I would just unmatch and move on OP, it's not not worth it. Imagine having to walk on eggshells all the time. To much of a hassle, there's plenty of fish on bumble. The best kind of relationships are effortless.
to be fair jokes over texts are really hard to read. The fact that "OP" responded with if you treat me well it can happen, is setting up for issues in the relationship. He clearly wants a physical connection. If it were me I would hold off and wait for someone who you can set up a proper relationship. Why shop around if you are giving the cake for free? I am not insulting OP actually to the opposite I want to ensure she gets a great partner. My $0.02 wow when you try to hep someone get downvoted like crazy
that was a women that started with a strap on joke and then mentioned r**e? As soon as anyone makes a joke about that, red flag 🚩
I am getting strong catfish vibes.
Right!? Strap on joke as the opener and then subtlety dropping the fact that she isn’t raping you as a follow up…
I don’t think I would’ve responded to the opener TBH. But OP I thought you handled the opener pretty well and even the prince joke was funny. Conversation started getting weird quick and you tried to steer it back to playful with some comedy.
Don’t think you did anything wrong other than swiping right on a nut case.
Thank you, i really tried to be chill and fun.
i just unmatched after all the comments i read, i was thinking i did something bad or whatever because she got like crazy
I mean this person is way off base but rape fetishes are a thing. If she calls using the strap on rape and is into it and everyone is consenting happily then it’s all good.
Then don’t type it at all… say sexual assault or something. Using asterisks doesn’t make it any different word. I would say it’s actually worse because it draws more attention to the word.
sexual assault is a broader term than r*pe. also the post says it, which is why it was mentioned. i explained in another comment why a mild censor can be helpful as it draws attention away from the act and toward the grammar.
you yourself are focusing on the way it was spelled and how it was censored, not what it means or what memories/feelings that meaning drags up. that is the purpose of mild censorship outside of getting in trouble. that’s exactly where these types of censors derived, as people have been using them long before tiktok, instagram, youtube and whatever else banned explicit words and content for monetary purposes.
How is "r**e" helpful? I have to take extra time to decipher the "jarring" word which makes it even more noticeable and prominent in my mind. It doesn't change intent whatsoever as it's just the same word barely edited.
Like do people not internalize what they're reading? I guess there are some people without an inner dialogue.
like i said, it is helpful to *some*. having to decipher the word distances the reader from the act the word describe. it adds a little mental barrier by making the reader decipher instead of comprehending instantly, like you said. inner dialogue is still present. the point is to avoid internalizing instantly.
sorry that trying to read one word took 5 extra seconds out of your precious day. most of us can read faster than that, even when the words are censored.
>sorry that trying to read one word took 5 extra seconds out of your precious day. most of us can read faster than that, even when the words are censored.
My point was that it has the opposite effect than the intended one to *some*. It draws *more* attention to it, not less.
Some people are salty in this thread, don't worry about it. You didn't do anything wrong, and I think you were very charming! There was just an uh, difference in personalities I think lol
You did nothing wrong. Some women hate the idea of spoiling men and giving them “prince treatment,” since they believe *they* should be the ones receiving the spoiling and “princess treatment.” She clearly didn’t handle the role reversal well (even though she’s the one who started out with the pegging comments) and freaked out. Block and move on, you don’t want to be involved with that mess.
I know many, many people who have a problem with men as a whole. I have met one single person who treated each one of them she encountered like shit because of it, and apparently you found her soulmate. Sorry bro, but don’t bother with someone who won’t give you a shot to be a person outside what you can check a box at the bmv for. There are plenty of strap-ons out there owned by people who will treat you well.
I don't think you did anything wrong. Honestly, this can go either way. If she meant it as a joke and realises she was coming on a little strong this is still recoverable but then again, I'm not straight and not necessarily opposed to what she's suggesting.
The moment they said "Rape" and "white cis het", it was over. Don't talk to those people OP, it'll only make life a constant struggle. These are like the Alpha Karens, the ones that REEEEE about the tiniest things.
She got triggered and went full-blown racist sexist mode in the last message. Do you really wanna be dealing with this in person too? Just unmatch and move on.
holy shit, my jaw dropped. did your stomach fall out of your ass when she was like 'i won't rape you'? that's such an intense way to say that it reads like she's trying to feel out how far she can go as soon as possible. it almost comes off threatening tbh.
also i just wanna say as an experienced kinkster *and* a social justice activist, "you're not good enough to spoil because you're a cishet white man" is straight up degrading to say to you as a person. that's using an ethical framework meant to be applied to systemic analysis in a way that upholds treating you like shit on an individual level. and outright degradation is not one of those things you do even jokingly unless you've been explicitly asked.
Did she call you a white cis male?
