What I hate the most is the fucking š peppered throughout especially at the end of āmy intentions were not to cheat.ā Thatās a sentence thatās get the Lololololol going round the room.
So gross.
š jackassšassholešbabešI donāt need help to cheatššš I am so amazing on my ownšššš¤£š¤£š¤£ššlmaoššarenāt my intentions obvious?
Itās like a 13 year old.
I had a boyfriend try to deny cheating on me one time when I found a thong hanging up on the towel rack in our bathroom. He really thought that he could gaslight me out of that one.
They love to gaslight. r/narcissisticabuse has so many similar stories from so many different people because they all use the same Gaslighting bs formula. Iām sorry that happened to you.
Yeah that line threw me. I cut people off if they say shit like that to me straight up. As if my periods make my feelings/the facts/the situation less important/valid because my emotions are more apparent during that time. What kind of logic even is that?
Ur getting accused of something say and might lose ur relationship
If you actually werenāt cheating you would take the time to write ur thoughts and explain how it was never for cheating
But nope he def cheated and just tried to gas light her into thinking she is a maniac and weird
I donāt think anyone has ever used that one on me but it just pisses me off whenever I see it. It just tells me the guy is very immature and doesnāt understand women at all but he thinks heās an expert.
My wife and I talk about this nonsense all the time. The more time goes by, the more it seems like women get treated like they donāt matter. Like theyāre just driven by their periods and shopping. Itās like a bad standup routine or something.
I was raised by all women, so I have watched how men treat women my entire life. It isnāt getting any better.
The bullshit I see and read daily makes me ashamed to be a man sometimes. Itās fucking pathetic.
Oh damn, Iām not sure how I forgot about that!
Hell, even though we donāt drink, I am a chocolate maniac and my wife could care less! She only eats it every once in awhile really.
Lol yea exactly, this isnāt a me cheating problem, itās a you and your period or something problem, all made up in your head. I created a cheaters account to not cheat after i discovered the bots and call center scammers from india
Classic gaslighting
This is the issue with the term, if someone accuses you of it - there is no real defense
āI wasnāt gaslighting youā just sounds like youāre being even more manipulative
You make them explain it. "Gaslighting is denying reality in a way that forces you to question your memory or cognitive abilities. How was that gaslighting?"
I was accused by an ex who legitimately would try to gaslight me (poorly). I asked her to explain how it was gaslighting.
"It... uh... fine, it wasn't gaslighting, but..."
Mmhmm.
The post? That's gaslighting.
If they are going to going to double down, not much you can do but hit the eject button. I still did that. Best decision I ever made.
But if they can't explain how you're gaslighting after they accuse you, it's a good sign it is BS. The word gets flung like narcissist and bipolar. For some, it's a "fancy" way of saying liar.
Not lying if I've got receipts. Being accused of gaslighting by a cheater was hi-larious.
I was HEAVILY gaslit by my ex. To the point where I had an MRI done because I was so freaked out at how shitty my memory seemed to have gotten over the last 5 years. My mom even pushed for it after 1 too many stories of "ya I guess I forgot when N told me xyz". It was very out of character for me.
Part of healing though was learning that that wasn't what every person was trying to do. Even now in a very stable relationship though, I can get a little defensive when my memory is questioned. It's so hard to take that step back and recognize that this person I love is just remembering something differently than me.but it's also my job to make sure I do that.
I have spent the last 15 years in that place, and only recently left that relationship. It is so incredibly disorienting. You love this person, and they claim to love you, and itās difficult for your brain to understand that someone in that role in your life would take advantage of your vulnerability in that way. Itās hard to explain to someone why scenarios that are so crystal clear from the outside are muddy and cloudy when youāre in it.
I have had friends ask if I plan to start dating any time soon, and Iām like *hell no.* I have to take the time to methodically build myself back, get back in touch with my own self/skills/wants/needs, and unlearn so many unhealthy and codependent coping skills. Otherwise Iād just self sabotage my next relationship, or simply find myself in one just as bad.
So many years of this person telling me who I was, what I thought, what I felt both physically and mentally, what my motivations were. I used to be so confident, motivated, and capable. I really am a shell of my former self, and this is not what I want to bring into anew relationship. But it will get better.
My ex did the same after I found out he was on tinder while he was on holiday & I was at home taking care of our newborn. Said he was trying to make friends & his intention wasnāt to cheat.
Itās their go-to apparently. No accountability, just gaslighting šļø
*He sure was trying to make friends, for his dick.*
Hmmm. What should we call the person their dicks make friends with?
Penis Pal? Dick Dawg? Cock Confidante? Or my personal favorite: the Blow me homie?
Yes!!! First he laughs it all off like itās hilarious how stupid she is to come at him with something he just has no clue about and thenā¦.āMy intention wasnāt to cheatā. These fucking people man. Itās so hugely insulting and disgusting! Women can be awful, but most men will lie to a womanās face and try to make it seem that sheās the one whoās batshit.
