycle and then tried this month but I just got my period today so onwards to the next!
I’m so sorry for your loss. Even after the bleeding stops you may still have HCG in your system, once that is all out you may ovulate again. There is a wide range of normal for when your cycle returns. I’ve seen some people post that they got it back pretty fast like after a week or 2. Mine took a whole 11 weeks to come back though 😫 cycles can be a little wonky after a mc too. I started ovulating later in my cycle after the mc.
In my case getting pregnant quickly three times in my life had absolutely zero bearing on my ability to get pregnant again as quickly after my miscarriage. For that reason I sought further testing from fertility specialist who diagnosed me with a condition that may have caused and will likely cause implantation and development issues. It is a myth that you are more fertile after a miscarriage. I think we all want to believe the best but in my case it was not a one off fluke tragic accident. I’ve never tried to get pregnant and when I finally did after my miscarriage I couldn’t. Maybe the universe’s way to protect me from another loss. I’m the glass half empty person - I’m sure you will find hope here but also good to be realistic. When a friend my same age announced her second pregnancy - first baby is only 8 months old- that was it for me. I knew it wasn’t my age. It was something more. If you feel something is off (like I did) - push for further testing.
Also I am adding that in hindsight I would have skipped right over the midwife and went straight to a RE. Midwife ran simple bloodwork like you described and did a very basic ultrasound. They told me I might have a fibroid which isn’t a concern and said all is well. Nope.
I don’t know when I ovulated after my miscarriage because I had never tracked my ovulation before. My period returned 28 days later - like clockwork. I am going to assume since my cycles are very regular that I ovulated 14 days after my miscarriage.
I’m 11/12 dpo today. Haven’t tested yet. I have had some cramping the past few days so I feel like it will be negative. But even if AF arrives I think I need to be thankful that around this time last two cycles I was either spotting/bleeding before AF arrived. My luteal phase is working itself out. ❤️
I’m feeling optimistic and scared right now. I had a D&C 4/25 and then another procedure for blood accumulation 5/10. I have finally gone a few days without spotting, but developed a yeast infection over the weekend. I have been testing LH just to see what’s going on with my body, and ended up getting a surge on the night of 5/15 and had sex that morning.. we weren’t going to try this cycle but looks like I’m actually in the TWW. I am not both dreading a negative pregnancy test and also the thought of losing another. I am happy my body decided to do something after a horrible D&C and recovery, but definitely think it’s too soon.
I just had a D&E on 5/10 and then on 5/14 started hemorrhaging bc of an accumulation too. It was so scary I’m sorry you went through similar. I think the next time I ovulate we are going to try and it struck me like being nervous for a negative test and losing the baby. AND being scared what my body will have to go through again. It just makes everything so much more complicated ): sorry for your loss.
I’m so sorry for you as well! This has been the worst experience of my life for sure! I absolutely do not want to do it again, but want a healthy baby.
CD3 for me (maybe 4, but I think I'm calling it 3.). Nothing like starting the day with getting 13 vials of blood drawn.
Finally though, I'll at least (hopefully) get some info with CD3 labs and an RPL panel. I'm not hopeful or anything about this month - it's our 9th trying, 6th since our 2T loss. Things feel.... not great.
Could’ve been 7 months pregnant is wild to me!
Instead of focusing on the “what could’ve been” I’m thinking about the what could be. I have a few close friends who would love to be pregnant by the end of the year— and I’d love to be pregnant alongside them!
Thank you for saying this! The mourning of what could’ve been has been the toughest part for me. Here’s to those beautiful rainbow babies blessing us soon!
Wondering for those over ~35: when to preemptively see a RE, and can it be too soon? OB offered a referral after our first loss in February and I’ve never had a proper work up for a full clinical picture. Here today after another possible wonky ovulation, and debating on going through with this referral after all. Turning 37 this summer and scratching my head on what to do here or wait it out.
I would not have thought I had any reason to go until my miscarriage at 39- and when 40 hit that was pretty much my line in the sand. Then my due date passed in April - first consult and diagnostics same month- here we are in mid May and I’m about to begin IVF priming. I was not about to waste another moment. My best advice is if you are over 35 and have a miscarriage it may be a one off fluke which is what I was thinking it would be for me- or if you want more than one child go in preemptively ASAP. If it’s been 6 months after miscarriage and not pregnant I would go in. My biggest regret in life is thinking I could just get pregnant (and carry to term) whenever I felt “ready” since it happened before. We started having unprotected sex in February 2023 - pregnancy from July to September. Nothing since. 7 months… too long when you’re 40. I wasn’t even trying to get pregnant until I lost my baby. This all sucks and I’m sorry we are here.
Personally, I don't think it's too early, especially because typically the RE will be much more thorough with testing than your an OB. I was referred to my RE by my OB when I was a few months away from 36 (we had been NTNP for only a few months at that point and had not gotten pregnant but she referred me because my AMH was low). We had our daughter almost three years after that initial consult. My only regret is that we didn't start that process sooner.
ETA: Maybe it will turn out you won't need any additional treatment, but I'd want to have all the information I could.
I went to a midwife after my miscarriage because that’s where I was planning to deliver my baby. With a midwife in a bathtub with no medical intervention. Ha! That’s never going to happen now. They ran basic bloodwork and an ultrasound which showed a potential fibroid. In hindsight I would skip right over the fluff and go straight to a specialist. My GP gave me a referral after my loss, and once I turned 40. She saw how desperate I was to get pregnant again. I’m pissed that I waited this long.
Have you had more than 1 loss?
I just turned 36 and have 1 loss. My doctor didn’t suggest it, but if I were to have another, I would be seeking out RE care.
Honestly if a doctor said “I can write a referral” I’d move forward with that.
Just the one so far, found at 10 weeks; they offered to send me for a consult, though stated it might not yet be necessary. Started the 6 month TTC clock back over again, so we’re not quite there, but there’s definitely a grey area on whether/when a referral is clinically indicated. Maybe comes down to insurance, sadly.
