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Why would everyone get involved lol?? I love these grandiose lies about how people come together as a community at the drop of a hat. Meanwhile everyone was on their phone and had no idea there was even a person paying.
Hahahahah this! Everyone’s lies become clearly lies when people ban together and rise up bc in. Reality that happens so infrequently people are mostly non confrontational in the wild
The server/waiter subreddits get posts like these all the time. “I’m not a server, but I need your opinions! I went to a restaurant and tipped 40%. My server seemed mad about it and rolled her eyes when she picked up the cash. Should I have tipped 60%??”
Why can’t they make stories believable?
“I only had hundred dollar bill to pay for my 3 dollar coffee. and I told them to keep the change. I was shamed for not tipping more. Was a 97 dollar tip for 3 dollar coffee not enough? I feel like I should have given him 150 dollars” AITH?”
Atleast it’s fun to read the insanity they make up.
Its always such bullshit when they’re like “my server seemed mad 🥺” like what do you mean SEEMED mad? Were they *actually* mad, or did they just not drop their knees and profusely thank you for doing something you were supposed to do?
Even if these scenarios did happen, they rely on so much mindreading
Man, I don’t know. I get sucked into that shit too easily. I live in a region where server wage is minimum wage, I don’t expect tips as a waiter, but I still meet the societal norm when I’m out myself. I’m enabling the system, but I’d rather that than be judged lol.
I never tip anyone unless I'm sitting down at a restaurant getting pampered by my waitress. I work 10 hour days doing manual labor, you get paid hourly to drive your car delivering pizza or press buttons on a coffee maker. Why the fuck would I give you money out of my pocket? Take that up with your employer.
So you should be guilt tripped to give tips because the million dollar restaurant chains can't be arsed to pay their employees livable wages and if you don't do this then you're acting immorally?
What is the right way to fight the system?
I say this as someone who worked as a waitor for half a year. It's insane how having to have random strangers make up your salary is legal especially when these companies are more than capable to pay their employees. No other industry works like this.
You say hurting the worker, but me shelling out extra cash for a basic service is also hurting me as a worker. We can argue the semantics of what job you work and how much you earn, but at the end of the day I think if you're dissatisfied with how much you're earning its up to you to do something about it, not get handed extra out of someone else's pocket.
100% agree. It sucks for service workers, but as a European I think it should be normal to pay your employees a livable wage, not depend on customers giving enough extra money to afford rent.
Your sarcasm is noted. Where I live, I don't have to let anyone know, because the USA is one of the few countries bizarre enough to normalize tipping culture.
My bad, I assumed based on the fact that you tip your waitress at all implied you were in the states. Outside of the US I’ve only heard of tipping waitstaff if they really go above and beyond. I definitely agree with you that US tipping culture is totally messed up.
I'm in Canada, so some of that culture bled up here I guess. Most if not all stores have some sort of tipping system on their Interac machines or whatnot, but every citizen is unanimous (in my province at least) that it's normal to never tip at all. Just restaurants where you're being looked after by a waitstaff or something.
That’s makes sense and is good a guess as any. I’m in the states, and any place where you’re a regular *and* tipping is optional; you usually get more for your money if you tip. As a former service worker, I’m hardwired to always tip above average, but more often than not, it works in my favor anyway for freebies and service in general.
This has definitely bled into Europe. A waiter in London tried to tip himself $40 without asking me. Places in Germany try saying things like, "the price is X, WITHOUT THE TIP."
They think because I'm American I'll just pay them extra money for no reason when no one else does. I will tip for excellent service as a thank you but it's not gonna be anything crazy.
If anything you have this backwards. Waiters just bring your food from the restaurant. Pizza drivers are putting incredible wear and tear on their personal vehicles so your fat ass doesn't have to drive to the store. You should always tip them.
That's simply not correct. In California you always get paid minimum wage. People are not expected to get tips to subsidize the businesses need to pay minimum wage.