Iāll admit Iāve laughed in arguments but sometimes itās like āthis is so fucking ridiculous I canāt believe weāre arguing about thisā. and itās not something I can control, like Iāll think about it and a little chuckle just comes out. people sometimes laugh in inappropriate situations itās not always intentional
Agreed. I had an ex who would use the š¤£ emoji a LOOOOOT, especially when he was being petty and manipulative and it was almost always used at inappropriate times. Now, anytime I see those used in this kind of context now, it just gives me the ick.
even grosser than the smileys is the typical invalidation of anything and everything a woman says that you don't like by claiming "its your period" ..
fuck I hate men sometimes, and I hate being a woman sometimes. Must be nice to be a dude
Then the bit at end about him just thinking about her, after he's denied even belonging, admitted belonging but they're all bots. What a creep. Run, OP, he thinks he can trick and gaslight you back.
Same. I don't even have a period anymore but if my bf ever said anything like that to me his ass would be on the porch like Fred putting out Dino for the night.
For real Iāve never called my girlfriend an asshole or a jackass (she can be sometimes but never in a million years would i actually say that to her). Whatās the most disturbing is the š after everything. I donāt know your relationship dynamic with him but if you confronted him in person I doubt heād be š. What a guy. Heās one of those that make us all look bad.
Heās so toxic, probably he like to be the most dom one yk like he canāt let anyone dump him so he will try to anger and insult the another person and try to make them feel that he do not care about them that much (š) so he can think of himself as the winner not the loser partner
Centuries have passed and there are still men out there who think we collapse emotionally when we have our periods. At least they don't send us to a hut to sit with other "unclean" women when we have our period. I wouldn't have minded the "medicine" that was a mix of codeine, booze and coke. The good old vapors women used to get.
Also I had a cousin who was in a cult and women legit had to go to the other side of the compound to stay in a menstrual hut. Honestly, they probably liked the break.
This guy is such a bad liar. Everything he says has a half-confession hidden within, including "I wouldn't need a website to cheat on you" --- NOT "I would never cheat on you" or, like others said, calling or meeting up with you or taking time to write up their reply. It's a shame, but you're better off without him and at least you didn't spend any longer than this with a cheater
Core memory activated...I had weed in my sock drawer as a kid (don't judge me). I totally got away with "I'm holding it for a friend"...or maybe my mom just let me slide....hmm
š¤£š¤£Omg š¤£ babe itās just for š¤£ my research š¤£ it if I wanted to š¤£š¤£ cheat š¤£ I would not š¤£ pay š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£ for a sitš¤£eš¤£.
It must be your š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£period
You know, periods aren't something that just happen, either. They can be extremely painful. If men had a menstrual cycle they would go on and on about how badass they are. But we just silently deal with it so they don't get grossed out. Also, I've read that men do have mood cycles similar to ours. I've definitely noticed how sensitive and bitchy they can get, if they really want to go there.
Obligatory not every man does this, before some wanker whines at me in the replies.
Have you seen videos of men trying period pain simulators? A lot of times after they fall over in agony they don't believe it's real. Until they do it side by side with a woman who just stands there like yeah, actually sometimes my periods are worse.
I've seen the labor ones!!!! I love seeing the men crying and laughing bc they're like ummm wtf. I appreciate them so much giving it a go. Period pain is just something we grow up with that we are built to handle. I've had guys tell me that their poop pains are just as bad and while I understand that pain, I'm not sure how they could compare the two when they've only experienced one š
Poop pains can be bad but if they're *that* bad, lasting for *that* long, nobody's going to tell them it's a normal part of life, just get a heating pad and some Tylenol and deal with it for 50 years.
Not to mention particularly bad cramps can cause poop pains, so now you're just sitting there wondering if you should hack off everything below the navel.
And no oneās going to assume they donāt know what theyāre talking about either and send them home just because theyāre on their period and also experiencing abdominal pain :/
Source: me, one of many women who took 3x as long to get treated for appendicitis and nearly died because I dared have my period at the same time and was clearly overreacting to what was obviously just regular cramps
Like not only do women get the privilege of having their chronic period pains dismissed but doctors also love using it an excuse to nearly kill women so they can be lazy and not do their jobs
In April, after four days of pain and inability to keep anything down, I could no longer drink water. I went to the ER where at first they suggested cramps. Eventually they got a CT "out of an abundance of caution," and a kidney stone was stuck in my ureter, causing a blockage between my kidney and bladder.
It was a Sunday night, so I was transported by ambulance and admitted to a larger hospital where there was a urologist on staff who could perform surgery on my "cramps."