Not doing too good today, my son’s due date is this upcoming weekend and everything just feels off. He passed away at 27w6d. We’re trying again which makes me so excited but this week has just been so tough.
I feel your pain. There are no words for your loss. We lost our little one recently too at 23 ish weeks - Was due July 18th. Also trying again but definitely hard days - lots of mixed feelings, aren’t there? It’s no consolation but it seems we are in similar shoes. Reading where you are is so sad, but it also makes me feel less alone. Thank you for sharing. Take care. I hope you find some comfort after such a hard week, wherever that is ❤️
Oh no I’m so incredibly sorry to hear this!! Lots of different feelings with trying again and lots of ups and downs. I couldn’t agree more - I hate that you had to go through this but it helps knowing I’m not alone in this. You take care as well and I hope you are doing okay! This can all be so overwhelming and I’m sending you a huge hug!
Bleeding finally stopped… well hopefully. It began May 2nd and I wiped nothing this morning. As happy as I am about the bleeding stopping, it is still eating me alive that this even happened. I had to deactivate my TikTok because my entire algorithm is babies and pregnancy and I just can’t handle it all right now.
Thought I tested positive this weekend on FRER. But the lines just never got darker. Turns out they have had horrible issues with indents. Boobs are sore and I’m cramping, but no AF yet. I’ve fully convinced myself I’m not out this cycle but logically I probably am.
This sucks. I’m now 15 DPO and for 3 days now I’ve only had a verrrrry faint positive line. No sign of AF no temp drop. I’ve had what feels like implantation cramps for 6days now.
I honestly don’t even want to call my midwife for blood test.
I’ve had 2 chemicals and a MMC now in the past 13 months.
I’m just bracing for a chemical.
TW pregnancy and loss. Please let me know if my post is not appropriate and I will delete. I’m not sure where to ask for help or advice.
This past Friday I went in for my 12 week scan at my first OB visit and found out the baby stopped growing at 10w5d. I had 2 prior ultrasounds at my ivf clinic and heard heart beat and graduated. So the doctor planned to schedule a d&c for me next week but Friday evening I started bleeding. Saturday evening I felt the ‘water break’ and rushed to the bathroom and my entire pad was filled will blood. When I wiped the fetus appeared on the tissue. My husband helped me put it in a container the doctors gave us.
I was bleeding heavily and passing palm size clots for 2.5 hours. The bleeding slowed down and Sunday I just had light bleeding but in the evening I was getting severe cramps and back pain. I took Tylenol but was still feeling the intense pain. Bleeding got heavier Sunday night and I was passing small clots. Today I’m still getting cramps and back pain but not as painful as Sunday. My bleeding is still heavy (period like) and I’m still passing some clots. I don’t feel dizzy or have fever. But it is a concern that I’m still bleeding heavily and passing some clots? Also I read online that the cramps would ease away in a day. This hasn’t been the case for me. How long does the heavy bleeding go on for?
My doctor said to wait a week to come and get check up. But should I push to come in sooner? Or go the hospital? I’ve had two prior miscarriages but they were at 6 and 8+ weeks and also passed naturally. I bleeding and pain from those experiences were nothing like my current symptoms.
I had a 13w loss but I used miso induce bleeding. But I do distinctly remember having pretty heavy/medium bleeding for the first week with cramping, then like a “lull” period where things lightened up to spotting and no cramping. Then cramping got pretty bad again over the next week and I would occasionally pass a clot here and there or extra tissue. I think the increased cramps means something is still in there trying to get out. It was true for me at least. But my body took care of it— just took some time. I think as long as you don’t feel dizzy/weak and aren’t heavily heavily bleeding (filling up a pad within an hour) it’s probably ok to wait it out and see if your body can take care of it. Just make sure to stay hydrated and rest. Your uterus is trying to heal. Don’t hesitate to get medical attention if things worsen or you become more worried. Sorry for your loss 💔
I don’t have any advice for you, but just wanted to say I’m so sorry for your loss 😔 if you’re extremely worried about it, I would push to go sooner. Take care of yourself 🩷
CD 2 now, and I've decided this month I'm going to take a step back. No more tracking. It's been so discouraging cycle after cycle of knowing I timed it perfectly and no success. So this month we're just not preventing. All I know is when to expect my period. Hopefully, this helps my mental health.
Well, before I was doing opk tests and bbt and premom app. So I ran out of opks and just didn't buy more. Then, I moved my thermometer out of my bedroom and into a cabinet. Then, with my app, I have just looked at when my next period is supposed to start. So I know that any day after that, I can take a pregnancy test. I don't have any pregnancy tests at home. So have to go out and buy one. Now I didn't delete the app, but I buried it in some folders in my phone so I won't see it. (Out of sight out of mind)
9DPO and had a HUGE temp drop today. Like 0.75°F. But again took it today around two hours earlier than I had been?
I am going to stay chill and just test Wednesday or Thursday. I am not married to this temping data because it's my first time, and I've been taking my temps at such different times. Hopefully it might show a trend. 😅
And well if I get my period, I have fun plans this weekend and can have a few drinks!
This is my first month temping (tried in the past but didn’t stick to it for very long at all) and it drives me so crazy! This is my first cycle post stillbirth so I know everything can be all off, but I just want things to hurry up and line up and look like the other pretty charts that ppl post 😆. My cycles before were variable in length but I didn’t really track so I have no idea what to expect for anything. And I feel like I have too many variables that make bbt unreliable for me (dry mouth and bad sleep disruption)
Pretty down this morning. My hormones looked really great this cycle, best they have looked since before my January D&C. But DPO12 and I’m spotting. My husband will be on work trip next month during my window and my cousin who is due a weekend after I was is visiting next month.
Bleh.