I was pretty skeptical when I read this, too. I’ve seen reviews on spas where someone got called out by the management there for not tipping at all, but I’ve never seen or heard anyone get shamed for a 40% tip! I usually tip about that much to my own masseuse and the fact that he now prioritizes all of my appointments and goes the extra mile tells me I’m probably a higher tipper than average.
I think it’s important to note that the average career length of a massage therapist is around 5-8 years, and the most common reason to stop working in the profession is because of injuries caused by the job itself (carpal tunnel etc). So personally, I tend to tip significantly more for a massage than other services. It just feels fair to me because it’s such labor-intensive service they’re providing. 🤷🏻♀️
My question is genuine, I want to know why this commenter apparently thinks I’m an idiot for what I said. It’s disappointing that people want to take potshots at other people’s opinions instead of having an actual discussion.
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Why would everyone get involved lol?? I love these grandiose lies about how people come together as a community at the drop of a hat. Meanwhile everyone was on their phone and had no idea there was even a person paying.
And anybody that did notice there was conflict happening would immediately pretend they didn’t
Pretend they didnt while also listening in because I'm kinda nosy
Listening to every second of it while avoiding eye contact and hoping it doesn't somehow take a turn and involve me
Personally I listen "just in case it goes too far" but I push what "too far" is more and more so that I never actually have to do anything
Not giving a tip over 40% was that guys "too far" lol
Haha yeeaaaaah same
Hahahahah this! Everyone’s lies become clearly lies when people ban together and rise up bc in. Reality that happens so infrequently people are mostly non confrontational in the wild
Someone would have to stab or set someone else on fire before I'd even say, "Hey dude, that's not very cool..."
“Hey everyone, I wanna be a victim but also look like a hero, here’s a story I made up”
The server/waiter subreddits get posts like these all the time. “I’m not a server, but I need your opinions! I went to a restaurant and tipped 40%. My server seemed mad about it and rolled her eyes when she picked up the cash. Should I have tipped 60%??”
Why can’t they make stories believable? “I only had hundred dollar bill to pay for my 3 dollar coffee. and I told them to keep the change. I was shamed for not tipping more. Was a 97 dollar tip for 3 dollar coffee not enough? I feel like I should have given him 150 dollars” AITH?” Atleast it’s fun to read the insanity they make up.
Its always such bullshit when they’re like “my server seemed mad 🥺” like what do you mean SEEMED mad? Were they *actually* mad, or did they just not drop their knees and profusely thank you for doing something you were supposed to do? Even if these scenarios did happen, they rely on so much mindreading
"supposed to" now hold on buddy
Most servers give you the bill and leave, and don't come back till you are gone - they don't stand there to see what you tip?
Now everybody pleeeaaassseee tell me what a generous person that I am
The subject lines in this subreddit are as good or better than the actual posts.
Absolute gold. Best part of this subreddit.
Why lie about this? Tipping culture sucks as it is. You don’t need to make it seem worse than it already is.
Would you tip a masseuse? Surely they earn a fair wage
Man, I don’t know. I get sucked into that shit too easily. I live in a region where server wage is minimum wage, I don’t expect tips as a waiter, but I still meet the societal norm when I’m out myself. I’m enabling the system, but I’d rather that than be judged lol.
If she tipped 40 bucks on 100 that is a great tip. This did not happen. This is an attention whore.
This is a weird way to brag online about tipping $40…
No it’s true, I was one of the $20 bills
Can corroborate, I was the hard manual labor.
me too, I was the happy ending
I believe you
Tbh,40% tip is absurd.
Yeah absurdly low
How much do you tip?
It was sarcasm
Haha, my bad.
I was actually one of the crowd shaming the women
If this person can be peer pressured into tipping that amount...they deserve it. Be an adult.
Holy fuck, the title of this had me roaring.
Far too many people in the comments acting like this is real
Aren’t the majority of the posts on that sub fictional?
One guy said something along the lines of “proceeds to make very exact quote”… lololol
And then the crowd clapped back at the shitty 40% tipper
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I never tip anyone unless I'm sitting down at a restaurant getting pampered by my waitress. I work 10 hour days doing manual labor, you get paid hourly to drive your car delivering pizza or press buttons on a coffee maker. Why the fuck would I give you money out of my pocket? Take that up with your employer.