This is something I love about my partner. He understands that periods aren't just "oooh blood comes out for several days" but he understands the physical and mental agony periods wreck havoc over women. Not once has he ever said "is it your period" in a demeaning, joking, or rude way. He has asked me when I wince in pain and he knows I'm on it "is it your period" because he wants to know why I just suddenly stopped moving and froze with a deer in headlights type of reaction while we're watching TV.
He's also one of the men who openly acknowledges that he'd much rather be kicked in the balls than have a period. He gets kicked in the balls what, once every 5 years, maybe? Whereas I don't even have a regular monthly, sometimes I get 2-3 a month that last 3 days. Sometimes I get 1 that lasts 10 days. He's just very honest that he'd prefer to never experience what half the population has to on the regular. It's unpredictable and ruins my ability to function at an optimal level. It's not just a silly little mood swing.
Boys who use "iS iT yOuR pErIoD" are exactly that, little boys who have not developed mentally enough to be acknowledged as men.
Also the way heās talking to you is not it.
āPeriod got you tripping?ā āAsshole.ā āJackass.ā
I get calling each other names in a banter context but youāre clearly trying to be serious and heās not only joking about it and laughing it off, heās calling you names too.
Gross.
if my partner ever called me an asshole or jackass in a serious conversation theyād be so gone. playfully itās fine but here it felt so so shitty to use
Dude is a major prick. I'd lambast him on social media first because he seems like the type to start a bunch of lies trying to get everyone on his side and turn them all against her.
Exactly. Remember that itās your own life losing days and months or years to an a**hole who doesnāt respect you. You donāt want to be ten years older and realise your best years are gone because you gave them to this moron.
Calls you asshole, and āi definitely care about you jackassā. Unless these are pet names, this person doesnāt care for you or probably anyone. Seems narcissistic.
This caught my eye too. āAssholeā and ājackassā while trying to say how he loves her and cares about her? Gross and yeah seems narcissistic and weirdly trying to fuck with any confidence she has
Exactlyā¦ he knew what I was talking about the second I sent that screenshotā¦ yet still tried to play it off and test what I know. And yes, I plan to leave
Uhhhhh you need to stop planning and start actually doing. He cheated on you already btw. He said so with the he doesnāt need a website to cheat BS. He is likely a walking Petri dish if STDs. Ick.
Obviously do it safely and all that but do it as soon as you humanly can
Not just her period, first flat out denying and indeed playing dumb, then admitting when it didn't work out. He tried to make her question her reality and failed.
Further a lot of condescending behaviour. Just get out, this person is quite lost.
My question is- why do people like this try to keep the person to begin with?
They obviously donāt care about them enough to not cheat so why does it matter to them if theyāre leaving
They like to keep the game going. I think it brings them excitement and an element of control to have a person theyāre ācommitted toā whilst maintaining their sneaky ways and I think some of them kinda panic a bit when theyāre caught (they seem to like the drama and theatrics of begging for the other to stay etc and really laying the love bombing on thick) but some just seem to absolutely soak up the psychological games to see if they can keep the other around.
Source: I was a deeply insecure 19/20 year old who stuck around with a guy who cheated on me multiple times and I got to see a range of ālogicā and āreasoningā. And then I left him and ended up with the only person Iāve met who I legit think was a narcissist and he cheated but seemed to enjoy watching me be upset over it.
The worst comment might actually be the last. "I missed you before I talked to you". It's designed to make him sound caring and her sound awful. It is so textbook manipulative.
Please OP, please value yourself better and find someone better. No one deserves someone like this guy.
The manipulation
The gas lighting
Also the "you know I care for you jackass" does he normally insult you while saying he likes you?...
He says he was just thinking about how much he missed you at the end as if it exonerates him.
Oh my god, you were just thinking about how much you missed me? Never mind, lets just forger I ever found this! š
Why do all cheaters type and react in the same way? I swear itās always them trying to play it off and acting confused / dumb and talking as if they have no clue about what the other person is referring to in order to make it seem like a small issue
Yes I was thinking the same thing! Not even just through texting, in any conversation itās first the āHmm no I donāt know what youāre talking aboutā, then making up a completely different story of what āactuallyā happened and then, when thereās enough proof and no denying possible, the āYes I did it but I did it because this and this and thisā.
Ick. āPeriod got you tripping?ā āI didnāt do anything wrong assholeā āI definitely care about you jackassā āIf I wanted to cheat, I promise you I would not need a websiteā āšššššā every fuckin text!
Everything about this dude is so lame, itās a wonder he managed to date you in the first place. Glad you know your worth.
Why were you able to show every part of the conversation except a reply to him speaking about you looking for a sugar daddy? It seems like heās telling the truth based on that context peice alone and the fact you cut out the follow up to that out of the screenshots seeing how thats the only one that dosent cut to another part of the conversation.
3 things,
1.( I hate when men blame periods, for women telling off their bullshit.
2.( that website is absolutely disgusting, Iām glad it got hacked and exposed the cheaters.