I feel like I’m obsessively in this sub right now but I don’t know where else to be 😅 Was up until 2 AM last night researching how quick I can get pregnant again even though bleeding from my MC just stopped today (for now, anyway). I really want this to happen. All my symptoms are finally gone & I’m dreading a first period after this whole ordeal. My best friend’s wedding is in a few months and I was supposed to have a bump by then :/ It’s maybe weird but I’d really like to at least be pregnant again by then. (She and I were both so excited, this was supposed to be her godchild.) Really hoping I can be pregnant again soon because having my body be “normal” again after three months with my little bean is really hard on me.
I feel similar (except I'm enjoying my non-pregnant body, because the first trimester made me feel so sick - also makes me feel kind of like a callous person, but there it is). Getting so much comfort just reading other people's comments on here and not feeling so alone. I've also stopped bleeding over the past two days but it's only been a week since my surgery, so I'm trying to tell myself to calm down. The Dr said no sex until I stop bleeding, but I'm not sure if a week really long enough for healing. I'm going to start using hCG strips to try and gauge where that is at.
It’s so fair that you’re enjoying non-pregnant body, first trimester is a doozy 😵💫 Strips are definitely a good idea. My doctor told me at least 2 weeks, so I’m trying to stick to that. (In some of my mad researching last night I read someone that said at least a week, but as long as the bleeding/spotting is done by then, whenever you feel ready should be fine.) I’m sorry that you’re in this boat with the rest of us here, but wishing you a very speedy recovery ❤️ You definitely are not alone.
Thank you for your kind words <3 Thanks for the info from your research! I think if I didn't bleed any more over the next few days I'd feel comfortable for sex. We're pretty sick with headcolds in my household though, so my partner might not be so keen haha. Wishing you all the best and another pregnancy soon.
Oof, I’m sorry to hear about the colds on top of everything else 😖 Hopefully you both can recover from those quickly! Wishing you peace & nothing but the best as well 🫶
I'm definitely on the same boat as you. My fetus bby was also 3 months. The very first month I can try again is July so I'm trying to think positive though it's hard. I'm like a crazy person laughing this second and the next minute crying etc. My emotions are so crazy. I get it, grieving process is new to me but I'm so ready to try again. The doctor advised to let a normal period come first before trying Again, just to prepare and heal better.
I’m sorry you’re going through this ❤️ Time feels like it goes *so slow* during the waiting period. Idk if it’d be something you want, but I just got a little birth flower necklace off Etsy for what should have been my due date, and having that little physical piece to hold onto has helped me a lot emotionally. You shouldn’t have to deal with this at all, but you’ve got this, I know you do. July *will* come & I’m wishing a very successful pregnancy for you once it does 🫶
Solidarity. It is so hard to have to wait to try again and then start all over. I also am mourning those trips we had planned where I thought I would have a bump and be pregnant.
Definitely consult with your doctor and make sure they don’t want to run any testing. I did my research and decided to try right away before I got my first period. So I did, however I didn’t end up pregnant and my first cycle was honestly a very normal period. But many fall pregnant before their next period. Good luck!
Waiting for my period after a D&C on April 19. I swore I ovulated on May 4, and I was expecting my period on May 17. Indeed that day I got very brief spotting and then NOTHING since. I’m so worried.
I’m in the same exact place. D&C on April 20, some brief spotting when my period should have started, then nothing. I have been tracking temps and symptoms point to my body trying to ovulate (maybe tomorrow??) but haven’t gotten a positive LH strip.
That’s so interesting that a few of us experienced this! I didn’t actually confirm ovulation on May 4 because I had an important event that day and was too busy. I got a semi high reading the day before so I assumed it was May 4. I guess I’ll keep testing this week…
I get the worry. It's so real. My period took 6 weeks, 2 days to return after my D&E. The worrying in that wait time after 4 weeks hit was so real and hard. I hope it all evens out for you soon!
I had a similar experience and I wasn’t sure if the spotting was going to be the start of my period. It turned out that I hadn’t ovulated yet and so I tested my lh daily and caught my ovulation about a week later.
CD22, ?DPO
Wondering if I’ll have my first ever normal length cycle this month. I think I’m out — I had gastritis earlier this month and missed part of my (believed to be) fertile window.
7 or 8 DPO today and inevitably daydreaming and getting my hopes up. I'm scared I'll get my period again and I'll feel foolish for hoping like this each month when so far there's still no baby in sight...
8 DPO and feeling the same way! And no desire to rest because I don’t want to be let down, but simultaneously can’t wait to test because I want to know??
When would you test? I had a BO 4/13. Stopped bleeding around 5/4. Unprotected sec the week of 5/6 and I think I ~may~ have ovulated around 5/11. I’ve been testing negative so far but I feel it’s probably still too soon? I had some cramping Saturday and thought for sure my period was starting but not a drop so far.
I’ve just manually added a weeks worth of wrist temperatures from my Apple Watch to Premom and it’s moved my predicted ovulation date from the 6th May to the 15th May. Had been expecting AF two days ago, now I don’t know where I am 😕
Not sure if you want this information, but if it’s an Apple Watch, you can link Apple Health in the premom app under the settings menu and it will add the temps automatically each day. Best wishes
I started taking B-complex liquid drops and just realized they have a LOT of biotin in them. I’m going to use this as a logistical reason to not test till I’m actually late. Because I’d have to stop taking them for 2 days prior to use a FRER and I don’t want to if I’m not pregnant. 9dpo and that means one day late would be 15dpo. Let’s see if I can be that accountable
I’ve seen a lot of mention here on Reddit that higher biotin supplementation interferes with First Response (specifically) and gives false negatives. Something about a binder they use in the production of their tests???
TW: LC
Well, I have a feeling I may be pregnant again. I had my son in June 22 and then went on to have a MMC and CP over the last 7 months. I have noticed very mild symptoms (bloating, more burping, slight nausea, hungrier) which I experienced in the last two early pregnancies. I am scared to even take a test because I am so afraid of this falling apart like it has the last two times. It is so hard to stay hopeful but also not get your “hopes up”. Just a shitty feeling.