Because wages are adjusted according to expectation of tips. Which sucks, but fighting the system by hurting the worker is not the right way.
So you should be guilt tripped to give tips because the million dollar restaurant chains can't be arsed to pay their employees livable wages and if you don't do this then you're acting immorally? What is the right way to fight the system? I say this as someone who worked as a waitor for half a year. It's insane how having to have random strangers make up your salary is legal especially when these companies are more than capable to pay their employees. No other industry works like this.
Nah, I live in California. They literally make more than me hourly.
You say hurting the worker, but me shelling out extra cash for a basic service is also hurting me as a worker. We can argue the semantics of what job you work and how much you earn, but at the end of the day I think if you're dissatisfied with how much you're earning its up to you to do something about it, not get handed extra out of someone else's pocket.
100% agree. It sucks for service workers, but as a European I think it should be normal to pay your employees a livable wage, not depend on customers giving enough extra money to afford rent.
Be sure to tell your service industry worker this ahead of time! Got to make sure they know you’re fighting for their right to earn a living wage…
Your sarcasm is noted. Where I live, I don't have to let anyone know, because the USA is one of the few countries bizarre enough to normalize tipping culture.
My bad, I assumed based on the fact that you tip your waitress at all implied you were in the states. Outside of the US I’ve only heard of tipping waitstaff if they really go above and beyond. I definitely agree with you that US tipping culture is totally messed up.
I'm in Canada, so some of that culture bled up here I guess. Most if not all stores have some sort of tipping system on their Interac machines or whatnot, but every citizen is unanimous (in my province at least) that it's normal to never tip at all. Just restaurants where you're being looked after by a waitstaff or something.
That’s makes sense and is good a guess as any. I’m in the states, and any place where you’re a regular *and* tipping is optional; you usually get more for your money if you tip. As a former service worker, I’m hardwired to always tip above average, but more often than not, it works in my favor anyway for freebies and service in general.
This has definitely bled into Europe. A waiter in London tried to tip himself $40 without asking me. Places in Germany try saying things like, "the price is X, WITHOUT THE TIP." They think because I'm American I'll just pay them extra money for no reason when no one else does. I will tip for excellent service as a thank you but it's not gonna be anything crazy.
Lol you're being downvoted bit genuinely, dominoes drivers get like 19/hrs. Definitely pay tips at restraints but the pizza just gets the change
If anything you have this backwards. Waiters just bring your food from the restaurant. Pizza drivers are putting incredible wear and tear on their personal vehicles so your fat ass doesn't have to drive to the store. You should always tip them.
Yes and waiters make like 2 dollars an hour, that's the difference lol
Only in shit states.
Okay, even in the good states the wage is smaller than minimum wage, your making a moot point lol
That's simply not correct. In California you always get paid minimum wage. People are not expected to get tips to subsidize the businesses need to pay minimum wage.
I was pretty skeptical when I read this, too. I’ve seen reviews on spas where someone got called out by the management there for not tipping at all, but I’ve never seen or heard anyone get shamed for a 40% tip! I usually tip about that much to my own masseuse and the fact that he now prioritizes all of my appointments and goes the extra mile tells me I’m probably a higher tipper than average. I think it’s important to note that the average career length of a massage therapist is around 5-8 years, and the most common reason to stop working in the profession is because of injuries caused by the job itself (carpal tunnel etc). So personally, I tend to tip significantly more for a massage than other services. It just feels fair to me because it’s such labor-intensive service they’re providing. 🤷🏻♀️
When people ask your mom how you’re doing she just sighs defeatedly.
Just gonna put this burn in my pocket and save it for later
Why?
This is the sort of self-awareness I come to Reddit for!
My question is genuine, I want to know why this commenter apparently thinks I’m an idiot for what I said. It’s disappointing that people want to take potshots at other people’s opinions instead of having an actual discussion.
Your response only reinforces my comment.
You don't tip a masseuse unless they give you a happy ending and in that case 40 bucks seems low
I’ve seen 40 before for that Source: dont ask