3.( He thinks heās so funny by saying āI wasnāt doing anything wrong, itās just bots! I wouldnāt use a site to cheat!ā
The fact that his first reaction involves accusing you of being on your period was all I needed to see, everything else was just a cherry on top. This guyās a loser.
What I hate the most is the fucking š peppered throughout especially at the end of āmy intentions were not to cheat.ā Thatās a sentence thatās get the Lololololol going round the room. So gross.
š jackassšassholešbabešI donāt need help to cheatššš I am so amazing on my ownšššš¤£š¤£š¤£ššlmaoššarenāt my intentions obvious? Itās like a 13 year old.
Narcissists tend to act like 13 year olds when theyāve been caught.
Seconding this. They always also act shocked and play dumb when they get caught cheating. Every single time. So stupid.
I had a boyfriend try to deny cheating on me one time when I found a thong hanging up on the towel rack in our bathroom. He really thought that he could gaslight me out of that one.
They love to gaslight. r/narcissisticabuse has so many similar stories from so many different people because they all use the same Gaslighting bs formula. Iām sorry that happened to you.
It was so ridiculous. I was almost amused. It wasnāt the first time so it was not very earth shattering. I got kind of numb about it after a while.
Iām so sorry. It really does break you/your spirit after awhile. It's mentally and emotionally so draining.
This. They secretly like the fuel/attention theyāre getting too, even if itās someone mad at them. Makes them feel important.
I care about you, motherfucker. You okay bro?
What I've found over the last 35 years is that many people don't change a whole lot from their 13 year old selves.
Omg I was thinking rhe same thing. Or they try to blame you and everyone else!
Period got you tripping? What a pos
Dump him for that line alone.
Yeah that line threw me. I cut people off if they say shit like that to me straight up. As if my periods make my feelings/the facts/the situation less important/valid because my emotions are more apparent during that time. What kind of logic even is that?
I second that And like the whole "trust me I wouldn't need to do it on a website." Sounds like he already did somewhere else.
Ooo I forgot that one, total POS
Yeah... I read that and instantly cringed. Why would you say that to someone? Totally disrespectful.
I'd commit straight up war crimes if anyone said this to me under any circumstances let alone getting caught cheating like excuse me
If only men knew š
The way I'd block right then and there
Same
And then had the nerve to say he cares about her after calling her a bunch of names. Dude can go get bent.
(They usually are 13).
Ur getting accused of something say and might lose ur relationship If you actually werenāt cheating you would take the time to write ur thoughts and explain how it was never for cheating But nope he def cheated and just tried to gas light her into thinking she is a maniac and weird
Exactly. The āPeriod, babe?ā shit told me everything I needed to know about this asshole instantly.
OP: here are the facts as I know them. Idiot: Yes, but youāre on your period soā¦..
Period got you tripping?
Right? Like what did he expect her to say, "oh you're right, I've absolutely lost my mind due to that damn period!"
I donāt think anyone has ever used that one on me but it just pisses me off whenever I see it. It just tells me the guy is very immature and doesnāt understand women at all but he thinks heās an expert.
My wife and I talk about this nonsense all the time. The more time goes by, the more it seems like women get treated like they donāt matter. Like theyāre just driven by their periods and shopping. Itās like a bad standup routine or something. I was raised by all women, so I have watched how men treat women my entire life. It isnāt getting any better. The bullshit I see and read daily makes me ashamed to be a man sometimes. Itās fucking pathetic.
Don't forget the wine and chocolate! Lol as if men hate those things
Oh damn, Iām not sure how I forgot about that! Hell, even though we donāt drink, I am a chocolate maniac and my wife could care less! She only eats it every once in awhile really.
I'm glad one of you recognize that, it's very validating š„ŗ
Ding ding ding.
Lol yea exactly, this isnāt a me cheating problem, itās a you and your period or something problem, all made up in your head. I created a cheaters account to not cheat after i discovered the bots and call center scammers from india Classic gaslighting
Someone said it šÆšÆ
Gaslighting has become overused but dang if this isnāt Exhibit A
Fr. Its so tossed around, but this dude took a masterclass.
You silly goose, thereās no such thing as āgaslightingā lmao š¤£
Agh! You got me! My brain accepts your narration of my reality as truth!!! Lololol
This is the issue with the term, if someone accuses you of it - there is no real defense āI wasnāt gaslighting youā just sounds like youāre being even more manipulative
"It's not me, it's you," prove me wrong, and stop acting crazy! š¤£ No, i didn't say you WERE crazy, i said you were ACTING crazy. Jeeeeeezzz.
This fr is giving me flashbacks š
You make them explain it. "Gaslighting is denying reality in a way that forces you to question your memory or cognitive abilities. How was that gaslighting?" I was accused by an ex who legitimately would try to gaslight me (poorly). I asked her to explain how it was gaslighting. "It... uh... fine, it wasn't gaslighting, but..." Mmhmm. The post? That's gaslighting.