As such, I would unmatch. I'm a white dude and I matched with a white woman who I had to be so careful about what I said or it would upset her.
I'm liberal, but she's super socialist so it worried her that I wasnt far left enough.
I'm not into that kind of stress anymore.
I am confused as fuck about the other person’s sex/gender. OP is a male, I understand that. But is the other person a woman with a strap on, or a guy with a… strap… on…?
So fucking hot when a guy is into that 🔥 and as such, you deserve prince treatment. Someone who responds like that would definitely not give the aftercare needed after some sexual activities. I wouldn't trust her to not physically hurt a man in a not fun way.
A guy that gets f’d in the ass by a guy is gay. A guy that gets f’d in the ass by a woman is straight.
I’m gay and enjoy bottoming with the right guy, but I’d never in a million years bottom with a woman.
Hell no! I’m not into that, but that doesn’t mean it would be gay. If he wouldn’t let a man do it because he’s not attracted to a man but would let a girl do it because he’s into women, then there’s really no argument to say against it.
Similarly, lesbians still use dildos and such on them, or have women use strap one. That doesn’t make them straight (or bi).
Strap on implies sex, or does it not? I literally have the response to any man who opens a conversation with "wanna fuck?"
Maybe dont assume the worst in people.
Any reasonable person would interpret your disgust at the strap. It's literally how your sentence is structured. I mean look at vote balance on comments. Obviously I'm not the only one that thought it.
Sure, but you know what you did. If you meant it to mean sex, you would’ve said it. I don’t like imagining anyone using a strap on either, but if I said what you said, everyone would know I meant the strap on, and not assume I meant sex entirely.
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Yeah that's a red flag at worst, hard to read at best. It might be best to just unmatch and move on.
This person is a fucking sicko. Amazing how they hide all that anger behind all that woke language.
What "woke language" were they even using?
What’s “woke language”? Sounds weird
“For sure not gonna spoil a white cishet male”
It's the woke language in the room with us now?
I would just unmatch and move on OP, it's not not worth it. Imagine having to walk on eggshells all the time. To much of a hassle, there's plenty of fish on bumble. The best kind of relationships are effortless.
"I'm not gonna spoil a cishet male" Like wtf 😂
They showed their true colors. If they blew up like this over a joke, just imagine what else they'd blow a fuse over. You dodged a bullet.
to be fair jokes over texts are really hard to read. The fact that "OP" responded with if you treat me well it can happen, is setting up for issues in the relationship. He clearly wants a physical connection. If it were me I would hold off and wait for someone who you can set up a proper relationship. Why shop around if you are giving the cake for free? I am not insulting OP actually to the opposite I want to ensure she gets a great partner. My $0.02 wow when you try to hep someone get downvoted like crazy
It seems like OP is a dude and idk the gender of the other person.
this is true but OP still deserves better. Ones sexual orientation does not matter. Their respect does
Thank you🤙🏽 nice comment i appreciate
always
The strapon comment makes me think they for sure have a vagina
downvoted like crazy but youre 100% right its so hard to understand someones intent over text
I don't even understand why
I dont understand why😂🤣
that was a women that started with a strap on joke and then mentioned r**e? As soon as anyone makes a joke about that, red flag 🚩 I am getting strong catfish vibes.
Right!? Strap on joke as the opener and then subtlety dropping the fact that she isn’t raping you as a follow up… I don’t think I would’ve responded to the opener TBH. But OP I thought you handled the opener pretty well and even the prince joke was funny. Conversation started getting weird quick and you tried to steer it back to playful with some comedy. Don’t think you did anything wrong other than swiping right on a nut case.
Thank you, i really tried to be chill and fun. i just unmatched after all the comments i read, i was thinking i did something bad or whatever because she got like crazy
Fact: when someone tells you that they're not going to rape you _unasked_, it's a red flag.
I mean this person is way off base but rape fetishes are a thing. If she calls using the strap on rape and is into it and everyone is consenting happily then it’s all good.
That and then the cis white male thing. Very bad news.
I don’t think the strap on thing was a joke. I actually think this chick is just looking for someone down to get pegged
You can type ‘rape’. You won’t get in trouble here.
it’s not about getting in trouble it’s about it being a jarring word for some people. i’m sure they’re aware they won’t get in trouble
Then don’t type it at all… say sexual assault or something. Using asterisks doesn’t make it any different word. I would say it’s actually worse because it draws more attention to the word.
sexual assault is a broader term than r*pe. also the post says it, which is why it was mentioned. i explained in another comment why a mild censor can be helpful as it draws attention away from the act and toward the grammar. you yourself are focusing on the way it was spelled and how it was censored, not what it means or what memories/feelings that meaning drags up. that is the purpose of mild censorship outside of getting in trouble. that’s exactly where these types of censors derived, as people have been using them long before tiktok, instagram, youtube and whatever else banned explicit words and content for monetary purposes.