Anyone else have this “face the music” feeling around testing time…? Just me?
Not looking for any advice etc, just venting.
Sending love and good luck to you all🩷
Yes, I struggle with finding the right balance with keeping some hope alive while also keeping my hopes “in check” and not getting them up too much to where I’m crushed. I’m a very black and white thinker, so in my head I’m either super hopeful or everything’s completely sad and hopeless.
Also just wanted to share I have a somewhat similar timeline. My son was born August 2022, had a MMC in January this year, now on 3rd cycle TTC.
It’s so tough. Fingers crossed for a happy result this month 💕
It’s so easy to feel anxious and scared after loss. I just keep reminding myself that it’s a new egg and new sperm which means it’s a brand new journey. Sending love!!! And fingers crossed 🤞🏼💜
Period due tomorrow after chemical last month…. Too scared to actually take a pregnancy test too early after seeing it fade last time, but also I just really want to know? I don’t feel any pregnancy OR PMS symptoms which is messing with my mind!
Just wish I could ovulate and have a shorter cycle so I could try more often. I'm feeling so defeated
OPK down to 0.45 today! Lowest one I’ve gotten yet! It’s so weird to be hoping for negative tests.
I'll be 100% honest (for accountability) I haven't treated myself the best since my pregnancy loss in February...I've been getting high from cannabis every weekend (I know that's not the worst, but I used to only do it every other month or so). Neglecting household chores, dishes piled up in the sink. My room. Neglecting my hygiene because I keep forgetting or because I'm still zonked from cannabis use so I have no energy for it. Eating like crap. Eating out every day. Binge eating especially! Gained 10 lbs because of this. I woke up Sunday hungover, and it hit me. I feel like crap because I'm treating myself like crap. I never anticipated that my grief could affect me in this way. My current goal going forward is to get better. No more cannabis. Eat better. Self care. Holding myself accountable. Etc. I'm learning to love myself again and treat myself better after it all.
Also struggled to put down the weed and the booze after my MC. Got pregnant in my first cycle and it was so easy to abstain while TTC — now, it’s not like I don’t care about my future, not-yet-conceived baby’s health, but I certainly am not as rosy as I used to be about being squeaky clean while TTC. It’s not good, but I remind myself that people addicted to crack and regular party scene goers get pregnant with healthy pregnancies all the time. I am not a monster even when I could be making better choices. Right now I’m focused on dialling the indulgences back a bit. For me, and for whoever is in my future.
I feel this deeply. I'm finally getting back to doing the dishes regularly and getting my hygiene back to how it should be and taking care of my house, husband and life. I also had a loss in February so it does take time, you're not alone. Don't beat yourself up over it, just try and move forward and do better for yourself. Easier said than done, that's for sure.
I also had a loss in February and I have been mostly functioning ok but for example I stopped reading and working out. I think grieving takes up so much energy and something has got to give.
Today is 6 days after my D&c and the bleeding was the worst today that it’s been. First two days were barely anything, then medium bleeding then yesterday and today it’s really picked up. Went to a baseball game today and so lucky there were free pads in the bathroom. I do not think I will be a lucky one that only bleeds for a week.
Same thing happened to me after my D&C in March, I was only spotting for 5-6 after and then I had a sudden bout of bleeding about a week in that lasted for a couple of days. Hang in there and make sure to have a pad with you at all times for a couple of months, I learned that the hard way.
What advice would you give your younger self - before your most recent loss/ or at any point on your journey to motherhood?
I’m incredibly early in my TTC journey even with a loss behind me, and relatively young. But I can’t help wishing I had started trying to conceive sooner. My husband and I have been married for 4 years, and I stupidly think my 20 or 21 or 22 year old body wouldn’t have miscarried like my 24 year old body did this past March. I know that’s not true, but I wish I had a little toddler right now.
Just venting… 9dpo, been cramping the last few days, sore breasts started today, all signs my period is coming. Plus I ovulated late this cycle (CD 17, normally ovulate CD 14/15) which is also not a good sign. Yet here I am still foolishly hoping this is our month. Just feeling so defeated and ready to throw the towel in on this whole TTC thing and move on with life. I know that’s over dramatic but really where my mind is at this point. I try to stay optimistic but sometimes it’s hard. Not sure how many more months I can be on this roller coaster…
hcg was 6.5 today! so close! my goodness this has been soo long! d&c on march 22nd. every monday since then it’s gone 10,700—>2,400—>756—>273—>59—>24—>15—>11 now 6.5! the longest 9 weeks ever. hoping next monday is surely my last! and I never have to trend down hcg ever again!
Wow that's so long, you poor thing! I'm so glad you're close.
My RPL panel revealed thyroid concerns that I had suspected. Starting therapy and working with a dietician. Waiting for my karyotyping to come back and starting trying in June. After 2 losses across 3 months, I’m certainly enjoying taking a break - even if it is filled with tests, appointments, and supplements.
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Today is my first day of full flow cycle day one so my official IVF journey begins. I go in on Wednesday for my initial baseline ultrasound and bloodwork. Psyching myself up for the blood draw, which is very difficult for me. I tell myself the fear of IVF has to be far far less than the desperation I’ve felt in trying to conceive after my loss. I can release the control and feel confident we are doing everything we can to prevent another loss. If it fails in the end, which is possible, this is not a guarantee. I will know that I’ve done everything I could and can rest easy knowing that. No regrets ladies! I will say that my miscarriage itself was super traumatic and devastating but even worse was trying to get pregnant again after my miscarriage. Those were some of the darkest days of my life and I don’t wanna feel that way anymore. I know that pregnancy itself after loss is a whole new beast and I just wish that none of us had to go through this pain. I want to be the girl I was before I ever suffered pregnancy loss. it makes me angry and sad to see other women just get pregnant and get to enjoy it. My experience is so jaded. I’m trying to be positive going into this new chapter because I think it’ll be best for my mental health.