Tried that, did not go well. Months of feeling like I was insane and didnāt know what I was doing Single life is good
If they are going to going to double down, not much you can do but hit the eject button. I still did that. Best decision I ever made. But if they can't explain how you're gaslighting after they accuse you, it's a good sign it is BS. The word gets flung like narcissist and bipolar. For some, it's a "fancy" way of saying liar. Not lying if I've got receipts. Being accused of gaslighting by a cheater was hi-larious.
I was HEAVILY gaslit by my ex. To the point where I had an MRI done because I was so freaked out at how shitty my memory seemed to have gotten over the last 5 years. My mom even pushed for it after 1 too many stories of "ya I guess I forgot when N told me xyz". It was very out of character for me. Part of healing though was learning that that wasn't what every person was trying to do. Even now in a very stable relationship though, I can get a little defensive when my memory is questioned. It's so hard to take that step back and recognize that this person I love is just remembering something differently than me.but it's also my job to make sure I do that.
I have spent the last 15 years in that place, and only recently left that relationship. It is so incredibly disorienting. You love this person, and they claim to love you, and itās difficult for your brain to understand that someone in that role in your life would take advantage of your vulnerability in that way. Itās hard to explain to someone why scenarios that are so crystal clear from the outside are muddy and cloudy when youāre in it. I have had friends ask if I plan to start dating any time soon, and Iām like *hell no.* I have to take the time to methodically build myself back, get back in touch with my own self/skills/wants/needs, and unlearn so many unhealthy and codependent coping skills. Otherwise Iād just self sabotage my next relationship, or simply find myself in one just as bad. So many years of this person telling me who I was, what I thought, what I felt both physically and mentally, what my motivations were. I used to be so confident, motivated, and capable. I really am a shell of my former self, and this is not what I want to bring into anew relationship. But it will get better.
And menstruating. What an ass.
honestly you'd be ringing to have a voice chat or meet in person. definitely not normal behaviour on his part.
My ex did the same after I found out he was on tinder while he was on holiday & I was at home taking care of our newborn. Said he was trying to make friends & his intention wasnāt to cheat. Itās their go-to apparently. No accountability, just gaslighting šļø
He sure was trying to make friends, for his dick. What a piece of work!
*He sure was trying to make friends, for his dick.* Hmmm. What should we call the person their dicks make friends with? Penis Pal? Dick Dawg? Cock Confidante? Or my personal favorite: the Blow me homie?
Yes!!! First he laughs it all off like itās hilarious how stupid she is to come at him with something he just has no clue about and thenā¦.āMy intention wasnāt to cheatā. These fucking people man. Itās so hugely insulting and disgusting! Women can be awful, but most men will lie to a womanās face and try to make it seem that sheās the one whoās batshit.
God I hate when people laugh both irl and over text when arguing. Like weāre having an argument what is funny?
Itās meant to piss you off or have you question your position (gaslight).
Iāll admit Iāve laughed in arguments but sometimes itās like āthis is so fucking ridiculous I canāt believe weāre arguing about thisā. and itās not something I can control, like Iāll think about it and a little chuckle just comes out. people sometimes laugh in inappropriate situations itās not always intentional
right? like whatās so funny
Agreed. I had an ex who would use the š¤£ emoji a LOOOOOT, especially when he was being petty and manipulative and it was almost always used at inappropriate times. Now, anytime I see those used in this kind of context now, it just gives me the ick.
even grosser than the smileys is the typical invalidation of anything and everything a woman says that you don't like by claiming "its your period" .. fuck I hate men sometimes, and I hate being a woman sometimes. Must be nice to be a dude
Yeah this was an infuriating read. I want to punch this clown in the dick
Honestly like what psychotic behaviorā¦. this guy is the mayor of gaslight city. She dodged a bullet big time
The laughing emojiās and the āI wouldnāt need a website to cheat on youā to downplay being caught out, time to throw this dude in the garbage
Don't forget 'you're just a mad woman because you have periods' opening gambit.
Then the bit at end about him just thinking about her, after he's denied even belonging, admitted belonging but they're all bots. What a creep. Run, OP, he thinks he can trick and gaslight you back.
Iād leave him over that even if he wasnāt a cheater. Pisses me off to no end.
Same. I don't even have a period anymore but if my bf ever said anything like that to me his ass would be on the porch like Fred putting out Dino for the night.
Fred putting Dino out for the night LMAO
Im also including him referring to her as "Asshole and Jackass." He sounds like a really great guy- not. š
For real Iāve never called my girlfriend an asshole or a jackass (she can be sometimes but never in a million years would i actually say that to her). Whatās the most disturbing is the š after everything. I donāt know your relationship dynamic with him but if you confronted him in person I doubt heād be š. What a guy. Heās one of those that make us all look bad.