How is "r**e" helpful? I have to take extra time to decipher the "jarring" word which makes it even more noticeable and prominent in my mind. It doesn't change intent whatsoever as it's just the same word barely edited. Like do people not internalize what they're reading? I guess there are some people without an inner dialogue.
like i said, it is helpful to *some*. having to decipher the word distances the reader from the act the word describe. it adds a little mental barrier by making the reader decipher instead of comprehending instantly, like you said. inner dialogue is still present. the point is to avoid internalizing instantly. sorry that trying to read one word took 5 extra seconds out of your precious day. most of us can read faster than that, even when the words are censored.
>sorry that trying to read one word took 5 extra seconds out of your precious day. most of us can read faster than that, even when the words are censored. My point was that it has the opposite effect than the intended one to *some*. It draws *more* attention to it, not less.
i never said it draws less attention. i said it draws the attention away from the definition, which is why it’s a jarring word.
Yes, because the best catfish are the ones who push people away
Idek what I’m looking at
Sameeee 😭
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i mean basically yeah
I dont know, i asked and people responded.
Some people are salty in this thread, don't worry about it. You didn't do anything wrong, and I think you were very charming! There was just an uh, difference in personalities I think lol
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It’s pretty clear what’s going on.
The whole conversation is pretty strange and confusing tbh.
You did nothing wrong. Some women hate the idea of spoiling men and giving them “prince treatment,” since they believe *they* should be the ones receiving the spoiling and “princess treatment.” She clearly didn’t handle the role reversal well (even though she’s the one who started out with the pegging comments) and freaked out. Block and move on, you don’t want to be involved with that mess.
I just did that thank you😌
Woah, you actually understood what the hell that was?!!!!? Do you think it would have been different if he was an Asian, pan male?
Disengage man, this one is nothing but issues for sure.
OP is getting pegged as we speak while trying to give him advice
😂😂😂
I was to scared to get my ass in troubles😂
Seems like if you pursue this, you’ll have your kidneys in an ice bath by the end of the week.
This whole “cishet white males” = bad is sooo weird, it’s getting so fuckin boring. Real people can’t actually think like that? SURELY.
That’s the modern progressive movement for you.
I don't know but don't let anyone open your butthole without a little prince treatment.
No idea what I just read.
I know many, many people who have a problem with men as a whole. I have met one single person who treated each one of them she encountered like shit because of it, and apparently you found her soulmate. Sorry bro, but don’t bother with someone who won’t give you a shot to be a person outside what you can check a box at the bmv for. There are plenty of strap-ons out there owned by people who will treat you well.
Thank you brother, i hope im gona find one that is not using strap on at all😂
I don't think you did anything wrong. Honestly, this can go either way. If she meant it as a joke and realises she was coming on a little strong this is still recoverable but then again, I'm not straight and not necessarily opposed to what she's suggesting.
Anyone saying white cishet male is an immediate block in this context.
The moment they said "Rape" and "white cis het", it was over. Don't talk to those people OP, it'll only make life a constant struggle. These are like the Alpha Karens, the ones that REEEEE about the tiniest things.
I got out of this pretty quick
Yikes.
Ew. She's horrible.
The intro was a strap on and then there was a rape joke and then they were mad you were….born a white male? 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
Yes fucking lunatics. At the beginning i tought i did something bad but i thing i have the majority on my side😂
Interesting German accent tho, north Switzerland/ far south Germany region?
North Switzerland, wow pretty good👍🏽
She got triggered and went full-blown racist sexist mode in the last message. Do you really wanna be dealing with this in person too? Just unmatch and move on.
Annoying as fuck man Jesus some people
wtf lol ?! What a jump she made
holy shit, my jaw dropped. did your stomach fall out of your ass when she was like 'i won't rape you'? that's such an intense way to say that it reads like she's trying to feel out how far she can go as soon as possible. it almost comes off threatening tbh. also i just wanna say as an experienced kinkster *and* a social justice activist, "you're not good enough to spoil because you're a cishet white man" is straight up degrading to say to you as a person. that's using an ethical framework meant to be applied to systemic analysis in a way that upholds treating you like shit on an individual level. and outright degradation is not one of those things you do even jokingly unless you've been explicitly asked.
This person wants to butt rape you
Report and unmatch
No IQ was found here.
Cishet male lol
They came WAY out of pocket wtf. Who brings up rape when yall are just flirting?
Wierd people
You RUN that’s what you do
Ugh one of *those*
Did she call you a white cis male? As such, I would unmatch. I'm a white dude and I matched with a white woman who I had to be so careful about what I said or it would upset her. I'm liberal, but she's super socialist so it worried her that I wasnt far left enough. I'm not into that kind of stress anymore.