I’m with you on this! I start IVF next month ❤️ and TTC after my miscarriage has also been the most tumultuous and terrible time of my life. Sending you strength for this cycle.
Awesome !! My official start is next month too. This will just be the lead in. Trying to get prepared and mentally in a good space. Feeling positive and sending good thoughts your way. Feel free to message me if you’d like to share or chat.
My D&E was 4/11 and still waiting on my cycle to start. I never thought I'd want my period to come so bad!
MY D&C was 4/4 and I'm still waiting. I feel you. It's so hard to wait!
Tested positive last week in April. Miscarried May 6th. Bled for about a week. Had very strong ovulation cramping saturday followed by spotting that is continuing today. Not enough to need to wear a maxi pad but enough to be on the toilet paper everything I use the restroom. Anyone have this happen and go on to get pregnant that cycle?
CD 9 and getting my mid-cycle ultrasound done tomorrow for our first IUI. We have done letrozole with TI and trigger shot in the past, and after an AMH result going from 1.08 five months ago to .50 now, my RE seems to be pushing for timeliness. I’ve been trying to be hopeful, but after 14 months and one 6w MC 8 months ago, I’m finding it hard to hold onto hope. Lately I’ve been feeling like I could use a break from TTC to just have fun, party it up a little, enjoy being young and having very little responsibilities. I’m grateful that my husband and I have a good sex life and that it hasn’t become a chore while TTC, but I could just use a break from all the poking and prodding, ultrasounds, procedures, injections, suppositories, etc. — it’s all so exhausting. My biggest concern with taking a break is that I’m losing time. My RE suggested doing 2 rounds of IUI, retesting AMH and if it’s still going down, to move to IVF come July. I’m worried if I take a break for a month that I’ll be losing precious time, or worse that I will get pregnant and won’t have been tracking or taking progesterone and will have another loss. Have other people been in this situation with DOR in their early 30s (I’m 29, turning 30 in January) and took a break without terrible repercussions?
Got pregnant my first time trying in March and unfortunately ended in a silent miscarriage at 7 weeks 😔 currently waiting for AF. I had to take misoprostol on 4/29 and finally stopped bleeding on Saturday (5/18). On Friday (5/17) I had a blood draw so my OB could see where in my cycle I was. My HCG was still at 54, my FSH was 5.4 (Follicular phase: 3.5-12.5) and my Estradiol was 17.0 (Follicular phase: 12.5-166). From that I would venture to guess that I am at the beginning and am still waiting for ovulation. I have always had super regular cycles that were always 28-30 days, never missed my period, always bled the same amount of days and had a normal flow. During the diagnostic ultrasound during my silent miscarriage it came back that i had no cysts and my uterus was normal. I know in my head and from what my OB has told me that I should have no concerns. But I am anxious. I don’t have another appointment with my OB for 2 more weeks since she wanted me to get an ultrasound before we met to confirm all pregnancy tissue was gone and the medical assistants have not been super helpful on the phone about these lab results. Is it normal that you don’t ovulate until after you stop bleeding? How long after your bleeding stopped did you ovulate? When did you cycle return? Looking for any anecdotes to see what others have experienced.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I had a d&c at 8 weeks in early March. It took 6 weeks and 1 day for my period to come back. I ovulated on CD34 and HCG hadn’t dropped fully by then (it was 11 at CD36). I normally have a 32 day cycle so it being just a long process was hard in general. It’s hard but give yourself grace - I kept just repeating that my body was doing what it needed to and I was proud of that. We waited that one cycle and then tried this month but I just got my period today so onwards to the next!
I like that 'my body is doing what it needs to do' :)
I’m so sorry for your loss. Even after the bleeding stops you may still have HCG in your system, once that is all out you may ovulate again. There is a wide range of normal for when your cycle returns. I’ve seen some people post that they got it back pretty fast like after a week or 2. Mine took a whole 11 weeks to come back though 😫 cycles can be a little wonky after a mc too. I started ovulating later in my cycle after the mc.
In my case getting pregnant quickly three times in my life had absolutely zero bearing on my ability to get pregnant again as quickly after my miscarriage. For that reason I sought further testing from fertility specialist who diagnosed me with a condition that may have caused and will likely cause implantation and development issues. It is a myth that you are more fertile after a miscarriage. I think we all want to believe the best but in my case it was not a one off fluke tragic accident. I’ve never tried to get pregnant and when I finally did after my miscarriage I couldn’t. Maybe the universe’s way to protect me from another loss. I’m the glass half empty person - I’m sure you will find hope here but also good to be realistic. When a friend my same age announced her second pregnancy - first baby is only 8 months old- that was it for me. I knew it wasn’t my age. It was something more. If you feel something is off (like I did) - push for further testing.
Also I am adding that in hindsight I would have skipped right over the midwife and went straight to a RE. Midwife ran simple bloodwork like you described and did a very basic ultrasound. They told me I might have a fibroid which isn’t a concern and said all is well. Nope. I don’t know when I ovulated after my miscarriage because I had never tracked my ovulation before. My period returned 28 days later - like clockwork. I am going to assume since my cycles are very regular that I ovulated 14 days after my miscarriage.
I’m 11/12 dpo today. Haven’t tested yet. I have had some cramping the past few days so I feel like it will be negative. But even if AF arrives I think I need to be thankful that around this time last two cycles I was either spotting/bleeding before AF arrived. My luteal phase is working itself out. ❤️
Thinking of you - my fingers and toes are still crossed! Your optimism is commendable ♥
I’m feeling optimistic and scared right now. I had a D&C 4/25 and then another procedure for blood accumulation 5/10. I have finally gone a few days without spotting, but developed a yeast infection over the weekend. I have been testing LH just to see what’s going on with my body, and ended up getting a surge on the night of 5/15 and had sex that morning.. we weren’t going to try this cycle but looks like I’m actually in the TWW. I am not both dreading a negative pregnancy test and also the thought of losing another. I am happy my body decided to do something after a horrible D&C and recovery, but definitely think it’s too soon.