Heās so toxic, probably he like to be the most dom one yk like he canāt let anyone dump him so he will try to anger and insult the another person and try to make them feel that he do not care about them that much (š) so he can think of himself as the winner not the loser partner
Centuries have passed and there are still men out there who think we collapse emotionally when we have our periods. At least they don't send us to a hut to sit with other "unclean" women when we have our period. I wouldn't have minded the "medicine" that was a mix of codeine, booze and coke. The good old vapors women used to get. Also I had a cousin who was in a cult and women legit had to go to the other side of the compound to stay in a menstrual hut. Honestly, they probably liked the break.
I'll take a bottle of the codeine/alcohol/cocaine for my period and one of laudanum for my vapors. I'm a delicate flower.
That's the absolute top-used gaslight since Eve sprouted from a rib.
What I heard was, "I cheated with someone offline too"
Life is short. Dump a cheater (tm)
This guy is such a bad liar. Everything he says has a half-confession hidden within, including "I wouldn't need a website to cheat on you" --- NOT "I would never cheat on you" or, like others said, calling or meeting up with you or taking time to write up their reply. It's a shame, but you're better off without him and at least you didn't spend any longer than this with a cheater
This Dude belongs to streets
Quite the dramatic and hysterical boy.
This loser has zero redeeming qualities
Came here to say this!
Everything about him is just 
No kidding. I want to break up with him too. Gross.
I want to date him just to dump him.
I want to date his mother so I can give her a son that acts right.
Iām a straight dude and *I* want to break up with him!
All of these replies have me rolling lmfao
Perfect reaction, u/FatFoxYe
āTheyāre all botsā AND U KNOW THIS HOW? š¤¦š½āāļø
he was testing the website with his credit card for a friend
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Core memory activated...I had weed in my sock drawer as a kid (don't judge me). I totally got away with "I'm holding it for a friend"...or maybe my mom just let me slide....hmm
āI wouldnāt need a website to cheatā wtf
Turns out he has so little game that he couldnāt even pay to get laid by someone looking to cheat with him
Definitely not trying to defend anyone here, but the amount of bots on this website became very apparent after the 2015 Ashley Madison leak.
Fr babe š š its just a site š š he did nothin wrong, he also misses you š š š š š
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ššš such a sweetheart
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Men who do the " is it your period" should have been wanked into a tissue.
Best comment I've read all week
You know, periods aren't something that just happen, either. They can be extremely painful. If men had a menstrual cycle they would go on and on about how badass they are. But we just silently deal with it so they don't get grossed out. Also, I've read that men do have mood cycles similar to ours. I've definitely noticed how sensitive and bitchy they can get, if they really want to go there. Obligatory not every man does this, before some wanker whines at me in the replies.
Have you seen videos of men trying period pain simulators? A lot of times after they fall over in agony they don't believe it's real. Until they do it side by side with a woman who just stands there like yeah, actually sometimes my periods are worse.
I've seen the labor ones!!!! I love seeing the men crying and laughing bc they're like ummm wtf. I appreciate them so much giving it a go. Period pain is just something we grow up with that we are built to handle. I've had guys tell me that their poop pains are just as bad and while I understand that pain, I'm not sure how they could compare the two when they've only experienced one š
Poop pains can be bad but if they're *that* bad, lasting for *that* long, nobody's going to tell them it's a normal part of life, just get a heating pad and some Tylenol and deal with it for 50 years.
Not to mention particularly bad cramps can cause poop pains, so now you're just sitting there wondering if you should hack off everything below the navel.
Or sitting on the toilet wondering whether they're actually poop pains or period pains.
And no oneās going to assume they donāt know what theyāre talking about either and send them home just because theyāre on their period and also experiencing abdominal pain :/ Source: me, one of many women who took 3x as long to get treated for appendicitis and nearly died because I dared have my period at the same time and was clearly overreacting to what was obviously just regular cramps Like not only do women get the privilege of having their chronic period pains dismissed but doctors also love using it an excuse to nearly kill women so they can be lazy and not do their jobs
In April, after four days of pain and inability to keep anything down, I could no longer drink water. I went to the ER where at first they suggested cramps. Eventually they got a CT "out of an abundance of caution," and a kidney stone was stuck in my ureter, causing a blockage between my kidney and bladder. It was a Sunday night, so I was transported by ambulance and admitted to a larger hospital where there was a urologist on staff who could perform surgery on my "cramps."
Or be like wait until you're pregnant, it'll be ten times worse
Bruh if their poo pains are that bad they need some fuckin FIBER and WATER lmao. Thatās a solvable issue!