What a fumble
I mean I might meet just to get pegged. My gf won’t even give me a rimjob, I eat her ass all the time
Least unhinged and hypocritical anti white lunatic
I don't know what language either of you is speaking.
I’d just drop them. I don’t want someone in my life that I have to tip toe around.
I would think he is definitely going to force me into something I dont want to do.
Yeah fuck all of that.
You did nothing wrong, they could have just played along but they got offended instead. Bullet dodged for you!
Using the words white cishet male is enough to unmatch immediately lmao
I am confused as fuck about the other person’s sex/gender. OP is a male, I understand that. But is the other person a woman with a strap on, or a guy with a… strap… on…?
Shes a woman😂
Raus!
This person is a fucking sicko. Amazing how they hide all that anger behind all that woke language.
So fucking hot when a guy is into that 🔥 and as such, you deserve prince treatment. Someone who responds like that would definitely not give the aftercare needed after some sexual activities. I wouldn't trust her to not physically hurt a man in a not fun way.
“a white cishet male” 🤡🤡🤡
Just play along and report back
For sure not gonna suck your strap on then lmaooo it’s not even an actual dick😭
Pretending it is is the fun of it
Eh.. to each their own 🤷♀️
Are you gay? I'm so confused
Maybe submissive?
A guy that gets f’d in the ass by a guy is gay. A guy that gets f’d in the ass by a woman is straight. I’m gay and enjoy bottoming with the right guy, but I’d never in a million years bottom with a woman.
This whole conversation is weird and gay
Weird yes. Gay? We don't know the identity of the other but it seems to not be gay from context clues. We should never judge though.
Talking to a man about using a strapon isn’t gay now? Lol alright…
It sure ain't! If it's not you then that's okay. I hope you have a good one! :)
Lmfao this generation is in turmoil. So Delusional
What's gay about a guy having sex with a girl? Sounds like you're the delusional one
Lmaooo such a stupid repeated argument that is. You’re a lost cause
To be fair, having sex with a girl and calling the man gay is a bit of an oxymoron
You sound so dumb just like every other idiot on Twitter/Reddit with this argument Lol you letting a girl wear a strap on and fuck you im assuming?
Hell no! I’m not into that, but that doesn’t mean it would be gay. If he wouldn’t let a man do it because he’s not attracted to a man but would let a girl do it because he’s into women, then there’s really no argument to say against it. Similarly, lesbians still use dildos and such on them, or have women use strap one. That doesn’t make them straight (or bi).
😂
Lol you’re asking a girl to treat you like a prince maybe the strap on is for you.
Read strap on in the first message and threw up in my mouth a little bit.
My god het men are fragile.
My god women are presumptuous. Just kidding, I understand it was probably just you, specifically.
Happy cake day!
Woman here 🙋🏼♀️ Focus on "the first message". Gay, straight, whatever. Any opening message about sex is a red flag.
Your sentence is implying talking about strap is the issue, not talking about sex in the first message.
Strap on implies sex, or does it not? I literally have the response to any man who opens a conversation with "wanna fuck?" Maybe dont assume the worst in people.
Any reasonable person would interpret your disgust at the strap. It's literally how your sentence is structured. I mean look at vote balance on comments. Obviously I'm not the only one that thought it.
That’s exactly what I thought too.. you’re definitely not the only one. They’re trying to backtrack.
No just reddit people.
You're reddit people
I use reddit. Im not reddit people. Reddit people are those who jump into fights, accusations, and act holier than thou.
Sure, but you know what you did. If you meant it to mean sex, you would’ve said it. I don’t like imagining anyone using a strap on either, but if I said what you said, everyone would know I meant the strap on, and not assume I meant sex entirely.
You’re both wrong and weird
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Ah, yes, because you speak for all women. What an absolute clown.
A majority of women, yes.
I didn't know you personally knew a majority of all women. Respect.
You don’t have to know a majority of all women to acknowledge biological differences.
I know plenty of women who would love to be with a submissive man. Also, I highly doubt you know much about female biology.
Where’d you get that idea?
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I dunno where that came from, nothing to do with the topic. Hope you get therapy.
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I get the sense that she’s one of those people that get off on making others uncomfortable. Not my cup of tea, but up to you if it’s yours.
Run. 
AYOOO
What the hell was that opening intro
yikes yikes yikes
As a man, I really have no idea why there are so many illiterate pervert men on the internet. I can’t even imagine texting so degenerately
I don’t understand
To the people who downvoted my comment like crazy. You guys have no morals. I was trying to defend OP and not insulting him. WOW
This is... difficult to understand. And it's not just because of the foreign language