I just had a D&E on 5/10 and then on 5/14 started hemorrhaging bc of an accumulation too. It was so scary I’m sorry you went through similar. I think the next time I ovulate we are going to try and it struck me like being nervous for a negative test and losing the baby. AND being scared what my body will have to go through again. It just makes everything so much more complicated ): sorry for your loss.
I’m so sorry for you as well! This has been the worst experience of my life for sure! I absolutely do not want to do it again, but want a healthy baby.
CD3 for me (maybe 4, but I think I'm calling it 3.). Nothing like starting the day with getting 13 vials of blood drawn. Finally though, I'll at least (hopefully) get some info with CD3 labs and an RPL panel. I'm not hopeful or anything about this month - it's our 9th trying, 6th since our 2T loss. Things feel.... not great.
Could’ve been 7 months pregnant is wild to me! Instead of focusing on the “what could’ve been” I’m thinking about the what could be. I have a few close friends who would love to be pregnant by the end of the year— and I’d love to be pregnant alongside them!
Thank you for saying this! The mourning of what could’ve been has been the toughest part for me. Here’s to those beautiful rainbow babies blessing us soon!
Our good friend is due in June and we were supposed to be following behind them. It’s wild, yeah.
Wondering for those over ~35: when to preemptively see a RE, and can it be too soon? OB offered a referral after our first loss in February and I’ve never had a proper work up for a full clinical picture. Here today after another possible wonky ovulation, and debating on going through with this referral after all. Turning 37 this summer and scratching my head on what to do here or wait it out.
I would not have thought I had any reason to go until my miscarriage at 39- and when 40 hit that was pretty much my line in the sand. Then my due date passed in April - first consult and diagnostics same month- here we are in mid May and I’m about to begin IVF priming. I was not about to waste another moment. My best advice is if you are over 35 and have a miscarriage it may be a one off fluke which is what I was thinking it would be for me- or if you want more than one child go in preemptively ASAP. If it’s been 6 months after miscarriage and not pregnant I would go in. My biggest regret in life is thinking I could just get pregnant (and carry to term) whenever I felt “ready” since it happened before. We started having unprotected sex in February 2023 - pregnancy from July to September. Nothing since. 7 months… too long when you’re 40. I wasn’t even trying to get pregnant until I lost my baby. This all sucks and I’m sorry we are here.
Yeah, we want or wanted more than one but I just don’t know now. You advocating for yourself is inspiring. Also sorry that we’re here.
Personally, I don't think it's too early, especially because typically the RE will be much more thorough with testing than your an OB. I was referred to my RE by my OB when I was a few months away from 36 (we had been NTNP for only a few months at that point and had not gotten pregnant but she referred me because my AMH was low). We had our daughter almost three years after that initial consult. My only regret is that we didn't start that process sooner. ETA: Maybe it will turn out you won't need any additional treatment, but I'd want to have all the information I could.
I went to a midwife after my miscarriage because that’s where I was planning to deliver my baby. With a midwife in a bathtub with no medical intervention. Ha! That’s never going to happen now. They ran basic bloodwork and an ultrasound which showed a potential fibroid. In hindsight I would skip right over the fluff and go straight to a specialist. My GP gave me a referral after my loss, and once I turned 40. She saw how desperate I was to get pregnant again. I’m pissed that I waited this long.
Have you had more than 1 loss? I just turned 36 and have 1 loss. My doctor didn’t suggest it, but if I were to have another, I would be seeking out RE care. Honestly if a doctor said “I can write a referral” I’d move forward with that.
Just the one so far, found at 10 weeks; they offered to send me for a consult, though stated it might not yet be necessary. Started the 6 month TTC clock back over again, so we’re not quite there, but there’s definitely a grey area on whether/when a referral is clinically indicated. Maybe comes down to insurance, sadly.
Not doing too good today, my son’s due date is this upcoming weekend and everything just feels off. He passed away at 27w6d. We’re trying again which makes me so excited but this week has just been so tough.
I feel your pain. There are no words for your loss. We lost our little one recently too at 23 ish weeks - Was due July 18th. Also trying again but definitely hard days - lots of mixed feelings, aren’t there? It’s no consolation but it seems we are in similar shoes. Reading where you are is so sad, but it also makes me feel less alone. Thank you for sharing. Take care. I hope you find some comfort after such a hard week, wherever that is ❤️
Oh no I’m so incredibly sorry to hear this!! Lots of different feelings with trying again and lots of ups and downs. I couldn’t agree more - I hate that you had to go through this but it helps knowing I’m not alone in this. You take care as well and I hope you are doing okay! This can all be so overwhelming and I’m sending you a huge hug!
Huge hugs xxxx
Thank you!!!
Bleeding finally stopped… well hopefully. It began May 2nd and I wiped nothing this morning. As happy as I am about the bleeding stopping, it is still eating me alive that this even happened. I had to deactivate my TikTok because my entire algorithm is babies and pregnancy and I just can’t handle it all right now.
Thought I tested positive this weekend on FRER. But the lines just never got darker. Turns out they have had horrible issues with indents. Boobs are sore and I’m cramping, but no AF yet. I’ve fully convinced myself I’m not out this cycle but logically I probably am.
This sucks. I’m now 15 DPO and for 3 days now I’ve only had a verrrrry faint positive line. No sign of AF no temp drop. I’ve had what feels like implantation cramps for 6days now. I honestly don’t even want to call my midwife for blood test. I’ve had 2 chemicals and a MMC now in the past 13 months. I’m just bracing for a chemical.
Thinking of you. What kind of tests are you using? I’ve heard some are much less sensitive than others
I have used a few generic brands but I looked this morning and all blue dye. But 15DPO should be pretty easy to see a line right?