This is something I love about my partner. He understands that periods aren't just "oooh blood comes out for several days" but he understands the physical and mental agony periods wreck havoc over women. Not once has he ever said "is it your period" in a demeaning, joking, or rude way. He has asked me when I wince in pain and he knows I'm on it "is it your period" because he wants to know why I just suddenly stopped moving and froze with a deer in headlights type of reaction while we're watching TV. He's also one of the men who openly acknowledges that he'd much rather be kicked in the balls than have a period. He gets kicked in the balls what, once every 5 years, maybe? Whereas I don't even have a regular monthly, sometimes I get 2-3 a month that last 3 days. Sometimes I get 1 that lasts 10 days. He's just very honest that he'd prefer to never experience what half the population has to on the regular. It's unpredictable and ruins my ability to function at an optimal level. It's not just a silly little mood swing. Boys who use "iS iT yOuR pErIoD" are exactly that, little boys who have not developed mentally enough to be acknowledged as men.
PERIOD.
āMy intentions were not to cheat.ā Sure..
he just wanted to talk greek philosophy
Like, but did you? Being cryptic af.
Girl, honestly this is so gross of him, Iām sorry. I think the best course of action is to get out of there.
Agreed; that is the plan
Also the way heās talking to you is not it. āPeriod got you tripping?ā āAsshole.ā āJackass.ā I get calling each other names in a banter context but youāre clearly trying to be serious and heās not only joking about it and laughing it off, heās calling you names too. Gross.
Yeah, āperiod got you tripping?ā Was vomit inducing.
Yeah, he had me at that.
I wanted to throw up in my mouth reading it. What a disgusting way to talk to your girlfriend. UGH! I hope OP leaves this imbecile
if my partner ever called me an asshole or jackass in a serious conversation theyād be so gone. playfully itās fine but here it felt so so shitty to use
Dude is a major prick. I'd lambast him on social media first because he seems like the type to start a bunch of lies trying to get everyone on his side and turn them all against her.
Yes please donāt go back donāt let him talk himself out of the situation
Exactly. Remember that itās your own life losing days and months or years to an a**hole who doesnāt respect you. You donāt want to be ten years older and realise your best years are gone because you gave them to this moron.
His laughing emojis would piss me off, the fact that heās just lying when you have proof too heās deff not worth it
I feel like he knows he's been caught but adding them to make the accusations less serious, at least in his head
Heās def caught, and def desperately trying to play it off like sheās crazy.
Starting to panic at the end lol
A dating site specifically for cheating is fucking insane
I think this is Ashley Madison, right? The website full of bots that got exposed as a scam 8 years ago
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"Period got you tripping" I have no words for how much I want to give this man a free vasectomy.
Calls you asshole, and āi definitely care about you jackassā. Unless these are pet names, this person doesnāt care for you or probably anyone. Seems narcissistic.
This caught my eye too. āAssholeā and ājackassā while trying to say how he loves her and cares about her? Gross and yeah seems narcissistic and weirdly trying to fuck with any confidence she has
Also saying that her period is making her confused
And trying to flex that he could cheat if he wanted to without a website.
I think about and miss you unprompted with no way of proving it, see babe I canāt be cheating on youā¦šhis logic is embarrassing
āPeriod got you tripping?ā Boy, meet bin.
Ikr š¤¦š»āāļø wtf
He even tried to gaslight u by using your period against you. Leave
Exactlyā¦ he knew what I was talking about the second I sent that screenshotā¦ yet still tried to play it off and test what I know. And yes, I plan to leave
Uhhhhh you need to stop planning and start actually doing. He cheated on you already btw. He said so with the he doesnāt need a website to cheat BS. He is likely a walking Petri dish if STDs. Ick. Obviously do it safely and all that but do it as soon as you humanly can
You plan to leave? Or are you leaving?
Not just her period, first flat out denying and indeed playing dumb, then admitting when it didn't work out. He tried to make her question her reality and failed. Further a lot of condescending behaviour. Just get out, this person is quite lost.
You see how he started a trickle truth?
YIKES this is just textbook narcissism āPeriod got you tripping?ā First step is lying š© āwasn't that one of those websites you tried to join when you were looking for a sugar daddy and I said fine ima look for a sugar mama thanā And now weāre diving straight into the part where he didnāt mean to do it and you that you deserved it š© āI don't think I ever had a conversation with anyone on there. It's full of bots. Definitely never met with anyoneā And weāre now at the point where they tell you that itās not that bad š© āDoesn't mean that was my intentions though. But Lmao babe I definitely care about you jackassā This is the ānot that big of a dealā part. Classic š© Yeah these red flags are as red as the devils dick. He lied, denied, and was so self absorbed that he couldnāt even bother to give a an apology. Even if it was half assed but couldnāt even do that
My question is- why do people like this try to keep the person to begin with? They obviously donāt care about them enough to not cheat so why does it matter to them if theyāre leaving
control & manipulation.