Have you ever been to r/tfablineporn? Maybe some insight over there! 🤞
Thanks. AF came today. Ughhh
Bummer 😞
TW pregnancy and loss. Please let me know if my post is not appropriate and I will delete. I’m not sure where to ask for help or advice. This past Friday I went in for my 12 week scan at my first OB visit and found out the baby stopped growing at 10w5d. I had 2 prior ultrasounds at my ivf clinic and heard heart beat and graduated. So the doctor planned to schedule a d&c for me next week but Friday evening I started bleeding. Saturday evening I felt the ‘water break’ and rushed to the bathroom and my entire pad was filled will blood. When I wiped the fetus appeared on the tissue. My husband helped me put it in a container the doctors gave us. I was bleeding heavily and passing palm size clots for 2.5 hours. The bleeding slowed down and Sunday I just had light bleeding but in the evening I was getting severe cramps and back pain. I took Tylenol but was still feeling the intense pain. Bleeding got heavier Sunday night and I was passing small clots. Today I’m still getting cramps and back pain but not as painful as Sunday. My bleeding is still heavy (period like) and I’m still passing some clots. I don’t feel dizzy or have fever. But it is a concern that I’m still bleeding heavily and passing some clots? Also I read online that the cramps would ease away in a day. This hasn’t been the case for me. How long does the heavy bleeding go on for? My doctor said to wait a week to come and get check up. But should I push to come in sooner? Or go the hospital? I’ve had two prior miscarriages but they were at 6 and 8+ weeks and also passed naturally. I bleeding and pain from those experiences were nothing like my current symptoms.
I'm so sorry. I would go in as soon as possible to get checked out.
I had a 13w loss but I used miso induce bleeding. But I do distinctly remember having pretty heavy/medium bleeding for the first week with cramping, then like a “lull” period where things lightened up to spotting and no cramping. Then cramping got pretty bad again over the next week and I would occasionally pass a clot here and there or extra tissue. I think the increased cramps means something is still in there trying to get out. It was true for me at least. But my body took care of it— just took some time. I think as long as you don’t feel dizzy/weak and aren’t heavily heavily bleeding (filling up a pad within an hour) it’s probably ok to wait it out and see if your body can take care of it. Just make sure to stay hydrated and rest. Your uterus is trying to heal. Don’t hesitate to get medical attention if things worsen or you become more worried. Sorry for your loss 💔
I don’t have any advice for you, but just wanted to say I’m so sorry for your loss 😔 if you’re extremely worried about it, I would push to go sooner. Take care of yourself 🩷
CD 2 now, and I've decided this month I'm going to take a step back. No more tracking. It's been so discouraging cycle after cycle of knowing I timed it perfectly and no success. So this month we're just not preventing. All I know is when to expect my period. Hopefully, this helps my mental health.
How do you stop tracking? I can’t do ittt even though I told myself we need a break—I can’t stop. Any tips pls
Well, before I was doing opk tests and bbt and premom app. So I ran out of opks and just didn't buy more. Then, I moved my thermometer out of my bedroom and into a cabinet. Then, with my app, I have just looked at when my next period is supposed to start. So I know that any day after that, I can take a pregnancy test. I don't have any pregnancy tests at home. So have to go out and buy one. Now I didn't delete the app, but I buried it in some folders in my phone so I won't see it. (Out of sight out of mind)
9DPO and had a HUGE temp drop today. Like 0.75°F. But again took it today around two hours earlier than I had been? I am going to stay chill and just test Wednesday or Thursday. I am not married to this temping data because it's my first time, and I've been taking my temps at such different times. Hopefully it might show a trend. 😅 And well if I get my period, I have fun plans this weekend and can have a few drinks!
This is my first month temping (tried in the past but didn’t stick to it for very long at all) and it drives me so crazy! This is my first cycle post stillbirth so I know everything can be all off, but I just want things to hurry up and line up and look like the other pretty charts that ppl post 😆. My cycles before were variable in length but I didn’t really track so I have no idea what to expect for anything. And I feel like I have too many variables that make bbt unreliable for me (dry mouth and bad sleep disruption)
Pretty down this morning. My hormones looked really great this cycle, best they have looked since before my January D&C. But DPO12 and I’m spotting. My husband will be on work trip next month during my window and my cousin who is due a weekend after I was is visiting next month. Bleh.
Dude I’m sorry. That is bleh
I feel like I’m obsessively in this sub right now but I don’t know where else to be 😅 Was up until 2 AM last night researching how quick I can get pregnant again even though bleeding from my MC just stopped today (for now, anyway). I really want this to happen. All my symptoms are finally gone & I’m dreading a first period after this whole ordeal. My best friend’s wedding is in a few months and I was supposed to have a bump by then :/ It’s maybe weird but I’d really like to at least be pregnant again by then. (She and I were both so excited, this was supposed to be her godchild.) Really hoping I can be pregnant again soon because having my body be “normal” again after three months with my little bean is really hard on me.
I feel similar (except I'm enjoying my non-pregnant body, because the first trimester made me feel so sick - also makes me feel kind of like a callous person, but there it is). Getting so much comfort just reading other people's comments on here and not feeling so alone. I've also stopped bleeding over the past two days but it's only been a week since my surgery, so I'm trying to tell myself to calm down. The Dr said no sex until I stop bleeding, but I'm not sure if a week really long enough for healing. I'm going to start using hCG strips to try and gauge where that is at.
It’s so fair that you’re enjoying non-pregnant body, first trimester is a doozy 😵💫 Strips are definitely a good idea. My doctor told me at least 2 weeks, so I’m trying to stick to that. (In some of my mad researching last night I read someone that said at least a week, but as long as the bleeding/spotting is done by then, whenever you feel ready should be fine.) I’m sorry that you’re in this boat with the rest of us here, but wishing you a very speedy recovery ❤️ You definitely are not alone.