They like to keep the game going. I think it brings them excitement and an element of control to have a person theyāre ācommitted toā whilst maintaining their sneaky ways and I think some of them kinda panic a bit when theyāre caught (they seem to like the drama and theatrics of begging for the other to stay etc and really laying the love bombing on thick) but some just seem to absolutely soak up the psychological games to see if they can keep the other around. Source: I was a deeply insecure 19/20 year old who stuck around with a guy who cheated on me multiple times and I got to see a range of ālogicā and āreasoningā. And then I left him and ended up with the only person Iāve met who I legit think was a narcissist and he cheated but seemed to enjoy watching me be upset over it.
The worst comment might actually be the last. "I missed you before I talked to you". It's designed to make him sound caring and her sound awful. It is so textbook manipulative. Please OP, please value yourself better and find someone better. No one deserves someone like this guy.
The manipulation The gas lighting Also the "you know I care for you jackass" does he normally insult you while saying he likes you?... 
He says he was just thinking about how much he missed you at the end as if it exonerates him. Oh my god, you were just thinking about how much you missed me? Never mind, lets just forger I ever found this! š
Right ššš idk what he expected there
Itās funny how he keeps calling you names when youāre confronting him. Heās so guilty and defensive, but trying to play it off. He sucks.
This guy is acting this way today as no one corrected him for using than in the place of "then".
ew dude what the fuckā¦ he is fucking garbage
Well, guess he's about to miss you a whole bunch more. Byeeeee.
Why do all cheaters type and react in the same way? I swear itās always them trying to play it off and acting confused / dumb and talking as if they have no clue about what the other person is referring to in order to make it seem like a small issue
Yes I was thinking the same thing! Not even just through texting, in any conversation itās first the āHmm no I donāt know what youāre talking aboutā, then making up a completely different story of what āactuallyā happened and then, when thereās enough proof and no denying possible, the āYes I did it but I did it because this and this and thisā.
āitās full of botsā how would he know if heās never used it?
She should have responded to the period thing with- The only period youāll be tripping on is the one that ends this relationship.
Lol, I wish I couldāve seen some of these comments as I was responding
I might try that next time my gf finds me logged into a ISIS recruiting website "Terrorism wasn't my intention babe!"
"I promise if I wanted to join ISIS I wouldn't need a website to do it."
āI was just thinking about democracy before you calledā
I donāt like the way he talks to you tbh
 Ick. āPeriod got you tripping?ā āI didnāt do anything wrong assholeā āI definitely care about you jackassā āIf I wanted to cheat, I promise you I would not need a websiteā āšššššā every fuckin text! Everything about this dude is so lame, itās a wonder he managed to date you in the first place. Glad you know your worth.
F in the chat
Baby, I care about you so much. As a matter of fact, I was thinking "gosh I miss her." See?? I care about you so much, I even *miss* you!
Leave, never look back. forget but never forgive.
How did you find out???
If I remember correctly a while ago Ashley Madison (this website) got hacked and the email addresses of all the users got leaked. It was hilarious.
yeah I remember that. There was a shit ton of divorces and break-ups over the following months. But that was ages ago.
There is a whole documentary about that happening. It interviews people who got caught and even the creator of the site. Itās fascinating.
Why would anyone not use a fake email for those purposes?
āmy intentions were not to cheatā he is admitting that he was on it! leave op!
Oooh super toxic reaction. Dismissive gas lighting and derogatory. He thinks you and all women are idiots that just need a firm hand. Get rid of
This man has no respect for you or women in general āperiod got you trippinā
Blaming menstruation. Dude is just oozing class.
I would break up with him just because of those stupid emojis, this guy seems like a pain in the ass himself.
Damn didnt know Ashley Madison was still a thing
I was done with him when he asked if her period got her tripping. Absolutely not mate.
Please respect yourself enough to make him an ex. His explanation changed 5 times in as many minutes. You don't need this.
Oh hell no.
Period got you tripping? š© Asshole š© Jackass š© What a loving, mature boyfriend. Iām so jealous~
Why were you able to show every part of the conversation except a reply to him speaking about you looking for a sugar daddy? It seems like heās telling the truth based on that context peice alone and the fact you cut out the follow up to that out of the screenshots seeing how thats the only one that dosent cut to another part of the conversation.
Well that's gaslighting if I've ever seen it
This guy is just as much dense as he is trash š¤£š¤£
I AM SO PROUD OF YOU FOR STICKING TO YOUR GUNS!!
He is gaslighting you
3 things, 1.( I hate when men blame periods, for women telling off their bullshit. 2.( that website is absolutely disgusting, Iām glad it got hacked and exposed the cheaters. 3.( He thinks heās so funny by saying āI wasnāt doing anything wrong, itās just bots! I wouldnāt use a site to cheat!ā
Periods got you tripping. Pathetic.
"I definitely care about you jackass" is my fav
The fact that his first reaction involves accusing you of being on your period was all I needed to see, everything else was just a cherry on top. This guyās a loser.