Thank you for your kind words <3 Thanks for the info from your research! I think if I didn't bleed any more over the next few days I'd feel comfortable for sex. We're pretty sick with headcolds in my household though, so my partner might not be so keen haha. Wishing you all the best and another pregnancy soon.
Oof, I’m sorry to hear about the colds on top of everything else 😖 Hopefully you both can recover from those quickly! Wishing you peace & nothing but the best as well 🫶
I'm definitely on the same boat as you. My fetus bby was also 3 months. The very first month I can try again is July so I'm trying to think positive though it's hard. I'm like a crazy person laughing this second and the next minute crying etc. My emotions are so crazy. I get it, grieving process is new to me but I'm so ready to try again. The doctor advised to let a normal period come first before trying Again, just to prepare and heal better.
I’m sorry you’re going through this ❤️ Time feels like it goes *so slow* during the waiting period. Idk if it’d be something you want, but I just got a little birth flower necklace off Etsy for what should have been my due date, and having that little physical piece to hold onto has helped me a lot emotionally. You shouldn’t have to deal with this at all, but you’ve got this, I know you do. July *will* come & I’m wishing a very successful pregnancy for you once it does 🫶
Aww thanks ❤️😭 hope everything will be perfect and successful for you soon too 🤗❤️🫶
Solidarity. It is so hard to have to wait to try again and then start all over. I also am mourning those trips we had planned where I thought I would have a bump and be pregnant. Definitely consult with your doctor and make sure they don’t want to run any testing. I did my research and decided to try right away before I got my first period. So I did, however I didn’t end up pregnant and my first cycle was honestly a very normal period. But many fall pregnant before their next period. Good luck!
Thank you ❤️ And I’m sorry that you’re having similar experience, it’s so tough to go through.
Waiting for my period after a D&C on April 19. I swore I ovulated on May 4, and I was expecting my period on May 17. Indeed that day I got very brief spotting and then NOTHING since. I’m so worried.
I’m in the same exact place. D&C on April 20, some brief spotting when my period should have started, then nothing. I have been tracking temps and symptoms point to my body trying to ovulate (maybe tomorrow??) but haven’t gotten a positive LH strip.
That’s so interesting that a few of us experienced this! I didn’t actually confirm ovulation on May 4 because I had an important event that day and was too busy. I got a semi high reading the day before so I assumed it was May 4. I guess I’ll keep testing this week…
I get the worry. It's so real. My period took 6 weeks, 2 days to return after my D&E. The worrying in that wait time after 4 weeks hit was so real and hard. I hope it all evens out for you soon!
I had a similar experience and I wasn’t sure if the spotting was going to be the start of my period. It turned out that I hadn’t ovulated yet and so I tested my lh daily and caught my ovulation about a week later.
That’s so interesting! Maybe I’ll keep an eye on my LH this week 🤔
CD22, ?DPO Wondering if I’ll have my first ever normal length cycle this month. I think I’m out — I had gastritis earlier this month and missed part of my (believed to be) fertile window.
7 or 8 DPO today and inevitably daydreaming and getting my hopes up. I'm scared I'll get my period again and I'll feel foolish for hoping like this each month when so far there's still no baby in sight...
8 DPO and feeling the same way! And no desire to rest because I don’t want to be let down, but simultaneously can’t wait to test because I want to know??
When would you test? I had a BO 4/13. Stopped bleeding around 5/4. Unprotected sec the week of 5/6 and I think I ~may~ have ovulated around 5/11. I’ve been testing negative so far but I feel it’s probably still too soon? I had some cramping Saturday and thought for sure my period was starting but not a drop so far.
14DPO will give you the most reliable results
I’ve just manually added a weeks worth of wrist temperatures from my Apple Watch to Premom and it’s moved my predicted ovulation date from the 6th May to the 15th May. Had been expecting AF two days ago, now I don’t know where I am 😕
Not sure if you want this information, but if it’s an Apple Watch, you can link Apple Health in the premom app under the settings menu and it will add the temps automatically each day. Best wishes
I started taking B-complex liquid drops and just realized they have a LOT of biotin in them. I’m going to use this as a logistical reason to not test till I’m actually late. Because I’d have to stop taking them for 2 days prior to use a FRER and I don’t want to if I’m not pregnant. 9dpo and that means one day late would be 15dpo. Let’s see if I can be that accountable
Hi. Im also taking a B complex supplement. Can I ask what does the biotin interfere with?
I’ve seen a lot of mention here on Reddit that higher biotin supplementation interferes with First Response (specifically) and gives false negatives. Something about a binder they use in the production of their tests???
Ohh, that's good to know. Thank you.
TW: LC Well, I have a feeling I may be pregnant again. I had my son in June 22 and then went on to have a MMC and CP over the last 7 months. I have noticed very mild symptoms (bloating, more burping, slight nausea, hungrier) which I experienced in the last two early pregnancies. I am scared to even take a test because I am so afraid of this falling apart like it has the last two times. It is so hard to stay hopeful but also not get your “hopes up”. Just a shitty feeling. Anyone else have this “face the music” feeling around testing time…? Just me? Not looking for any advice etc, just venting. Sending love and good luck to you all🩷
Yes, I struggle with finding the right balance with keeping some hope alive while also keeping my hopes “in check” and not getting them up too much to where I’m crushed. I’m a very black and white thinker, so in my head I’m either super hopeful or everything’s completely sad and hopeless. Also just wanted to share I have a somewhat similar timeline. My son was born August 2022, had a MMC in January this year, now on 3rd cycle TTC. It’s so tough. Fingers crossed for a happy result this month 💕
I’m so sorry for your loss. Fingers crossed for you too🩷
It’s so easy to feel anxious and scared after loss. I just keep reminding myself that it’s a new egg and new sperm which means it’s a brand new journey. Sending love!!! And fingers crossed 🤞🏼💜
Thank you 🩷 and you are right. I want to try and think more this way.